At this point in life, what gives you most pleasure is:

The happiness of your husband/partner and family

Your own personal growth and care

Fulfillment from your work or hobbies

When your friends ask you what you did over the weekend, your answer is usually like this:
 

"We threw a party on Saturday, and on Sunday I went to my yoga class while Tim watched football with the kids."

"I went to my art class, had a massage, drove the kids to baseball, and watched a movie on television."

"We slept late, did errands, and went to the movies."

If your husband/partner had several affairs and you found out about it, you would:
 

Leave immediately

Stay and try to work it out

Seriously question if you want to stay married, and seek counseling

You've just run your first 10K race. Your husband/partner:

 

Made breakfast for the kids every day while you trained, and took them to the finish line to cheer, with signs and
banners

Didn't make any special effort to help you train, but cheered you on and was proud of your accomplishment

Woke up on the 10K morning, saw you lacing up your running shoes, and said "Where are you going?"

When you're angry with your husband/partner, the first thing you do is:
 

Write about it in your journal

Discuss it with your girlfriends or a therapist

Air it with him directly

If you suddenly announced you were going back to finish your degree or get a new one, your husband/partner would say:
 

"Will you still be cooking dinner every night?"

"Good for you!"

"WHAT?!?!?"

A girlfriend is getting divorced. You think:

 

"I'm so glad it's not me."

"I wonder what that's like for her?"

"I wonder what that would be like for me?"

The plans and dreams you had before marriage:

 

Have started to percolate again

Are well underway

Are abandoned and even forgotten

When you have time alone without your husband/partner, you:

 

Celebrate and deliberately do a bunch of things he hates to do

Feel lonesome and miss him

Miss him, but not desperately -- you enjoy some time alone now and then

Your coworkers:
 

Think of you as a wife and mother first -- you talk about your family a lot

Know you are a wife and mother, but think of you as an independent person when you're on the job

Are not at all sure you have a husband/partner or kids