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INDEX
1. Introduction........................................................................... 03
Part 1 (Theory)
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Stress and Stress Management
What is Stress?
Yes. Stress is essential for growth and development. Responses of our body and
mind to the demands (stressors) which are perceived as of “moderate degree”,
prepare us to meet with the same. Every successful handling of the demand
(known as “eustress”) adds to our resources and coping abilities. This is the
process of self-development.
Different individuals have different situations as their stressors. The first step in
learning to manage stress is to find out our own stressors. Some of the common
stressors are:
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Career and job related Stressors: Examination, interview, public speaking,
training at work place, deadlines for completion of a task, poor communication,
ill-defined role, competition, power struggles, and so on.
Every person has a set of signals (Stress Orchestra) which is put-on whenever
he is stressed, irrespective of the stressor to which he is exposed. Identifying
our own Stress Orchestra is the second step towards stress management. It
acts as a red light or a warning bell to tell us that some action is needed to
manage the stress. Common stress signals are as under:
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pains, arthriris, skin diseases, psychosexual problems, and so on. Stress lowers
resistance power and makes the person prone to develop infection. Neurotic
conditions like anxiety panics, hysterical reactions, and in vulnerable persons
other serious psychiatric conditions can develop.
(3) Analyze and deal with the actual stressor by taking actions, withdrawing
or compromising through adjustments in your beliefs and attitudes
through use of any technique, like self-hypnosis, Bio-feedback, Yoga,
and so on.
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Communication with Teenagers / Students
Often there are conflicts between what they are told by their parents, what they
find outside in the world and what they actually want to do. They may choose
friends their parents do not approve of or try alcohol or other substances out of
curiosity. They may wear clothing that is trendy and generational. They may
compare their families’ lifestyles with those of their friends’ families, or break
rules imposed by their parents or the community.
➢ Large amount of time spent alone and isolation from family and friends.
➢ Sudden changes in schoole performance.
➢ Drastic mood swings or changes in behaviour.
➢ Changes in the child’s peer group or separation from long time friends.
➢ Lack of interest in hobbies or social and recreational activities.
Of course, not necessarily any of these signs always indicate serious trouble.
There is no need of pushing for drastic or dramatic solutions immediately.
Sometimes young people just need time and support to work through their
problems.
Following are some general principles and tips about what and how to
communicate which can help parents in having healthier communication with
their adolescents:
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1. Flexibility and freedom
2. Consistency
This may seem to be contrary to flexibility, but the parents need to strike a
balance. Inconsistency causes confusion, sense of unpredictability and thereby
insecurity. So, there need to be minimum of rules and when a rule is instituted,
it is to be followed. Under some condition if the rule is broken, the parents
(adults) need to provide proper justification for the same to the youngster.
3. Criticism
Some parents have a habit of criticizing the adolescents for something they
have or have not done. Most parental criticisms are unhelpful. Criticism creates
anger, resentment and a desire for revenge. Sometimes it may give rise to self-
condemnation and feeling of guilt in the youngster leading to loss of self-
esteem. This may set in the vicious circle of criticism – wrong behaviour – more
criticism. When it is essential to point out their shortcomings, instead of
criticizing the personality or character, one may give opinion about the
particular action or behaviour and do not generalize. (See no. 7)
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he/she is the only child who forgets?’ we may appreciate that no, many other
children also forget certain things sometimes.
5. Principle of Positivity
As the subconscious mind picks up only the key word from a sentence, it will
receive ‘forget’ only from the statement “Don’t forget”. The subconscious don’t
understand “no”. So, if we want the child to remember something, we need to
say, “Do remember this” rather than “Don’t forget”. Instead of telling the child
“Don’t watch T.V. now”, let us say, “Please go and play in the ground now” or
“Please complete your home-work now”.
6. Acknowledgement of feelings
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