Professional Documents
Culture Documents
As soon as the small group and meeting time is established, send your small group an email as an
orientation for the group call. Here is a template for your reference.
Before we can have grace, accountability, or integrity, we must have honesty. As we all know,
being vulnerable is not easy. Discomfort and fear of judgment often prevent us from being totally
honest. That is why it is critical to foster an environment conducive to honest sharing and
discussion, by assuring participants of their safety and confidentiality. We also encourage you to
pray before your meeting in order to invite God to work through you to radiate warmth,
compassion, and love.
Hi, everyone!
With our first meeting coming up on [insert date and time, specify timezone(s) here], I am emailing you to give
more details regarding what to expect for this first meeting.
But time is precious and I intend to respect everyone's time. Please let me know if you absolutely cannot go
over 90 minutes for this meeting, whatever the reason may be, and I will do my best to facilitate our meeting
efficiently. If you need a self-imposed time limit for your testimony, then aim for roughly 10 minutes, no more
than 15 minutes.
Recap + Reminders
● Review the Agreements (found in the Group Call Guide) prior to the meeting.
● Set aside time to reflect on your “why”—why you want to cultivate your sexual integrity.
○ Think about what you want to walk away with by the end of our last meeting.
○ Your goal(s) should support you in being connected to your “why” (North Star goal).
● Take time prior to the meeting to reflect on what you'd like to share for this group call. Points to
include:
○ History with porn and/or masturbation
○ What led you to sign up for the group call?
○ What do you hope to achieve/gain/experience?
● During the meeting, be in a private space, free of interruptions and other eyes, in order to maintain
focus and confidentiality of all participants.
● Use a device that allows you to use video.
● Let me know if you do not have time for the meeting to potentially last for an hour and a half.
I am here for any questions/concerns. Hope this email finds you well! See you soon.
[Insert signature]
Post-Meeting Email Template
Hi, everyone!
[Insert follow-up remarks about how wonderful the first meeting was and how excited you are to see how much
everyone will grow over the course of the next 13 weeks.]
For your reference, here are the two scales that we will be using in future meetings:
Lifestyle Scale: How would you rate the quality of your current lifestyle?
1 = Clear on my vision & producing results in the important areas of my life
2 = Connected, grateful, developing good habits, in control
3-4 = Good, but slacking, isolated, upset in some way
5 = Fairly good, but in some way unclear or concerned about my future
6-7 = Lonely, lazy, frustrated
8-9 = Overwhelmed, helpless
10 = Apathetic, just don’t care
Sexual Temptation Scale: How would you rate your sexual temptation?
1 = Fully embodying my vision for sexual integrity
2 = Too busy or distracted to feel tempted
3 = Wandering eyes, stray thoughts
4 = Fantasy
5 = Strong desire to act out. Relapse likely without intervention
6 = Masturbated or watched porn once
7 = Masturbated and watched porn once
8 = Masturbated or watched porn numerous times
9 = Masturbated and watched porn numerous times
10 = Out of control
If you have any additional questions about the scales, feel free to post about it in the group chat and we can
discuss it there.
[Insert concluding words of encouragement. Below are my words. Feel free to borrow and tweak.]
I wish everyone the best as you further reflect on your "why" and goals for the next 3 months. It's okay not to
have it all figured out. If your why is unclear. That's okay. As long as you are actively searching, you'll find it as
you go through your process. Same thing goes with your goals. Everyone has to start somewhere and it's
taken you all so much life experience, self-reflection, and courage to get to this point and share about a deeply
personal struggle with others. That's huge! Being present at the meeting and sharing openly is a big victory on
its own. Celebrate that and take stock of this major accomplishment. I'm proud of each one of you and I'm
excited for what's to come! See you all next week!
[Insert signature]