Under the Surface - Deeper Lovemaking - David Deida

00:00 1) Conscious Emotions

04:32 2) Is Your Man A Beautiful Wobbler
22:00 3) Soft-Bodied Men, Authenticity, and Sexual Reciprocity
30:37 4) Deep Sexiness is Responsive and Never Enough
51:32 5) Lovemaking As Conscious Dance
58:55 6) Practicing Presence In The Gargoyle�s Den
1:18:07 7) How To Bite Your Lover

Recordings of live talks and workshops are available at www.Deida.Live

Description

Under the surface, subtle energy flows determine how deep your sexual loving goes.
In this collection of live talks, David Deida explores the unseen forces behind
sexiness and resentment, as well as
offering keys to increasing consciousness toward profound lovemaking.

Track 1: Conscious Emotions

The feminine moves into emotion

The masculine feels as the space around emotions
She: feels herself as the currents of energy
He: rests awareness on awareness
Juiciness and stillness are both valuable
Awareness bursting as light is sex

Track 2: Is Your Man a Beautiful Wobbler?

Women are better men than many men are

Most men don�t know how or when they cause pain to women
We all see others easier than we see ourselves
Women are annoyed by lack of presence
Why are you so disturbed by your man�s posture?
She is hurt by his wobble
Most women have been deprived of their man�s consciousness
Show your man your pain with compassion
Hurt is prior to annoyance and anger
Let your man discover his way
Women are often more conscious than men
How you create feminine-identified men
He needs to feel your radiant surrender to cultivate his direction
Share the present moment verbally, not the past
Magnify your feelings so your man can navigate
Your responsiveness attracts his consciousness
A beer is more interesting to him than a neutral woman
He needs to see your loving and vulnerable hurt, not your anger
He needs your responsiveness
His choice: beer, zen, or you

Track 3: Soft-bodied Men, Authenticity, and Sexual Reciprocity

Access your full sexual spectrum

Relax into your core expression without effort
Action movies and love stories
You are attracted to your reciprocal
Masculine body, feminine mind
Authentic or fake sexual identity
 Soft bodied men, authentic or fake?
Layers of protection over true heart
Shells are attracted to your shells, heart to heart

Track 4: Deep Sexiness is Responsive and Never Enough

Create safety for heart-surrender

Create danger for more sexual passion
Danger is more sexy than safety
Women seem like spiritual distractions to many men
Dancing with a conscious man
Seeing a woman�s body makes most men less conscious
Sexual practice for men�s awareness
Your smile makes most men lose consciousness
For men, your neutral expression is useless
He drifts, you hurt, you show, he becomes present
Emotional scar tissue and present wisdom
Your lover is not your therapist
Surrounded by men less conscious than you?
A side effect of evolution is loneliness
Presence is valuable
Responsiveness evokes presence
You earn presence through responsiveness
Beer is more interesting to him than your neutral-face
For him, there is nothing to do but be
You want his consciousness on you and in you
Fear holds back your love-light
Your diminished light attracts his diminished consciousness
You always want more of his presence
He always wants more of your light
It�s never enough, so don�t blame your partner

Track 5: Lovemaking as Conscious Dance

Sexual multidimensionality
The simplification of real intimacy
Why don�t you attract conscious men?
Presence-practice masculinizes the body
What kind of man will be attracted to your energy?
Your zen body attracts fun men
The art of reversing polarity
The masculine playing partner guides the energy
Sexual error-correction
Making love is a spontaneous dance

Track 6: Practicing Presence in the Gargoyle�s Den

Consciousness relaxes the body

Presence evokes stillness
Being consciousness is aloneness
Love with and without words
Do you want to do anything?
Her heart-depth demands your practice
Her hurt awakens you, if you are ready
Your presence turns her on like oral sex does
All men have a limit to their bodily presence
She can feel your resentment
Conscious sexual break periods
She measures your depth of presence
 You can�t control her fullness
When she wails on your consciousness
Tantra is an aesthetic choice
She will test your practice for her pleasure
The cave is easier than her dragon-threats
Consciousness aligns her wildness in love
You are her spine of consciousness

Track 7: How to Bite Your Lover

1st stage biting: I need to bite you, so I bite

2nd stage biting: I�d like to bite you, may I? Is it ok if I bite you?
3rd stage biting: you first tune into lover�s heart, then very, very
sensitively, modulate your biting
3rd stage requires second by second responsiveness to your lover�s heart
What music wants to come through your bodies as divine love, despite the trauma
of the instruments?
1st stage is impulse biting, 2nd stage is care about how it effects partner,
3rd stage is what wants to come through both bodies as art