Exploring Counselling through Love

27th April 2019

Counselling class, felt like a spiritual class to be honest. But it felt true in its essence, we
spoke about how one needs to be honest as a counsellor to take on the responsibility of someone
else’s life, how one can be mechanical in their ways of treatment but is that treatment coming
from a person’s heart or minds and logs of book. Then came the real question rolling, the
question that during counselling while listening are we providing unconditional love and
attention to the client or not? But more than anything the question that kept resonating in my
mind was why can’t we provide unconditional love to everyone and not just our clients who will
pay us to listen. Won’t world be a better place, and we will be comfortable with ourselves and
probably at peace too which most of us aren’t in todays world, for we haven’t found our selves
how do we save someone else? ‘Doobta hua, dusre ko kya bachega’. As mentioned by Suneet
sir, it made me laugh at that point, but honestly it wasn’t as funny as it was dark. The
responsibility you take upon as being a counsellor is greater than you can anticipate. You need to
be one with yourself.

I am an agnostic, and I do believe in something greater but not god, some power
somewhere guiding all of us and our main moto is to get to that power, where we actually belong
and our purpose in the world is to live life for others and be useful. I believe in the power of
mediation and how it can take us to places, since a very small age along with my parents we
believe in a guru, where we are told nothing but to mediate and bring out the essential good in
ourselves. So once our guru said something and this has stayed with all since along; he said “
baache ko apna homework khud karna hoga, aise nahi hai ki maa baap aa kar unke liye unka
kaam kar sakte hai” he meant this that we need to meditate and attach ourselves to the one
waiting for us and its not possible for him alone to do it. So, songs relating to reaching the one,
and Kabir ke dohe and meera ke bhajan, really interest me as they often talk in metaphors, they
use something for the living world and making it a connection to the higher being. When we talk
in class about oneness and how god is remembered and the aura, they give us, and talking to
people who have attained some kind of enlightenment and being in their presence making a
difference is something I have felt. I haven’t shared this in the class but I end up crying even at
the site of our guru and the positivity around him. I have pondered over the thought as to what is
the reason for those tears and always reached one answer, I think it is the mess in my heart that
wants to be sorted and be in the light of the higher power, where you don’t feel anything but
positivity and good about yourself.

I want to express how I felt about the songs that we have often heard in class, the songs you
asked to look up and the recent coke studio class we had. I had a smile on my face throughout for
the reason I had heard all the songs, expect the interview at beginning that I had never seen. But
It made so much sense, everything he said was really impacting. I really found the similarities
fascinating, things we talk about in class and that were actually conducted, people may call it
unscientific but the video had explained really well its components and how it works. One thing
from the interview that “similar vibrate with each other”, I have a concept of vibes, that everyone
has vibes and when we converse with them or meet them we can feel their vibes and more often
than not I have had vibes from people that they will be good friends and in the future we have
turned out share a great relationship. And people who vibrate together automatically share love.

One of the songs, sung by anup jalota rang de chunariya, in the song he talks about how krishan
is being called upon by beloved to turn them into his colour, “Shyaam piya more rang se
chunariya”. The song moves and one of the lines that has stayed with me is “apne hi rang de
rang de chunariyar, dobhiya dhoe chaie yeh sari umariya”, the beloved asks the god to accept
him/her into his world and make them one with him, and colour them in his colour, that cannot
be taken away by anyone how much ever anyone tries. (dobhiya dhoe chaie sari umariya). Now
the colour they want is not red, blue or green but the colour of the god. (laal na rangau mein hari
na rangaun, apne hi rang mein rang de chunariya). This song has a deeper meaning only if one
has the eye to decipher it. Another song chaap tilak sab cheen li, is something I heard when I was
in 12th grade and I went to hazrat nizmudin for kawali, it talks about devotion to the god and how
one loses themselves (chaap tikal) and their identitied when they want god or catch the essence
of his belonging (tohse naina mileke).

At the end I would only like to thank you sir for bringing me closer to who I am, because
somewhere I think in this scientific world, I had shut down my thoughts only to become a part of
the crowd and forget who I am and what I feel. Your classes have been really entertaining and a
great learning experience. See you next semester.

Love
Deepika Saini