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Strong as a Woman
I was watching an action movie in the family room with my teenaged boys. The lead character was caught up
in a fast-moving crisis that involved frantic car chases, dramatic explosions, skilled martial arts, and plenty
of fierce gun fights. Battling against time and all odds, the strong, brave hero risked his life to save his
family and the rest of the world from certain annihilation.
I expected as much.
The interaction, however, between the lead and his female opponent in one scene startled and disturbed me.
She was tied to a chair for questioning. After gleaning the necessary information about the criminal plot, the
hero turned to walk away. However, when the woman mocked him, he pivoted in anger and punched her with
full force in the face.
I gasped. And almost dropped my popcorn.
Wait. No. Good guys don’t do that. Good guys do not hit women. Hitting a woman demonstrates weakness,
not strength. In all my years of watching action movies with my boys, I had never seen a male protagonist
strike a woman or engage her in hand-to-hand combat.
Today, if you tune in to an action movie, you will routinely see women engaged in hand-to-hand combat
with men. The women are sassy, savvy, and as strong as men in every way. A five-foot-four, 135-pound
female protagonist can bend like a pretzel and use her ninja moves to easily vanquish several skilled male
assassins at a time. (Even though they tower over her and outweigh her by at least fifty pounds, all while
she’s dressed in 4-inch spike heels and impossibly tight clothing.)
Yes, it’s just a movie. And movies often push the bounds of plausibility. Nevertheless, these make-believe
images promote powerful ideas about how the world should work and what male and female ought to be.
According to the new paradigm, strength knows no sex difference. A woman can and should be strong in the
same way a man is strong.
Girls Rule
Girls Run the World
I am pretty — pretty smart. Pretty tough. Pretty awesome. Pretty fierce.
Strong. Brave. Bold.
Girl Power
I’m not strong for a girl — I’m just strong.
Strong Girls Rule
Like an IV drip into the vein of an unconscious patient, contemporary culture has pumped ideas about what it
means to be a strong woman into our subconscious minds. By the time a girl reaches womanhood, she knows
that it’s vitally important for her to be strong, and she also has some deeply rooted opinions about what that
means (though she generally has little awareness of where she even got those opinions).
Society feeds us a deceptive vision of what it means to be strong. It also feeds us a deceptive vision of what it
means to be a man or a woman. It maintains that maleness and femaleness is inconsequential.
Interchangeable, even. Consequently, we fail to delight in the fact that feminine strength has a different
texture to it than masculine strength. What’s more, as women we can feel the need to aspire to, compete
with, deny or reject the male strength that God intended for our benefit.
Masculine Strength
What does it mean to be strong as a woman, and not just as a human? What is feminine strength (as distinct
from masculine strength), and what is it not? We can begin to answer those questions by considering the
differences between the male and female body.
As Elisabeth Elliot wrote to her daughter, Valerie, in her classic book, Let Me Be a Woman,
Yours is the body of a woman. What does it signify? Is there invisible meaning in its visible signs —
the softness, the smoothness, the lighter bone and muscle structure, the breasts, the womb? Are
they utterly unrelated to what you yourself are? Isn’t your identity intimately bound up with these
material forms? . . . How can we bypass matter in our search for understanding the [person]? There
is a strange unreality in those who would do so, an unwillingness to deal with the most obvious
facts of all. (52)
God fashioned our bodies, brains, and emotions to be strong in ways that support his design for us as men
and women. Men have an average of 26 pounds more skeletal muscle, 40% more upper-body strength, and
33% more lower-body strength than women. A male muscle generally fires faster and has higher maximum
power output. Male heart and lung function is such that when a man is jogging at about 50% of his capacity,
a woman of the same size and weight would need to work at over 70% of her capacity to keep up with him.
When it comes to physical power and speed, men are stronger than women.
Differences Between Us
Yet in other ways, women are stronger than men.
Female muscles are more fatigue resistant and recover faster. Women have larger frontal and temporal areas
of the brain, which translates into better language and verbal skills. They hear better than men and can also
better distinguish between a broader range of emotional tones. They retain a stronger memory for where
things are and for past events.
Men and women process information differently. The male brain tends to process information in a localized
manner, whereas the female brain processes it in a more networked, interconnected fashion. (“Men are like
waffles; women are like spaghetti.”)
Men and women literally see things differently. The structure of a man’s eye makes him better at tracking
movement, while the structure of a woman’s eye makes her better at identifying objects, as well as analyzing
color and texture. In a study done on 100 babies on the day they were born, male babies were found to prefer
looking at moving objects, while female babies preferred looking at faces.
Sexually, a man’s body is structured to harden, initiate toward a woman, and give. Her body is structured to
soften, welcome, and receive.
Besides the obvious sexual reproductive differences, male and female bodies also exhibit skeletal differences,
chemical differences, hormonal differences, and neuro-processing differences. In muscle fibers alone,
researchers have identified no fewer than 3,000 genes that are differentially expressed between male and
female.
Strong as a Woman
God designed male physiology in such a way that, whether or not he ever marries and has children, a man is
uniquely equipped to be a husband and father. Conversely, God created female physiology in such a way that,
whether or not she ever marries and has children, a woman is uniquely equipped to be a wife and mother.
Generally speaking, a man’s constitution inclines him toward initiation, provision, and protection, whereas a
woman’s constitution inclines her toward responsiveness, care/nurturing, and relating.
That’s not to say that women cannot protect and provide, or that men cannot nurture. It’s simply to say that
our strengths are not merely a function of our personalities, gifts, and competencies. They have a strong
sex-based component. Whether a woman is caring for children or running a business, she brings uniquely
feminine strengths to the table.
God created man and woman, sons and daughters, for the ultimate purpose of bringing God glory (Isaiah
43:7). The Bible indicates that we shine light on the beauty of the gospel in distinct ways. Men tell the Jesus-
story in bodies that reflect truths about the nature of Christ’s relationship to the church from the groom’s
perspective. Women tell the same story from the perspective of the bride (Ephesians 5). God strengthens us
— sex-specifically — to honor him in this way.
God created me female. Therefore, he wants me to be strong as a woman. And being strong as a woman is
different than, but not less than, being strong as a man. “What does it mean to be strong as a woman, and
not just as a human?” It means being who God created me to be as a woman. And faithfully telling the story
he created me to tell as a woman.
The world tells us to rely on our own strength and to find strength within. But the Bible tells us to look to an
infinitely more powerful and reliable source. It categorically warns us not to trust in our own strength, but
rather to “be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might” (Ephesians 6:10). We are to “seek the Lord
and his strength; seek his presence continually!” (1 Chronicles 16:11).
They think that growing strong as a woman means pursuing womanhood as their goal, or that growing strong
as a man means pursuing manhood as a goal. They can end up pursuing a stereotyped, religious, one-size-
fits-all, ill-fitting pattern for what they think the outworking of sex roles must look like.
True womanhood is not the path to godliness; godliness is the path to true womanhood. Of course, godliness
involves examining my ideas about womanhood in light of Scripture. But ultimately, my goal is not to pursue
womanhood, but to pursue Christ as a woman. It is through that pursuit that he transforms me into the
strong woman God created me to be. The more Christlike I become, the more I become strong as a woman.
An overemphasis on differences can cause us to lose sight of our commonality as heirs together of God’s
grace and co-laborers for the cause of Christ. Differences can cause us to compare, compete, and regard one
sex as being better than the other. Rather than a careful, nuanced reflection about ontological realities, the
discussion can deteriorate into a reductionistic checklist of who does what. Or a restrictive, heavy-handed
legalistic application of rules, lacking in grace.
On the other hand, a denial or neglect of differences can negatively impact our God-given identities, impair
our relationships, and blur the lines that God drew to illustrate the beauty of the gospel, thereby marring the
picture, and stripping the canvas of color. In short, when it comes to male-female differences, it’s easy to
get caught up in the messiness of the debate and proverbially miss the forest for the trees.
Nevertheless, the discussion is important. And all the more as society loses its appetite for God’s good plan
for men and women, as men and women. The apostle Paul reminded his friends, “In the Lord woman is not
independent of man nor man of woman. . . . All things are from God” (1 Corinthians 11:11–12). The bottom
line is that we need each other. The Christian community needs strong women just as it needs strong men —
strong in our distinct and complementary ways.
Brothers, I encourage you to develop a greater appreciation for feminine strength. You need strong women in
your life. Don’t be threatened by them. Welcome them, bless them, affirm them, and engage with them.
Sisters, let’s resist the worldly message that strength means forgoing our femininity. Let’s stop trying to be
like one of the guys. Let’s welcome and affirm godly masculine strength, knowing that God created it not for
our harm, but for our blessing.
God does not want you to be a weakling. He wants you to be a steel magnolia: a soft, feminine woman with
fire in your belly, courage in your heart, and steel in your spine. He wants you to have the strength to say no
to what’s wrong, and yes to what’s right, and to live your life — as a woman — for the glory of Christ. Strong
as a woman. The right kind of strong.