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The Manners and Customs of Life in Jane Austen's Time PDF
The Manners and Customs of Life in Jane Austen's Time PDF
When the nineteen year old Jane Austen was first trying her hand at novel
writing, she could be sure that there were many readers of her own age
who would identify with the world she presented. She began serious writing
in the 1790s at a time where at least half the nation of Great Britain was
under twenty one years of age. Life expectancy back then was about thirty
seven years. Although Jane Austen’s one sister and six brothers all lived
surprisingly long lives, into their fifties and well beyond, she herself lived
only four years longer than the life expectancy for the period, reaching just
Jane Austen’s writing focused on the rituals of youthful courtship which she
observed within her own family and among the English professional and
attitudes towards marriage among these young people and their parents.
might have some say in the matter of choosing a mate she fancied. There
were now wider opportunities to explore romantic feelings (but not sex!)
However, girls were not gaining any noticeably easier access to legal rights
Consequently, both men and women ought to accept distinct social roles,
marked out along gender lines, where women were denied equality of
praised for being submissive, modest, pure and domesticated. The qualities
as feminine attractions.
for her good name, while a man’s was not. The reasoning behind this was
no man could pretend a baby of his belonged to his wife when this was not
true, since his wife would certainly know she had not given birth to the
baby! However, a wife could deceive her husband by saying that the baby
she had given birth to was his when in fact the baby’s father was a different
man. Thus, if a young lady had slept with a man other than her husband,
there was a risk that any baby boy born in the subsequent marriage might
inherit property which did not rightfully belong to him, as the baby had
property while there was any male heir available somewhere in the family.
the established legal system at that time. (Jane Austen presents the five
Bennet girls as victims of this procedure in Pride and Prejudice.) The system
ensured that women rarely became heirs to property. Instead, eldest sons
or, if no sons were available, closest male relatives inherited the family
why a girl’s reputation for sexual virtue was so vital; her future husband’s
family – even one with a “womanizer” name for himself- might successfully
court a merchant’s daughter, if her fortune was great enough, and her
allowed to marry a merchant, because the family’s great estates might then
fall under the control of a dealer in trade, and the family name and
continuity might be lost. In those days, people who were born into the
people who had only recently become wealthy. Running a business and
being rich with “old money” from property which had been held within the
distinguished relations and her father’s scholarly and religious status in their
community. Her attractive vitality did win her the interest of more than one
suitable young man during her courtship days, but despite the temptation
not prepared to endure “the misery of being bound without love,” and
It is not surprising that Jane Austen presents us with young heroines who
and skill. She knew from first-hand experience how carefully a girl’s
old and young, at social occasions. All these watchers would be keen to
detect any sign of “loose morals” or vulgarity of style. She also knew that
even exemplary manners, outstanding charm and dazzling beauty might not
be enough to entice a suitor if the young lady’s family background was not
daunting prospect compared with the apparent freedom young people enjoy
One reason that well-born young people then might have felt much more
restricted by the manners and customs of their day than today’s well-off
youth is that back in those days, England’s total population was small, only
about six million in all, and interconnections among local gossipers were
thus rapidly made. The English lived mostly in close-knit countryside areas;
only about half a million lived in small towns. Most better-off houses
contained more than one servant, and the larger estates would often have
more than thirty resident members of staff who might glimpse the activities
of young masters and mistresses. There was little opportunity to break the
Over a million people lived in England’s great city– the capital of London -
at that time, so perhaps there was a hope of mingling in with the crowd
anonymously there. But if young ladies and gentlemen from rural areas
hoped for more freedom of movement in the streets of the capital, they
must often have been disappointed. The city was a constant centre of
attraction for well-off people from the provinces. They would arrive in the
city for visits and extended stays, where socializing might be arranged in
the more fashionable and exclusive areas of London. Thus, there would be a
“higher society zone” even among temporary residents visiting from the
within the city-based circles of the great, the rich and the well-connected.
In England, there were only about three hundred families within the bracket
of the titled nobility and non-titled owners of huge estates. Thus, it was
easy to keep track of what was going on in the higher levels of the social
scene, either in the city or in the country. A girl’s reputation was easily lost
by one careless mistake in manners. (For the four million people who
the gap between rich and poor was huge, and life at the poorest end was
reached about sixty two million in 2005, with twenty four million in the
bracket of young people between 15 and 34 years of age. These figures tell
total strangers.
So we can see that young people who read Jane Austen’s novels today
might at first feel that social customs and manners of two hundred years
clubbing, dating, partying or ten pin bowling, there are always conventions
form” for a man to send intense, complex text messages to his girlfriend if
he knows she is out celebrating with her mates that night and not likely to
might be put aside. Yet even here, there is a definite code of etiquette
about stepping out onto the embers; one does not launch oneself into the
arena unless all other members of the circle are at that moment still poised
on the edge.
from such worries in the 21st century, but obsessions about our looks,
programmes which place people under severe stress within very confined
social situations are avidly followed, and behaviour which breaks that “Big
In the early 1800s, there were certain manners and customs in courtship
which it was vital for young ladies and gentlemen to obey if they were to be
The underlying principle which informed these codes was that you displayed
footman.)
It is important to note, however, that among the young people themselves,
outdoor girl might be regarded as “common” by some, but others might see
courtship game because it intrigued her that a young lady might fail to
about those who know exactly how to dance with grace and speak with
courtesy and yet who take the risk at times of breaking these rules to
(wrongly) that she must be cynically exploiting his gullible friend Bingley.
admiration because she breaks the rules yet commands his respect in the
process.
3. CODES OF CONDUCT
We now turn to look at actual rules of etiquette between young ladies and
gentlemen in the 1800s. The protocol of what was “done” and “not done”
must have seemed extremely complicated to any young person with the
interest in a younger sister “still in the school room” and not yet started on
the seasonal rounds of balls and dances. This was particularly frowned
upon if the young girl had an older sister who was “out”, available for
A second rule was that a lady must not be kept standing and talking in the
street; a gentleman must turn and walk with the young lady if she indicated
that she was willing to converse. This escorting might be necessary for her
safety if her well-born status was apparent to any criminal member of the
lower classes who might be tempted to rob or “dishonour” her in some way.
meet her – never the other way round. These three rules –among many
There were an even larger number of prohibitive rules which governed the
behaviour of young ladies. It is evident that these too were focused on the
preservation of the girl’s good name. A young lady was initially expected to
leave a calling card, rather than to make an actual visit, when paying a visit
business matter. Breaking these three rules would run the risk of her
seeming to be either a brash social climber (in the first case) or a lady of
For young ladies, as for young gentlemen, there was the additional problem
of working out who was the appropriate family member to target in the
the younger son of a family if the elder son was available and first in line for
her first round of balls could hope to work out who was eligible and who
was not, especially since it would be very bad form to enquire about a
Rules of appropriate dress were also very important to observe, since they
provided coded information which could be very useful. In the early 1800s,
the fashionable courtship dress for young ladies was a pale, high-waisted
frock which fastened down the back, and was made of thin muslin. Ladies
might wear a thinly boned corset and a long slip underneath the low-cut
wear a linen shirt and either a neckband (a stock) or a cravat. Tall boots
were worn over his hip-hugging breeches, and his “dress” riding coat had
long tails and was high-cut and double-breasted. In this fashion for both
sexes, the natural lines of the body were emphasized, in contrast to the
elaborately formal style of a royal court. A look either too ornate or too
concerned, and could thus serve as a warning to potential partners that any
to music, positioned in lines facing one another, allowed the figures of the
There were also opportunities for partners to converse across the lines while
awaiting their turn to step into motion. The fashion of the time meant that
business and those involved in the ritual needed every opportunity to weigh
correct choice of young lady to court could be a vital career move and
lady, too, the choice of a suitor meant taking a huge step of trust. She
would be relinquishing all that she owned to her future husband, becoming
entirely dependent on the settlement negotiated between her suitor and the
There was much to gain and even more to lose when choosing a marriage
partner. The stakes were very high, since any scandal attached to the
business of courtship and marriage affected the good name of the innocent
as well as those who broke the rules; the Bennet girls in Pride and Prejudice
are all tarnished by their sister Lydia’s reckless actions. The seriousness of
Northanger Abbey when she disagrees with him that a country-dance is like
a marriage. “To be sure not. People that dance only stand opposite each
other in a long room for half an hour,” she comments. “People that marry
can never part, but must go and keep house together.” Mr Tilney later
reinforces his point about the similarities between dancing and marriage by
pointing out that in each, “man has the advantage of choice, woman only
Catherine’s remark indicates that she does not regard dancing as a prime
seems to suggest that marriage is a dull prospect, involving little more that
which she frequently displays in mixed company. Indeed, later in this same
conversation she laments the isolation of country life and exclaims fervently
of her dancing and socializing experiences in the city, “Oh who could ever
be tired of Bath!”
The inconsistency of Catherine’s responses is hardly surprising, given that
any unmarried young lady of that time would have very limited knowledge
young lady was certainly not supposed to have any sort of flirtatious contact
However, rules were surprisingly different once not “under someone’s roof”.
Perhaps this was because some responsibility for the protection of a young
lady’s virtue lay with the owner of the property while she was housed within
was often lifted. Unmarried young ladies and gentlemen could walk outside
openly “vulgar”. Similarly, public balls and assemblies meant that there was
no host in charge who felt personally responsible for the welfare of his
younger guests. The public right of entry into these entertainments might
particular dances on her dance card, using a pencil attached to the card by
a ribbon.
One could socialise with members of the opposite sex at house parties
where card games such as Casino (Sense and Sensibility) Quadrille (Emma)
and Speculation (Mansfield Park) were among those which were popular in
and guided tours of the host’s public rooms and gardens. Nervous
being published at that time about Conduct and Morality which offered all
Women, first published in 1766, are received with little enthusiasm by the
Bennet girls in Pride and Prejudice; nor do they appreciate Mr. Collins’
reading from the text or developing his own rules of conduct on their
behalf!
due to travel difficulties which made it impractical to turn round and start
travelling home within two days of arrival. One can imagine that perfect
social behaviour for days on end must have placed huge demands on young
nearer home and you were paying a briefer visit, there was still tension
enough. One such worry among many might be the matter of needing
different appropriate outfits to wear for morning, tea time and dinner; the
wrong outfit at the wrong time of day might indicate a lack of well-tuned
such as The Mirror of Graces (1811) could provide useful guidance about
taste and propriety, but it also served to make matters of costume sound
very complicated, adapting its advice according to “the Seasons of the Year,
Even if one rose to the challenges of appropriate dress, there were further
considerably more impressive, being very much a rich man’s toy. The
chaise and four, a carriage drawn by four horses, was of the highest
possible status if closed in and protected from all weathers, and decorated
with a coat of arms. The less cosy barouches, landaus and phaetons were
slightly inferior to these noble carriages but in their turn, they were superior
in status to the functional gig. At the end of Persuasion, Anne Elliot’s senior
driving a phaeton (as Miss De Bourgh does in Pride and Prejudice) but this
independent young woman but she would then have the difficulty of being
assiduously courted for her wealth and property. This might make it hard
for her to assess whether she would be valued for her personal qualities as
well.
All in all, the mating game in the 1800s was not one to be entered lightly,
vulnerability of young girls who were expected to play by the rules and to
live up to the huge responsibilities placed upon them for the family’s good
name and prosperity. It is also clear that there were regrettable pressures
on young men which precluded their marrying for love – let us remember
the love he gave up for a more profitable marriage, with lasting regret.
woman was under to find future happiness while negotiating the manners
and customs of the time. Given that all of her five eligible brothers married
Jane Austen must have felt that unmarried young women needed a voice
through literature which they were not generously given in society at that
time.
It is hard to imagine how unmarried girls of the 1800s could have had a
more impressive spokeswoman than the writer of these six novels. Indeed,
Jane Austen has come to speak for all readers who are interested in how
the individual can survive with integrity within a restricted society, whether
past, present or future. The voice she uses is often subtle in its delicious
irony, either when she speaks as narrator or through one of her characters.
and Kitty who are usually tempted to visit Meryton “three or four times a
week, to pay their duty to their aunt, and to a milliner's shop just over the
way.” Clearly, the girls have no “duty” to go shopping for hats, and so the
suggestion that they are acting out of a sense of genuine family obligation
the opposite of the truth. It is a feature of such irony that the author is
placing her faith in the reader’s shared sense of humour and depth of
Jane Austen’s much beloved character, the sparkling Elizabeth, shows the
same sort of witty humour when she remarks to her newly engaged sister
Jane, “Perhaps, if I have very good luck, I may meet with another Mr
Collins in time!”
relevant to her readers today as it was at the time she was writing, two
amusing, engaging, challenging or pitiful, and her heroines cope with these
experiences from a number of psychological standpoints which include
outer circumstances which are brought to bear on her heroine, Jane Austen
always examines the struggle for individual integrity in terms of body and
soul, mind and heart, and moves beyond exploring the manners and
BIBLIOGRAPHY
Heydt-Stevenson, Jill “Slipping into the Ha-Ha”: Bawdy Humour and the
Body Politics in Jane Austen’s Novels (Nineteenth Century Literature, Vol.
5, No. 3, December, 2000)
Pool, Daniel What Jane Austen Ate and Charles Dickens Knew
(Touchstone, New York, 1993)