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Please note:
This study guide has been carefully planned to help you to
successfully achieve these outcomes. It is essential that you complete
all the activities (exercises that encourage you to think, analyse,
formulate arguments and develop your writing skills) contained in
the various study units. By completing these activities (use a
notebook or file your answers) you will be interacting with the
material in this study guide. You may even wish to keep a journal in
which you complete all the activities and also note down your own
thoughts and feelings as you read this study guide. In this way your
studies, thoughts and experiences will be integrated. Hopefully, the
reading of this study guide will inform, challenge and even transform
your attitudes, values and lifestyle.
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Preface
The writing of this study guide has been an exciting, but also onerous,
exercise. This is because many, if not all, of the sexual ethical issues
discussed here are complex and controversial. I have sought both to
provide a fair outline of a variety of views and to be open about my own
convictions. I invite my students to enter into the same process of
information gathering, reflection, decision making and defence of their
attitudes and convictions.
I would like to thank my personal secretary, Nancy Barry, for the extra
hours she put into the previous version of this study guide. I appreciate
her dedication to her job and her willingness to go beyond the call of
duty. Thanks are also due to Caroline Tuckey and Martsie Roman who
have helped me to revise this study guide in terms of its content and also
to rewrite it in OBE (Outcomes Based Education) format. This assistance
has been greatly appreciated. I would like to express my gratitude to my
secretary, Helena Spear, for her work in formatting the manuscript and
completing the editorial amendments. I also value the work done by my
Unisa editor, Sally Taplin, in preparing the manuscript for publication
and the production department of Unisa for transforming this manuscript
into a published study guide.
Louise Kretzschmar
(February 2001)
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STUDY UNIT 1
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be:
. aware of the controversial nature of this subject
. able to state what is and is not discussed in this study guide
. in a position to define sexual ethics and Christian ethics and
explain the relationship of this discipline to other disciplines
. aware of some of the formative factors influencing sexual ethics
. able to state your own approach to sexual ethics
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Activity 1.1
(1) How would you define the terms ``sex'', ``sexuality'' and ``gender''?
(2) Is sex a ``private issue'' or does it also have implications for families
and society?
(3) Ought there, in your view, be a link between sex and morality? Why?
(4) Ought there, in your view, be a connection between sex and religion?
Why?
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biblical or medical ethics. All of these are closely interrelated and in this
study guide I will be drawing upon a range of readings from a variety of
theological and other academic fields of study. Furthermore, Christian
sexual ethics cannot be isolated from other disciplines such as
philosophy, anthropology, psychology and sociology (Kretzschmar in
Villa-Vicencio & de Gruchy 1994:4±9). Thus, insights drawn from these
disciplines will be included where relevant.
gender studies Another important related discipline is that of gender studies, an aspect
of which is feminist, womanist or women's studies. Definitions in this
field are numerous. Some people speak of feminism, others speak of
womanism and still others speak of African women's experience. The
issue of what it means to be a woman, as well as the way in which
women are regarded within the family, church and society, has long been
a matter of discussion and concern. Throughout church history there are
examples of women who challenged the male status quo and also
challenged male perceptions and expectations concerning women within
both the church and society (see Tucker & Liefelt 1987).
Since the beginning of the 20th century, debates about women in both
the family and the wider social context have increased exponentially.
Various schools of thought have emerged, including the Liberal
Feminists, Radical Feminists, Marxist Feminists, Womanists in North
America, African and Asian Womanist theologies (see Ramazanoglu
1989).
These terms can be defined as follows:
Liberal feminism: Liberal feminism seeks the equality of women,
largely through legal and constitutional means.
One example would be the suffragette move-
ment in early 20th century England which
sought to secure civil rights, such as the right
to vote, for women.
Radical feminism: A form of feminism that concentrates on
overthrowing patriarchy and questioning the
structures that give men power over women.
Marxist feminism: A form of feminism that draws on the tools of
Marxist social analysis to analyse society. It
stresses the economic nature of male power,
especially at a social level.
Womanist theology: This is a form of feminist theology which has
been developed by black women especially in
North America. It has developed as a reaction to
feminist theology which has been the theologi-
cal expression largely of white Western women,
mainly from the middle class. Womanist
theology attempts to reflect the reality of
poverty, racism and marginalisation of many
black women.
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Activity 1.2
(2) What world views (ways of thinking) or theologies have influenced your
attitudes and patterns of thinking?
STUDY UNIT 2
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. explain basic concepts such as sex, sexuality, gender, stereotyping
and socialisation
. comment on the influence of socialisation on sexual identity
Activity 2.1
Before you continue reading, stop for a moment to consider the following:
(1) How would you define human sexuality? Write down your own definition
in a sentence or two.
(2) Explain what is meant by the terms ``feminine'' and ``masculine''. What
would you say are characteristics (that define who one is) or roles (a
description of behaviour or expected behaviour) of women and men?
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sex and sexuality A distinction is sometimes made between sex and sexuality. When
people use the term sex, they generally refer to genital sexual activity
aimed at procreation, union, pleasure or sexual release. This sexual
activity is generally of an erotic and genital nature and involves sexual
arousal and intercourse. Sexuality, however, is a more complex and
extensive term, and does not necessarily include genital sexual activity.
Sexuality refers to a basic element of what it means to be human and
refers to our self-understanding and relationships with others Ð which
may not include genital sexual activity. Sexuality refers to the longing
for human relationships, whether these relationships are expressed within
or outside of marriage. Sexuality involves at least two vital elements of
human personality and experience: the issue of identity, how we perceive
ourselves; and the issue of relationship, how we relate to other people
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(and also how we relate to God). Sex, then, refers to the biological
function of sexual intercourse, whereas sexuality is intimately linked to
how we relate to ourselves and each other and how we express and
experience affection, warmth, closeness and care for each other. The
latter is often referred to as affective (emotional) sexuality.
sexuality and This raises the whole issue of sexuality and identity. Are we first human
identity persons and then either male or female? Or are we essentially either male
or female first and only secondly human persons? Are we all either
basically male or female or are some bisexual (attracted to both sexes)?
How do we relate to those who have had, or wish to have, a sex change
or are transvestites? Transvestites are persons who adopt the dress, and
often the behaviour, of the opposite sex. These may sound like rather
strange questions, but they touch on the issue of personal and sexual
identity. For some, the core of a person's identity is their humanity,
whereas for others, the core of a person's human identity is their
sexuality. If, as Jesus says (Matt 22:30), there will be no marriage in
heaven, does this mean that there will be no experiences of genital sex in
heaven, or does it mean that in heaven we are neither male nor female,
but simply human?
sex versus A distinction is also sometimes made between the ``sex'' and the
gender ``gender'' of a person. The term ``sex'' refers to persons' male or female
biological differences, but the word ``gender'' refers to the way in which
individual people and societies understand these biological differences
between men and women. Gender is often thought to be a socially,
culturally, or religiously constructed understanding of what is considered
to be ``masculine'' or ``feminine''. When we speak of someone's gender,
we refer to the way in which the person or society defines their roles and
social behaviour in terms of the masculine or feminine gender. More
recently, because of wide-ranging discussions on homosexuality, the
issue of homosexual gender identity has also been the subject of much
public debate. I return to the issue of homosexuality in a later study unit.
Activity 2.2
passive
independent
active
better at problem
solving
more likely to go to
pieces in a serious
crisis
aggressive
dependent
emotional
more self-centred
submissive
talk more
provide initiative
compete
lead
accept initiative
show emotion
conform
follow
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(3) Do you mainly agree or disagree with the above role identification?
Explain why.
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Activity 2.3
(1) Think back to the days you went to Sunday school (or speak to someone
who previously attended Sunday school Ð or who now attends). Tick
which of the following stories you remember being told:
Miracles of Jesus
The parables of
Jesus, eg
The sower
Ruth
Samson
Moses
Elijah
Gideon
Deborah
Creation
Joseph
Abraham
Esther
Daniel
Jonah
(2) Do you remember being told more stories about men or more about
women in the Bible?
(3) How were the men portrayed? Were any of the characteristics noted
in activity 2.2 stressed?
(4) How were women portrayed? Were any of the characteristics noted in
activity 2.2 stressed?
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One could argue that socialisation also occurs in the church. Girls and
boys see men performing tasks such as leading and preaching, whilst
they see women teaching in the Sunday school and making endless cups
of tea. Small wonder then that by the time they reach adulthood, these
children have been ``socialised'' into believing that men and women are
inherently dissimilar and have different roles to play in the church (If you
wish to read more about this subject, consult the dissertation written by
Caroline Tuckey (1994). The bibliographic details are provided in the
bibliography at the end of the study guide.)
Activity 2.4
Which of these tasks are delegated to women and which are delegated to
men? Tick in the appropriate place.
Activity 2.5
(1) To what extent do you think that gender stereotyping still exists in
the church? If you belong to a church, think of your church.
Activity 2.6
ILLUSTRATION 2.1
(Source unknown)
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(3) Is it true that men and women, as human persons, are valued
differently (eg regarded as more, or less, important)?
(4) Is it true that, even though they may be doing the same work, they are
not paid the same salary? Why?
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Grenz (1990:4) puts this forward as one of his main theses concerning
our sexual identity:
... our sexuality is an aspect of our being that lies behind, produces
and is given expression by physical sexual characteristics and
reproductive capacity. To understand this fuller dimension of
sexuality, we must look both to the human sciences and the biblical
narratives concerning human origins.
Here Grenz indicates the deep and essential nature of our sexuality. He
also indicates that the way in which maleness and femaleness ought to be
defined and understood is by no means easily resolved. Thus, we would
do well not to jump to quick and incomplete answers to the question of
what is involved in our personalities and our human sexuality. Let us go
on, then, to consider human sexuality in the light of the Bible.
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STUDY UNIT 3
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should:
. be able to describe and critique the interpretation of some key
biblical texts with respect to gender and sexuality
. understand and be able to evaluate the effect of these texts, and
their interpretations, on Christian sexual ethics
for this reason that a distinction must be made between the historical
descriptions of moral (or immoral) behaviour in the Bible and those parts
of the Bible that provide ethical norms and values that ought to govern
our thoughts, motives and actions (see Botha in Villa-Vicencio & de
Gruchy 1994:38).
Other examples can also be given to illustrate this point. Thus, even
though women were more often than not regarded as of less importance
than men in Israelite culture (as well as in surrounding Canaanite,
Assyrian and Egyptian cultures), this does not mean that these cultural
practices should be imitated by modern Christians, particularly not when
many parts of the biblical text affirm the value and importance of
women. This means that texts that deal with relationships between men
and women need to be read in relation to each other and to the socio-
historical context in which they were written to ascertain ``what the Bible
teaches''. For example, the verse in Ephesians 5:22, ``Wives, be subject
to your own husbands, as to the Lord'' needs to be read in relation to
Ephesians 5:21, ``and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ'',
and Ephesians 5:25, ``Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved
the church and gave himself up for her''. (The meanings of these texts
and the patriarchal context in which they were written are discussed in
study unit 10.4.) In this way, many of the problems associated with
relationships between husbands and wives can be resolved.
how do women A proper understanding of these texts will prevent male members of
experience the churches from exploiting and denigrating female members of churches.
church? While many women have found the church to be a haven from abuse and
discrimination, many other women have found that they experience
discrimination within the church and that Christian theology is used as a
justification for practices that treat women (and often children) as less
than fully human and therefore as less important than men.
Consider illustration 3.1.
Does it make you laugh, think, or get angry? Why? It is a humorous look
at the whole issue of whether women ought to be ordained as priests or
ministers. On the left-hand side the cartoonist portrays an all-male
priesthood propagating a view based on conclusions drawn from Jesus's
choice of disciples. (You may want to read Luke 8:1±3 which speaks of
Jesus's female followers/disciples.) On the righthand side, the caption
suggests that God, herself, is a woman.
patriarchy What, then, about patriarchy? Patriarchy, in the sense in which I am
using it here, means male rule or, more literally, rule by the fathers (pater
means ``father'' and arche means ``rule''). Both the Old and New
Testaments are set in a social context in which men, whether they were
fathers, brothers, husbands or sons, all played a leading role in social and
family life. Within this context women did not have authority over their
own lives, but were largely subject to decisions made by the central man
or men in their lives.
To some extent certain modern countries, mainly in Asia, Africa, Eastern
Europe and Latin America, still operate according to this norm.
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ILLUSTRATION 3.1
A cartoon about women's ordination to the priesthood.
Activity 3.1
What characteristics or
roles are described here?
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Genesis 1 Genesis 1:27 states ``And God created man in his own image, in the
image of God he created him; male and female; he created them''. This is
an extremely important text since it talks about the creation of
humankind (the word ``man'' here is a generic term meaning
humankind) and it makes the point that both females and males are
created in God's image. This has enormous implications for gender
relationships. There is no indication in this text that the one sex has
dominance over the other. As Hulley and Mofokeng (1983:67) put it:
Here the sexual relationship between two persons, neither of whom
enjoys precedence, is given its place in creation; it is a relationship
between equals. The role of the male and female vis-aÁ-vis creation
is likewise a joint one, for they are both to fill the earth and use its
resources.
The last part of this quotation is a comment on Genesis 1:28 and Hulley
makes the point that both women and men are to exercise responsibility
over the earth. This is in sharp contrast to the common perception that
women are to be active in the private sphere (eg at home) whereas men
are to be active in the public sphere (eg in government or business).
Interestingly enough, Proverbs 31:10±31, which is often used as a
preaching text on ``Mother's Day'' at churches, speaks of a woman who
is active in both the public and private spheres.
Genesis 2 The second creation story (Gen 2:4±25) also speaks of the creation of
humanity. In contrast to the narrative in Genesis 1, this narrative speaks
of the man being created first and it uses the symbolism of the woman
being created from the rib of the man. This has caused some
commentators and preachers to insist that men should have precedence
over women since they were created first. However the logic of this
position is suspect, since, in the context of Genesis 1 and 2, it would
imply that inanimate creation as well as vegetation and animals should
have precedence over humanity because they were created before human
beings. Therefore, other scholars have argued that both the creation
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3.3 GENESIS 3
The narrative in Genesis 3, on what is commonly called the ``Fall'' in
Christian theology, is also relevant to our discussion.
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Activity 3.2
(2) Who was responsible for the Fall? With which of the three following
views would you most closely agree?
(a) Eve was deceived and she tempted Adam, so she was responsible
for the Fall.
(b) Both Adam and Eve were responsible; both decided to disobey God.
(c) Adam was weak and unable to obey God's instruction, so he was
responsible for the Fall.
those who blame It has traditionally been argued that since Eve was deceived, she ought to
women for the carry the entire responsibility for the Fall. Examples of such
``Fall'' interpretations include the comment by the early Christian theologian
Tertullian (c160±225) who said:
Women, you are the Devil's doorway. You have led astray one [ie
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Adam] whom the Devil would not dare to attack directly. It was
your fault that the Son of God had to die, you shall always go in
mourning and rags (Keane 1988:4).
Thus other interpretations have been given to this passage. These insist
that both Adam and Eve ought to bear responsibility for the decision to
disobey God, as illustrated in the rich symbolism of this passage, which
stresses that both Adam and Eve were punished by God for their
deliberate disobedience. The consequences of the Fall were negative in
the extreme:
The fall affected a number of relationships in a very negative way.
God and humanity were alienated or separated from each other. The
unity and harmony between the woman and the man were shattered.
Even the relationship between humanity and the natural world
(symbolised by the serpent, ground, thorns and thistles) was
affected ...
After the fall men began to play the dominant role and women were
pushed into subservient positions. In the following chapter the men
led the clan, built cities, introduced polygamy, and were skilled
metal workers or musicians (Genesis 4:16±24). The role of the
women was to bear children and be passive observers of life. They
made no decisions and (unlike Eve Ð Gen 4:25) did not even name
their own children (Umtata women's theology Bible study series
1991:30±31).
sexuality. Subsequent study units will also refer to key biblical texts
because they have been, and remain, influential sources for discussions
of human sexuality and, in particular, sexual morality.
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Activity 3.3
(2) If the arguments presented here are familiar to you, why is this the
case?
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STUDY UNIT 4
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. identify the connection between sexuality and values
. identify and assess what values, or lack of values, influence
people's sexual attitudes and behaviour
. apply certain criteria, including Christian values, to evaluate
sexual perceptions and actions
Activity 4.1
(1) How would you define pleasure in general and sexual pleasure in
particular?
(4) Is it wrong for people to have sex simply for the sake of pleasure?
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Christian ethics It is sometimes thought that the purpose of Christian ethics is to turn
and pleasure human beings into sad, joyless creatures. It has often been assumed in
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the past that Christian discussions on sexual ethics are meant to deny
pleasure and to put forward a type of life that has neither joy nor pleasure
in it. These perceptions cannot be further from the truth. Although it is
true that Christian ethics seeks to create a framework in which sexual
pleasure can be enjoyed, it does not seek to destroy something God has
created. The basic approach of Christian theology is that sexual pleasure,
like any form of pleasure which God has created, can be either enjoyed
and nurtured or distorted and abused. In the same way that the pleasure
of eating can be totally misconstrued and turned into selfishness and
obesity, sexual pleasure, too, can be distorted. Similarly, the enjoyment
of beauty can become a selfish desire to possess an over-abundance of
material things instead of appreciating and enjoying what God has
created.
A very useful discussion, ``The Christian view of pleasure'', can be
found in William Barclay's book Ethics in a permissive society. Barclay
(1971:110) defines pleasure as follows:
Pleasure is that which is pleasant: and that which is pleasant is that
which is pleasing. Pleasure is that which a man [or woman] does
simply and solely to please himself [or herself].
Activity 4.2
Using the six moral precepts outlined above by Barclay as ``tests'', analyse
the following. In each case apply all six precepts and decide whether these
activities are to be judged as either ``genuine pleasure'' or ``wrong and
damaging activities''.
(1) People who very regularly consume a lot of food and drink.
(2) People who take drugs or sell drugs and/or addictive substances.
(3) People who demand sex from their partner when he/she is tired.
(5) What can activity 4.2 teach us about genuine versus abusive pleasure?
Can abusive pleasure be regarded as pleasure at all?
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Activity 4.3
ILLUSTRATION 4.1
(1) What are your immediate reactions to/feelings about this picture?
(2) Why do you think you feel like this about the picture?
(7) Would you be willing to pose for a photograph like this? Why, or why
not?
(9) Do you think that people are positively or negatively influenced by such
presentations of human sexuality?
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Activity 4.4
(2) Draw up a chart consisting of four columns with the following headings:
Obedience to Obedience
God to ...
(3) Now take each of the values mentioned here, for example living a life
of order, obedience to God, the pursuit of virtue, etcetera, and
complete the chart as indicated above.
(4) What do your comments reveal about the extent to which these
Christian values are regarded as important and are practised in our
personal and social lives?
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Activity 4.5
(3) How do you respond to these texts? With approval, with disapproval?
Why?
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some key texts Key texts in this regard are Leviticus 15 and 18. Other key chapters
include Deuteronomy 21, 22, 24 and 27. In both Deuteronomy 27:16±26
and in Leviticus 20:10±21 a number of sins are listed. These are a
combination of sexual practices regarded as an abomination by the Jews
and a variety of other sins relating to property ownership, grievous bodily
harm, and bribery. In other words, the ancient Hebrews did not regard
sexual sins alone as an abomination to the Lord; here they provide us with
various practices that they regarded as completely unacceptable. It is
significant that adultery (Lv 20:10) is condemned along with incest
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(Lv 10:12), homo-sexuality (Lv 20:13), sex with an animal (Lv 20:16)
and sexual intercourse during a woman's menstrual cycle (Lv 20:18).
How are we to interpret these passages in the modern context? While
most people would agree that bestiality (sex with an animal) is wrong,
many others would not agree that sexual intercourse during menstruation
is equally wrong Ð or wrong at all. But on what grounds can one
abstract certain texts as relevant to a moral code with reference to sexual
behaviour today while not regarding all these prohibitions as binding?
From the comments made above, some indications of a way ahead have
been provided. These include an understanding of the ancient Hebrew
perceptions of sexual discharges (for example blood and semen), which
were regarded as rendering a person unclean. Nevertheless, these
comments do not completely solve the difficulties of a passage such as
Leviticus 20:1021. Thus a text such as this one needs to be read
alongside other texts dealing with sexual morality.
In the prophetic book of Hosea, the writer uses the experience of Hosea
with his faithless wife to illustrate the way in which Israel had defiled its
relationship with God. In the same way that Hosea's wife ran after other
men, Israel had run after other gods. This book raises several issues
including matters such as sexual purity and religious faithfulness. The
prophet Amos also speaks of the sin of Israel:
Thus says the Lord, ``for three transgressions of Israel and for four I
will not revoke its punishment, because they sell the righteous for
money and the needy for a pair of sandals. Those who pant after the
very dust of the earth on the head of the helpless also turn aside the
way of the humble; and a man and his father resort to the same girl
in order to profane my holy name. And on garments taken as
pledges they stretch out beside every altar and in the house of their
God, they drink the wine of those who have been fined'' (Am 2:6±
8).
the Song of Songs In contrast to the emphases indicated above is the very lovely love story
recounted in the book called the Song of Songs or sometimes the Song of
Solomon. These few chapters tell the story of the love between two
people and include descriptions of the joy they experience in each other's
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arms. The poetry included in this book is quite lovely and a myriad of
wonderful images are used to explain the way in which this man and
woman love each other:
10 My beloved responded and said to me,
`Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
And come along.
11 `For behold, the winter is past,
The rain is over and gone.
12 `The flowers have already appeared in the land;
The time has arrived for pruning the vines,
And the voice of the turtledove has been heard in our land.
13 `The fig tree has ripened its figs,
And the vines in blossom have given forth their fragrance.
Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
And come along!'
14 O my dove, in the clefts of the rock,
In the secret place of the steep pathway,
Let me see your form,
Let me hear your voice;
For your voice is sweet,
And your form is lovely.
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Activity 4.6
(1) Read the Song of Songs in the Old Testament, especially 4:1±7 and
5:10±16.
(2) Compare and contrast what the man says to the woman with what the
woman says to the man, using the following outline:
The Song of Songs affirms the equality of men and women. It goes
beyond stereotypes Ð at times, the man is the lover and other times he is
the beloved. The same is true of the woman. In the patriarchal context of
the Bible, this is truly a glimpse of God's divine intention for men and
women Ð a relationship marked by honesty, trust, equality, intimacy
and love.
Thus, we gain a glimpse into those values that make genuine sexual
pleasure possible, a relationship founded on honesty, trust, equality,
intimacy and love.
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Activity 4.7
(2) List the sins of the sinful nature (sarx). What consequences do these
have for individuals and families?
(3) List the fruit of the Holy Spirit. What effect would the practice of
these have on our personal lives and the moral fabric of our society?
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Thus many Christians have stressed the spiritual as being more important
than the physical or material. The original Greek word sarx does not
refer to the physical body as such, but it refers rather to the evil or sinful
nature. Paul is not saying that one must entirely deny and suppress the
physical aspect of one's personality and concentrate only on the spiritual
aspects. This is an unbiblical dualism. God, as the creator of both body
and soul, requires that our Christian faith be lived out in all realms of
human and social existence. What Paul means in this passage is that
Christians must live in a manner consistent with their new, spirit-filled
natures and not according to their old sinful natures. The fruit of the
spirit, which includes virtues such as love, self-control, faithfulness and
gentleness, ought to be developed or cultivated by the believer. By way
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of contrast, the deeds of the flesh (sarx), which include slander, jealousy,
fornication and envy, are to be avoided and shunned by the Christian.
Both the body and the mind of a believer must be governed and led by
the Holy Spirit.
This interpretation is borne out by what Paul says in his first letter to the
Corinthians:
Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who
is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your
own? For you have been bought with a price Ð therefore glorify
God in your body (1 Cor 6:19±20).
sin against one's Timothy Radcliffe (1986:308±310) has argued that this text stresses an
own body affirmation of the body and rejects both the extremes of asceticism and
promiscuity which, he says, are based on a despising of the body.
Asceticism is a strict and disciplined avoidance of pleasure, including
sexual pleasure, whereas promiscuity is unrestricted sexual behaviour
that is not governed by either love or commitment. Paul's point in this
passage is that immorality is a sin because the immoral person sins
against his or her own body. Sinful sexual relations are a deviation from
the divine intention with regard to sexuality and result in the destruction
of one's own body and spirit in one or another form.
negative effects The negative effects of sexual immorality include not only obvious
examples such as sexually transmitted diseases, but also the moral and
emotional damage to one's psyche (soul/human spirit), which results
from sexual promiscuity. This means that a Christian sexual ethic insists
on a unity of body and soul: the whole person is affected by sin, whether
this be sexual sin or any other form of sin. In other words, the deeds of
one's body cannot be separated from one's relationship with oneself,
other people or God. (I will return to this issue of the interrelationship
between sexuality, spirituality and moral values in the last few units of
this study guide.)
In conclusion, then, it can be seen that in a study of human sexuality
from a Christian perspective, sexuality and morality are interrelated. This
study unit has shown that discussions on sexuality and morality need to
include an emphasis on purity, fidelity, love, good motives and an
integration (not dualistic separation) of body and spirit.
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STUDY UNIT 5
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be:
. more aware that ``we stand on the shoulders of those who have
gone before us'' (ie the past has an impact on the present)
. able to assess the nature of the impact of past ideas regarding
sexuality on present-day convictions and practices
In this study unit we shall introduce you to the range of attitudes to and
pronouncements about human sexuality within the Christian tradition.
We will pay particular attention to:
. the early church period
. the Middle Ages
. the Reformation
. the 20th century
the permissive age The fact that modern medical technology has made sexual intercourse
possible with very little risk of conception taking place has obviously
had a significant impact on modern sexual attitudes. Although the
modern scourge of AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome) has
caused some people to exercise greater caution with regard to illicit
sexual relationships, significant numbers of people appear to completely
disregard the dangers of contracting AIDS or any other sexually
transmitted disease. The very high rate of teenage pregnancies in South
Africa is also a major cause for concern. The point is that modern
people's understanding of sexuality has all too clearly been influenced
by modern Western permissiveness, especially as a result of the influence
of national television.
Consider the following illustration which depicts the increase of sexual
experimentation amongst young people. The idea that sex need not be
restricted to marriage was a feature of ``the age of permissiveness'',
which greatly affected people's opinions regarding sex, especially during
the 1960s.
ILLUSTRATION 5.1
Making the 1960s swing. The contraceptive pill, created from synthetic
hormones, probably had a more profound effect on Western society than
any other medical discovery in the last 250 years.
Source: Stewart (1997:213)
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Note your emotional and mental reaction to this picture. Perhaps write a
sentence or two to record this reaction.
Barclay's book, which was quoted earlier, was written to question many
of the assumptions of this permissive (anything is permitted) age; hence
the title Ethics in a permissive society. We need to ask in what ways we
are influenced by the times in which we live and whether the values (or
lack of values) encouraged by our modern cultures are compatible with
our faith.
In other words, ought Christian theology simply to be swamped by
popular cultural perceptions? It is for this reason that it is valuable to
gain a broader understanding of Christian teaching on sexual matters
throughout the centuries.
sexuality and Another key factor in the modern discussion of human sexuality is that
culture of cultural perceptions of sexuality. Thus, African Christians have often
been critical of Western Christian perceptions and vice versa. But it is
simply not valid for Christians from one cultural group to be critical of
Christians from another cultural group without being critical of their own
cultural understandings of human sexuality. If it is true that Christian
faith ought to transform the cultures within which Christians live, rather
than Christians simply conforming to and being detrimentally influenced
by the cultures in which they live, then Christians the world over (and
particularly in South African context in which this study guide is written)
need to ask themselves which cultural expressions of attitudes and
practices of human sexuality are appropriate in the context of Christian
faith. Christians also need to identify those cultural perceptions or
practices that are incompatible with their faith.
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Activity 5.1
(1) What are the benefits (and disadvantages) of marriage for men? What
are the benefits (and disadvantages) of marriage for women?
(3) Is it true that many cultures have ``double standards'' with respect to
the sexual behaviour of men and women? For example married men may
have sexual relations outside of the marriage, but women may not?
(4) Why is this the case? Do you agree with these ``double standards''?
How, then, did those who espoused the Christian faith respond to the
sexual attitudes and practices of the first few centuries? Their central
emphasis has already been mentioned, that is the emphasis on marriage
and on marital fidelity. In 1 Corinthians 7:9 Paul writes:
If they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better
to marry than to burn with passion.
``official'' religion of the empire, this change did mean that the very
heavy persecution of Christians ceased.)
Grenz has argued that, as a result of the influence of theologians such as
Origen, and the body-denying culture of Greek philosophy, certain texts in
the New Testament that extolled celibacy were greatly emphasised. Thus
passages such as 1 Corinthians 7:26 and Matthew 19:12, which emphasise
the celibate state, were increasingly regarded as the norm for many
thousands of Christians rather than being an exception to the rule.
This increasing emphasis on celibacy through several centuries
eventually led to the decision of the first Lateran Council in 1123 CE
to impose celibacy on the clergy. This meant that any man (all clergy
were, of course, male during this period) who entered the priesthood
would have to take a vow of celibacy. This was the case in the Roman
Catholic Church. But celibacy, although preferred, was not imposed on
priests in the Eastern or Greek Orthodox tradition. From 1123 CE until
today celibacy has been expected of all Roman Catholic priests.
In response to growing moral laxity after the 3rd century CE, certain
Christians withdrew into the desert and initiated what has since been
called the Desert Fathers' tradition. Such persons, some of them women,
withdrew into the deserts (mainly in Egypt) in order to seek solitude and
withdraw from the temptations of the world. Whereas the faith of the
Desert Fathers and Mothers provided an extremely important element in
Christian theology and spirituality, one side-effect of this ascetic
emphasis was that both marriage and human sexuality were somewhat
repressed, even denigrated.
Despite the fact that Augustine did also develop a positive theology of
marriage in which he argued that the union of marriage is blessed by
God, this overemphasis on the human sinful nature and the link between
sin and sex was to have profound implications for the development of
Christian theologies of marriage in subsequent periods. According to
Kosnik (1977:37), the Christian attitude towards human sexuality at the
end of the Patristic era was generally pessimistic:
Although sexuality of itself was recognised as good because of its
procreative function, the pleasure attached to sex was viewed as a
consequence of original sin. The experience of sexual pleasure,
therefore, even indeliberate, and even within marriage for the
purpose of procreation, was regarded somehow as tainted with sin.
This attitude, however, did not necessarily reflect the full
experience of the total church. To a lesser extent, the Fathers also
recognised the values of mutual love and support between husband
and wife.
Kosnik (1977:40) goes on to say that during the early Middle Ages (6th
to 10th century):
The attitudes towards human sexuality ... were undoubtedly heavily
influenced by the limited understanding of biology prevalent at the
time, by the sense of cultic purity, by the Stoic mistrust of pleasure
and by a dominant emphasis on the procreative purpose of
sexuality. Beneath the surface, however, we can discern, especially
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marriage as a During the high Middle Ages (11th to 14th century) the movement to
sacrament accept marriage as fully sacramental was pursued and completed. Albert
the Great and Thomas Aquinas were very important in this regard.
During this time, however, many of the negative perceptions towards
sexuality were continued. Thus:
In the tradition of the Fathers, the schoolmen taught that sex was
permitted only within marriage and primarily for the sake of
procreation. The male seed was the active principle, and its
procreative end governed all speculation on sexual ethics. Women
were of no real value except as receptacles for the seed Ð gardens,
as it were, for human reproduction. The fact that most theological
thinking took place within monasteries resulted in the exultation of
virginity at the expense of marriage (Kosnik 1977:41).
There were some exceptions to this rule. Abelard, Albert the Great
(1200±1280), and to some extent Thomas Aquinas, emphasised the
natural goodness of sex and the importance of marriage. But, by and
large, many of the earlier negative perceptions persisted. Thus, during
the Middle Ages, celibacy remained the highest expression of Christian
devotion with marriage, although it was regarded by the Roman Catholic
Church as a sacrament, coming a very poor second.
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Activity 5.2
(1) Before reading on, compare your answers to the questions in activity
5.1 to the information provided above concerning early church and
medieval views on marriage and celibacy.
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Activity 5.3
(1) What does the word ``Puritan'' suggest to you? What do you think it
means Ð especially with regard to sexuality?
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the Protestants and The Protestant Reformation resulted not only in the formation of entirely
marriage new denominations, but also in a substantial revision of sexual ethics. In
contrast to the emphasis on celibacy common in the Medieval period, the
Protestant reformers placed a much greater emphasis on marriage.
Prominent persons such as Martin Luther (1483±1546) denounced their
previous vows of celibacy (Luther had been trained as a priest) and
entered into marriage. Catherine von Bora, who became Luther's wife,
had previously been a nun in a convent. In general terms, then, the
Reformers were highly critical of the monastic tradition or, rather, the
way in which the monastic tradition had been overemphasised by the
Catholic Church. Many hundreds, even thousands, of people who had
previously been monks and nuns left the monasteries and entered into the
state of marriage. John Calvin himself also married.
During the English Reformation, ironically initiated by the King Henry
VIII's attempts to get rid of a succession of allegedly ``barren'' wives in
his drive to produce a male heir to the English throne, the influence of
the monasteries waned. In his quest to break the power of the Catholic
Church (and the Pope) and to establish himself as the Protector of the
Faith within the realm of England via the newly formed Anglican
Church, Henry VIII ordered the dissolution of a great many monasteries.
These properties were sold or given to his supporters and the monks and
nuns forced to leave. This is an extreme example of the fact that within
the Protestant tradition, the monastic tradition was neither encouraged
nor perpetuated, although certain forms such as the Benedictine tradition
were not entirely obliterated and the monastic tradition later revived, but
to a limited extent. In the Protestant churches, ministers of religion were
free to marry and most did so.
the Puritans Out of the 16th century Reformation developed the tradition of
Puritanism. During the earlier part of the development of Puritanism,
particularly as it was practised in the Netherlands, England and Scotland,
there was a life-affirming tradition which, contrary to the monastic
tradition, emphasised the importance of marriage, family and children.
According to Grenz (1990:xvii±xviii):
The Puritans viewed sexual activity as more than a physical drive,
for it was an expression of deep love, the love that is to exist
between Christian spouses. As a result, the Puritans did not limit the
function of the sex act to procreation. Instead they celebrated the
relational aspect of the marriage bond and the attentive care spouses
were to give to one another ... the real Puritan revolution was to
move the passions of love and sex from adulterous romances into
the marriage bed.
during the 18th and 19th centuries are discussed below Ð see study unit
6.)
Activity 5.5
(3) If you have teenage children, do you speak to them about sex? Would
you encourage them to use contraceptives? Why? Or why not?
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STUDY UNIT 6
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. identify the links between sexuality, economic production and
social relations
. explain and evaluate the effects of urbanisation on families in
Africa
. describe the changes in the expectations, status and roles of
women
. assess the personal and social effects of the perpetual childhood of
women in traditional African society
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Activity 6.1
(2) Are loyalty, service and commitment highly valued in your community
and family?
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consumerism Mofokeng also makes the point that the production-centred nature of our
economy tends to result in people being regarded from the viewpoint of
consumerism. This means that if a person [product] no longer satisfies
my needs or desires, I can simply discard this person. In other words,
usefulness is more highly prized than fidelity or loyalty.
6.2 URBANISATION
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Activity 6.2
(1) How would you define urbanisation and what impact has urbanisation
had on your family?
(2) Describe your family. Who are its members? Who are its leaders?
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(3) Describe and evaluate the ``parenting'' you received? Is this an example
of parenting you would like to copy and practise in your own family?
Mary wakes early. She goes through to the kitchen and makes coffee
and starts the porridge for breakfast. It is school holidays which
means she has had to arrange somewhere for the children to go. She
makes sure they are dressed and have eaten breakfast. She then
drops them off at the baby-sitter's and goes to work. Work is busy but
she gets through her tasks. There is a meeting which will end after
5.00 pm which means that she must make other arrangements for the
children as the baby-sitter has to go out after 5.00 pm. During her
lunch break she fetches the children and drops them at a friend
before rushing back to work Ð having eaten an apple on the way.
After the meeting she again fetches the children and then comes
home to start getting dinner ready. Once home, she finds that they
have run out of milk but that is just too bad Ð she does not want to
leave the children alone to go out and buy milk.
Her husband, Joe, wakes up, eats breakfast and goes to work. He
has a busy day with a couple of meetings. After the morning meeting
they decide to go out to lunch. They go to the restaurant down the
road. On the way home from work he stops in at the shop to buy
cigarettes. When he gets home the children are bathed and dinner is
ready.
(5) What are your reactions to the experiences of Joe and Mary?
(6) To what extent does this describe your day? What is similar or
different in relation to your own experience?
(7) Explain why. Consider race, class and gender in your answer.
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and poll taxes. At first it was the men who travelled to the cities or
mining areas in search of work, leaving their wives and children behind.
In order to retain their possession of the land, men seldom took their
wives with them to the areas where they worked. In some cases, wives
followed their husbands and many previously rural black citizens of the
country became urban inhabitants, which later led to the creation of large
townships clustered around the ``white'' cities.
Those families who retained their hold on the land in traditional tribal
areas were deprived of their husbands' presence for as long as 11 months
of the year. This led to enormous social and marital dislocation. Wives
left behind in the rural areas simply had to take on roles traditionally
exercised by their absent menfolk and be both the mothers and fathers in
their families. They also had to make many family, economic and even
clan decisions in the absence of their husbands. This gave them a greater
measure of independence, but it also led to the experience of enormous
and crippling poverty. The male migrant labourers, in turn, found
themselves isolated from village and clan life in the cities and many of
them either developed temporary relationships with women in the urban
areas or even married a second wife. This led to tensions developing
between the needs of their wife and family in the urban areas and the
needs of their wife and family in the rural areas. In some instances, these
men remained in the cities never to return home. In other instances, they
lived a bipolar existence with their urban and rural families.
breakdown of Urbanisation also led to a degree of ``culture shock'' because the values
traditional and forms of behaviour in the city quite often did not resemble
customs traditional patterns of sexual morality in the rural areas. (Polygamy is
discussed in study unit 9.) Whilst in the rural areas family life was still
largely governed by traditional African understandings of marriage and
family, in the urban areas these traditional checks and balances did not
operate. Particularly in recent years it has been common for young men
to make young women pregnant and then, in order to escape the anger of
the village chiefs or the local minister or priest, they have simply escaped
to the cities leaving behind a young, unmarried and pregnant girl. In such
instances it is very difficult to deal with the negative consequences for
the young woman because it is virtually impossible for the young man
either to marry the young woman in question, or to provide for the child
in some way. Thus it is that many thousands of young women have been
deprived of a chance to continue their education and procure well-paid
jobs, because they are compelled to rear the children of such transient
alliances. In some instances, these children are taken up by the wider
family, either by the parents or other members of the extended family
such as aunts and grandmothers who are then responsible for raising the
child. Clearly, these situations are not ideal and have had a bad effect on
family life.
The number of single parents, especially single mothers, is increasing.
Some women are abandoned by the father of the child, others are
divorced and some choose to have children, but not to get married.
Singleness has a number of advantages (see study unit 7), but also some
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been reliably informed that a major point of debate within rural and
township areas in South Africa today is whether men ought to marry an
educated wife, with the material and educational advantages this brings
for the family, or whether men would prefer to marry an uneducated
wife, preferably from the rural areas. It is often thought that a wife
chosen from the latter group will be less likely to challenge her
husband's authority. This raises issues about how the authority of the
man within the family context ought to be understood. Is the man to be
the unchallenged, dominant head of the family, or is authority to be
shared between the two partners, based on their varying gifts, knowledge
and experience?
ILLUSTRATION 6.1
Treating women as minors, subject to the control of their husbands, is
clearly unconstitutional.
Why can this woman not access a home loan? Can her husband access a
home loan without her permission? Why?
According to Bongani Jili (1995:4), traditional Zulu culture did not
accord to women a very high status:
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The Nguni culture and the law, especially that of the Zulus, have
stressed the status of a woman in marriage as being that of a
``minor'', a little bit higher [than that] of her female children but
less than that of her male children, especially the first born. Cultural
sexism does not give the woman a right even to rule her family after
her husband's death. If she has no sons, or if her sons are still
minors, a male from the family, eg her husband's brother, will take
over until the eldest son reaches maturity.
The sexism of this cultural context was reinforced by the South African
social structures (Wilson & Ramphele 1989:178):
The society has been structured in such a way that women are
compelled to be unusually dependent financially on their husbands.
Moreover, the combination of the migrant system, traditional law,
and the sexism of both black and white society can be crippling for
widows. For instance, if her husband dies on the mines, her money
comes through the magistrate who decides how much she should
get each month. Furthermore, to wind up the estate, there has to be a
male relative who becomes the effective custodian.
Back home, women took control of the whole household and ran
the affairs of a family. It was only when money ran out altogether or
there was sickness in the home that wives travelled to their
husbands in the cities for help. Consequently the visit of a wife at
the work place of the husband was seen as a symbol of misfortune.
Sometimes such wives received help and found a faithful husband
ready to care for them, but, more often than not, due to loneliness,
separated from his wife and in stark hostel accommodation,
husbands were found to be committed to other women and because
of that many marriages broke up.
Furthermore, with the new constitution in South Africa, new laws are
replacing old practices and customs. Some traditional ways under
customary law (law that develops within a community and reflects their
practices and traditions) might now be illegal. These new laws recognise
the full equality between husbands and wives. Now, a wife has legal
powers and can enter into contracts, acquire assets, take a case to court,
etcetera, without the consent of her husband.
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Activity 6.3
(1) Think for a moment about the lives of people such as your grand-
mother, mother, aunts and sisters Ð to what extent can it be said that
they were treated as ``perpetual minors''?
(3) If you are a man, ask yourself whether you think the women in your life
ought to be expected to obey you? Why?
(4) If you are a woman, to what extent have you internalised (accepted as
true for yourself) the perpetual childhood of women. Why?
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This study unit has indicated the massive impact that urbanisation,
migrant labour, the loss of land rights and poverty have had on black
family life in South Africa. The resulting social and family dislocation
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has had an incalculable effect on marriage and family life. The most
obvious results are seen in marital conflict and breakdown, adulterous
relationships, juvenile delinquency, teenage pregnancy, child abuse and
the ever-growing population of ``street-kids''.
Although the results of apartheid structures on black families are more
obvious and acute, white families are by no means immune to social
strife, dislocation and transition. The high divorce rate and ``family
murders'', to mention but two examples, testify to this. In short, family
issues in general, and human sexuality in particular, cannot be discussed
in isolation from the wider social context.
In conclusion, then, it can be seen that human sexuality in the 20th
century has been significantly influenced by the perceptions, attitudes
and actions of Christians in earlier periods. In our own deliberations on
sexuality and morality, then, we need to take note of this historical
tradition. Similarly, the contemporary social context in Africa,
particularly in South Africa, has significantly influenced family and
sexual relationships. We therefore need to pay attention to the effects of
social dislocation and transition on human sexuality. We also need to ask
what we can do to have an impact on the 21st century, which has only
just begun.
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STUDY UNIT 7
Singleness
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. identify forms of singleness and varying perceptions of singleness
. outline and evaluate views of singleness found in the Bible and the
church
. discuss the relationship between celibacy and singleness
Whereas only some persons experience the married state, all persons
experience the state of singleness. Certain people may have chosen to be
single, while others, through force of circumstances, have never married
or have experienced the loss of a spouse, for example through death or
divorce.
what is There are various types of singleness. Firstly, one can speak of ``young
singleness? singles'', that is those persons who are between puberty and possible
marriage. Secondly, one can speak of the ``unchosen singles'', that is
those persons who have not married although they may have been
willing to get married. A third possibility is that of ``chosen celibate
singleness''. This refers to persons who, for one reason or another,
deliberately choose not to marry. The addition of the word ``celibate''
emphasises the point that these people have chosen neither marriage nor
non-marital sexual genital activity. These persons are usually driven by
some form of altruism or are reluctant, for whatever reason, to get
married. This group often includes persons such as priests, nuns, people
married to their work and missionaries. A fourth form of singleness,
which follows from the form just discussed, is ``chosen singleness which
does not include celibacy''. These people may be legally single, but
engage in temporary or semi-permanent forms of sexual activity. A fifth
form of singleness could be called ``post-marital'' singleness. Within this
group are those people who are single as a result of separation or
divorce, or the death of their spouse.
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Activity 7.1
(1) Write down the names of at least four people in the Bible who were
single.
Activity 7.2
Before reading the next section, answer these questions for yourself:
(5) How does my local church, and/or religious group with which I am
familiar, view single people and relate to them?
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During the Middle Ages celibacy was not enforced in the Western
churches, but it was encouraged. By the 11th century the reforms of Pope
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celibacy as a Celibacy is often understood in terms of a covenant with God and those
covenant concerned must be prepared to experience vulnerability, pain and
loneliness in an acute way. Nevertheless, within this experience of
solitude, celibate persons can also know the voice of God and experience
genuine and meaningful relationships. In this way affective sexuality (as
opposed to genital sexuality) can be fully experienced. This path, though
difficult, is not an impossible one, but the experience of affective
sexuality is necessary for the creativity and integration of celibate
persons to be fully released (Kosnik 1977:186):
The experience of human sexuality within the context of creative
fidelity to a covenant commitment must be for the celibate and the
virgin what it is for any human person: self liberating, other
enriching, honest, faithful, socially responsible, life serving, and
joyous.
Activity 7.3
(1) Can individuals ``living with each other'' be described as single? Why?
(2) Do you think that the benefits of ``living together'' are greater for men
or for women? Why?
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From this discussion we can see that not all single people have denied
themselves the possibility of sexual intercourse. However, persons who
have chosen the celibate single state, whilst they may not choose to
engage in genital sexual intercourse, are still able to experience affective
sexuality, that is the expression of their sexual nature in a broader way
not dependent on genitalia.
7.4 FRIENDSHIP
This discussion on singleness raises the matter of friendship. Friendship,
like singleness, can take many different forms. Friendship may, for
example, be experienced between two sisters of the same family.
Another form of friendship may develop between a son and a father,
especially once the son has reached maturity. Friendships may also be
formed between men and women, or between members of the same sex,
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which are platonic in nature. In other words they do not include sexual
forms of expression.
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Activity 7.4
(3) Are women, or men, most likely to share their problems and needs with
their friends?
the four loves The Christian writer CS Lewis, in a now classic book entitled The four
loves has identified four different forms of love. To explain these, he
makes use of four Greek words: philia, eros, agape, and storge.
By philia the Greeks meant friendship. Friendship, says CS Lewis, is
very often undervalued because so few people experience it (Lewis
1960:55). According to Lewis's definition philia must be distinguished
from homosexuality. He says:
Those who cannot conceive friendship as a substantive love but
only as a disguise or elaboration of eros, betray the fact that they
have never had a friend (Lewis 1960:58).
Eros is a very different type of love. Eros is often likened to the state of
``being in love, and it generally refers specifically to love sexually
expressed''.
By storge Lewis means affection. This affection is often expressed by
parents towards their offspring, but also by children towards their
parents.
Finally, agape is often translated ``charity'' and describes a self-giving
and unselfish form of love. It can even be described as a ``gift-love'' as it
is related to self-giving. It is important to remember the differences
between the types of love expressed by means of these four Greek
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purpose of friend- Elizabeth Turner has outlined what Aristotle (in his Nichomachaen
ship ethics book IV) perceived to be the four main purposes of friendship.
Firstly, to desire the good of the other person; secondly, to desire that the
other live for his or her own sake; thirdly, to enjoy passing time with the
other; and fourthly, to share their joys and sorrows (Turner & Turner
1989:154). For Aristotle, friendship is a ``preferential relationship, a
friend is in some sense another self''. Friendships are to be carefully
chosen and limited in number. According to Turner's (1989:153)
summary, friendship can be defined as follows:
Friendship exists by virtue of three primary attributes: what is
useful, what is pleasant and what is good ... permanence and
stability in friendship are only possible and assured when two
people are friends by virtue of the good in one another; by virtue of
who or what they are rather than because of what they can offer ... .
Aristotle asserts that equality and goodness are most conducive to
lasting friendship. The highest form of friendship exists when those
who are equal choose one another as friends because of the quality
of the other's character.
friendship and Elizabeth Turner makes the point that definitions of friendship are
culture sociologically and culturally determined. Consequently, different
definitions of friendship arise in different personal and social contexts
(Turner & Turner 1989:153±154). Thus for Cicero, the Roman writer
and politician, the notion of friendship was rooted in politics:
``Friendship was the cohesive and organisational factor in the Roman
political structure'' (Turner & Turner 1989:155). For Cicero, the three
most important characteristics of friendship were virtue, loyalty and
equality.
Turner also cites the Greek writer Plutarch's contribution to the
discussion of friendship. According to Plutarch, it is impossible to have
numerous friends. He went on to say that:
friendship must be tried and tested before making a commitment to
the relationship. Such a period of judgment demands time and
energy, and is necessary if the obligation to preserve the
permanence of friendship is to be honoured (Turner & Turner
1989:156).
friendship and It has often been assumed that friendship can only be experienced
gender between people of the same sex. However, depending on the way in
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Activity 7.5
(2) Why?
(3) Do you think the church and individual Christians need to change their
attitudes and actions with regard to single people?
(4) Suggest some concrete actions in this regard that you think would
improve the life experience of single people.
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To conclude, this study unit has shown that there are different forms of
singleness. In the Bible, examples of marriage, singleness and celibacy
are all to be found. Whereas some people are single by choice, others are
single as a result of circumstances beyond their control. Different
cultures have various perceptions of singleness, viewing it either
positively or negatively. Single parenthood was also noted. The
discussion of celibacy has indicated during which periods sexual
chastity has been highly prized. This study unit has also examined
different types of love and, in particular, discussed friendship. A number
of issues related to the need for the church to re-examine its views and
practices with regard to single people were also noted.
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STUDY UNIT 8
Activity 8.1
(1) Read the following article from the Mail & Guardian (Sept 1±7,
2000:11):
(3) Should young, sexually active children (eg 11 year olds) be given the pill
or other contraceptives, for example condoms? Would this encourage
sexual activity?
There is a group in South Africa called ``True Love Waits''. This group
encourages young people to remain virgins (both boys and girls) until
they get married. This is in stark contrast to many sexual attitudes that
see sexual relationships as normal and part and parcel of any and every
relationship.
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Activity 8.2
(1) Note your feelings about such groups as ``True Love Waits'' and ``Pledge
Keepers''.
(2) Do you agree that you can have friends without having sex? Why?
(3) In what ways does Christian teaching on premarital sex tie in with the
aims of these groups?
(4) Why do you think that pro-celibacy groups have sprung up?
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both for and against premarital sex are advanced. Some of these are
listed below. With which of these do you agree or disagree?
Activity 8.3
(2) How would you apply the arguments for and against extramarital sex to
this situation?
(3) How do you respond to this story Ð with which of the parish worker's
decisions do you agree Ð and why?
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Look at your answers to the questions in activity 8.3 in the light of the
comments in subsection 8.4. Do they encourage you to add or delete
anything from your answers?
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8.5 MASTURBATION
Masturbation can be defined as ``stimulating yourself sexually by
manipulating your sexual organs'' (White 1977:34). Masturbation can
also be performed on one person by another person Ð for example, in
the case of ``heavy petting''.
Traditionally, the church considered masturbation as sinful and
unnatural. Masturbation was associated with other ``unnatural acts'',
such as bestiality. Much of this condemnation was based on a false
interpretation of the story of Onan (Gen 38:9±10). In this story it is not
masturbation that is wrong, but Onan's failure to practise Levirate
marriage (Deut 25:5±10), that is to provide his brother's wife with a
child. In fact, the Bible says nothing about masturbation.
The negative attitude to masturbation was also due to biological
misunderstanding. It was thought that the male seed was the only active
element for the creation of new life (the woman was just where the seed
grew). So, masturbation was tantamount to the destruction of life. It was
also thought that there were a finite number of sperm and so they should
not be wasted. In the 18th and 19th centuries it was thought that
masturbation caused all sorts of medical conditions, from pimples to
suicide.
Masturbation has sometimes caused people, especially teenagers, to feel
very guilty, even ``unclean''. In this regard, a distinction can be made
between occasional and, often, involuntary, masturbation (eg in the case
of ``wet dreams'' Ð dreams that induce sexual feelings and reactions) on
the one hand and regular, obsessive masturbation on the other hand. The
latter can get totally out of control and be associated with pornography
and voyeurism (watching naked people perform sexual acts). White
(1977:34) speaks of this type of masturbation as ``sex on a desert island''
because it involves the avoidance of relationships.
In order to evaluate masturbation, one must assess the various meanings
and reasons why it is done. For example, it can be an outlet for forbidden
desires, it can give psychological consolation to the lonely person, in
marriage it can help to even out differing patterns of sexual desire, or it
can be used mutually as a source of sexual pleasure and a form of safe
sex. However, it can also be a neurotic escape from relationship and
inner problems.
In short, masturbation, especially for men and women with no other
sexual outlet, can be a positive force, but there are dangers. It may
become a substitute for relationships, or over-used, and used with
pornography, especially by men who fear or even hate women. Then it
becomes destructive.
Positions (2) and (3) are based on the view that genital sexual activity
leads to the fragmentation and alienation of the person if it is not rooted
in a loving and permanent relationship. Fornication is not wrong simply
because it is pleasurable, says Dominian, it is wrong because it treats the
person as if they were a purely physical object, without psychological or
spiritual dimensions. He goes on to say that the guiding principle of
sexual ethics
... is not to be found in sexual pleasure, either in its pursuit or
denial, but in the pursuit of human integrity and wholeness in
authentic intra- and interpersonal relationships (Dominian 1977:71).
attention, at a theoretical and practical level, than has previously been the
case.
In conclusion, then, this study unit has shown that some single people
practise a celibate lifestyle whereas others engage in semi-permanent
sexual relationships that do not include marriage. Still others engage in
occasional, temporary sexual liaisons. This means that individual
Christians, and the church as a whole, need to think through the
implications of sexuality for single people. This includes the issues of
premarital and non-marital sex.
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STUDY UNIT 9
Marriage
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. identify to what extent your own experience of marriage, whether
directly (your own marriage) or indirectly (the marriage of
someone close to you), has influenced your views and feelings
regarding marriage
. explain and evaluate various views concerning the definitions,
forms, images, symbols and purpose of marriage
. assess the impact of biblical teachings on ancient and modern
perceptions of marriage
ILLUSTRATION 9.1
Social Comment. The work of Tina Modotti (1896±1942) combined
strong composition with social or political messages. ``Once Again''
(1929) highlights the situation of Mexican women condemned to an
endless cycle of childbearing and rearing.
This picture entitled Once Again by Tina Modotti highlights the situation
of Mexican women. It portrays the situation that many of these women
find themselves in, with small children in their arms and another baby on
the way.
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Activity 9.1
(1) Do you agree with the comment above illustration 9.1? In other words,
is constant childbearing and rearing a terrible fate? Give reasons for
your answer.
(2) Would it make a difference to the quality of women's lives if they could
choose when and how many children they had?
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(3) Should men have a say in how many children a woman has? For example,
should he have a say in whether she uses contraception or not?
perceptions of But what about changing perceptions of marriage? In the study unit on
marriage singleness, the point was made that some people have, for one reason or
another, rejected the option of marriage. Others may have wished to get
married, but have not had the opportunity to do so. As a result of the very
high divorce figures in both the West and in Africa (as well as legal or
informal separations), many thousands, if not millions, of people in our
world today are not actually married. A significant number of these
people are single as a result of divorce or the death of a spouse. This
means that marriage cannot be discussed in isolation from the reality that
many people are, in fact, not married.
Jack Dominian, in his 1977 book Proposal for a new sexual ethic, places
himself, as a Catholic thinker, among those who have wanted since
Vatican II (1962±1965) to develop a new moral basis for sexual ethics
for today's world. His argument is that the debate is not so much about
obedience but about developing an appropriate value system for a new
age. He points to two basic notions current in the world today concerning
sexual morality:
Perhaps no idea is more deeply embedded in popular thought and
moral theology than that sexual intercourse is legitimate within
marriage only and that the pleasure of the act is intimately related to
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In response to this statement by Dominian, there are those who insist that
sexual intercourse is legitimate only within marriage but they do not
regard the primary and only end of marriage as procreation. This group,
consisting of both academic moral thinkers and ordinary people, would
also regard sex as pleasurable and unifying in itself (and not only
valuable when linked with procreation). They stress a continuing
relationship of commitment and fidelity within marriage.
It is also important to note that the nuclear family (mother, father and two
or three children) is a relatively recent form associated with marriage,
which had its roots in the 19th century development of the bourgeois
middle class. In earlier times, marriage and the family usually included
many other kinship or clan relationships (eg half-sisters, cousins, uncles)
as well as servants Ð all of whom were engaged in joint economic
activities. It is significant that in a study conducted in 1974 in the United
States only 37 percent of the families interviewed included nuclear
families in which both parents and their children lived in one household
(Nelson 1978:131).
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Even though one can put forward arguments about the theoretical
definitions and characteristics of marriage, the actual experiences of
people also need to be taken into account when discussing marriage.
People who have experienced many years of happily married existence
regard marriage in a positive light. But for others marriage has been an
unmitigated disaster. Even to speak in such stark terms about happy or
disastrous marriages is to belie the fact that varied experiences within
marriage are the norm rather than the exception.
Marital life is never easy or simple. It involves a continuing relationship
between two people, both of whom are in a process of change. It also
involves a whole host of other people, including children that may result
from the marriage, brothers and sisters, other members of the family such
as aunts, cousins and parents, as well as the local community in which
the married couple live. All these personal and family factors affect the
marriage in one way or another.
In addition, in the modern industrial world where men and very often
women ``go out to work'', opportunities for marital division, discord and
unfaithfulness increase proportionately. The working environment also
provides opportunities for personal growth and, if both partners are not
growing as persons, as well as growing in relation to each other,
problems may very well result. Husbands who, as a result of their work,
develop a wide range of skills and extensive knowledge of both their
work and life in general might find that their wives do not share their
newly developed interests. Conversely, it could also be true that a wife
may make significant advances in her working life and, at the end of the
day, earn a significantly larger salary than her husband and also enjoy
much higher social status. Both these instances illustrate ways in which
external factors can place additional stresses and strains on a marriage.
With these few introductory comments in mind, we can now consider the
question: ``What is marriage?''
Activity 9.1
(2) If you are married, or have been married, has your experience of
marriage been positive or negative? How would you describe or weigh
your marriage on the balance of good and bad?
(3) Describe the marriage of someone close to you Ð for example, your
parents' marriage, that of a family member or of a friend.
(4) Write down three or four ways in which you think your experiences
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ILLUSTRATION 9.2
In Islamic law a man is entitled to take up to four wives.
The value of this analogy of a covenant lies in the fact that it is a binding
commitment involving a series of mutual and interlocking responsi-
bilities. One might argue that the term ``relationship'' (discussed below)
is a much more insubstantial one, leading to the argument that if the
relationship between the couple breaks down, it means that the marriage
has also irretrievably broken down.
marriage as a Another way of understanding marriage, and a more commonly used
relationship or understanding in our contemporary world, is that of marriage as a
partnership relationship or partnership. Terms such as faithfulness, companionship,
partnership, equality and joint responsibility are often used in relation to
this understanding of marriage. The value of the concept of a partnership
is that it resonates well with modern use of relational language and it
stresses the importance of the notion of an interpersonal relationship
within the marriage. However, the word relationship can be a rather
``slippery'' word which may have different meanings for different
people. In the sense in which it is used here, it refers to an association
between a man and a woman that includes mutual respect, affection and
concern. The term ``partnership'' is also often used by those who wish to
distance themselves from notions of male dominance. It introduces the
notions of mutuality, the sharing of responsibilities and the equality of
the married persons.
This understanding of marriage is also more accepting of the possibility
of no children resulting from the marriage. If one's basic understanding
of the purpose of marriage is that it will result in the birth of children
then, if either the wife is barren or the man is sterile, the result may be
extreme unhappiness or even divorce. If however one's understanding of
the purpose of marriage is that of a relationship of companionship, then
the key emphasis is on the relationship between the husband and the wife
and, even though great heartache may result as a result of the couple's
not being able to have children, it will not fundamentally destroy the
marriage.
To put it differently, some people stress the relationship between two
people, whereas others may stress marriage as an institution, believing
that this gives to marital life a greater stability and security. The
importance of regarding marriage as an institution lies in the fact that it is
a social structure within a community and has a legal framework. In
Africa, marriage is often seen as a marriage between two families. This is
made clear in the protracted negotiations that precede a marriage, where
a series of meetings take place between various members of the two
families. Also lobola (bride wealth or dowry) is negotiated and paid and,
in certain instances, may even be demanded back by the family of the
wife.
Marriage is a social and family institution and the marriage ceremony is
a public one, in which husband and wife take vows before a group of
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Activity 9.2
(1) If you are married, write down why you decided to get married. Were
these valid reasons that you would recommend to someone else?
(2) If you are not married, ask friends (or parents) why they decided to
get married.
(3) If you are not married, write down the reasons you have not married.
(4) Try to find someone (it may be you) who has made a conscious choice to
remain single. Why have they done so?
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views on the What, then, is the purpose of marriage? According to one writer on
purpose of ethics:
marriage
First, it provides a deep and intimate expression of love between or
among persons, including the giving and receiving of pleasure.
Second, it provides the means for procreating, or having children.
These purposes are not necessarily compatible or incompatible.
That is, people may have a permanent or lasting sexual relationship
without ever having children: or, in expressing their love for each
other, a man and a woman might have children as part of that
expression (Thiroux 1995:348).
Activity 9.3
ILLUSTRATION 9.3
``The Kiss''. The naturalness of its execution and the urgency of its subject
make this one of Rodin's most memorable works.
This is a statue entitled The Kiss by the artist Rodin which depicts the
passion of sexual love. How do you respond to this picture?
Now read the following statements and see which one is closest to what you
believe:
(3) Sex can happen anytime, in any relationship, for pleasure and intimacy.
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the practice of love In his discussion of marriage, Dominian stresses that the marital
relationship needs to move beyond the state of ``falling in love'' to the
practice of loving. In the intimacy of marriage, loving means returning to
the key experiences of our first relationship of love between ourselves
and our parents in childhood. In this interchange such experiences as
attachment, trust, intimacy and autonomy, conflict and forgiveness,
authenticity versus superficiality, availability versus egoism, empathy
versus alienation, communication versus withdrawal, gentleness versus
aggression, are the ingredients out of which love is constructed
(Dominian & Montefiore 1989:42).
Dominian (1989:42) goes on to stress that the three central experiences
of all loving relationships, particularly marital relationships, are
sustaining, healing and growth. By sustaining he means the development
of a supportive framework for the marital relationship, which also
includes the importance of communication. With reference to healing, he
makes the point that ``all of us are wounded people'' requiring
``encouragement, reassurance, security, confidence and appreciation''
(Dominian 1989:43). By speaking of growth he makes the point that love
involves change and only in the context of reliable continuity, or
permanence, does the possibility for growth exist.
an interpersonal In contrast to the emphasis on procreation during earlier centuries, it has
relationship been in our century that the tradition and theology of the churches has
again emphasised the importance of the inter-personal aspect of marital
sexuality. In one of the Vatican II statements issued by the Roman
Catholic Church, this statement concerning commitment and growth
within marriage was made:
Thus, a man and a woman, who by the marriage covenant of
conjugal love ``are no longer two but one flesh'' (Matt 19:6), render
mutual help and service to each other through an intimate union of
their persons and of their actions. Through this union they
experience the meaning of their oneness and attain to it with
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Activity 9.4
Make your own summary of this study unit using the following headings:
(2) Write down your own definition of marriage. What ought marriage to
be?
(3) What role ought sex to play in marriage and how important is it?
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In this study unit we have considered the social context of marriage and
various forms of marriage. We investigated the definitions and purpose
of marriage as well as the images and symbols used to try to describe
what marriage involves. Some biblical passages, and their influence on
our thinking, were noted. Your own feelings about marriage were also
probed.
In the next study unit, we shall investigate the matter of marital
breakdown.
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STUDY UNIT 10
Marital breakdown
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. list those factors that contribute to the breakdown of a marriage
. give reasons why and how premarital counselling can help those
who are about to get married
. note and assess biblical material regarding divorce and remarriage
Activity 10.1
(3) Do you think that the incidence of marital breakdown can be avoided Ð
or at least reduced?
indicated earlier, even if a marriage does end in divorce, this is not a final
solution because the financial, family and emotional consequences of
divorce are both widespread and deep-seated. If one or both of the
divorced partners wishes to remarry, they are faced not only with legal
and religious problems, but also with a host of psychological and family
complications.
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Activity 10.2
(1) Compare this list with the points already made in this section on
marital breakdown.
(2) If you were a pastor, a parent or marriage counsellor, what steps would
you take to prepare a couple Ð not simply for the wedding Ð but for
marriage? List at least five points.
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While there may be many reasons for the decision to commit adultery, it
has serious implications for the marital relationship. Despite this, there is
some debate about whether adultery is always wrong in itself or negative
in its consequences.
There are several modern voices calling for open marriages, or at least
for marriages in which infidelity and adultery are not regarded as
synonymous terms. It is argued by some that adultery means sexual
intercourse with someone other than one's married partner. Infidelity,
however, is the breaking of the bonds of faithfulness, trust and
commitment between the two married people.
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Activity 10.3
(4) How would you evaluate this discussion in terms of your faith? In other
words, what do Christians teach about adultery (or the importance of
an exclusive relationship) or commitment (permanence)?
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infidelity equals Against those who argue for a separation between the meanings of
adultery adultery and infidelity, the following arguments can be advanced. Firstly,
the biblical evidence rejects both infidelity and adultery and regards
them as indistinguishable. Reference can be made to Exodus 20:14,
Deuteronomy 22:22 and Mark 10:19. Even though Jesus shows
compassion to the woman caught in adultery, he does instruct her to
``sin no more'' (John 8:8±11). Secondly, the need for friendships and
relationships outside the marriage may be readily admitted, but these
cannot include intimate sexual relationships. If the function of
intercourse is regarded as both procreative and initiative, then it can
be argued that the introduction of a third or fourth party into the sexual
marital relationship irretrievably affects the initiative function in a direct
way.
adultery What arguments are used against adultery? The most important argument
against adultery is that it involves a violation of the unity of the ``one
flesh'' created by the marital relationship. In other words, it involves a
breaking of the intimate physical and emotional trust between two
people. Sexual unfaithfulness also involves lying and cheating because
one is inevitably breaking the relationship of trust and fidelity created by
the marriage and also because, in order to hide the fact of adultery, lying
often becomes necessary. Adultery also leads to other destructive
consequences such as separation or divorce and the suffering of any
children who are involved. This, in turn, leads to social and community
dislocation in both the short and long term. Another possible
consequence of adultery is that the marriage partners are much more
vulnerable to sexual diseases such as syphilis and AIDS.
Those people who argue in favour of adultery generally do so on the basis
of the argument of sexual freedom. They are free, it is argued, to do what
they want to in their own ``private'' sex lives. Although they may
recognise some responsibility to their spouse, they do not recognise the
right of anyone else to comment on their private sexual affairs. This
``sexual freedom'' argument is usually opposed by those who argue that
even if the adulterer is not found out, his or her actions lead intrinsically
to a breaking down of the marital relationship, as well as a destruction of
the integrity of the two parties involved in the adulterous relationship.
Furthermore, adultery seldom remains a secret for long, and therefore it
inevitably affects a much wider range of people. In other words, adultery
is not simply a private sexual issue. Some marriage partners have
engaged in what is commonly called ``wife swopping''. Again, even
though consent may have been obtained in these instances, it can still be
argued that these activities do not and cannot contribute to the meaning
and value of the relationship between the two married partners. The term
``extra-marital sex'', then, refers to those who are unfaithful to their
marriage vows and engage in adultery.
In some instances, infidelity may be followed by confession, repentance,
forgiveness and a re-committal of marital vows. In other instances,
adultery may lead to separation or divorce. A third possibility is that the
couple may remain married while one or both of the partners will
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Activity 10.4
(1) Should divorce, in your view, be allowed by the church? Provide three
reasons to defend your view.
(2) What is the position of your own church, or a church known to you, on
divorce? (You may need to find out if you do not know the answer to
this question.)
(3) What are the consequences, for the whole family, of divorce?
(4) What are the consequences, for the whole family, if divorce is not
permitted in the case of severe marital breakdown?
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incidence and The Catholic writer Dominian states that he regards divorce as one of the
effects of divorce most important social and moral issues of our time. He quotes statistics
that point out that in the period from the early 1960s to the late 1980s
divorce increased by 600 percent in Britain (Dominian & Montefiore
1989:46). This is an alarming statistic, which is easily equalled in many
other countries in the world. Dominian (1989:47) also points to the
massive consequences of divorce:
The doctor sees the stress symptoms associated with marital
conflict; the hospital the consequences in alcohol consumption,
affective disorders, suicidal attempts, suicides and general disease.
The teacher sees the adverse consequences on children in their
behaviour at school; the clergy the immense moral dilemmas posed
by divorce; the magistrate the results of juvenile delinquency; the
solicitor the unhappiness and anger of frustrated spouses; and
society picks up the bill of nearly two billion pounds a year as a cost
of marital breakdown.
church teachings The way in which one defines the nature and purpose of marriage will
on divorce determine one's reactions to both divorce and remarriage. Thus, the
Roman Catholic insistence that marriage is a sacrament means that
Roman Catholics are seriously opposed to divorce and only allow
divorce in situations where the persons involved are able to obtain an
official annulment of the marriage. Only in these situations is it possible
for divorced persons to be remarried in a Catholic Church. Technically,
the Roman Catholic use of the concept of nullity means the following:
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the decree of nullity is a decree that there never was a valid marriage in
the first place Ð this means that the question of remarriage does not
arise since the couple are not regarded as ever having been married.
In their discussions about divorce, Roman Catholics make a distinction
between couples where both husband and wife are baptised and those
marriages in which one partner has not been baptised in the Catholic
Church. The church may dissolve a marriage in which only one person
has been baptised (the so-called Pauline privilege). But a marriage
between two baptised persons which was sealed by intercourse cannot be
dissolved (Verryn 1975:85).
Concerning divorce, both the Roman Catholic Church and the Anglican
communion do not recognise the possibility of divorce and generally
base this rejection of divorce on Jesus's prohibition in Mark 10:8: ``What
God has joined together let no one separate.'' The issue that arises
following this verse is whether this represents an ideal, that is God's will
for marriages, or whether this is a total prohibition of divorce. Some
commentators have made so much of this verse that divorce ends up
being regarded as the unforgivable sin, which is not legitimate. The
unforgivable sin is the continuing refusal to listen to the voice of the
Holy Spirit (Heb 6:1±8 and 10:26±31). On the other hand, it is also not
valid to simply ignore this verse.
If marriage is regarded as a covenant, and particularly if it is regarded as
an unconditional covenant, it is also difficult to see how one can argue
for divorce (see Anderson & Guernsey 1985:29±52). If it is argued that
because God has loved us unconditionally and bound us to him or her
unconditionally, then it generally follows that a married couple need to
stay together no matter what the circumstances. It has often been argued
by pastoral counsellors that there are no exceptions to the marriage
covenant and that it is a permanent, binding covenant.
Concerning divorce, with reference to Jesus's statements in Luke 16:18,
Mark 10:11, Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:39 and 19:19, it seems clear
that Jesus was in principle against the notion and possibility of divorce.
Having accepted this basic approach, it is not clear whether Jesus himself
puts forward any exceptions (eg the famous Matthean exception) or
whether it was the church itself which later sought to accommodate
human weakness by allowing divorce in certain cases (1 Cor 7:10ff).
It is significant that the Roman Catholic Church (and to some extent the
Anglican communion) does not make any accommodation for human
weakness or failure. In effect this means that the ``innocent'' party in a
marital breakdown Ð for example the person who is sinned against by
the partner's engaging in an extramarital relationship Ð cannot be
granted a divorce nor can he or she be granted the opportunity of
remarriage. It also means that people who find themselves in abusive
situations, for example wives being battered or emotionally and sexually
abused, have no opportunity of escape from the marriage other than by
separation. It also means that these persons cannot remarry. In contrast to
this approach, several Protestant churches have opened the door to
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Much discussion and argument has resulted from this porneia clause.
Some commentators argue that this clause is an example of a later scribal
addition (in other words, it was at some point added by a scribe to the
original text). Another view is that it is an authentic statement of Jesus in
which Jesus himself allows for divorce in the event of unchastity, marital
unfaithfulness or, possibly, sexual abuse of one kind or another.
Still other commentators argue that if Jesus permitted this exception, it
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also opens the door for other exceptions to exist. They would refer to the
text in 1 Corinthians 7:10±15 in which Paul argues that the unbelieving
spouse may legitimately get divorced from a believing spouse. Paul does
make the point, however, that this decision ought not to be made by the
believing spouse, but only by the unbelieving spouse.
A third group argues that if an exception is mentioned directly by Jesus
himself as well as in this passage by Paul, it ought not to be argued that a
particular marriage is indissoluble. Particular exceptions may be posited
to provide legitimacy to divorce: these include the reasons listed earlier
such as physical abuse, desertion, sexual abuse, unfaithfulness and the
like.
an analysis of Another passage that deserves further attention is Ephesians 5:21±33.
Ephesians 5 This important passage regarding marriage in the Pauline writings has
often been subject to misinterpretation and abuse. The verses which are
generally quoted are the following:
Wives, be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord. For the
husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the
church, he himself being the Saviour of the body. But as the church
is subject to Christ, so the wives ought to be to their husbands in
everything. Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the
church and gave himself up for her (Eph 5:22±25).
Activity 10.5
Draft your own summary of the study unit by answering the following
questions:
(3) What, if anything, have you learnt from reading this study unit that
can assist you in your own marital relationship or in relation to the
marriages of others who may come to you for help?
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STUDY UNIT 11
Homosexuality
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. explain and assess the various views regarding the definitions,
incidence and causes of homosexuality
. outline and evaluate the various Christian responses to homo-
sexuality, including the various interpretations of the relevant
biblical texts
. identify and respond to the ethical issues raised by homosexuality
. state and defend your own views
Christians and Where do Christians stand in relation to this debate? Some scholars have
homosexuality argued that homosexuality, if expressed within faithful relationships, is a
valid expression of Christian faith for those people who have a
homosexual orientation. Other scholars have argued that, although an
attitude of love and compassion ought to be extended to homosexuals,
the practice of homosexual sexual intimacy is not a valid lifestyle for a
Christian. It can be seen from this that some people make a distinction
between what is termed a homosexual orientation, that is an attraction to
members of the same sex and homosexual practices, that is homosexual
acts. In other words, some have argued that even though one may have a
homosexual orientation, it is not valid, for a Christian, to give expression
to homosexual inclinations and live a homosexual lifestyle.
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Activity 11.1
ILLUSTRATION 11.1
Out and proud. Marchers in the first Gay Pride march parade through the
street of New York City in 1973.
(2) Why?
(3) What does this tell you about your views concerning homosexuality?
(4) Are you able to say why you think and feel like this?
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Activity 11.2
(1) How would you define homosexuality? Use a few sentences to describe
your view.
(3) How have your views on homosexuality developed? Are they based on
personal experience, church teachings, reading or watching television,
or have you been influenced by friends or family?
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same-sex One of the key matters here is the definition of homosexuality. Possibly
attraction the broadest definition is to speak in terms of ``same-sex'' attraction as
opposed to ``opposite-sex'' attraction. Therefore, males sexually
attracted to each other are generally referred to as gays or
homosexuals, whereas women homosexuals are generally referred to
as lesbians. In general terms, however, the term ``homosexual'' is often
used of both men and women.
orientation or Ought homosexuality to be defined as an orientation (or attraction) to
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more recent In recent years there has been intense debate about the original data
surveys collected by Kinsey concerning homosexuality. John Court and Neil
Whitehead (1996:338) have argued that the methods used by Kinsey (in
both collecting and interpreting data) are now being seriously
questioned. Even at the time when Kinsey's Male Report was
published, several scientists criticised his methodology, biases and
conclusions. Amongst these were the American Statistical Association
and the distinguished psychologist Abraham Maslow (Court &
Whitehead 1996:339). More recent studies have indicated that figures
such as 1,7 percent may be an underestimate and a figure of 3 percent
would constitute an upper-limit correction (Court & Whitehead
1996:342).
In a recent Time magazine article (17 October 1994:54±60) the results of
a University of Chicago survey reported that ``only 2,7% of men and
1,3% of women report that they had homosexual sex in the last year''.
The report went on to say that 7,1 percent of men and 3,8 percent of
women reported that they had had sex with someone of their gender
since puberty. These figures are significantly lower than the 10 percent
estimated by Kinsey. Furthermore, if one considers the percentage of
both men and women who have engaged in long-standing homosexual
relationships, the figures are even lower.
Court and Whitehead (1996:344) have reached the following conclusion:
The whole basis for [Kinsey's] set of propositions has now been
seriously challenged, so that the consensus of professional evidence
suggests that 1±2 percent of males and a lower frequency of females
occupy the exclusively homosexual category. By extension, the bi-
sexual community is also much smaller than Kinsey estimates led
us to believe. In this shift of number, we should note that the basis
for such estimates is now much more closely related to patterns of
behaviour than orientation. Whereas Kinsey confused the two,
contemporary research is driven by questions about AIDS and risky
behaviour. Hence questions are concerned with active sexual
involvement and especially anal sexual intercourse ... which is
widely known to be the most risky form of sexual behaviour for
AIDS transmission.
A fairly recent survey broadcast on Radio 702 claimed that the incidence
of homosexuality is as high or higher than that of the Kinsey Report. It
stated that if the world was a global village of 100 people 11 of them
would be homosexual. This is close to Kinsey's 10 percent.
The differences in these surveys show that there is no consensus as to the
numbers of people who are homosexual. It is difficult to ascertain the
exact incidence of homosexuality in a given society. Still less is it
possible to assess the incidence of homosexuality in countries where
surveys have not been conducted. Also, the results of the surveys are not
in themselves evidence that homosexuality is a valid expression of
human sexuality. What is clear is that it is a minority position but that
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According to Moberly the ambivalence between the need for love of the
homosexual person and their continuing identification with the same-sex
parent, combined with the aversion and hostility that homosexuals often
feel for their same-sex parent, create ongoing unresolved difficulties in
the personality of homosexuals.
lesbianism Briar Whitehead (1996:348) has written an article entitled ``Lesbianism:
causality and compassion'' in which he argues that lesbian relationships
have been called ``emotional rather than erotic''. By this he means that
lesbian relationships are commonly characterised by an intense form of
emotional closeness and intimacy. This intimacy has been described by
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This does not mean that negative parental relationships are sufficient to
contribute to lesbianism. But, combined with the dysfunctional relation-
ship between a young girl and her mother, in addition to negative male
experiences, negative family experiences could influence young girls
towards lesbian orientation. Similarly, negative or dysfunctional
relationships between boys or young men and both their mothers and
fathers, could influence them to develop homosexual orientations.
Concerning a path analysis for lesbianism, Bell et al have argued the
following concerning causal pathways:
All routed through negative same-sex parental relationship,
childhood gender nonconformity, and adolescent homosexual
involvement. The strongest path ran: unpleasant mother, hostile
rejecting mother, negative identification with mother, childhood
gender nonconformity, adolescent homosexual involvement and
adult homosexuality (quoted by Whitehead 1996:353).
In conclusion, Grenz quotes other research to make the point that even
though certain inherited genetic characteristics may render a man or a
woman susceptible to homosexual orientation, without the additional
influence of distorted family relationships, peer pressure or alternative
sexual experiences, any possible genetic potentialities are not decisive.
In summarising this discussion of the causes of homosexuality, then, it
needs to be noted that some persons regard homosexuality as a form of
sexual and emotional immaturity or perversion (the constructionalist
position), whereas other persons regard homosexuality as an inborn,
permanent sexual orientation or preference towards members of the same
sex (the essentialist position).
The United Presbyterian Church of the USA said this concerning church
membership and homosexuality:
As persons repent and believe, they become members of Christ's
body. The church is not a citadel of the morally perfect; it is a
hospital for sinners. It is the fellowship where contrite, needy
people rest their hope for salvation on Christ and his righteousness.
Here in community they seek and receive forgiveness and new life.
The church must become the nurturing community so that all whose
lives come short of the glory of God are converted, re-orientated,
and built up into Christian community. It may only be in the context
of a loving community, appreciation, pastoral care, forgiveness, and
nurture that homosexual persons can come to a clear understanding
of God's pattern for their sexual expression.
There is room in the church for all who give honest affirmation to
the vows required for membership in the church. Homosexual
persons who sincerely affirm ``Jesus Christ is my Lord and
Saviour'' and ``I intend to be his disciple, obey his word, and show
his love'' should not be excluded from membership (``The church
and homosexuality'', The United Presbyterian Church in the United
States of America [New York: Office of the General Assembly
1978] p 59, quoted in Soards 1989:77).
Activity 11.3
(1) Using a few sentences for each, summarise the basics of each of the
four views outlined above.
(3) Outline the pastoral and ethical implications of each of these views.
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The reasons for agreeing with one or other of these positions need to be
carefully thought through. You may be following a normative approach
that sees something as inherently wrong, or contrary to the Bible. On the
other hand, you may follow a more teleological approach that considers
the consequences for the relevant individuals, families and also for
society as a whole. Try to talk to leaders in your church and to those who
minister to homosexuals so that the practical implications of homo-
sexuality become more real to you.
Make sure that the pastoral and ethical implications you outline are
consistent. For example, the ``rejecting-compassionate'' approach places
certain conditions on homosexuals before they are fully welcomed.
Many of the pastoral implications of the ``full acceptance'' approach are
outlined above. If one does agree with the ``full acceptance'' approach
one has to be prepared for all the implications.
Now that the basic issues have been outlined, let us consider this matter
further in the next study unit, which concentrates of the biblical texts
and, again, looks at ethical and pastoral considerations.
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STUDY UNIT 12
A number of texts in both the Old and New Testament raise the issue of
homosexuality Ð either directly or indirectly. The problem is, however,
that the interpretations of these texts vary significantly. Thus, a
considerable amount of debate on homosexuality and the Bible was
sparked off by the publication of John Boswell's (1980) book entitled
Christianity, social tolerance and homosexuality. This was because
Boswell argued that traditional interpretations of the relevant texts were
faulty and that biblical evidence could not be cited to oppose
homosexual orientation. Some of the central arguments on several of
the key texts are provided below. This discussion will reveal two basic
approaches to homosexuality (which represent a simplification of the
four views elucidated above). Supporters of these two approaches
include:
. those who interpret the Bible to mean that a homosexual lifestyle is
not acceptable from a Christian perspective (which includes both the
rejecting-punitive and rejecting-compassionate approaches)
. those who argue that a homosexual lifestyle is acceptable from a
Christian perspective (which includes both the qualified and full
acceptance approaches)
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Activity 12.1
(1) Write down any Old or New Testament references (texts) that relate
to the subject of homosexuality.
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(2) If you can supply these references, why do you think this is so? If you
can't, why do you think you do not know about such texts (or can't
remember them)?
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interpretative Before entering into a more detailed discussion of the relevant texts, it is
approaches necessary to note different approaches to the Bible itself. One, more
liberal, approach is exemplified by Robin Scroggs (1983:127) who says:
``Biblical judgements against homosexuality are not relevant to today's
debate.'' In other words, the Bible is not authoritative in the ethical
debate on homosexuality. Liberal approaches to the Bible hold that it was
written by people who were not always inspired by God and whose
historical views and prejudices are reflected in the text. Hence the entire
Bible is not authoritative for our faith or actions. Concerning the Bible,
Suggit (1996:234) says:
In spite of its importance, the evidence of scripture is only one of
the factors involved in determining the Christian attitude to this and
other ethical issues. The wide divergency of methods of interpreting
scripture today should remind us that the Bible was never meant to
be a legal code for Christians as the Koran is for Moslems.
Activity 12.2
Genesis 19:129
Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13
Romans 1:18±32
1 Corinthians 6:9±11
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2 Peter 2:4±10
Jude 1:6±7
(2) What do you think these texts are saying, or not saying, about
homosexuality?
(3) Bearing in mind the contexts of these texts, what is the main message
in each of them?
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In other words, the context of the passage, which deals with sexual
taboos, indicates that it is homosexuality itself that is being condemned.
Further, the word ``detestable'' is not used elsewhere in Leviticus with
cultic overtones.
In Israelite culture the employment of male and female cult prostitutes
was forbidden (Deut 23:17). The technical term for these prostitutes was
the ``dedicated ones'' because their lives were dedicated to the gods and
goddesses of Canaanite and other cultures. This phrase ``dedicated ones''
is translated as sodomite in the authorised version in 1 Kings 14:24,
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ancient world between Assyria and, later, Babylon on the one hand, and
Egypt on the other hand, but homosexuality was well known among the
peoples of Greece and Ionia. Also, in response to the arguments of John
Boswell, Robin Scroggs and others that the New Testament is
responding to the model of pederasty as the only model of homosexual
activity available in the culture in which the early church existed, Marion
Soards (1989:48) refers to research on Greek and Roman attitudes to
homosexuality and quotes:
Homosexuality among the Greeks is well attested by the 5th century
philosophers as a normal and valuable relationship, chiefly
associated with private tuition, and the concepts of friendship.
Commercial exploitation and pederasty especially among older men
and immature boys was disap-proved.
In other words, long before the period of the New Testament, the Greeks
clearly distinguished between pederasty (usually enforced sex between
older men and young boys) and homosexual relationships between
``consenting adults''. Soards (1989:50) also quotes the alleged intimacy
between Julius Caesar and king Nicodemes and concludes his discussion
of homosexuality in the Roman period by saying:
I have quoted these reports at length to show that Romans knew and
had clear disdain for forms of homosexuality other than pederasty.
Julius Caesar and king Nicodemes were, in modern parlance, two
consenting adults, and their behaviour was scandalous and roundly
ridiculed.
Those who have argued that Paul was not referring to homosexual
orientation in Romans 1 but to pederasty fail, says Grenz (1990:205), to
understand the development of Paul's indictment of the pagan world in
this passage:
It is highly improbable that the apostle had in mind the life history
of a certain group of his contemporaries who had moved from
heterosexuality to homosexuality. Rather, its purpose was to offer a
corporate indictment of pagan society. The story he narrated was
that of humankind; he offered a general sweep of the corporate
downward spiral into an ever deeper pit of sin. Humankind had
distorted even the basic sexual identity which had been given in
God's created order as indicated in the Genesis story.
However, others would argue that Paul saw homosexual acts as one of
the many indications of the alienated condition of non-Jews, who,
according to Paul, have consciously rejected the truth of God. Thatcher
(1993:19) says:
Paul's condemnation of male homosexual acts in Romans belongs
to a wider judgment about Gentile culture with its surprising
conclusion that no one can condemn anyone for anything, since all
are equally guilty, and in Christ all are equally saved.
1 Corinthians 6 What, then, about the important text in 1 Corinthians 6:9±11? The text
reads as follows:
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of
God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral [pornoi]
nor idolaters nor adulterers [moichoi] nor male prostitutes
[malakoi] nor homosexual offenders [arsenokoitai] nor thieves
nor the greedy ... will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what
some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you
were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit
of our God.
With reference to this passage, Suggit argues that the words traditionally
translated to refer to homosexual behaviour, namely malakoi and
arsenokoitai refer quite possibly to masturbation and male prostitutes
and not to an inbuilt homosexual orientation.
Greenlee, however, argues that arsenokoitai refers to a man who goes to
bed with a male for sexual purposes (literally the word means a male-bed
person). The basic meaning of malakoi is ``soft''. It could also mean
effeminate or is sometimes translated catamite which refers to men or
boys who are misused sexually. These conflicting interpretations reveal
not only the technicalities of the debate, but the basic disagreement
between the two groups of commentators. Thomas Schmidt (1996:293)
has reached this conclusion:
Recent revisionist attempts to render the bible neutral or positive
towards homosexual practice fail to withstand close scrutiny. The
biblical basis for sexual morality is the affirmation of marital union
in Genesis, and it is for this reason that the New Testament links
same-sex relations to adultery.
church tradition In addition to the biblical evidence discussed above, the tradition of the
church over 20 centuries is also a point of debate. It is clear that the
overwhelming testimony of the church's tradition is opposed to the
practice of homosexual orientation. However, some commentators have
argued that the overwhelming weight of church tradition was also
previously opposed to the ordination of women but, in many churches,
this is no longer the case. This means that the weight of church tradition
cannot constitute an argument in itself. It is debatable, though, whether
this is a valid argument. This is because, in relation to the ordination of
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Activity 12.3
(1) Who do you think would win if a gay person was to take the church to
court because they felt the church discriminated against him or her?
(4) Does the church hold that homosexuals ought to be denied their civil
rights (such as a right to life, access to healthcare and the economy)
or does it reject their sexual lifestyle?
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Jesus did not condemn homosexual practices, but equally he never said
anything in favour of homosexuality. In his comments about marriage
and sexuality, however, he refers only to male and female (Matt 19:4±6).
As indicated above, one of the ethical issues related to homosexuality is
that of whether there are boundaries to human sexual expression. Those
who argue that homosexual acts are wrong hold that genital sexual
activity ought only to occur within a monogamous heterosexual
marriage. It then follows that homosexual behaviour as well as
premarital, non-marital and extramarital sexual behaviour are all
ethically unacceptable. Commentators who argue thus also argue against
promiscuity: they argue that it cannot be denied that homosexual
behaviour is commonly casual and promiscuous and that only
infrequently does it consist of anything like a permanent relationship
(Keysor 1979:88).
While there are instances of stable homosexual relationships, particularly
with lesbian couples, male homosexual relationships tend to be
promiscuous:
The research of Bell and Weinberg (1978), for example, indicated
that only 17 percent of white homosexual males had had fewer than
50 partners, while 28 percent reported having had 1 000 or more
partners. A 1982 study indicated that the median number of life
time sexual partners for a group who had contracted AIDS was 110
with a few men reporting as many as 20 000 (Grenz 1990:213).
ministry, his marriage, his divorce, and his open declaration of himself as
a homosexual. Mel White explains how he attempted to suppress his
sexuality in order to please God, family and church. His attempt to
conform to expectations led to an unsatisfying marriage, shallow
friendships, and an obsessive and unhappy spirituality. White tells how,
once he accepted his homosexual orientation, he was free from these
earlier struggles and is now involved as a Christian counsellor and leader
of a large gay church in Texas.
counselling homo- In a discussion of the varying approaches adopted by psychologists,
sexuals psychiatrists and counsellors, Joe Dallas has outlined two basic
approaches to the counselling of homosexuals. On the one hand, there
is the following view:
Homosexuality should be considered a normal variation of human
sexual expression with no taint of pathology or sin; homosexuality
is immutable, therefore attempts to change it are in vain; and
therapists who assist patients wishing to change from homosexual
to heterosexual expression are actually harming their patients
(Dallas 1996:369).
Activity 12.4
You will have noted that a variety of views are presented in study units 11
and 12. It is necessary for you to be able to clearly and correctly state the
various views, as well as to be able to state and defend your own conclusions.
(1) Having read through the discussion in this study unit, write a few
paragraphs outlining which of the arguments about the Bible and
homosexuality you accept, and why.
(2) What, in your view, are the key ethical and pastoral issues facing the
church with respect to homosexuality?
(3) Imagine yourself as a parent or youth group leader and describe how
you would respond to a young girl or boy who comes to you and says ``I
think I am a homosexual, what must I do?''.
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In conclusion, I hope that study units 11 and 12 have revealed not only
the complexity of the debate on homosexuality, but also the ethical and
pastoral implications of homosexual orientation and behaviour. Like
other contemporary controversial ethical issues, it is likely to engage the
attention of the church more and more in the years that lie ahead.
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STUDY UNIT 13
Activity 13.1
(2) What would you guess the figures/statistics for rape and battering in
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South Africa are? If you have no idea of the figures, why do you think
this is the case?
(3) Have you personally, or has someone close to you, experienced these
forms of sexual and physical abuse? If so, how has this affected your
life?
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13.2 RAPE
what is rape? Rape can be defined as the forced penetration of the penis or any other
object into the vagina, mouth or anus against the will of the victim. Rape
is very clearly a sexual and physical act. But it is also an instance of
emotional abuse and has a lot to do with power. Months, even years after
recovering from the physical damage of penetration, rape victims suffer
from the emotional violation that has occurred. Rape occurs both within
families and in society generally. In most cases the rapists are husbands,
fathers, brothers, relatives and family friends. The ``closeness'' of the
perpetrators adds significantly to the emotional burden suffered by the
victims.
men, to the State, to the health sector and to the church (Ackermann
1996:149).
domestic In her article entitled `` `For such a thing is not done in Israel': violence
violence against women'', Denise Ackermann has argued that whereas domestic
affects all violence cuts across all racial, cultural, and social barriers,
... recorded victims of rape are concentrated among the poor and
disadvantaged women and the children of South Africa (HRW/A
1995:52). While acknowledging that all women are potential rape
victims, poor women in this country are more vulnerable to rape
than are those coming from the privileged classes. This is not
surprising, as poor women do not have private transportation, need
to walk long distances and live in areas plagued by crime,
gangsterism, overcrowding, poverty, and, in order to work, are often
required to leave and return home in the dark (Ackermann
1996:149).
to hide, to die. And she regretted going to the police. This story is
not untypical. While policemen are sometimes sensitive to women
victims of assault, there are too many incidents like this, or
variations of it, happening daily. Some women have had to wait up
to fourteen hours in a charge office before being able to see a
district surgeon.
Stories like these illustrate the extent of the problem. In response to this
situation, the Johannesburg police formed the Domestic Violence, Child
Protection and Sexual Offences Unit which is the first unit to deal solely
with rape and battery in a family context. However, in charge offices all
over the country, insufficient numbers of men and women in the police
have been trained to deal with rape cases. Even though an amount of
conscientisation is taking place as a result of public lobbying, and certain
task groups have been set up to train men and women in the police, in
most cases this training is still not available.
In addition to the fact that so few rapes are actually reported to the
police, possibly because women believe that rape and sexual violence
against women are not taken seriously by the police and criminal justice
system, there are other difficulties in finding persons guilty of rape.
Police often find that women who have been raped and have charged
their husbands (or another man) with the rape, later withdraw the
charges. This makes it extremely difficult for police to proceed with the
case.
sentences for rape In response to a recent case in which six young men gang-raped a five
months' pregnant woman and murdered her two-year-old son, a public
outcry erupted because the perpetrators were given sentences of only 10
years each for the rape to run concurrently with the other sentences. In
response to this incident and other instances of inconsistent judgments
with regard to rape, Justice Minister Dullah Omar said:
``In matters of violent crime, especially against women, the courts
must be giving sentences that will act as deterrents to other
offenders or potential offenders.'' Dullah Omar went on to say that
he is about to submit controversial legislation to the next
parliamentary session with regard to sexual offences. ``We must
ensure the courts act decisively and effectively against rape and
other violence against women'' he said (Saturday Star, 23
November 1996:1).
for the high incidence of rape. The reasons identified included the
following (Saturday Star, 25 January 1997:13):
(1) power relations and the emasculation of men who ``as a means of
compensating for the lack of power, engage in violent acts''
(2) the culture of violence and lawlessness which is part of South
African society
(3) the failure of the criminal justice system to deal effectively with
sexual crimes
(4) poor socio-economic conditions
(5) difficulties related to a society in the state of transition
(6) sexist values
low self-esteem It has also been found by researchers that rapists were often themselves
victims of physical or sexual abuse, usually dating back to their
childhood. Many rapists have extremely low self-esteem and they seek to
boost their self-esteem through perpetrating violence upon other people.
They have a need to feel powerful and they believe in sex role
stereotypes: that men have to be masculine, tough, self-sufficient, in
charge and able to perform sexually. They think that women are
possessions to be controlled, beaten and forced into submission and sex.
Pornography reinforces this image and is linked to violent sexual
behaviour (Towards a theology of sexuality 1993:24).
entitlement In addition to all these reasons, the researchers argued that an additional
factor has come to light as a result of their research: ``that of feeling
entitled to instant gratification and release of sexual energies. To this
end, the bodies of women and children are frequently used in a callous
and careless way'' (Towards a theology of sexuality 1993:24).
Furthermore, these brutal acts of violence, based on a false under-
standing of ``entitlement'', are often imitated and repeated by children
who have witnessed them. This means that we are creating a culture of
sexual violence. This violence is even more horrifying in that it is most
often perpetuated by persons known to the victim:
Claims that rape is a crime of passion, that all rapists are insane and
rape occurs only between strangers in dark alleys, are just some of
the misconceptions held by policemen, magistrates and people in
general ... The myth that rapes occur only in dark alleys between
strangers is particularly untrue in South Africa, where an estimated
60% of all rapes occur in the form of marital, date or acquaintance
rape (Saturday Star, 25 January 1997:13).
vigil. His explanation was that he felt like sex and his wife was not
available so he was, therefore, entitled to his daughter. This lack of
impulse control is horrifying in its baseness and in the fact that it is
happening every day to countless women and children (Saturday
Star, 25 January 1997:13).
boredom and Therapists point out that young perpetrators engage in sexual acts as well
experimentation as in drug experimentation as a result of boredom. In the absence of adult
after-school supervision and recreational or sporting activities, many
young people turned to sex:
Commonly, adolescent boys flippantly explain why they rape their
sisters, cousins or brothers as simply because they wanted to see
what sex was like. The fact that their victims are eight or six years
old does not appear to be problematic for them ... There appears to
be an inability or unwillingness to set limits on their own behaviour
and take responsibility for their own actions by selfishly gratifying
their needs and not respecting the rights and needs of the other
(Saturday Star, 25 January 1997:13).
social causes In response to this question of why some are violent towards others,
some commentators emphasise the general social conditions in which
people live. According to explanations, it is the system that causes
violence. To some extent this is a valid argument since in South Africa,
for example, a long history of violence has led to enormous social
dislocation and this is reflected in the many incidents of violence which
occur in our country.
human sin However, one must avoid a purely behaviourist argument since it
suggests that human agents are not responsible for the violent acts which
they commit. Therefore, from a theological perspective, one must always
emphasise the fact that human beings are held responsible, by God, for
whatever actions they commit. Thus, whilst sociological explanations
must be taken into account, guilt and human responsibility must not be
ignored. Perpetrators, says Ackermann, decide to act violently:
We find it easier to talk about changing circumstances than to
address the equally fundamental need to change our attitudes and
our behaviour. It is simpler to appeal to the might of the State for
more stringent law enforcement and more punitive measures by the
courts than to examine our own hearts and our own proclivities to
violence. The recognition that people make choices demands one
takes seriously both the will to violence as well as how we choose
to respond to violence. The question of agency, of choice, is
extremely important in the search for an appropriate theological and
pastoral response to violence (Ackermann 1996:148).
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Activity 13.2
(2) Identify how and where this story illustrates the following typical
points about rape:
Trible says concerning Amnon: ``[Tamar] was never his temptation. His
evil was his own lust, and from it others needed protection'' (Trible
1984:56).
After the rape, Tamar is told to keep quiet. King David colluded with
Amnon through his silence. He did not want to face the consequences of
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confronting his heir. His own interests and the norms of the patriarchal
society prevailed over justice and compassion.
Absalom was so angry with Amnon that he later killed him. His wish for
revenge was fulfilled but Tamar remained desolate and devalued. She
was forgotten in the battle between the men. Poling (1991:158)
comments:
Revenge is much easier to indulge than sharing the pain of the
sexual violence with the victim. In order to be empathetic with a
woman who has been raped, one must imagine being in a
vulnerable position of physical danger. Rather than face that pain,
many men would rather imagine the active murder of the rapist than
the passive position of the victim. The latent message in this story is
that sexual violence against women is not about the humanity of
women but about power between men.
Judges 19 Turning now to the book of Judges, it must be remembered that this book
deals with a period of Israel's history in which there was no central
government and individuals did what they liked. Within this context of
personal and social anarchy we have the story of the unnamed woman in
Judges 19:1±30. Trible (1984:65) says:
The betrayal, rape, torture, murder, and dismemberment of an
unnamed woman is the story we wanted to forget but are
commanded to speak. It depicts the horrors of male power,
brutality, and triumphalism; of female helplessness, abuse, and
annihilation. To hear the story is to inhabit a world of unrelenting
terror that refuses to let us pass on the other side.
This story plays out in the town of Gibeah. We are told that evil, base
men of the city demanded of the master of the house that their guest be
brought out so that they may ``know'' him, in other words sexually abuse
him. The householder offered both his virgin daughter and the unnamed
concubine to the men. When they would not listen to him, he seized the
concubine and put her outside the house. We are told that the whole
group of men ``abused her all night until the morning''. The next day this
abused woman fell down at the door of the man's house. The
concubine's master then took her home where he dismembered her
and sent each of the12 pieces into the different territories of Israel. The
narrator of the story then comments:
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And all who saw it said: ``Such a thing has never happened or has
been seen from the day that the people of Israel came up out of the
land of Egypt until this day: consider, take counsel, and speak''
(Judges 19:30).
In the two following chapters of the book of Judges this initial deed of
violence is multiplied over and over again as the various men involved in
the conflict take revenge not simply upon each other but upon the
innocent women within their areas.
Commenting on the treatment meted out to this unnamed woman, Trible
(1984:81) states:
Of all the characters in scripture, she is the least. Appearing at the
beginning and close of a story that rapes her, she is alone in the
world of men. Neither the other characters nor the narrator
recognises her humanity. She is property, object, tool, and literary
device. Without name, speech, or power, she has no friends to aid
her in life or mourn her in death. Passing her back and forth among
themselves, the men of Israel have obliterated her totally. Captured,
betrayed, raped, tortured, murdered, dismembered, and scattered Ð
this woman is the most sinned against.
Trible also points out that this deed committed in Gibeah is commented
on by the prophet Hosea:
They have deeply corrupted themselves as in the days of Gibeah.
God will remember their iniquity; God will punish their sins (Hosea
9:9).
What is striking about these passages is the fact that they clearly deal
with the issue of rape whereas, in many instances, modern churches
completely avoid the subject. Those who attend church on a regular basis
can testify to the relatively small number of sermons, if any, that they
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have heard that deal with matters such as rape and battering or sexual,
emotional and verbal abuse.
13.6 BATTERING
what is Battering can be defined as the physical, verbal, or emotional assault
battering? within the home by family members. Although husbands, wives and
children can be victims of battering, the most common form of battering
is wife or partner battering.
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Activity 13.3
ILLUSTRATION 13.1
(2) What is this picture saying about the husband and about the wife?
(3) Is the anger of the husband justifiable? Who has power in this
picture?
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Activity 13.4
Read this article entitled ``Nhlapo's call draws more criticism than praise''.
With reference to the phrase ``There is just so much a husband can take'',
answer these questions:
(1) Can you think of any reason that would justify abuse?
Activity 13.5
(1) Have you attended church services or Bible studies where the subject
of the sermon or theme was rape or battery? Many, some or none?
Why do you think this is so?
(5) Consider the following illustration. What is it saying about the church's
attitudes to violence against women? How effective is the church in
dealing with this abuse?
ILLUSTRATION 13.2
recognition and Christians need to ask themselves, quite simply, whether we practise
action what we preach. We would be deceiving ourselves if we believed that
battering is not occurring in the church. It is. Therefore we need to put
our own house in order by identifying and eradicating this abusive and
sinful practice among church members. This will require courage,
confrontation, effort, wisdom and commitment.
A second step would then be to harness the compassion, energy and
insight of church members called to be witnesses and workers for the
gospel in this area of ministry. If we do not take active steps such as
these, we are revealing our acceptance of the evil of battering and our
unwillingness to confront abusive situations within marriage. Conse-
quently, all our preaching about the purpose of marriage (eg as contained
in study units 9 and 10) not only will be meaningless but also a
deliberate deception.
naming In dealing with battering, the most important step is that of naming, that
is when the abuse that is occurring is actually named and brought out
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into the open. Christian counsellors who are faced with people coming to
them as a result of battering need to be prepared to make referrals to
properly qualified people. It is particularly important to ensure the safety
of the woman and children involved. The issue of accountability is also a
very important one, whereby the perpetrators need to admit their
responsibility for their actions. Only once these steps have been taken, is
it possible for a process to be initiated whereby possible healing and
restoration can occur within a family that has experienced physical or
sexual abuse.
Consider the following illustration of the ``Cycle of violence''. What are
the steps in this cycle?
ILLUSTRATION 13.3
The cycle of violence
The first stage of the cycle is accusation and the building up of anger.
The second stage is violence. The third stage is that of apology and
promises. The fourth stage is the ``honeymoon'' stage. Once the fourth
stage has run its course, the accusations of the first stage will begin
again.
Now read the following story:
Sylvia and Archie have been married for 12 years. They have three
children. Sylvia was very much in love with Archie when they married. He
was so strong, and although there were a few problems, he said he loved
her too. He insisted that she stop working once their first child was born.
``He was insistent, he said that women shouldn't work, they must take care
of the husband and children.'' Sylvia stopped working, Archie was pleased
for a while, but Sylvia was lonely.
Archie didn't want her to spend time with friends or family. He always
suspected her of having affairs and phoned home all the time to check
that she was there. Sylvia gradually lost touch with her friends, and her
family stopped visiting because of the trouble it caused. Archie also
seemed jealous of the child.
He started coming home late, never giving an explanation. ``He got very
angry when I asked him where he had been. He would tell me it's because
I was a bad wife that he doesn't come home. He hit me for the first time
after coming home late. Before that he would just shout, and throw things
at me. Once he grabbed me by the hair. But this time he hit me hard. I was
so shocked. I just froze up Ð I was so humiliated and hurt.''
Archie said he was sorry and things got better for a while. Archie said that
Sylvia made him very angry when she tried to stop him from going out.
Sylvia tried hard to be a good wife, she promised to try harder. Sylvia told
no-one what was happening. She was embarrassed, and anyway she had
no-one to talk to.
Things were different for Sylvia after that. She still loved Archie, and
hoped that things would get better. Archie was working but gave Sylvia
very little to take care of the house and buy food. ``My first child was
starting school Ð she needed books and a uniform, but I didn't have any
money. Archie said that I spend too much, that he works hard for me and I
don't respect him. This time he hit me badly. He always says he won't do it
again Ð that I must change, be a better wife. It gets better for a while, but
then things get worse. He finds fault in everything I do, he tells me I am
useless and that I'm a bad wife. Everything gets blamed on me ... I am so
tired.''
``I did go to the police once and laid a charge, but Archie said he was
sorry. He begged me to drop the charge. How can I send the father of my
children to jail? And what will happen to me if he is in jail? I have no
money, and I haven't worked in a long time Ð jobs are hard to find these
days. So I dropped the charge. The policeman said that I shouldn't go
back to them Ð that I am wasting their time. Now I just sit at home and
wait for Archie to come home. I wonder: what will he find wrong tonight?
Will he lock me out of the house again, or hit me? Or will he be his old
self Ð funny and caring? I am seeing less and less of this side of Archie. I
just don't know what to do Ð how can I break up my family, what will I do
with no money and no place to stay Ð with three children in school?''
Source: Brimohanlall in Pillemer and Shackleton (1999:108).
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Activity 13.6
Using illustration 13.3 and the story you have just read, answer these
questions:
(1) Why did Archie encourage Sylvia to stop work? How did this affect
the balance of power in the relationship?
(2) What were the consequences for her when she stopped work?
(4) List all the things you see as problems in this relationship.
(6) What practical steps could be taken to help Sylvia and Archie?
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Why did Archie want Sylvia to stop work? It appears that he wanted to
isolate her from friends and family. Without the support of friends and
family and without work she is very vulnerable and it is easy for him to
control her life. It is very hard for Sylvia to get help.
Sylvia seems to still have some feelings for Archie. She may feel sorry
for him and, at first, she kept hoping that he would change. She may
have come to believe that she is worthless as he keeps telling her she is.
She is reluctant to break up the family. There are also economic reasons
why she stays. She has not worked for a long time and is worried about
getting a job. She has no place to go and does not know how she will
care for the children. She was also embarrassed and ashamed about the
abuse and may be afraid that she will be blamed for the failure of the
marriage. Sylvia does not seem to have strong religious or cultural
beliefs that prevent her from leaving Ð but some women do Ð and this
makes it even more difficult for them to leave.
Reading this study unit may have made you feel angry or depressed. You
may have experienced other feelings also. Often, people feel that there is
nothing that can be done. This, however, is not true. (You are advised to
read the books mentioned in this study unit to broaden your
understanding of the problems and possible solutions to rape and
battering. Another text you will find in the bibliography is a recent MTh
dissertation by CB Jansen.) But, before embarking on a fuller theological
analysis of what can be done, we will now move on to the subject of
child abuse (study unit 14). At the end of study unit 14, we will return to
the issue of what can be done to deal effectively with all three matters
raised in study units 13 and 14, namely rape, battering and child abuse.
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STUDY UNIT 14
Child abuse
OUTCOMES
The outcomes of this study unit are very similar to the previous one.
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. give a description of child abuse and some basic facts
. identify key issues of relevance to the exposure, criticism and
removal of this evil from our churches and from society
. make links between patriarchy, the abuse of power and child abuse
. give some ethical and practical guidelines that can help the church
to deal compassionately and effectively with the issue of child
abuse
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Activity 14.1
A stolen childhood
Of all the tragedies that make up the quilt of everyday life, perhaps
none is more poignant than that of children selling their young bodies
for sex.
Mature and hardened long before their time, they never get to enjoy
innocence and wonder Ð the true gifts of youth.
Over the past few weeks, we have carried a number of articles about
child prostitution and how it is a growing cancer within our society.
This week, we reveal that, horrifyingly, 40% of the estimated 10 000
prostitutes on the streets of Johannesburg are children under the age
of 18. The average age of child hookers is 14, with some as young as
7 being forced onto the streets by their families, or sold to pimps.
It is a national disgrace that so many of those who should be the
future of our nation Ð our children Ð have already sold their souls
and been lost to us.
It is true that many of these children are forced by economic
necessity to take to the streets to earn money to help their families
survive. The grinding poverty which makes prostitution the only way
out for many is something that the government, business and society
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(3) Is it true that ``if we do nothing, we are complicit in the ongoing rape''?
(4) What four practical steps can you suggest which, if taken, would begin
to put right this terrible wrong?
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ILLUSTRATION 14.1
Child labour. The appalling labour conditions of this young boy Ð
stripped naked and digging coal down a mine shaft Ð and others like
him, drove thousands of British men to join the Chartist movement in
1838 to campaign for political reform. At the time, workers were
excluded from any participation in government, and the first requisite of
a seat in parliament was wealth.
ILLUSTRATION 14.2
Emotional and sexual abuse
Activity 14.2
Examine the following pictures closely. Note how the children have deliberately or unconsciously
indicated the truth of their situations.
ILLUSTRATION 14.3
(2) Are the adults listening and responding in appropriate ways? Why?
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You will have noticed that it is not always easy to interpret what these
children are saying, which makes it all the more important for parents,
teachers, Sunday school teachers and friends of the family to be aware of
what is going on around them. It is our responsibility to protect children
from the abuse of power by using our power wisely and effectively.
sexual abuse When sexual abuse occurs within the family, the term normally used to
describe it is incest. There are several passages in the Bible where incest
is condemned in the strongest possible terms. As mentioned earlier in
this study guide, the whole of Leviticus 18 deals with unlawful sexual
relations. In particular, Leviticus 18:9 and 17 deal with incestuous sexual
relationships with minors. Some of the strongest words of judgment
recorded by Jesus have to do with punishments of people who harm little
children. Thus, Matthew 18:6, Mark 9:42 and Luke 17:1±2 can be
mentioned. As the Lukan passage puts it:
Jesus said to his disciples: ``Things that cause people to sin are
bound to come, but woe to that person through whom they come. It
would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a millstone
tied around his neck than for him to cause one of these little ones to
sin. So watch yourselves'' (Luke 17:1±3).
(1) What is the relationship between the child and the molester? The
closer the molester is to the child and the family unit, the greater the
trauma.
(2) How many times did the sexual assault occur? The greater the
number, the greater the trauma. A single assault seems to be easier
for a child to deal with than multiple assaults over a long period.
(3) How much force or violence was used on the child during the
assault? Again, the more violent the attack, the greater the child's
emotional reaction to the assault.
(4) Was emotional abuse Ð especially shame, guilt or embarrass-
ment Ð used as a tactic to sexually assault the child? The answer to
this question is almost always yes, and this results in greater
emotional reactions and long-term effects on the child (Wood &
Hatton 1988:269).
While men are most often the perpetrators of sexual abuse, it is true that
women, while less often themselves the perpetrators, do maintain a
culture of silence and thereby acquiesce in situations of abuse. Therefore,
certain mothers will not speak out against their fathers, brothers,
husbands or boyfriends when such persons are sexually abusing even
their own children. This is often because these women fear the
repercussions, both for themselves and their families, if they speak out.
The emotional alienation that results within these families is enormous,
because abused children soon realise that they can turn to neither their
mother nor father for protection, especially when it is their own father
who is abusing them and their own mother who is remaining silent.
A disturbing fact that has surfaced in research regarding child abuse is
that, after alcohol or drug addiction in the father, the most likely
predictor of abuse is conservative religiosity, accompanied by parental
belief in traditional male-female role stereotypes. As Heggen (1993:73)
puts it:
If you want to know which children are most likely to be sexually
abused by their father, the second most significant clue is whether
or not the parents belong to a conservative religious group with
traditional role beliefs and rigid sexual attitudes.
which are reported to them. Not only the courts, but also the Department
of Welfare and social workers, are inundated with cases.
In 1997 The National Council for Child and Family Welfare reported that
12 children are raped every hour in South Africa Ð one child every five
minutes. Since 1993, reports of child abuse have increased 108 percent.
In 1996, 20 333 sexual crimes and 8 626 assault-related crimes against
children were reported to the CPU (Child Protection Unit), including
rape, sodomy, incest, indecent assault, sexual offences, attempted
murder, abduction, kidnapping and public indecency (Buckenham
1999:30).
the law court As a result of this huge caseload, social workers, police and court
officials were not able to deal adequately with the problem of child
sexual abuse (Saturday Star, 23 November 1996:3). According to ElzabeÂ
Durr Fitschen, a court social worker in Cape Town,
Although these courts were more child friendly Ð cases were
handled more efficiently, there were more convictions and they
rendered a better co-ordinated service to the victims of abuse Ð
they were buckling under the pressure of heavy case loads
(Saturday Star, 23 November 1996:3).
courts where child sexual abuse cases were heard, prosecutors only
had time to consult with the children minutes before the appearance.
Prosecutors and magistrates were not trained to deal sensitively
with children. They were not aware that children often did not
remember chronological events (Saturday Star, 23 November
1996:3).
More specifically, with regard to sexual feelings and relations, they may
have learnt one or more of the following ``life scripts'' (deep messages
that control their thoughts and actions) from their abuser and their
experience of abuse. This is how an adult survivor of childhood abuse
may feel:
A person like me ...
. has indecent sexuality
. has a disgusting body
. has abnormal sexuality
. has dead sexuality
. has uncontrollable sexuality
. doesn't care who I have sex with
. doesn't know what acceptable sexual conduct is
. isn't allowed to say no to sex
. isn't allowed to share my sexual needs with my partner
. is different to other people
. is bad if I enjoy sex
. doesn't know whether I am homosexual or not
(5) anger
(6) denial
(7) confusion
(8) depression
(9) helplessness
(10) self-mutilation
(11) shame
(12) guilt
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Activity 14.2
Imagine someone who had been abused as a child comes to you and asks,
``Why has God allowed this to happen to me?''
(4) Are there any biblical passages you could use to help illustrate your
answer? You may wish to consult the next section if you struggle to
answer this question. Refer also to texts mentioned in 14.1 above.
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If this is true of rape, it is even more true of child abuse, since powerful
people, often men, use their social position to dominate and damage
innocent children.
subordination Elizabeth SchuÈssler Fiorenza has given attention to the issue of the
challenged relationship between traditional theological teaching and sexual
violence. She has argued that a number of issues can be raised to
highlight the link between the abuse of women and children and
distorted theological teachings (Fiorenza & Copeland 1994:vii±xxiv).
The first of these relates to the way in which Greek and Roman socio-
cultural politics of subordination were taken up into the teaching and
practices of the Christian church. In a context where certain groups such
as women, children and slaves were traditionally subordinated, the New
Testament, especially a text such as Galatians 3:28, stresses that in Christ
there should no longer be unequal power relations between men and
women; slave and free; Jew and Gentile. Nevertheless, cultural practices
of domination during the 1st century tended to be perpetuated by the
church rather than being challenged by the church, especially from the
2nd century onwards.
It is all too often the case that Eve and, through her, all women are
blamed for the Fall. Thus, texts such as 1 Timothy 2:11±15 and
Ephesians 6:1ff are used to stress that women and children have to be
subordinate to men because it is wrongly argued that it was Eve, rather
than Adam, who was deceived. Consequently, says Fiorenza, victims of
sexual abuse are often made to feel responsible rather than the
perpetrators being made to feel responsible. In this regard we need to
make a distinction between genuine and neurotic (false) guilt. Genuine
guilt ought to be experienced by the abuser Ð but often he or she falsely
blames the abused child. The child then ``takes on'' the guilt of the
abuser and is made to feel that he or she has done something wrong Ð
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This text and other texts like it are part of a ``code'' used to stress the
importance of caring for those who are unprotected and powerless.
Therefore this passage, while it certainly does refer to people who are
literally orphans and widows, also refers to people who are unable to
help themselves and are the victims of abuse or wrongdoing on the part
of others. These passages must, therefore, be understood as emphasising
the importance of care for the poor and powerless, no matter what form
this poverty and lack of power may take in any given historical situation.
Certainly, the stress on ``orphans'' refers to all children who are helpless
or vulnerable.
discover the trans- The third step towards healing is thus for us to discover for ourselves that
forming power of through the transforming power of the Gospel we can be delivered from
the Gospel lives of abuse and victimisation. Through his ministry and crucifixion,
Jesus Christ clearly demonstrated his awareness of human suffering and
his willingness to suffer extreme abuse on our behalf. Through this
vicarious suffering of Christ, we can realise the depth of God's love for
us. If it is true that through Christ we become a new creation (2
Cor 5:17), and Christ has come to give us life abundant (John 10:10),
then there is a way beyond suffering. Christians, whether they
themselves have been victims of sexual violence or not, must be
enabled to resist violence and experience the life-giving effects of the
gospel of Jesus Christ.
This does not mean that the process of rejecting death and choosing life
is an easy one, particularly because people who have suffered as a result
of sexual violence are very often not in a position to insist on their
human rights. Unless the church can begin to deal with this issue and
genuinely preach and practise the saving and liberating message of the
gospel, there is very little possibility of overcoming violence. Through
the power of the Holy Spirit and the compassion of caring people it is
possible for people who have suffered terrible damage to progressively
experience healing. This message of the deep and powerful healing and
liberation that the gospel of Christ offers ought to be upheld and put into
practice by the church, both to offer genuine protection and healing for
victims and to confront perpetrators with their guilt and sin.
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Activity 14.3
(1) What are the three steps that are outlined above?
(2) How can the church and Christians help to break the silence? What
should they be doing?
(3) Give a theological critique of power and its misuse especially in regard
to women and children.
(4) Describe how God's grace can transform and renew a situation Ð spend
some time praying Ð either for a woman or child whom you know who
has been abused or for someone you read about in the newspaper.
This study unit and the previous one have dealt with a number of issues
related to the general theme of sexual violence, particularly rape,
battering and child abuse. They have also dealt extensively with the
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Activity 14.4
(2) In what ways are the responses of the church to rape, battering and
child abuse inadequate? List at least five.
(3) Write down the theological, ethical and practical resources identified
in study units 13 and 14 that you and many others can draw upon in
combating abuse.
(4) Draw up a plan of action, or project proposal, that you could present to
your church Ð or a small group of concerned people Ð that overcomes
the inadequacies identified in your answer to question (2). It should
include an analysis of the problem, an identification of theological-
ethical resources, and at least five practical steps that need to be
taken.
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Once you have completed this activity, you need to share your feelings
and your proposal with someone else to obtain their response. Consult
someone who can help you in this regard. We also need to remember
that, in dealing with this problem of child abuse, practical strategies are
vital to make the implementation of solutions a reality. Equally important
are compassion and moral courage. Compassion enables us to respond
from the heart and ``come alongside'' victims. Moral courage (based on
moral formation and character) gives us the will to expose and actively
resist injustice and the abuse of power.
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STUDY UNIT 15
Aids
OUTCOMES
After working through this study unit, you should be able to:
. explain what AIDS is
. explain how people contract AIDS and what the symptoms of
AIDS are
. give the approximate numbers of people who have already
contracted AIDS
. explain why AIDS has spread so quickly, especially in Africa
. identify what the church can do in response to the AIDS crisis
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Activity 15.1
(3) Can you quote recent statistics for the incidence of AIDS in South
Africa?
white-blood cells of the body and makes it impossible for the body to
defend itself against illness or disease.
bubonic plague Some people have compared AIDS to the bubonic plague that affected
Europe during the Middle Ages, not because the diseases are similar, but
because of the far-reaching effects of both these diseases. In the 14th
century, 25 million people died in Europe. Bubonic plague caused high
fever, delirium and the formation of buboes (painful swellings of the
lymph glands in the groin and armpits) and was extremely infectious. As
a result of this plague (which was spread by bites from infected rat fleas),
many hundreds of thousands of people died (about one-third of the
population of Europe). The people of the Middle Ages were extremely
frightened of contracting the disease and tended to shun anyone who had
the disease for fear of getting it themselves. In certain instances, modern
people who do not have AIDS respond to those who have contracted
AIDS in a similar way to those people of the Middle Ages who feared
contracting the bubonic plague. They avoid them ``like the plague''.
leprosy Another comparable analogy is that of leprosy which was common in the
time of Jesus. Anyone who contracted leprosy was regarded as an
outcast from society and all lepers had to live in separate areas and were
not permitted to mix with other members of the society. In other words,
we need to realise that many people fear the disease AIDS and because
they do not wish to contract the disease themselves, they tend to shun
other people who have the disease, even if the chances of them
contracting the disease are small. Many have argued that modern-day
Christians, if they are to follow the example of Jesus, ought to care for
AIDS sufferers in a similar way to that in which Jesus cared for the
lepers of his day.
Stage 4: AIDS is now full blown. Serious illnesses take hold, for
example tuberculosis, pneumonia, cancer, brain damage
(Kretzschmar & Richards 1996:160).
AIDS is a fatal disease. Although there are now medicines on the market
that can slow down the rate at which the disease spreads or limit its
contraction (eg by women who have been raped or foetuses whose
mothers have AIDS), there is (at the time of writing) no treatment or
medicine available that can actually cure AIDS.
This means that once one has contracted the HIV virus, there is no cure.
Nor can one be vaccinated against getting AIDS in the same way one can
be vaccinated against polio. Even though medical researchers all over the
world are attempting to find either a cure or a vaccine for AIDS, neither
of these is available at present. This means that once the disease is
contracted, one will get ill over a period and eventually die.
how the disease It is also important to remember, as indicated above in the various stages
spreads of AIDS, that a person who has been infected with the AIDS virus may
spread the virus to other people with whom he or she has sexual contact,
even unknowingly. This is because the disease is not immediately
detectable and people only begin to get the symptoms of illness once the
illness is already in an advanced stage. This means that people who are
already infected may not look ill in any way.
It is also important to remember that AIDS is not a homosexual disease.
It is true that AIDS was first properly identified in male homosexual
communities in the United States, but AIDS is not restricted to
homosexual persons. As indicated elsewhere in this study unit, AIDS is
spread in Africa mainly through heterosexual rather than homosexual
contact. Also, people could contract AIDS through a variety of other
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Study illustration 15.1. What does it say about the connection between
gender and AIDS?
ILLUSTRATION 15.1
Custom and religion may deny women the right to insist on safe sex
practices Ð even when they know their partners are infected with a
sexually transmitted disease.
how to combat Saayman has argued that in order to solve the problem of AIDS in an
AIDS African context, it is vital to make use of African emphases on
community and not just rely on Western medical information. He uses
the example of the Salvation Army's hospital in Chikankata:
The programme entails home-based care and prevention. Every
patient who is diagnosed as HIV positive (often in antenatal clinics)
or has already developed AIDS in the acute form, is admitted to
home-based care. The whole family is informed about the
consequences of the disease, and counselled by a team of trained
counsellors, who visit members at home. In this way the sexual
contacts of the patients are followed up and, in the community
context, persuaded to go to the hospital for testing. Eventually the
whole community in which the family lives are involved in the
programme of prevention, decision-making and care. The aim of
this programme is to raise community-awareness of the problems
associated with AIDS, and the need for changes in sexual
behaviour. The aim is to empower people to develop a sense of
collective responsibility for dealing with AIDS, and instill the
conviction that something positive can be done about this life-
threatening disease (Villa-Vicencio & de Gruchy 1994:175).
Activity 15.2
ILLUSTRATION 15.2
A young woman with a box full of condoms is having fun on the rocky
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(1) What are some of the problems the condom distributor experienced?
(4) Do you think the churches should support the full campaign or just the
A and B; that is should the church teach abstinence for the unmarried
and faithfulness for the married? Should the churches oppose or
support the distribution of condoms?
(5) Do you have any other suggestions for combating the spread of AIDS?
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Activity 15.3
Shortly after her wedding Thandi inherited two orphaned children from her
sister-in-law who died of AIDS. Now a second sister-in-law is dying of
AIDS and her sickly baby has constant diarrhoea. What bothers Thandi is
the fact that as a trained nurse she is equipped with knowledge that might
help in the situation, but because she has no children of her own, she
dares not open her mouth. If she says there is something wrong with the
baby she will be accused of jealousy. She does not know how to talk
about her fears of cleaning up the infectious faecal matter that has leaked
through the nappies. She keeps quiet. Perhaps she will be the next sister-
in-law to go down in silence in that home.
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(Based on an extract from an article in the Mail & Guardian [August 11±17
2000:28])
their family and community. Louw goes on to say that because AIDS is a
contagious disease, the irrational fear of contracting AIDS by casual
contact makes it difficult for health workers and care providers to
respond to AIDS patients in a normal manner. This means that the
attitude and approach of a health or pastoral worker is very important.
moral issues Thirdly, says Louw, because AIDS is associated with promiscuity and
sexuality, it cannot be treated simply as a medical problem. Even though
some patients do not contract AIDS as a result of sexual contact, the vast
majority do, and so issues such as guilt, sexuality, responsibility and
choice cannot be avoided in the pastoral process.
Louw (1990:43±45) provides the following guidelines to help the pastor
in planning a ministerial strategy for AIDS sufferers:
(1) Be prepared to become involved with the patient as a unique person.
(2) Provide practical help.
(3) Pray with, and for, the person with AIDS.
(4) Encourage hope in the patient.
(5) Minister compassionately and sensitively.
(6) Make contact with the family.
(7) Provide care for the care givers.
(8) Educate the community.
guilt and One important question raised by AIDS is that of guilt and innocence.
innocence Not everyone who has contracted the disease has contracted it as a result
of promiscuous behaviour. So while certain people are certainly in the
high-risk group (eg prostitutes and those people who have a succession
of sexual partners), other people may also contract AIDS. There are
those who contract AIDS as a result of infected blood. There are
innocent spouses who contract AIDS as a result of the sexual
promiscuity of an unfaithful marriage partner. Can one blame the
``innocent'' party? Can it be said that they are guilty or that they have
done something wrong? Children are also innocent victims of this
disease (I return to this point below).
privacy Another issue raised is that of the right of the infected person to privacy.
If, for example, medical doctors discover that a man has contracted
AIDS but his wife has not, should they respect the right of privacy of the
infected husband or should they inform the wife that her husband carries
the HIV virus? If they maintain the right of privacy of the husband, they
are wronging the wife because she will almost certainly contract AIDS at
some stage. Thus, we need to ask what are human rights in relation to the
AIDS crisis.
A number of medical problems related to doctor-patient confidentiality
(or privacy) are raised by AIDS. Thus, Ronald Nicolson (1994:227±244)
asks a number of important questions:
. Should doctors be statutorily required to report individuals who are
sero-positive (infected by the HIV virus)?
. Should those who are found to be HIV-positive at least be forced to
disclose the names of partners to the authorities?
. Do the authorities, once they have identified an individual as HIV-
positive, have a duty themselves to disclose this to any partners?
. Are doctors and other health professionals ethically entitled to refuse
to treat AIDS patients, or to use such stringent precautions that the
quality of care is lowered?
. May babies of sero-positive women be aborted?
. Do health authorities have the right to test the blood of people without
their knowledge or consent?
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Activity 15.4
In the Durban High Court, a woman sued the man who deliberately
infected her with HIV and won her case. Because it was a civil and not a
criminal trial, the law has not changed and it is still not a crime to have
unprotected sex when you know you are HIV positive. Women's
organisations are concerned that such a law would affect women, rather
than the men who infect them, since it is women who most often know
their HIV status Ð because they are tested when pregnant. It is also of
concern that HIV positive women may be prosecuted under such a law for
passing on the infection to their child during pregnancy.
The following people are involved in this case:
an HIV-positive woman
an HIV-positive man
other men
other women
(3) Do you think it should become a crime to have unprotected sex if you
know you are HIV positive?
(4) Women are often not in a position to refuse sex Ð even if they know
they are HIV positive. What could the possible implications of this be?
(6) What attitudes need changing and how could this be done?
(7) Would this kind of scenario mean that a couple has a right to divorce?
(8) Is divorce under these circumstances going against the marriage vows
to remain together in sickness and in health?
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children and AIDS A fifth moral question has to do with the innocent children born within a
family of AIDS sufferers. Children born before their mother contracted
AIDS will obviously not contract the disease. However, if their parents
die as a result of the disease, the children will end up as orphans
dependent on the care of the extended family and, if there is no one to
care for them, they will be cast out on the street. Another tragic result of
AIDS is that some children are abandoned shortly after birth because
both they and their mother have the HIV virus. Orphanages are springing
up in many parts of the world, not least in South Africa, where members
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Activity 15.5
Think about your culture. What are the beliefs of your culture regarding
sex? Would you say any of the following beliefs would fit in your culture?
. One should not talk about sex with one's sexual partner Ð it must just
happen.
. Sex in marriage is part of the deal and should happen whenever the
husband demands it.
. One can exchange sex for material things and money Ð `'gifts for sex''.
(1) Which of these beliefs make it more difficult to stop the spread of
AIDS?
(2) List some alternative beliefs you would like to see regarding the sexual
culture? For example:
This study unit has briefly highlighted some of the key medical facts and
moral issues relevant to AIDS. Are you able to summarise these key
medical facts and their moral implications for yourself?
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Activity 15.6
(1) Imagine you are a school principal, shop steward, employer, pastor or
NGO leader. Using one of these roles, sketch a plan of action to inform
and activate your teachers, learners, workers, members or fellow
citizens.
(2) Explain what steps you would follow and say why you think your solution
is a workable one.
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It is becoming increasingly clear to people all over the world, and not
least in South Africa, that AIDS is a threatening and alarming personal,
family and societal issue. I trust that some of the information included in
this study unit will have helped to equip you to be a resource person in
your church and community.
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STUDY UNIT 16
16.1 SPIRITUALITY
definition of It is important to begin with a definition of what constitutes spirituality
spirituality or, as the term is used in this subsection, holistic spirituality. This is
because there are several definitions of spirituality, some of which are
concerned simply with a privatised and individualistic understanding of
the Christian gospel. Other approaches, however, are broader and more
socially aware:
Christian spirituality has to do with the experience that our human
spirits have of God as Spirit. As we are ``God-breathed'' creatures
(Gen 2:7), we are not complete if we are not in relationship with
God. This spirituality is holistic in the sense that it has to do with
the whole of life. The life of the spirit is inextricably linked to all of
life; it is not lived in a separate compartment. Thus, our experience
of God needs to be lived out in the world which God has created.
Spirituality is not merely inner feelings; it involves how we
experience God and how we integrate this experience with the
attitudes and actions that characterise the rest of our lives
(Kretzschmar 1995b:32±33).
the shadow-self Many classical and contemporary writers on spirituality have spoken of
the need for individuals to face what is often called the ``shadow-self'',
that is the self we ourselves are afraid of and that we do not want others
to know about (see Hudson 1995:59±69). The shadow self is often the
hidden self, the self that has motives, desires and intentions which are
evil. It is a self which we seek to suppress but it manages to influence,
even control, much of what we do precisely because we do not
acknowledge or deal with its power. Sometimes we even think, foolishly,
that God does not know about our ``shadow-selves''.
But if we can find the courage to come to Christ as we actually are,
we can begin to more fully experience the forgiveness, growth,
healing and empowerment that Christ brings to individual persons.
We need to be delivered from our sins, fears, and pain and to
become whole and mature persons (Eph 4:1±32) ... . This means
that we need to investigate, not simply reject, the insights of
psychology. The call of God towards wholeness includes the human
soul's painful journey towards self-discovery and healing
(Kretzschmar 1995b:37).
the three Elsewhere I have discussed the model of the ``three journeys'' that
journeys illustrate the need for a balanced and wide-ranging understanding of the
Christian life (Kretzschmar 1995b:45±54). The three journeys include:
the inner journey, the shared journey and the outer journey. This model is
reflected in illustration 16.1.
The inner journey can be summed up as a ``call to life''. This means that
in our inner journey we seek to develop a greater understanding of God
and move towards a deeper relationship with God. The inner journey
also encompasses the need to develop our relationship with our true
selves and increasingly to deny and overcome our sinful selves. As we
develop a better understanding of ourselves, it is possible also to have a
deeper experience of God. In other words, the inner journey is a call to
life in terms of a deeper understanding of ourselves, an experience of
God being at work in us, drawing us away from our fallen sinful self
towards the true self that God wishes to see expressed in our
personalities and lives.
The shared journey is a ``call to community''. This involves the calling
of Christians to experience genuine and honest fellowship in the church.
Christians often talk about fellowship rather than actually experiencing
it. Fellowship only really takes place when we share our lives with each
other in a deep, open and honest way.
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ILLUSTRATION 16.1
The three journeys
Inner Journey
A call to Life
Towards God
Towards our true selves
Deeper experience of God
Better understanding of ourselves
Outer
Journey
Shared Journey A call to service
Call to Community This is a journey in relation
Christians called to to the world around us.
fellowship in the It involves a broad understanding
church of the mission of the Church
What, you may ask, has this to do with sexuality? As I pointed out
above, an experience of our sexuality involves our self-perception, our
perception of others and our relationships with others, as well as our
relationship with God. If this is so, then it is clear that sexuality is an
inextricable part of who we are. Simultaneously, spirituality has to do
also with our relationship with God, our relationship with ourselves, and
our relationships with others. Unless our own sexuality is experienced in
a constructive and integrated manner, it will have a very detrimental
effect on our spirituality. Conversely, if our spirituality is imbalanced or
dishonest, it will have a negative effect on our sexuality.
It is in the context of our walk with God and each other that we can own
up to the brokenness, pain and damage sin has wrought in our lives.
Sinners who genuinely repent and make restitution can be forgiven.
Those sinned against can experience healing. Sin against God, ourselves
and each other, including sexual sin, can be forgiven if it is
acknowledged and confessed. Through God's grace we can be forgiven
and sent out to ``sin no more''. We can be delivered from the crippling
effects of both sexual guilt or sexual abuse through the salvation offered
by Christ. Nevertheless, our broken lives and relationships cannot be
healed in an instant, but only as we continue to walk according to the
Spirit and not according to our sinful natures. In our sexual experience,
as in any other sphere of life, we are called to be ``Christ-followers'', to
use Trevor Hudson's (1995:15) memorable phrase. Christian faith is not
mere belief; it is to be lived out in all the dimensions of our lives.
Study the following helpful chart which explains what moral agency is.
Morality encompasses both right decisions and good people. The ethics
of ``being'' and ``doing'' cannot be separated.
TABLE 16.1
MORAL AGENCY
Character Decision making
formation and action
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the good person right choice
and the good society and action
moral virtue moral value and
moral obligation
the ethics of being the ethics of doing
Moral vision
Source: Birch & Rasmussen (1989:39)
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At the end of study unit 14, the point was made that, in order for
individuals to be able to act against injustice in an effective and
compassionate way, they require moral courage. (They also require a
clear understanding of both the problems and possible solutions.) But
moral courage needs to be based on moral character, and moral character
does not come into being automatically upon conversion Ð it needs to
be developed and nurtured. In other words, moral formation needs to
take place. Moral virtues, such as goodness and honesty, need to be
cultivated. Moral convictions about what is right and wrong need to be
strengthened. The ability to ``speak the truth in love'' (Eph 4:15) is a
sign of Christian maturity. But how many Christians exhibit a passion for
justice and the moral courage to speak out when it is necessary?
Furthermore, to what degree has love been cultivated and deepened in
our lives and experience? Let us now examine the nature of love.
become slaves to the soul's enemy: lust. This love of self is held in check
by the command to love our neighbour. If we cannot love our neighbour
because of our love of self, then we must restrain our lusts and give to our
neighbour's needs. Your love will then be temperate when you take from
yourself and give to your neighbour.
But what will you do if your own needs are not met? Will you look to God to
meet your needs? God promises that those who seek first the kingdom
and his righteousness will have all things added unto them. God promises
that to those who restrict themselves and give to their neighbour, he will
give whatever is necessary. Seeking first the kingdom means to prefer to
bear the yoke of modesty and restraint rather than allow sin to reign in
your mortal body.
In order to love our neighbour we must see that God is the cause of our
love. How can we have a pure love for our neighbour if we do not love him
in God? And you cannot love your neighbour unless you love God. God
must be loved first in order that we may love our neighbour in God.
3. The Second Degree of Love: Love of God for Self's Sake
... When we live free from trouble we are happy, but in our pride we may
conclude that we are responsible for our security. Then, when we suffer
some calamity, some storm in our lives, we turn to God and ask his help,
calling upon him in times of trouble. This is how we who only love
ourselves first begin to love God. We will begin to love God even if it is for
our own sake. We love God because we have learned that we can do all
things through him, and without him we can do nothing.
4. The Third Degree of Love: Love of God for God's Sake
In the first degree of love we love ourselves for our own sake. In the
second degree of love we love God for our own sake, chiefly because he
has provided for us and rescued us. But if trials and tribulations continue
to come upon us, every time God brings us through, even if our hearts
were made of stone, we will begin to be softened because of the grace of
the Rescuer. Thus, we begin to love God not merely for our own sakes,
but for himself.
In order to arrive at this we must continually go to God with our needs and
pray. In those prayers the grace of God is tasted, and by frequent tasting it
is proved to us how sweet the Lord is. Thus it happens that once God's
sweetness has been tasted, it draws us to the pure love of God more than
our needs compel us to love him. Thus we begin to say, ``We now love
God, not for our necessity, for we ourselves have tasted and know how
sweet the Lord is.''
When we begin to feel this, it will not be hard to fulfil the second
commandment: to love our neighbour. For those who truly love God in this
way also love the things of God. Also, it becomes easier to be obedient in
all of the commands of God. We begin to love God's commands and
embrace them.
This love is pure because it is disinterested (ie not offered in order to
obtain something). It is pure because it is not merely in our words that we
begin to serve, but in our actions. We love because we are loved. We care
for others because Jesus cares for us.
We have obtained this degree when we can say, ``Give praise to the Lord
for he is good, not because he is good to me, but because he is good.''
Thus we truly love God for God's sake and not for our own. The third
degree of love is the love by which God is now loved for his very self.
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5. The Fourth Degree of Love: Love for Self for God's Sake
Blessed are we who experience the fourth degree of love wherein we love
ourselves for God's sake. Such experiences are rare and come only for a
moment. In a manner of speaking, we lose ourselves as though we did not
exist, utterly unconscious of ourselves and emptied of ourselves.
If for even a moment we experience this kind of love, we will then know the
pain of having to return to this world and its obligations as we are recalled
from the state of contemplation. In turning back to ourselves we will feel as
if we are suffering as we return into the mortal state in which we were
called to live.
But during those moments we will be of one mind with God, and our wills
in one accord with God. The prayer, ``Thy will be done,'' will be our prayer
and our delight ...
6. Entering into the First, Second, and Third Degrees of Love
What are the four degrees of love? First, we love ourselves for our own
sake; since we are unspiritual and of the flesh we cannot have an interest
in anything that does not relate to ourselves. When we begin to see that
we cannot subsist by ourselves, we begin to seek God for our own sakes.
This is the second degree of love; we love God, but only for our own
interests. But if we begin to worship and come to God again and again by
meditating, by reading, by prayer, and by obedience, little by little God
becomes known to us through experience. We enter into the sweet
familiarity with God, and by tasting how sweet the Lord is we pass into the
third degree of love so that now we love God, not for our own sake, but for
himself. It should be noted that in this third degree we will stand still for a
very long time.
7. Can We Attain the Fourth Degree of Love?
I am not certain that the fourth degree of love in which we love ourselves
only for the sake of God may be perfectly attained in this life. But, when it
does happen, we will experience the joy of the Lord and be forgetful of
ourselves in a wonderful way. We are, for those moments, one mind and
one spirit with God ...
Still, I do not know if we can attain this degree in this life. We live in a world
of sorrow and tears and we experience the mercy and comfort of God only
in that context. How can we be mindful of mercy when the justice of God
alone will be remembered? Where there is no place for misery or occasion
for pity, surely there can be no feeling of compassion (quoted in Foster &
Smith 1993:51±56).
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Activity 16.1
(1) How did you respond to what Bernard of Clairvaux is saying? Was it
insightful or helpful? Why?
(2) Summarise the four degrees of love in your own words. Which have you
personally experienced?
(3) Read Mark 12:28±34. How does what Jesus says here link up with what
Bernard says?
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(4) What effect would it have on our own characters, our families and our
society if all those who claim to be Christians actually experienced and
exercised the love that Bernard describes?
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It is for this reason that transitory sexual relationships are viewed with
little favour by those concerned with a Christian understanding of human
sexuality. This is because brief sexual encounters do not create
opportunities for the expression of care, respect, responsibility or
knowledge.
love, risk and One must also realise that without risk there can be no love. Essential to
values the enterprise of love is the willingness to take risks and entrust
ourselves to other people in reciprocal relationships. These relationships
will create opportunities for mutual growth, development, enrichment
and joyful companionship (but also open the door to possible rejection
and pain). Nelson (1978:118) speaks of sexual love as follows:
Another way of looking at sexual love is to observe the values
which emerge from it. Such love is self-liberating: it expresses one's
own authentic self-hood and thus releases further potential for
growth. It is other-enriching: it has a genuine concern for the well-
being of the partner. Sexual love is honest; it expresses as truthfully
and as candidly as possible the meaning of the relationship which
actually exists between the partners. It is faithful: such love
expresses the uniqueness of the relationship, yet without crippling
possessiveness. Sexual love is socially responsible, nurturing the
fabric of the larger community to which the lovers belong. It is life-
serving. Always this means the transmission of the power of
newness of life from one lover to the other; sometimes it also means
the procreation of children. Sexual love is joyous; it is exuberant in
its appreciation of love's mystery and life's gift.
``falling'' in love Scott Peck draws a sharp, but helpful, distinction between ``love'' and
``falling in love''. He points out that falling in love is consciously or
unconsciously sexually motivated and it is invariably temporary (Peck
1978:89). He goes on to say that another common misconception about
love is the idea that dependency is love. In response to comments such as
``I cannot live without my husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend'', he
responds by saying that this is evidence of being a parasite and not an
expression of love:
Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only
when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose
to live with each other (Peck 1978:104).
Peck goes on to make the point that love is not simply giving. Love
ought to involve ``judicious giving and judicious withholding''. In other
words, genuine love involves the exercise of judgment, thought, and
decision making (Peck 1978:117). Although love certainly involves
sacrifice, one must examine the type of sacrifice that leads not to the
growth and liberation of oneself or the other person, but the entrapment
or debilitation of oneself or the other person. If one partner (eg a parent
or a spouse) completely sacrifices himself or herself for the supposed
good of the other members of the family, this person will only encourage
the recipients of the sacrifice to become infantile (childish) rather than
mature and responsible members of the family.
Finally, says Peck (1978:124±127), love is not a feeling but an action or
an activity. To put it differently, genuine love involves an act of the will
rather than a dependence on feelings. It is for this reason that genuine
love involves decision, commitment, wisdom and ordinary common
sense.
Frankena continues:
It is necessary to note here that we must distinguish between virtues
and principles of duty like ``We ought to promote the good'' and
``We ought to treat people equally''. A virtue is not a principle of
this kind; it is a disposition, habit, quality, or trait of the person or
soul which an individual either has or seeks to have (Frankena
1973:64).
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cardinal values It has been common in philosophical and ethical discussions to speak of
cardinal virtues by which is meant the main virtues from which other
virtues are derived. According to Plato and other Greek philosophers,
there were four cardinal virtues: wisdom, courage, temperance and
justice.
In Christian thinking, there are traditionally thought to be seven cardinal
virtues: faith, hope and love (theological virtues) and prudence, fortitude,
temperance and justice (so-called human virtues). When speaking of
Christian values in relation to particular persons the stress is on the kind
of person one is rather than a set of abstract rules or principles:
Personal growth presupposes moral development, which is
inseparable from growth in moral awareness and sensitivity towards
others. The agent is seen to be much more than a thinking machine:
she or he is a person who feels, is capable of empathy, exercises
will-power and takes responsibility for actions (McDonald
1995:49).
Even though some forms of Christian ethical theory have not placed a
great deal of emphasis on moral virtue or character formation, the Bible,
and particularly the New Testament, lay special emphasis on such virtues
as ``love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, fidelity, gentleness,
and self-control'' (Gal 5:22). Mark 7:14±15 makes the point that good
acts issue from good persons. Though the recent renewed emphasis on
virtue and character formation in Christian ethics is a welcome one, it
should not lead to a separation or competition between moral norms, on
the one hand, and character formation on the other:
The leading moral virtues often correspond to leading principles
and rules: thus, honesty relates to truth telling, kindness to
benevolence, courage to constancy, integrity in personal and
professional matters to respectful persons and fairmindedness to
justice (McDonald 1995:59).
character and This emphasis on character formation cannot be seen in isolation from
community our existence as members of groups, communities and of society as a
whole. Character formation does not occur in a vacuum. It is for this
reason that scholars such as Stanley Hauerwas discuss the whole issue of
character in relation to the Christian community. Within an African
context, the role of the community in character formation is crucial.
There is an emphasis on the identity of the person being linked to the
community of which that person is a part. Hence the commonly used
phrase umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu, literally ``I am a person through
other people''.
The point here is that the character of a person develops in relation to
that person's association with a particular community of persons. Moral
development and transformation occur in the context of life in the
community. Certainly, in the South African context, character formation
cannot be discussed in isolation from the church, other religious groups,
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In other words, we need not simply ask ``What is right?'' but also ``How
can I become the kind of person who does what is right?''.
This raises the question of whether morality is a matter of living
according to certain principles or whether it consists in the cultivation of
certain dispositions, traits and forms of behaviour. It is difficult to
separate these two understandings. As Frankena (1973:65) puts it,
referring to Kant, ``I am inclined to think that principles without traits are
impotent and traits without principles are blind''. You may want to look
back to the chart in table 16.1 to see the link between moral principles
and moral character.
In this regard, Frankena argues that there are really two main virtues:
benevolence and justice. By benevolence he means an attitude or a
disposition to act with kindness and a willingness to consider the needs
of others. This would include virtues such as love, courage, temperance,
honesty, gratitude and considerateness. By justice, Frankena (1973:65)
means the moral necessity to treat people in a fair and equal manner.
What, then, about moral ideals? The importance of having moral ideals
lies in the fact that an ideal gives someone something for which to aim.
Since human beings are sinners, it is often not possible to act in the way
in which we would wish to act. However, having in mind moral ideals,
particularly when they are related to following the example of a
particular person (such as Jesus Christ) these moral ideals provide both a
goal and a motivation for human persons who are seeking to live in a
moral way.
What types of moral dispositions ought we to cultivate? Following
Frankena's earlier emphasis on benevolence and justice, it follows that it
is necessary for individuals who are seeking to act in a moral way, in
sexual and family matters as well as in other ways, to engage in telling
the truth and keeping promises. Thus, honesty and fidelity are traits that
follow logically from the cardinal virtues already mentioned. This results
in the cultivation of what Frankena calls second-order virtues, including
conscientiousness, moral courage, integrity and goodwill.
In this regard the gifts of insight and discernment are important. These
imply the ability to make correct moral decisions and the ability to make
value judgments that are accurate, consistent and valid. It is not enough
for people simply to act in moral ways; it is also necessary to exercise
moral judgment in assessing the character and actions of other people.
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(All these discussions are based on the assumption that human beings
have a free will and are held responsible for their actions. That is, we are
held accountable for the choices we make in our lives and relationships.)
In conclusion, then, if the type of character formation that is spoken of
above is occurring in our lives, it will have an impact on our sexuality Ð
both affective and genital. In our experience and practice of love in all
our relationships, including specifically sexual relationships, we are
required by God to act in morally defensible ways. True love does not
destroy or harm people; rather it encourages and builds them up into
mature, integrated and caring persons. As our personalities mature and
deepen, so too will our ability to love. If we correctly understand and
pursue genuine love in the context of our faith, our lives will
progressively reflect a holistic spirituality in which our relationships
with ourselves, others and God will be purified and enhanced.
This study unit has sought to show that a discussion of sexual ethics
from a Christian perspective cannot be separated from our spirituality or
from the development of our characters. Nor can it be separated from a
proper understanding of love and relationships.
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Activity 16.2
(1) Write your own summary of spirituality, love and character formation.
In short, this study unit has sought to argue that sexual morality needs to
be discussed in relation to our experience of God and the moral
formation of our own characters. Though many people speak easily
about love, do we really know what we are talking about? This study
unit could also be seen as linking up with earlier study units, such as 3
and 4, which stressed biblical teachings and Christian values.
As said in study unit 4, Christian approaches to sexual ethics are not
seeking to prevent people from experiencing pleasure. But they are
asking what really constitutes pleasure. Christians believe that our bodies
cannot be separated from our souls or our moral conscience. If they are,
damage to all is the result. Hence, sexuality is linked to our relationship
with our own inner being, our human relationships and our relationship
with God.
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STUDY UNIT 17
Concluding comments
I trust that the reading of this study guide has been a journey of self-
discovery for you. Knowledge is not simply something ``out there'': it
needs to be discovered, evaluated and interpreted in relation to our own
patterns of thinking and living. This final activity ought to help you to
ascertain to what extent you have been able to integrate your studies with
your life.
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Activity 17.1
(3) Is there something that you need to put right in your own life?
(5) Look back at the main aims of this module as provided at the outset of
this study guide. Have these aims, in your view, been achieved?
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Glossary
abortion
termination of pregnancy before embryo or foetus is viable;
abortions are classified as spontaneous (natural causes) or as
induced (brought on by deliberate intervention)
acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS)
sexually transmitted disease in which the immune system fails to
protect the individual from other diseases
adolescence
the period from puberty to the attainment of adult growth and
maturity
adultery
sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other
than his or her spouse
amniotic fluid
watery fluid that surrounds a developing embryo/foetus in the
uterus
androgynous
having both masculine and feminine characteristics
asceticism
strict self-denial as a spiritual discipline; involves the disciplined
and absolute avoidance of any form of pleasure, especially sexual
pleasure
asexual
a person who does not have sexual desires
BCE
Before Common Era (alternatively BC, Before Christ)
bestiality
sexual activity between a human being and an animal
bigamy
the crime of marrying a person while still legally married to
someone else
bisexual
a person who is sexually attracted to members of both sexes
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CE
Common Era (alternatively AD from the Latin anno Domini Ð the
year of our Lord Ð after the birth of Christ)
celibacy
abstention from sexual behaviour
child sexual abuse
abuse that occurs when a child is exposed to sexual stimulation
inappropriate for that child's age and psycho-social development
closet homosexual
a homosexual who is not open about his or her homosexuality
conception
union of male sperm and egg of female; also called fertilisation
condom
a rubber or natural-skin sheath that fits over the penis and catches
sperm in its receptacle at ejaculation
contraceptive
a device used to prevent conception, such as a diaphragm or
condom
eunuch
literally a castrated male person, employed in all-female harems in
Oriental cultures and ancient Greece and Rome; figuratively, a
person who has renounced genital sexual activity
erotic
causing sexual feelings or desires
fornication
sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each
other, also termed non-marital or premarital sexual intercourse
fundamentalist
one who adheres to a very strict and literal interpretation of the
Bible
gay homosexual
usually refers to male homosexual
gender role socialisation
the process by which one learns the cultural expectations for the
two genders
gonorrhea
a common sexually transmitted disease
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heterosexual
a person who is sexually attracted to members of the opposite sex
HIV
(human immuno-deficiency virus); the virus that causes AIDS
homophobia
fear of homosexuality
homosexual
a person who is sexually attracted to members of the same sex, or,
who has sexual intercourse with members of the same sex
incest
sexual contact between individuals related genetically or by law,
other than spouses, that is between parents and children, or between
siblings or other close relatives
in vitro fertilisation (IVF)
fertilisation of an egg with sperm in a laboratory glass dish
lesbian
female homosexual
masochism
sexual arousal from being physically or psychologically dominated
by another
masturbation
self-stimulation of the genitals, but also when one person touches
the genitals of another
monogamy
marriage of one man to one woman
obscenity
pictures, written material, or speech that is disgusting to the senses
and offensive to morality or virtue
oral contraceptive
commonly called the pill, this drug preparation, taken by mouth,
contains either estrogen and progesterone or only progesterone.
Oral contraceptives suppress ovulation and make cervical mucus
``hostile'' to sperm cells so that sperm cannot penetrate the mucus;
hence pregnancy is avoided
orgasm
release of sexual tensions; phase of human sexual response cycle
reached when maximum sexual (physical and/or psychological)
stimulation occurs
pornography
sexually arousing written, visual or spoken material
procreation
production of offspring
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promiscuity
unrestricted sexual behaviour; sexual behaviour which is not
restricted or controlled by love, responsibility or a commitment to a
relationship or a moral code
prostitution
the exchange of sexual services for money
puberty
the beginning of the sexual maturation process
rape
oral, anal or vaginal penetration that a person forces on an unwilling
victim (ie without consent)
rhythm method
method of birth control that involves abstaining from sexual
intercourse during the fertile period of the woman's menstrual cycle
sadism
sexual arousal from inflicting pain or humiliation on others
sexual intercourse
coitus; the insertion of the penis into the vagina
sexually transmitted disease (STD)
infection spread mainly by sexual contact
sodomy
a broad term for a variety of sexual acts; sometimes refers to sex
with animals, sometimes to oral and anal sex, and sometimes to sex
between same-sexed individuals
sterility
inability to produce offspring
sterilisation
process by which the male or female reproductive tract is altered so
the individual cannot produce offspring
syphilis
sexual disease caused by the spirochaete Treponema pallidum that
can attack any part of the body but is usually confined to the
genitals; can be fatal if not treated
therapeutic abortions
abortions administered because of special circumstances, such as a
pregnancy that is a threat to the mother's health or the result of a
rape or incestual relationship
transsexualism
a condition in which individuals who feel uncomfortable with their
anatomical sex want to change their sexual anatomy and live as a
member of the opposite sex
transvestism
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