This is not healthy for them also but here we are not discussing them as lead.

We need to understand how we analyse and understand the cunning person’s behaviour
that when he/she says anything to you. You won’t feel any pain agony inside.

ALL you will feel is PITY for them.

And believe me once you start observing this thing that most of the people that we
meet in daily life are like this.

There are less people who want to understand their issues and work on them. And you
are not one of them. That’s the reason you are looking for a way out to this
problem or else you could have started doing the same but you didn’t choose.

That’s what make you a better person than what they are. This is very important
thing to understand- Understand your own worth. If you don’t value what you are and
can’t see what makes you better and different then the rest of the world. How else
you expect people to see it.

I myself have faced many such situations but I never let anything go beyond my SELF
RESPECT. If anyone ( and I mean anyone, any age group ) tries to cross their limits
with their words or actions with me. I make sure the next thing is they know that I
am not the one they can mess around with.

For that you need to talk and face it confidence and courage.

You know you are not wrong then don’t fear it.

Don’t be a victim of PEER Pressure.

Don’t let any negative person take away your peace and happiness.

Last but not least - We meet different kind of people. We can’t please them all.
It’s good to let some of them go.

'm still trying to figure out who the difficult person is? You appear just as
difficult as the guard and you even touch on this in your write up.

If the guard had asked me if that was my child, I would have said "yes, can you see
the resemblance? (Humor approach always lets people's guards down). It sounds to me
that he was just trying to be funny himself, but not insulting. He sits in a room
his entire life by himself. He must think up silly things to say for each car,just
trying to make small talk. You obviously displayed that his sense of humor wasn't
appreciated and it put him on the defensive and made his next move not so
intelligent. We don't know his side of the story, but he might say: "I just said
hello to this lady and then she lost it. I couldn't just let her through as I
figured that whoever I'm here guarding may be in some form of danger if I let
someone through that was this unstable."

Anyway, dealing with difficult people is actually easy.

They're so concentrated on being difficult that they overlook reason.

If you give them nothing to be difficult about, you diffuse them. I was in Madrid
and was pulled out the line by airport security. They asked me several questions
(some in Spanish that I couldn't understand). The questions were in a very angry
tone. I answered as well as I could controlling