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How To Make Anyone Fall in Love With You
How To Make Anyone Fall in Love With You
Make
Anyone
Fall Ill w
ith You
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To fulfill the promise of the title, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You offers 85
techniques based on scientific studies into the nature of romantic love.
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CONTENTS
1 Anyone? Yes, Practically Anyone
1
Science "Discovers" Sex 2
How More Research Was Compiled 4
How the Techniques Were Developed 5
How I Tested the Techniques 7
2 What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements
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What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements
I. First Impressions 9
II. Similar Character, Complementary Needs 10
III. Equity 11
IV. Ego 12
V. Early-Date Gender-Menders 13
VI. Rx for Sex 14
3 The Physical Side of Falling in Love
17
"Why Do My Insides Go All Funny?" 17
"Does Somebody Have to Be Pea-Brained to Fall in Love with Me?" 17
"Why Do We Fall in Love with One Person and Not Another?" 18
"How Can These Little Things Start Love?" 19
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How to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already in Love 68
Get Even Closer by Giving the Gift of Intimacy 70
Make Your Lifestyle "Fit" Your Quarry's Lovemap 71
11 Your First Date
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The Game Begins in Earnest 75
"How Soon Should I Make My Move?" 76
"Playing Hard to Get—Should I, or Shouldn't I?" 77
The Scientifically Proved Best First Date 79
Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies 80
Plant the Seeds of Similarity 82
First-Date Restaurant Smarts 82
Hunters, Some Spit and Polish for Your P's and Q's 84
Huntresses, Forgive His Foibles 85
First-Date Duds 87
"I Haven't Got a Thing to Wear" 87
Part Two: Similar Character, Complementary Needs I Want a Lover Just
Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!
Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!
12 "It's You and Me, Baby, Alone Against This Mad, Mad World"
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Similarity . . . and a Touch of Difference (Just a Touch) 94
13 How to Establish Subconscious Similarity
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How to Instantly Make Your Quarry Feel, "Why, We're Just Alike!" 97
Words to Give Your Quarry "That Family Feeling" 98
"We Even Speak the Same (Body) Language" 101
14 How to Establish Conscious Similarity
105
The Three Crucial Conscious Similarities 105
Let's Talk About Our Relationship—Not! 113
15 How to Establish Complementary Needs
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"I Got Just What You Need, Baby" 117
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Part Three: Ego How Do You Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways
16 The World Revolves Around You, My Quarry
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Ego Massage Is a Highly Skilled Craft 124
17 Step One: Silent Praise
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Step One: Silent Praise
Let Your Body Do the Praising 127
18 Step Two: Empathy
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"I Can Identify with That!" 129
Lovers Share Intimate Details 131
Lovers Have Private Jokes 133
19 Step Three: Admiration
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"Oh Honey, You Did an Absolutely Superb Job Slicing These Mushrooms"
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20 Step Four: The Implied Compliment
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"You're Much Too Young to Remember This, But . . ." 141
The Bull's-Eye Booster: "I Just Love What You Like About Yourself" 142
21 Step Five: The Big Guns
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"You Are the Most Fascinating Person I've Ever Met" 145
"What Does Giving a Killer Compliment Do for Me?" 146
22 Fine-Tuning the Ego Machine
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"Wait a Minute. Does Everybody Like Compliments?" 149
Knee-Jerk Praise: "What You Just Did Was Fabulous" 150
Have the First Laugh 151
Lovers Give Each Other Pet Names 152
When Your Quarry Praises You 153
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