JOHN WINELAND SPIRITUAL INTIMACY

MAIN PRACTICE SESSION

Topic: The Art of Spiritual Intimacy - Main Practice Session
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MASCULINE PRACTICE SESSIONS

Topic: The Art of Spiritual Intimacy: Masculine Practice Sessions
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Day 1 6/13

4 Main Agreements
Honor Self
⁃ rest your eyes
⁃ Hydrate
⁃ Attend to your human needs
⁃ You know your limits
⁃ Physical safe word is to RAISE YOUR HAND
⁃ Go into compassionate presence
⁃ Can nod your head, thumbs up, or lower your hand to go back into
practice
⁃ Verbal safe word is PINEAPPLE
⁃ Turn off your own video if you want
Honor Other
⁃ If your partner communicates safe word, honor their boundary
⁃ Don’t leave during a partner practice
⁃ Focus on your attention on the other, bow and go at the end of practice
⁃ Don’t private chat other people
Physical Boundaries (When in person)
⁃ No kissing, exchange of bodily builds, no touching of breasts, ass,
genitals.
⁃ Confidentiality
Play full out
⁃ Choose courage over comfort
⁃ Be wiling to take risks
⁃ The power of this workshop is up to you
⁃ Go for it
⁃ Be willing to explore your edge
⁃ Breathe into the edge, rather than try to BREAK THROUGH
⁃ See if that being, relaxing into helps you stretch

Yoga of Masculine Depth

Polarity work
Bring more consciousness and love as a transmission
Potential limits
⁃ You can only breathe so deep
⁃ Nervous system might be only able to handle so much eye contact
Activities to expand your capacity, so you bring your best to the feminine

Biggest issue with men:

Can’t breathe deeply
Can’t relax front bodies
Your capacity to breathe will help her trust you more and her nervous system to
relax

Sitting with heart slightly raised a half inch, with solar plexus slightly forward,
sacrum rooted, chin slightly tucked

2 rounds Wim Hof

3-5 minutes Ego Eradicator
7 second BOX breathing, filling the vase, expanding ab area
Stand up, pat and brush self
Chi Generator

CHI GENERATOR
With lower bubble, scooping energy from earth and bringing it to the lower center.
Genitals, lower belly, solar plexus
-Like your holding her doggie style
-Like you have a 5 foot cock
-5 foot phallus of consciousness
-You want to fuck from the connection to your Root, Sacral, and Naval chakra. The
entire energy.

With heart bubble, expanding the right heart thought the right arm, the left heart
into the left arm. Filling and widening your heart. Pushing it out into the whole
bubble and beyond.

With above, holding the hands up like a scarecrow

Bringing that energy from the stratosphere down into your crown, third eye, throat
chakra, and top of heart
-That clean and clarifying energy, lifting

3 energies
-Light/lifting from above
-Love/expanding/widening from the middle
-Grounded/rooting from below

This full, energized, grounded body is a gift. A gift to the feminine, a

gift to the world.

Deepening the capacity to transmit consciousness

THE COLUMN
From crown
Open throat
Down behind your heart
Behind your solar plexus
To the lower chakras, sacrum, down the root, to the earth

MAIN SESSION 1

Your body is a transmitter

⁃ most of the time our transmission is unconscious
⁃ We’re evoking something from our environment based on that transmission
⁃ Feeling the feet on the earth, my breath is relaxed, solar plexus is
relaxed, focusing on the beauty all around me
⁃ Always in relationship
⁃ With the moment, each other, the environment
⁃ Always transmitting
⁃ The key is, what do we want to transmit?
 ⁃ What do we want to evoke?
⁃ Depth, presence, and consciousness tends to evoke trust and devotion

Masculine and Feminine Polarity

⁃ Energies independent of gender
⁃ My masculine depth, my connection to consciousness and the way my body
emits consciousness will evoke more feminine from others
⁃ The more you’re feeling pleasure in your body, the FEMININE, yearning
in your heart, the more you’re transmitting that in your body you will evoke the
masculine

Now you get to choose

Hopefully you’ll leave with skills and skillsets to choose what you want to evoke
and how you want to transmit
⁃ Sometimes we don’t want to transmit, we just want to layback.
⁃ But we can do that consciously
⁃ We can shift back into the transmission, the consciousness
⁃ Grounded depth

You can transmit whatever you want

You’re free to transmit what you want
⁃ Samba queen, feminine
⁃ Devotional priestess
⁃ Loving king
⁃ Playful
You are completely empowered to transmit and evoke something different from your
environment
⁃ Can play rest in the masculine?

Your body is a transmitter

⁃ if your heart is collapsed, solar plexus crunched, transmission will be
poor
⁃ A fuller, more erect body
⁃ Transmitter is open, heart and solar plexus open, posture is straight,
belly soft
⁃ Sacred dance, erotic dance. S-factor?
⁃ Dark sexual energy from your hips
⁃ Twerking is a transmission
⁃ The body has to be cleaned, straightened, sharpened, opened, deepened,
so the transmission can come through CLEAN
MASCULINE transmission is CONSCIOUSNESS
Pure FEMININE transmission is LOVE/ENERGY
⁃ Ultimately we want to transmit both
⁃ But in a SEXUAL polarized moment, one partner is agreeing to animate
and transmit consciousness, and one partner is agreeing to transmit the feminine,
pleasure, yearning, invitation, energetic pieces
⁃ When that happens, we have a deep arc of energy, sexual polarity.
REALLY HOT SEX!
⁃ You have a choice to create it, almost instantaneously

We’re working with a very powerful energy. SEXUAL ENERGY.

3 skills
Hold all of her energy, and fear, and dark sexuality. Hold it and not waver,
ground.

Have sex for two hours and not ejaculate.

To hold my loving and sexual energy with space and ease. To feel safe in
transmitting it/staying connected to it and not needing to disconnect from it.
⁃ To join my heart and sexual energy
⁃ Feels like I flitter back and forth, especially in early dating
scenarios
⁃ Feels unsafe to express it early on
⁃ Fear of being “too much” , “creepy” , “needy”
⁃ Feel like I need some TRUST or SAFETY to reveal fully but it’s hard to
find it

3 main orgasms for women

Clitoral
⁃ More surface level
G-spot (backside of second Chakra)
Cervical
⁃ Deeper orgasm. Full body, starting from cervix and rumbling up from the
center of your body

When a masculine partner can breathe down his front and his partner’s front, and
lock into breaths, and guiding breath into her cervix.

The deeper your breath and better your structure, the deeper your transmission of
depth and consciousness, which will evoke trust and surrender
⁃ The deeper you’re breathing the more she will trust you
⁃ The more piercing your gaze the more she will trust you
⁃ The more relaxed you heart and solar plexus the more she will trust you

Just practicing, there’s not anywhere to get to

Responsiveness
The feminine heart is constantly sifting, love? Is there love? No love?
The more feminine you are, the more expansive your heart is, the more sensitive you
are to the perceived absence or presence of love

Transmitting masculinity in an authentic way?

Distinction between authentic and habitual
⁃ Lots of men with feminine energetic and emotional bodies
⁃ But our sexual essence can be more masculine, I want to lead, I want to
penetrate, I want to ravish
⁃ PRACTICE
⁃ What’s an energy you want to world to get from you?
⁃ Joy, play, delight, mischievousness, love
⁃ Stability, calm

TRANSMITTING LOVE
Ground down through feet. Ground down through bottom of your heart into the earth.
Then feel the love in the surround mile area, the sex happening, the loving
connection, the play, the appreciation. Tune into all the love happening now, and
then transmit it. Bring heart up.
⁃ Being fully connected with your feminine heart but being stability

Can embody the full playful connection in your body, and then can settle and fully
connect with a lover, and say with the transmission that THIS IS FOR YOU
-So all the energy is alive in your body, but it has structure so the feminine can
metabolize it
-You don’t have to hide it, but be skillful in working with it

“From Fabiola Bergi (F) to Everyone: (11:58 AM)That’s the hottest. Movement with
love, consciously, intentionally, piercing through, with structure!!!“
PLAY WITH IT! Amp up your heart so it’s full, but your structure and breath are
meticulous

HOW DO I KEEP AN ARGUMENT FROM GOING AWRY?

Masculine wants things to end so that there can be peace
Feminine isn’t interested in that
⁃ Volcano, tsunami, jungle is not interested in peace
⁃ Feminine is always changing
Feminine always in movement
Masculine wanting movement to come to an end
ALL FINE IF WE CELEBRATE IT!
⁃ Let’s celebrate it. “I know you want to keep arguing until forever, but
let’s do this instead.”
⁃ She wants to just see that you’re not closing or ejecting from it
⁃ Practices: How do I keep my nervous system open while I’m in pain
⁃ One of the easiest ways to end an argument with the feminine is to help
her be fully expressed
⁃ “My consciousness waned and it hurt her feelings somehow”
⁃ She’s saying “you lost consciousness of my heart”
⁃ The way to move through these small little arguments is to TUSSLE. To
TEASE. Be PLAYFUL around the tension.
⁃ Most of the time there is a MOOD issue it’s about tussling, that’s what
she wants
⁃ That’s your own art, your own sense of humor, your own idiosyncrasies
⁃ If there’s a way to bring sexual energy through it
⁃ Move her body with her/for her
⁃ Include her body
⁃ She’s saying “SHE WANT’S TO PLAY AND WANT’S YOU TO FEEL HER HEART”
⁃ Almost every feminine complaint is a reflection of my consciousness in
this moment
⁃ Assuming a loving connection

Seems like I start out dating in a very masculine place and then fall into a
feminine energy of looking for love

SURRENDER/TRUST for WOMEN

-What women are carrying is a collective feminine pain that has been liberated in
the last 5 years or so from #metoo
⁃ That pain is “I have been treated as property, I have been
abused/raped/murdered/cheated on/sexualized/objectified”
⁃ Feminine is feeling the collective masculine abuse and neglect
⁃ Men should know, it’s not all about us. It’s not all,” oh we fucked up,
we’re not doing it right, we’re not good enough.”
⁃ Epigenetics
⁃ Detachment from heart is the problem, when the pain is projected onto
the masculine
⁃ Also, the feminine not showing that pain because of fear that they will
leave
⁃ Any man that wants to step up and relate with a woman, must be ready to
relate and be with the collective pain that she is carrying
⁃ Know that you are stepping into the space of being a healer and lover,
not just a taker
⁃ “From Anika Chouvenc (F) to Everyone: (12:16 PM) Bringing tears to my
eyes as a WOC to hear this. It's so hard to be met in this.”
⁃ Women have been trained to lean in, and then her masculine energy comes
up and butts up against his masculine
⁃ The feminine energy invites in and reveals, an opening outward energy
⁃ Leaning in is a projection forward, masculine energy
⁃ Normally, if a masculine partner is moving back, it’s because they
can’t move in
⁃ Women get confused because they are “sharing me” expanding energy. But
the masculine wants peace, soothingness, nothingness. Not a big explosion of
energy. Doesn’t mean they can’t/won’t hold it, but it can be a commitment. “It’s a
thing.” What makes it attractive/magnetic is the feminine revealing her heart.
⁃ It’s less words
⁃ “From Natalie Kirkpatrick to Everyone: (12:20 PM) reveal and
invite....and then masculine running away....reveal your heart. Dropping down”
⁃ When I drop back and feel into a feminine invitation of owning and
staying connected to pain feels more spacious and easeful towards me. Tension
softening.
⁃ LETTING YOUR HEART DROP BACK
⁃ THROAT SLIGHTLY UP
⁃ SHOULDERS BACK
⁃ SOLAR PLEXUS FORWARD AS AN OFFERING
⁃ THE YOGA OF INVITATION
⁃ Less about the chase but the quality of invitation

SOLAR PLEXUS imagination an inch forward and up

No lie in it. Our FEMININE wants to be known, seen, loved, penetrated, ravished,
cherished.
-Wanting to own and embody my full FEMINE and MASCULINE
-Own my full wants and needs

EVOKING
FEMININE: Invitation and Revealing
MASCULINE: Penetrating with your consciousness and awareness. It’s not a leaning
forward, you’re not penetrating with your head, but from your heart to the base of
your body. Bring your sternum forward and penetrate her invitation.

Natalie Botton

PRACTICE SESSION
Softening front body, belly, solar plexus, heart

Left eye to left eye

Wanting to take the fierceness.

“I would kill for you, I would die for you, I would protect you.”
The synchronized deep breathing
Really enjoying and savoring her pleasure and offering of her energy
Penetrating her with my consciousness, holding her energy
Connecting my heart with her heart
My belly with her belly
Appreciating her fullness, her beauty, her fullness, her anguish, her pain, her
erotic energy
Wanting her to need me, that I am here for her.
⁃ Appreciating her devotion.
Seeing and taking in her pleasure
Deep breathing
Take in her warrioress energy, and show that I can hold it. That I want more.
It felt like such a gift to witness her feminine expression of energy, letting me
feel her and the invitation
Showing her my appreciation, let her see with my eyes and breath the impact she’s
having on me.
⁃ Show her that I’m a YES to her sharing
Breathing into her, my breath is her breath
Seeing her as Kali, as Divine Feminine
See her longing for me to claim her fully

She wants my depth, my fierceness, my consciousness

Look past her eyes and look and feel into her heart
Belly, solar plexus, and hearts are kissing on the inhale
Breathe it in and DOWN the energy, down into your and her belly, down into her
cervix, down into the base of your belly
-Whatever energy she gives you you’re breathing it down, down through your belly,
and into both of you. GROUNDING HER WITH YOUR BREATH.

Be still
Breathe deep
Feel her
Hold the energy

Breathe
Look into their eyes
Feel into their heart

WILD DIGNITY;
Living sacredly, tribally
Ritually

Your practices are for LOVE, not for another

-when our practices are about getting something from another human being VERSUS
EVOKING something from them, you’re never satisfied
-I’m going to give her the deepest expression of masculine consciousness
-She’ll give me the deepest expression of feminine love

Often our minds return to a homeostatic limiting pattern when we open, but FUCK
THAT. :-)

In partner practice
The MASCULINE GIFT is to be witness to and to liberate what’s true
⁃ The masculine challenge, to be a YES to withholding
⁃ Be the breathe and the process rather than trying to get to the goodies

Wanting to feel her SACRED SLUT

⁃ She can worship my cock for the sake of the divine

The FEMININE making her whole body a tease

-opening outward as opposed to moving forward
-women are so capable and moving forward feels like a natural movement because it’s
a habit that works, but it’s actually sexier and will get a deeper response if she
invites rather than coming forward
-The MASCULINE should be wanting to fight through hordes to get to her
because her energy is emanating so deeply
-Her body can move forward, but her energy can be moving outwards

TRAINING MEN to work the muscle of pressing our consciousness into HER
-We move forward energetically with penetrating energy
-Blast and press our consciousness through her
-We’ll make a deeper version of us

Sometimes our desire for our preference will evoke their desire for their
preference, and then it becomes negotiating, but in the most SACRED, it’s not about
neither’s preferences, but it’s about what makes Heaven weeps.
⁃ What will evoke the most out of our partner
⁃ Our preferences aren’t necessarily divine sacred sexuality
⁃ Sometimes it requires waiting/exploration
⁃ Sometimes it’s hard to wait in that space
⁃ We feel like we can’t wait anymore so then we think we have to do
something
⁃ How do I wait and be with this discomfort and press my consciousness
into it even though I can feel her holding back

BREAK PRACTICES
If you’re in a partnership, recreate the session

MASCULINE solo, take 45 minutes and do nothing meticulously

⁃ Find a spot to sit, without a phone, without a notebook, without
anything. Could lay down, but not a nap.
⁃ Do nothing meticulously. Let yourself do nothing as consciously as
possible.
⁃ Sit on your couch and put your arms up, and just feel
⁃ Not a meditation! Do not meditate. NO PRACTICE. Being in the moment and
receiving from the moment.
⁃ Receptivity

Did for about 30 minutes because I ran out of time, but was able to really soften,
and see what it feels like for my body to try to control/impose my will on the now.
Some tensions let go. EXPLORE THIS AGAIN.

FEMININE solo, take 45 minutes to be completely focused on pleasure

⁃ Amplify and enjoy the pleasure
⁃ Eating something tasty
⁃ Leasurely reclining
⁃ Through breath and body

MAIN SESSION 2

Shaking embodiment practice

Assymetric breathing

Drop that energy down, into your legs, belly

For Q&A session, anything that happened during lunch practice, during the session
earlier, or anything John mentioned, or any of the skillset that you want to leave
here with

Can be an 11 with FEMININE SEXUAL ENERGETIC EMANATION as a conscious practice. A

gift.
-Do they open
-Trying new things based on this framework, and watch
⁃ Did that open them, or close them?
⁃ And it it opens them, give them a little more
⁃ Revealing too much too soon depending on the person may be great
The reason we often move forward/make a move is we don’t like the feeling we’re
feeling, the waiting, the yearning
⁃ Find a structure. FEMININE PRACTICE
⁃ Put your hands on your thighs
⁃ Imagine bringing all of your yearning and desires through your fingers
⁃ Then bring more through your heart, let your shoulders show it
⁃ Bring more, lick your lips, YOUR ART
⁃ Letting them know, here’s my yearning heart, here’s the gift of my
pleasure
⁃ Your body can take the shape of SHE who must be ____ (ravished deeply,
sacredly defiled, claimed fully, chosen sweetly, etc.)
⁃ Somebody who is a masculine being won’t be able to handle all of the
feminine energy, just small bits of it or needing a break. Don’t have to give all
of yourself all of the time.
⁃ A masculine partner is only interested in so much energy to deal with

Look past her eyes and look and feel into her heart
Belly, solar plexus, and hearts are kissing on the inhale
Breathe it in and DOWN the energy, down into your and her belly, down into her
cervix, down into the base of your belly
-Whatever energy she gives you you’re breathing it down, down through your belly,
and into both of you. GROUNDING HER WITH YOUR BREATH.
⁃ Feel like I have so much more depth and capacity for love, fullness,
connection than most men, but I’ve struggled to get to a place where it feels safe
for that (in the bedroom).
⁃ When there’s a container like in this call or some kind of connection
practice I can play full out
Can do as a 30 minute sexual practice. Her sitting on my lap. Provide her the
structure, grounding with the breath. And she can bring all the energy. Left hand
on base of her spine, and right on the back, the mid spine.
-WOMEN WANT TO BE RAVISHED!!!!!
⁃ The quintessential feminine desire
⁃ RAVISH ME MORE! I WANT MORE. I WANT MORE LOVE FUCK. KILL ME!!!
⁃ A lot of men are surprised by just how deeply the feminine desire to be
fiercely but lovingly and sometimes even violently ravished. HOLY FUCK. Hand on
throat. She wants to feel the part of you that would literally eat her heart out
and fuck her while she dies.
⁃ The women love hearing that.
⁃ FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE is the important piece
⁃ Some women carry shame around wanting that, an unintended byproduct
from feminism
⁃ There is a part of a woman that wants to be owned, ravished, ripped
apart.
⁃ It can be vulnerable for women to rest in that space.
⁃ For MEN to be bold in that space can feel vulnerable
⁃ To claim her in a strong and powerful way is a skillset that can be
learned
⁃ HE WHO MUST BE SURRENDERED TO
⁃ HE WHO MUST BE WORSHIPPED
⁃ HE WHO MUST BE GIVEN EVERYTHING
⁃ Take that pose, there’s a way of being to be that.
⁃ Breathing
⁃ A way of sitting
⁃ Integrity to heart and body
⁃ How he is in the world

Question: Where’s the line between pushing and holding the space for the masculine?
⁃ The masculine tendency is to bail out, to not want to feel the
discomfort
⁃ Feeling like you’re “not enough”
⁃ The part of you that wants to end that feeling, and to eject from that
moment, the relationship , the weekend, the date, the fight
⁃ The part of you that doesn’t want to sit in that pain and reveal that
pain to her is your MASCULINE
⁃ That is where you want to sit for a period of time.
⁃ You want to SHOW HER and FEEL IT FULLY YOURSELF
⁃ The purity of your heart and the clarity and integrity around feeling
hopeless
⁃ Masculine wants to win, and if we don’t we’ll eventually give up
⁃ Most guys don’t want to sit in that feeling of discomfort very long
⁃ Sit in that PAIN and LONGING, and BURN THROUGH IT
⁃ The feminine is attached to love and may give more than they should
⁃ Men have trouble setting themselves up to win and OWNING how much
freedom they need in the relationship
⁃ Often not communicated or cleanly structured
⁃ MEN STRUGGLE WITH 2 THINGS OFTEN IN A RELATIONSHIP
⁃ Staying in the discomfort of a feeling that is painful and not wanting
to solve it
⁃ Owning the truth of the freedom that they need
⁃ Needs to be setup properly and clarity rather than done unconsciously
⁃ The MASCULINE needs a lot more space than most MEN claim
⁃ Because we want to be “nice guys” “good husbands”, but we need more
time alone and with men to be nourished and then we can step fully back into the
relationship
“From Lorna Bennett (F) to Everyone: (5:01 PM) It feels so GOOD when men (and
women) come with that degree of self-awareness and can communicate it clearly.
That SPACE also creates a ton of desire in relationship. (Vs let’s be together in
relationship all the time…) (I’m feminine and need a TON of space in relationship,
so I can really relate to this one.)”

SPEAK: It’s painful for me to be in the shallow. I want to know what you want so
deeply down in life and in relationship. What would it be to fully give yourself
over? I want to play, but in full connection and authenticity.
⁃ Talk to the woman about what’s dating been like for her

Question: FEMININE: How do I continue to transmit this love to evoke something

different from the masculine without crumbling into it?
⁃ Feels like there is this pressure to disconnect/disown that part of my
feminine emotional body that is checking to see if love is there. That longing.
Because it feels like it’s too much, it’s not attractive, etc.
⁃ We have to separate our HABITUAL CHILDHOOD PATTERNING/STORY and in the
moment heart’s response
⁃ Have to do the DEEP WORK
⁃ The part of you that crumbles that’s not something in the moment, but
something around their boundaries
⁃ The work needs to be done on your own, in therapy
⁃ Working with your anguish
⁃ The feminine can show how much they are dying and going to miss them,
without GUILTING or ADDING ATTACHMENT onto them.
⁃ Honor the part that does not want love to end, but also can honor the
part that knows they are doing their best
⁃ Felt like being with Marlee reduced me to feeling like I needed to
match her longing that I didn’t have. I was interested in more ME time. Both her
and my Dad’s unhealthy shit started to impose on my own values and boundaries.
⁃ The MASCULINE does not care about relationship the way the FEMININE
does. Obviously there are parts, our FEMININE that does, but in a MASCULINE partner
it comes second or third.
⁃ She wouldn’t like it if we wanted to relate more than she did
⁃ Trust that I have that, and I was there before Marlee. I was interested
in my life more. Not so afraid and needy around securing attachment.
⁃ FRUSTRATED:
⁃ Feels like I’m still stuck in that pattern. Because I felt guilt from
wanting my freedom in my past relationship.
⁃ The MASCULINE needs freedom from emotional demand to reset from stress
Rejuvenation:
FEMININE: touch, love, oxytocin, cuddling
MASCULINE: Dopamine, testosterone. From a space of alertness and no demand.

The only thing better than a space of quiet and no demand for the masculine is a
fully revealed feminine heart

The MASCULINE drama in life is , AM I GONNA WIN?

⁃ Business, navigating blah blah
⁃ How am I going to win.
⁃ Love
⁃ Life
⁃ Purpose
⁃ Traveling the world
⁃ In Freedom

PRACTICE POINT:
FULLY FEEL and OWN MY MASCULINE, and that it’s totally fine for me to HONOR MYSELF
and DISAPPOINT OTHERS WITH MY INTEGRITY
⁃ That I can take my space and have no obligation towards another
⁃ To put my purpose and mission and freedom first
⁃ I was made to feel guilty about that.
⁃ I have this story that I’ve been this way forever but it’s only after
having been warped and beaten down in this shitty connection with Marlee
⁃ Worrying she would cheat on me if I didn’t conform to her demands, so I
sacrificed my freedom and integrity
⁃ Angry at her. HEAT. Resentment. Want to forgive her, maybe? But still a
lot of hatred in my system towards her.
⁃ IT’S OKAY TO BE A MAN and PUT MYSELF FIRST.

BRING THIS INTO COACHING, and also honoring my FEMININE

And also wanting to navigate the earlier stages with depth
-feels like I want to rush into relationship because that feels like a safe
container where I can reveal my full depth

The FEMININE drama in life is, IS THERE GOING TO BE LOVE?

EVENING PRACTICE
MASCULINE PRACTICE of RELEASING BURDEN
-I JUST WANT FREEDOM
Feeling the depths of constraint and express in your body and voice

Seeing her anguish and desire for love

Please forgive me
I forgive you
Let’s forgive ourselves

I love you
Thank you for loving me

I sweat a lot during these practices. A lot being released.

Felt so embodied walking around afterwards today

Connected to the earth
Connected to the sky
Heart wide
Appreciating the beauty
Felt great with my friends. Felt clear, strong, happy, authoritative (in a healthy
way)

Day 2

MASCULINE EMBODIMENT PRACTICE

1 Round Wim Hof

30 seconds exhale Pushups
30 seconds inhale Pushups
Then melt on the ground and fully surrender and soften the front body for 1 minute
Then Plank position, gluten activated, navel pulled in, heels back, crown forward
Breath of Fire 30 seconds
Then melt again for 1 minute
Appreciate all the nature and support Mother Earth has given you

The feminine wants to nourish you

The problem isn’t usually her ability to give, but our ability to tune into and
become available
Being nourished from the great feminine, the earth

Question 1
The masculine experience that we don’t usually let ourselves feel is the feeling of
being constrained
⁃ Constraints create an ache that has to be felt

Dual Divinity
Divine has both a latent and manifest quality
For Sexual polarity there has to be both
The feeling

Your deepest purpose. What are you here for?

⁃ Every constraint that you experience in your body that you don’t let
yourself feel is SPIRITUAL BYPASS
⁃ Let yourself feel the disconnection and the pain of disconnection is
the way into connection
⁃ In the realm of polarity

Become more aware of the feelings we skim over or distract/numb ourselves from
When we drill down to the pain in our lives it’s usually about some kind of
restraint
⁃ Get connected to the feeling of the pain that gets in the way of
experiencing of what you want to experience the most

Question 2
Navigating when our woman goes into her masculine and not in her feminine
⁃ Because feminine driven beings are occupied with getting more love
⁃ They will get more masculine to protect love
⁃ “I have to achieve, can’t be silly, etc.”
⁃ Feminine grows by praise
⁃ Can recognize silently her beauty “the sparkle in your eyes is so
beautiful. Your heart is so beautiful.”
⁃ Just the smallest internal acknowledgment will start to open her
⁃ Can say it silently, with your eyes, your breath, can say “yes” to her
movements, in a way command, being a yes
⁃ MIND is feminine. If she steps into her MASCULINE and we go up into our
head. So we have to out-masculine her. OR you can go with the flow and let her feel
your heart, step into the FEMININE. Let her feel longing for more of her, and then
at some point she will crack open and then you can come back to a deep breath and
your masculine
⁃ THE DEEPER BREATH holds the MASCULINE POLE
⁃ Breath and wrap your awareness around her, like a hug
⁃ Take your awareness and wrap her, match your breath to her breath,
BREATHE DEEPLY, ground
⁃ CHECKLIST: How do I deepen my masculine?
⁃ And then, LOVE HER WHEREVER SHE’S AT
⁃ “So beautiful”
⁃ Be a yes to her
⁃ MASCULINE: Commanding her. “Come over here. Come sit on my lap”
⁃ If she digs in, TUSSLE. “I love your resistance.”
⁃ Make your MIND aware of how you can STRENGTHEN YOUR STRUCTURE, ground,
and deeper breath.

Question 3
Masculine needs to hold space for uncertainty, rather than trying to resolve it

BE A YES TO WHAT IS
Your capacity to hold space, I’m here for you, I’ve got you
STRUCTURE
Your breathe
I’ve got you
I’m here
You’re beautiful

Becoming HE WHO MUST BE TRUSTED

Posture
Breath
Internal Dialogue
A Yes to whatever the feminine is bringing

Question 4
This man struggling with being in ravishing and CAPACITY ISSUE
“FUCK ME”
Men have been feminized
⁃ We needed to get more sensitized, but
When your partner gives you that dark, beautiful sexual energy, if you’re not
trained you will ejaculate
It takes training to go from and use that sensitivity to claim and ravish her heart
⁃ The nourishment is RAVISHING for her
⁃ What your woman is calling from you the world is calling you
⁃ MORE FIERCE, GROUNDED, SETTLED
⁃ Create structure around feminine emotional body
Learn to own and practice to own the part of you that is a RAVISHER, a KILLER. Kill
her with your fuck. Train your nervous system to be that.
Train your NERVOUS SYSTEM to develop the CAPACITY to be with the INTENSITY
Set the CRYSTAL CLEAR INTENSITY to not ejaculate for 1 hour
-Iron Clad
-If I have to pull out, slap her, put my throat on her, tell her she has to wait.
Can stay with that intensity.
-There is a fierceness that the woman is wanting that is HEART CONNECTED
-Without the heart connection it is abuse
-Be patient, it takes some time

“Enlightened Sex Manual by Deida is a good one

Mantak Chia - MultiOrgasmic man
From Julian Muscio to Everyone: (8:50 AM)
finding god through sex is a great one as well
From Evan Meyer to Everyone: (8:50 AM)
And multiorgasmic couple, too.
From Pierre Bouchard (M) w/ Jamie Stahl (F) to Everyone: (8:50 AM)
Taylor Johnson’s online courses are awesome
From David Bach-y-Rita (M) with Avi Santana (F) to Everyone: (8:50 AM)
It really helps me to “mirror” my woman, with her subtle movements, like ecstatic
dance in bed. My nervous system aligns and then we ‘come’ together.
I’ve found that primal growl helps me to distribute the accumulating sexual energy.

Adam - There is also breath work like John is talking about you can do when not
making love so you condition your system tp pull the breath up into your 2 3 4 5
and 6th chakras….”

The part of us that collapses around that is our shadow.

⁃ If she can’t trust you to control your own body sexually
⁃ Control my ejaculation for the woman to trust you
⁃ You can’t just lose capacity the moment she gives you dark energy
⁃ In order to go as deeply as possible and take the feminine where it’s
possible to take her, it takes PRACTICE

PRACTICE:
You’re having sex, and you get to about a 7
Squeeze your perineum, but keep breathing
Roll your eyes up
Deep inhale in, roll your eyes up to your CROWN.
Brings energy up and HOLD IT. You stop pumping.
⁃ Can change positions to dissipate the energy

Therapeutic VS Yogic Issue

Good Men’s Work has a healing component to deal with your sexual shame
⁃ Sexual Shadow Work: Sex Pig

Train your body to withhold for the sake of love

⁃ The part of us that collapses into our own pain, and gets stuck in our
own pain, is a self centered part

“I’m going to take this lovemaking session as deep as I can for 45 minutes and I’m
not going to ejaculate”

Solid structure
SHIVA on a throne, on a lion skin
Stillness
Breathe

HE WHO MUST BE TRUSTED

POSTURE
Breathe into your balls
Lightness behind your eyes
Fierceness behind your eyes
Lats engaged, shoulders back
Breathe
Present and with them
Chin slightly tucked
Let go of mind and drop attention lower into breath

What did you learn about your body and capacity to transmit
-Transmission of depth, nobility, consciousness
-Tune your body so it comes through more cleanly

Work on letting go of the need to get any place

Practice the skill of breathing into your lower belly with palm on the hand
What if that’s enough. You’re doing fine.
TANTRA is BEING A YES TO WHAT IS
-I’m uncomfortable, I’m nervous, etc.
-How can I be a yes?
⁃ Easiest way is to breathe into it
⁃ Breathe into being a yes to what’s happening as it’s happening
⁃ I am fine with what is exactly what’s happening, even if it’s
challenging, even if it’s uncomfortable, even if I want it to change

Breathing what you are a NO to into your HEART as a YES

When you breathe out widen your shoulders out

You can still be a stand against something and still be an ENERGETIC YES TO BEING
WITH IT
⁃ It’s one thing to be against something, and another thing to not be
able to be with it

Question
MASCULINE in John Wineland terms
Awareness
⁃ The part of you that has always been you
⁃ That’s never changed. That is your MASCULINE.
⁃ It will be the same the moment you die
⁃ Masculine leadership: Have a tether to that infinite unchanging space
⁃ You don’t have to do shit, it’s there, you just have to remember
⁃ Now the work is how to MAKE YOUR BODY A REFLECTION OF THAT TRUTH
⁃ Structure
⁃ Through that structure, your feminine sensitivity can come through
⁃ Get to that COMPLETELY TRUSTABLE STRUCTURE and sit in front of people
and let it come out. KEEP STRUCTURE and OPEN YOUR HEART and LET PEOPLE FEEL YOUR
PAIN.
⁃ Can feel the part of you that has never changed and transmit your heart
⁃ Have structure for both
⁃ Stay tethered. WE OFTEN ATTACH TO OUR FEMININE and FORGET THAT PART OF
US THAT IS UNCHANGING
⁃ We want to stay connected to both, 50% on unchanging, 50% to the you
that is you
⁃ THE PRACTICE:
⁃ YOGA: Being tethered to the unchanging but also in the world
⁃ YOUR BODY needs to be as INVOLVED AS YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS
⁃ DUALITY: FULL BODY AWARENESS and CONNECTION TO THAT WHICH IS UNCHANGING
⁃ Going to have to collaborate throughout life, we don’t just lock in to
a perfect state.
⁃ Fill your body with life, breath, sensualness, while not losing the
tether
⁃ Drop into AWARENESS, and then make it FULL WITH SENSATION of the body.
⁃ Mindful of senses while keeping structure
⁃ There’s a difference between being super structure/solid and super
frenetic, but you can bring FULL CONSCIOUSNESS into the MOVEMENT/PLAY.
⁃ NO RIGIDITY
⁃ FEMININE and MASCULINE are a DIVINE UNION
FEMININE
Question
Taking time for ourselves
“I’ve gotta do this (take time for ourselves) so I can come back to you as a fuller
man”
I need solitude
Sometimes when the FEMININE is a NO we have to own our truth and communicate and
explain
⁃ Often we resent or capitulate, but neither work long term
⁃ To make relationship that work, own the part of you that needs space
and freedom and solitude
⁃ What days of the week am I not available because I’m working?
⁃ Which space of the house is mine to seek the divine?
⁃ What nourishment do I need so I can show up fully to life?
PRACTICE: No one sat us down to teach us how to communicate with the feminine, how
to fuck deeply, how to tussle
⁃ The rule of thumb: MAKE YOUR BODY THE TRANSMISSION FIRST
⁃ If you have a difficult conversation, the content is 5% of the
conversation.
⁃ “I want to find a way to be supportive of you and I need to be
nourished.”
⁃ If you live and communicate from the POSTURE your whole life would
change,
⁃ Don’t have to be RIGID, but it’s about the TEXTURE
⁃ Breathe. Ground. Feel.
⁃ Then act
⁃ Down into balls.

TRAINING CAPACITY TO HOLD MORE SEXUAL ENERGY

⁃ If you notice you’re getting “too turned on” slow down the breathing
and down into the belly
⁃ Slows thing down
⁃ Grounds you and her

CHI GENERATOR
Letting the feelings build up
Amp up the energy and let it flow through your whole system
Push out the feelings into the world
Push out the stillness into the world

Embodying the TEXTURE of HE WHO MUST BE TRUSTED

Breathing and grounding into it
Breathing out and widening that out and emanate it

MAIN SESSION 1

Embodiment
Shifting out of Masculine and Feminine
1 min grounding standing as a rooting tree
1 min as smoke, arms up, drifting around
1 min grounding
1 min smoke
1 min grounding
Then ground from lower half and move from upper as Bamboo
Then be still and feel both the pulsating and the stillness

There’s no should here

-“Should be more masculine/feminine”
-But, there’s
“I want to be more fully expressed in these areas.” “I want to be aware of the
habits in my body/mind.”
“I want to be more available for my partner.”
“I want to be a stronger structure of energy”
-Conscious structure
HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE EXPRESSED UNIQUELY ON THE PLANET
The trick is to bring awareness of the habits
⁃ I want to transmit depth so my feminine partner feels that
⁃ I want to transmit light/juicy richness

Whatever you decide you want to transmit, you can do it

Transmit through any part of you

There’s what you want, and what the world/life is wanting from you
⁃ More often than not, the things your partner is wanting from you the
world is wanting from you
⁃ Don’t weaponize these ideas against yourself and against others
⁃ “I would want to feel more…”

QUESTION
Feminine desire to be kissed and ravished and love given to them
⁃ Is she moving from her feminine or masculine?
⁃ Any time we are directional we are in our MASCULINE
⁃ It’s not that it’s wrong, but is it habitual?
⁃ SHE WHO MUST BE KISSED:
⁃ Softer/invitation with lips
⁃ More pleasure in body
⁃ Fall in love with your own thighs
⁃ Yearning

It’s all about the TRANSMISSION.

⁃ Conscious. What are you transmitting?
⁃ Kendra

Most women want men to step up and LEAD in most of the relationship
⁃ The places she wants him to lead, stop leading
⁃ Sacred helplessness, because it’s evoking more from the masculine

Allison Armstrong, every time the feminine steps in and takes the direction from
the masculine, it’s an energetic castration

QUESTION
The woman’s desire is not to move forward, it’s a byproduct of her not knowing how
to wait and radiate the core desire of being penetrated and taken
⁃ The MASCULINE’s job is to tussle with that desire
⁃ If she steps forward, you knowing that it will depolarize the
situation slightly. You can tell her to stop. Let me see you. Walk over here
slowly.
⁃ You’ve taken the polarity without taking her core desire
⁃ For the sake of love!
⁃ Women respond to that
⁃ The goal here is to co-create the most love together consciously

QUESTION
Intersection between Yoga and Occurring World
⁃ Occurring world’s that have a way of becoming the way we see and filter
everything
⁃ Your body takes the shape of that occurring world, once the body takes
the shape of that it becomes your belief
⁃ “Occuring world - a belief we have about the world”
FEAR AND CONCERN ABOUT BRINGING HER SACRED SEDUCTRESS in a way that is healthy and
safe
⁃ On a date, you give the energy in tiny little bits, and see how they
respond
⁃ You are cultivating a shamanic sexual power
⁃ You practice, and that’s the way to safely learn to give your gifts

HE WHO MUST BE WORSHIPPED

QUESTION
Pattern of OPENING and CLOSING
Is there something in the world that you would die for?
⁃ Not literally, but give everything
⁃ No blame/shame if you can’t.
⁃ Our fierceness got squashed when we were younger
⁃ HOW DO I REVEAL THAT PART OF ME THAT IS FIERCE?
⁃ My WARRIOR can hold HER WARRIOR.
⁃ I will fight side by side with her
⁃ Feeling connected and in the warrior energy
⁃ Nervous system has to learn to train these two energies that we think
are disparate
⁃ But train them to be together and install it
⁃ Home practice:
⁃ Let her feel your heart and breath and your WARRIOR
⁃ She will bring her fierceness, her WARRIOR and LOVE
⁃ Let her know. Say “YES” when she touches more WARRIOR while staying
connected to her heart
⁃ PRAISE HER

My QUESTION:
How to hold the fullness of my loving and sexual energy with space and ease in
early connection? To feel safe in transmitting it not needing to disconnect from
it. To join my heart and sexual energy. Feels like I flitter back and forth,
especially in early dating scenarios. Feel like I need some TRUST or SAFETY to
reveal fully but it’s hard to find it.

I AM THE CONTAINER
“I AM THE SAFETY”
Permission
Realize that I AM CHANGING MY LINEAGE, rewriting my karma
⁃ Challenging the old conditioning that it’s unsafe
Can presence, “Oh I’m feeling a little disconnected” “or unsafe” two sentences,
then drop back into connection
If I feel unsafe or unsure about it, she will mirror that
I AM THE SAFETY
I set the tone
I set the container
Can try a little bit, and see how she responds. Gentle
“Thanks @Aaron. Trust yoga time! For me too!”
Leaning into the edge around melding the WARRIOR and LOVER
Don’t just blow past it, you have to gently lean into it
PRACTICE
Because we so often shift from I WANT TO RAVISH HER to I WANT TO LOVE HER
But we can meld the two through practice
⁃ There’s a lot of old stories around fear of abandonment or love being
insecure

“If you can do it here in the workshop, you can do it out there.”

I AM SAFETY
I AM TRUSTABLE

Feels like I rush to get into relationship because that feels like a safe container
to reveal, but maybe I can just be the safety and create that container beforehand

QUESTION
When we are taught that sex is bad and then we try to reclaim it
Shame will come up
When you claim what you want. “She who must be defiled sacredly” “He who must be
submitted to”

Don’t believe the stories your mind is telling you after the workshop, that
programming is fighting for it’s life.

QUESTION
Let him hold space for her
She can feel her feelings and let the masculine be there with her
I’m a YES to me first
Often we reject ourselves first, we make it wrong, and then our partner’s are
keying off what we are doing
MASCULINE: I AM THE SAFETY
⁃ Say YES to her
⁃ And if we can hold space for that she will trust you with your sexual
body
⁃ It’s not natural for men to step into the storm and say in it
⁃ But we are working on it, because we love the feminine

3 skills
Hold all of her energy, and fear, and dark sexuality. Hold it and not waver,
ground.

Have sex for two hours and not ejaculate.

To hold my loving and sexual energy with space and ease. To feel safe in
transmitting it/staying connected to it and not needing to disconnect from it.
⁃ To join my heart and sexual energy
⁃ Feels like I flitter back and forth, especially in early dating
scenarios
⁃ Feels unsafe to express it early on
⁃ Fear of being “too much” , “creepy” , “needy”
⁃ Feel like I need some TRUST or SAFETY to reveal fully but it’s hard to
find it
⁃ Feels like really early in dating scenarios I drop into
neediness/attachment anxiety
⁃ Also how much I may want to be in my feminine, to submit, be in
pleasure

How to hold the fullness of my loving and sexual energy with space and ease in
early connection? To feel safe in transmitting it not needing to disconnect from
it. To join my heart and sexual energy. Feels like I flitter back and forth,
especially in early dating scenarios. Feel like I need some TRUST or SAFETY to
reveal fully but it’s hard to find it.

FEEL LIKE I REALLY WANT TO BE EXPRESSED IN MY FEMININE AND THERE IS FEAR OF THAT.
TO BE OVERTAKEN BY IT. FEAR OF THAT NOT BEING ATTRACTIVE.
⁃ It feels so pleasurable and erotic to be connected to the feminine
energy
⁃ I think it’s also back to wanting to be chosen and reassured, validated
⁃ Feels like I’m not allowed to want to ask for that
It’s all about the TRANSMISSION.
⁃ Conscious. What are you transmitting?
⁃ Kendra

REWIRE TO WHERE PURPOSE IS MY MAIN FOCUS OVER RELATIONSHIP, feels like my past
serious relationship rewired me to prioritize relationship, because I felt guilty
about it

⁃ Feels unsafe to express it early on

⁃ Fear of being “too much” , “creepy” , “needy”

PRACTICE

We practice and stretch our nervous system so we

From Courtney Stokes (F) to Me: (Privately) (1:11 PM)

NOBLE WARRIOR ENERGY
⁃ You can trust me
⁃ I am here
⁃ Fierce
⁃ I will kill for youWhat I loved was your deep breathing and your
unwavering eye contact. What I wanted more of was movement and physical bigness
through moving your arms.
From Me to Courtney Stokes (F): (Privately) (1:16 PM)
What I loved was your fluidity in your hips, I loved your turning sideways and
looking at me, I loved how your whole body was involved, I loved your playfulness
and enthusiasmWhat I wanted more of was more brightness in your eyes and face
From Courtney Stokes (F) to Me: (Privately) (1:21 PM)

SILVERBACK GORILLA ENERGY

⁃ Fierce
⁃ Wild
⁃ GruntingWhat I loved was your open-mouthed yelling and baring your
teeth. I loved your big arm movements and tossing your mane. What I wanted more of
was more movement in your lower body, big foot stomping.
From Me to Courtney Stokes (F): (Privately) (1:26 PM)
I loved it when you licked your arm in the beginning. I loved you being very open
with your face and mouth, showing your throat. I really loved when you came towards
me with playful fierceness and swiping and laughing. That was very energizing to
experience.What I would have liked more of is seeing more of your lower body
involved
PRACTICE
Doing deep breath practice
A rhythmic in and out through the mouth
See into her heart, past her eyes
Stay with her
“I’m here”
“You can trust me”
Be a yes to everything she is giving you
YOU ARE SAFEI CAN HOLD YOUR FULLNESS
“I love you. You’re beautiful”
“I’m here. You can trust me.”
See all of her, her delight, her sadness, her pleasure, her longing
BREATHE DEEP
Can you breathe even deeper and
Appreciate and acknowledge the gift she is sharing
Penetrate her with your consciousness

Stay connected, reconnect to the breath if I go into my head and into her eyes
SHARE the YES and the MORE through my eyes

QUESTIONING
Questioning it is staying out of the feeling. It’s the storm that wants to happen.

Maybe our core desire has been conditioned/burned out of us

⁃ I was taught to think freedom is bad

Polarizing
We’re always evoking

Anger/anguish coming through the heart is felt as loved

-Raging with a closed heart is abuse

Our thoughts are tainted by our childhood programming

Until we see that they are bullshit they are still in control

QUESTION
Feminine
Taking all the stuff that’s in you and offer it through yourself as a transmission

If you feel your partner needs to move stuff, anguish

You set a container
5 minutes
To express but stay connected to her heart
⁃ If she starts criticizing or projecting, “Stop it my love. Stop it.
Enough.”
⁃ Hold the structure for her. Breathe deep and hold it.
⁃ ENOUGH. I’m not here for you to criticize, but give her space to share
her pain.
⁃ MAKE THE STRUCTURE. Tell her it’s enough. And hold the space with your
breath and eyes.
⁃ Both masculine and feminine have trauma

Her heart has multiple things

⁃ Past trauma of not being met
⁃ And also, him taking her shit
⁃ Part of her messiness was wanting to call the masculine forward
⁃ Their complaint is meant to call part of us that we’re withholding
⁃ FIERCENESS

They both expand in doing the work

WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM BEING FULLY EXPRESSED? HOW DO I HOLD MYSELF BACK IN
LOVE? MAKE ART FROM THIS - 1 MIN SACRED THEATER
Something that is holding us back from expressing our heart’s truth more fully
This work is about making art from that place
⁃ A piece of art about what holds ourself back
⁃ 1 minute offering of what holds ourself back
⁃ Whats the thing?
⁃ Shamed?
⁃ Afraid to get fierce?
 ⁃ Afraid of my emotions?
⁃ The art liberates you and everyone around you
⁃ POEM
⁃ SONG
⁃ DANCE
WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM BEING MORE FULLY EXPRESSED?
Make art about it
Lazy?
Judgmental?
Holding back our fierceness?
Conditional?
Nice guy?

Making art to free the pattern

HOW DO I HOLD MYSELF BACK IN LOVE?

Fierce
Guidance
Honoring my freedom

MAKING ART AROUND OUR NEUROSIS, CLOSURE, TRAUMA

MY FEAR, MY INABILITY TO BE WITH UNCERTAINTY, MY NEEDING PERMISSION

Should feel slightly nauseating and exhilarating

1 min Song FIERCE LOVING

Why do I hide?
Cause I’m afraid I’ll hurt you
Don’t honor my needs
Cause I worry you think I’ll desert you

I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING

You can trust me
I am safety
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
Just surrender
I can take us there

Why do I waver?
Cause sometimes it feels so uncertain
Old stories beating me down
Don’t want to offload my burden

I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING

You can trust me
I am safety
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
Just surrender
I can take us there

Feels like I don’t trust her to be able to take it, but I AM THE SAFETY

VARIATION

Why do I hide?
Cause I’m afraid I’ll hurt you
Why do I waver?
Cause sometimes it feels so uncertain
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
You can trust me
I am safety
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
Just surrender
I can take us there

I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING

You can trust me
I am safety
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
Just surrender
I can take us there

VARIATION 2

FIERCE LOVING

Why do I waver?
Cause sometimes it feels so uncertain
Old stories beating me down
Don’t want to offload my burden

I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING

You can trust me
I am safety
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
Just surrender
I can take us there

I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING

You can trust me
I am safety
I KNOW YOU NEED MY FIERCE LOVING
Just surrender
I can take us there

MAIN SESSION 2

Breathing Practice
Breathing from lower belly
Groin
Legs
Feet
The floor below you
Deeper, roots in the soil, drawing in nutrients
Offering the breath to the trees
Their leaves fall and become the soil
A cycle

Intimacy practice stretches your nervous system

QUESTION
Feminine struggling with connecting to pleasure and intimacy
“I’m trying to be sensitive about this but let’s just go in”

The women want FIERCE POUNCE. RAVISHMENT

Our partners are mirrors for us
EYES PIERCING
The great feminine desire is to be seen and to be known
She can feel you feeling her fully
She can feel your gaze piercing her
Your breath penetrating her
Your body feeling her
Your eyes piercing into her

SHE WANTS ENERGETIC PENETRATION

Penetrated by your depth, by your consciousness

Some MASCULINE nervous systems are very dense

Struggle to generate energy for themselves
Can turn it up a little bit,
But better for them to be a CONTAINER for her ENERGY

SEX AS PLAY!
Loved seeing her sexy panther
Unleashing our deepest energies and desires

Sexual Practice:
Recreate practice of her sitting on your lap
Belly to belly
Breathing
Solar plexus to solar plexus
Heart to heart
Then you enter her and you park with the tip of your penis right next to her cervix
Left hand base of her spine
Right hand back of her heart
Then you don’t move, you breathe, and you’re locked in
You want to line up the chakras and press your love and gaze into her fully
Better if it’s done without any movement
Do for 10-15 minutes
She’ll want to move
YOU PIN HER. NO, HOLD CONTAINER. PIN HER WITH YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS, DEPTH, BREATH.
Do it once every few times you make love
Eventually she will open up from every center in her body, up from her cervix

Bring your WOLF. That would rip her throat out for love.

Really love this space, a celebration of life and deep passion.

You’ll have breakthroughs and openings and be available in ways you never thought
possible, and then you’ll go back. And then you’ll get back on the train. You keep
stretching and growing.
⁃ Massive breakthroughs, then you plateau, and you either stop practicing
and go down, or you keep practicing and the growth is more subtle but you keep
going

Question
Feminine cleanse
Good to notice how we try to get a “hit” from the feminine
-Addicted to responses from the feminine
-You’re either in or you’re out
3 months - 6 months
Give yourself space to let go of the possibility of relationship at all

If your intention is to reset your relationship with the feminine

-You need space to evaluate the patterns that have been operating and driving our
relationships for years
⁃ We need time, space, reflection, and introspection
⁃ Need to take a good hard look at how we approached life and
relationships
⁃ Go at it with a seekers mind
⁃ Find the beauty AROUND YOU. The NATURE.
⁃ Natural beauty. Get nourished from there.

SACRED THEATRE
My name is
My sacred theatre is called FIERCE LOVING

FUN
PLAY

SHIVA on the MOUNTAIN

Soften and receive her feminine nourishment

All you have to do is be consciousness, you don’t have to do anything else
Send your heart to her
Show her that you are here for you
THAT SHE IS SAFE WITH YOU
That you will protect her
That you can hold her