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“Terminal niceness”
Conversations are the work of the leaders and the work horses of the
company”
Chap 1
Principal 1 Master the courage to interrogate the reality
“You can not argue with reality”
(Power sources, silos, feedback loops all tie into this concept)
Level and be honest with people. The truth seems inevitable and we can’t
ignore it. !!!
No one owns the entire truth. Each person has a piece of that truth.
Get everyone’s truth out on the table to be interrogated. This takes some
time. But it takes longer dancing around their truths/realities.
Interrogating reality
1 prepare for the meeting by identifying the issue (a problem named is a
problem solved)
2 who should be part of the conversation (error on the side of inclusion as
opposed to exclusion, invite them to share their perspective and have the
reading done ahead of time)
3 facilitating the conversation by inviting input from every person in the
room (close laptops cell phones no pens or note taking) everyone in the
room talks. No exceptions. Inviting you to influence me
4. Wrapping up the conversation. Thank them and follow up once
decision has been made
Remove “yes but” from your vocabulary and transition it to “yes and”
DO NOT LAY BLAME while describing the reality. (Roger is good at this)
“While no one has to change, everyone has to have the conversation.” !!!
You may run into a house to save a child. But you won’t bring up the real
truth in your own work environment? Speak your ground truth courage
fails us
Healthy selfishness.
The truth may set you free, but will also piss you off!!
We often don’t pay attention to what people are really asking or saying.
Take a stand for the ideal you desire. All conversations are with myself and
sometimes involve other people.
I see you as I am, through my context.
The issues in my life are rarely about you, rather about me.
When our conversations with others disregard the core need of being
understood our lives can seem like an ongoing exhausting struggle to
influence others to do what we want them to do. (NOTHING CHANGES,
autopilot is engaged)