Table

of Contents
Copyright
My Story
Biggest Misconceptions of Attraction
The Difference Between Men and Women
You’re Being Brainwashed
The Unattractive Guy
The Attractive Man
The Body Language of the Attractive Man
How to Approach Women
What Do I Say
What NOT to Say
Dry Talk Vs Emotional Kick
How to Never Run Out of Things to Say
How to Touch
Girl Test
How to Kiss a Girl
How to Deal with Her Friends
How to Deal with Other Guys
4 Types of Guys
Body Language of a Woman Attracted to You
How to Avoid the Friend Zone
Build Attraction Through Speech
Make the Girl Chase You
 Exchanging Numbers
What to Text a Girl
The Date
Taking a Girl Home
Sex
The 2 Main Types of Girls
Stay Humble



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 My Story

I would highly recommend you read this chapter because I have made many
mistakes throughout my journey that I regret. If you avoid these mistakes, you
will have more fun and close relationships with the girls you meet.
Ever since I was a kid my family would constantly move out to different areas or
even different countries throughout the years. It was usually because my dad
found a better paying job. This constant and frequent change of houses and
school led me to become the loneliest I’ve ever been.
Every 2-3 years my parents would decide to move out causing me to always lose
all my friends. Every time I had to change schools I had to go through the
awkwardness of making new friends, having no idea where all my classes where
and always being the “new kid”.
Even though being the “new kid” led to popularity, it never lasted very long.
Once I started to build my social circle and started to get settled it was time to
move to a new place again. And the cycle goes on and on.
By the time I was 15 I moved for the last time to a British school. All the
moving around led me to easily make friends because of my personality. I have
done it so many times it became second nature for me.
I wasn’t however popular by any means. In fact, I had very minimal friends, I
was a nerd, I loved video games, I wasn’t attractive at all (super skinny, bad
posture, terrible acne, bucked teeth), I was super shy (I wouldn’t even raise my
hand in class because I was so shy) and I never ever talked to girls. My mind
would go blank every time a girl would start a conversation with me.
This all however changed when I met a girl from my school. I can’t remember
how exactly I met her but I just know we used to text each other a lot.
We slowly started to talk to each other and she started touching me. I was
extremely shy so I never knew how to hold a conversation and always blushed
and froze every time she would touch me.
I would always give her compliments and she would show interest back, I would
buy her a massive box of her favourite chocolate when she was upset, I basically
did everything the Hollywood movies told me to do to “get the girl”.
I would even leave my best friends to be with her to show her how much I liked
her. I even went as far as writing an apology letter and hand delivering it to her
door at 5 o’clock in the morning one day when I upset her. Her house was a 45-
minute walk, but that didn’t bother me.
I would ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend multiple times but every time I
asked she would change conversation or say “Give it another month” even
though I have been talking to her for over 7 months.
There were times where I had enough and I told her that “We should stop talking
to each other for a while” or that “We should move on” even though I really
liked her. All the times I sent her a text like that she would ask me to meet her
and when I did she would hug me and tell me to not stop talking to her and
trying to manipulate me into staying in this weird manipulative relationship (we
were never an “official” couple by the way).
Long story short the day came where she said the words no guy wants to hear…
“We should just be friends”. I admit I cried over this text but in hindsight I
appreciate her because she has made me the man I am today.
I just got heart broken by the first girl I truly liked and I was furious.
I became a different person after this “brake up”. I started not giving a **** and
it felt awesome. I would talk to multiple girls and I wouldn’t care what I said or
if she liked what I said. I would tease girls and make sexual jokes (even though I
was a virgin), I wouldn’t start becoming shy when girls would touch me and
girls would respond to me even though I was not attractive. I would rarely give
them a compliment and would never buy them anything but somehow they
would text me and confess their feelings for me.
I wouldn’t just talk to girls. I would make more guy friends as well because I
was so confident and start joking around with teachers. Next thing you know I
was one of the most popular people in school which made more girls attracted to
me (We will talk about why later).
It wasn’t all positive experiences with girls though. I had my fair shares of
stalkers, really needy girls, creepy girls, girls that would show up at my house,
girls fighting over me, twin sisters liking me…. When I tell you that girls will be
chasing you, at first it sounds awesome but you will slowly come to realise that
it is not all that great.
Within 2 months my phone would blow up with messages from girls. I
remember there was a time I had to talk to all the girls on Facebook from my
laptop because my phone would slow down. It couldn’t handle all the messages.
Remember the girl that broke my heart? Well I used to talk to her 2 best-friends.
They both admitted to having feelings towards me.
It didn’t take long for me to get my first real girlfriend and she was the hottest
girl in school. She was a Romanian goddess with a gorgeous face and a perfect
sexy body. Anyone I came across would tell me that she is out of my league and
that I was really lucky to have her. What they didn’t know though was that I
slowly started to not feel that attracted to her. She became very needy. She
would text me multiple times a day, she would want send me cringe photos
about “true love” and she wouldn’t leave me alone.
I was with my friends, she was there. I was eating, she was there. I wanted to go
to the toilet, she would wait outside. I hated it. I realised something very
powerful. I saw the same characteristics she had on me, before I became good
with girls.
What I didn’t realise at the time was a started to develop these characteristic
traits that made women respond to me. I later on realised that they were called
“Alpha Male Traits” and I saw a pattern. Every guy that women would chase
had these characteristics about them. (We will talk about these Alpha Male
Traits later on)
I wanted to get even better with girls so I would search on the internet for “How
to get better with girls” and “How to become more attractive”. I came across a
very popular book called “The Game by Neil Strauss”. This is when I got
introduced to the world of pick up. The book would talk about a man that goes
by the name of “Mystery” who was extremely good with girls. I wanted to be
like Mystery so I picked up his book called “The Mystery Method” and watched
every single episode of his TV show “The Pick-Up Artist”.
I started to try out “Day Game” as the pickup artists call it. This is when you try
to attract women throughout the day. Most of the times it will be a girl or group
of girls walking down the street or they might be shopping / having coffee etc.
I had to walk to college and the only way of getting there is to walk through a
busy town centre full of shops. As you can guess, it is always packed with
women. I remember I couldn’t approach a single girl for three days straight.
Sometimes I would manage to get a sound to come out of my mouth while I
extend my hand to get their attention but I would freeze.
I haven’t managed to talk to a girl yet because my anxiety got the best of me, but
that didn’t stop me from continuing to study attraction.
At this point I had a rough understanding of what “pick up” was all about. I
didn’t however believe in some of the “techniques” that where taught in the
books I read but I decided to give it another go.
I went to the same shopping mall I had to go through to go to college and I
spotted a girl I recognised from college that I found attractive. She passed me
and I decided to use my new skills. I jogged after her from behind and said
“Excuse me” 3 times before she heard me. As she turned around I realised that
my mind went blank. I have forgotten everything I have learnt.
By some miracle I managed to start a conversation with her. I admitted to her
that I found her attractive and I remember we talked about the weather. (Don’t
talk about the weather with a girl you want to attract).
I managed to get her number. I went home and we texted each other back and
forth for a while until I gathered up the courage to ask her out for coffee.
She agreed!
Turns out the day we were meant to go for coffee she didn’t want to meet up
anymore. I didn’t mind because I have done something that I never thought was
possible. I managed to exchange numbers and almost go on a date with a girl I
met on the street by doing and saying the wrong things. Imagine if I used the
advice given to me by the books I have read.
That was the start of my journey into the world of attraction.
I started going out and testing every technique I learnt to see what works and
what doesn’t work. I would treat it as a game. Every girl was a mini level for me
to defeat so I can level up. Approaching a girl wasn’t scary for me anymore
because if I failed I can just restart the level (Go to another girl).
All the success with women boosted my ego so much that I wasn’t thinking
straight. I ruined friendships, played around with people’s feelings and was
disrespectful most of the times. These are the worst mistakes I made and I
understand that now. I learnt from my mistakes. Don’t make the same mistakes
as me.
This book will teach you techniques to attract women. Whether you want to
attract the hottest girl in the club or the ugliest, NEVER use these techniques for
a bad purpose.

 The Biggest Misconceptions of Attraction

I recently met up with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while. We were discussing all
kinds of topics. Cars, movies women. When the subject of women and dating
came up I asked him how his dating life was going. His answer astonished me.
“I don’t have a dating life. Every time I try to attract a girl I end up getting
friend-zoned. I should just give up with women, I don’t think dating is for me. If
only I was good looking and rich, I could get any girl I want”.
At that point I didn’t want to start an argument with him on why he was
completely wrong, so I changed the conversation into something more pleasant.
Let me tell you why he was wrong.
The truth is men who aren’t good with women are frowned upon in our society.
They are seen as the underdog and everyone feels sorry for them. So what do
men do? They find delusional excuses as to why they can’t attract women. Those
excuses are always portrayed in a way that makes them seem like the victim so
people can sympathise with them. It’s never their fault. They believe that being
attractive to women is out of their control.
If they don’t find a good enough reasonable excuse they seem like a failure. This
makes them feel like society is constantly judging them.
Men are constantly coming up with different excuses to cover up for their
failures with women. We are going to analyse the most popular excuses created
by men as to why they aren’t good with women and why they are bullshit.

Excuse #1: I’m Not Good Looking Enough

I must confess…looks DO matter to a certain extent, but not nearly as much as
you think they matter. Let me explain.
Society has created this imaginary grading system that tells us we are only aloud
to flirt and be intimate with people that have the same “attraction rating” as us.
In other words, you can’t find a girlfriend or have sex with a girl that is “out of
your league”.
If you have pimples on your face, weird teeth and have a big nose, you can’t
attract a hot tall Romanian with a six pack and a perfect ass. Or so society wants
you to think. I can tell you from first-hand experience that you can attract hot
girls no matter how you look. Why? Because the guy with the pimples, the weird
teeth and the big nose was me. The hot tall Romanian girl with the six pack and
the perfect ass was one of my ex-girlfriends.
I am sure you have seen plenty of Hollywood movies where the attractive guy
gets the attractive girl while his less attractive friend gets the less attractive girl.
Let’s take Alvin and the chipmunks for example. The good looking chipmunk
flirts with the female good looking chipmunk, the fat chipmunk flirts with the
female fat chipmunk and the chipmunk with the glasses flirts with the female
chipmunk with the glasses.
From an early age movies embed this misconception that we can only attract
people if they are “in our league”.
When people see an unattractive guy hanging out with a super-hot girl, they
think he is either rich and famous or he is gay.
Looks do give you an advantage with women but that advantage only lasts for
the first few seconds of the interaction. Women are more likely to be open to
interacting with you if you are good looking because of the halo effect.
The halo effect is when we judge someone based on their looks in a positive
way. For example, when we see a hot blonde we automatically assume that she
must be awesome and fun and her life must be perfect and “how could I ever talk
to someone like that”. Once you get to know her though you realise that she isn’t
all that perfect.
We subconsciously assume the best when we see good looking people. We will
talk more about the halo effect in a later chapter but for now back to the subject
at hand.
After the initial first few seconds, if you are the most boring guy she has ever
met she will not stay for long, no matter how good looking you are. Physical
attraction will not make you better at interacting with women.
You don’t need to have the muscle tonality of a bodybuilder or the face of a
model to attract women. I know this because I have seen countless good looking
guys get rejected, get dumped, get ignored, while the short guy with the big nose
and the weird hair would be flirting with 2 girls at the same time.
Let’s take famous rapper Jay-Z for example. Let’s be honest he is not the best
looking guy on the planet. If you don’t know what he looks like search him up
on google before you continue. He doesn’t have a muscular body neither does he
have the face of a model. And yet he is married to Beyoncé, one of the hottest
women on earth.
Beyoncé has a perfect sexy body and the model like face to back it up. She is
one of the most powerful and influential women in the world and she could have
any man she wants and yet she still decided to marry Jay-Z, regardless of his
looks.
I am sure you are familiar with celebrity Brad Pitt. Even though he is one of the
best looking men in Hollywood, he openly admitted to not being able to bring a
girl to his house when he first moved to Hollywood. He wasn’t very good at
talking to women.
If you are physically attractive the only real advantage that you have is that
women will be more receptive to you for the first few seconds. If, however you
aren’t so attractive you have an even bigger advantage.
If you are in a club and you see the best looking guy approach the best looking
woman you would feel like it is natural since they are both attractive. However,
if a short ugly guy approaches the best looking woman in the club your initial
reaction would be “This guy has balls”.
That is exactly what goes on in a woman’s mind when this happens. If you are
not so attractive and you approach a sexy hot blonde, subconsciously the woman
will think “Wow, this guy must have balls to approach me. I am way out of his
league”. Not being afraid to approach hot women shows that you have previous
experience with talking to attractive girls.
The unattractive guy who approaches the girl seems 10x more confident than the
attractive guy who approaches the girl. This is because in societies eyes the
attractive man has “permission” to approach the hot girl. The ugly guy however
doesn’t have “permission” since the girl is “out of his league”.
I understand you might not have a perfect muscular body. You probably have a
bit of fat and that’s fine, we all do. In a recent study women preferred to be in
relationships with guys that had a little bit of fat. They make for a good pillow
while cuddling in bed.
No girl wants to sleep on rock hard abs and muscles. It’s uncomfortable. There
are going to be times where a girl just wants to enjoy a burger or a pizza with a
guy. She can’t do it if the guy is constantly anxious about his calorie intake.

Excuse #2: If Only I Was Rich

Every guy I meet seems to think that if your bank count number looks like a
phone number, you can attract any girl you want. If this is one of your beliefs,
then you couldn’t be more wrong. People with this mind-set have the false
perception that being rich will solve all their problems, including being able to
attract women.
I was walking down a busy street in the afternoon and a brand new green
Lamborghini stopped and parked right next to me. The guys behind me started
taking pictures of the car since they seemed so impressed by it. They walked up
to the guy and said “I bet you get a lot of girls with this car”
His reply, “Actually I don’t”
They seemed gobsmacked and didn’t believe him.
Having an expensive car will not make women feel attracted to you. In fact,
most girls I have shown a Lamborghini to thought that it looked like an ugly
spaceship. If a girl isn’t interested in cars, then she won’t understand the value of
your car.
“Expensive, materialistic things will not attract quality women, it will however
attract gold-diggers”
I have a friend who was smart enough to invest in Bitcoin before it became
popular. After the rise of Bitcoin, he sold his share of it and made a hefty profit.
Since he made a lot of money he wanted to show it by buying expensive clothes
and an expensive car. He thought he could attract all the women in the world
with his Gucci shirt and his BMW. The only problem is, he had no game.
He was extremely boring to talk to, had no cool stories to tell and his jokes never
hit. Whenever I would see him trying to flirt with a girl I would see her cringe
and her eyes would dart around looking for help. The girls didn’t want to interact
with him.
Girls don’t want your expensive BMW or your Rolex watch. They want a guy
they can have fun with.
The fact is that there are more guys in happy relationships than there are rich
guys. It is important to have enough money to support yourself but don’t expect
money to solve your problems with attracting women.
Let’s take the example of Jay-Z and Beyoncé again. Clearly Jay-Z is a very
wealth individual having a net worth of multiple million dollars…but so does
Beyoncé. Money was not an excuse for Beyoncé to be attracted to Jay-Z since
she is a multimillionaire herself. She has enough money to do whatever the fuck
she wants. She doesn’t need Jay-Z’s money.
I understand why guys would think that women will be attracted to money. We
humans always want what we can’t have, or what is hard to obtain. A big some
of money is very hard to obtain if not impossible in most people’s eyes. That is
why they believe money can solve all their problems because they have never
had some. So they believe that when a girl sees a man that is part of the small
percentage of people with large sums of money she will be attracted to him.
For real human connection and attraction to occur there are multiple layers
involved. It’s a process. A process money can’t buy.

Excuse #3: If I Was Famous I Could Easily Get Girls

I had this friend a while back who used to talk to a girl that was completely “out
of his league”. They were texting back and forth for a while and everything was
going good. He later on found out that she was texting another guy. It wasn’t just
any guy; it was one of the most famous footballers in the country. I will not
reveal his name for privacy reasons.
My friend’s initial response when he first heard about the situation was that he
had no chance with this girl.
One of the most famous footballers in the country is texting a girl he had a crush
on. There was no way he could compete with him. Nevertheless, after a few
more days of them texting, the famous footballer asked the girl out for a date
and…
She rejected him.
Even though he was one of the biggest names in football she still rejected him.
When asked why, she said she didn’t find him attractive. She thought he was
good looking but not attractive. You know who did go out on a date with her?
My friend, who is nowhere near as famous.
Why did she reject a famous footballer who clearly has good looks, money and
fame but agreed to go out with my friend who is just an average guy?
The simple answer is that the characteristics I specified above do not matter with
attraction. The girl clearly didn’t prioritise fame, money or looks just like 99%
of the girls. They prefer men with attractive behaviour. This is what this book is
all about.
Fame gives you the same advantage as good looks. They make the girl more
receptive to you because you are famous but it only lasts for the first few
seconds of the interaction. Even if you are George Clooney, if you aren’t
conveying attractive traits towards the girl then you are just another loser to her.
There is a way to make yourself seem more popular than you actually are to
attract girls. This is called high social value. We will talk more about high social
value later on and ow it will greatly increase your attractiveness.
Whether you are famous or not you can still attract the quality girl of your
dreams. Don’t get caught up trying to act more popular than you are, instead
focus on meeting women and having a good time with them.

 The Difference Between Men and Women

It is very important to understand the main difference between men and women.
I know that they have many differences but I’m not talking about the physical
attributes or the different hobbies men and women pursue. I’m referring to the
different psychological drives.
A psychological drive is a way what affects your thinking and your actions.
Each sex has a different psychological drive. All humans have different
psychological drives at different circumstances. For example, if you have just
gotten out of a relationship your main psychological drive will most likely be
emotional since your heart is broken and need the validation from other people
that you are “good enough” and that you will find someone else.
If you haven’t had sex in 6 months you will most likely be extremely horny and
won’t be able to control your sexual drives. You will just want to fuck
everything.
When buying an item whether it is a washing up liquid or a Ferrari we always
buy because of emotion and then we use logic to justify our decision. People
would buy the expensive brand of washing up liquid because they have seen the
advertisement for it a million times. This creates a subconscious bond with the
brand since you have familiarised yourself with it. Then you use logic to justify
your decision such as “it cleans better” even though it may be the exact same
washing up liquid as the cheap brand.
Same goes for the Ferrari. No one needs a Ferrari. Everyone wants one because
of the emotions you think it will give you. You think having a Ferrari will make
you look like a God in the eyes of everyone and that all the girls will beg to have
sex with you. Then you use logic to justify your decision such as “I want a car
that can go fast”.
Once you understand the main drive in women you will instantly become more
successful with the opposite sex.

Men’s Primary Psychological Drive

Men’s primary psychological drive is logic. What I mean by this is that men
want things to be laid out as clearly as possible. Information needs to be given to
them in a crystal clear manner. They want a simple step by step manual on
everything they do in life.
I am not stating that men are logical 100% of the time I am simply stating that
logic is men’s primary psychological drive out of many.
Have you ever seen those advertisements where they promise you to get women
in 3 simple steps? I can tell you this is impossible. There is no magic formula to
pursuing women. You can’t just magically say one sentence (or get a Ferrari)
and expect women to fall for you. This is simply unrealistic.
However, many guys fall for this trick because it sounds very simple and clear to
them. They are always looking for the easy way out. Your primary psychological
drive is what is keeping you from becoming better with women.
Like we talked about earlier, Hollywood and society is brainwashing you by
giving you a false step by step manual on attracting a woman.
The steps go as follows:
Find a woman that is as attractive as you. You must make sure she is
in your league.
Drown her in compliments.
Take her out to an expensive dinner. (The more money you spend the
more it shows that you are attracted to her)
Buy her an expensive gift.
And if you have been a good boy then the woman will reward you
with sex.
Most of the times men go through the “Hollywood Guide” (More on that later)
and still not end up getting the girl. This makes them frustrated and wanting to
give up on dating. They start to feel lonely, alone and that there is no one out
there for them.
Reading this you’re probably agreeing that that is how dating works. You will
soon find out that none of that is necessary for you to attract women. The biggest
misconception about dating is that women “reward” you with sex.
Sex is a mutual thing. Both partners need to want sex for intercourse to occur
otherwise that is called rape. I strongly DON’T encourage rape since it will land
you in prison but more importantly it could destroy someone’s life.
The “Hollywood Guide” suggests that the nicer and more gentleman like you are
to woman the more likely she is to reward you with sex. After years of studying
dating and putting everything I say into action I can comfortably say that “The
Hollywood Guide” is bullshit. You should never use Hollywood movies as
dating advice. We will talk later about why being “The Nice Guy” doesn’t work
and what to do about it later on.

Woman’s Primary Psychological Drive

The most important thing to a woman is the way something makes her feel. The
50 Shades of Grey series didn’t become popular because of the great writing or
the unique, intriguing storyline. It became successful because of how it made
women feel.
Women’s primary psychological drive is emotion.
Have you ever started talking to this girl through text and everything is going
well, the conversation is going smoothly so you decide to ask her out on a date?
You find the courage to do it and you send her the message. You wait for what
seems like hours until she replies…until she finally does and agrees to meet you.
A few days pass and you are excited for your date so you decide to text her again
to make sure she is still coming. Only this time she replies saying she “can’t
make it”. You start wondering what went wrong.
Well it is one of two options. Either she genuinely couldn’t make it because
something came up, or it is because her primary psychological drive took over.
What do I mean by this?
When you texted the girl after a good conversation her positive emotions where
through the roof, she felt good so she couldn’t wait to see you. Those emotions
faded away by the time you texted her again. You weren’t the guy she had fun
with texting, you were just another guy texting her.
I’m not saying that women are always emotional and are never logical. I am
simply stating that their primary psychological drive is emotion. It is there main
drive out of many.
A woman is more likely to remember an event if she links emotion to that event.
For example, women will be able to remember an event from 5 years ago based
on how it made her feel whether it gave her good emotions or negative emotions,
she will recall that memory.
On the other hand, men aren’t so good at memorising because they don’t link
anything to that event. They simply remember the facts of that day.
Women love romantic movies along with gossip magazines and TV series full of
drama. They like them so much because it fuels their emotional needs. In
opposition, men watch movies for the entertainment, for the laughs, for the jump
scares.
Women love hanging out with other women because they get to express their
emotions. Women understand each other’s emotions and can connect with them
on a deeper level since they both have the same primary psychological drive.
A man would rarely express his negative emotions in front of his friends. If he
does you know that something serious has happened. Men are more likely to
hold in their emotions until they are in a private place. Then they will express it
in private.
Sometimes there will be an exception where a man’s primary psychological
drive will be emotion and a woman’s primary psychological drive will be logic.
This is when a man will be overactive to everything and will easily get
emotional. The woman however, will take action using logic instead of emotion.
When attracting women, you should always try to concentrate on giving her
emotions instead of making her like you. You offering the woman value in the
form of positive emotions is what is going to make her strongly attracted to you.
This is where most guys go wrong since they believe that by asking a woman the
most generic boring questions that 99% of men ask, will make her attracted to
him. “What do you do for a living?”
Attraction is based on how you make the woman feel, not what you are doing.

You’re Being Brainwashed and You Don’t Even
Realise It

Long before I discovered the secret art of seduction, my go to dating guide was
wikihow articles and Hollywood movies. Both of which are a terrible idea.
These articles and movies are embedding in our mind that the way to a woman’s
heart is by being nice.
Hollywood is brainwashing men into making them think that what the movies
portray as love is what it truly is. It usually ends up looking like this.
Man takes a woman to an expensive dinner,
Man buys woman a bunch of flowers and gifts
Man drowns woman in compliments
If he gets lucky then he will be rewarded with sex.
I call this “The Hollywood Guide”.
There are so many things wrong with this mind-set. I understand that I may be in
opposition of many men’s views by making this statement but after reading this
book and taking massive action you will come to understand that Hollywood has
been lying to you all along.
They are telling us that we need to win over a girl and that the woman is the
ultimate prize. And sex with a woman is a very hard prize to achieve. The only
way you can achieve sex with a woman is if you are good looking, rich and
famous or you simply get lucky.
We get brainwashed everyday by Hollywood, the internet, society, our family.
The advice everyone is trying to give us is ‘Be yourself and she will love you for
who you truly are’. I understand why people would think that being nice and
treating a girl like a princess will make her like you. Being nice is not how you
seduce a girl.
I am not saying you have to be mean towards women, all I am saying is that
women aren’t goddesses, you shouldn’t put them on a pedestal. They are human
beings just like the rest of us. Most men get this wrong and treat woman like
royalty. Then they complain when they don’t “get lucky”.
If you stop treating women like they are above everyone else that is when you
can attract them. Listening to what society tells you will not make you a
womanizer.
I remember when I was socially awkward I would watch movies and mimic
what guys would say in the movies so I could talk to women without freezing
up. If I had pre-written lines, then I wouldn’t feel the need to make up
conversation on the spot.
None of them worked.
Right now is a very confusing time for men because all the odds are stacked
against us men. Let me explain.
Let’s take an average guy for example. We will call him Bob. Bob is awkward
around people and his mind goes blank around attractive girls. In our society
Bob is frowned upon and is constantly being made fun of. He can’t “get the girl”
so he seems like a loser in the public eye. People feel sorry for him but don’t
want to hang out with him because he is social awkward.
Now let’s take a social guy for example. We will call him John. John walks in
the club and all eyes are fixed on him. He is never seen in public alone and
easily befriends people in a matter of minutes. He is incredible with women and
flirting seems natural for him. His phone is full of messages from multiple
women that are begging for his attention. In our society John is labelled as
“player” and everyone thinks that he manipulates women.
This makes it very confusing for men since if you are really good with women
you are “manipulative” but if you aren’t good with women and are seeking for
advice then you are weird.
What would your friend’s reaction be if you told them you bought a book that
gives you the secrets of attracting women?
They would probably make fun of you because you need help with women or
they would start giving you advice on how to get women. Let’s be honest in
most cases their advice won’t be very good.
This backs up my point since a vast majority of guys I have met said they are
good with women and don’t need advice or try to give advice to their friends
(which usually turns out to be wrong) because it is frowned up in our society to
not be good with women.
If you think you know everything about women, that means you know nothing.
As if that’s not enough men are deemed as evil creatures that just want women
for sex. I admit there are guys out there that just want women for sex but that is a
very small percentage compared to the guys that just want to make deeper
connections with people and get into serious relationships. Trust me there are
guys out there that just act like big studs when in reality all they want is a girl to
like him and appreciate him.
Sex is a big part of a man’s desire for a woman. It’s not our fault, it’s evolutions.
This doesn’t mean that men’s primary focus is sex. Men do love sex but so do
women. It just isn’t socially acceptable for women to showcase their sexual
desires because it makes them look like sluts in societies eyes.
Men are visually stimulated creatures which makes them become horny faster
than women whom are mentally stimulated creatures. For example, a man can
see a pair of breast and get turned on. A woman on the other hand, can see the
most physically attractive man in the world and will still not get tuned on.
In fact, research shows that men think about sex roughly 19 times in a day,
compared to women who think about sex roughly 10 times a day. That’s almost
double. It is ok to think about sex, it is natural. It doesn’t make you neither a
pervert or a slut.
If you really want to be good with women, you need to be able to comfortably
think of having sex with them. In short you need to desire women. If you don’t
have a strong desire for a woman then you won’t have the motivation to pursue
them. Talking to women will seem like a chore.
Men have a big misconception about women. They think that most women are
stupid, complicated and manipulative. This is far from the truth. In fact, after
reading this book you will come to realise just how smart women are when it
comes to attraction. They aren’t as complicated or manipulative as you think.
Every action a woman takes; every word a woman speaks has a much deeper
meaning than what is on the surface. Men don’t understand the deeper meanings
or the sub-communications of a woman, that’s why they tend to fail.
I admit there are some women out there that are manipulative. That doesn’t
mean that there aren’t quality women out there. We will talk about why some
women are manipulative later on.
Now that you understand why you shouldn’t listen to Hollywood, society or
wikihow articles it is time to discover what makes men to attractive to women
and how you can become “The Attractive Man”.

 The Behaviours of the Unattractive Guy

It doesn’t take a change in physical appearance to make yourself attractive. Like

we said earlier physical appearance only helps you in the first few seconds of the
interaction. If you don’t have the traits of “The Attractive Guy” then you won’t
be able to attract the perfect 10’s.
In this chapter we are going to talk about the biggest and most common
unattractive behaviours most men possess. Many of the traits I am going to talk
about where part of me. When I see men all around me with these unattractive
behaviours I see a part of myself in them.
The most important step to becoming your most attractive self is to understand
and eliminate all your unattractive behaviours. Changing these behaviours will
not happen overnight, it will take time but in the end it will be worth it. You
must first identify and realise that possessing these traits will do you more harm
than good. I am not asking you to change yourself I am asking you to grow as a
person.

Neediness
The most unattractive behaviour I see many guys have is neediness. Neediness is
what will cause all other unattractive behaviours and is the hardest one to
eliminate. It is the core behaviour that will singe handily kill every bit of
attraction you create with a girl. You can be the most physically attractive guy in
the club but if you are needy women will reject you in an instant.
Attraction is about the sub communications you project.
For example, if you text a girl and she doesn’t reply within 10 minutes what
would you do? The Unattractive guy would send her another text trying to get
her to reply or even worse asking why she hasn’t replied.
This screams out neediness since the underlying sub communication is “I have
such a boring; dull life I am sitting, staring at my phone screen waiting for you
to reply”. If you ask her why she hasn’t replied back the underlying sub
communication in this case is “I am very insecure in myself and have no other
girls in my life that I need the validation from you”.
This might sound a bit farfetched but it is simple psychology. This is what is
happening subconsciously in a woman’s brain.
If you are constantly seeking her approval, it shows that you have low self-
esteem and you live life based on other people’s opinions.
It doesn’t matter if you’re rich, physically attractive or famous, neediness will
kill your attraction more than anything else.

Lives Life Based on Other People’s Opinions

Typically, guys will not show their true emotions in public since it is more
“feminine” to show emotions. Women are more inclined to do this because like
we talked about earlier their primary psychological drive is emotion. A guy
would do anything in his power to not cry in front of other people, unless of
course it is tears of joy.
Have you ever said a joke about a person in the group and in the end that person
takes the joke seriously and gets upset? That person becoming upset has affected
the whole groups vibe. Everyone will feel down and sympathetic for the guy
while you seem like the bad guy.
You can immediately tell that this person is very insecure in himself, which is an
unattractive trait. He lives life depending on other people’s opinions. When
people say something negative about him, instead of brushing the comment off
and continuing being his normal self, he lets that comment affect his mood and
he becomes upset. A truly self-confident person doesn’t get affected by negative
comments.
There is a saying which states that “You must love yourself first before you can
love someone else”. As corny as this might sound I truly believe in it. You need
to accept yourself for who you are even if you are short, skinny, bold etc. when
you don’t, you will constantly be looking for validation from girls which in turn
will show them your neediness.
I’m a very weird guy and I’m ok with that because if you are normal you are just
boring. You are like everyone else. I have been called weird by women many
times. When that happens I laugh, agree with them and continue being my weird
normal self. That interaction usually ends with me going on a date with the girl
that just called me weird a few moments ago.
My mind-set is always “This is who I am. Take it or leave it”. This is very
powerful because not only does it make you seem more confident but it also
helps you pass girl tests. We will talk more about girls tests later.
If you are weird embrace your weirdness. If you are nerdy embrace your inner
nerd. If you love singing Justin Bieber songs, embrace it.
Do not let, not only women’s but anyone’s comments affect you. If a woman
rejects you, because you like playing Call of Duty do you really think she was
the right woman for you? I would much rather have a woman that would want to
play Call of Duty with me.

Buys Expensive Things Before Getting to Know the Girl

Buying things for girls may seem innocent at first but it is really just
manipulation. The media portrays the dating business as manipulative. They
think that giving advice and techniques to attract women is a way to manipulate
her into having sex with you. Some dating books might give you manipulative
techniques, not this one though. The biggest form of manipulation in dating is
buying expensive, materialistic things for girls.
We have been brainwashed to think that we must buy stuff for girls we are
interested in. If you meet a girl in a bar you would automatically offer to buy her
a drink. If you are going on a date you would buy her an expensive dinner.
I cannot count how many times I have seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl and
the first thing that comes out of their mouth is “can I buy you a drink?”. The
typical response would be a “yes” from the girl, making the guy think she is
attracted to him. After the girl receives her drink however she walks off and
never talks to the guy again.
You might be thinking “well if she accepted the drink that means she likes me”.
Completely wrong. People love free stuff. Girls at bars and nightclubs love free
drinks. If you offer a girl a free drink, why the fuck would she say no. Even if
you are the most unattractive guy on planet earth, she will say yes. She wants the
drink, not you.
What you are communicating subconsciously to the girl when you buy her a
drink at the bar is “I am not very interesting so I am going to buy you something
so you can stay”.
What makes girls attracted to you isn’t the money you spend on her, it is the
quality of time you spend with her.
I am not saying you should never buy girls things. If you are going on a coffee
date buy her the coffee or if you are in a relationship with a girl for a while, you
could buy her some nice jewellery. However, you should never spend hundreds
of dollars on your first date with a girl. Stop trying to prove yourself using
money unless you want to attract gold-diggers.

Having a Quiet Voice
Your insecurities don’t show in what you say but how you say it. Everyone
wants to be the centre of attention, but how can you be the centre of attention
when people don’t even know you are there?
One of the most awkward experiences is when someone is explaining something
to you but you can’t hear them because their voice is too quiet. So you ask them
to repeat what they said to you but still the same result. The only option now is
to pretend to understand what they said and nod your head as you smile, hoping
they didn’t ask you a question.
This person could be telling you the greatest story ever but since their voice is so
quiet you didn’t even hear it. He could be telling you about the time he had a
dance off with Michael Jackson while Jesus came down from the sky and shot
lasers from his fingers, and you just nodded and smiled.
Speaking in a quiet voice shows that you are insecure about what you are saying.
When you don’t project your voice people don’t give a shit about what you are
going to say. Whatever it is you’re going to say must be unimportant for you to
not project your voice.
The unattractive man is constantly insecure which is why he doesn’t project his
voice. He fears of being judged instead of speaking with confidence and volume.
When you are approaching a girl you want her to notice you straight away. If
you approach her saying ‘Hi’ in a very low voice, how is she going to know you
are talking to her?
If you approach her with a loud clear “Hey” she will instantly notice you
because she heard you. I am not saying you should scream in her ears so she
hears you but be clear and loud. Project your voice to get her attention.

Doesn’t Take Risks

This is one of the hardest traits to overcome. Taking risks is something that can’t
be learnt from reading a book or taking a course. You need to take action.
Overcoming your fear of taking risks can happen only through experience.
An unattractive guy always plays it safe. He won’t touch a girl in case she
doesn’t like it, he won’t say anything that has a slight chance of offending her
and worst of all, he never goes for the kiss. It is too much pressure for him.
I was this guy before I discovered how much women get turned on by guys who
take risks.
It’s no wonder the richest people in the world are also the biggest risk takers.
Everyone wants to be rich but no one wants to take the risk of losing money.
They could have applied for a normal 9 to 5 job and have a secure career and
income but instead they decided to risk it all for a better life.
Elon musk for example created Zip2 (research zip2) and sold it for 305 million
dollars. He didn’t save up that money neither did he spend it on materialistic
things. Instead he came up with an idea. He disliked how banks took a long time
to process money and was difficult to transfer money. So he created his own
online bank.
Very few people believed in his idea and that it would succeed. Everyone
doubted him even his investors. Elon musk could have given up on the idea, and
still have a few million in the bank but he didn’t. He took the risk. He used all of
his own money to fund his project. Every single penny he had was used to create
his online bank, PayPal. EBay wanted to have PayPal for themselves so they
bought it for $1.5 billion.
If Elon Musk didn’t take a risk he would have been a multi-millionaire, but since
he took the risk he became a billionaire.
Unattractive guys don’t take risks because they want everything to be safe. They
like their comfort zone. Awesome shit doesn’t happen in your comfort zone.
Next time you are talking to a girl and don’t know if you should touch her or o
for the kiss or even go for the number…do it. Take the risk and go for it. You
could have a great interaction and leave just like Elon Musk could have done,
and stayed a millionaire. You could however take the risk and become a
billionaire.
If you don’t kiss her then she doesn’t get that sexual desire because you are not a
very dominant individual. Girls like guys that take the lead and that are sure of
themselves. If you don’t take the risk you will never know what could have
been.
The main reason guys won’t take risks is because they don’t want to screw
things up and end up in the friend-zone. What they don’t realise is that not
establishing physical contact is what is going to get them in the friend-zone. We
will talk more about how to not end up in the friend-zone later on.

Submissive Behaviour
Submissive behaviour is when you let other people and things control you. If
you are not in charge, then you are submissive.
When you don’t take action towards something you want and you let other
people determine what you should do, that is submissive behaviour. This kind of
behaviour will turn women off. Women want a dominant man in their life. Men
have always been physically more dominant from an evolutionary standpoint.
We are genetically taller, bigger, have a more dominant voice.
The best way to tell if you are a submissive or dominant person is to pay
attention to your body language. The way you carry yourself and your
behaviours will subconsciously tell everyone around you if you are submissive
or dominant. We will talk more about how to attract women with your body
language.
Submissive guys are constantly asking for other people’s opinions. Asking
people’s opinions is polite. I recommend you do this only when you are around
your friends and family, not when you are trying to attract a girl. You should
always take the lead when interacting with girls. It is a huge turn on for girls
when you give her reassurance and take the lead.
Constantly asking people’s opinions shows insecurity and uncertainty. In some
cases, it can make you look needy. One of the neediest questions you can ask a
girl is if she likes you. Not only does this put pressure on the girl but it also
shows signs of insecurity.

Pretending to Be Someone You Are Not

There is no doubt about it, we have all met someone who is always trying to be
someone they are not. Whether they are trying to act richer or cooler than they
actually are, everyone has a slight dislike for these people because they are not
genuine.
I had a friend not long ago who would always try to act richer than he actually
was. He would tell everyone how he just bought a Mercedes but he is waiting for
a mechanic to check it and how he had a sponsorship with monster and was
making more money than we could imagine and that his parents bought him a
Rolex when he was 2 years old. His stories got more and more ridiculous as time
went on.
People could see through his bullshit and so did girls, which made them slowly
lose attraction for him. When you pretend to be someone you’re not it shows you
are ashamed of who you are and hide your true self to get the girls approval.
By showing you true self and your passions, even if they are not cool will attract
more like minded girls to you. If you are obsessed with Call of Duty but you
pretend like your too cool for video games, you will never find a girl to enjoy
video games with.
99% of guys out there think they need to be the “perfect guy” so they put on a
fake persona. They try to act cool and try to impress the girl. Not only is this
manipulative but women will see right through your fake personality. A girl is
much more attracted to a guy that is genuine, it shows confidence.

The Filter
The one thing that is keeping you from attracting the perfect 10s is fear. Guys
fear what women can do to their “reputation”. If they go up to a woman and get
rejected not only will it hurt them mentally but others around them will judge
him, or so he thinks. So they try to be the perfect guy and are afraid of
expressing themselves.
Most guys when talking to an attractive girl, everything they think of saying will
go through what I call “The Filter”. This is when you ask yourself some
questions to determine if what you say will make her reject you or not. ‘Is it
appropriate?’ ‘Will she feel offended?’ ‘Will this make her reject me?’ ‘Is this
her kind of humour?’ and so on and so on. Only if it passes “The Filter” will the
guy say it.
“The Filter” is what will keep you from being able to talk to girls freely. Unless
you stop using “The Filter” and start living in the moment instead of constantly
trying to figure out what to say next, you will never be able to have a good long
interaction with a girl.
The reason we filter out what we want to say is because we don’t know how to
recover from bad situations. That is what game is all about. The difference
between guys that are good with girls and guys that are not, is their ability to
recover from a bad situation. For example, if you say something that offends the
girl you will most likely freeze up and feel like a terrible human being. The girl
will leave you and now you are stuck there in the middle of the club looking for
another girl.
The man with game will be able to recover from offending the girl and still
manage to make her want to stay. He will be able to continue flirting with her
even though he just offended her. This is why game is a skill and it can be learnt.
An unattractive guy will never show that he disagrees with a woman’s point of
view in fear of upsetting her. This is “The Filter” taking place and stopping him
from sharing his opinions. The submissive guy will hold back his true thoughts
which in turn doesn’t give him the opportunity to offer anything of value to the
conversation. In reality, challenging and teasing a girl is the fastest way to build
attraction, not constantly agreeing with her and filtering out everything you want
to say.

The Nice Guy
We have all hear this label being thrown around and I admit I used to be “The
Nice Guy”, but it wasn’t my fault. Society is constantly telling us that we need to
be a gentleman towards the girl if we want her affection.
We are bombarded with romantic films about love at first sight and expensive
dates, the guy opening the door for the woman, drowning her in compliments,
buying her flowers and necklaces and just overall being nice to her. Usually by
the end of the movie the guy is rewarded by his kindness and has sex with the
girl and gets in a long term relationship with her.
That’s what I used to believe attraction was like until I got rejected so many
times that I realised Hollywood has gotten it all wrong. When I read my first
“pick up” book, I thought to myself “There is no way these techniques work on
girls”. I would read techniques like ‘negging’ and ‘backhanded compliments’
where you give a compliment along with an insult. For example, you could say
to the girl ‘I like your shirt my 8-year old sister has the same one’.
These techniques are outdated no. We are living in the 21st century which is why
I created this book. Most men’s dating books talk about techniques that legends
like “Mystery” and “Style (Neil Strauss) used to use a decade ago. I have learnt
more about women from old school pick up books and applying what I learnt,
than I have from the internet or movies.
One quick search on Google on “How to attract women” shows that the number
one result is a wiki how article. If you click on it you will be shown advice such
as “listen to her”, “get to know her” and “be a good friend”. This advice will
land you in the friend-zone. The whole point of the search was to learn how to
not be friends with women.
Nice is good for making friends, not for having sex and attracting hot women.
The reason nice guys finish last is because nice guys are boring. To attract a
woman, you need to give her emotions of excitement and adrenaline and sexual
tension. You cannot achieve this by ‘being nice’ and putting her on a pedestal.
Most women don’t consciously know what they are attracted to in a guy. The
truth is women are attracted to dominance. They are attracted to guys that can
give them a mixture of emotions and make them aroused. They want a guy that
isn’t afraid to take risks. They want a real man.
When you confront girls and ask them what attracts them they will say they
attracted to kind, funny guys. If that is true why do we see all the nice guys
getting rejected left and right while the cocky, ‘bad boy’ is getting all the girls.
If you don’t believe me then ask a female family member what attracts them in a
guy. I am sure the answers they will give you are along the lines of “I want him
to be nice, kind, funny, etc.”. Every woman’s answer will be the same because
this is what society has programed them to say.
Women’s biggest fear is being seen as a slut and in today’s world it is easier than
ever for women to be slut shamed. Knowing the power of slut shaming puts you
ahead of 99% of the guys out there.
There is a difference between what women want and what women are attracted
to. What women want is the qualities a woman wants in a guy she will enter a
long term relationship with to have. What women are attracted to is what
qualities the guy has that turns her on.
That’s why you should never ask for dating advice from women. They will not
tell you what qualities of a man gets her attracted to him or turns them on in fear
of being slut shamed. Instead you should ask guys who are good with girls. We
will talk about how to become the guy women want in the next chapter.

You don’t ask the fish how to catch fish, you ask the fisherman.

Society has made us believe that all guys that are good with girls are
manipulative. If you are a guy that sleeps around often with girls, then you are
automatically labelled in societies eyes as a player. Almost everyone believes
that men who attract loads of women are manipulative. This is far from the truth.
If you truly are good with girls and know how to attract them then you don’t
need to manipulate them. Women are intelligent, it is very hard to manipulate
them. Players don’t just go up to a girl, say one line and POOF! magically end
up having sex with them. No girl has ever told a guy after sex “you manipulated
me into being attracted to you”
Manipulation and attraction are two completely different things.
What sounds more manipulative?
A guy that walks up to a girl, talks and flirts with her, has a good time with the
girl which in turns makes the girl have a good time and then proceeding to have
sex since they are both attracted to each other.
Or
A guy walks up to a girl and buys her the most expensive drink at the bar in
return hoping for her approval. Then proceeds to agree with her on everything
she says so she doesn’t get mad and maybe getting the reward of sex for being
really nice to the girl.
“Nice guys” are the manipulative ones and there is one main difference that
distinguishes the nice guy from the attractive guy.
The Attractive Guys gives value in the form of fun. He is constantly having fun
and being himself. When approaching a girl his mind-set is “I am having fun, I
can offer you some of my fun. if you don’t want it that’s okay”. This is what
makes the attractive guy so attractive. If you have this mind-set every time you
talk to a girl and get rejected, you will never get hurt.
The nice guy on the other hand is always taking value. He has nothing to offer
the girl so he is obviously talking to her to get something from her, which is
usually sex. The nice guy is always suspicious. In the girls head she is thinking
“why is this guy buying me a drink when he doesn’t even know me?” or “why is
this guy being so nice to me when he doesn’t even know me?”. The answer to
both these questions are because the nice guy always wants sex from the girl,
and women can sense that.

In conclusion if any of these characteristics apply to you whether you are a nice
guy or are constantly worrying about people’s opinions of you, there is always
time to change. No matter how many of these traits you possess you can still
change for the better and become the guy women obsess over.
You need to be honest with yourself and understand which characteristics apply
to you and write them down. Now it is time to talk about what truly attracts
women and how you can become the man women obsess over.

 The Behaviours of the Attractive Man and How
to Become Him

If I ask you to name a movie character that is widely known for being a male sex
symbol who would you think of? For me it is definitely James Bond, more
precisely the Daniel Craig portrayal of the character.
What makes this character so attractive to women isn’t the way he is dressed or
that he drives an Aston Martin. It is the way he acts. The way he carries himself,
the way he speaks, his behaviour, his attitude and many more.
You can become the attractive man even if all the characteristics we talked about
in the previous chapter apply to you. Even if you are the stereotypical “guy who
lives in his mom’s basement playing video games all day” you can still become
the attractive man. I know this because that’s who I used to be.
Since the core characteristic of the unattractive man is neediness, the main
attractive trait of the attractive man is non-neediness. Everything he does he does
it in a non-needy way. That’s what makes him so desirable.

He Isn’t the Nice Guy

There is a big misconception about the nice guy and the bad boy. The nice guy is
always portrayed as a weird, creepy, insecure guy. The bad boy is always
portrayed as this mean, handsome guy who is horrible to everyone around him
including girls.
This creates the illusion that you must act horribly towards women to get their
attention and affection. A truly attractive man is not needy like the nice guy and
is not a dick like the bad boy. He is his own category. If you truly want to
become attractive to women, you need to stop being the nice guy.

He Compliments the Girl Appropriately
The attractive man never showers the girl in compliments then it seems like he is
putting her on a pedestal. One compliment isn’t a problem but when you give
compliment after compliment after compliment the girl will be thinking “what
does he want from me?”. You must offer value to a girl in order to attract
women.
Imagine you go to by a car and the salesman approaches you and immediately
starts complimenting you. “I like your shoes”, “That is a very nice shirt”, “You
will look perfect with this car”. You won’t take the compliments at heart since
you know he is only complimenting you to sell you a car and make a few
dollars. The same goes for girls. Too many compliments will come across as
creepy and manipulative
The nice guy showers a girl in compliments expecting to gain the woman’s
attention in return. The attractive guy gives a compliment expecting nothing in
return.
Hot girls get complimented all the time by guys because that is what everyone is
telling them to do. The more compliments guys give to the hot girls the more the
will “like them”. Try limiting your compliments to one. This will not only make
the compliment seem more genuine but the girl will appreciate it more.
You should never compliment a girl on her looks when you approach her
especially if she is really hot. Hot girls are treated as objects in today’s society.
If the first thing that comes out your mouth when you approach a girl is a
compliment, then you are automatically the same as every other guy that tried to
approach her. We will talk more about how to approach girls later.
If you don’t compliment the girl subconsciously she will be thinking “Wait this
guy hasn’t said anything about how attractive I am. He must not see me just for
my looks”.
Not complimenting her and not giving her validation makes you seem superior
than her because you are not putting her on a pedestal like every other guy.
Limit you compliments. Make them original and unique to the girl. Something
like “I love your tattoo” or “I like your style” is a much more effective
compliment.

He Knows How to Give the Girl the Right Emotions
The attractive man is constantly changing the girl’s emotions by teasing her and
challenging her. This give more depth to their conversation unlike the
unattractive man who constantly agrees with everything she says.
Challenging and teasing her gives her positive and negative emotions. The
interaction with the attractive guy makes her feel a rollercoaster of emotions
which makes her attracted to the guy. His questions and interactions are exciting.
The rollercoaster of emotions keeps the girl wondering whether he actually likes
her or not. This is what creates that “spark” between the man and the woman.
Even if he really likes the girl he will keep that information to himself because
admitting it too early on will make him look needy and desperate.
We will talk more on how to give girls the right emotions through teasing,
challenging and storytelling later on.

He Spends Little Money
The attractive man doesn’t have to buy the girls affection in any way shape or
form no matter how rich he is. He understands that attraction isn’t bought.
He spends very little money if not at all on dates with girls because he knows
that a date with a girl isn’t about the expensive dinner or the surrounding. It’s
about the quality of time they spend together. His company is what makes the
girl want to go out on a date with him not the fact that she gets free food or
coffee.
I have known many guys that try to manipulate women into thinking they are
rich just so they can “get a chance” at sleeping with them. By not buying
expensive things for girls you eliminate all the gold-diggers from your life and
only keep girls that are truly worth keeping.

He Lives Life On His Own Terms

The attractive man is not insecure therefore he doesn’t get affected by other
people’s opinions. His mood doesn’t change just because a girl said something
negative about him. He just brushes the comment off and continue to have fun.
He always has a carefree attitude because he understands that his life is his own
and he can doesn’t need people’s “permission” to do what he wants. If he sees an
attractive girl he will go talk to her and since he is carefree and other people’s
opinions don’t affect him, he isn’t concerned about getting rejected.
When someone makes a joke about him, he won’t cry about it or even get upset.
He will either come back with another joke or just smile and laugh about it. His
carefree attitude portrays his confidence making him irresistible to women.
A great way you can become more confident is to conquer some of your fears
and get out of your comfort zone. Do something that puts the attention on you.
I remember I was at a college party and I really wanted to dance on stage but I
was so insecure about what people would think of me that I asked advice from
the most confident guy I knew. This guy was overweight, had bucked teeth, read
comics books all day, wore glasses and needed a haircut, yet he still poured his
heart and soul into dancing on that stage and people loved him for it. By the end
of the girls would approach him instead of the other way around.
I asked him “How are you so confident?” he replied “Why the fuck do you care
what people think. Do what makes you happy”.
I asked myself why do I care what people think but I couldn’t find a logical
answer. I realised that it was all in my mind.
I thought that women judged you for being weird but I find that if you are
enjoying yourself and are amusing yourself then the women would be attracted
to you no matter what you are doing.
One Saturday night me and my friend where hanging out with some girls and we
passed by a pub which had a sign outside that read “Karaoke Night on Saturday
9:00pm”. We both looked each other and said we have to do it; we would regret
it if we didn’t.
So we did. 2 hours later karaoke night started and we were ready to go to the pub
and sing in front of an audience. We were so scared of going up on that stage but
we knew we had to do it. We were about to sing karaoke in front of a whole
audience and two super attractive girls we brought with us.
We went up on stage and we both thought “Fuck it we are up here, might as well
have as much fun as we can”. We sang the cheesiest song we could think of. “I
want it that way” by the Backstreet Boys.
We both grabbed the microphone and sang our hearts out. In that moment we did
not care about the people who were judging us or how terrible our voice was.
We were living in the moment. We ended up taking our shirts off and literally
“performing” the song. We did the boy band hand movements and the spins
topless.
The whole crowd roared and loved that we were so carefree, so did the girls. The
girls instantly became 10x more attracted to us, not because we sang a cheesy
song with our terrible voices but because we didn’t give a shit what people
thought. The girls started becoming more flirtatious with us and we could tell
that they were much more attracted to us after the karaoke.
Cool shit happens out of your comfort zone. I suggest if you want to gain more
confidence karaoke is a brilliant way. You can go by yourself or with a friend
but I don’t want you to sing and dance like there are people around. I want you
to express yourself. I want you to not give a shit. Pretend like you are in your
bathroom by yourself, people will love you for it because it rips them out of their
reality for a few moments. Your energy and happiness will be reflected on them.

He Is Dominant
The attractive man rarely displays submissive behaviour. He is dominant in all
areas of his life and puts himself and the people he cares about first.
I have noticed that when a man mentions he is a CEO of a company women
always look surprised or intrigued for half a second. What makes CEO’s so
attractive is that they are leaders. They are the dominant ones in the company
since they control everything that goes on in their company.
Christian Grey from the bestselling book ‘50 Shades of Grey’ is irresistible to
women not because he wears a suit and is rich but because he is dominant in and
outside the bedroom.
He always pursues what he desires. If he sees an attractive woman in a club, he
will be the one approaching her. He won’t hesitate and ask himself if he should.
He wants her so he takes her. He would never ask someone else to approach the
girl for him, this is a very childish thing to do and you should never do it.
Another way he shows his dominance is by taking risks that most guys wouldn’t
take. In our case he isn’t afraid to go for the kiss because he doesn’t care about
rejection. To the attractive man the potential reward of taking the risk is much
better than not taking the risk at all.
His body language tells the people around him that he is a dominant man which
makes women subconsciously attracted to him. There are many ways to show
women you are a dominant man with your body language. We will talk more
about how to attract women using your body language later on.
To become more dominant, you must start taking the lead. Even the little things
will help you slowly get the hang of being a leader. If your friends are unsure of
what place to eat you should take the lead and say “we are eating pizza tonight”
or whatever you think is most appropriate for the situation.
Being dominant and being controlling are very different things. Being dominant
is being a leader. Being controlling however is always having things your way.
Be a leader, not a control freak.

He Expresses His Opinions Freely
The attractive man does not hold back on expressing his opinion even if other
people don’t agree with him. Sometimes he risks offending the person he is
talking to with his opinion but he understands that you can’t please everyone and
not everyone will like him. An attractive man isn’t a people pleaser.
Women find him attractive because he challenges their opinions and views, and
teases them. They subconsciously pick up on his dominant and carefree
behaviour which in turn makes the attractive man more desirable to them.
The fact that he doesn’t agree with everything the woman says makes him stand
out from 99% of guys. His teasing along with his non-needy attitude creates
attraction between him and the woman.
When you express your opinions freely, you have more interesting conversations
with women. You could be arguing with a woman about cats because you share
different views and the conversation will still be more interesting than if you
agreed with her view on cats.

He Is Who He Is
What makes anyone attractive is them being genuine. The attractive man is
always genuine and never pretends to be someone he is not. Even if he is having
a bad day he will not pretend to be having the best day of his life.
The same goes for when he is talking to women. If he is tired and sees an
attractive woman, he will approach the woman and straight up say he is tired. He
will not go up to the woman and pretend like he has all the energy in the world.
Pretending to be in a different mood than you actually are is a form of and
women will definitely tell when you are not being real. Women can read body
language way better than men. Always be genuine and embrace how you feel.
When talking to women don’t pretend to be someone you are not or pretend to
be in a mood you are not just to impress a girl. Be real with yourself then be real
with the girl. No matter how good you think you can hide it a girl will sense that
something is off which will kill all attraction for you.
He knows that he is not perfect and that nobody is perfect but he accepts his
imperfections. I have seen overweight; short guys get good looking girls. How
can this be? Because they embraced that they are short or overweight. Then they
understood that their imperfection can’t be solved within the next minute so they
accepted who they are and move on.
I have a big nose and I used to feel insecure about it. I realised that unless I get
plastic surgery I can’t change my nose so I might as well just embrace the fact I
have a big nose. I approached a girl once and as we were talking she wanted to
see if I really was as confident as I seemed so she tried to say something
negative about me to get a reaction.
“Your nose is massive” she said. I replied with “It’s because I lie a lot”.
She laughed at the fact that I didn’t give a shit. I wasn’t insecure because I
realise that yeah I have a big nose and there is nothing I can do about it. I ended
up bringing that girl home and the rest is history.
Don’t let your insecurities get the better of you. Think about what insecurities
you have and if you can’t fix them within 1 minute then I want you to realise
that there is nothing you can do about it. People don’t notice your insecurities as
much as you. If they don’t like you for who you are, great because you can find
people that do.

He Is Social
The attractive man is a very social person, that is part of what makes him
attractive. The fact that he has many friends or that he is always seen with a few
people surrounding him gives him an almost celebrity like look.
He is definitely a person you would want to be around since everyone else
always is. We want what other people want. Subconsciously when we see a large
group of people around one person, we want to be part of that group too. It
sparks our curiosity and makes you think “Who is that guy?”.
There was a time in my life where I had 6 dollars in my wallet and I went out to
have fun with friends. I paid 2 dollars for a bus and 4 dollars for a sandwich. I
left the club having consumed 3 shots, one vodka with an energy drink and a pint
of beer, worth 30 dollars. How? Social proof. I knew the bartender and all the
drinks where free for me.
Having social proof will not only get you free drinks but it will make the girl
trust you more when you are leaving the club together. Social proof will greatly
increase your attraction towards the girl. We will talk more about social proof
and exactly how to build social value later on.
Being social isn’t a gift or something you were born with. It is a skill you
develop over time. Most people nowadays with their eyes glued to their
smartphones all day have lost the ability to socialise well. There is one simple
step you can take to become more social in no time.
Talk to people every day.
Make sure you are constantly befriending and talking to people wherever you
go. It might seem like people will find you annoying but they will be glad they
met someone new, especially if you are a cool guy.
Talk to anyone, it doesn’t have to be an attractive girl, it could be the bus driver
or a person at a club or even the staff at the coffee place you buy your espresso
from. Constantly find new people to talk to.
Meeting new people in our everyday lives will show you that it is ok to talk to
strangers. We are all strangers until you say ‘Hi’. You will quickly overcome
your fear of talking to people you don’t know and you will slowly transition
from normal people to attractive girls in no time.
When people are out in public they tend to disconnect themselves from the
world around them by keeping their eyes on their phone screen and their
headphones plugged in their ears.
If you want to start a conversation with someone to befriend them, you should
always start by complimenting them on something they are wearing or
something they are doing. For example, compliment a guy’s watch or a girl
reading a book on the bus. Not many people read books nowadays.
Socialise. Talk to people and you never know who you might meet or how they
can benefit you in your life.

He Can Make Fun of Himself

The attractive man always has a great sense of humour but what makes him
stand out is that he never uses other people as the butt of the joke.
He always manages to make people laugh in a matter of seconds. This doesn’t
mean that he acts like a clown for other people enjoyment. In fact, making fun of
yourself in front of others can make you seem submissive if done too often.
If you make fun of yourself the right way, it shows that you’re are not trying to
validate yourself. If you do it too much it will seem like you are diminishing
yourself and saying “I am not good enough”.
A good way to show that you are making fun of yourself is too add a little smile
or laugh about what you said to show that you weren’t serious and are not taking
yourself too seriously.
Whether you’re the funny guy in the group or you seem to always be the guy in
the background listening to other people’s jokes, there is always room for you to
be funnier. I owe most of my fast comebacks and jokes to the comedians I used
to watch as a kid.
My dream was to become a world renowned comedian and star in my own
movies and sell out massive stadiums. I would watch Kevin hart and Louis CK
and cry of laughter. I would think to myself I want to be like them. So I started
studying comedians to figure out how they structure a joke and how they tell
stories.
My dream of becoming a comedian slowly faded away. I am grateful though
because it left me with knowledge about comedy which has greatly helped me
on becoming funnier. With friends and with girls.
Many stand-up comedians are good with women because they always have
something funny to say, it’s their job. Take comedian Craig Ferguson for
example. He is constantly flirting with women on TV and he is good at it
because of his years of experience on being a comedian. You will not find an
interview where he doesn’t make a woman laugh.
Everything he says that can be classed as sexual is subtle and he always uses
wordplay to keep his flirting mysterious. No matter what the girl says he always
has the perfect thing to say back to make her laugh.
I strongly recommend you watch Craig Ferguson flirting with famous actresses
on his interviews.

High Social Status
I want you to visualise a club full of men and women. Everyone is dancing
having a good time in their own little groups. Then suddenly a guy walks in the
club by himself and a girl greets him upon his entrance. After talking to her for
10 seconds he starts walking to the bar only to be greeted by the DJ. As he
continues walking to the bar a group of girls and guys come and greet him.
Finally, as he gets to the bar the barman shakes his hand and gives him a drink
for free. At this point you are probably think “Who is this guy?”. This is what
women are thinking. He could be the poorest, skinniest, ugliest guy in the room,
but what makes him so desirable to women is that he has social value.
Everyone knows him so in the woman’s eyes he is like a celebrity. Even though
he came to the club by himself unlike everyone else in the club, women pick up
that he has high social value.

He Has Experience with Women
I know you are probably thinking that women should dislike the guy that sleeps
around with a lot of women because he is most likely manipulating them and he
will do the same to other women. Well people are like sheep. They like what
other people like.
Many times people will buy things or like things because they get popular, it
becomes a trend. People are easily influenced by other people.
If he sleeps with a lot of women, he is obviously desired by a lot of women
causing even more women to want him. You can replicate this effect by
establishing high social value in bars and clubs.
If you have a group of girls surrounding you at a bar, you will seem more
attractive than a guy surrounded by a bigger group of guys. Women want what
other women want.

He Is a Storyteller
A cool guy can easily stand out from the crowd by the way he tells stories. Have
you ever had someone tell you a story of something that happened but gets it all
mixed up? It’s horrible. He tells you what happened then he tells you the
location then he tells you the people that where there and you just get confused
and don’t understand the story.
Sometimes he will tell the story wrong and have to start all over again, other
times he will give you too much information about the story that doesn’t even
contribute to the main story. I have had experiences where someone starts a story
and then changes conversation halfway through.
The attractive man can tell stories effectively and with clarity You should always
start your stories with the characters, then the location, then you tell what
happens in order. You can sometimes say the location first then the characters
involved in the story.
If you want to keep mystery in the story don’t reveal the ending halfway through
your story leave it till the end. For example, if you want to talk about the time
you saw Michael Jackson in a club don’t say “one time I saw Michael Jackson in
a club”. Boring!
Instead you should say “A few years ago I was at this club in Hollywood with a
couple of friends of mine. As we were dancing I noticed someone I recognised
but I wasn’t quite sure who it was. So I decided to start walking towards the
person only to see them stop to talk to the bartender. I wanted to get a closer
look to figure out who it was so I pretended like I needed to buy a beer so I can
get close to the bartender. I look over and I see…Michael Jackson. I couldn’t
believe it.”
That story was much more intriguing than the simple statement “I met Michael
Jackson”. It made the person listening to the story feel like they were there and
the fact that you didn’t reveal who the mysterious person was made the same
thoughts that went through your head that night go through their head. At the
end of that story they would feel as if they were the ones who met Michael
Jackson.
Another mistake I see when trying to tell a funny story is that most guys don’t
understand how to use punchlines. What makes us laugh is when something is
unexpected? You will not get a laugh if your listener can predict what is going to
happen.
Watch a few stand-up comedians and listen to how they structure their stories
and routines. There is always unpredictability which is what makes everyone
laugh. They also take their time telling their story to create more suspense and
build up to the punchlines.
Of course to be able to tell cool stories you need to have good stories. You can’t
have cool stories to tell if you always stay at home and always stay in your
comfort zone. Get out, experience things, do things you wouldn’t normally do
and you will have endless interesting stories to tell.
If you are able to tell stories effectively and engage a woman’s emotions by
doing so, women will be so much more attracted to you.

He Has Passions
Whether it is his work, his business, a sport or even video games the attractive
man always has passions and ambitions. When a person has a goal, a passion or
an ambition he has purpose.
What makes the typical “living in your mom’s basement, playing video games”
guy unattractive, is that he has no passion or goals to achieve. He is stuck in his
pointless everyday routine.
It does not matter what your passions or ambitions are the woman will still find
it attractive that you have passions. The least interesting people are the ones who
have no passions. Every conversation with them is boring and you can’t truly
connect with them.
You don’t have to have the same passions and ambitions as the girl to attract her.
Everyone has passions but not everyone wants to share their passion. This could
be because they are self-conscious about sharing their passions in fear of other
people judging them.
For me, my passion is supercars. My love for supercars is indescribable. Cars is
a popular passion amongst guys so I can connect with other guys easily if we
share a similar interest. Most of the times I will talk to girls about cars because I
love sharing my passion and girls respond to that, even if they have no clue
about supercars.
They see that I get excited and my face lights up when I talk about cars which
makes them light up and enjoy my company more. People mirror each other’s
emotion.

His Time Is Valuable
What makes something valuable is the limited supply of it. What makes Black
Friday so valuable to us is the fact that it only comes once a year. Not only is the
day limited but so is the stock of products. A Rolex from 50 years ago can be
sold for 5 times the price of a brand new Rolex. Why? Because the brand new
Rolex’s are made every day whereas a Rolex from 50 years ago is rare and
limited.
Anything can become valuable as long as there is limited supply or is hard to
get. Let’s say there are 2 pieces of paper. One piece of paper is your normal,
average piece of paper from a normal tree. The other piece of paper is from a
specific type of tree. There are only 30 trees of this specific type and it only
grows in a very specific part of Africa. This makes the seconds piece of paper
way more valuable even though they are both just paper.
What makes an attractive man so valuable? The answer is his time. Guys who
are always available are way less attractive than guys who are busy most of the
times. The fact that the attractive guy is busy shows that he has an interesting
life.
Since he has little time available, he is perceived as more valuable and the time
you spend with him is more valuable than if he was available at any time. If you
want to become more interesting, have a more interesting life you can make your
free time more valuable by getting a hobby.
Exercising is a great way to make yourself busier plus, it makes you healthier.
Also get a hobby that you will enjoy, it could be anything. If your hobby is
sketching get a course on how to sketch human faces, if your hobby is football
go out and play football or become part of your local team. Try to always keep
learning to keep yourself busy.
If you didn’t have your hobby you would have most likely be at home wasting
your life away and worrying about things that you shouldn’t worry about. If you
limit your free time you wouldn’t spend it with a girl you are not attracted to
creating abundance in your life therefore attracting more girl to you, since you
will be less needy.

His Voice
An attractive man isn’t afraid to express his opinions therefore his voice is
always attention grabbing and clear. He doesn’t shout but he speaks in a high
enough volume to grab your attention and keep your attention.
If you ever see videos of people giving a presentation or have ever been to a
presentation or seminar, you know that it doesn’t really matter what the
presentation is about, it’s about how the person presents it. If the presenter has
bad body language and a low voice not only will you not hear anything he is
saying you wouldn’t get anything out of the presentation.

He Never Judges Others
Judging isn’t a way to show you are better than someone else, it is simply a way
to show your insecurities. By being critical of other people’s behaviours or looks
you only project what you are not happy about on yourself.
Judging is a way for toxic people to feel better about themselves. It is a selfish
thing to do. Instead of judging people look at their positives and even
compliment them on their positives. This way you have a positive mind-set and
might be able to make a new friend. This will make you seem like a much more
confident and charming person.

He Admits to His Mistakes

What makes a man seem more confident and in control of himself is admitting to
his mistakes. This is one of the hardest and rarest qualities you will find on
anyone.
People hate being wrong and even when they are told they are wrong or proven
so, they still try to play it off like they were right all along. Very rarely will
people admit to their mistakes.
My mum for example will never admit to her mistakes. She will either play the
role of the victim or she will try to play it off like it’s no big deal. In short, she
always uses excuses to cover up her mistakes. This is what most people do.
You are to blame for most things happening in your life and only you can
control whether you will take full responsibility for your mistakes or whether to
blame it on someone else and make yourself feel better.
An attractive man always admits to his mistakes and never blames other people
for his problems. This shows that he is a very positive and independent person
which is attractive to women.
I suggest you start becoming a self-blamer. Ever since I started to see that I was
the reason most of the things in my life weren’t working I started to become a
happier person because I figured out that I was in control, nobody else.
It wasn’t destiny that I was single and had no girls in my life, it was the fact that
I stayed at home all day playing video games instead of going out and meeting
girls. It wasn’t god that made me poor, it was the fact that I had no job and
wasn’t doing anything to get a job.
Blame yourself and start admitting to your mistakes. If you want things to
change in your life you must take action. If you want more money you need to
be willing to put in the work. If you want a job you shouldn’t give your CV to 5
places expecting an answer, you should give it to 30 places.
If you want more girls in your life you need to get off your butt, go out and
approach girls. Stop blaming everyone else for your inability to attract women.
Once you finish this book you will have all the knowledge on attracting women
you will ever need. You will not have any excuse to hold you back.
In conclusion, no matter what type of guy you are “The Submissive Guy, The
Unattractive Man or The Nice Guy” you can become more attractive. It won’t be
easy and it won’t be fast but it will be worth it. If you start implementing
attractive behaviours to your character, you will start to attract more women that
you could possibly imagine.



The Body Language of the Attractive Man

Body language attributes to roughly 70% of all communication. Most people

don’t know how to read body language but their subconscious mind does. Have
you ever met someone but had a feeling that something about them was off?
That was because their body language didn’t reflect what they were saying.
If you saw a man walking down the street with his head held up high, his walk
full of energy and his chest pumped out you would think “This guy looks so
confident”. That is what women are thinking.
Your body is constantly reflecting what you are truly thinking. In this chapter I
will not go in depth about every little gesture means. You can read books on
body language for that and I strongly recommend you do so. I will be talking
about how to attract more women using body language and how to control your
thoughts and feelings by adjusting your body language.

Holds Strong Eye Contact
I put eye contact at the top of the list since I think it is the most important.
People that don’t study body language will not look at your feet or how your
arms are placed but they will definitely notice your eyes.
When I was struggling with girls I also used to struggle with holding eye
contact, not just with girls but with everyone. It was very difficult for me. It felt
awkward and uncomfortable. I just wanted to look away. Whenever I tried to
hold eye contact my eyes would start to tear up which was even more
embarrassing.
Girls can instantly tell how confident you are based on the amount of eye contact
you give to them. Your eye contact signifies your dominance. When guys
approach an attractive girl, they get nervous so their eyes start to dart around all
over the place. This shows the girl that you are shy and insecure. Girls are
attracted to dominance and confidence. If you want to show you’re a dominant,
attractive guy you must hold eye contact with the girl.
If your eyes dart around when talking to girls, you will come off as a bit creepy.
Imagine if someone came up to you and asked if you could spare some change
but his eyes where constantly darting around. It will cause you to get suspicious
of him and end up not giving him money.
No matter how good you think you can portray confidence, if you don’t hold eye
contact with the girl, you are subconsciously showing her your nervousness. You
can say the perfect thing and she could be turned on but once she picks up on
your fidgety eye contact, she will want to avoid you because you will seem
creepy and weird.
Women don’t want to be around nervous, shy, creepy looking guys. They want a
self-confident man and what better way to show your confidence than using
strong eye contact.
When a girl looks at you, you will feel the urge to look away because that is
what you have been socially conditioned to do. DON’T. Hold strong eye contact
for at least 3 seconds then look away. I know 3 seconds seems like a lot and it
can guarantee you it will feel like hours. In the end it will be worth it because the
girl will not be able to stop looking at you.
I am not saying you should glue your eyes on the girl eyes and never look away.
Don’t do that. That will raise her creep-o-meter and you will make her feel super
uncomfortable.
Try turning eye contact into a habit. At the start you will feel very uncomfortable
but over time you will become better and better at it.

Open Body Language
Another way to see if a guy is submissive or dominant is to see if his body
language is closed or open. Closed body language is when you feel
uncomfortable and you are protecting yourself. Open body language is more
inviting which makes you more likable.
Examples of closed body language:
Bad posture (Hunched shoulders)
Crossed arms
Minimal, fidgety eye contact
Head Down
Examples of open body language:
Good posture (Shoulders apart, straight back)
Open arms, revealing the chest area
Strong eye contact
Head and chin up

Bad posture is when you are hunched over otherwise known as nerd neck, or
your shoulders are curling up. This makes you seem smaller and less dominant.
An attractive man stands up straight with his shoulders far apart. He keeps his
head straight and chin up. It shows self-confidence and dominance.
When you cross your arms it is subconsciously communicating to others that you
don’t want anyone to talk to you. Your arms create an invisible barrier in a way,
that is saying you want to be alone right now. If you ever picture a person
getting mad or disappointed, you will most likely picture them with their arms
crossed.
From an evolutionary standpoint we cross are arms when feeling threatened
because that way we protect our chest. Our chest protects the most vital organs
in our body. Our arms act as a second shield for protection of our most important
organs.
The attractive man exposes his chest which makes him subconsciously seem
more inviting and non-threatening. When you are talking to girls try to keep your
arms away from your chest. Women will pick up on your inviting body language
which will make them more receptive to you.

Space
The way apes show their dominance is by taking up as much space as possible.
This is also true for humans. You can tell the “Alpha Males” from the “Beta
Males” by the amount of space they take. The more space they take the more
dominant they are.
When submissive guys have closed body language they automatically take as
little space as possible. When The Attractive Man has open body language, he
automatically takes up more space.

No matter how good you are at noticing your body language flaws, there are
always going to be times where you slip up, and that’s fine. You can’t always
control your body language because it is part of your subconscious brain. Your
body language reacts faster than your brain can stop it.
Body language is so important that if you fake it for long enough, your brain will
alter your feelings based on your body language.
I was recently watching a documentary on body language that tested this theory
out to see if faking your body language actually affected your confidence. They
decided to create a study.
They gathered 10 volunteers and split them into 2 groups consisting of 5
members for each group. Both groups where going to bungee jump for the first
time. The only difference being there body language before the jump.
The first group went up and all 5 members stood on the edge of the surface ready
to bungee jump. They were asked to curl up into a ball on the floor for 2
minutes. So they did. After the 2 minutes was over they were asked to jump
whenever they felt comfortable.
Then the second group was asked to come up but instead of curling up in a ball
for 2 minutes they were asked to stand straight, chin up and their hands spread
out created a “V”. They recreated the pose rocky made when he reached the top
of the stairs. After 2 minutes of standing in that pose they were asked to jump
whenever they felt comfortable.
The results? The people who held their hand in a “V” pose jumped twice as fast
as the people who curled up in a ball. This is because their body language was
associated with their confidence. The “V” pose expressed confident open body
language while curling up expressed closed insecure body language.
If you fake your body language long enough your confidence and emotions will
adapt based on your body language. If you portray the body language of the
attractive man when you are in public, not only will girls be more receptive and
attracted to you, you will also feel more confident and powerful.
Stand up straight, walk with confidence and keep your chest exposed.

 How to Approach Women Without Being
Creepy

Now that you have familiarized yourself with what women find attractive, it is
time to start approaching some women.
Society tells us that the way to meet the woman of our dreams is either through
work or social circles. The harsh reality is that sometimes guys aren’t attracted to
the girls in their social circles. This leaves you with a very limited option of girls
to choose from. It is hard to meet “the one” when you can only choose between
10 women.
What happens when you date a girl in your social circle or work and it suddenly
doesn’t start working out and you break up or stop dating? Work will be
extremely awkward and so will some of your friendships.

Approaching Girls Throughout the Day
The PUA’s (Pick Up Artists) refer to approaching women throughout the day as
“Day game”. Day game is an hour or so session where guys specifically go out
to meet women. I dislike this mentality.
Guys should talk to girls throughout the day because they want to not because
it’s the session where they’re supposed to talk to girls. When you devote an hour
of your day to go out and talk to girls you are preparing yourself on what to say
and how to act and you dress appropriately. What happens when you go to grab
a coffee in the morning, haven forgotten to brush your teeth and your hair is all
messed up, and suddenly see a girl you want to talk to?
You will freeze up and start to make excuses like “It’s not my session so I don’t
have to talk to her” or “I forgot to brush my teeth”. You need to be able to attract
women no matter what the situation. Whenever I approach a girl throughout the
day whether it is at the bus stop or at a shop I do it because I genuinely find her
attractive, not because it is the time to do so.
If you are an absolute beginner, you might think “I will go out for an hour and
talk to as many girls as I can to get over my fear and start getting good at
approaching”. The only problem is that because you are a beginner, it will be
scary and since you are forcing yourself to approach girls.
The first time you will ever feel the want to approach a girl, you will feel the
urge to procrastinate. You will feel like your heart is about to explode out of
your chest, your whole body will start shaking, you will start to come up with
excuses as to why you shouldn’t talk to the girl and in the end if you let fear take
over you will not talk to the girl. At that very moment you decide whether you
want your life to change by approaching the girl or whether you want to stay as
you are now.
Even if you get rejected you will feel amazing. You will have conquered one of
the biggest fears men have. You will have done what 99% of men would never
dare to do.

Things You Should Never Do
You should never wolf whistle at a girl. It is one of the lowest self-esteem thing
you could possibly do. Nothing screams neediness more than a wolf whistle. Not
only are you harassing the girl and making her feel really uncomfortable, you are
also making yourself look like a wimp. What you are telling the girl when you
wolf whistle at her is “I don’t have the confidence to talk to you so I am going to
make weird noises at you in hopes of you noticing me”.
One more thing. Before you approach the girl or as you are approaching the girl,
make sure you take your sunglasses off. When people can see each other’s eyes
it builds a layer of trust. If you keep them on it will feel like you are hiding
something. They say that the eyes are the windows to your soul. Also it is
awkward talking to people with sunglasses because you don’t know where they
are looking. Just take your glasses off and when you have built trust with the girl
you can put them on.
Now that that is out of the way it is time to learn exactly how to approach girls
without seeming like a creep.

The 3 Second Rule

One of the “Greatest pick up artists” named Mystery, or otherwise known as
Erik Von Markovik, came up with the 3 second rule. The basic premise of this
rule is that you have 3 seconds from noticing an attractive girl to get her
attention. If you don’t manage to get her attention by talking to her or making
her notice you then fear will take over and you would most likely lose the
courage to talk to her.
For example, you are sitting at a coffee shop by yourself on your laptop and a
girl sits on the table next to you by herself, the moment you notice her if you
don’t say hi or even get her attention by asking her a question or making a
statement within three seconds, you most likely never will. You will never see
that girl ever again.
I strongly believe in the 3 second rule and it has worked for me an endless
amount of times. if you are a beginner and you have never talked to a stranger
before, you must apply the 3 second rule in order to get over your fear. If you let
the 3 seconds pass you will feel the need to procrastinate and you will start to
come up with excuses as to why you can’t talk to the girl.
Not only does it help you overcome your fear of approaching, it also makes you
look less creepy. Let’s say you notice a girl sitting on the table next to you at a
coffee shop. You made eye contact and she reciprocated. 10 minutes pass and
you are still trying to find the “perfect moment” to approach. Another 5 minutes
pass and you finally build up the courage to approach. No matter what you say,
to her you will seem insecure and shy. Even if you portray confident body
language, she knows that it took you 15 minutes to build up the courage to talk
to her. She knows that you are most likely shy and insecure and don’t have
experience with women.
As you slowly progress through your journey of attracting women, you will gain
more experience and will not need the e3 second rule. For beginners though this
rule is vital.
The only situation where the 3 second rule always applies is when a girl is
walking past you. If you don’t “open” her within the 3 seconds of her passing
you, you will end up chasing after her which leads on to my other point.

Never Approach from Behind
The creepiest thing you can do is approach a woman from behind. It may seem
innocent at first but the girl definitely doesn’t share the same opinion as you.
The fact that you are behind her and you want to get her attention seems
extremely creepy and makes you look like a stalker. In her mind you have been
following her.
If you are facing a girl back and try to talk to her there is a very high chance she
will ignore you because she doesn’t know you are talking to her. Always
approach her from the front or the side. You can always extend your hand in a
way to get her attention. This is especially effective if the girl is wearing
headphones or can’t hear you for whatever reason.
My first ever approach was when I was in college. I found a girl on campus
attractive. I would see her around but I didn’t know who she was and she didn’t
know me. One day I was waiting for my friend outside college and out she came.
She walked past me and started heading home.
I made a decision to approach her because if I didn’t do it then and there, I don’t
think I would have ever done it.
I started jogging behind her to catch up and I said “Excuse me”. She kept on
walking, no response. I started jogging a bit faster and said “Excuse me” one
more time. Again no response. Finally, after shouting excuse me for the third
time she turned around and acknowledged me.
At that time, I thought I was the shit. I managed to get her Instagram and I texted
her but I had no game. We never ended up meeting and I couldn’t understand
why. Now that I look back on I realise that to her I was a creep that was chasing
her, literally. I’ve made other multiple mistakes but I ruined my chances before I
even started, by approaching her from behind.
Play it safe, never approach from behind. If it just so happens that a girl walks
past you and you want to talk to her, act straight away and walk in a faster pace
than her to catch up. NEVER run.
When you finally do catch up to her walk a step or two in front of her and then
start talking to her or “open” her. This guarantees you get her attention plus it
will subconsciously seem like she is following you, since you are ahead of her
even if it is just a foot.

Never Touch On Approach
Touching a girl before you have even opened your mouth to speak to her will
raise her creep-o-meter sky high. Nothing screams creep more than a random
guy touching you. You might feel the urge to do so if she is wearing headphones
but trust me it is a horrible idea. If there is no other way to get her attention and
you must touch her then just tap her on the shoulder. Don’t try to touch an
intimate area. A tap-tap on the shoulder should do it.
If you touch the girl and approach from behind, this will get you rejected faster
than anything. The girl’s initial response upon your touch will be “someone is
trying to rob me”. The last thing you want is for a girl to start screaming in
public because of you.
Women nowadays have been sexualised and most guys see them as sexual
objects. It is very wrong and women feel uncomfortable. If you go out in public
and you are with a group of guys and an attractive woman passes you I
guarantee you she will feel uncomfortable.

Look Friendly
When you first start approaching women, you are going to be nervous, and that
is just fine. But if you approach a woman and you show that you are nervous,
you will freak her out and seem a bit creepy.
Keep your nerves to yourself and don’t project them through your body
language. That means no fidgeting movements or eye contact when approaching
a girl. These are signs of nervousness that will make her suspicious of you.
The girl isn’t going to think “Aww this guy is nervous; I’m going to give him a
chance”.
Instead approach with confidence and a smile on your face. Not a creepy big
smile. A genuine smile. The girl will be attracted to your confidence much more
than your nervousness.
Looking as friendly as possible means hands out of your pockets. I don’t care
how cold it might be. If a girl sees a random guy approaching her with his hands
in his pockets she is going to think, he is carrying a weapon.

Girls Defence Mechanism
It sounds ludicrous that a girl will assume that you have a knife or want to do her
harm just because your hands are in your pockets but it is true. Deep down we
all do this and it is called our defence mechanism.
Our defensive mechanism is an invisible shield we put in front of us to protect us
from potential threats. If for example a guy approaches a girl, automatically the
girls defence mechanism takes action.
Her thoughts are “Who is this guy”, “What does this guy want”, “He is drunk”,
“He is weird”, “He is a danger”. When a stranger approach us, we always
assume the worst because of evolution. We are protecting ourselves until we are
sure that the stranger isn’t a threat.
It is perfectly normal for a girl to not be responsive to you within the first few
minutes of the interaction. It is because she always assumes the worst about you
because her defensive mechanism is still active. She doesn’t know you’re a cool,
funny guy. It is your job to lower her shield so you can have a normal
conversation with the girl.
I see many guys get discouraged when a girl doesn’t respond to them within the
first minute of the interaction so they think the girl doesn’t like them. How is a
complete stranger meant to like you and know how cool of a guy you are in 1
minute?
What you need to do is lower the girls defensive shield and you can do this with
one simple sentence.

Statement of Empathy
This technique I am about to teach you is the most important technique I have
learnt throughout my years of studying dating. Out of all the techniques and lines
and advice I have read and learnt throughout the years and implemented, this is
by far the most important I have learnt.
A statement of empathy is when you acknowledge the situation. That’s it. If you
say something that acknowledges the situation, you are not weird anymore. It’s
so simple yet so powerful.
Examples of statement of empathy:
“I know this is weird but…”
“I know this might be awkward but…”
“I know this is unusual but…”
“Don’t worry I’m not a creep…”
“I promise I’m not a stalker”
I learnt this technique through one of the best dating coaches I know, RSDMax.
He is a dating coach at Real Social Dynamics and I strongly recommend you
check him out. If it wasn’t for RSDMax I wouldn’t be as good as I am with
women now. There have been many dating coaches that have helped me but with
Maximillian women and dating was made so much easier to understand.
Adding a statement of empathy to your conversation is what will separate you
from the weird creepy guy. Just by saying one sentence you can greatly increase
your attractiveness, destroy the girls defence mechanism and get the girl to open
up to you.
The mistake guys make is they approach a woman and the first thing that comes
out of their mouth is a compliment. This is suspicious behaviour because it
seems like you are trying to sell something to the girl. It is as if you are
complimenting her to get on her good side. Then they seem upset that the girl
isn’t opening up to them.
Einstein once said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and
expecting different results. This goes for talking to women as well. If you ask
her a few questions and she isn’t receptive to you, she won’t magically start
opening up to you after the 30th question.
It also always gets a laugh. Imagine being in an elevator full of people and
everyone is silent. What do you think will happen if you said “Well, this is
awkward”? People will laugh because that is what everyone is thinking.
I saw a couple the other day trying to take pictures of each other. I approached
them and said “Do you want me to take a picture of you guys together?”. The
woman was reluctant to give me her phone so I said “Don’t worry I won’t steal
your phone”. The couple both immediately laughed and the woman handed me
her phone with pleasure.
What makes someone weird is when they don’t know they are being weird.
If a guy approaches a girl and says something along the lines of “I know this is
awkward and weird but I thought, you were attractive and wanted to talk to
you”. That line alone will make the girl receptive to you (if she isn’t stuck up).
Add some confidence and good body language behind your statement of
empathy and you can be sure you will stand out from all the guys that have
approached the girl.
When the girl feels creeped out or awkward, a simple statement of empathy will
lighten the mood and make her feel more comfortable. When in doubt use a
statement of empathy, careful not to overuse it because then you come across as
needy and insecure.
You should never blame the girl for not being receptive to you. She might be
having a bad day or she might be sick. There are a million reasons. Just move
on.

Approaching at A Nightclub
The difference between day game and night game is that night game is easier
and works more in your favour. It is more socially acceptable to talk to women
in bars and nightclubs. Also, the women are most likely there to meet a guy or to
have fun. If you can offer the girl more fun, then she will be attracted to you.
If the girl has had a few drinks and the alcohol is starting to kick in she might be
more confident and more receptive to you. DISCLAIMER! I don’t want you
flirting with girls that are really drunk. There drunk behaviour might vary from
their normal behaviour along with it being very manipulative. Being able to
attract a drunk girl isn’t improving your skills. She probably won’t even
remember you the next day.

Establish Eye Contact Before You Approach

Making intense eye contact with a girl you find attractive at the club, you will
subconsciously tell her that you are a dominant attractive male. Your eye contact
will set you apart from all the other shy insecure guys in the club.
From the moment your eyes lock onto each other, it should be as if there are
invisible lasers connecting your eyes together. Now that you have established
eye contact it is time to approach.

Offer Value
Most guys who talk to girls at nightclubs are there to take value from the girl.
What do I mean by taking value?
Taking value is when you are approach a girl in hope of receiving something
from her. It could be her phone number, a make out or even sex. Usually you
showcase taking value by asking girls personal questions straight away hoping
she will like the fact that you are showing interest in her so she can have sex
with you.
Attractive guys don’t take value from a girl. Attractive guys offer value to the
girl. The mind-set of an attractive guy is “I am having fun. You can join in and
make it even more fun but if you decide to not join, I will still be having fun”.
This mind-set shows non neediness. You don’t need a girl to have fun.
If you are fun already the girl will want to hang out with you and want to open
up to you naturally. You won’t need to force her to open up to you by constantly
asking her questions. If you are coming from a fun, spontaneous mood, the girl
will subconsciously be attracted to you.
The difference between offering value and taking value is how real you are. A
person who takes value from a girl is the one who is fake and manipulative.
They will try to be the person they think the girl wants.
The person offering value is the person who is real and he is himself. He isn’t
talking to a girl because he wants to fuck her. He is talking to her because he
wants to have even more fun than he is having already. He wants to give good
emotions. Of course, attraction comes along with making people feel good.
It always feels better to give a present than to receive a present.
Once you show the girl that you aren’t trying to take value from her and you
aren’t just trying to fuck her then you can start asking some casual questions to
start to get to know her.

When The Environment Is Too Loud

There are going to be times where you are at a nightclub and even if you shout,
the girl will not be able to hear you. Sure you can lean in and shout in her ears
but from my experience most of the times she still can’t tell exactly what you are
saying.
What do you do? You use your phone. That’s right type on your phone whatever
it is you want to tell her and simply show her. Since you are in a nightclub you
can tap on her shoulder (it won’t seem creepy, waiters do it all the time when
they want to go through a group of people) and show her your phone.
You can type in your notes a statement of empathy or tell her that the club is too
loud that’s why you are using your phone. This works 99% of the time for me
because no one approaches a girl in the nightclub using their phone. It is unique
and completely separates you from the other guys.
Once you have gotten her attention and she is invested in the interaction you can
start talking to her normally or go someplace quieter.

Hot Girls Are Rarely Alone
If you have been to multiple nightclubs, you would have figured out that
attractive girls are rarely alone. Whether it is a mixture of guys and girls or just
girls, attractive women tend to be in groups.
No one wants to go to a nightclub by themselves and not many people do. Most
of us go to hang out with friends and have fun. If you go out to a nightclub and
see an attractive girl sitting by herself, 99% of the time, she is waiting for her
friends.
I am not saying girls never go to nightclubs alone, it is just extremely rare. If you
want to attract the hottest girls, you are going to have to learn how to approach
and deal with groups. We will talk more about this later.

Never Buy a Girl a Drink

When I ask guys how they approach girls at nightclubs, almost all of them
respond with “I go up to her and buy her a drink”. This makes me furious.
The main reason a guy would buy a girl a drink is because he is scared of
rejection so by asking her if she wants a drink she is bound to say yes. Not many
girls will pass up the offer for a free drink. The guy thinks that if the girl takes
the drink she will be “obligated” in a way to stay and talk to him. However, in
most cases the girl will get the drink and leave.
Buying a drink for a girl you haven’t even met yet shows that you cannot attract
women with your personality so you have to buy her affection. Like we talked
about earlier, buying her a drink is a form of manipulation because you are only
doing it because you think it will increase your chances of sleeping with her.
This is incredibly needy behaviour. Attractive guys don’t secretly beg the girl to
stay with them because they bought her a drink. He talks to her and if she rejects
him, oh well he just moves on.
If the girl is attractive, you are probably not the first guy to buy her a drink.
When you do, automatically in her mind, you’re the same as every other needy
buy that bought her a drink. You are no different.
Never buy a drink for a girl you don’t know. Instead save that $10 dollars to buy
her a coffee for on your date.


Ok so you saw an attractive girl, you locked eyes for a few seconds, you walk up
to her and use a statement of empathy to show you aren’t weird. She is
laughing…Now what?

How to Create an Intriguing Conversation Out of
Thin Air

The biggest excuse guys use when it comes to approaching women is “I don’t
know what to say”. The truth is you can say a million different things; you are
just trying to find the ‘perfect thing’ to say. After years of studying the
psychology of dating, I came to realise that there is no ‘perfect thing’ to say.
As you become more experienced with women you will come to realise that
what you say doesn’t matter as much as you might think. In this chapter I am
going to share with you some techniques you can use within your interactions to
eliminate any awkward silences and keep the conversation going for hours.

This Isn’t Hollywood

We have all watched a romantic Hollywood film where the guy walks up to the
girl, says something that makes him look super cool and the girl instantly falls in
love with him. No matter what the girl throws at him he always has the perfect
response every time. I hate to break it to you but Hollywood movies are fake. All
the dialogue in the movie has been written by a professional who spent hours
upon hours perfecting everything that comes out the character’s mouths.
You can’t expect to do the exact same within 3 seconds of seeing a girl. It is
impossible to have the perfect response to everything the girl throws at you at all
times. Attracting women is messy.
When talking to a girl it will never pan out as smoothly as it did in your brain.
Unless you’re a psychic there is no way you will be able to predict everything
she will say. There will be times where you say something that offends her or
someone might interrupt you. Having game isn’t about memorising the best lines
to use, it’s about overcoming difficult situations while still having a good time
with the girl.
“A girl will never kiss you, have sex with you or be in a relationship with you
because you said the perfect thing”

It’s NOT What You Say, It’s HOW You Say It
Men rely too much on the words they say instead of HOW they say them. Words
make up only 20% of an interaction. What is more important is how you come
across saying those words. I have recently watched an experiment that proved
my point. The experiment went as follows.
Two groups of girls consisting of 5 girls per group where given a laptop with a
video on it. Each group went into separate rooms to view the video. The video
was a recording of a guy talking to the camera about himself in order to upload
to a dating site. After viewing the video, each group had to decide if they would
date the guy in the video or not.
Surprisingly, Group A all decided that they would date the guy but Group B
decided that none of them would date the guy. Why is this?
What the girls didn’t know is that Group A got a video of the guy talking about
himself but in a fun energetic manner. Group B however got the exact same
video with the exact same words, only the guy was saying it in a sad, boring
manner.
This goes to show that the actual words you say don’t have as much of an impact
on a girl. It’s the way you say it that truly matters. This is proven in the
experiment when the guy in the video says “My ideal date would be someone
fun and interesting and cheap”.
In the video that Group A watched, this line was delivered in a funny, upbeat
tone. The girls laughed at this comment. In the video that Group B watched, this
line was delivered in a serious boring tone which made the girls unattracted.
Not only did his tone affect his attraction levels, it also affected how the women
perceived some negative comments he was saying throughout the video. The
upbeat video made the positives stand out which made him more likable whereas
the boring monotone video made the negatives very clear.
Stop concentrating so much on the actual words you say, start putting more
focus on how you actually say those words.

Change Your Perspective
Most guys talk to girls for one sole purpose. They want to fuck them. When you
approach the girl with the intention of fucking her, you put unnecessary pressure
on yourself. You are approaching with the mentality of “I need to say everything
right so I have a chance of having sex with her”.
This is the kind of mentality that is taking value from a girl. When you approach
women you must offer value to them in the form of fun. If you approach because
all you want is sex you are approaching to take value from her, in the form of
sex.
Most guys start to imagine scenarios in their head of what to say and how to
respond before they even approach the girl. This is dangerous because once the
girl responds with something that doesn’t follow your imaginary scenario your
whole plan comes crashing down.
Instead of approaching a girl with certain expectations and trying to imagine
what to say and how she might respond, go in with the intention of having fun.
No need for pre written lines or imaginary scenarios. Just be genuine.
Let’s look at some techniques that will help you keep the conversation flowing.

Cold Reading
The easiest way to start a conversation out of thin air is Cold Reading.
Cold reading is when you judge a person’s character or personality based on
visual elements. For example, if you approach a girl and she is standing with her
feet in a T-shape you can ask her if she is a ballerina because she stands like one.
If the answer is yes, then you have started a conversation about one of her
passions in roughly 3 seconds.
Cold reading is also great for compliments. If the girl is wearing red sunglasses,
red shoes and has painted her nails red, you can complement her on her style.
When you are cold reading to give a compliment, make sure you make it unique
to the girl. She doesn’t want to hear the same old boring compliments.
Cold reading will help transition to the most important technique you should use
when attracting girls. Teasing.


Teasing
Teasing is when you make fun of the girl but not in a way to hurt her.
When we liked a girl as a kid, we would constantly tease her to get her attention.
We would throw rubbers at her in class or make fun of her to show her that “we
didn’t like her” when in fact, we were trying to hide our true emotions.
Usually the girl you teased the most would end up liking you too because you
gave her the most attention and you where fun to be around. Nothing has
changed. Even as adults, women love being teased. Most guys are afraid of
saying anything remotely bad about the girl which makes him boring and
unattractive to them.
When a guy comes around and teases the girl and the girl teases back, we call
that flirting. It’s after a good tease where you start to think “wow this girl/guy is
actually pretty cool”. Teasing could be in the form of sarcasm or just slightly
making fun of someone.
You should never tease a girl about a subject that might be offensive or sensitive
to her. Only if you know the girl is comfortable with you teasing her about a
certain subject should you do so. Touchy subjects include her looks, her body,
her friends and religion. Imagine you go up to a girl and as you are chatting you
point to her friends and say “with friends like that I don’t think you get laid that
often.” At this point you should expect a slap on the face by her and her friends.
What you just did was not tease her or her friends. You insulted them. Insulting
and teasing are completely different things. This is the reason teasing is a skill
that not everyone knows how to use properly. In the beginning of my dating
journey I used to insult girls thinking that it was teasing and then I wondered
why it never worked out.
I soon realised that I wasn’t teasing the girls I was insulting them. I was too
forward. The difference between insulting and teasing is that teasing is subtle.
It is a skill you must master in order to attract women. Let’s get into some
teasing techniques that will make you more interesting than any other guy she
has talked to.

Role-Play
Role-play will only work on a girl that has a good sense of humour. If she goes
along with it, it can create immense attraction for you.
The Role-play technique is when you pretend to be someone you’re not or create
a scenario and act it out in a way. For example, if the girl says she doesn’t like
BBQ chicken wings you could say “That’s it. We’re getting a divorce. I can’t be
with a girl that doesn’t appreciate BBQ chicken wings”.
Obviously, you aren’t actually getting a divorce since you’ve probably met the
girl 30 minutes ago.
This technique, if used properly will create positive emotions especially if the
girl goes along with it. “I’m sorry please don’t divorce me. I will eat chicken
wings I promise”. You can create any scenario imaginable and the more
ridiculous it is the funnier it will be.
The most effective way to use this technique is if in the scenario you create, you
and the girl are “together”. This subconsciously gets her imagining you two
together. “We’re breaking up” or “our friendship is over”. If your role-play
consists of you and the girl together it will be much more powerful.

Busting her Balls
I know this sounds sexual but give me a chance. This is by far my favourite
flirting technique because it instantly increases my mood. Busting her balls is
when you say a statement or a question in a serious manner only to reveal in the
end that you were just joking.
I love this because for a second or two the girl doesn’t know how to react. She
will be unsure if you are serious or not. In the end when you reveal that in fact
you were just messing with her it almost always gets a laugh.
A great example of this is if the girl asks you what job you have, you can say
“I’m a pornstar” in a very serious tone. After two second you can reveal that in
fact you’re a real estate agent or whatever you do for a living. This technique
will give a girl positive emotions because for a second she might get worried.
Another reason I love this technique is because once she realises that you were
just messing around with her she will come to realise that you’re a cool dude.
She can joke around with you.
If the girl repeats her question expecting a serious answer you should give her a
serious answer. This is vital for building trust with the girl. If you continue to
bust her balls you will come across as a clown who is never serious.
You don’t have to wait for her to ask a question to bust her balls. You can
simply just make it a statement. For example, if you’re talking about going on a
date you can say “I’ll come pick you up in my red Ferrari”. Then you can say
“I’m just joking. It’s a very sexy Toyota Prius”.
Small things like this will show her that you aren’t afraid of teasing her. Guys
that are too scared to talk to hot girls never even try to tease in fear of offending
them or making them feel bad. This is why nice guys finish last.

Inside Joke
This is probably the most powerful flirting technique because every inside joke
is unique to the girl. An inside joke is when you have a joke or a reference that
refers to a previous conversation you had with the girl.
Following on from our example with the BBQ chicken wings, you can use that
as an inside joke. Let’s say you have been teasing the girl about getting a divorce
because she doesn’t like BBQ chicken wings. After a while when you set up a
date you could say “let’s go for a coffee and then grab some BBQ chicken
wings”. The girl will most likely laugh because you just referenced a previous
conversation. You just created an inside joke.
The most powerful connections and interaction I have made with girls was when
we had an inside joke if not multiple. Every time a reference to our joke would
pop up we would look at each other and laugh without even having to say
anything.
I was talking to this girl about embarrassing experiences. She admitted that once
she farted while the doctor was examining her and we both cried of laughter
when she was explaining the story. After a few days she texted me about going
to the doctors and all I had to say was “make sure you don’t fart this time” and
that created an inside joke.
Inside jokes are very powerful because they have the ability to bring back
positive emotions.

Object of Desire
The most desirable things are often those that are hard to obtain. Everyone wants
a $200,000 Ferrari or a multi mullion dollar mansion because both those things
are very hard to get. It is not impossible but it is very hard.
Studies show that men who are married or in a relationship tend to be more
desirable to women since someone else already has them meaning they are
harder to get, impossible even.
If you truly want to attract a woman, you need to communicate to her that there
is doubt she can have you. You aren’t as easy to obtain as she might think. If she
is unsure whether she can have you or not this will create mystery in your
interactions along with attraction.
Teasing is a great way to create uncertainty and doubt in her mind that she can
have you. The guy who doesn’t tease is the guy who gets friend-zoned.
You must be the object of desire. You must be the ultimate prize not the girl.
Men tend to put women on pedestals especially if they are hot. This makes them
needy and shows the girl that they are easy to obtain. Once the girl realises that
she doesn’t have to put any effort to attract you she will lose interest in you.
Put yourself in a hot girl’s position. Let’s say you’re at a club and a guy
approaches you with “hey you look beautiful I would like to take you out
sometime”, would you go out with him?
NO, of course not. Not only does he know nothing about you and you know
nothing about him, he is easy. The girl wants to work for you. She will
appreciate you so much more if she works for you. When you kiss it will be
more meaningful. When you go out on a date she will have butterflies because
she will want to impress you. Make the girl feel like she has earned you and your
relationship will be much more meaningful.

Sexual Innuendos
The factor that separates a friend from a boyfriend to a girl is sex. If she views
you as a potential sex partner, then you can become intimate with her. If,
however you don’t get her to view you as a potential sex partner you will end up
in the friend-zone.
The best way to get her to imagine you as a sex partner is using sexual
innuendos. A sexual innuendo is a statement that can be interpreted in a sexual
manner. The most effective form of sexual innuendos is when you make it seem
as if she is flirting with you.
For example, if you are trying to get your phone out of your pocket and the girl
says “just take it out” you can say “whoa easy, at least wait for the first date”.
She meant “just take out the phone” but you just made it seem like she was
saying something sexual. This shows that she is the one trying to flirt with you.
Your sexual innuendos must be very subtle otherwise it kills the attraction. What
you shouldn’t say is “whip out my dick?”. That is way too much and way to
forward. You need to make it as subtle as possible.
When talking to girls try to find a way to use these lines “you have to take me
out for a drink first” or “Whoa, we only just met”. Do whatever you can to make
it seem like she wants you. Flip the script so you can become the object of
desire.
There will be times where the girl will have a low sense of humour or might not
share the same sense of humour with you. I believe you should find a different
girl since your interactions won’t be as enjoyable for both of you.

Future Plans
There is a technique I use to make the girl visualise us doing things together.
While interacting with a girl you suggest something you guys should do
together. For example, you could be talking about your favourite film and she
says she has never watched it. you reply “You haven’t watched it? that’s it we
are watching it together. We will order pizza, dim the lights, cover ourselves
with blankets and watch the movie”.
This makes her visualise the two of you together. You can also reference your
future plan when you are texting her. When you want to set up a date you can
say “At 9 I’ll be free. I’ll pick you up, we will order some pizza but you have to
bring the blankets.”

Say What’s On Her Mind

This technique will eliminate the fear of running out of things to say. If at any
point throughout your interaction the conversation dies down and you’re left
with a few seconds of silence all you have to say is “I ran out of things to say”.
This works because you are saying exactly what the girl is thinking. I have used
this techniques every time there is a few seconds of awkward silence. Not only
will the girl laugh but many times she will try to revive the conversation.
If anything awkward happens while you are talking to the girl acknowledge it.
Say it out loud because you can be sure the girl is thinking about it. This will
make you seem confident and more attractive. Trying to hide it will only make
you seem insecure.

Building Trust
Now that you have learnt some basic flirting techniques, it time to take your
interactions to a deeper level by building trust.
When you approach a girl you are doing it for a purpose. It could be that you
want a girlfriend, a one-night stand, a number or even just to have fun. No matter
what the purpose is, it is vital to build trust with the person to make them feel as
comfortable talking to you as possible.
Teasing a girl is great for having fun but if you want to take it a step further then
you must build trust with her. If you don’t and you spend 30 minutes laughing
and teasing you will just be ‘That guy from the bar’. You don’t want to be that.
Building trust with the girl will show her you are a real person you’re not just a
guy that came to hit on a bunch of girls.

Passion
The simplest way to build trust and show her you are a real human being is to
bring her into your world. Showing interest in her life will make her open up to
you but you need to open up to her in order to build trust.
The easiest way to do this is to talk about your passions. There are two main
benefits in talking about your passions.
On the one hand you are showing her you are a real human being. Everyone has
a passion. It could be as simple as watching movies or reading. Open up to her
about what you do in your spare time or what you like doing and show her that
you have a life. Doing this will show her that you aren’t following any pre made
script or memorised lines. You are just being genuine.
Remember girls can see through your fake personality. When talking about your
passions everything you say should be real and she will appreciate that. She
might even open herself up more to you since you shared a little piece of your
life.
On the other hand, when talking about your passions you will naturally get more
excited. You might even start to talk faster and have a lot of energy because you
are talking about something you truly love. When a girl sees this kind of energy
and excitement she will naturally have the same energy and excitement. This is
because people tend to feel sympathy for other people.
When we pass a homeless person most of us feel bad for him. When we see a
person having the time of their lives we start to feel like having more fun too.
Talk about your passions and the feelings of excitement will reciprocate onto the
girl.

Things in Common
The easiest way to be liked by someone is if you share a common interest. We
tend to like and are attracted to people that have things in common with us.
I recently went to a coffee shop and a guy walked in with a hot girl next to him. I
took a closer look at the girl and realised that it was a girl I used to date. We will
call her Jess for privacy reasons. Me and Jess exchanged a smile, I introduced
myself to the guy she was with and I started making conversation with the guy
until the line would shorten.
As we were talking a subject I have an obsession over came into the
conversation. Cars. We started talking about cars and I realised that the guy also
shared a deep obsession with cars. We talked about old school cars, supercars,
hyper cars, engines etc.
I looked at my watch and realised that I have been talking to this guy for the past
25 minutes. However, I saw that the guys face had lightened up while the hot
girl was scrolling through Instagram waiting for us to stop talking.
This goes to show how powerful having things in common with someone can be.
This guy had a hot girl by his side but preferred to sit with me and talk about
cars for half an hour.
Having something in common with a girl, whether it is the place you live or your
favourite superhero, will quickly build a sense of trust. It will naturally bring you
closer together and you can be sure the conversation might go on for quite a
while since you are both very knowledgeable on the subject.
This will also separate you from the other guys because she is more likely to
remember you. When you share something in common you can use that to your
advantage when texting her. You won’t have to think of the ‘perfect
conversation starter’. You can just reference the thing you had in common.
This will show that you were actually listening to her which will make her feel
appreciated.

Story Telling
Story telling is most effective when used in a subtle manner. If you want to let
the other person know you are rich you can tell a story about how you forgot
your dog in the car one day and someone smashed your Ferraris window to get
the dog out. The main story is about the dog but subtly mentioning you have a
Ferrari will let the listener know your wealthy.
Girls are attracted to guys that attract a lot of girls. This is because
subconsciously the girl knows that if women want to be around him he must be
pretty special. You can use storytelling to subconsciously show that you have
girls in your life.
You could say for example about the time you had a girl over to watch a scary
movie but when she got scared she spilled all the popcorn on the floor. Your dog
then came and ate all the popcorn and took a shit on the floor. It doesn’t matter
what the story is as long as you give subtle signs that you have girls in your life.
You can use storytelling to showcase dominance, confidence or even trust. If
you talk about how you dressed up as a clown for your 12-year-old niece’s
birthday party, it will show that you are a friendly character. You are also
bringing her into your life showing her that you have a family you’re not some
creep in his basement who randomly approaches girls when he goes out.

Now that you know how to keep the conversation going it is time to move on to
some more advanced techniques. These techniques will make people wonder
“How the hell is he so good with girls”.

 What NOT to Say to Women

Now that we have establish what to talk about in your interactions with girls, it’s
time to talk about what NOT to say. This is going to be a very small chapter
because it is important to be genuine and be yourself when interacting with girls.

Don’t Lie
I used to work as a waiter and throughout my time there I befriended a guy who
was happily married and was very good with women. He wasn’t particularly
good looking but he had all the confidence and carefreeness in the world. He had
the body language and the behaviour of the attractive man.
He told me that he was always genuine with girls and that he would never make
himself sound better than he actually is. He once approached a girl and as they
were talking, the girl was secretly trying to figure out how wealthy he is. once he
realised this he just said to her “I’m a waiter at a restaurant and I drive a shitty
Mazda”. The girl looked disgusted.
He ended up having sex with that girl in his shitty Mazda.
Be genuine and don’t make yourself seem better than you actually are. Unless
the girl is a gold-digger, she doesn’t care how much money you make or what
car you drive or what shoes you wear. If you show that you are happy in the
situation you are in, then you will be 10x more attractive than the guy with a
Rolex and a Lamborghini.

Offensive Jokes
Studies show that women are less likely to say a joke they are thinking of,
because they are too concerned if it will get a laugh or not. Men on the other
hand don’t care all that much. We will say our joke even if no one finds it funny.
If you don’t know the girl all that well I would avoid any offensive jokes. That
means no terrorist jokes, black people jokes, fat jokes etc. I have met multiple
girls that are cool with these kind of jokes but you need to make sure that the girl
is actually comfortable with offensive jokes and she understands you don’t
actually mean it.
Stick to inside jokes, funny stories and referring back to previous conversations
for the first few interactions. Every girl is different, so if you feel the girl is
comfortable with offensive jokes then the stage is yours but proceed with
caution.

Over-Complimenting
Hollywood movies have us believe that the way to a woman’s heart is by
complimenting her. Compliments are great when you want to make someone
feel appreciated but terrible when it comes to attracting women.
There are 2 basic rules for complimenting a woman.
Rule #1 Give her a genuine compliment. When you compliment a woman direct
it to her. State something about her. Not the dress she is wearing or how
attractive she is. Give her a compliment on something she can control. You can
complement her style, her smile, her weird laugh, the way she walks, her
personality, anything that she has control over. Anything that is unique to her.
If you compliment a girl on how attractive she is, then you have just given her a
compliment she has heard a million times from other guys. She subconsciously
places you in a category as “just another guy”. If you give her a genuine and
different compliment she will appreciate it much more.
Rule #2 No more than one compliment. Sometimes you can make an exception
and give the girl two compliments, but that should be the maximum in an
interaction. Compliments are great for making friends, not attracting girls. When
your over-complimenting a girl, you are putting her on a pedestal. Not only that
but it makes you seem needy.
If you tell the girl she is beautiful when you first meet her, then 2 minutes later
tell her she is attractive, then you tell her that she has beautiful eyes, this screams
out neediness. You want to be the object of desire.
Not only do your compliments loose meaning after overusing them but they also
seem fake. When you keep flooding the girl with compliments she will slowly
start to feel like you are trying to get something from her because you are being
“too nice”.
Compliments are great but only when you use them effectively. The rarer you
give a girl a compliment, the more she will value it.

No Complaining
Complaining is part of a submissive man’s mentality. A strong independent
dominant man is happy with himself and his life therefore he has no need to
complain. He understands that if he isn’t happy with something, complaining
won’t change it.
We all have problems and sometimes we need someone to talk to. A girl you are
trying to attract isn’t that person. If you want to spill out all your complaints and
problems, go to a friend or a psychiatrist. A girl who is at a nightclub to have fun
doesn’t want to listen to a random guy complaining about is life. Hearing you
whine about everything will make her lose all attraction to you.

Ex-Girlfriend
You should never talk about your ex-girlfriend in a way to make the girl jealous
or to show off. Sometimes you might be talking about previous relationships and
ex-girlfriends and boyfriends are mentioned. You should always try to steer the
conversation back to you and the.
You can mention your ex-girlfriend or a girl you have been with before but don’t
focus the conversation about her. If your ex-girlfriend does happen to appear in
the conversation you should never ever talk about her in a negative way. If you
do the girl will subconsciously think that you will speak negatively about her
behind her back as well which will make you untrustworthy. If you talk about
your ex-girlfriend in a positive way, then it will show that you are mature and
will boost your attractiveness very much.

No Bragging
We already talked about the fact that whether you drive a Lamborghini or a
shitty Mazda, it doesn’t matter, you can still attract beautiful women. What will
make women NOT attracted to you is you bragging about your car or your
money or your watch or the amount of girls you fucked.

Women aren’t attracted to the perfect guy they are attracted to the guy that is
perfectly fine with himself.
-RSDMax

If you accept where you are financially or with how many girls, you slept with
then you will have no need to brag. When you are bragging you are telling
people you are insecure and seeking validation. Even though you might think a
girl would be impressed by your achievements, she is much more interested in
having an amazing time with a guy.

Sex Talk
It is hard to determine when to start talking about sex with girls. The mistake I
see guys making is they talk about sex in a very obvious way. Flirting and
creating sexual arousal should be very subtle. You shouldn’t be too upfront
when talking about sex, you should use sexual innuendos.
Sexual innuendos are phrases that say something but mean something else in a
sexual way. Sexual innuendos are way more powerful than just normal sex talk.
Craig Ferguson is a master at sexual innuendos. Since he is on TV and he is
flirting with some of the most popular actresses in Hollywood, he can’t be
upfront about sex otherwise it will create awkwardness and will make the girl
feel like a slut. Instead he is very subtle.
For example, there was this interview he had with Hayley Atwell where they talk
about how big Chris Evans pecks where, but they referred to his pecks as man
boobs. Hayley Atwell says:
“They were absolutely enormous”
In which Craig Ferguson replies
“Coming from you that’s a hell of a thing to say”
Any other guy could have commented on Hayley Atwell’s boobs but they
wouldn’t have made it as subtle. They would have said “So are yours” or “Are
they as big as yours?” which is too direct. I strongly recommend you watch
Craig Ferguson flirting during his interviews. You will learn so much about
becoming sexual with women in a subtle way.
Here is a conversation that occurred between me and a girl. We were discussing
what the girl wanted in a guy:
Her: “I want a tall guy”
Me: “Check”
Her: “I like guys that shave”
Me: “Check” (Even though I have a beard)
Her: “But you have a beard”
Me: “Oh, were talking about the face”
Being able to use sexual innuendos effectively will make bring sexual tension to
your interactions without making you seem creepy.

Qualifying Yourself
The fastest way to show you are needy is to start qualifying yourself aka
“proving” yourself. The way to attract women is to make yourself seem like the
object of desire but by qualifying yourself you are subconsciously showing her
that she is the “ultimate prize” not you.
For example, if the girl says “I like guys with muscles” and you reply “I have a
six pack”, then you are qualifying yourself. You are saying “oh look at me I
have what you want please take me”.
If you ever find yourself qualifying yourself then turn it around so you seem like
the object of desire again. If we continue with our example you could reply with
“I have a six pack. If you’re lucky you might just get to see it”.
If you see that a girl is qualifying herself, without you challenging her it can be
classed as a sign of interest from her.
You should always try to make her qualify herself from time to time to
subconsciously make it seem like there is doubt she can have you. Sometimes
when you think the girl is trying to make you qualify yourself she is really just
giving you one of her girl tests. We will talk more about how to pass girl test
later on.

 Dry Talk Vs Emotional Kick (How to Build
Trust and Emotion)

In everything you do in life there must be a balance. The same goes for your
interactions with girls. You need to have the interesting fun conversations, along
with some real conversations. If you use too much of one type of conversation
you will either seem fake and manipulative or boring.

Dry Talk
What most guys think attracting girl’s means is going up to them, asking them
questions about their life and then hopefully have sex with them. I’m sorry to
brake it to you but that isn’t how it works. That is why most guys aren’t good
with women. They use too much dry talk.
Dry talk is the normal boring everyday questions 99% of guys use on girls. They
mostly sound like you are giving a job interview. For example:
Where are you from?
What do you do for a living?
Do you have pets?
THESE QUESTIONS ARE BORING!
Dry talk should be used in small doses throughout the conversation. If you use
too much dry talk the girl will lose interest and slowly get bored. You will go
into interview mode, which we talked about earlier. If you use too little dry talk,
the girl will not trust you and will feel like you haven’t connected.
Dry talk is very important and is crucial in building trust between you and the
girl. When used to much though, it can destroy your attraction.
You can tell by a girl’s reactions and body language if you are using too much
dry talk. If you are talking to a girl and she is looking around and it seems like
she isn’t really listening to you, then you are probably using too much dry talk.
Another way to tell is if she is slowly taking steps or trying to walk away from
you. Again you are most likely using too much dry talk.
The girl doesn’t want to interact with a guy that is going to bore her. If you
approach a girl in a nightclub, she isn’t expecting you to give her a job
interview, she is expecting to have a good time.
Not all hope is lost though because you can still attract a girl even if you have
used to much dry talk on her. All you have to do is give her an emotional kick.

Emotional Kick
An emotional kick is the best and most important thing you can give a girl. Apart
from an orgasm obviously.
An emotional kick is when you give a girl positive or negative emotions through
your actions or what you say. If you make a girl laugh for example, that’s a
positive emotional kick. If you tease the girl that is a negative emotional kick.
All emotional kicks are good. They are not to be used to offend the girl in any
way. If you say to a girl “You’re fat” or “We are never going to get along,
you’re too ugly”, that is not a negative emotional kick. That’s just you being a
dick and bringing out her insecurities.
You need to be very careful with negative emotional kicks and make sure you
are always using them in a flirtatious way. If you see that the girl feels
uncomfortable or insecure with something you said you should always give her a
genuine apology.
Emotional kicks are usually used when teasing a girl or building rapport with a
girl. Remember you want the girl to feel different emotions throughout your
interaction. For the best interaction possible you must use both positive and
negative emotional kicks to give her a rollercoaster of emotions.
Positive emotional kicks don’t just have to be verbal, they can also be physical.
For example, a hug or a high five will not only break the physicality barrier
(More on that later) but it will also give her a positive emotional kick.
Sometimes I like to pick up the girl and swing her around which gives her a
massive emotional kick. Only do this if it’s appropriate for the situation.
Negative emotional kicks are also good to show that you are dominant and that
you have your own views on things. You aren’t submissive and you don’t follow
the crowd. It shows that you are willing to disagree or challenge the girl. You
can use negative emotional kicks to demonstrate in a subtle way that you are the
object of desire.
If you use only positive emotional kicks you will feel untrustworthy to her or
fake. Imagine someone who never gets mad or angry and is always having a
good day. It is slightly creepy and almost robotic like. You can be in a good
mood but eventually one day, you won’t be. On the other hand, if you use too
many negative emotional kicks, you will seem way too cocky and unattractive
and just an all-round negative person.

In conclusion, it is vital to use both dry talk and emotional kicks (negative and
positive). This will ensure you are a fun guy that you can flirt with as well as a
guy you can have a normal conversation with. Too many emotional kicks and
not enough dry talk will make you just “another fun guy” and too much dry talk
and not enough emotional kicks will make you just “another boring guy”. Find
balance in your interactions and you will attract girls more girls than ever before.

 How to Never Run Out of Things to Say

Game is never perfect. You need to stop confusing the real world with
Hollywood. In the movies the actors follow a script where they never run out of
things to say. I hate to break it to you but there are going to be times where the
conversation will die out and become awkward.
It’s how you deal with it that will make you attractive. We have already talked
about what to say and what not to say in previous chapters. We discussed the
concept of cold reading to start a relevant conversation out of thin air and reefing
back to previous conversations to create inside jokes. How do you eliminate the
chances of the conversation dying down though?

Stop Thinking
Before I discovered the secret rules of dating, I couldn’t hold a conversation with
a girl for longer than 45 seconds. I could talk for hours on end with my friends
but when it came to girls I would run out of things to say. This happened
because I was overthinking.
When you approach girls you will feel stressed and have anxiety and you will
constantly be looking for the perfect thing to say. There is no perfect thing to say
and you should stop trying to come up with one. instead of using your energy to
come up with the perfect line, use that energy to calm down. Just take deep
breaths. Studies have shown that we lose IQ points when we are stressed.
When we meet a complete stranger we have no idea what their personality is
like. It is hard to determine if they have the same humour as you or if you have
common interests, so you are in constant fear of saying something wrong. When
this happens everything you think of saying is filtered by your brain before it
decided that it is safe to say.
You actually think of a million different conversation starters but then your brain
stops you from saying them by filtering them out. Will she get offended? Will
she get hurt? The joke isn’t good enough…
Attractive men are not afraid of taking risks. If you feel like a joke is funny say
it, if you want to talk about Spiderman with a girl start a conversation about
Spiderman. Don’t overthink it.
Once I stopped overthinking when talking to girls, I instantly became funnier
and wittier. I was able to think of awesome comebacks on the spot when girls
challenged me. Remember, it doesn’t matter what you say, it matters how you
say it.

Observe Your Surrounding
This is similar to cold reading only it doesn’t focus on the person, it focuses on
the environment around you. This can include other people as well.
You might start talking to a girl in a café and the conversation dies down but
then you spot a really tall man. You can start a conversation about that man. “I
wonder what it feels like to be that tall” “It would be hard to kiss a girl when
you’re that tall”, there are a million different possibilities. Never judge the
person or say anything mean about them because this will make you look
insecure.
It doesn’t just have to be other people. You can observe anything from your
surrounding and transition it to you or her. If there is a song playing on the radio
that you recognise you can just start singing it, she might even join in since you
are offering fun.

Conversation String
What is harder to do, talk to someone for 10 minutes or talk to someone for 1
hour? Trick question. It requires the same amount of conversational skill to talk
for 10 minutes or an hour. It doesn’t require more effort it just takes longer.
The secret to holding a conversation forever is to use the conversation string
technique.
Have you ever started daydreaming about something and after 2 minutes your
mind drifts off to you having a fight with superman while aliens are trying to
abduct you or something crazy like that?
When you daydream your mind tends to drift off and think of a million different
things. All those things connect though.
The conversation string is when you grab a word from the girls answer or
statement to the question and build off that. It’s that simple. Let’s say the girl
says “I love cars. I always wanted a pink Ferrari.”
You now have the option to talk about what car you like, cars in general.
Ferraris, something you love, you can elaborate on her colour choice, you can
cold read on her colour choice.
“Don’t tell me your favourite colour is pink. You must be a girly girl then.”
“I hate Ferraris. Lamborghinis are way better than Ferraris.” (Challenging her)
“You want a pink Ferrari? I don’t think we can be friends anymore” with a slight
smile on your face (Negative emotional kick)
Don’t overthink your reply. If she says “I love cars” you can even say “I love
spaghetti” and now you started a conversation about food. It doesn’t matter what
you reply or how random it is as long as you link it to what she said.
Just talk and don’t overthink. Overthinking will kill your game and will increase
the awkward interactions you have with girls. It’s like when you daydream and
your mind drifts off to different scenarios. When talking to girls let your mind
drift off.

Switch Topic
If you want to quickly build familiarity and make the girl feel like she has
known you forever, then you need to constantly be switching topics. What does
switching topics do?
Subconsciously if you talk about 50 different topics but you have only been
talking for 10 minutes it will feel like you have been talking for hours and that
will make the girl feel like she has known you forever.
Pay attention that I use the word feel. Women’s primary drive is emotion. What
matters to the is how something makes them feel. If you want her to feel like she
as known, you for a long time even though you have only been talking for 10
minutes you must be constantly switching topics.
Guys will get nervous and think they have a time limit on how long they can talk
about a single topic for. Don’t rush yourself and change topics every 10 seconds.
If the topic is something you have in common or are both passionate about, talk
about it as much as you want and when you feel like you have had enough,
switch the topic.
You can effortlessly switch the topic by using the conversation string technique
to pick out a word and make another conversation out of that.
I love BBQ chicken wings. They say if you crack one of the bones and you make
a wish, your wish will come true. They also say that about the Buddha statue if
you rub his belly. My wishes never came true. One of them was to own a Ferrari
so I could drive at incredibly fast speeds. Even though I love going really fast I
would never get on a rollercoaster because I saw my dad throw up once after
going on a rollercoaster and that scared me. Not as much as spiders scare me. I
wouldn’t mind having spider powers for the day like Spiderman, you would be
able swing wherever you want and climb walls. If I could have any superpower I
wanted though it would be mind-reading. I would instantly be able to tell if I
have something in my teeth since I can read the other person’s mind. I hate it
when lettuce gets stuck in my teeth. Every time I go to McDonalds I always ask
for no lettuce in my burger or onions because I hate the smell. I hate onions all
together. They make me cry even if I am standing 10 meters away. Maybe it is
because I have sensitive eyes. I have prescription glasses I’m supposed to wear
but I don’t. I would never wear contact lenses; I have a fear of them staying in
the back of my eye. I once saw this movie where a woman went to get a laser
eye surgery and they cut her eye off. That made me want to never get a surgery.
Luckily I have never had the need to have a surgery or go to the hospital for
anything serious. I am grateful because I don’t think I would be able to eat
hospital food. It reminds me too much of school food which wasn’t particularly
nice. We once had a food fight in my school and a bunch of teacher ended up
with mashed potatoes on their face.
When you can just let your mind drift without overthinking you will start to see
that you can talk for hours about all kinds of things. It took me one minute to
write the above paragraph and its full of topics. It started with the fact that I like
BBQ chicken wings and ended with the fact that teachers had mashed potatoes
on their face during a food fight I had in school.
After reading that paragraph you must feel like you know half my life story.
So many times I’ve had girls say “Wow, it feels like we have been talking for
hours. I don’t even remember how we started this conversation. I’ve never felt
so comfortable talking to someone”. My friends are always astonished at how I
can talk to people with so much ease.
Not only will switching topics build familiarity between you and the girl but it
will also make the girl feel like she can talk to you about anything. My dad
would constantly talk about work, and every time I would join him at a family
dinner or go out it with him, work was the only topic he would talk about.
People have gotten so used to it that they would approach him and ask him how
work is going and that’s it. My dad would take over the conversation.
Switching topics will give the girl a false sense of time, and time is the most
powerful way to build trust with a girl.
I once went to the cinema and in line in front of me was a friend of mine I have
known for a while. She was tall, Russian and had a perfect body. She was with
her boyfriend who was the complete opposite of what you would imagined a
perfect blonde’s boyfriend would look like. He was tall, skinny, lanky and very
awkward. He couldn’t keep eye contact for more than a second and had very bad
body language. So how did he get such a hot girlfriend? No, not because he was
rich but because he spent 3 years texting the girl before they finally got in a
relationship. Time built trust.
It’s like characters in a TV show. When they get introduced you don’t know
what to think about them or whether you should trust them but after a few
episodes you start to become more comfortable with them.
Switching topics will give the interaction a false sense of time. I used to go to
coffee shops with my friends by foot because I didn’t have a car and it as a 30-
minute walk. 30 minutes sounds like a long time to walk to a coffee shop but
every time we arrived my friends would say “wow we talked about so many
things I didn’t realise half an hour has passed”. That’s because switching topics
gives you a false sense of time. It also makes the conversation more intriguing
because you are constantly switching the subject of the conversation so you
never know what you are going to talk about next. The conversation becomes
unpredictable.
When interacting with a girl, it’s not all about you getting to know the girl. It’s is
about building relationships and you do that by bringing her into your world as
well. You are allowed to talk about yourself from time to time. How will you
know potential things you have in common if you never open yourself up? Talk
about your passions, ambitions, cool stories. Have fun and don’t be afraid to be a
nerd. If you like comic books or movies or video games bring that up. It adds
more subjects to talk about and less chance of you running out of things to say.
You can exercise switching conversations by talking to yourself. Just make sure
you’re alone when you do it. For 30 seconds or a minute, just talk to yourself.
Do what I did in the above paragraph and keep switching conversations. Just say
the first thing that comes to mind, it doesn’t have to be perfect. You will soon
come to realise that if you can switch to 10 different topics by talking to yourself
you can do it by talking to a woman.

Yes, And…
This is a technique used in improv classes. The ‘Yes and…’ technique allows
you to make it easier for the other person to continue the conversation. When a
girl shows slight interest in you and asks you a yes or no question NEVER
answer it with a plain yes or no. From the moment you answered yes or no, that
conversation has died down.
Instead answer with “Yes and…” or “No because…” and then continue the
conversation.
Let’s say a girl asks you if you like BBQ chicken wings. You could say “Yeah”
and the conversation would die down. Instead, to keep the conversation going
you could say “Yeah, I love BBQ chicken wings. I always get them every time I
buy pizza with pineapple topping”. This leaves room for the girl to talk about
BBQ chicken wings, pizza, and pineapple.
The “Yes and…” is the easiest way to help the girl continue the conversation.
Many girls don’t use the “Yes and…” technique which usually results in the
conversation dying. If you use it then you are making it easier for the girl to
invest in the conversation. Most girls don’t have good game especially the
attractive ones. They are used to the guys trying to make conversation but
because most guys don’t make it easy for girls to continue the conversation, the
girls never know what to reply.
Never answer with a plain “Yes” or “No” unless you are not interested in the girl
at all and you are trying to communicate that to her. Otherwise always use the
“Yes and…” technique and you will find that you become more interesting while
simultaneously keeping the conversation flowing.

Interview Mode
Now you know that to create conversation with a woman you don’t just have to
ask questions. You can use cold reading, observe the environment or just talk
about yourself. Guys still fall in the trap of constantly asking question after
question until the girl opens up which usually ends in rejection. I call this
“interview mode”.
Interview mode usually happens when you are stressed or in your head. The
conversation dies or the girl isn’t responding and those 2 seconds of silence feel
like hours so you need a good question to break the silence and when you finally
do ask a question she replies with a one-word answer and you repeat the process
all over again. This kind of behaviour makes you look extremely needy.
There are some simple things you can do to avoid going into “interview mode”.
You can apply these as soon as you want.

Number #1 Never ask more than 2 questions back to back

There is a universal law about the number 3. If you ask the teacher for
permission to go to the toilet at 12 o clock she will most likely let you. If you ask
her again at 1 o clock she will be sceptical but will most likely still let you. If
you ask her a third time at 2 o clock she will get suspicious and will most likely
not let you.
if something happens throughout your day twice, it is a coincidence but if it
happens 3 or more times it starts to become a little suspicious. This is also true
for asking questions. If you ask a girl a question and she replies and then you ask
her another question and again she replies that’s fine. When you ask a third
question it will start to seem like an interview or an interrogation.
When I started studying the art of attraction and flirting I would approach girls
and I would constantly bombard them with questions until they opened up. As
you can imagine not many of them did. I would even get responses like “Is this
an interview?” and “What’s with all the questions?”.
Imagine this conversation:
M: Hey! Are you Russian?
F: No. I’m actually polish.
M: Oh. What’s it like in Poland?
F: It’s very cold. I don’t like it.
M: Do you prefer America?
F: Yeah it’s much better.
(And then the conversation dies down.)
Did you feel like you were reading a guy flirting or a job interview? Instead of
asking questions turn your questions into statements. Below I will re write the
conversation above with the female giving the exact same answers but the male
not being in “interview mode”
M: Hey! You look Russian.
F: No. I’m actually polish.
M: Oh. Poland must be really cold right now. I have a friend who lives in Poland
and he is always complaining about the weather.
F: It’s very cold. I don’t like it.
M: I bet you prefer America. Why wouldn’t you we make the best bagels in the
world.
F: Yeah it’s much better.
See how even though the female responded with the exact same answers the
conversation was much more interesting because the male was much more
interesting. Let’s analyse what happened above.
First we started off with the cold reading technique with “You look Russian”.
This can either go two ways. The girl will correct you if you are wrong or the
girl will be amazed at your observational skills. Either way you can’t go wrong.
Then we said “Poland must be very cold. I have a friend who lives in Poland”.
This shows that you know about her country which will make you more
attractive to her. Not only that, but you also seemed like less of a threat because
you “have a friend in Poland”. The fact that you know someone who is in Poland
is in a way, a thing you have in common. This will build rapport between you
and the girl. Also, you show that you aren’t weird you have friends.
Lastly we have “I bet you prefer America”. Again turning the question into a
statement. I added Why wouldn’t you? We make the best bagels in the world”
because if I didn’t the conversation might die down. I like to add more topics to
make it easier for the girl to respond. Now she has the option to talk about
America or compare America to Poland but also have the option to talk about
bagels or food.

Number #2 Always ask open ended questions. Open ended question are
questions that have an answer that doesn’t consist of one word. If you use open
ended question you ae giving the girl a chance to give you a more detailed
answer and keep the conversation going. Open ended questions start with “Who,
What, Where, Why, When, How” most of the times.
What you should avoid asking is closed questions. These questions have a yes or
no answer. They cause the conversation to die down.
“Did you like it?”

Number #3 What if questions.

These are the most fun questions you could ask. You can just let your
imagination run free and you get the girl thinking. If you randomly approach a
girl and say “what if you had a million dollars and you had to spend it in one day
what would you buy?”. Yeah the girl might be weirded out at first like “wtf this
random guy just approached me with the most random question” but random
isn’t bad. In fact, you approaching a girl with the most random question will
make you the most interesting guy who’s approached her.
The “What if” technique works better if you have already started talking with a
girl for a while. Once you make her feel comfortable with you and get her
laughing then you can introduce a what if question with a hypothetical situation
to make the conversation more fun.
Some examples of interesting what if questions could be:
“What if you had a million dollars? What would you spend it on?”
“What if you could have any superpower what would it be?”
You can even ask would you rather questions to make the conversation even
more fun. This is also a perfect opportunity to challenge her if you pick different
answers.

In conclusion by using these techniques in your daily conversations, not just

with girls, you will see less and less awkward pauses and way more interesting
conversations and answers.
No matter how good your conversation skills are, there are going to be days
when you’re not feeling it or when you just don’t click with the girl. Instead of
you trying to come up with “the perfect conversation” you can just say “I ran out
of things to say”. This is similar to the statement of empathy we talked about
earlier. The girl will appreciate it much more instead of you acting needy trying
desperately to keep the conversation going. Just by saying that line you will
seem more genuine than any of the guys she has ever met.
You can use any line that shows how you feel and just say it out loud. I like to
say “This is the part where it gets awkward for a few seconds till one of us
thinks of a conversation starter”. The girl is thinking the exact same thing as you
and since you said it out loud it shows that you are carefree. This line usually
gets a laugh and ends up with the girl starting the conversation.

 How to Touch a Woman to Create Arousal
Without Being Weird

Sometimes your interactions will feel a bit flat. You might have the best
conversation in the world but it always feels like something is missing. What’s
missing is physicality.
You can’t have the best possible interaction with a girl unless you touch her and
make her aroused. If you just talk, even if you create emotional kicks you will
remain in the friend-zone. You must become physical with her if you want to
attract her. In this chapter, we are going to discuss how to be physical with a
woman without being creepy.
If you want to have a deeper connection with a woman you need to escalate on
her. The most important sense to create arousal is touch. Whether it’s sex,
kissing or hugging it all comes down to touch. Physicality is crucial if you want
to create sexual attraction.
Physicality was the main area I struggled with most when I would talk to
women. I was never a very physical person and I feel like that’s because
physicality wasn’t present in my family. We would only hug each other on new
year’s day. I would always feel like a creep when touching women even in a
friendly way and will always feel awkward about it. It didn’t feel natural to me
which in turn reciprocated that feeling on the girl I was with.
What made me overcome my fear of touching is becoming more physical with
the people around me. I would high five more often or try to hug and touch girls
more often (In a non-creepy way). Over time it wasn’t awkward for me anymore
because I did it so often.

Touch Barrier
Just like we talked about before about girls having a defensive shield they also
have a touch barrier. This barrier acts similarly to the defensive shield. Every
woman has an invisible touch barrier and the only way to destroy it is to act fast.
You must break the barrier by becoming physical with her as soon as possible. If
you wait too long it will become awkward or you will end up in the friend zone.
Here are some ways you can break the touch barrier without being sexual.

Handshake
The most innocent and friendly way to break the touch barrier is a simple
handshake. It is not sexual in any way and you can do it right at the start of the
interaction when you and the girl are introducing yourselves. Make sure you
don’t have sweaty hands.

High Five
A high five is my favourite way to break the touch barrier. It is simple and non-
sexual which is perfect for the first stages of physicality. You should go for a
high five when you give the girl positive emotions. This could be when you have
something in common or when she says something you approve on.

The handshake and the high five are the most innocent, friendly and perfect
techniques to break the touch barrier. But now that you have broken the touch
barrier, you need to gradually escalate to a more sexual touch to create arousal.
You can’t go for the make out straight after a handshake. This puts too much
pressure on the girl and will raise her defence mechanism. You don’t want to be
seen as the creepy guy. Here are some places to touch to gradually become more
sexual.

Arm and Shoulder
The arm or the shoulder is a great place to touch especially when you say a joke
and you’re both laughing. Use the arm or shoulder touch when you are in a
positive moment when both of you are laughing or have something in common.
Touching people on the arm or on the shoulder is very normal especially when
you’re both in a high energy moment. It also helps retain the girl’s attention and
keep her in the moment.

Her Back
After you have received a positive response, the next step should be to touch her
back. The back is divided by two parts, the upper back located near the shoulder
and the lower back located above her ass.
Touching her upper back is great for when you are in a loud nightclub and you
need to lean in to talk to her. Even though she will be concentrated on what you
are saying she will feel it and will subconsciously respond to your touch. When
you get a positive response (More on this later) you can start touching her lower
back which is a more sexual area. The best time to touch her lower back is when
you are taking her to another spot in the club or out of the club. You can touch
her lower back to “guide her” towards your destination.

Classic PUA Moves
There are some classic PUA moves I rarely use anymore just to spike the girl’s
emotions. You can use these after you have received two or more positive
responses. The first technique is the spin. This consists of you holding the girls
hand above her head and spinning her around once. It sounds stupid but it will
make her feel like a princess for those 2 seconds. It’s also a great way to show
your dominance and that you are in control.
The second technique is simply to pick up the girl and maybe spin her around.
Picking up the girl you are interacting with will only work when both of you are
high energy and are having a great time. When you see that you are enjoying
interacting with each other and you want to go to a different location, when she
agrees pick her up in a playful way and take her. You don’t have to go the whole
way; a few seconds is enough just to give her an emotional kick.
Another way to incorporate physicality when moving locations is to extend your
arm in a way that allows her to lock arms with you. I usually extend my arm
insinuating that the girl should lock arms with me and that’s what most of them
do.
I once tried this with a girl I was dating and once she locked arms with me she
said “This is kind of corny”. I quickly realised she was testing me so I said
“what would make it even more corny is if I spun you around”. So I grabbed her
hand and hovered it over her head and she spun which gave her positive
emotions. After letting go of her hand she locked arms with me without me
having to say anything.
We will talk more about how and why girls test you and exactly how to pass
every single one of their test.

Touch Responses
For every touch you initiate there is a subconscious response a woman gives.
The response could be positive, negative or neutral.
A positive response will be when a woman touches you back, it doesn’t have to
be at the same place you touched her.
A negative response is when a woman pushes you away or uses slight force to
stop you from touching her. She might also seem extremely uncomfortable with
your physicality so pay attention to her body language. This doesn’t mean you
have done something wrong it just means you must tone down on the touching
and give her some space. Once you have recovered from a negative response you
will eliminate your fear of being physical.
The neutral response is neither good or bad, it means she is cool with you
touching her she just needs more time to get comfortable with you. A neutral
response is when she doesn’t reciprocate your touch neither stops you.
With every touch you initiate always look for the response. Only become more
sexual in your touches if the response is positive. If the girl gives you a neutral
response, then she isn’t ready to become more sexually touched. If she gives you
a negative response take a step back apologise and just continue talking.
Take things slow you don’t have to keep touching her every second looking for a
response. After you have received multiple positive responses from a girl you
will want to try more intimate things. By more intimate things I mean kissing.

Girl Tests and How to Pass Every Single One

A girl needs a way to determine whether you are an attractive, independent,

confident man. She can’t just ask you “Hey are you a cool guy?”. That’s not how
it works. She needs to test you to see if you pass her test. Passing her test will
separate you from every other guy because most guys fail her tests.
What you might not realise is that girl tests are the greatest thing that can happen
to you for two main reasons.
Firstly, girls don’t test guys they don’t find attractive in some way. If they did
they would be wasting their time. Think about it. Why would a girl test a guy she
isn’t interested in? Would you search for a car to buy if you weren’t looking to
buy a car? Would you give out CV’s if you didn’t want a job?
Secondly, when you pass the girls test the whole interaction can transform and
become so much easier for you. The girl will play hard to get until you pass her
girl test. When you do she will instantaneously open up and become more
invested in your interaction.
In this chapter we are going to be talking about the most common test girls give
you and how to overcome them to make yourself stand out from all the other
guys, which in turn will boost your attractiveness.
Before I start listing the most common test girls will give you I need to let you in
on a secret. Whenever a girl tests you she is looking to see if you have failed or
not. How does she tell whether you have failed? By your reaction.
All a girl is looking for when she tests you is a reaction. Once you start paying
attention to girl test you will come to realise that girls hold direct eye contact
when they test you trying to look for a reaction. She is trying to read your body
language and speech to determine if you have become self-conscious or fidgety.
This behaviour is present in unattractive men.
If you hold your attractive body language and brush off her comment as if it
doesn’t faze you, you will pass 99.9% of girl tests. Even better is if you give a
witty comment back while keeping eye contact.

Jealousy
One of the most common girl test you will receive is the jealousy test. Girls will
start mentioning their ex or other guys in hope of making you jealous. They do
this for one of two reasons. They are either trying to test you whether you are an
alpha male or because they need reassurance and have low self-esteem.
If a girl starts mentioning how awesome a guy she is seeing at the moment is,
you could handle this test by using humour. You could for example say “Wow
he sounds awesome, what’s his number”. If you can’t come up with anything
humorous to say you can always change the conversation in a subtle way and
bring it back to you and the girl.
If she starts talking about how great her past relationship was or mentions her ex
I use one specific phrase that works on every woman. “Why did he break up
with you?”.
99% of the girls I have said this to always ask me why they think he broke up
with them. It subtly messes with them but in a playful not a manipulative way.
Very rarely will a girl brush off this comment. This will flip the table and make
her start qualifying herself.
What you should never do is try to make her jealous back. This will show her
that you are self-conscious of yourself which will in turn make you look needy.
If a girl is telling you how great her ex is and then you start talking about how
many girls, you fucked this week then you are starting to qualify yourself. This
is very unattractive behaviour.

You’re A Player
The best way to tackle this comment is to again use humour. Over exaggerate on
how many girls you actually talk to. If she throws this comment at you say in a
sarcastic tone “Yeah in fact, I have 10 girls laying naked on my bed waiting for
me right now”.
This is most likely not true and because you used Over exaggeration along with
a sarcastic tone, the girl will understand that you are just joking. Since you didn’t
act like a scared little boy and used humour as a way to pass her test she will find
you more attractive.
After you have said your humorous comment you should always change the
conversation. Don’t wait for a reaction or for her to respond.
What you shouldn’t do is say “I don’t speak to any girls you’re the only one”.
This comment will make you look extremely lonely if you have only known the
girl for a less than an hour. You should never try to qualify yourself to a girl you
barely know.

Were Lesbians
This is the most common test you will encounter when you approach a group of
women who are friends. It is usually the friend of the girl you are trying to
attract that will say it, only because she is trying to protect her friend.
The friend clearly doesn’t know you so automatically her defence mechanism is
up. If you hear this comment it means that you haven’t lowered her friends
defence mechanism yet.
The best way to pass this test is to say “I’m gay”. That’s it.
What you shouldn’t do is believe them. There are some times where you will
approach a girl that is actually gay, but most of the times girls say it to protect
each other.

I Have a Boyfriend
The most common test girls will give you by far is the boyfriend test. It is also
the one most men fail at.
You’ve spent the last 30 minutes talking to this girl who has a perfect body
along with a great personality. Conversation has been going smoothly and you
have been teasing each other endlessly. You finally build up the courage to ask
for her number but she says “I have a boyfriend”.
She is either testing you or she actually has a boyfriend. She could also be saying
that as a way to push you away because you might have been creepy. We will
not consider the third point because by now you should know how to act non
creepy when attracting women.
To pass her test all you have to do is stay humorous or brush off her comment.
You can just say “Ok cool” and then proceed to exchange numbers. You could
also say “So do I”. The underlying communication is that you couldn’t care less
about her “boyfriend”.
That should be the underlying communication for any response you give to a girl
test. Whether you choose to ignore her comment or give a funny comment in
return you should always show her that her test doesn’t faze you.

If the woman you are interacting with is extremely attractive she will most likely
test you. The reason being is that she gets hit on by multiple guys, she needs a
way to filter out the guys that are truly attractive and the guys that are just faking
it and trying to manipulate her into having sex with him.
If you hold your frame and stick to having fun and not being overwhelmed by
her tests, then you will start to see an increase in how many girls you attract.
Hold your body language, don’t give a reaction and you will pass the girl test
like its nothing.
The guys that constantly fail the test are the ones who put women on a pedestal.
They take everything a woman says too literal and are doing everything in their
power to impress women. You don’t want to be that guy. You should never
change your world for a woman and should never sacrifice something you want
to do just to spend some time with a girl you just met. Leave that for when you
are in a relationship.


 How to Give the Girl the Best Kiss of Her Life

The first kiss is always scary. No matter who you are with, you will feel
butterflies in your stomach. That nervousness will make you feel awkward
which will in turn make the girl feel awkward. Sometimes the girl might even
pull back which will make you feel even worse. In this chapter we are going to
talk about how to determine if a girl wants to kiss you or not and how to not
make it awkward.
You can’t just walk up to a girl and kiss her unless you have some kind of
relationship. If you want to start making out with girls in the club or anywhere
else, then it is going to require a little bit more effort.
Throughout your conversations with the girl you should always be testing how
she feels about you by touching her. If you get at least 3 positive responses in a
row (aka touching you back) then there is a very high chance that the girl wants
to kiss you. Once you have stacked up all your positive responses it is time to
make out.
You can’t however, snog her in front of her friends because then she will get slut
shamed. You must isolate her. Isolating is when you take the girl away from her
group so you and her can get more personal without being judged. Some girls
might not care about what others think but most girls will feel insecure and
wouldn’t kiss in front of her friends since it puts too much pressure on her.
We will talk more on exactly how to isolate the girl and gain her friends trust
later on.

Take The Risk
The hardest part about kissing a girl is knowing if she wants to kiss you back. If
you have stacked up all your positive responses, then It’s time to make a move.
Remember what makes a man attractive is his dominance and leadership. When
it comes to initiating the first kiss don’t expect the girl to make the first move.
Always be willing to take the risk. If she rejects, you it doesn’t mean she
rejected you as a whole, she only rejected your kiss.
When this happens all you have to do is take a step back and just continue
chatting. Keep your conversation light and casual. As you continue talking keep
touching to see what kind of response you get and repeat the process.

How to Handle Rejection
Sometimes the girl will give you one last test to see how you react. I have had
this happen to me multiple times. I would go to lean in for the kiss and the girl
will turn her cheek or pull back. At first I would get confused because all night
she would be giving me the signals but then she would pull back. I soon came to
realise that it was just a test and you must not be reactive.
I usually say something like “that was your only chance and you missed it”.
When you say this it shows that you’re not butt hurt and that you are still the
object of desire. She usually ends up smiling and leaning in for the kiss.
There are other times where the girl will pull away for real. This could be the
case if you go for the kiss too early or you haven’t built enough trust with her.

Take Control
When you initiate the kiss, take control. Use your hands. You can place your
palm on her neck to control where she leans her head. This will avoid any
awkward nose bumps.
Don’t close your eyes to fast. Look at where you are aiming and then when you
get really close that’s when you should close your eyes.
Make use of your hands. You can place your hands on her lower back or on her
waist, you can place your hand on her neck or on her cheek. It doesn’t matter as
long as you aren’t just standing there with your hands dangling off the side of
your body.
The girl might not know where to put her hands. If she is just standing there,
while you’re kissing, take her hands and place them around your neck. This
shows control and dominance. The girl will love you for it.
Never ever wrap your arms around her or hold her too aggressively. Make sure
she is always free to move or pull away at any time. Placing your arms around
her will make her feel closed off and will put too much pressure on her. You
should never make her feel like she is forced to kiss you.

Go Slow
When you are kissing her go really slow at the start. Make it as slow and intense
as possible. No one wants to rush a kiss. I wouldn’t recommend using tongue for
the first kiss but some girls like it. When you finish, pull back and look at her
reaction. Try to determine whether she liked the kiss or not. If she did go for a
second make out, if not then pull back.
You should always be the first to pull back. It will subconsciously show her that
you are in control and the dominant one in the interaction. When you pull away
she will question whether you liked the kiss or not or whether she was “good
enough” which will leave her wanting more.

The First Kiss Is Always the Worst

The first kiss will always be the worst for many different reason. This doesn’t
particularly mean that it is going to be bad it just means that it will be the worst
with that specific girl. You aren’t 100% sure if she wants to kiss you and when
you do kiss you don’t know how fast or slow she wants to go or if she likes
tongue or not, she might taste like vodka, you never know. That’s why you
shouldn’t get butt hurt if the first kiss didn’t go well. Once you get over the first
kiss then the make outs that follow will become more enjoyable.

Timing
Every girl has different timing when it comes to kissing. What I mean is just
because you met a girl yesterday who made out with you after 10 minutes of
knowing you, doesn’t mean you will find a girl that will do the same today.
Every girl has different timing. It might take you 60 seconds to kiss one girl but
it might take you an hour to kiss another.
Kissing is a way for you to give a girl approval and for her to give you. If you
are truly an attractive man, then you won’t be seeking the girl’s approval. Most
guys become needy because they start wanting to kiss the girl more and more
seeking her approval more and more. You should never change your character to
gain the girls approval. Stick to your attractive self that doesn’t need other
people’s validation.

How to Deal with Her Friends and Get Them On
Your Side

Women of beauty are rarely alone. Think about it. How many times have you
seen an extremely hot girl at the nightclub by herself? Very rarely right. The
times where she might seem alone, she is most likely waiting for her friends. If
you want to attract the really hot women, you must learn how to deal with her
friends first. If you wait until she is by herself which might never happen, you
will seem creepy and shy.
Having to deal with her friends may sound intimidating at first but the result of
dealing with them is priceless. If her friends like you then they will be on your
side throughout the whole of the interaction. It is very important to win over her
friends if you truly want to have a great interaction with the girl.

Women of beauty are rarely alone.

Is She Really by Herself?

If you notice a woman sitting by herself at the bar or in a nightclub, chances are
she isn’t alone. You should act as soon as possible because once other guys see
an attractive woman by herself they will take that opportunity to go talk to her.
When you approach the girl you must ask her in a subtle way if she is alone or if
she is waiting for her friends. Your aim is to be as non-creepy as possible. You
can’t approach the girl and ask her “Are you alone?”. This will make you seem
like the world’s biggest creep.
Instead you should say “It’s very depressing to go to a bar by yourself” or
“You’re really popular at this bar I can tell”. This is perfect since you are teasing
her while also giving her a chance to say “Oh no I’m here with my friends”.
Once she mentions her friends or who she is with this is your chance to start
talking about her friends and make her mention their names during the
conversation. By the time the friends are back you know their names which you
can greet them with “Oh you must be Jessica”. If you greet them with their name
it will instantly build a sense of familiarity and trust

Your Skill Doesn’t Matter

When it comes to trying to attract a girl when her friends are around your
seductive skills, no matter how good, don’t matter. You could have the greatest
interaction with the girl and still not manage to get her number or bring her
round your place. The person that determines whether you sleep with the girl or
get her number or even make out with her, is her friends.
Most guys see the friends as an obstacle that wants to cock block you and stop
you from having a good time with the girl. The only reason the friends are there
is try to protect her from
Weirdos approaching her and making her feel very uncomfortable
Being slut shamed if she sleeps, makes out with a complete stranger
The friends aren’t the bad people and you shouldn’t view them like that. Once
you befriend her friends and get them on your side then attracting the girl will
become so much easier. The friends might even help you too. They want her to
find a cool guy in her life, that’s why they cock block all the unattractive guys.
All you need to do is show them that you are a cool guy and that you are “good
enough” for their friend. How do you show you are good enough?

Acknowledge The Friends
The worst mistake you can make is to approach a group of girls and only talk to
the girl you like. That’s what most guys would do because they are usually too
scared to even make eye contact with her friends since the only thought in their
mind is “The friends will try to stop me”.
No one likes being ignored. If you approach the group and ignore everyone but
the girl you find attractive, then you have already set yourself up for failure.
Once you walk up to the group, acknowledge every single person in the group.
This will show everyone that you are a social guy and you’re not just talking to
them to get with a hot girl.
When you are acknowledging the friends It’s nice to give a compliment every
now and then since you are not trying to attract any of the friends you can just
become friendly. You need to show the friends that you aren’t trying to avoid
them because ‘they might cock block you’.
The friends don’t want to cock block you. they want to cock block the weird,
creepy, manipulative guy. You’re the attractive guy so you have nothing to
worry about. They are going to be on your side since they want their friend to
find a cool guy.
The fact that you showed confidence and started befriending her friends will
boost your attractiveness more than anything. Make sure the friends like you
from the start. It is easier to maintain a friendly interaction than to turn a bad one
into a good one.

You vs Them
Her friends aren’t the enemies. It isn’t you against them. They are part of your
team and want you to succeed in attracting their friend. Deep down every
woman wants a man in her life, it’s just hard to find the right one. When you
start befriending her friends and they are on your side they can even become
your wingman.
When they start saying “Wow your pretty cool” or start laughing at your jokes
then the girl will see that you have won her friends over and will find you more
attractive.

Don’t Flirt with The Friends

The whole purpose of approaching a group is to spread fun while meeting a
potential partner. You need to have a different attitude with the friend and a
different attitude with the girl you are interested in. You must be fun and light-
hearted with the friends and flirty and fun with the girl.
Avoid trying to flirt with all the girls there. You should stick to one girl from the
start because then all the other girls will see that you are trying to flirt with
everyone. This will make you seem very manipulative and needy. The
underlying communication is “I don’t care what girl I hook up with tonight. I am
going to flirt with as many as I can until a girl likes me”. Not very attractive
behaviour.

Never Insult Her Friends
No matter how funny your joke might be you should never insult her friends.
You can tease them but you need to be extremely careful. Instead of trying to
insult them try to build trust with them. Later on when you want to leave with
the girl or go somewhere more private they will not even consider cock blocking
you if they trust you.

You Are Going to Get Shit

Everyone views test and getting shit from the girl’s friends as a bad thing, when
in fact you should be begging to get shit from her friends. You are going to get
shit no matter what, and you will be glad that you did.
If someone came up to you and started a fight with you while your friends were
around, would your friends help you out and try to stop the guy from punching
you? if you answered no, then you need to find some new friends.
This is how girls feel when a guy approaches them. They feel very defensive at
the start and her friends are there to help calm down the situation or eliminate
the threat altogether, the threat being you.
If her friends are giving you shit right from the start that just goes to show that
she has friends that truly care about her. If they didn’t, they would let her go
with any guy she wants and wouldn’t try to protect her from getting slut shamed.
When the friends are giving you shit it is a little test to see if you are manly
enough for her or not. If you pass their shit, then they will know you are a cool
guy and that you are “good enough” for their friend.
When they do eventually try to test you and give you shit there is no need to get
butt hurt. Now you know the real reason why they are doing it. it isn’t because
you aren’t attractive or because you aren’t wearing a Gucci shirt or because you
are too short or because you don’t have enough money. It’s because they are
trying to see if you are a man or not, if you are good enough for their friend.
Always stay fun and positive no matter how much shit any group of girls give
you. You should never let other people determine your mood.

She Won’t Flirt with Her Friends Around

With most girls they have different personalities when their friends are around
than when a guy is around. When you approach a group of girls at a nightclub
don’t expect the girl to start flirting with you straight away. If her friends are
around she will feel like she is being judged by them hence why she won’t flirt
with you.
She needs to maintain her status in the friends group. If she starts flirting with
you within the first few minutes of meeting you, she will be slut shamed by her
friends. Girls will not admit this to each other because it can ruin friendships but
whether we like it or not we always judge people based on their actions, even if
it isn’t conscious.
To overcome this obstacle, you must befriend the friends and show them that
you are a cool guy. Once she feels like her friends are comfortable with you then
she will start flirting because she isn’t scared of being judged. To her and her
friends, you aren’t the stranger anymore, you’re the cool guy at the nightclub.

Dealing with Her Best Friend
Is it easier to flirt and attract a girl in a group of 2 people or a group of 3 or more
people? The answer is 3 or more people. You might think the less people in the
group the less intimidating it is for you but that isn’t the case.
Let’s say you approach a girl and she is with her 2 best friends (Group of 3
people) and you start talking to the girl. The two best friends come and give you
shit to see if you are good enough, you pass all their tests and the friends get
comfortable with you.
If you continue talking to the girl, then the 2 best friends can talk to each other
so they don’t feel like they are 3rd wheeling. However, if you approach a girl
who is with her best friend (Group of 2 people), even if you pass her tests then
her friend is still going to stay there, third wheeling and not leaving you alone.
She has nowhere to go and no one to talk to.
Sadly, there is no way to make her leave politely. You should not however
ignore her friend however, because she will definitely cock block you if you do
so.
You must simply act funny and light-hearted towards her and try to bring her in
the conversation now and then, but you should focus mainly on the girl you like.
You MUST ALWAYS pay attention to the friend’s body language.
If the girl starts getting bored and you see signs of this in her body language,
then she is about to cock block you (crossed arms, looking around, trying to
walk away). Quickly include her in the conversation and try to get her to change
her body language. Ask her opinion on what you were talking about. Once she
feels like she has contributed to the conversation she should feel more
comfortable and her body language should have changed.
You should ALWAYS be on the friend’s side. If for example you have been
talking to the girl for 10 minutes and her friend has been standing there with her
arms crossed, you should bring her in the conversation and say to the girl “Hey
don’t ignore your friend she is part of the group as well”. This shows that you’re
on the friend’s side. Make sure you say it in a playful tone.

Taking The Girl Away
If your interaction with a girl is going well you should always try to progress it
further and further. There will be a point in the interaction where you want to
make out or exchange numbers but her friends are around.
You should never try to make out with her or exchange numbers with her while
her friends are there. No matter how great your interaction is, there is a very high
chance she will reject you because it is a very high pressure situation. No matter
how much she likes you, if she even attempts to exchange numbers with you
while her friends are around, she will get slut shamed. The solution? You must
take the pressure off by taking her away from her friends.
When you take her away from her friends you must let them know you are
taking her away. There is a certain phrase I use that will make the friends cool
with you taking her away.
“Me and (girls name) are going to (do something) real quick. I’ll bring her back
in I promise.
This phrase has 3 parts.
The first part is to show that it is a joint decision that you are leaving. It lets the
friends know that she is comfortable with you taking her away. You shouldn’t
say “I’m going to take (girls name)” you should always say “we” or “me and
(girls name)” to show is was a mutual decision.
The second part is what you are going to do. It does not matter what you say as
long as you don’t say you’re going to make out with her or exchange numbers.
You can just say “I’m going to show her a picture of my dog”. This is a great
excuse since when you pull your phone out to exchange numbers the group of
friends will think you are showing a picture of your dog if they see you.
Obviously girls aren’t stupid they will realise you are attracted to each other but
it is a way to take the pressure off the girl.
The last part is where you use a time constraint. Make sure your time constraint
shows that she is coming back really fast otherwise her friends will think that
you are going to take a while and cock block you. if you say “real quick” or “for
a second” the friends will think oh well she will be back in a bit anyway.
Once you have taken her away from her friends you are free to interact with the
girl and go to intimate lengths.

Taking Her Home
It is extremely difficult to take a girl home if she has come to a nightclub with
the intention of leaving with her friends. She won’t abandon her friends for a
random guy she met at a nightclub. Not only will she get slut shamed but it
might also ruin her friendship. Taking her home after she has come to the club
with her friends does require some luck. It isn’t impossible though.
We will talk more about taking the girl home later on.

 How to Deal with Other Guys

If you have started to go out and attract women, you have definitely seen a
woman you found attractive that you didn’t approach because she was with a
guy.
Most guys have a fear of approaching groups where there could be one or more
guys in the group. Even if the guy might be short and geeky and skinny they still
wouldn’t approach because… he is a guy. Negative thoughts are going through
their head constantly “He might want to punch me, he might be in a relationship,
he might like her”
You need to eliminate the negative thoughts from your mind if you want to
approach groups with guys confidently. The cold hard truth is, most guys don’t
have game and that’s why most guys stay just friends with the girl they like. You
on the other hand have game which puts you in a much higher position than the
other guy, even if he is more muscular or good looking than you.
There are simple ways to determine if you should even attempt to approach the
girl if there are guys in her group.

Look at Their Body Language
The first thing that goes through every guy’s mind when they see a woman with
a guy is “That must be her boyfriend”. There is an easy way to tell if this is true
or not. You must simply look at their body language. It is not always 100%
accurate but most of the times you get a rough estimation of their relationship.
If they are hugging or holding hands, there is a very high chance they are in a
relationship.
Their proximity from each other is a good indicator of their relationship as well.
If they are standing really close to each other and are in each other’s personal
space, then they are most likely together. If they are standing a normal distance
from each other they might just be friends.
If you have determined that they seem like friends, it is time to approach.

Is He Her Boyfriend?
The best way to find out if they are in a relationship is to just ask. You can’t
however just approach the group or the two of them and say “Is he your
boyfriend?”. This is creepy and weird and they will most likely lie to you just to
avoid further interaction with you.
Before finding out if they are together approach the group, acknowledge
everyone including the guy, befriend everyone and then you can find out their
relationship stats by asking it in a subtle way. All you have to ask is “How do
you know each other?”. They will answer this question by explaining they are
either friends, or related or in a relationship.
If it turns out it is her boyfriend, you can just ask how they met or get to know
them if you want (for building social value) and then you can leave. You might
even make them relive past emotions which will bring them closer together. All
thanks to you.
One day my aunt and uncle where arguing and shouting and each other over a
very minor thing. I started bringing humour into the argument to calm things
down and then I asked them how they met. Once my uncle started telling the
story my aunt will jump in and correct him when he was wrong and within a
couple of minutes they were both laughing and remembering stories from when
they were dating. The argument that was happening 10 minutes ago was
forgotten and they were just sharing pure emotion.

Boyfriend Shows Up After You Approach Her

You see a girl sitting by herself. You build up the courage and you approach her.
You start talking and 3 minutes later a guy shows up. It turns out it is her
boyfriend. Most guys would feel bad and apologise and exit that interaction as
soon as possible. This is the wrong approach
When he enters the interaction don’t try to “run away”. Instead acknowledge the
boyfriend and show you are not a threat. You can ask “How did you guys meet”
to show that you’re not intimidated that a boyfriend invaded your interaction.
If you managed to start flirting with the girl and you see that she is flirting back
this needs to stop when the boyfriend is there. Some girls will find this
opportunity to try to make their boyfriends jealous by using you. Always side
with the boyfriend no matter what. Be his mini wingman before you leave and
bring him closer to the girl he is dating.

She Is Interested in Another Guy

I am interested in a Lamborghini but it doesn’t mean I’m going to buy it
tomorrow. Most girls are always interested in another guy because women need
men just like men need women. You have probably been interested in 5 different
girls that have walked past you within the past 10 minutes.
Just because she is interested doesn’t mean that she can’t become interested in
you. In fact, you have the advantage over the guy she is interested because you
are there talking with her while he is… who gives a shit where.
Even if she is interested it doesn’t mean the interactions over. If you build
enough attraction she will not care about the guy anymore. All she will be
thinking about is how attractive you are. The guy might not even be interested in
her back.

What If Another Guy Likes Her?

If the guy isn’t there with her, then that isn’t your problem. For all you know if
she is hot there is probably more than one guy who likes her. if she really likes
him back she wouldn’t flirt with you.

Later on we will talk about the different types of guys and how to deal with each
and everyone one of them in order to attract the girl you want. For now, don’t let
other men stop you from getting the girl you want.

 The 4 Types of Guys and How to Handle Them

In most cases when an attractive girl is with a guy that isn’t her boyfriend, he is
there with her for 2 reasons. He is either purely just a friend and is trying to
protect her and have fun with her or he likes the girl and is trying to hook up
with her. Either way you can overcome both these situations and still attract the
girl to you.
To do so you must understand the 4 main types of guys. Throughout your time
of approaching girls, you will start to recognise the different types of guys and
determine how to deal with them. In this chapter I will show you exactly how to
handle each type to attract the girl you want.

Friend Zoned Guy
This guy has feelings for the girl. He is either too scared to admit it or still
building up the courage to tell her. He will probably never tell her how he feels
since it might ruin their friendship and that’s the last thing he wants to happen.
He could however have already admitted his feelings towards the girl but she
friend zoned him. No matter what the scenario, the act is the guy likes the girl
you are trying to attract but the girl only sees him as a friend.
The only advantage this guy has over you is time. Time is needed to build trust
and he has spent a significantly longer time with the girl than you have.
If you want to attract the girl, you must simply be more dominant than him. Girls
are attracted to the most dominant man in the room. He might even try to make
you look bad in front of the girl but that is understandable since he wants the girl
for himself. Always stay fun and positive and don’t say anything negative about
him. He can’t get in the way of you and the girl because the girl doesn’t like him
in an intimate way.

Aggressive Guy
The worst guy you could possibly encounter is the aggressive type. He is the
stereotypical “alpha male” who in his mind is better than everyone else. The
aggressive guy will do everything in his power to make you look bad in front of
the girl. One of the reasons is because he might be interested in the girl himself
but most of the times he just wants to boost his ego.
To overcome him you need to avoid falling victim to his aggressive behaviour
by showing dominant behaviour. He will sometimes try to get a reaction out of
you but you should never respond in an aggressive manner. Don’t act like you
are there to hit on “his girl”, make it seem like you are there to have fun. Always
stay fun and positive and avoid any immature conflict. In the end it will seem
like you are fighting over a girl which is very unattractive behaviour.
If you fight over a girl the underlying communication is that you don’t have any
other girls in your life so you must fight to keep the one you have.

The Random Guy
This is the guy you need to worry least about. The only reason he is there is to
meet a girl and he just so happened to approach the same girl you did. Once you
start talking to the girl and he realises you have more game than him then he will
probably leave.
If you feel like he is a good guy who is just trying to meet a few girls, you can
acknowledge him and befriend him if you want. If you feel like he might
become aggressive I would avoid contact with him.
The girl won’t take his side and won’t ask him to stay if they have only been
talking for a few minutes. She most likely doesn’t trust him and he is still a
stranger to her so you can be left alone.


Big Brother
This is by far the rarest type of guy you will meet and when you do you will
realise that not all guys are trying to cock block you. His sole purpose is to
protect his friend or as he might call her, his “little sister”. He doesn’t have any
emotional feelings towards the girl he just loves spending time with her and he
truly just wants her to be happy.
All you need to do is make sure to befriend him and ease up on the teasing when
he is around. These guys most likely have the Hollywood mind-set as their
dating advisor so if you seem like a gentleman in his eyes, he will give you his
“approval”.
Try to truly build a connection with him because there aren’t that many guys left
in this world that don’t want to fuck every single girl they see. He might even
turn out to become a friend of yours or even a wingman.

You can find out which of the 4 categories the guy you meet falls into by asking
one simple question. “How do you know each other?” or “Is this your friend?”
You will also have to pay attention to his behaviour or what he says to determine
for sure which of the 4 types of guys he is.
In conclusion, you should never go into a group of friends with the expectation
that you are going to approach the group, befriend everyone, get the girl and
leave. Instead approach the group with the mentality of “I’m going to try to have
as much fun in that group as possible”. Try to have fun with both the guys and
the girls of the group.
You shouldn’t be afraid to approach a hot girl because there is a guy around her.
Besides you never know, the attractive girl might turn out to be the most horrible
person you’ve met and the guy might turn out to be the coolest guy you met.

 Body Language of a Woman Attracted to You

One of the hardest things to figure out when it comes to dating is if a woman is
attracted to you or not. When we see a man and a woman flirting we can easily
sense if the woman is into them or not. When it comes to us though it is more
difficult.
In this chapter you will learn exactly how to determine if a woman is attracted to
you and the signs she will give off when she is.

It’s Never Obvious

Guys have a logical brain. They think that if a woman is attracted to him he will
just tell her. This is far from the truth. A woman will never admit her attraction
towards you in a verbal way. If she is drunk, then it might be an exception but
99% of the time she will show her interest with subtle signs.
Most men become blind when it comes to reading the signs women are giving
off. Women are constantly bombarding men with extremely subtle signs of
interests. It requires experience to be able to read the subtle signals the woman is
giving off. Here are some signs that a woman is attracted to you.

Physicality
We talked about being physical with a woman earlier. If she is reciprocating
your touches, then this is a sign that she is attracted to you.
From an early age we would touch things we were interested in. Just like a baby
might touch your face or a kid might touch colourful things, women touch men
they are attracted to.

Laughter
There is a saying that goes something along the lines of “The best way to get the
girl is to make her laugh”. If you can make a girl laugh it doesn’t necessarily
mean she is attracted to you it just means you are funny. If you can make her
laugh at something no one else laughed at it, could mean she is most likely
attracted to you. If she is constantly laughing at your jokes, no matter how bad
they are, she is most likely attracted to you.
A good skill to acquire is to be able to distinguish a real from a fake smile. A
real smile generates wrinkles around the eyes and exposes the teeth. A fake
smile might sometimes expose the teeth but in most cases won’t create wrinkles
around your eyes. Look out for genuine smiles on girls to be able to help you
determine if he is attracted to you.

Touching Herself
I don’t mean this in a dirty way.
If the girl is stroking or playing with her hair it is a sign of nervousness. This
also applies for when she is touching her neck or her arm. The fact that she is
nervous around you could signify that she is attracted to you.

Taking A Peek
If the girl is constantly trying to look at you in a subtle way, then it could be a
sign of attraction. This is probably the hardest sign to spot because the girl will
look at you when you’re not looking at her. Girls are very good at being stealthy.
If you catch the girl looking at you and she quickly looks down, it is a sign she is
shy or nervous around you. It can be interpreted as a sign of attraction. Don’t
think that because she isn’t keeping eye contact she isn’t interested.

Proximity
Earlier we talked about the way to determine if a girl has a boyfriend or not is to
look at her proximity with the guy she is with. If they are close and in each
other’s personal space that means they are comfortable with each other therefore
might be in a relationship. When a girl is trying to get closer to you or is using
an excuse to get closer to you it is a sign that she is attracted to you.
When we were young we always wanted to sit next to our crush or we would try
to get closer to them hoping they would notice us. Nothing has changed. We
want to be closer to the people we find attractive. If she is trying to invade your
personal space, then this is definitely a sign of attraction.

Legs
The legs can tell a lot about what a person is thinking but it is hard to look at the
way the girl’s legs are positioned. If you’re talking to a girl and you look down
at her legs, you will make the girl feel uncomfortable. You must be very
experienced with body language to distinguish what every leg position means,
which isn’t necessary to learn to attract women. The simplest one is the legs
crossed while standing up.
If a girl is standing up with her legs crossed you might assume that it is a bad
thing since crossed arms is negative body language. However, crossing her legs
shows that she isn’t planning on going anywhere. If danger comes then she
won’t be able to get out of the situation fast with her legs crossed. It shows that
she feels safe with you and that she trusts you.

Questions
When a girl starts to become interested in you she will start to ask you questions.
Even if it is just asking your name it is still a sign of interest.
When I approach girls, I purposely don’t tell them my name so I can wait until
they ask me. When they do I know that they are starting to get interested. Any
question is a sign of interest but the bigger or deeper the question is then the
more she is interested. The girl can just ignore you and leave but instead she
decides to show slight investment.
The only question that doesn’t show a sign of interest is “aren’t you going to buy
me a drink?”. Whenever I hear this question I just say “sure what do you want?”
and while I ‘leave to get the drink’ I just go to another girl. Never buy girls you
don’t know drinks. If a girl asks you to buy her a drink, you should either treat
this as a girl test or leave because the girl is only looking for free drinks.
The biggest sign of interest
The biggest sign of interest a girl can give you is that she is still there.
It’s as simple as that. The girl is free to leave at any moment and some of them
will do just that but as long as she is there interacting with you she has some
interest in you. Stop worrying if she is attracted to you or not and just have fun.

Don’t see one sign of interest and think the girl is in love with you. You should
try to find multiple signs of interest to be sure the girl is attracted to you. I
strongly recommend you read a book on body language. It will give you a huge
advantage on attracting women.
If you are struggling to find signs of interest, try to find signs of disinterest
interest. A common sign of disinterest is looking around. This behaviour will
sometimes be subconscious because the girl is trying to “find a way out”.
Another common sign of disinterest is her trying to leave while you are talking.
We have all been in those situations where you aren’t interested in the
conversation but every step you take away from the person they continue the
conversation. So you just end up taking a step away every minute hoping he will
stop talking to you.
When you find a girl that is showing signs of disinterest you can either let her
leave or make an excuse to leave and find another girl that is more interested in
you. If you find the girl really attractive and don’t want to go through the effort
of finding another girl, you could change the conversation and try to give her an
emotional kick to keep her engaged in the interaction. Remember the girl will
get bored if you use too much dry talk so try to balance your emotional kicks and
dry talk.
Now that you have successfully engaged the girl in the conversation and you are
positive she is attracted to you it’s time to make her chase you so you don’t end
up in the friend zone.

 How to Avoid the Friend Zone Forever

As I was discovering the secret rules of dating, I would have friend this one
friend that would be texting a different girl each week but would always manage
to get friend zoned.
I have gotten friend zoned countless times before I started researching about
attraction and each time got harder than the last. After reading countless pick up
books and applying the techniques I learnt, I managed to get a girlfriend within 1
month.
The main difference between a boyfriend and a friend is sex. The girl wants to
fuck her boyfriend but she doesn’t want to fuck her friend. That’s the only
reason you get friend zoned.
I am going to give you some advice on things you should do in order to avoid
the friend zone. I will explain to you the exact behaviours that cause a girl to
lose sexual interest towards you. If you want to avoid the friend zone you must
get the girl to want to have sex with you.

You’re Not Her Friend

The fastest way to get friend zoned is to act like her friend. Submissive guys get
friend zoned.
If you approach the girl and your always nice to her and don’t tease her, then in
her eyes you are a very “friendly” guy. If you follow what I talk about in this
book and tease her and build trust with her and even have subtle sexual
conversation with her, you will avoid getting friend zoned.

You’re Not Her Therapist

If you truly want to build a connection and be able to have long conversations
with girls, you should listen to her. What I mean by this is to listen to her when
she talks about her passions or her family, NOT when she talks about her
problems.
You’re not her therapist and neither should you act like it. If she starts rambling
on about her problems and you just sit there and listen, by the end of her
monologue she will say “Wow, you’re a great listener.” Which is exactly the
same as saying “Wow you’re such a great friend”.
If she does start spilling all her problems on you, cut her off politely. I
recommend saying something along the lines of “Sounds like you need a
therapist”. This is a nice humours comment which will bring back the fun in
your conversation, just make sure you say it in a teasing manner.
You could also say “Let’s leave all that behind us. We are out to have fun” and
then change the conversation.
Obviously when you end up in a relationship with a girl you should listen to her
problems but for now you are trying to attract women not become a therapist.

Don’t Talk About Other Men

If you are talking about other men she is thinking about other men. Leave her
conversations about her exes for her friends. You are here to attract her not
advise her on how to get back with her ex. If you find her talking about other
men, lightly make fun of them. This will show your dominance over other men.
Revert the conversation back to you and the girl as fast as possible. If you are
stuck listening to her go on about how great her ex is you will end up in the
friend zone.

Be Physical
The difference between her best friend and her boyfriend is sex. She has a great
time when she is around her male friends but she doesn’t have that sexual urge
around them. She has a great time around her boyfriend too, the only difference
is she wants to fuck him.
You want the girl to be thinking of having sex with you to avoid the friend zone.
You can’t do this without breaking the physical touch barrier. Sex is touch, so if
you don’t physically escalate on her then you will stay in the friend zone.
We already talked about in a previous chapter exactly how and where to touch a
girl to become physical without being creepy.

Be Sexual in A Subtle Way

If you want to create powerful attraction, then you must do it in a subtle way.
When we were in high school and our crush would make half a second longer
eye contact than normal we would go crazy. We wouldn’t be able to stop
thinking about it all day. It was a subtle sign of interest that’s why.
If you want to avoid the friend zone you need to show her, you are comfortable
talking about sex but must start in a subtle way though. The best way to start a
sexual conversation is to use humour. Let’s say you are talking about pets you
could say
“I have a massive snake. I also have a pet snake at home”
You realise the sexual innuendo but it is very subtle. I basically said I have a
massive penis but you can see how saying it in a subtle way will take some
pressure off the girl. Otherwise I would be way too forward and would seem like
a creep.
What matters when introducing a sexual conversation to your interaction isn’t
just what you say but also how you say it. It is very important to talk about sex
just as you would talk about anything else. Your voice or body language
shouldn’t change. It should feel as if you are talking to the girl about puppies.
For example, you could ask the girl “What’s your favourite sexual position?”
and make it sound and feel as if you have just asked her “What’s your favourite
dog breed?”. If you show her that you are 100% comfortable talking about sex,
she will feel the same.

Don’t Obsess Over One Woman

I recommend you talk or date minimum two girls at a time. When you talk to
one woman she is the only one you think about and you start obsessing over her.
Most people will call me a player for suggesting this but you are less needy
when you date multiple women. Needy men get friend zoned.
What you should never do is lie to a woman.
You must always be honest with the amount of women you are dating. If the girl
asks you “how many women are you dating?”, if you are dating 3, don’t say
“You’re the only girl I’m dating”. You shouldn’t reveal the exact number.
Instead you should treat it as a girl test.
Just because you are dating multiple women doesn’t mean you shouldn’t respect
them.

If you ever find yourself getting those texts that read “Let’s just be friends” then
I suggest you look at what you are doing wrong. The friend zone is something
you should be avoiding from the start.

 Build Immense Attraction Through Speech

In this chapter we are going to discuss some advanced techniques you can use
when talking to girls. I will show you some simple but effective techniques to
increase your attraction.
To create attraction, you need to build three basic things with a girl.
Trust, comfort and arousal.
Building trust will make her not see you as a threat therefore opening up to you
more.
Comfort will show her that she can talk to you about anything and that she can
be herself. You will not judge her and that’s what she should feel like around
you.
Arousal is to make her see you as a potential sexual partner or boyfriend or
maybe just a guy she wants to fuck and that’s it. This is the step guys in the
friend zone miss because “they don’t want to ruin their friendship”.
The simple techniques I list below will help you implement all three of the
points stated above.

Make Fun of Yourself

How can an interaction be fun if you’re not fun? Being funny isn’t just about
saying jokes and acting like a comedian. It’s about being able to make fun of
yourself too from time to time. You’re probably wondering why I put this in the
advanced section. It’s because there’s a fine line between making fun of yourself
while still being attractive, and lowing your value.
If you are constantly the butt of the joke you will seem like the kid who always
got bullied and made fun of in high school. You will seem submissive if you
joke about yourself too much and you should NEVER lower your value for girl’s
entertainment.
However, if you can laugh at yourself you will seem more trustworthy, carefree
and super attractive. Think about when you watch a famous actor tell an
embarrassing story on TV. Even though they are making fun of themselves they
still seem attractive because they are laughing about it, not putting themselves
down.
Learn to start letting go and start making fun of yourself. Tell a weird
embarrassing story or make fun of a flaw you have. I remember at college we
had a brand new substitute teacher come in. The bell rang and a tall skinny
woman with a very big curved nose comes in. We settled down and one student
said to the teacher “I feel like I know you from somewhere”. The teacher replied
“maybe from magazines. I used to be a model. They said I have the perfect nose
for a model”
She said in in such a tone which made it obvious she was lying which made
everyone laugh and made her very likable just because she was able to make fun
of herself. She didn’t do it in a self-indulging manner.

The Most Valuable Word in The World

What do you think is the most valuable word in the world? I want you to truly
think about that before reading on. It is a different word for each person. It is
their name.
We have been hearing our name constantly ever since the day we were born. Our
name has been embedded in our brain so deeply that we immediately react to it
when we hear it.
Have you ever been in a crowded place where everyone is talking and all of a
sudden you hear your name crystal clear? Even though the person might say it in
the exact same volume as everyone else around you, you still hear it very clearly.
Other times someone will say a name that rhymes with your name but you will
still think he said your name.
Your name is your identity.
when we hear our name it subconsciously makes us like the person even more.
When interacting with a girl make sure to use her name every now to build trust
and to show that you haven’t forgotten it. If you have forgotten it, I recommend
you become straight forward with her and tell her you forgot her name.
At my first day at work as a waiter, the staff I was working with would ask me
what my name is to be polite but then they would forget it moments afterwards.
When they were showing me how to handle a tray or where to get the drinks
they would refer to me as “you over there” or try to get my attention in different
ways. Everyone apart from one guy who would always say “Max, can you bring
the drinks over?”, “Thanks Max” “You will get used to this job Max, don’t
worry”. As you can imagine he was the most likeable guy at work.
Be very careful not to over use this technique because you will instantly seem
creepy and weird. Don’t say “I love your dress Jessica. Where did you get it
Jessica? No way! My mum shops from that shop Jessica”. In the end you will
make her hate her own name.

Inside Joke
An inside joke is when you have a reoccurring joke that will only be
understandable if you have been part of a previous conversation or scenario.
This sounds a little complicated so let me explain. A girl I was seeing at the time
was telling me about an embarrassing moment she had at the doctors. While the
doctor was examining her, she farted. When she told me the story we were both
in tears laughing our heads off.
About a week later we were texting each other and she told me she had to go to
the doctors. I said “Try not to fart this time” and that brought back all the
positive emotions we experienced the first time she told me the story.
A few days later we went out with a couple of friends and something about a
doctor got mentioned and all we had to do was look at each other and we started
laughing. None of our friends understood why we were laughing, which made it
an inside joke. If they were there when the girl was telling the story about how
she farted at the doctors, they would have understood the joke.
I love inside jokes because they can be literally anything. They could be about
the girl not liking pizza or being a vegetarian to a silly nickname you gave her to
an embarrassing story.
Inside jokes are brilliant but you can never plan for them. They just happen
during an interaction. Each inside joke is unique for every girl. If at any point
you want to bring back positive emotions try to implement your inside joke in
the conversation.
Don’t say “Remember when you farted at the doctors?”. That will kill the joke.
Instead drift the conversation to a topic which involves your inside joke. For
example, if you are talking about school you can then talk about how you
couldn’t understand your English teachers handwriting and then drift that
conversation to how doctors have the worst handwriting. You can now say “A
doctor came to our school and I had to go for a check-up. I didn’t fart during the
check-up but I did discover I was colour-blind.” You just casually implemented
the inside joke.

Challenge Her
I know I have said it before but I’m saying it again so it sticks. Challenge the girl
every now and then. If you don’t challenge the girl the conversation gets dull
and boring, just like every other guy she has met. You need to be different.
You don’t have to disagree with everything she says but you should definitely
speak out if you disagree with something she says. You can even playfully
challenge her where you are being sarcastic. For example, you could say “You
don’t like Justin Bieber? Uh! Justin Bieber is the greatest musician of all time”.
You are challenging her but you are also being sarcastic.
Topics you should definitely 100% avoid challenging her at are politics and her
work. If she says she is a teacher don’t say “I hate teachers. All they do is sit on
their ass all day and get paid”. That’s not going to go well unless you say it in an
obvious tone that showcases you are joking and if the girl is super cool. Better
not risk it.

LISTEN
LISTEN.LISTEN. LISTEN. This is one of the most important skills you need to
master. I know it sounds simple, you might even consider yourself a good
listener. If you truly are a good listener, you should be able to talk to women for
hours on end. Most people don’t know how to listen.
Listening is a skill you develop over time. Most guys when they start talking to a
girl they fear that the conversation will die so they start thinking of other
conversation starter…WHILE THE GIRL IS TALKING. I have been a victim of
this myself and what I and many other guys didn’t realise is that all the
conversation starters where being laid out in front of us. All you need to do is
pick a word from what the girl is saying and use that word to start a
conversation. You can’t do this when you are not listening.
When you truly listen to a girl and are invested in the interaction you won’t even
have to fish out words to use as a conversation. It will all happen naturally. It
will take time, a long time until you can keep a conversation going naturally so
don’t stress about it if you don’t manage to make a conversation flow tomorrow.
To show her that you were listening, repeat a phrase she said or a word she said
every now and then. It builds rapport very fast with the girl. For example, if she
is telling you a story about her dad who cut his finger with a chainsaw you can
say “He cut his finger with a chainsaw? Wow!” in a surprised manner.
Obviously you heard it the first time but you repeating it will show her you are
actually listening.
If instead you said “wow”, that will show no enthusiasm and even though you
might have been listening to her it will make it seem like you weren’t. When you
truly listen to the girl you will be able to remember previous conversations you
had which you can then refer back to if the conversation dies.

Why So Serious?
Often times when I go out to nightclubs guys will be having the time of their life
and will be dancing and laughing and having fun, but when it’s time to talk to a
girl all that fun dies. They become all serious because they want to “impress” the
girl and show her how “mature they are”.
We talked before about offering value when starting an interaction and the best
way to offer value is to offer fun. When you’re at a club bursting with energy,
dancing, singing and having an amazing night, take that energy with you to the
interaction with the girl. Your interactions will be much more pleasurable and
will make you more attractive in the eyes of the girl.
When you first initially start a conversation with a woman you should always
keep it light and fun. You should never go into a deep or controversial subject
within the first few minutes of meeting her. When in doubt ask yourself, ‘Does
she feel comfortable?’ Look at her body language for clues.
When I am my fun self when I go out, I stick with the fun women that match my
personality. I meet a few serious women but that interaction doesn’t last very
long so I excuse myself and move on. Not every girl is right for you and if you
are fun then you will attract fun girls.
Stop treating flirting with women like a chore. An interaction should be fun. It
should be something you want to do not something you have to do. The more
you relax the more fun you will have with women. Especially if they are cool
girls.

Female Social Value

Most people are sheep who follow the crowd. If a new pair of trainers come out
and everyone is buying them, you are going to want to buy them as well. The
same applies to women. Women are attracted to guys that other women are
attracted to as well.
There is a simple way to tell women that you attract women very subtly.
Through story telling. An “innocent” story can show that you have women in
your life. For example, if you are talking about horror movies you could say
“Last night I had a friend over to watch a movie and as she was drinking her hot
chocolate there was a jump scare in the movie and she spilled all the hot
chocolate on her”.
I concentrated on the fact that a friend of mine spilled hot chocolate during a
jump scare but you know I was with a girl because I used “she”. There is no
need to describe the girl or go overboard. This technique is subtle but very
powerful.
If you said “Last night, I had a friend over. She is a really hot blonde perfect 10.
As we were watching a horror film she spilled hot cholate on her”. Now it seems
like you are trying to hard which is an unattractive trait.

Me – You Technique
You can’t attract a girl as effectively if you don’t use the Me – You technique.
Throughout your conversation you will often times drift off. When this happens
and you are going into a conversation you don’t want to go in you should always
try to revert the conversation back to you and her.
If she is talking about other girls in order to bring herself down, you should bring
the focus back on her. Let’s say you are talking to a short woman but she is
really cool. She starts drifting off the conversation to her friends and how they
had a great time last night but didn’t invite her. You can then say in a teasing
manner “None of them are as tall as you though right?”. Now you put the
spotlight on her.
If she seems like she was uncomfortable with that comment you can take the
pressure off by saying “Don’t worry I’m the shortest guy in my social circle
too”. Then you can extend your hand for a high five.
You just used the Me - You technique since you brought the conversation back
to you and her and the fact that you have a similarity, while also breaking
physical contact.
You can also use the Me – You technique to paint a picture in her head of you
two together no matter what the scenario. My favourite line to use is “That’s it,
we are getting married”. I use this line when the girl mentions anything to do
with supercars because that is an obsession of mine. This comment is clearly
false because we are not actually going to get married but it makes her picture
me and her together.
You can even talk about things you are going to do together. For example, if you
love rock climbing and the girl you are talking to has never been rock climbing
you can just say “You’ve never been rock climbing? That’s it we are going rock
climbing together”. Don’t use an exact date or anything that will suggest that
you are saying it in all seriousness.
What you should not do is say that you are going to do something. It should
always be something you are going to do together. “Were going to get married”
not “I’m going to marry you”. “We are going rock climbing together” not “I’m
going to take you rock climbing. Always make it mutual.

At the end of the day even if you don’t use any of the techniques we talked about
in this chapter you can still succeed with women. It isn’t whether you said the
best pick up line in the world that will get you the girl. It’s if you have a
connection with the girl. With some girls’ conversation will flow smoothly and
you won’t have to think about any of the techniques mentioned above. That
connection is very rare though that’s why the techniques above will help you
have better interactions with women.
Don’t stress about missed opportunities either. If you had the opportunity to use
an inside joke but you missed it, that’s fine. The inside joke isn’t going to be the
thing your interaction will be based upon. You will have another opportunity to
use the inside joke or you can even create the opportunity.
The more you go out and talk to girls the more your own character will start to
shine. Experience will give you more peace of mind because you won’t be
thinking “Ok she said he likes Lamborghinis. Use the Me – You technique. Now
refer back to the inside joke.” They will all come naturally as you develop your
own character and style.

 Make the Girl Chase You

Every guys dream is to be a massive stud and have all the hot supermodels chase
him. Literally. The fantasy of 20 hot girls texting you all the time and begging
you for sex is just that, a fantasy. Unless you do it right.
Making the girl chase you is a very advanced technique which requires a lot of
experience and mental power. In this chapter I am going to show you how to
make girls chase you to bring your interactions to a whole other level.

Let Her Invest
When you first approach a girl it is obvious that you are going to put in more
effort than she will until you build trust and arousal. Once she starts to realise
that you are a cool you need transition who is investing more in the
conversation. How do you do that?
Shut up and listen.
It’s as simple as that. You need to give the girl space to invest. If you are
constantly talking and interrupting her then you are eliminating any possibilities
of her chasing, you or opening up to you. When you ask a question sit there and
listen. Don’t think about what to say next just listen.
We talked about in the previous chapter that you should listen to the girl so you
know what to say next. If you want to make her chase you, you must listen to the
girl in order for her to continue the conversation. You should constantly be
giving her space to invest once you have built trust and feel like you have a
connection.
For a few seconds, stay silent and let her start the conversation. These are going
to be the longest most awkward seconds of your life. The same applies to her.
She won’t be able to bear the silence so she will come up with a way to continue
the conversation or break the silence. When this happens you know that she is
invested. Learn to be comfortable with awkward silences.
It takes massive mental power to be able to stay silent for a few seconds next to
a hot girl. You will want to say something to break the silence because you don’t
want to “lose” this girl.
It is harder for her to reject you after half an hour of interacting especially if the
interaction is going great. She has already invested this much time with you she
doesn’t want to lose you. We invest more in things we already invested a lot in.
Study shows that women speak an average of 20 000 words per day in
comparison to men who speak only 7 000 words per day.
This is an advance technique because it is not a simple line you can say to create
attraction. It is a gradual process. When you approach a girl the investment
percentage will probably be 90% on your part and 10% on her part. Once you
start teasing her the investment from your part can drop down to 80% and 20%
for her.
Slowly as you start to build trust you can let her invest more and more in the
interaction. Beware! You shouldn’t decrease your investment in the interaction
you should let her invest more. You do this by not interrupting her.
Once you reach the point where you think you are both investing the same
amount in the interaction, it is time for you to stay silent for a few seconds. Let
her start the conversation. By staying silent it seems as if you are losing interest.
If she desperately tries to revive the conversation you can be sure she is attracted
to you.

Don’t Play Her Game

Tease her as much as possible. Teasing and challenging her will make her chase
you like crazy. It doesn’t have to be verbal.
For example, if she wants to kiss you and leans in to kiss you then you can pull
back and say “I don’t know if I know you that well”. This will make her go
crazy. I don’t think she would ever have a guy pull back on her since most guys
are needy and always crave a make out.
Not only will it show that you are the dominant male in control it shows that you
are not needy. You rejecting her kiss shows her that you don’t desperately crave
her validation. Once you pull back you and tease her you can then go for the kiss
a few seconds later. Always tease and act like the object of desire. It will drive
her crazy more than anything else.
Humans are like cats. When a cat sees a cotton ball moving it chases after it.
When the ball is still and is easy to obtain the cat shows no interest. Not being
easy to obtain and constantly teasing her whether she can have you or not will
make her more attracted to you.

 Exchanging Numbers Without Being Awkward

After you have had a great interaction with a girl you will want to keep in touch
with her so you are going to want to exchange numbers. It isn’t as simple as
asking for her number though and you will see why in this chapter.
I don’t like the phrase “getting the girls number”. It makes it seem as if the girls
number is the trophy you achieve after defeating the ultimate boss. “Getting the
girls number” shouldn’t be your priority when interacting with a girl. Your
priority is to have as much fun as possible and offer fun to the girl.
You shouldn’t try to exchange numbers with a girl just to boost your ego. The
amount of numbers you get from girls are worthless. It’s the quality of the girls
behind the numbers that truly matter. It doesn’t matter if you have 100 numbers.
If none of those number respond to your texts, then that says something about
your game.
Guys tend to assume that the amount of numbers you get corresponds with how
good you are with women. This is bullshit. If you get 20 numbers on a night out
and the next day only 2 girls respond to your text, then you don’t seem like the
player you think you are.
I would much rather get 3 numbers with 3 reply’s back and possibly a date.
The relationship you have between that girl is the most important part, the
number is just a means of communication. It’s not how fast you get the number,
it about how good of an interaction you had with the girl and how to best
yourself to have even better interaction with future girls.
You shouldn’t try to exchange numbers with girl you have no intention of
texting. It is pointless and the only reason you would do that is to fuel your ego.
The validation of her giving you her number will give you a temporary high and
will make you feel less insecure. Attractive men don’t use women to get
validation. Only exchange numbers with girls you think are cool and that you
would like to hang out with or further get to know.
After reading this book and applying everything you have learnt you will start to
get a lot of numbers on your phone. Don’t fall into the trap of bragging about the
amount of numbers you have on your phone. Always stay humble and try to
better yourself and your game.
You will get tons of real numbers but you will also get some fake numbers. This
is perfectly natural. Sometimes the girl will feel like she is obliged to give you
her number and it is easier for her to give you a fake number rather than turn you
down on the spot. Don’t get butt hurt, you will have more real numbers than fake
if you do things right.
Now that you understand if you truly want to exchange numbers with a girl it’s
time to actually do so.

Time
The number one key to getting girls number is time. The more time you spend
with her the more trust you build between you and her. A number for a girl is
valuable to her and only shares it with people she knows. She won’t share it with
a random guy she met for 2 minutes in a nightclub.
If she gives out her number to any guy, then the next day she will be bombarded
with needy texts she doesn’t want to respond to. You are different however.
Because after spending enough time with her you won’t be the random guy at
the nightclub you will be John or Mark or whatever your name is from the
nightclub.
If you show her throughout your interactions that you are not needy then she
won’t hesitate to give you her number since she knows you won’t be sending
needy text messages the next day.
If she does hesitate or doesn’t want to exchange numbers with you this could be
because you either haven’t built enough trust with the girl or you haven’t given
her enough time. The mistake guys make is they want to go talk to a girl for 5
minutes get her number and leave. If you ask for the number too early then you
will most likely not get it.

Let’s Exchange Numbers

Every guy is always worried about how they should ask for the girl’s number.
The answer is…you shouldn’t. You should never ask the girl for her number.
When you “ask” someone for something it always implies that you are taking
something away from them or you are trying to benefit from them.
Instead of asking the girl for her number you should always say “Let’s exchange
numbers” or “We should exchange numbers”. It seems like such a minor thing
but this phrase alone increased the amount of numbers on my phone. The fact
that you aren’t asking for her number shows dominance.
This is very powerful because you are subconsciously communicating “Let’s do
something together”. The exchange of the numbers is a mutual thing. you aren’t
taking something away from the girl.
If you take away just one thing from this chapter, make it this phrase. You can
skip everything else in this chapter and still get amazing results only using this
phrase. I would recommend you read everything to increase the amount of girls
you exchange numbers with.

High Note
When you decide to exchange number make sure you do it on a high note during
the conversation. When you are both laughing and having a good time just say
“Hey. You’re pretty cool we should exchange numbers” while you pull your
phone out. If she is genuinely enjoying your company she won’t protest.
Sometimes however they do.

Hesitation
There are times when the girl will not want to exchange numbers with you for a
million different reasons. She might have just wanted a good time without
anything more, she might have recently gotten out of a relationship and isn’t
ready to move on, there are honestly a million different reasons.
The girl you have been flirting with could be married but she wanted to
experience what it was like to get hit on again. Even though they could be a
million different reasons sometimes it is just a test.
Hot girls get approached all the time. If they gave out their number to every guy
that asked for it then their phone would not stop buzzing with creepy needy
messages. The girl needs a way to filter out the needy with the cool guys. She
does this by testing you. Judging by your reaction they determine if you past the
test or not.
Such test can be “I have a boyfriend.” or “Why?”. There are times where the girl
will truly have a boyfriend but if she did would she really be flirting with you?
To pass these test you need to show no reaction. Humour can always help you
pass test like these. A great response to “I have a boyfriend” is “Me too”. You
need to say it with a slight smirk on your face to show the girl that you are just
joking. Another great response is “What’s his name?”. If she takes a few seconds
to reply you can call her out on lying. If she answers instantly there is a high
chance she has a boyfriend.
There are endless phrases girls use to test you when exchanging numbers. “I
don’t give out my number”, “why don’t you give me your number?” and the list
goes on and on. If you can’t think of a funny response you can just ignore her
comment. You can still pass her test by pretending you didn’t hear her.
A funny response to “why” is anything you find funny. It doesn’t matter as long
as you show that you aren’t going to act like a bitch because of her test. I would
say “Because I make great soup. You will never get to taste it if we don’t
exchange numbers”. I don’t even know how to cook.

Risk
Women take lower risks than men. The anterior cingulate cortex, the part of the
brain that weighs options when making a decision, is larger in women than men.
That is why a woman will think twice about giving you her number, leaving the
club with you, making out with you etc.
You can eliminate any chance of making her think you are needy by displaying
attractive behaviour. When you tell her “Let’s exchange numbers” add a
qualifying question or statement to show your non neediness and that you are the
object of desire.
Once you go to hand out your phone to her pull back and ask her “Wait! What’s
my name?” or “Wait you’re not going to send me needy messages are you?”.
These questions are perfect because they qualify her and they show her that you
don’t give your number to just any girl.

Decrease Pressure
The worst possible place to exchange numbers with a girl is near her friends are
around. You should never exchange numbers with the girl when her friends are
right next to her because she will most likely not give you her number, no matter
how much she likes you. You are putting too much pressure on the girl and you
are running a high risk of her being slut shamed by her friends.
In her mind her friends are thinking “Wow what a slut. She is going to give her
number to a random guy she met at the nightclub?”. There are rare occasions
where the girl will exchange numbers with you in front of her friends but these
occasions are extremely rare.
What you should do in this scenario is to take her away from her friends using
the phrase “Me and (girls name) are just going to see pictures of my dog real
quick”. Once you have taken a few steps away from the group then you should
exchange numbers. The girl will love you for it.
If you can’t take her away from the group and you still want to exchange
numbers, you can decrease the pressure of her friends by turning her back on
them. Her friends are still behind her but her back acts as a shield which will
lower the pressure of the situation.

Save Her Name Under an Inside Joke

A cool thing I like to do when I exchange numbers with a girl is to save their
name under an inside joke. This way I have something to remember her by
which will come in use when we are going to text her.
Throughout your time of interacting with girls you will come to realise that a lot
of the girls you will exchange numbers with will have the same name. You don’t
want to have 10 different Jessica’s saved on your phone.

The One Thing You Should NEVER Do

There is one thing you should never do when it comes to exchanging numbers.
NEVER say thank you. I know we have been brought up to have manners but
when you exchange numbers with a girl saying thank you will make it seem as if
you have taken something from her. When exchanging numbers, we don’t want
that. We want it to be a mutual casual thing.
No matter what, don’t say thank you.

Instead of A Number
We are living in the 21st century. People don’t really exchange numbers as much
as they used to. We are living our life through social media. Instead of
exchanging numbers it is better to exchange social media for many reasons.
Exchanging social media is a way less pressured situation for the girl. Our social
media isn’t as private as our phone number. There is a higher chance a girl will
give you her Instagram than her number. No one would say no to an extra
follower.
By having her Instagram, you get to see if she is actually a cool girl that you
would like to hang out with more or not, by browsing her feed. Not only that but
it lets her know that you are a cool guy. Once a girl exchanges Instagram’s with
you, you can be sure that she will check out your profile and latest pictures.
When she scrolls through your Instagram and realises you’re a cool guy she is
more subject to open up to you since she knows you aren’t a creep.
This however means that you need to upgrade your Instagram profile. Your
Instagram page should consist of awesome high quality photos of you and things
you are interested in. It needs to let the girl know that you are a cool guy that has
an awesome life. You don’t have to show off on your Instagram, you just have to
show who you are. Have pictures of you at the club having fun or you laughing
with some friends or you hanging out with women. You should project social
value in your pictures.
Instagram is the best way to communicate to the woman that you aren’t just a
boring guy with no life. Best part is you don’t even have to brag about it, she
will find out by herself.

After You Exchange Numbers
DO NOT LEAVE! Right after you exchange numbers you will feel the urge to
leave. If you do it will seem like your only purpose in interacting with the girl
was to get a number to fuel your ego. Instead stay there and talk for a few more
minutes. This will show her that the number isn’t a trophy for you it is just a
means of communication.
Imagine if a relative you haven’t seen for months knocks on your door. You sit
down have a cup of coffee and talk for 10 minutes and then they ask you for
money. You give them the money they needed and they leave immediately. This
will make you feel as if they didn’t sit down and have a coffee with you because
they wanted to, it was because they needed the money.
Instead if your relative sat down an extra 20 minutes after you have given them
the money it will show their appreciation more and it will make you feel that
they sat and had a coffee with you because they wanted to not because they
needed money from you.
After you get her number stay and tease her a bit more. Try to give her some
positive emotions before you leave so the last memory she has of you is a
positive one.
You should always try to end your interactions first. This will leave the girl
wanting more especially after you have given her positive emotions. It also
shows your dominance. You don’t have to just leave out of the blue. You can
simply use the excuse “My friends are waiting on me so I better get going”.
Now you have successfully exchanged numbers with a girl you are attracted to.
It’s time to text that number.

 How to Text a Girl to Build Attraction

So you have exchanged numbers or social media with a girl. Now what?
Most guys get too caught up on random bullshit texting rules the dating
community has made up. The PUA’s say you should wait 24 hours to text the
girl and you shouldn’t put emoji’s and your text should contain perfect grammar
etc. It’s all bullshit.
It doesn’t matter if you take 24 hours to text her or 24 minutes. The fact is she
will get the text either way. It’s what you text that is more important. My
personal preference is to text a girl after 7pm. This is when people aren’t usually
busy. If you text a girl throughout the day expect her to reply late since people
are busiest throughout the day. They go to work, they do their groceries, they
might go to the gym etc.
I wouldn’t recommend texting a girl on a Friday or Saturday night because most
girls are going out on these days. If you text her on a Friday night you are
subconsciously saying “I have nothing better to do on a Friday night so I am
texting, you”. If you really want to text her on a Friday night for whatever reason
I recommend you start the conversation off with “I am at this club and…” or
“I’m getting ready to go out …”. This shows that you aren’t sitting alone at
home waiting for her to text back like a needy guy.

Purpose of Texting
The main purpose of texting is not to have a long deep conversation with the
girl. The only purpose of texting is to get the girl out on a date. If you’re in high
school, then sure text the girl and try to have a conversation with her over text
but if you’re a man you should use texting to get her out. Leave the conversation
to when you meet up.
This doesn’t mean however that your second text should be you setting up a
date. You shouldn’t start a conversation you should however tease her and be
flirty with her through text. This will give her all the positive emotions she needs
to agree to meet up with you. More on that later.

The First Text
Many guys stress over the first text and sit there endlessly thinking of the perfect
first text. The first text is the most important text. If the girl is attractive, then
you are most likely not the only guy texting her. You are however most likely
the only non-needy guy texting her. You must send a low investment text that
doesn’t end in a question mark to show that you aren’t like all the other needy
guys. What do I mean by low investment text?
A low investment text is a simple text which you didn’t have to put a lot of
thought into. You don’t have to send the “perfect text”. I usually send a text
referencing something we talk about throughout our interaction. This will bring
back all the positive emotions she experienced when we were together.
Avoid asking a question on the first text. Instead text a statement. If your first
text has a question mark in the end, then the girl will feel obligated to text back.
If, however you send her a simple statement she can choose to ignore it. This is a
perfect way to see if the girl is interested or not.
There are times where a girl will ignore your text even if you had a great
interaction. When this happens guys get confused as to why they do this. The
reason is because of their emotional drives. Have you ever been in a situation
where you are texting a girl and she takes a while to reply to your text but once
you are in an argument with her, her replies are almost instant. This is because of
her emotional drive.
When you were interacting with the girl you would have given her positive
emotions and kept her interested. The next day though when you text her, her
emotions might be flat. If they are she won’t feel the urge to text you back and
will probably forget to text you later. Even if she had the best interaction with
you last night, if she isn’t feeling it she won’t text you back.
There are some texts you should NEVER send. The worst one is “Hey, it’s John
from the bar last night. I was wearing a red shirt remember me?”. This is the
neediest text you could possibly send the girl. Sure it seems sweet and innocent
and you might be thinking if she was drunk the night before she might have not
remembered you, but this text screams “Give me validation”. Instead you should
send your statement or a reference to something you talked about in your
interaction and then just add your name on the end.

Instagram
If you are going to text a girl through Instagram or other social media, you have
advantage of sending photos and videos. You can always start the conversation
by sending her a funny photo.
Sometimes I like to send a funny 4 second video. I have a specific video I send
which always makes me and everyone I show it to laugh. You can be sure the
girl laughed at the video if she replies. Not only does sending a funny video
separate me from all the other guys it also gives her positive emotions that she
associates with me. If you’re stuck, find a short funny video and send her that.
When she is scrolling through her DM’s all she is going to see is needy text
messages from guys and then she will see your message “sent a photo”. Girls are
curious, she will click on it.
Once she laughs you have just given her positive emotions no other guy has
given her on a first text. What is lower investment than a simple funny photo.
Again she doesn’t have to reply to it but I bet you she will.

Waiting
When I first started getting girls numbers. I would text them and would just wait.
What I didn’t realise at the time is that waiting is the worst possible thing you
can do. I would start to overthink and become very negative “The girl isn’t
interested”, “She is probably talking to other guys” etc.
When you have sent your first text don’t just sit there and wait for a text back.
Even if you have been talking for a while you shouldn’t wait for any girl’s text
back. You need to realise that the girl has a life too. She could still be at work, in
the gym, cooking, at a family gathering, shopping, having a shower, eating,
reading, her phone is on mute, driving. There are a million different reason that
are holding her back from replying to you.
The worst possible thing you could do that will lose all her attraction towards
you is to keep bombarding her with needy messages until she replies. “Why are
you not replying?” “Are you there?” “Why are you ignoring me” etc. These kind
of texts subconsciously tell her “I have no other girls in my life so I am going to
sit here on my phone waiting for you to reply because I have nothing better to
do”. That doesn’t sound very attractive does it.
Instead what the attractive man does is goes out and has fun. He lives his life. He
doesn’t spend hours waiting for a girl he has talked to for an hour reply to his
message. He pursues his hobbies and passion, he reads a book, watches a film,
spends time with family and friends and many more, instead of staring at his
phone waiting for a text message that will give him validation.

Now that you know what to text it is important to know what you shouldn’t do
when texting a girl.

Paragraphs
If the majority of texts on the screen is coming from you it shows that you are
way more invested than she is. One sided texting is when you are sending
paragraphs and she texting back a one-line text. It shows that you are putting so
much effort into starting a conversation with her but she isn’t reciprocating that
effort.
If you find yourself sending paragraphs, try to tone back a little and let her invest
a bit. Slowly decrease the amount of text you send. Remember you aren’t trying
to have a long conversation with her you are purely trying to get her to meet up
with you.

Don’t Text Her Every Day

Give her some space. The reason girls rarely give out their numbers is to not get
bombarded with texts everyday 24/7. Don’t text her for a day, give her some
space after you have had a little back and forth texting. You give her a chance to
miss you even slightly. If you are free to text her every single day 24/7 is says
something about how interesting your life is.

Calling
I am not a big fan of calling girls. Many guys have success by doing this because
it adds a new depth to the interaction. It is better to hear someone’s voice rather
than read their texts. However, the reason I don’t call girls is because it is a too
high pressure situation for a girl. She could be very insecure and not pick up the
phone because “Her voice doesn’t sound good” or some bullshit excuse. I know
a girl that won’t pick up the phone unless she is wearing make-up. The girl
might not even have time to talk to you on the phone.
My advice is if the conversation through text is going amazing and you have
both been replying pretty fast, then I suggest you ask her if it’s cool to call her
first. She won’t be hit with that element of surprise and put the phone down
because of the pressure. Use a time restriction too.
“I’m going to call you real quick because I don’t want to text” or just give her
any reason whatsoever. Wait for her to reply “Sure” and then you just call her.
During texting, your main purpose is to get her out on a date. When talking on
the phone however you have the opportunity to have a great conversation since
her replies will be instant. After your conversation you set up the date.

Setting Up a Date
You have been texting back and forth or talking on the phone and everything is
going great you want to go on a date with this girl. Asking the girl out may seem
slightly intimidating at first but over time you will overcome your fear of setting
up dates.
While you are texting the girl you will want to make sure you have given her
some positive emotions by either teasing and flirting with her or making her
laugh. You will then send a text message saying “What are you doing later?” or
“What are you doing Wednesday night?”. Her reply will be similarly to one of
two replies.
She will either reply with a plan she has set up for later or she will reply with
“Nothing”.
If she replies with “I’m going to the cinema later” she is either actually going to
the cinema or she is making up an excuse for you not to ask her out. Either way
don’t get butt hurt you can always try again in a few days. Stay in a positive
mood. You don’t have to completely end all interactions between you and the
girl because she didn’t agree to go out with you once.
If, however her reply is “Nothing” that means she is expecting you to ask her out
and you should do it immediately. Remember you need to show your
dominance. Just like when exchanging numbers, you should never ask the girl
out on a date. Instead say “Let’s grab a coffee Wednesday night”. If she agrees
then you can work out the details.
You need to show that you don’t go on a date with any woman. You do this by
adding a statement that will make her qualify herself. All you have to do is say
“Only if you’re cool” or “As long as you don’t turn out to be a psycho”.
The finally text should look like this:
“Let’s grab coffee Wednesday night, as long as you don’t turn out to be a
psycho”
You can see that you qualifying the girl takes the pressure off the situation. If
you say “Do you want to go on a date on Wednesday?” this puts too much
pressure on the girl. With the text above you show dominance and also take the
pressure of the girl.

Now that you have successfully managed to set up a date it is time to go on that
date.

 How to Set-Up the Perfect First Date

This is what everything has been leading to. The approach, the number
exchange, the texting back and forth. It all led up to the date. The date can be
very intimidating for most. As long as you follow these 3 simple rules, your
dates are going to be the most fun you’ve had in a while.

Rule #1: The Amount of Money You Spend Doesn’t Equal the
Amount of Fun a Girl Will Have with You
Many men have the mentality of a “Hollywood gentleman”. If I ask you to
describe a typical date you will most likely describe something along the lines of
taking a girl to a fancy expensive restaurant, with a flower in the middle of your
table, you pay for the bill which is way more than you can afford and then you
drive her home.
Get this mentality out of your head. If your dates consist of what I just described,
then you better take notes.
The reason men spend a lot of money on girls is because they are simply
insecure. They believe that the only way to get the girl to like them is by buying
their way into their affection. This makes me so frustrated.
While reading this book you would have picked up the fact that women like
confident men who do not seek validation. Spending a lot of money on a girl you
just met shows that you have the exact opposite qualities of an attractive man.
We talked about the fact that women do not give a shit about whether you’re rich
or not.
Women don’t go on dates with guys to eat something expensive they go on dates
with guys to have fun. Think about it, if you were a woman would you agree to
spend two or more hours with someone you had no interest in just to eat a 40$
steak?
I usually spend a maximum of 10$ when I go out on a first date. I even had
instance where the girl pays for my coffee which brought my total spending cost
to $0.
Get the reality of spending big amounts of money in order to make her attracted
out of your head. You don’t need to buy her gifts or an expensive meal for the
first date. Leave that for when you are in a relationship.

Rule #2: Stop Stressing About Where to Take the Girl

Before I discovered the secrets of dating, I would rarely get dates with girls.
When I did I would stress over where to take them and while the date was taking
place I would be stressing whether it was “good enough” or not.
We already established that you should never take her to a fancy expensive
restaurant so where should you take her?
The date isn’t determined by what you do, where you go or how much money
you spend. It’s about how much fun you have with the girl.
Keep your date simple. It could be a walk in the park or just sit on a couple of
swings, you could go for a game of pool then go to a park, come to your house,
you could go for a coffee it doesn’t matter as long as you keep it simple.
If you have a park with a bench or some swings near your house, then you can
pick her up or find a way to meet at that park. If not, you can meet for a coffee at
a coffee shop you go to very often. This way you can get social value from the
staff you have befriended earlier. I like to keep the date close to my house so if
all goes well I can bring the girl back to my house.
The girl isn’t going on a date with you because of where you are going to go.
She is going on a date with you because she wants to spend time with you.

Rule #3: Have Fun
No explanation needed. The most important rule is to have fun. don’t worry if
the date is good enough or if you said the wrong thing. As long as you have fun
so will the girl.

Will She Show Up
Before I discovered “pick up” I had a dream that I was about to go on a date with
a girl I really liked. We agreed to meet up at a cinema and when I arrived there
she was nowhere to be found. Ever since I had that dream I had a subconscious
fear of being set up.
I have overcome my fear but many guys still fear the girl flaking on them. If you
are dating multiple girls at once then eventually you will find a girl that will
flake on you. There is nothing you can do about it. It doesn’t matter if she sets
you up or not what matters is how you deal with it.
A cool little trick to find out if a girl might set you up or not is to text her a few
hours before you plan on meeting saying you are going to be a couple minutes
late. This reminds her of the date (just in case she forgot) and gives her an
opportunity to say “Sorry I can’t make it”. If she says “That’s no problem” then
she is not planning on setting you up.
If the girl can’t make it then great, you have more time for yourself. You can sit
and watch a movie or read a book or even try to set up a quick date with another
girl. Don’t get butt hurt over one girl that couldn’t go out with you. Time is
valuable so make use of it.
If you show up at the meet up place and she doesn’t show up don’t get butt hurt.
Use this time wisely. If you were planning to meet at a coffee shop, then buy a
coffee and relax by yourself or read a book on your phone. I always have a book
on my phone just in case I am ever bored I can just read.
If you were going to meet at a shopping centre go shop for something you
wanted. If you don’t have the money you can always look. Sometimes it’s
relaxing to go window shopping by yourself. Who knows, you might even see an
attractive girl and approach her. Never waste your time.
If you have set up your date at a place that’s 5 minutes away from your house it
won’t be a problem if the girl sets you up. You are only 5 minutes away anyway.

The Girl Is Here
Once the girl arrives relax. This was very hard for me when I was young. Every
time I would go on a date with a girl I liked I would always shiver and shake
because I was so nervous. I would try to hide it because I wanted to project
confidence. If the girl ever caught be shaking I would use the excuse that I was
cold.
When your nervous your mind goes blank. Relax and let everything fall into
place. Realise that nothing bad will happen, nothing will physically hurt you and
try to have fun.
The girl is on a date with you because she likes you. That’s all you need to think
about. You are on a date with a beautiful girl, you have already won. Whatever
happens afterwards is just a bonus.

What Do I Say
The purpose of going on a date with a girl is to get to know her and then maybe
get down and dirty but for now you are getting to know her. You want to make
the date as chill as possible. You want to let the girl loosen up and be herself.
I recommend you start teasing her and flirting with her the first half an hour and
once the girl is comfortable with you she will start opening up to you. You must
allow her to let you in her world. When she opens up to you about all kinds of
subjects she will feel a deeper connection with you.
Some subjects I like to talk about on dates to allow the girl to open herself up
are:
Her passions
Her fears
Family
Ambitions
Dreams
Past experiences
If you cover all these subjects in one date, she will feel like she has known you
for years. With every subject you let her relive different emotions. This will
bring you and the girl closer together.

Last Tips
If you go to a coffee shop and she wants to pay, then say no once. If she
insists on paying, then it is fine to let her pay. It doesn’t take away your
manhood if you let the woman pay. After she does pay you can say “Next
time I’m paying”. This gets her thinking about a next time. Do try to be the
one to pay though
Don’t stare at other girls throughout your date. You are there with a girl,
concentrate on her.
Try to position yourself close to her. If you are sitting opposite her, you
can use the excuse of having to show her something on your phone to sit
closer or next to her. You should always aim to sit close to her so you
can escalate physically on her. You don’t want to end up in the friend
zone.
Always carry chewing gum with you.
Show dominance throughout your date. Lead her to your destination
don’t ask her to come.

My Dates
My date usually consists of me picking the girl up and taking her for a coffee at
a coffee shop where everyone knows me. Every time I go for a coffee with a girl
at least 3 people approach me and start conversation with me. This gives me
social value and makes me look more attractive in her eyes.
Afterwards I take the girl to a park near my place with a white bench we always
sit on. I love this place because not many people pass through the park. It’s a
very private place where we can talk for hours without interruption and we can
make out, without the girl feeling like she is judged.
There is no expensive dinner or awkward food stuck between your teeth or a
table separating us. It’s just me the girl and some coffee. I have been on different
kinds of dates but I enjoy this simple date the most.
If the situation allows it, I take the girl back to my place and see where the night
takes us.

At the end of the day the more relaxed you are when you are on the date the
more fun you will have and the more you will enjoy it. the outcome of the date
depends on the girl. If she is cool, then you will have a great date. If she turns
out to be bitchy and stuck up, you will probably have a terrible date and will
most likely be glad you didn’t spend time worrying about the date.

 The Socially Acceptable Way to Bring a Girl
Home

Your interaction with the girl is going amazing. There is sexual tension between
you and you have been flirting for the past hour. It’s time for the next step. It’s
time to bring her home.

Taking A Girl Home from A Date

Transitioning from the date to your house is more socially acceptable when you
have been on a date with the girl. If the girl leaves with you from the nightclub
after 1 hour of interacting with you she will subconsciously consider herself a
slut. If she does this after a date however she won’t feel slut shamed.
After you have been on your date and you have built enough sexual tension
between you, you will both want to move on to the next step. You can’t however
say “Do you want to come round my house and have sex?” This is way to
forward and the girl will probably never want to see you again. In her mind you
just brought her out on a date to have sex with her.
You need to use an “excuse” to bring her to your place. The girl deep down
knows that the “excuse” is just that. A way to make it more socially acceptable
for her to come round your place. This could be anything, “You need to see my
dog. Let’s go to my apartment and you can meet him”. The girl isn’t stupid she
knows that you are bringing her over to your apartment to physically escalate on
her.
You could take the pressure off even more if you make her qualify herself. “You
need to see my dog. Let’s go to my apartment, only if you’re cool”. You need to
make an excuse she can use to tell her friends the next day. When she is
describing to her friend what happened she can’t say “He asked me to come
round his apartment and I did”. Her friends will judge her and slut shame her.
If, however she says “I went round his apartment to see his dog. He was
adorable. Then one thing led to another”. This sounds more socially acceptable.
She can blame it on you and you should let her blame it on you.


Taking A Girl Home from The Nightclub

You must realise that taking a girl home from a nightclub is extremely difficult.
It doesn’t just require skill but it also requires some luck. It isn’t impossible
though. You can’t just find a girl and bring her home. I wish it was that simple.

The Three Stages of the Night

A hot girl’s night is separated into three stages.
Stage 1: This is the start of the night for the girl. She is just trying to settle down
and get used to the environment. She hasn’t drunk anything yet and is just there
to socialise with her friends.
Stage 2: This is when she starts to have a bit of fun. She has had a few drinks
and is enjoying the place. She has spent time in the nightclub so she has gotten
used to it.
Stage 3: This is the stage where everything starts to die down and she is ready to
leave the club.
You should also have 3 stages of your night. This is what they should look like
Stage 1: This is when the night has just started. This is the perfect time to start
befriending people. You can do this at the waiting line or in the club. What you
should aim to do here is just offer fun and start befriending everyone.
Stage 2: At this stage you are allowed to start flirting. Try to find a hot girl you
are attracted to and start approaching. The girls are in a good mood because they
have gotten used to their environment. They are drinking and having fun. At this
stage of the night girls are spontaneous. You can also go back to the groups you
befriended and find a hot girl. You don’t even have to get the group on your side
because you befriended them earlier
Stage 3: This is when the night is dying down and the girl want to go home. You
can only bring a girl to your place at this stage. You shouldn’t attempt to bring a
girl home at neither stage 1 or stage 2. If you try to bring a girl home at stage 1
she will think you are a creep. She hasn’t managed to even have a bit of fun and
you are already trying to take her away.
You shouldn’t attempt to bring a girl home at stage 2 either because at this point
she is having fun. You don’t want to take that away from her. She is having a
great time she will most likely not sacrifice her fun in order to go to a random
guy’s house.

First Part of the Night
If you are planning on taking a girl home from a nightclub your plan should start
before you even enter the nightclub. What I mean by this is you need to create
social value. You do this by befriending the bouncers and the bartenders of the
club. This isn’t a necessary step but it is a step that will greatly help you later on.
From the moment you step into the nightclub you should be social and start
befriending people. You shouldn’t think about flirting with any girls just yet. For
now, befriend as many people as possible. This is just to build more and more
social value. It isn’t the time of the night to start flirting with girls. It is still too
early.
Make sure you leave the group on a high note so you leave them wanting more.
When you leave while you are having a great time with the group their last
impression of you will be a positive one.

Second Part of the Night
This is the time to start approaching some girls. I find that if you are having the
time of your life and you are the heart and soul of the party the girls will come to
you. Once you find a girl and you are having a great time laughing, teasing and
being sexual you need to find out some vital information about her.

Relationship Status
You must find out whether she is in a relationship or not. Some girls might have
boyfriends but they will still flirt with you. I respect when a woman is in a
relationship. I would never be sexual in any way with a woman if she is in a
relationship. I recommend you do the same.
You need to find out if she is in a relationship or not. You can’t however ask her
up front “Do you have a boyfriend?”. If the girl has been enjoying your company
and is attracted to you, even if she does have a boyfriend there is a high
possibility she might lie to you. This is because she loves the validation and if
she admits to having a boyfriend you will most likely leave her. In fact, study
shows that 68% of women say they would have an affair if they could get away
with it.
The best way to find out if she genuinely is in a relationship is to ask the
question without having to ask the question. What I mean by this is to phrase
your question in a manner that doesn’t put pressure on the girl. If the girl is very
young you can ask “how long have you been married?”. Obviously this is
humorous because there isn’t a high chance of her being married. This gives her
the opportunity to say “I’m not married yet but I’ve been with my boyfriend for
1 year”.
Another great way to find out if she is in a relationship or not is to ask “When
was your last relationship?” or “How long was your longest relationship?”. She
could reply with “Well the relationship I’m in now had been going for 6
months”. This shows she has a boyfriend.
There are many ways to ask the girl if she is in a relationship without actually
having to ask if she is in a relationship. Be very subtle when you ask the
question so the girl gives you a genuine answer. When you are asking the girl
upfront if she has a boyfriend or not it is as if to say “Are you even worth my
time to stay or should I go?”
There will be times where the girl will say she has a boyfriend just to test you.
We already established what you need to do when girls test you earlier.

Understand Her Situation
Once you know she is single it is time to figure out if it is possible to even sleep
with the girl based on the situation she is in.
Firstly, you must figure out who she is with. If she is with a bunch of work
colleges or a big group of friends, they won’t be very concerned about her
leaving. However, if she is with her best friend at the nightclub it will be
extremely difficult for you to bring her to your house. She won’t leave her best
friend to go home by herself all because of some stranger she met at the
nightclub. If this happens to be the case, then exchange numbers with the girl
and you can set up a date where you can bring her home from the date.
You must also figure out if she is free tomorrow morning. If she has work in the
morning she won’t be able to sleep over at your house. She will want to be at her
house where she is comfortable and can get ready for work. If it turns out that
she is on vacation or is free tomorrow morning, then your chances of taking her
to your place are increasing.
Lastly you need to find out where she is staying. You need to use the technique
of asking the question without having to ask the question. Instead of asking
“Where do you live” which will come across as creepy you could ask “Are you
staying at (hotel name)?”. You could also say “You have an accent. You’re not
from around here are you?”. This could even be your opening line.
If she lives fairly close to you then you can bring her to your place. If she lives 3
hours away it will not be convenient for her to sleep over. You could always still
have sex at your place but will she really want to drive back in the middle of the
night or the next day?
Once you have found a girl that ticks all the boxes it is time to commit to that
girl and bring her home. If you have found a girl that passes all the criteria, don’t
go wandering off approaching another girl because she is hotter. Stick to that girl
because you might end up losing both.

The Yes Yes Yes Method
That is what the girl will be saying at the end of the night but we haven’t reached
that part yet. In sales there is a method where if you get a customer to answer yes
3 times consecutively throughout your interaction, they are more inclined to buy
your product.
For example, if you want to sell a car you can say “Doesn’t white just make this
car look that much better looking?”. The customer will reply “Yes” and you can
later say “You wanted speed. Is this car fast enough?” which the customer will
reply “Yes” and so on until the customer will say “I’ll buy it”. You should word
your questions so the answer is always yes.
This works similarly with the girl. You must baby step your way through getting
to your place. You can’t say “Let’s go to my place” this is too much pressure for
the girl. You must slowly guide her to your place. It must feel like an adventure
for her.
When you are in the club you can say “Let’s go someplace quieter”. You grab
her hand and lead her towards someplace quitter. If she doesn’t pull back, then
this is her first yes. She might say “I can’t leave my friends” or “I can’t leave the
club” while she is walking with you then this is just her subconscious mind
trying to make everything socially acceptable. You should ignore this and carry
on or say something like “Don’t worry, adventure”.
If, however the girl says “I can’t leave my friends” and she pulls back or uses
force in any way to stop you then you should let her go. This doesn’t mean that
she doesn’t like you it just means that she needs to know more information about
what’s happening. It could also mean that you need to give her more time to trust
you depending on the situation. When she pulls back you need to reassure her of
exactly where you are going. You should say “Don’t worry we are just going to
go outside so we can talk more freely. The music is too loud”. Be genuine with
her because she is trusting you more than ever in this situation.
Once she has agreed to go somewhere quieter you can chat for a bit and then
suggest to go somewhere to take a bite, McDonald’s for example. When you
arrive at McDonald’s then that it her second yes. You can then transition to
someplace private or your car. As long as you keep transitioning to places you
will keep stacking your yes’s.
Again if she follows you to McDonald’s, or wherever you decide to get some
food from, she might say “Oh no I can’t leave my friends”. She doesn’t mean it
if she is walking along with you. She only means it if she pulls back in a
physical way. She will use an excuse not to come with you to make it socially
acceptable.
Don’t trust a woman’s words, trust her actions.
If she is genuinely concerned about her friends tell her to text them and let them
know what you are going to be doing and where you will be going. Again be
genuine with her on where you are going and what you are going to do. Use a
time constant “Real quick” to make it easier for her to make a decision.
When it comes time to transition to your place you must use an excuse to make it
socially acceptable for the girl to agree on coming with you just like you would
if you were bringing her to your place from a date.

Planting The Seed
There is a technique called planting the seed. This is when you say something
throughout the conversation with the girl which you can reference later in your
conversation so it isn’t abrupt.
For example, as you are talking you can say “Yeah I have a party in an hour”
and continue the conversation. Later on if you say “Hey you should come to the
party I’m going to in a bit”. This way it doesn’t seem like you invited her to a
party out of the blue. If you didn’t plant the seed beforehand then asking the girl
to come to a party with you will seem too forward.
Plant the seed while you are at McDonalds’s or sitting at a bench. You could say
for example “My dog is adorable. If you’re lucky you might get to meet him”.
After another 20 minutes of talking and possibly making out you could say.
“You know what. You’re pretty cool. Let’s go to my apartment, you can meet
my dog and you might even get to pet him”. Because you already planted the
seed it doesn’t put that much pressure on the girl. You also used an excuse other
than sex to get her to your place.
Adding a statement to qualify herself at the end will give her that extra
reassurance that, you don’t just take any girls to your place. Add “Only if you’re
cool” or “Only if you’re good with dogs” at the end.
The girl knows that you don’t want her over just to meet your dog. She knows
you want sex but so does she. Lead her to your car or if your place is within
walking distance, lead her to your place. Keep chatting and having a good time
till you arrive at your place.

Time
We talked earlier about how important time is and how the more time you spend
with a girl the more she trusts you. With this in mind, don’t expect to approach a
girl at a nightclub and have her at your house naked on your bed within 20
minutes.
All this might sound complicated and time consuming, finding out if she is
singe, figuring out if she lives far away, if she has work tomorrow then taking
her out of the club then transitioning to your car or to your place. It is time
consuming but it is worth it.
If you bring the girl over after 2 hours of being with her and the sex ends up
being great the girl will definitely want to see you again. If she isn’t jumping in
the bed with you after 5 minutes of talking to you, you know that she is a quality
girl.

 Sex

In this chapter I won’t be teaching you how to have sex with a girl. There are
plenty of great books out there on how to give the girl the best sex she has ever
had. I recommend reading a few of them but the best way to learn to be the best
sexual partner is through experience.
In this chapter I will be talking about my opinions on sex.
Society wants to make us believe that sex is something that is hard to obtain. It
views sex as a prize you get if you are either rich, good looking or lucky. You
must take a girl out to an expensive dinner and if you act like a gentleman the
woman might reward you with sex, if you’re lucky.
Some religions on the other hand view sex as a bad thing. They strongly disagree
with having sex before marriage which I respect that that is certain religions
view but I don’t agree with them. Sex isn’t a sin.
Sex is natural. Sex is in our biology. Sex is what makes us man and woman, it’s
what makes us evolve and expand. If it wasn’t for sex there would be no human,
animal or insect left in this world.
Society has made us feel ashamed of sex. They make us believe that sex is
something you shouldn’t talk about in public and something you should do only
after knowing the person for a very long period of time. If you have sex too early
you are either a “player” or a “slut”.
The mainstream media always makes the man seem like the villain when it
comes to sex. It’s always the man wanting to have sex with the woman and the
woman giving the man sex as a reward. Men are perceived as these evil
creatures that only want sex.
A study was held where 283 US college students from age 18-25 where asked to
keep track of how many times they thought about sex throughout their day. The
results where that men thought about sex an average of 34.2 times while women
thought about sex 18.6 times. However, this doesn’t mean that all men think
about is sex.
The reason men think about sex more than women are because men are easier to
sexually stimulate than women. We can look at a cleavage and suddenly get a
boner. This is because men are more visually stimulated while women are more
mentally stimulated.
If you really want to make a girl horny you don’t do it by showing her your
penis. You do it by talking dirty or describing the feeling of you two having sex.
You need to paint a picture in her head and describe how intense her orgasm will
be when you have sex.
Women think about sex way lesser than men because men are more easily
aroused, not because that is the only thing on their mind.
The cold hard truth is that women enjoy sex just as much as men if not even
more. Women will start shaking and grabbing the bed sheets and moan. Guys
don’t do that. For a woman an orgasm is an amazing feeling but society has
made women feel like they should not enjoy sex.
Sex is the most beautiful thing in the world. Not only do you receive and give
pleasure but you can also create a baby. You can bring life into this world by
having sex.
Society shouldn’t place these labels on girls that aren’t afraid of expressing their
sexuality. If a girl has sex with you on the first date it doesn’t make her a slut.
She just wants to feel pleasure. Is that really so bad?
People tend to make decisions based on their emotions but they later on justify
that decision with logic. This is a great example in selling. People will buy
something because of how it makes them feel. For example, someone would
spend 200k on a Lamborghini because it will give them social value, adrenaline
from going fast, it will make them feel like a king compared to everyone else
that drives a Toyota.
No one admits this because it makes them seem very self-centred but they justify
their purchased with a logical statement. “The car looks nice” or “It is very fast”.
If you want speed you can just go on a rollercoaster for $10.
The same applies with girls. They will have sex with you based on how you
make them feel. They will later on justify that decision with logic.
A girl will not have sex with you because you are good looking or because you
had a great conversation or because you are rich (unless she is a gold-digger).
She will however want to have sex with you if you make her feel good. She will
later on justify her decision of having sex with you.
In simple terms sex is just a way for two people to feel amazing. It’s an intense
experience that you share with another person.
As much as you might try to avoid it, sex is everywhere. Since it is part of our
biology and is constantly embedded in our minds, business and brands take
advantage of this. If you pick up a magazine you will see a good looking woman
or a good looking guy because that is what we are most attracted to. Sex sells.
If you ever watch a music video with millions of views, there are most likely
attractive women with nice bodies in the videos. That’s because sex sells.
One of the most searched for words on google is “Porn”. We are constantly
craving sex not because we want it but because we need it. We have needed it
since the pre historic times. Sex isn’t a bad thing.
Throughout your journey of attracting women, you will have a lot of sex if you
follow my advice in this book. No matter how much sex you have always stay
humble. There is no need to brag about the amount of women you have had sex
with. Russell Brand is constantly being nominated for shagger of the year. No
one knows the exact number of girls he has slept with, this is because Russell
Brand has no need to count the girls to fuel his ego.

 The 2 Main Types of Girls

Men tend to think that every woman is the same. This has become a stereotype
in our culture now since women act in a way that men don’t understand. So we
put all women under the same category. I believe everyone is unique in their
own way but we are all the same physiologically. All women have the same
behaviours as do men.
There are two main types of women. There are high self-esteem and low self-
esteem women. Studies show that you are more likely to be attracted to women
of the same self-esteem as you. Let’s look at the differences between the two.

High Self-Esteem Women

High self-esteem women are the ones you should try to build very strong
relationships with. They are hard to come by so when you do find a woman of
high self-esteem consider yourself lucky.

Drama
Women love drama. It fuels their emotion. We already talked about the fact that
women are emotional creatures since that is their primary drive. When women
hear about the neighbour that cheated on his wife they get hooked. They love it.
High self-esteem women have no need for drama. I am not saying they don’t
enjoy it, they do but they enjoy it in movies and TV shows or books. They don’t
respond to other people’s drama. She understands that if it doesn’t affect her
then there is no need for her to get involved. She doesn’t make the situation
bigger than it has to be.

Manipulation
A high self-esteem girl is manipulative…but only in the good sense. She will
never manipulate you into buying her an expensive gift or manipulate you into
spending time with her. She will however do everything in her power to
manipulate you into becoming a better version of yourself.
This could be in the form of trying to get you to join a gym or eat healthy or
even read more books. She will only manipulate you into making your life
better. She could say “Were not going to have sex until you start eating healthy”
or “If you read that book you’ve been wanting to read for a while maybe I’ll give
you a little reward”. She will manipulate you to make your life better.

Her Friends
High self-esteem girls care about their friends. now you might think that every
girl cares about her friends. High self-esteem girls will not say bad things behind
their friends back. A high self-esteem girl wouldn’t get jealous of her friends. If
her friend is going through a rough time she will be there for her. She wouldn’t
tell her it will be fine and carry on with her life. She will sit down with her friend
and listen to her and try to help her.

Compliments
A high self-esteem girl can be attractive or unattractive. Either way she loves
who she is and knows that she can’t change the way she looks. If you give a high
self-esteem girl a compliment she will say thank you and might even
compliment you back. She knows how to take a compliment but will still
appreciate it.

She Treats You Well If You Treat Her Well

The biggest give away of a high self-esteem girl is that if you don’t treat her well
she will leave. And don’t think it would be easy to get her back. She knows what
she is worth and if you don’t show your appreciation towards her or respect her
she will not hesitate to move on.
A low self-esteem girl will come running back to you even if you treat her
unwell. This is because low self-esteem girls crave validation and will keep
coming back to you until you give it to them.

Low Self-Esteem Girls

There are many qualities to look out for in a woman to determine if she is a low
self-esteem girl.

Manipulative
A low self-esteem girl is very manipulative. Not in the way that a high self-
esteem girl is. A Low self-esteem girl will manipulate you into doing what she
wants. This could be from buying her expensive items to being her personal taxi
driver.
If the girl is attractive she will most likely use her physical appearance to
manipulate you into doing what she wants. Most guys fall for her manipulative
behaviour because they get to talk to a hot girl. If you ever go to a nightclub
many hot girls will try to use their physical appearance to lure men into buying
them drinks. This is because they are low self-esteem. They crave the validation.
They don’t manipulate because they are evil or because they hate men. They do
this because they feel insecure. They think that people won’t appreciate them for
who they truly are so the only way to get men is through manipulation.

Validation
A low self-esteem girl is constantly seeking validation from everyone about
everything. When it comes to seeking validation from guys this comes in the
form of compliments or buying things for her. The compliments boost their ego
and reassures them that they are good enough.
You will experience sometimes a girl asking you to compare her to another girl
or a celebrity or might ask your opinion on another girl. She might even start
self-deprecating herself (saying how small her breasts are) hoping you will say
“No they’re not they’re perfect” therefor giving her that validation that she is so
desperately seeking.
Another way for them to get validation is to post pictures on social media. I am
not saying every girl that posts pictures on social media does it to get validation
but there are some girls that do it because they need the likes and the nice
comments and the compliments. They need to constantly reassure themselves
that they are good enough.

Drama
Low self-esteem girls crave drama just as much as validation. They need drama
in their life whether its drama related to her life or someone else’s life, as long as
she has drama that fuels her emotions she will be happy.
If there is no drama in her life she will create it. Even if you have a healthy
relationship she will try to cause arguments between you and her to create
drama. She is in constant need of fuelling he emotions.

They Are Always the Victim
No matter what, even if she is the one to blame she will always portray herself as
the victim. A low self-esteem girl wants other people to feel sorry for her. She
does this by making everyone else seem like the villain while she plays the role
of the victim.

Most girls are low self-esteem for the reason being that they are young and
inexperienced. Usually young girls have not figured out who they are yet. They
still don’t have life figured out which causes her to stress all the time. They are
inexperienced and everything is so new to them which makes them insecure.
They are still trying to build their character. Low self-esteem girls can eventually
become high self-esteem girls but it doesn’t require some time.
Many guys are low self-esteem as well since they might not attract as many girls
in their life they are constantly seeking validation and approval from girls. This
leads to needy behaviour which leads to the girl not feeling attracted to the guy
anymore.
I am not saying you shouldn’t interact with low self-esteem girls. They aren’t
evil or want to destroy your life. They are still girls and they still need to be
loved. The qualities I have specified above of low self-esteem girls will not all
be found on one girl.
Most girls will possess at least one of these qualities. It doesn’t mean that she is
low self-esteem. If you find a girl that possess 3 or more of these qualities, you
can be sure she is low self-esteem.

Determine The Girl’s Self Esteem

The best way I like to see if a girl is high or low self-esteem is to give them a
compliment. If I see that the girl responds well to the compliment, then there is a
possibility she might be high self-esteem. If the girl reacts too much to the
compliment, there is a chance she is a low self-esteem girl. For a high self-
esteem girl, a compliment isn’t a big deal but she will still appreciate it.
It is hard to determine a girl’s self-esteem right off the bat. It takes time to figure
out her behaviours to determine her self-esteem. Don’t try to figure out if she is
high or low self-esteem. After spending enough time with her you will realise
her self-esteem. You shouldn’t judge her too early you should however be
slightly aware.

 How to Handle All the Female Attention

You have reached the end of this book. If you have taken action and approached
women and experimented with what you learnt from this book I am sure your
life has changed with women.
Your journey isn’t over it has only just started. Throughout your time of dating
you will create relationships with a lot of girls along with friendships. You will
make more mistakes than you can possibly imagine but with those mistakes you
will grow.
There are some points I would like to make which you should read and
implement in your life more carefully than anything I’ve talked about in this
book.

Ego
Your ego is your biggest enemy. It is what will make you lose girls and friends
along the way. When it comes to friendships and dating leave your ego behind
and focus on growing, learning and becoming better with girls. Your ego will
stop you from learning and becoming a better version of yourself.
After all these years of approaching, failing, rejections, make outs, awkward
silences and all the things I’ve been through, I still read books on dating and
attraction and human psychology. I still continue to grow and learn new things,
make new mistakes.
If you have the mentality of “I know everything there is to know about women”
I can guarantee you, you know nothing.
There are going to be people that will see you with multiple women and will
look up to you. Don’t act like an attraction god around them. Be yourself and if
they ask for help on women share your knowledge and experiences.
You should never judge a guy that isn’t good with girls and you should never act
like you are better than him. You should also never judge a guy who got rejected
and never try to tell him what he did wrong unless he asks your consent.

Lay Count
The amount of girls you have slept with is a useless number. Stop counting
them. The attractive man doesn’t count the amount of girls he has slept with
because guys who do so do it to boost their ego. You are better than that.
You should never label yourself on how good you are with girls. You are not a
beginner or an advanced. You are simply you. There is not measurement of how
good you are with girls. Everyone has bad days just like everyone has good days.
You could go to a nightclub with your friends and they could all get laid apart
from you.
This doesn’t mean that you aren’t good with women it simply means you had a
bad day. We all have them. As long as you stay positive and fun it won’t affect
you.

Don’t Focus On the Little Things

Stop focusing on the little things. It doesn’t matter what the first thing you say to
a woman is or if you didn’t have confident body language for a few seconds or if
you said one thing that was needy. The little things don’t matter so stop stressing
over them.
A girl isn’t going to reject you because there were a few seconds of awkward
silence during your 1-hour interaction. She isn’t going to not have sex with you
because you didn’t say the perfect opening line. Don’t focus so much on the
little things. Instead focus on having as much fun with the girl as you can.

Always Keep Improving
Last but not least don’t stop improving. Most people will read this book and feel
motivated and might even go out and meet some girls, but it doesn’t last for
long. If you are still motivated after 30 days of reading this book, then you can
change your life dramatically. If you ever forget something or need help with
something open up this book again.
This book isn’t a onetime read. You must study this book to get the most out of
it.



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