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Do you believe that if a person doesn’t love you from the outset, there’s no
chance?
Do you believe that it’s impossible to make a person fall madly deeply in
love with you?
If you’ve answered yes, it’s also highly likely you believe in chance and
fate. Its ok, a lot of people do! The majority of people are under the
impression that love is something that can’t be changed, and they also
believe it’s something that can’t be manipulated.
But extensive research carried out over the years has proved that you can
indeed control love. And it can all be done through the power of the mind.
It’s all a matter of learning how to use your mind correctly.
• Fear
• Stress
• Jealousy
• Self-pity
• Anxiety
The above emotions can be controlled, and as love falls under the category
of “psychological emotions,” it can also be controlled. Controlling love as
an emotion is just as easy as controlling fear, excitement or stress etc. The
problem lies in what we’ve been taught to believe. Over the years, we’ve
been conditioned to believe that love is something that “just happens.” It
all depends on “fate.”
The reality however is far different. With the right knowledge, you can use
the psychology of love to make him or her fall in love with you and never
look back. Now, nothing’s foolproof, which means this won’t work 100%
all the time, but you’ll improve your chances dramatically. If you could
triple your chances at making someone genuinely fall in love with you,
why wouldn’t you try?
Without even realising it, you and everyone else you know has a checklist
stored in the back of your mind. On this list there’s a set criteria, a criteria
that your potential love interest must meet before you will be able to fall in
love with them. Psychologists call this list a ‘Lovemap.’
If someone doesn’t match one or more of the points in this list, they’re
automatically disqualified as a potential love partner and they’re likely to
just remain your friend, this is why you might fall in love with one person
while others will just be your “friends.”
• Values
• Beliefs
• Past experiences
• Background
• Previous relationships
This is also the reason why your friend might fall in love with a man that
you consider ordinary and nothing special. This man matches her own
unique ‘Lovemap,’ not yours. Calculating matches to see if a person lives
up to our checklist is not a conscious action on our part, it’s done
subconsciously, without thinking about it. The mind does it all on its own.
Just like your mind is telling your heart to beat as your reading this page
…even though you weren’t consciously aware of it. This is why it’s
possible to fall in love with a person and have no idea why you fell in love
with them in the first place. Your subconscious is responsible.
This is why love is such a “mysterious phenomenon” and many people put
it all down to their own personal destiny. But in reality, it has nothing to
do with fate, it was all related to your subconscious, which was quietly
figuring out whether the person matches your checklist or not. The truth of
the matter is that if you’re able to grow more aware of your subconscious
mind’s specific criteria, you’ll be able to quickly determine why you fall
for some people and not for others.
If Jamie’s currently single, but looking for a partner, and met a wonderful
woman with red hair, the chances are he’s not going to fall in love with
her. Although he might think of her as nice, he’s not going to really
understand that the thing that’s stopping the attraction …is his
subconscious list of different criteria he’s looking for.
It’s only when another person ticks the boxes on the majority of the
criteria (which are usually the most important points on your criteria list)
will you be able to fall in love with that person. Your subconscious will
then help you to remain in love with this person to ensure you get with
them and maintain a good relationship with them. Because your
subconscious attaches itself to this particular person like this, that’s why
it’s often so difficult to forget a person you’re in love with even years after
you’ve separated from that person.
1. Meeting the different criterion. We all have this list (or Lovemap) in
our minds. This list has all the basic criteria what we expect to be met
before we even think about falling in love with someone. It’s not a given
that if a person does meet these criteria that we’ll fall in love with them,
but if they don’t meet any, it’s almost certain that we could never fall in
love with them. Some examples of such criteria could include: “He must
love dogs,” “He must be active,” “He must be educated”, and so on.
Before trying to make a person fall in love with you, do some research.
Find out all the basic information about their background and interests –
the more you know the better, and then try to meet their criteria this way.
2. Fulfill their unmet need. When people are looking for a new partner,
they’re trying to look for another person who’s similar to them in many
ways. They look for their own personal strengths in a person, and also the
opposite of their weaknesses. For example, a person who tends to feel
inferior, but is also smart, will look for a partner who’s also smart, but
instead of inferiority, they’ll seek confidence to help create a better
balance. If you were trying to make someone fall in love with you who
you know has an inferiority complex, making yourself appear confident to
the person would be very effective at inducing feelings of love in them for
you. When you take on the role as the more confident person, you’re
subconsciously sending them a message telling them “I’ve got what you
need!”.
4. Use your mutual friends. If you and your heart’s desire have friends in
common, you can and should use this to your advantage. The main reason
behind this is because the subconscious is programmed easier when trusted
sources (such as friends) are backing up what they are being programmed
with. If their friends think you are great, chances are they will agree. If
their friends think you’re an idiot, chances are they will agree. In a way
it’s a subtle form of brainwashing – the more your mutual friends talk to
them about how wonderful you are you’ll have a greater chance of
establishing a place in their mind.
The classic example is if the person reminds you of someone you once
loved before. We usually follow a pattern and fall in love with the same
type of person that we loved in our past. So if someone reminds you of
someone you once loved before, but you weren’t consciously aware that
they were reminding you of someone from your past …you might find
yourself falling in love at first sight with them and not really knowing
why. You’ll then just think it was “fate” that you fell in love with them.
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The more time you spend around them, the more their attitude is going to
rub off on you. If they’re optimistic, even when everything is going wrong,
it will teach you to look on the bright side of bad situations. If they’re
resilient, even when they suffer failure after failure, it will teach you to get
up and try again.
While he initially struggles with the transition, Korn soon learns how to
connect with his players through empathy and vulnerability. In order to
continue strengthening his team, he has to grow as a person. His story
highlights his path to becoming a better friend, teammate, and father.
Big Shot is a reminder you can’t get by on talent alone. You need to act as
a team. You need to root for each other, not tear each other down. When
your peers do better, everything will work out better for you, too.
It’s always nice knowing someone is in your corner. Having people around
you who genuinely care about your well-being will push you to work your
hardest. It will remind you that you do have what it takes when you forget
about your worth. Everyone goes through moments of insecurity and self-
doubt, but when you have a strong support system, it will be easier to pick
yourself up again.
Remember, you’re allowed to walk away from people who discourage
you.These people will only make it harder to achieve your dreams. They
will only bring you down and enhance your self-doubt. You should strive
to surround yourself with positivity and encouragement instead. Divert
your energy toward people who want you to learn and grow.
When you connect with others who uplift you and inspire you, they will
help you improve in a million little ways. You will become a better person
by learning from them – and they will learn the same from you. Your
relationship won’t be a one-way street. You’ll both benefit from your
bond, just like Coach Marvyn and his high school basketball team.
When you surround yourself with teammates who inspire you, you will
feel motivated to make them proud. However, you can never forget it’s
even more important to make yourself proud. At the end of the day, you
owe it to yourself to try your hardest, to refuse to quit. You don’t want to
give up on your dreams because you can reach them at any age. If you put
your heart and soul into achieving your goals, you can do something
special. You can be a part of something special, something bigger than
yourself.
When you surround yourself with others who are as passionate as you are,
their energy will be contagious. They will make you feel like you’re part
of a team. They will remind you you’re never alone. There are plenty of
people in your corner. You just have to discover them and be there for
them, too. You need to give as much as you receive. You need to pass on
your knowledge and inspire the next person who comes along.
If you put effort into your goals, and into surrounding yourself with the
right people, that hard work will pay off. Like Coach Marvyn says in Big
Shot, “If you try your very best, then you have the potential to be
great.”
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1. ROMANCE
2. LOVE
She liked rebellious guys, the kind where friends would ask, Are you sure
about him? Nobody had ever labeled me as a rebel, so it shocked me when
she invited me to a dance club with her friends.
After several sketchy mixed drinks, we slow danced to techno music. Yup,
we were that annoying couple. And then, as if to attract more attention, she
wrapped her hands around my cheeks and kissed me — a real kiss.
I couldn’t believe it. The super-cool, wild and crazy, most wanted by all
the guys, Amy. What the hell was she doing with boring old me?
It turned out she liked my dry humor, and I intrigued her with my
undeserved bad-boy reputation. I had gotten my job by way of a random
personal connection while most coworkers languished on a waitlist before
landing a spot. Everyone resented my networking craftiness, except for
Amy. She dug my resourcefulness.
We got along well, but I never felt good enough for her, so I compensated.
When we were out together, I’d get excessively drunk because I thought it
made me more fun. In reality, it made me just another drunken idiot. When
sober, I’d dial up my aloofness to enhance my cool-guy factor.
Tragedies do happen, but often, relationships die a tiny bit each day, an
underlying flaw working its magic in stealth mode.
There’s no telling what your brain will command of you when you
struggle with an inferiority complex. It’s a risk that mounts whenever self-
esteem suffers.
First, admit to yourself that you feel inadequate. Then, ask yourself what is
it about the other person relative to you that makes you feel this way.
For me, it was my appearance. I had thinning hair in my youth, and it
destroyed my self-confidence. By embracing the quality that triggered
feelings of inadequacy, I overcame my self-esteem issues. In my case, I
shaved my head and owned my flaw, turning it into an asset.
Second, in every relationship, one partner will excel in some areas while
the other thrives in different domains. In moments where inadequacy
overwhelms you, remind yourself of your strong points.
We tell ourselves nice people shouldn’t feel this way, so we suppress the
feeling, burying it deep down. That’s what makes it so insidious.
We haven’t had sex in two months. Have you reverted into an asexual
being?
The car is still filthy. Just like our marriage, you do everything half-assed.
Does it feel like you lived the exact same day for 365 consecutive days?
If you answered yes, it’s because you’ve fallen into a routine — one with
no excitement to break up the monotony. It’s not the kind of threat you
notice day-to-day. It goes undetected until one day you wake up and
realize your romantic partner has become your roommate.
4. Relationship loneliness
When I first came out of my shell after my 30th birthday, I dated Cara, a
woman I met at work. We hung out only once a week, spending the other
six days catching up with a smattering of two-minute phone calls.
Before Cara, I hadn’t been in a relationship for several years. While dating
her, I somehow felt even more lonely than during my long dry spell.
Cara and I talked, but our conversations were rushed and often superficial.
We connected physically, but those moments were brief. When we weren’t
together, I felt hamstrung, unable to seek the connection I needed because
of my commitment to Cara.
It’s odd to think that loneliness can exist while you’re in a relationship, so
we neglect to use that word. Instead, we say, “We don’t talk enough.” But
that’s too vague and dispassionate. When you say you’re lonely to your
partner, it generates a more visceral reaction.
Years go by, and while you focus on your children, your relationship
suffers without either of you recognizing it consciously. You become
parents at the expense of being a loving couple, setting yourself up for
eventual empty nest syndrome.
Kids take priority. You can’t avoid that reality, but you can manage the
side effects.
No matter what age your kids, it’s essential you enjoy yourselves as a
couple. Schedule date nights. Go for walks together. Make time for
intimacy.
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Some relationships end because of cheating, stealing, and other tragedies.
Others die slowly, falling apart under the pressure of stealthy threats. By
recognizing the warnings and addressing them proactively, you can
withstand these threats.
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