You Too Can Be More Joyful and Kind

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YOU TOO CAN BE MORE JOYFUL AND KIND; MORE

SELF-CONFIDENT AND COURAGEOUS
April 10, 2021
Here’s how!
© 2021 Zelig Pliskin
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PREFACE
A letter to the reader:
Hello, my dear fellow earthling. When I was one day

old, I couldn’t crawl, and I couldn’t walk. I couldn’t
speak and I didn’t have any information and knowledge
about a multitude of topics. I couldn’t read and I
couldn’t write. I didn’t have any attitudes about myself,
about other people, or about life in general. I had no
goals and no intentions about accomplishing anything. I
also had no plans whatsoever to write this booklet or
anything else.
When I was just one day old I didn’t realize that
everyone else when they were one day old had the
same amount of knowledge and skills as I had at that
age. Everyone who became knowledgeable about
anything didn’t yet know that when they were one day
old. Anyone who developed any skill or talent didn’t

have that skill or talent when they were one day old.
They had to learn it and then practice it until they
gained expertise at that skill or talent.
Now 75 years later I have read a lot and I have heard
many informative classes and lectures. I have spoken
to many people about the topics dealt with. I have
coached a lot of people about upgrading their lives and
character traits. And I have written a number of books
on these topics.
Right now, I have a dream that I would like to write a
mini-book to distribute for free that would tremendously
upgrade the quality of life of those who read it and
apply the key points.
Every person who is alive with a working mind has the
amazing ability to choose to create more moments of
unconditional joy and a life of increased kindness.
Every person who is alive with a working mind also
has the ability to upgrade their levels of self-confidence
and courage.
Anyone who knows how our planet works will realize
that upgrading these four traits and qualities will
greatly enhance their lives in a multitude of ways.
As you keep upgrading your level of self-confidence
and courage, you will find many more opportunities to
speak and act in ways that improve the emotional well-
being of those you interact with. This kindness on your
part will enhance your life and the lives that you
influence and inspire.
May we all be blessed to become the best we can be

for our own benefit and the benefit of anyone and
everyone we influence in positive ways.
CHAPTER 1 THE FORMULA FOR A GREAT LIFE
Wouldn’t in be great to have a formula for a great life?

There is. And it’s a simple, yet powerful formula.
J.K.S.C.= A great life!
J stands for Joy.
K stands for Kindness.
S stands for Self-confidence.
C stands for Courage.
The life of a person who is consistently joyful and kind
with a large degree of self-confidence and courage will
be greatly enhanced.
We all have the ability to make choices. For instance,
if there are two types of food in front of you and they
both are healthy, you can choose the one you like
rather than the one you like much less.
If you have a choice of reading two books that are
placed in front of you and you can read either one, you
can choose which book to read first.
You make a multitude of choices each day. Some of
these choices are so easy for you to make that you
might not consider this as making a choice. But in
reality, you are making a choice.
You keep choosing what thoughts you will think. Of
course, your thoughts tend to come automatically one
after the other. But you do have the ability to choose.
For example, if someone asks you to name two

mountains, you will only choose the name of a
mountain. You won’t choose the name of an animal or a
bird.
If someone asks you to name two rivers or oceans, you
will choose from those two categories. You won’t
choose the name of a bird or animal.
And if someone asks you to name five birds or animals,
you will only be thinking about birds and animals. You
won’t be choosing the names of items from a different
category.
So, an important awareness and realization is that:
You have the ability to choose your next thought.
You have the ability to choose the next words that you
will say.
You have the ability to choose your next actions.
And now you can choose to say:
“I have the ability to choose my next thought.”
“I have the ability to choose my next words.”
“I have the ability to choose my next actions.”
Those who have mastered the habit of thinking

thoughts, saying words, and taking actions that are
consistent with being joyful, kind, self-confident, and
courageous have the ability to make choices that will
create a wonderful life. And that is great, isn’t it?
An important key to the success of any goal and
project is to have a strong DECISION and
COMMITMENT. Throughout the ages people who have
made strong decisions and were intensely committed to

those decisions followed through.
These four qualities will make such a major difference
in anyone’s life, that it’s super important to do all you
can to keep upgrading these traits.
So right now, look in a mirror and say to yourself, “I am
totally committed to make it a high priority in my life to
be more joyful, more kind, more self-confident, and
more courageous.”
If you aren’t yet open to say this to yourself, hopefully
sometime soon you will be.
May you be tremendously successful in becoming a
master of joy, kindness, self-confidence, and courage
for your own benefit and the benefit of everyone else
who will gain from your being this way.
CHAPTER 2: ALWAYS OR AT LEAST JUST NOW
Ideally, we would love to be always joyful, always

kind, always self-confident, and always courageous.
But in reality, for the vast majority of people this is
unrealistic. What if we could create a moment of joy
and that moment is now? What if we could create a
moment of kindness and that moment is now? What if
we could create a moment of self-confidence and that
moment is now? What if we could create a moment of
courage and that moment is now?
We all live our lives just one moment at a time. And
that moment will always just be in the present. The
past isn’t now. It’s over already. The future isn’t now.
It’s what will be later on. So we all live life just one
present moment at a time.
In every present moment of “now” you can make wise
choices of how you will be thinking, what you will be
saying, and what actions you will take.
To create more joy, to speak and act with kindness, to
be more self-confident, and to upgrade your courage,
you only need to choose to be this way in the present
moment. The more present moments of joy, of kindness,
of self-confidence, and of courage, the better.
Thinking about creating a positive way of being in a
present moment is a lot easier than thinking right now
that you will be this way “always.”
If someone is open to committing themselves to be
consistently joyful, consistently kind, consistently self-
confident, and consistently courageous. Great!
But a word of warning for those who wish to “always”
be these positive ways: In case you are sometimes not
like this, don’t let this prevent you from continuing to
upgrade these valuable qualities.
Wise people have always advised us to keep making
progress. Even if a person “falls seven times,” it
shouldn’t prevent him from getting up an eighth time (or
however many times necessary). Every moment of a
positive quality is precious.
CHAPTER 3: THE “I AM” PATTERN
Everyone who describes themselves with an “I am”

statement is making a choice as they say this. Yes,
they are choosing from a multitude of ways to describe

themselves.
For instance, someone might say, “I am a person who
has the ability to develop any positive pattern that I
choose to develop.”
Or, someone might say, “I am a person who has
already learned to do many things and I can choose to
keep on learning many more things.”
So every time you begin a sentence with the words, “I
am, you can…” (Finish this sentence any way you wish.”
My goal in writing this…, is to have many more people
be able to say in ten years, “I am joyful and kind. I am
also self-confident and courageous.”
How about saying right now:
“I am joyful.”
“I am kind.
“I am self-confident.”
“I am courageous.”
Do you feel that this is true? If yes, great. If not yet,
would you be willing to speak and act in ways that
when you will say these four sentences, you will have
an inner feeling of, “Yes. I am grateful that this is true.”
Regardless of where anyone is holding with these four
qualities, anyone and everyone can upgrade their sense
of reality and make these four sentences so true that
anyone who interacts with this person will be able to
agree, “Yes, this person is joyful and kind, self-
confident and courageous.”
Right now, imagine that you are attending a class,
workshop, or seminar with a lot of friendly and kind
people. Since this is your imagination, you can imagine

that you are with 5 people, or 20 people, or a 100
people, or a 1,000 people, or 100,000 people.
And the person giving the class or workshop or
seminar, says enthusiastically, “Let us all say together:
“We are joyful!”
“We are kind!’
“We are self-confident!”
“We are courageous!”
“And now let us all keep on repeating this over and
over again joyfully and self-confidently”
And you can imagine that everyone is having a
tremendously great time as they keep on repeating
these four “We are” statements.
And then the speaker says, “Let us choose to say this
to five people right now: ‘You are joyful!’ ‘You are kind.’
‘You are self-confident!’ ‘You are courageous!’
And as five people say this to you enthusiastically,
imagine that you are feeling wonderful.
And imagine that the speaker says, “Let’s all repeat,
‘It’s great and wonderful to keep upgrading my being
joyful and kind, self-confident and courageous.”
And everyone enthusiastically follows this suggestion
over and over.
If you read this so far, you have these words in your
brain and mind. You can repeat these statements over
and over again whenever you choose.
Congratulations. You have begun your journey to
becoming a person who has mastered being joyful and
kind, self-confident and courageous.”
CHAPTER 4: LEARN FROM EVERY POSITIVE ROLE

MODEL
Sages have defined a wise person as someone who is

wise enough to keep learning from the positive ideas
and actions of wise people. (see Pirkei Avos 4:1)
The more you read and the more you learn from other
people, the more likely it is that you will come across
positive role models.
There are people who are consistently joyful about life
itself and are joyfully grateful for things that others
might take for granted. Let us learn from them.
There are people who are consistently kind in many
ways. Let us learn from them.
There are people who are consistently self-confident
and are open to continually grow and learn valuable
ideas and improve worthwhile skills. Let us learn from
them.
There are people who are wisely courageous. Let us
learn from them.
Why are we focusing especially on these four
qualities? Because these four will make a major
positive difference in the lives of those who master
them?
When you are consistently joyful, you will not think,
speak, and act in ways that are incompatible with your
being joyful.
When you are consistently kind, you will not think,

speak, and act in ways that are incompatible with your
being kind.
When you are consistently self-confident, you will not
think, speak, and act in ways that are incompatible with
your being self-confident.
When you are consistently courageous, you will not
think, speak, and act in ways that are incompatible with
your being courageous.
These four qualities will help those who excel in them
in a multitude of ways.
We can learn from the biographies of great people. We
can learn from the live classes and lectures of
knowledgeable and wise people. We can learn from
their many recordings. We can learn from the books and
articles written by knowledgeable people.
Those who continue learning from everyone who is
worth learning from will continually become more
knowledgeable and wiser. As we get older and have
more life experience, we will gain a greater
understanding of ideas that would have been
worthwhile knowing before and can be grateful that we
know them now.
CHAPTER 5: The power of the famous daily affirmation
Many people are familiar with the affirmation of

Emile Coue (1857-1926), “Every day in every way I’m
getting better and better.”
Millions of people have improved their physical health

and emotional well-being by repeating this daily. Emile
suggested that people repeat this around 20 times in
the morning and 20 times in the evening before sleep.
And I suggest that this basic pattern can help us
upgrade even more:
“Every day in every way, I keep upgrading my thoughts
and my feelings, my words and my actions.”
“Every day in every way, I keep upgrading my being
joyful and kind. I see, hear, and feel it.”
“Every day in every way, I keep upgrading my being
self-confident and courageous. I see, hear, and feel it.”
If you repeat these three affirmations 20 times in the
morning and 20 times before sleep, how will this benefit
you? Only time and patience and persistence will
enable you to reply to this life-enhancing experiment.
But I’m certain that those who believe in the power of
affirmations will find themselves gaining tremendously.
There is yet another valuable affirmation that will
benefit those who repeat it over and over: “I radiate joy
and kindness, now and in the future.”
This affirmation can be especially beneficial before
you anticipate interacting with someone you might find
challenging to speak with.
Right now, you can think of a specific person that you
are concerned about how the conversation will unfold.
Repeating: “I radiate joy and kindness” a number of
times beforehand can prevent you from saying
something that you might regret.
As you keep repeating, “I radiate joy and kindness,”

this will be the way you habitually are.
CHAPTER 6: MODERN BRAIN SCIENCE HAS PROVEN

THAT YOU ACTUALLY CHANGE YOUR BRAIN FOR THE
BETTER WHEN YOU REPEAT POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND
ACTIONS
Everyone is aware that the brain of young children

improves with repetition of positive thoughts and
actions.
When you repeated the alphabet enough times as a
young child you were able to recite it by memory. The
same applies to the multiplication table, and many
other things that you studied with repetition.
And the same principle will apply to every positive
habit that you frequently repeat over and over again.
Those who speak and act with kindness over and over
again upgrade their brains and upgrade their level of
being kind.
Those who continuously speak and act with joyful
patterns, eventually make this their automatic way of
being.
Those who continuously think, speak, and act with
self-confidence eventually make self-confidence their
automatic way of being.
Those who continuously think, speak, and act with
courage eventually make courage their automatic way
of being.
The tremendous benefits of mastering these four traits

are so great, that it’s extremely wise for anyone who
wishes to live an enhanced life to make these qualities
habitual.
CHAPTER 7: CHANTS AND MEDITATIONS
At times an epiphany will totally upgrade a person’s

life in a relatively short time. This is when you suddenly
realize that you can integrate, internalize, and practice
a life-changing idea or concept.
An example of this is when a person understands on a
profound emotional level that a person’s pattern of
thinking is the decisive factor in their character, their
emotions, their actions, and the entire quality of their
lives.
Those who have made it a habit to consistently think
high quality thoughts will live a higher quality life. And
those who fail to do so, won’t.
When someone totally “gets this,” they realize that a
key factor in someone’s not being joyful, or kind, or self-
confident, or courageous is their usual pattern of
thinking. And when someone is consistently joyful and
kind, self-confident and courageous, it is their upgraded
thinking that enables them to be this way.
Yes, high-quality thinking is what is needed for greater
joy and kindness, self-confidence and courage.
Some individuals have had this total awareness reach

their minds on a practical level in a moment of deep
insight.
But others have gained this awareness through the
power of repetition.
One method of repeating an idea is through chanting
the idea or concept over and over. Enthusiastic
chanting is usually more effective then those who
repeat the idea without enthusiasm. But any repetition
can be beneficial.
If you are open to chanting, you might want to try
chanting these chants:
Joyful thoughts!
Joyful feelings!
Joyful words!
Joyful actions!
Kind thoughts!
Kind feelings!
Kind words!
Kind actions!
Self-confident thoughts!
Self-confident feelings!
Self-confident words!
Self-confident actions!
Courageous thoughts!
Courageous feelings!
Courageous words!
Courageous actions!
And some people might prefer to use these patterns as

meditations.
Breathe slowly and deeply, and calmly meditate on the
words slowly in a very calm and relaxed state:
Joyful thoughts.
Joyful feelings.
Joyful words.
Joyful actions.
Kind thoughts.
Kind feelings.
Kind words.
Kind actions.
Self-confident thoughts.
Self-confident feelings.
Self-confident words.
Self-confident actions.
Courageous thoughts.
Courageous feelings.
Courageous words
Courageous actions
Another pattern that can help you integrate and

internalize these four qualities:
Little by little, I am becoming more and more joyful.
Little by little, I am becoming more and more kinder.

Little by little, I am becoming more and more self-
confident.
Little by little, I am becoming more and more
courageous.
Besides these four qualities, you can repeat these

patterns with other important traits:
Calm and relaxed thoughts.
Calm and relaxed feelings.
Calm and relaxed words.
Calm and relaxed actions.
Grateful thoughts.
Grateful feelings.
Grateful words.
Grateful actions.
Enthusiastic thoughts.
Enthusiastic feelings.
Enthusiastic words.
Enthusiastic actions.
And many people might find these general patterns

beneficial:
Great thoughts.
Great feelings.
Great words.
Great actions.
Wonderful thoughts.
Wonderful feelings.
Wonderful words.
Wonderful actions.
Tremendous thoughts.
Tremendous feelings.
Tremendous words.
Tremendous actions.
CHAPTER 8: USE THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION TO

BECOME THE WAY YOU WISH TO BECOME.
When you practice mentally visualizing yourself

speaking and acting in a positive way, you are in the
process of having an actual positive effect on your
brain.
Some people are able to visualize clearly what they
wish to mentally visualize. Others might not
consciously see these scenes in their mind, but as long
as one says the right words it will have a beneficial
effect.
Be patient and persistent. Some people experience the
benefit in a very short time. And others need to keep
repeating these patterns for a long time until they see
actual results.
Patience and persistence are more important than
speed. A sincere wish to upgrade yourself is the key to
success.
“Right now, I see myself speaking and acting in ways

that will create more joy in my life. I see it. I hear it.
And I feel it.”
that will create more kindness in my life. I see it. I hear
it. And I feel it.”
that will create more self-confidence in my life. I see it.
I hear it. And I feel it.”
that will create more courage in my life. I see it. I hear
it. And I feel it.”
Some people prefer to see these visualizations
happening in the past. Even though this might not have
been their actual experience in the past, they are
conditioning their brain in a way that will help them
now in the present and future.
Others prefer to see these visualizations happening in
the future. Mental rehearsal has helped millions of
people speak and act in much better ways than they
would have without visualizing themselves being these
ways.
And you might find that both visualizing yourself in the
past being joyful, kind, self-confident, and courageous
plus visualizing your in the future being joyful, kind, self-
confident, and courageous works well for you.
Some like to visualize this in realistic scenes of what
is possible for them. And some let their imagination go
super extreme. By imagining super joy, super kindness,
super self-confidence, and super courage, ordinary day

to day situations become much easier.
CHAPTER 9: ACT JOYFULLY TO CREATE INNER JOY
Most adults wait until they experience something

special to be joyful. Joy isn’t their daily reality.
I’ve heard people say, “You can’t just clap your hands
and create joy for no special reason.”
But the reality is that, “Yes, we can!”
A great Rabbi wrote in a Hebrew book (Mesilas
Yeshorim, chapter 7) in 1740, that we have the ability to
create inner joy by externally acting as if we were
joyful. When he wrote this the technology to measure
the brain’s reaction to joy wasn’t yet invented. William
James, consider the father of American Psychology,
wrote in the 1890’s (150 years later) that when we act
joyously, we will experience inner joy. This too was
before the technology to measure the inner brain
reaction to joy was invented.
But we live in a time when, “Yes, the inner reaction of
the brain when a person experiences joy can be
measured,” so why doesn’t everyone who wants to
experience more joy in life speak and act joyfully?
I’m not a researcher, so I can’t answer this question.
But I do know first hand that when you raise both arms
and put on a big smile on your face as if you have just
won a world championship race or any other great
victory and see your smiling face in a mirror, you will
feel great.
Those who practice this daily, and don’t mentally say

anything about this not working for them, will find that
they can regularly upgrade their joyful experiences.
“But,” some argue, “What if you don’t have anything to
be joyful about?”
The vast majority of winners of major financial
lotteries are joyful when they hear this great news. But
why are they joyful when they find out this information,
right now nothing has actually changed in their lives.
They didn’t get the money yet. And they didn’t buy
anything with it.
Mentally they react with joy because they have joyful
thoughts about their assumed future.
The skill of creating joy at will because you can
mentally create it, is a skill that assures you of a joyful
future. So as you keep practicing creating joy in front of
a mirror, let the knowledge that you can keep
practicing this fantastic skill, make you very happy
right now.
And why does every person who is alive have a reason
to be joyful? The answer is because they are alive.
Being alive is like winning the biggest lottery.
And learning to be joyful, kind, self-confident, and
courageous will insure a person of having a joyful life.
CHAPTER 10: GREETING PEOPLE JOYFULLY
Great Sages (Pirkei Avos, ch. 3) have advocated

greeting everyone joyfully.
For a minority of people this will be easy. For a

majority of people this might be challenging. And it
might not always be appropriate. But I have witnessed
the tremendous benefits for those who have made this
their habitual way to greet people.
By greeting someone with an authentic smile and a
warm blessing, you are doing an act of kindness.
But what if someone would like to do this but finds it
difficult? Everyone can practice over and over again in
an empty room while looking in a mirror.
Someone not used to doing this might feel a bit
uncomfortable at first. But the more someone practices,
the more natural it will feel.
People who rarely smile, who are shy, or are easily
intimidated by others, need more courage to repeat this
enough times until it becomes their habitual way of
being. But every time we do an act that needs courage,
we are upgrading our brain’s level of being courageous.
The more difficult this is for someone, the more that
person gains by making this an enjoyable habit.
Someone who didn’t think they would be able to

actually make it a habit to constantly greet people
joyfully asked me what he can do to apply this.
I suggested to him that he could imagine greeting 100
people a day joyfully for ten days.
In an empty room he can imagine greeting the same
person or many different people. Since he will be in a
room by himself it will be much easier to begin
practicing.
He can exaggerate how joyfully he will express his

joyful greeting.
“I wish you a super wonderful and great day.”
“May you be blessed to have a fantastic day.”
“It’s super great to meet you. You made my day.”
“It’s amazing that from all of the billions of people on
the planet that I get to greet you joyfully right now.”
CHAPTER 11 WHAT IS TRULY GREAT IN YOUR LIFE?
People who have many great moments find it easier to

be joyful than people who don’t.
The challenge for many people is that they don’t yet
realize how many great moments that have experienced
in the past and are regularly experiencing.
The good news is that right at this very moment
everyone has the ability to choose to celebrate more
and more great moments.
People who have repeated the following and similar
patterns have upgrade the quality of their lives.
“It’s great and wonderful that I am alive.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can see.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can hear.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can walk.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can talk.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can read.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can write.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I can remember my
favorite memories.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I have friends.”

“It’s great and wonderful that I had teachers who
taught me knowledge and ideas that I appreciate.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I read worthwhile
books.”
“It’s great and wonderful that I have had some great
and wonderful teachers.”
And if someone didn’t have these type of teachers,
they can say, “It’s great that I have the ability to
imagine great and wonderful teachers teaching me to
keep upgrading my being joyful and kind, self-confident
and courageous.”
The more things that you can list that you consider
great and wonderful, the more great and wonderful your
life will be.
And even if someone only has a short list of things in
their life that they consider great and wonderful, they
can choose to repeat this list frequently
Also, you can say, “I can imagine doing and
experiencing very many wonderful and great things.
Imagining this over and over again will make it more
likely that this will happen in reality.
CHAPTER 12 THE AMAZING FORMULA THAT WILL HELP

YOU KEEP UPGRADING YOUR LIFE: G.T.S.S. = B.R.A.I.N.
There is the famous formula of Einstein: The equation

E = mc2. E = mc2 means "energy equals mass times the
speed of light squared." It shows that energy (E) and
mass (m) are interchangeable; they are different forms
of the same thing. If mass is somehow totally converted

into energy, it also shows how much energy would
reside inside that mass.
Many years ago, right before I got onto a plane for a
long trip, I bought a book at the airport bookstore
entitled The Biography of E = mc2. After reading part of
the book, I thought to myself that we can make a
formula for self-development.
The words “mind” and “brain” have always intrigued
me. Always? Of course not! When I was one day old I
doubt if I heard my parents tell me anything about my
mind and brain. My father was an orphan from his father
when he was three years old. I was named after this
grandfather. And my mother told me a number of times
that she loved me before I was born. So even though
they had tremendous joy when I was born, I doubt if
they told this one day old infant to keep upgrading his
mind and brain in a way that would make the family
proud.
But ever since I realized we all have a brain, and a
mind is a precious thing, I have been fascinated about
brains and minds. I still am.
I consider the word “mind,” as an acronym for: Memory
(& mindset), Imagination (& Self-image), Now, and
Decide.
And applying these words wisely for a meaningful life,
we can use our Memory to remember our greatest and
most joyful moments. We can use our Imagination to
imagine ourselves being our ideal self. We can also
upgrade our Self-image to be innately elevated and
wonderful. N is for Now. We are always in the present

moment of now. The past is only a memory of what
happened. The future is unknown in the present and we
have the ability to visualize a great and elevated future.
D is for decide. We can decide how we wish to create
ourselves.
A wise way to use our “mind” is to use our Memory to
remember our most Joyful and Empowered meaningful
moments. With our Imagination, we can see ourselves
as being Joyful, Kind, Self-confident, and Courageous.
“N” is for Now: Now we have the free-will to think,
speak, and act in ways that will keep upgrading our
being Joyful, Kind, Self-confident, and Courageous. And
“D” is for decide. We can decide to be resolved to keep
upgrading our being Joyful, Kind, Self-confident, and
Courageous.
The formula I came up with was G.T.S.S. = B.R.A.I.N.

First let us translate these initials into the words they
stand for. And then we will explain the ideas these
words mean.
G. is for Goals: Your goals are the outcomes that you
are committed to reaching. Making and reaching goals
is a key to living a meaningful and successful life.
With goals it’s very important to be clear about your
authentic goals.
The first step is to actually start taking the necessary
action to reach your goals. For many people there are a
lot of great goals they would wish to reach. But for
various reasons, they don’t take action to start.
And then after you start taking action towards your

goal it’s necessary to be persistent until you reach the
goal. Many people have started working on worthwhile
goals but they don’t continue until the goal is reached.
All successful people are successful because they
achieved and accomplished. Be totally resolved and
committed to successfully achieve your worthwhile
goals.
T. is for Traits. Your traits are your patterns of your

thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.
Those who have mastered the positive traits of being
joyful, kind, self-confident, and courageous will live a
high-quality life.
The first S. is for States. Your emotional states of mind
and body are a key factor in whether you will
experience the types of feelings you wish for. A person
who is consistently in positive states has transformed
those states into the traits that define who the person
is and what he will be doing.
Any emotional state that you have ever experienced
because of specific events, circumstance, and
occurrences are stored in your brain. You can access
them by seeing what you saw when you were in that
state, hearing what you heard when you were in that
state and feeling what you were feeling. Some people
find this easier to do than others, but it’s a skill that can
be learned if a person is flexible.
Over 20 years ago I wrote an article for a magazine
called ÁnchorPoint entitled “On Collecting States.” I
explained there that you can give specific names to

your favorite states. Some of those names can be
places you visited when you were in states that you
would like to be in more often. Other states can be the
names of people who excel in being in those states.
You can model their posture, their facial expression,
their tone of voice, and the words they say. Again, some
people find this easier to do than others, but it’s a skill
that can be learned if a person is flexible and patient
and persistent.
People have learned to emulate role models who are

in great states. As a matter of fact, all infants and
young children model the states of people in their
environment. Unfortunately, some individuals emulate
negative role models. Be wise and learn from positive
role models.
I personally have a list of 1,800 positive states. These
states were named after various people, places,
experiences, and many other categories. There is no
practical benefit in having so many potential positive
states. A much fewer list of major positive moments
can be sufficient. But I personally liked the number 18.
And it’s great to know that these states are stored in
my brain. Some are easy for me to access, some not so
easy.
An important point to keep in mind is that we never
will be in the exact same state as we were when we
first experienced it. But you gain by thinking of valuable
positive states that you experienced and telling
yourself enthusiastically, “I will see what I saw. I will

hear what I heard. And I will feel what I felt.”
This NLP technique is a major skill to become
proficient in.
The second S. is for Self-image. Having a self-image of
being successful creates a very different life than a
person with a low or limited self-image. Whatever a
person’s self-image has been in the past, with the right
thoughts in the present a person can upgrade that self-
image.
Helping someone raise their self-image is a great act
of kindness. It is not only helping the person in the
present, it will help them for the rest of their life.
And now we will explain the second half of the

equation.
The B. of Brain stands for Belief. The higher someone’s
self-image, the more a person believes that he can
achieve and accomplish.
Believe that you can keep upgrading your character
traits by upgrading your thoughts, words, and actions.
Believe that you can reach your goals. Believe that
you can overcome any limitations because there are
role models who have achieved similar goals even
though they had similar limitations. It’s not the actual
perceived limitation that stops us. It’s our subjective
way of thinking that prevents us from being all that we
can be. And we humans have the ability to upgrade our
thinking. Many have. And you can also.
R. stands for Right way. Go forward in your thinking

about constantly improving every important aspect of
your life.
Don’t let setbacks prevent you from upgrading yourself
from where you are at a given moment in your life. Keep
thinking the right thoughts, keep speaking the right
words, and keep taking the right actions.
The letter A. stands for Action. The only way you will
accomplish and achieve is by taking the actions
necessary for you to accomplish and achieve what you
wholeheartedly commit to.
Let your upgraded courage help you overcome any
needless fears that you may presently have.
The letter I. stands for Imagination. Mentally visualize
yourself having the traits and patterns of actions that
you need to be successful.
It’s our negative imagination that holds us back from
being all we can be and achieving all that we want to
achieve. Keep upgrading your imagination to imagine
creating your ideal way of being.
Imagining that you will win a large lottery or that
someone else will be the way you wish they were won’t
automatically change the reality. But your traits and
states are potentially under your control. And you can
keep upgrading your traits and states. Be highly
committed and resolved to do what you can to keep
growing and improving.
N. stands for Now. You are always in a moment of
Now. And Now you have the ability to choose your
thoughts, words, and actions. Choose wisely!
CHAPTER 13: HOW TO STOP BEING NEGATIVE. START

BEING MORE POSITIVE.
The way to stop any negative behavior or pattern is to

start upgrading your thinking, speaking, and acting
positively.
How to do the opposite of thinking, speaking, and

acting negatively is simple even if it’s not easy. “All you
need to do” is start thinking, speaking, and acting with
positive patterns.
This formula is simple because it’s an easy sentence

to think and say. It’s not easy because it can be difficult
to change behavior and patterns. But thinking in terms
of “upgrading” instead of “changing” can make it easier.
Besides thinking, speaking, and acting positively,

visualize yourself in the past, present, and future being
the way you sincerely wish to be. In your mind’s eye see
yourself speaking and acting in ways that express your
being grateful, joyful, kind, self-confident, courageous,
and empowered.
You are unique so the way that you will speak and act
with these six patterns of traits will be unique to your
unique personality and circumstances.
The six traits and states that we recommend will

totally upgrade your mind and way of being. These
qualities are solutions to the list of what we would wish
to stop.
Be grateful.
Be joyful.
Be kind.
Be self-confident.
Be courageous.
Be empowered.
With the present realization that we can actually

change the structure of our brain with our thoughts and
behaviors, we now know that as we repeat positive
affirmations and positive actions we upgrade our brain.
This proven fact is known as brain plasticity. Our brain

can be upgraded as long as we are still alive and
functioning normally. As we mentally visualize our being
grateful, joyful, kind, self-confident, courageous, and
empowered we upgrade our brain. All the more so when
we actually act in ways consistent with the positive
traits that will greatly enhance our lives.
Living in ways consistent with the six positive traits of

being grateful, joyful, kind, self-confident, courageous,
and empowered will greatly upgrade the quality of your
life.
Now we have a list of six positive affirmations. Those

who have repeated them daily have gained immensely
in many ways. You will to.
The more we repeat them, the greater the impact they

will have.
Every day in every way, I am grateful.
Every day in every way, I am joyful.
Every day in every way, I am kind.
Every day in every way, I am self-confident.
Every day in every way, I am courageous.
Every day in every way, I am empowered.
And now here is the list of affirmations to repeat with

a group of people. It’s tremendously empowering to
repeat them over and over with as many people as you
can:
Every day in every way, we are grateful.
Every day in every way, we are joyful.
Every day in every way, we are kind.
Every day in every way, we are self-confident.
Every day in every way, we are courageous.
Every day in every way, we are empowered.

And now that you’ve just read the list of positive ways
of being, it’s worthwhile to read the following list of
patterns we wish to stop. The most effective way to
stop a negative pattern is to start upgrading its positive
counterpart. Be patient. A total transformation takes
time. But having a positive way of being in mind as you
read about what to stop, will make it more likely that
you will see personal progress. Others have, and you
can also. The most important rule is be persistent.
Those who are will eventually see positive results.
Question: Do I really believe this list will help everyone

who reads it?
Answer: No. But I wrote it for anyone and everyone

who will benefit even a little bit. And that could be you!
This list is just meant as a direction to create a path

and journey to lead to a more enhanced life.
1. STOP ASSUMING THE WORST. START BEING THE

BEST YOU THAT YOU CAN BE, AND ASSUME THAT
AS YOU KEEP UPGRADING YOUR SELF-
CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE, YOU WILL
ACCOMPLISH AND ACHIEVE MANY WORTHWHILE
GOALS.
2. STOP BEING AFRAID OF BEING AFRAID. START
BEING CONSISTENTLY JOYFUL, SELF-CONFIDENT,
COURAGEOUS, AND EMPOWERED
3. STOP BEING AFRAID OF BEING DISAPPOINTED.
START BEING CONSISTENTLY GRATEFUL AND
JOYFUL, AND KEEP UPGRADING YOUR ABILITY TO

ACHIEVE AND ACCOMPLISH WHAT YOU CAN.
4. STOP BEING AFRAID OF CRITICISM. START BEING
SO SELF-CONFIDENT, COURAGEOUS, AND
EMPOWERED THAT YOU ARE OPEN TO HONEST
AND HELPFUL FEEDBACK.
5. STOP BEING AFRAID TO AIM HIGH. START BEING
SO SELF-CONFIDENT, COURAGEOUS, AND
EMPOWERED THAT YOU CAN AIM AS HIGH AS YOU
WISH.
6. STOP BEING AFRAID TO ADMIT YOU MADE A
MISTAKE. START BEING SO JOYFUL, SELF-
CONFIDENT, AND COURAGEOUS THAT IT WILL
BECOME EASIER FOR YOU TO ADMIT THAT YOU
MADE A MISTAKE.
7. STOP BEING AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS. START
UPGRADING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AND
COURAGE TO ASK APPROPRIATE QUESTIONS.
8. STOP BEING AFRAID TO ASK PEOPLE TO REPEAT
THEMSELVES. START HAVING THE SELF-
CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE TO SAY TO
SOMEONE, “COULD YOU PLEASE REPEAT THAT?”
9. STOP BEING AFRAID TO BE ASSERTIVE. START
BEING RESPECTFULLY AND WISELY ASSERTIVE.
FOR SOME THIS IS RELATIVELY EASY. FOR THOSE
FOR WHOM THIS IS DIFFICULT, THAT’S THE
REASON YOU GAIN GREATER COURAGE WHEN
YOU DO SO.
10. STOP BEING AFRAID TO SAY, “I DON’T
KNOW.” START HAVING THE SELF-CONFIDENCE
AND COURAGE TO SAY THESE THREE WORDS, ‘I

DON’T KNOW.’
11. STOP BEING AFRAID TO SPEAK IN PUBLIC.
START DOING THIS AND IT USUALLY BECOMES
EASIER. IF IT DOESN’T, YOU BECOME MORE
COURAGEOUS EACH TIME YOU DO WHAT IS
DIFFICULT FOR YOU TO DO.
12. STOP BEING ANXIOUS. START UPGRADING
YOUR BEING CALMER AND MORE RELAXED. BE
VERY PATIENT AND PERSISTENT AS YOU
BREATHE CALMLY, AND KEEP REPEATING IN A
VERY CALM TONE OF VOICE: “Calm and relaxed.
Deeper and deeper, calm and relaxed.” Visualize a
very serene and calming scene and continue
repeating: “Calm thoughts, calm feelings, calm
words, and calm actions.”
13. STOP BEING FEARFUL. START BEING MORE
SELF-CONFIDENT, COURAGEOUS, AND
EMPOWERED.
14. STOP BEING IMPATIENT. KEEP UPGRADING
YOUR SELF-TALK THAT IS CONDUCIVE FOR BEING
MORE and MORE WISELY PATIENT.
15. STOP BEING MEAN. START BEING JOYFUL
AND KIND. (Most really mean people won’t read
this. If you are open to becoming kinder,
congratulations.) BE RESOLVED AND COMMITTED
TO THINK, SPEAK, AND ACT WITH KIND WORDS
AND ACTIONS.
16. STOP BEING MISERABLE. START BEING MORE
GRATEFUL, JOYFUL, AND KIND.
17. STOP BEING NEGATIVE. START BEING MORE

POSITIVE. (Easier said than done? Of course! This
can be a lifetime project. Be patient and
persistent.)
18. STOP BEING PESSIMISTIC. START BEING
MORE WISELY OPTIMISTIC.
19. STOP BEING UNCOURAGEOUS. START BEING
MORE SELF-CONFIDENT AND WISELY
COURAGEOUS.
20. STOP BEING UNEMPOWERED. START BEING
MORE SELF-CONFIDENT, COURAGEOUS AND
EMPOWERED.
21. STOP BEING UNENTHUSIASTIC. START BEING
MORE ENTHUSIASTIC ABOUT BEING KIND AND
REACHING MEANINGFUL GOALS.
22. STOP BEING UNGRATEFUL. START BEING
MORE GRATEFUL, JOYFUL, AND KIND.
23. STOP BEING UNJOYFUL. START BEING MORE
GRATEFUL AND JOYFUL.
24. STOP BEING UNKIND. START BEING KINDER:
Be committed to upgrade your kind thoughts, kind
words and kind actions.
25. STOP BEING UNSELF-CONFIDENT. START
BEING MORE SELF-CONFIDENT. (It’s worthwhile
finding a mentor or coach to help.)
26. STOP BEING UPSET NEEDLESSLY. START
BEING CALMER, KINDER, AND MORE GRATEFUL
AND JOYFUL.
27. STOP BLAMING. START BEING WISER AND

SELF-CONFIDENT TO DO WHAT YOU CAN TO
IMPROVE SITUATIONS.
28. STOP BLOWING UP. START BEING CENTERED
AND CALM. FIX WHAT YOU CAN IN A WISE WAY
AND WISELY ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN’T.
29. STOP COMPLAINING. BE JOYFUL AND HAVE
THE SELF-CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE TO DO
WHAT YOU CAN TO IMPROVE SITUATIONS.
30. STOP FEELING NEEDLESSLY FRUSTRATED.
START BEING MORE GRATEFUL AND JOYFUL
WITH THE SELF-CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE TO
CHANGE WHAT CAN BE CHANGED.
31. STOP FEELING HOPELESS. START FEELING
CONSISTENTLY HOPEFUL IN A WISE WAY.
32. STOP FOCUSING ON THE NEGATIVE OF THE
PAST. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE OF THE PAST AND
PRESENT AND LET YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AND
COURAGE CREATE A GREAT FUTURE.
33. STOP GIVING UP ON YOUR DREAMS. START
THE PROCESS OF MAKING YOUR MEANINGFUL
DREAMS COME TRUE.
34. STOP HAVING LOW SELF-ESTEEM. START TO
CHOOSE A WISE AND BALANCED ATTITUDE OF
SELF-RESPECT.
35. STOP INSULTING. START BEING
CONSISTENTLY KIND IN A WISE WAY.
36. STOP KVETCHING AND GRIPING. START
BEING CONSISTENTLY GRATEFUL AND JOYFUL.
37. STOP LETTING ANYONE’S NEGATIVE

THINKING AND SPEAKING ABOUT YOU PREVENT
YOU FROM BEING ALL THAT YOU COULD BE.
38. STOP LETTING DISTRESSFUL FEELINGS
PREVENT YOU FROM SPEAKING AND ACTING IN
POSITIVE WAYS.
39. STOP LETTING FEAR DOMINATE YOUR
THINKING. START LETTING SELF-CONFIDENCE
AND COURAGE DOMINATE YOUR THINKING.
40. STOP LETTING FEAR NEEDLESSLY STOP YOU
FROM BEING COURAGEOUS. START BEING
CONSISTENTLY WISELY COURAGEOUS.
41. STOP LETTING PEOPLE’S STUPID WORDS AND
BEHAVIORS GET YOU OVERLY UPSET. START
UPGRADING YOUR BEING GRATEFUL, JOYFUL
AND KIND.
42. STOP LETTING TRIVIALITIES GET YOU
STRESSED AND OVERWHELMED. START BEING SO
GRATEFUL AND JOYFUL THAT TRIVIALITIES ARE
IRRELEVENT TO YOU.
43. STOP LIMITING YOURSELF. START HAVING A
MORE UNLIMITED WISE MINDSET.
44. STOP LIVING A MEDIOCRE LIFE. START
LIVING A GREAT LIFE WITH MORE SELF-
CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE.
45. STOP LOSING FRIENDS. START GAINING
FRIENDS BY BEING A TRUE FRIEND.
46. STOP MAKING PEOPLE FEEL BAD. START
CONSISTENTLY SPEAKING AND ACTING THE WAY
AN AUTHENTICALLY KIND PERSON WOULD SPEAK

AND ACT.
47. STOP NOT BEING YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND.
START BEING KIND TO YOURSELF AND TO
OTHERS. CHOOSE TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF AND
ACT THE WAY YOU WOULD IF YOU WERE YOUR
OWN BEST FRIEND.
48. STOP NOT COMMITTING TO BE ALL THAT
YOU CAN BE. START COMMITTING TO BE ALL
THAT YOU CAN BE.
49. STOP NOT COMMITTING TO BEING
CENTERED, FOCUSED, AND FLOWING. START
COMMITTING TO BEING CENTERED, FOCUSED,
AND FLOWING.
50. STOP NOT COMMITTING TO BEING HAPPY,
JOYFUL, AND KIND. START COMMITTING TO
BEING HAPPY, JOYFUL, AND KIND.
51. STOP NOT COMMITTING TO BEING SELF-
CONFIDENT, COURAGEOUS, AND EMPOWERED.
START COMMITTING TO BEING SELF-CONFIDENT,
COURAGEOUS, AND EMPOWERED.
52. STOP NOT FINISHING YOUR PROJECTS.
START COMMITTING TO FINISHING YOUR
PROJECTS.
53. STOP NOT MAKING GOALS. START MAKING
MEANINGFUL GOALS. [It is helpful if you find
someone who will encourage you.]
54. STOP NOT STARTING WHAT YOU REALLY
WISH TO START. START STARTING WHAT YOU
REALLY WISH TO START. [Question: Isn’t this
obvious? Yes, if you are reading this. No, if this is

your habitual pattern.]
55. STOP PUTTING PEOPLE DOWN. START
IMMEDIATELY TO BE KINDER.
56. STOP QUITTING WHEN YOU SHOULD REALLY
KEEP ON GOING. START BEING MORE
PERSISTENT.
57. STOP REFUSING TO LISTEN TO RECORDINGS
THAT COULD HELP MAKE YOU GREAT. START
LISTENING TO WORTHWHILE RECORDINGS AND
APPLY WHAT YOU HEAR.
58. STOP REFUSING TO READ THE BOOKS THAT
CAN HELP YOU UPGRADE YOURSELF. READ
BOOKS AND ARTICLES THAT CAN HELP YOU
UPGRADE YOURSELF.
59. STOP RESISTING BEING ALL THAT YOU
COULD BE. START BEING ALL THAT YOU CAN BE.
60. STOP SABOTOGING YOURSELF. START
CONSISTENTLY UPGRADING YOUR SELF-
CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE.
61. STOP SEEING YOURSELF AS A LOSER. START
UPGRADING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AND
COURAGE AND ACCOMPLISH AND ACHIEVE WHAT
YOU CAN WITH A GREATER AMOUNT OF
KINDNESS.
62. STOP SEEING YOURSELF AS HAVING A LOW
SELF-IMAGE. START SEEING YOURSELF AS SELF-
CONFIDENT AND COURAGEOUS WITH A
BALANCED SENSE OF WORTH.
63. STOP SEEING YOURSELF AS EXTREMELY

LIMITED. START SEEING YOURSELF WISELY AS
MUCH LESS LIMITED AND KEEP UPGRADING YOUR
BELIEF IN YOUR ABILITY TO MAKE AND REACH
MEANINGFUL GOALS.
64. STOP SELF-PITY. START THINKING AND
SPEAKING WISELY WITH MORE SELF-CONFIDENCE
AND COURAGE.
65. STOP SPEAKING IN WAYS THAT CAUSE PAIN
AND DISTRESS TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS.
START SPEAKING AND ACTING IN WAYS THAT
ARE KIND.
66. STOP SPEAKING NEGATIVELY ABOUT
PEOPLE. START SPEAKING KINDLY OR CHANGE
THE SUBJECT.
67. STOP STOPPING YOURSELF FROM BEING ALL
THAT YOU COULD BE. START BEING RESOLVED
TO BEING ALL THAT YOU COULD BE AND
ACHIEVING AND ACCOMPLISHING ALL THAT YOU
CAN.
68. STOP STOPPING YOURSELF FROM MAKING
AND REACHING WORTHWHILE GOALS. START
MAKING AND REACHING MEANINGFUL GOALS.
69. STOP STRESSING NEEDLESSLY. START
UPGRADING YOUR BEING CALMER AND MORE
RELAXED IN A WISE WAY.
70. STOP TELLING YOURSELF NEGATIVE
STORIES ABOUT YOURSELF. START TELLING
YOURSELF POSITIVE TRUE STORIES ABOUT
YOURSELF.
71. STOP THINKING NEGATIVELY. START

THINKING POSITIVELY WISELY. (Read books that
will upgrade your thinking.)
72. STOP THINKING SMALL. START THINKING
BIG. (The book: The Magic of Thinking Big might
benefit you as it did many others.)
73. STOP THINKING YOU CAN’T SUCCEED. START
BEING MORE REALISTICALLY OPTIMISTIC THAT
YOU CAN SUCCEED IN MANY WAYS.
74. STOP USING ONLY A SMALL PORTION OF
YOUR POTENTIAL. START USING A GREATER
PORTION OF YOUR POTENTIAL.
75. STOP WAITING UNTIL CIRCUMSTANCES ARE
PERFECT BEFORE TAKING POSITIVE ACTION.
START BEING WISE ABOUT TAKING POSITIVE
ACTION.
76. STOP WAITING UNTIL YOU FEEL INSPIRED TO
ACTUALLY TAKE POSITIVE STEPS NOW. START
TAKING POSITIVE STEPS AS SOON AS YOU CAN.
77. STOP WASTING TIME. START USING YOUR
TIME WISELY.
78. STOP WHINING. START BEING MORE
GRATEFUL AND JOYFUL, MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
AND COURAGEOUS.
79. STOP WISHING YOU WERE BETTER AND
DIFFERENT. START UPGRADING YOUR
CHARACTER BY UPGRADING YOUR THOUGHTS,
FEELINGS, WORDS, AND ACTIONS.
80. STOP WORRYING. START UPGRADING YOUR
GRATITUDE, JOY, AND KINDNESS ALONG WITH
YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE.

AND BE TOTALLY COMMITTED AND RESOLVED
TO MAKE AND REACH MEANINGFUL GOALS
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YOU TOO CAN BE MORE JOYFUL AND KIND; MORE

April 10, 2021

© 2021 Zelig Pliskin

Anyone can reprint for free and send it to anyone with

A letter to the reader:

Hello, my dear fellow earthling. When I was one day

old. Anyone who developed any skill or talent didn’t

May we all be blessed to become the best we can be

CHAPTER 1 THE FORMULA FOR A GREAT LIFE

Wouldn’t in be great to have a formula for a great life?

For example, if someone asks you to name two

Those who have mastered the habit of thinking

made strong decisions and were intensely committed to

CHAPTER 2: ALWAYS OR AT LEAST JUST NOW

Ideally, we would love to be always joyful, always

CHAPTER 3: THE “I AM” PATTERN

Everyone who describes themselves with an “I am”

they are choosing from a multitude of ways to describe

people. Since this is your imagination, you can imagine

CHAPTER 4: LEARN FROM EVERY POSITIVE ROLE

Sages have defined a wise person as someone who is

When you are consistently kind, you will not think,

CHAPTER 5: The power of the famous daily affirmation

Many people are familiar with the affirmation of

Millions of people have improved their physical health

As you keep repeating, “I radiate joy and kindness,”

CHAPTER 6: MODERN BRAIN SCIENCE HAS PROVEN

Everyone is aware that the brain of young children

The tremendous benefits of mastering these four traits

CHAPTER 7: CHANTS AND MEDITATIONS

At times an epiphany will totally upgrade a person’s

Some individuals have had this total awareness reach

And some people might prefer to use these patterns as

Another pattern that can help you integrate and

Little by little, I am becoming more and more kinder.

Besides these four qualities, you can repeat these

And many people might find these general patterns

CHAPTER 8: USE THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION TO

When you practice mentally visualizing yourself

“Right now, I see myself speaking and acting in ways

super self-confidence, and super courage, ordinary day

CHAPTER 9: ACT JOYFULLY TO CREATE INNER JOY

Most adults wait until they experience something

Those who practice this daily, and don’t mentally say

CHAPTER 10: GREETING PEOPLE JOYFULLY

Great Sages (Pirkei Avos, ch. 3) have advocated

For a minority of people this will be easy. For a

Someone who didn’t think they would be able to

He can exaggerate how joyfully he will express his

CHAPTER 11 WHAT IS TRULY GREAT IN YOUR LIFE?

People who have many great moments find it easier to

“It’s great and wonderful that I have friends.”

CHAPTER 12 THE AMAZING FORMULA THAT WILL HELP

There is the famous formula of Einstein: The equation

of the same thing. If mass is somehow totally converted

wonderful. N is for Now. We are always in the present

The formula I came up with was G.T.S.S. = B.R.A.I.N.

And then after you start taking action towards your

T. is for Traits. Your traits are your patterns of your

explained there that you can give specific names to

People have learned to emulate role models who are

yourself enthusiastically, “I will see what I saw. I will

And now we will explain the second half of the