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Goal 1
Engaging in Dual perspective (Ch- 1 & 4 ; pg - 36)
The first goal I would like to work on is to develop the habit of engaging in dual
perspective.
Dual perspective means, the understanding of our own as well as another person's
perspective, thoughts, feelings or beliefs. Adopting a dual perspective can help me,
understand the ways in which others think and feel about certain issues. This will
help me consider their thoughts and allow a meaningful conversation between the
two of us. Additionally, this will also help me respect others and gain their respect in
return.
In order to develop the ability to engage in dual perspectives I will practice the
following steps :-
1. I will try to be mindful about my habit of viewing things only from my
perspective, so that I can resist this habit in a conversation
2. I will try to properly listen to the ways others express so that I can understand
the way they feel about things and situations.
3. I will also ask others more about how they feel regarding a topic, so that I can
understand them better from their perspective and also engage in an active
and meaningful conversation.
Goal 2
Monitoring my communication (Ch -3 ; Pg - 37)
Goal 4
Distinguish between facts and inferences ( Ch - 3 ; pg - 94)
My fifth goal would be, to guard myself against creating and using biases that are
self serving.
Self serving bias has the ability to distort perceptions which will make everything
convenient for the individual. The habit of creating self serving bias needs to be
monitored as it prevents us from truly perceiving our faults and the actions of others.
Not monitoring one's self serving bias can make them judge others harshly. By
monitoring these biases properly, an individual can focus on his mistakes and
improve those to be a better communicator and a person. Additionally, he or she will
also be able to understand others objectively. It can be said that monitoring self
serving bias can help in developing a dual perspective.
In order to guard myself against self serving bias, I practise the following habits -
● Finding 5 reasons or people behind my victory so that I am able to appreciate
the efforts others put in.
● Always assess the results of failure in a way that I can find scope for
improvement and learn from my mistakes. If needed, I will give myself some
extra time to evaluate the situation.
● I will try to make myself understand from before that I am a human being
capable of making mistakes and in terms of success, most of the time I will
need assistance from others to attain my motive. Realising and accepting
these will help me develop the proper mindset to guard myself against biases
that are self serving.
Goal 6
Respecting what others say about their feelings and thoughts ( Ch - 4 ; pg - 126)
Goal 8
Be mindful while listening (Ch - 6 ; pg - 182)
Goal 10
Look for points of agreement in conflict (Ch - 9 ; pg - 268)
In order to manage conflicts in relationships, my tenth and last goal would be to look
for points of agreement in conflict.
Practising proper conflict resolution is very important for maintaining healthy relations
and continuing effective communication. Effective communication, active listening
and having a dual perspective are important habits that can help an individual help in
better conflict resolution. Trying to look for points of agreement during an argument is
another step towards that conflict resolution. The common point of agreement
becomes the middle ground which is helpful in resolution of the conflict, in an
effective manner without hurting each other.
In order to develop and practise this skill, I will try to understand the perspective of
the other person, it will help me assess the feelings and needs of the person. By
doing so, I can compare it with my own feelings, needs and thoughts regarding the
current issue. When I am able to understand differentiated opinions and respect
them, it will become easier for me to search the remaining common ground between
the two of us, to which both of us will agree. This is a practice that requires
mindfulness which I will try to develop within myself.
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