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As a deafening scream echoed through the house, I wondered what I had gotten myself
into when becoming the nanny of a two-year-old girl named Lucie. She was having a tantrum on
the floor, flailing her limbs, tears streaming down her face. “I want mommy!” she repeatedly
screamed in defiance. This continued every time I went to babysit her for months until she turned
From her third until her fourth birthday, she could not get enough of our trampoline
adventures and Barbie make-believe time. As she grew, she also started to enjoy some activities
more than others; for instance, she favored coloring over messy finger-painting. She had become
almost graceful when putting on gymnastics shows for me as opposed to the fumbling baby who
had once tangled herself in ribbons while trying to dance. She had a fascination with Disney
Princesses and maintained her sassy personality even while in character and costume.
When she turned four, she seemed to have another switch in attitude. She detested the
idea of her mother leaving the house without her, but instead of reacting with fury and
tumultuous phrases, she went to a separate room to calm herself down until she was ready to
play, exhibiting a newfound sense of self-control. I was amazed by this sudden change in
behavior: she had changed so drastically between every year of her life so far. This noticeable
change caused me to reflect on the past few years, and I realized I had seen her grow in every
possible way.
The stubby legs of two-year-old Lucie had been replaced by those of a tall four-year-old
who could run without stumbling and jump without face planting. From the incomprehensible
monosyllabic language of a baby, she could now speak in complex sentences. She could count,
write letters, and recite whole songs from memory. Above all, the most astonishing
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transformation was in her personality. Lucie had blossomed from an irritable baby to a curious
toddler right before my eyes in the years I had spent babysitting her. I thought back on the many
experiences we had shared. Had I been a factor in changing her personality and temperament?
What other factors could have influenced this shift, and how does child development correlate to
My immediate thought when pondering this question was that everything that happens to
a child in the developmental years of one to four years old would have a significant effect on
their future self. There are two categories of factors that influence child development: external
factors and intrinsic factors. External or environmental factors come from outside sources, like
parenting style and parental traits, whereas intrinsic factors come from within, like genetic or
neurological factors. As a result of an external factor, parenting, every child has a different
understanding of manners, right and wrong, and the rules they have to follow at home. Factors
like living conditions would not be absorbed necessarily, but rather change what opportunities
are available to a child, like access to after-school programs, quality of education, home
environment, daily activities, and independence. Parental traits, however, can either be mirrored
environment, and many other factors contribute to the formation of a child’s personality traits.
As I researched parenting techniques, I discovered that parents affect the most substantial
factors in forming a child’s personality, and some techniques of parenting will affect children
differently than others. The line between being authoritative and authoritarian is one that some
parents mistakenly cross when utilizing the well-known ‘tough love’ technique. Parenting
technique and level of strictness paired with boundaries and love are important balances for
parents and caregivers to maintain. In my interview with the prior Assistant Director of Dianne
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Adair Daycare, Melissa Bevans explained that “boundaries are important, as the dynamic
between parents will change how a kid sees relationships in the future. They also need
consistency with rules from both parents because it creates a level of trust.” She stressed that
mutual understanding is crucial for effective parenting and caretaking. A child does not respond
to being patronized or given negative reinforcement. Bevans went on to say, “Mutual respect is
also very important to build a child’s confidence. If they see an adult treating them with respect,
they will also treat others that way.” The way children treat others is largely based on how they
are treated as they model the behavior of authority figures in their life.
A child with loving and kind parents may still end up having a negative attitude and it
may not have to do with how they were raised at all. While children “may get some personality
traits from their parents genetically, nature vs. nurture comes into play, and how they are raised
significantly influences them as well” explains Bevans. The way a child is brought up plays a
large role in how they perceive the world, but genetics also have an equal influence on a child’s
personality. Genetics are an intrinsic or internal factor that greatly affects the formation of
temperament. Because temperament is genetically driven, “genes appear to be the major reason
why temperament remains stable into adulthood. In contrast, the environment appears mainly
responsible for any change in temperament” (Clark). Somewhere between twenty to sixty
percent of personality and temperament are controlled by genetics, making parental traits even
While genes can control some aspects of personality, another factor that shapes
personality and temperament is physiology, especially how the brain works and is formed, which
is linked with psychology. In my research, one “important aspect of research on inhibition was
looking at the response of the amygdala, which is important for fear and anxiety, especially when
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confronted with possible threatening events in the environment” (Davidson). In the study I read
about, “Using functional magnetic resonance imaging (FMRIs) young adults identified as
strongly inhibited toddlers showed heightened activation of the amygdala when compared to
those identified as uninhibited toddlers” (Davidson). The amygdala, which controls fear in the
brain, is a simple way to measure a person’s temperament in a study, as shown in Davidson and
Begley’s review of the book “The Emotional Life of your Brain”, which combines neuroscience
and memoir. The amygdala is one of the many parts of the brain that affects personality, as fear is
Personality traits can be affected by internal physiological factors and genetics, but they
are also shaped by many external factors. Some factors that affect temperament can be cultural or
homes, illnesses, teratogens, etc. Additionally, individuals often choose environments that
support their temperament, which in turn further strengthens them” (Cain). Additionally, Bevans
states that “all of these factors can have a positive or negative impact on their personality as it
shapes the framework of how they see the world. People that you come in contact with impact
your life.” Although it may seem that children are helpless in how their personality is shaped,
perception actually “plays a part in it as it is up to the child because you have the choice to
change how it affects you.” In reality, children have a choice in how they let events affect them.
For example, when met with hardship, one person may become depressed and have little
motivation, whereas another person may learn from their experience and become more driven.
One child may cry about losing a game during recess, while another will challenge others to a
rematch. Children have some choice in their attitude and a good parental example can only
enforce this. In an interview with Tiffany Simpson, Executive Coach and Organizational
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Development Consultant, she detailed her experience with her own children’s personalities
growing up and her years helping executive teams cooperate. Simpson believes that to prevent
decreased motivation after hardship, parents should “praise the effort, not the result” of what a
child sets out to do. By doing this, parents can teach their children to be proud of the effort they
put in, even if it ends in failure. This technique, like everything in parenting, requires consistency
Consistency is the key for successful habits in children and is much easier to achieve with
financial stability, so does socioeconomic status affect personality and temperament? Bandura, a
Stanford researcher, rejects the assumption that socioeconomic status directly affects
temperament. He states in his research that socioeconomic status has “no direct effects on either
parents’ beliefs in their efficacy to promote their children’s educational development and the
aspirations they hold for them” (Bandura). Instead of the conditions in which a child grows up
directly changing their outlook on the world, a parent’s hopes and dreams for a child affect them
“parental efficacy and aspirations raise children’s educational aspirations and their sense of
academic, social, and self-regulatory efficacy. The patterning of children’s perceived efficacy
influences the types of occupational activities they believe they can do, which, in turn, is linked
to the kinds of jobs they would choose for their life’s work” (Bandura). Socioeconomic status
may not affect a child directly, but rather it will change parental behavior and indirectly change
the course of a child’s future, as “the impact of socioeconomic status on child outcomes is
entirely mediated through parents’ child management practices” (Bandura). This practice of
choosing the best after-school programs and extracurricular activities is important as a parent
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because the more exposure your child has with them from a young age, the more they will
positively affect the child and create stability in their life. On the topic of socioeconomic status,
Simpson states, “The more you can create stability the more parents are involved with the
children, and consistency is also extremely important.” The consistency created by parents is
The way one absorbs most of their experiences is affected by the pathways in your brain
and how you were ‘programmed’ when you were born. However, “most patterns of human
behavior are organized by individual experience and retained in neural codes rather than having
been provided ready-made by inborn programming,” as everything that happens to you affects
innately determined factors enter into every form of behavior to varying degrees” (Bandura).
Intrinsic factors, like genetic factors, “affect behavioral potentialities, which, through their
actualization, can influence the kinds of environments that are experienced and constructed”
(Bandura). The environment that you surround yourself with by choice, like choosing friends or
your career, will most likely reflect your personality traits rather than affect them. Simpson says
that “your environment encourages or mitigates your genetics.” This common occurrence
Neurology is more important to personality than it may seem, as child development is the
most rapid period of development in the brain. Brain development, in turn, is partially formed by
experiences that are guided by a child’s free will or surrounding occurrences. These experiences,
“produced by agentic action, shape the nature of brain development and quality of functioning.
Both experientially derived factors and genetically determined ones interact, often in intricate
synergistic ways, to determine behavior” (Bandura). From the ages of one to four, the most
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neurological synapses in your life are being formed as “there is an explosion of synapse
formation between neurons during early brain development” called synaptogenesis. The “rapid
period of synaptogenesis plays a vital role in learning, memory formation, and adaptation early
in life. At about 2 to 3 years of age, the number of synapses hits a peak level” (Cafasso).
Synaptogenesis is the main physiological factor of development at a young age, which manifests
into the amazing quality of children that is quick-learning and a sense of wonder about the world
around them.
These neurological and external factors are just a few factors that affect a child’s
temperament and personality. Temperament is defined as “the innate characteristics of the infant,
including mood, activity level, and emotional reactivity, noticeable soon after birth” according to
about the roots of temperament and how personality is broken down into main traits (Lally). It is
and temperament constructs are linked to individual differences in both personality and
underlying neural function” (Rothbart). The main traits of personality are Openness to
“Five Factor Model” and it describes the hundreds of personality traits we see every day and
organizes them into five broad umbrella categories (Lally). These traits are extremely important
to understand because they are the basis of our understanding of personality as a concept for
A child who seeks out new things to try and yearn for adventures in their everyday life
has a high affinity for the personality trait ‘openness to experience’, which is defined as “a
general appreciation for art, emotion, adventure, unusual ideas, imagination, curiosity, and
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variety of experience” (Soto). This can be seen in my description of Lucie; as she grew into a
curious toddler, she more clearly expressed the emotions she felt, exuding imagination when
making her own games to play. Soto’s example of an individual who is highly open to experience
is a person who “tends to have distinctive and unconventional decorations in their home. They
are also likely to have books on a wide variety of topics, a diverse music collection, and works of
art on display” (Soto). People are often drawn to those with this feature because they are very
open to making new friends and have an inviting presence. Parenting techniques that highlight
A contrasting personality trait that can be seen in more quiet but high achieving children
is conscientiousness, which is “a tendency to show self-discipline, act dutifully, and aim for
achievement” (Soto). Some children who grow up participating in sports are more likely to
become high achievers because they are raised with competition as a top priority, like another
boy I babysit, Jackson. Jackson loves to win whatever game he’s playing, whether it be
basketball, a card game, or a race. While this trait leads him to be high achieving, he also does
not deal with losing very well. While this could grow into a possible problem, one solution is to
be involved in sports. According to Simpson, “Sports are about teamwork and collective wins,
encourages collaboration in later life.” Involvement in sports at a young age can positively affect
a person’s mindset and encourage collaboration. Soto describes individuals who are
conscientious as “having a preference for planned rather than spontaneous behavior” (Soto). For
example, this can also be seen in children who are learning patterns in their daily routine. Bevans
explained that “kids learn patterns and then want some control over their lives and decisions.”
The development of the mind from ages one to four are some of the most important changes that
happen in a human’s whole life. They are taking in so much new information as everything they
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experience is new to them, giving kids their signature childhood wonder. When they realize that
they have personal agency, this results in a sense of conscientiousness. This trait is first seen
mainly in children from two to three years old, like Lucie who began to understand the pattern of
having a babysitter come to play with her and knew that her mother would always come back
The tendency to experience positive emotions and to seek out stimulation and the
“someone who enjoys being with people. In groups, they like to talk, assert themselves, and draw
attention to themselves.” The lack of extraversion is also known as introversion, which can occur
in children when they are an only child, lack meaningful social interaction with other children at
a young age, or lack self-confidence and self-assurance which is usually built with the help of
parents from ages one to four. Bevans described a story about a boy named Ryan who often
talked about morbid subjects and rejected friendship from other children. He was described to
have had an “I hate everybody attitude.” Then, when Bevans and other teachers at the daycare
made an effort to give him special attention, he started to open up and talk about personal
experiences that were affecting him, like his parents' divorce. From the moment he opened up to
the teachers, Bevans says that he became sweet to everyone and even started enjoying coming to
daycare because he was able to help other kids with their homework, as he was very smart but
had never shared this before. This story shows that although personality and temperament are
shaped at a young age, they can always evolve as they grow up. This young boy was able to push
Reaching out to other children is a good indicator of a child’s social skill level. Another
“a tendency to be compassionate and cooperative rather than suspicious and antagonistic toward
others; reflects individual differences in general concern for social harmony.” Children with this
trait are often favored by teachers at school and seen as the example student. Soto says that
“agreeable individuals value getting along with others. They are generally considerate, friendly,
generous, helpful, and willing to compromise their interests with those of others.” (Soto).
Learning the value of sharing comes much easier to children with a large influence of this trait in
their personality. While some tasks may be easier for some personality traits to master, parents
mustn't give up when trying to teach their child something if it does not come easily to them.
From her own experience with children, Simpson says that birth order plays a role in the
agreeable factor of personality. She states, “The first child is very independent, the middle child
wants to keep the peace within the family, and the youngest child is a funny and goofy
entertainer.” These roles in a family affect a child’s personality later in life, as they are exhibited
One trait that is deeply influenced by parental traits and behaviors that they push onto
their children is neuroticism, the final one of the five big personality traits. Common attributes
that accompany this trait are “the tendency to experience negative emotions, such as anger,
anxiety, or depression; sometimes called ‘emotional instability’” (Soto). This trait is also highly
linked with mental illness. Bevans connected the trait of neuroticism with a child’s ability to
mirror parental traits. For example, “the need to be perfect is one trait that some kids get from
their parents [as they put] pressure on them at a young age, as parents’ traits are mirrored.” She
used OCD as an example of this, as children can mirror habits like obsessively cleaning or the
need to be perfect in their parent’s eyes. The pressures that are placed on children have a
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significant effect on their personality. A child can be motivated by these pressures, but
oftentimes, these pressures cause emotional stress on children that can lead to anxiety. On this
topic, Simpson explains that in a child’s early life, “challenges are taken in different ways
depending on how parents set the example for dealing with problems and what tools kids are
provided with.” Children need to be well equipped to deal with losses and challenges so that they
will move past hard times, and the only way they can do this is with a good example and
teachings from their parents. Children will learn and grow no matter how they are raised, but
guidance and opportunities provided by parents will facilitate higher emotional intelligence.
The medley of factors that contribute to the growth of a child and their personality makes
for a truly fascinating and meaningful process. As Lucie blossomed right before my eyes, I
wondered how so much could change in the first four years of her life. Learning how her
personality was being shaped by internal and external factors made me realize that it is extremely
important to positively influence children from a young age. In my interview with Simpson, she
recalled a story about a three-year-old, dining at a restaurant with her parents; The waitress asked
what the child would like to order, and naturally, the father answered for his child. The waitress
then turned to the child and asked what she would like to eat. The child responded with a
completely different order than what her father had told the waitress. When the waitress left the
table, the father felt as if the waitress had been rude, but the child was excited to say, “She saw
me!” This was the first time the child had felt truly recognized as a person, and Simpson noted
how this shows that we should treat children as if they are people and not subjects to be
controlled by others. The way people reflect how they were treated as a child reveals how
impactful our actions toward children can be. By providing children with the respect and
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kindness they deserve, we can empower future generations to be sympathetic and independent
thinkers.
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