I Do?

Ayriana Brown

SOCG 1013

Dr. Jeffrey Opaleye

November 15, 2020

 Marriage can become very complicated, especially if you wind up realizing you
married a complete stranger. Many couples do not take the time out to really
understand their partner on a deeper level before they get married, which causes
problems in the long run. The person I interviewed was my boyfriend; interviewing him
allowed me to realize that asking questions is a great technique to learn the way people
view things. Some of his answers came as a shock to me and were pretty interesting
.When it comes down to marriage, “a social relationship that creates family ties,
typically involves sexual intimacy, and is formalized by legal contract, religious
ceremony, or both” ( Croteau, Hoyness., 2017 Page: 300) he strongly believes in it, to
him it symbolizes forever. He also wants to have a wedding because he desires to show
off the love of his life.

In addition ,he preferably wants someone that believes in the same religion, “ a
unified system of beliefs and ritual practices relating to the sacred that bond people into
a moral community,” ( Croteau, Hoyness., 2017 Page: 312) he does, which is
christianity. However, if he was to fall in love with someone that does not believe in the
same religion as him, he would not break things off. Also if they were to have children
he would suggest that their kids learn both religions and as they get older they can
choose which one they want to follow. Since he believes in religion I asked him: if his
partner wanted to wait until marriage, could he, and he agreed that he could wait.
Waiting until marriage is usually a religious belief it is something that is very sacred, “
something extraordinary, to be treated respectfully, with reverence and awe.” ( Croteau,
Hoyness., 2017 Page: 311) Financially, he expects for him and his spouse to go half
and work together as one. He does not mind if his spouse and parents do not get
along , yet he at least expects everyone to be cordial with one another. Furthermore, I
totally agreed with his perspective on most of the questions I asked.

In conclusion, this exercise all around is a great way to gain knowledge about
your partner. In my opinion the chapter on marriage and family can also mend a
relationship because it gives a lot of great information about the different types of
relationships, it gives a greater understanding about religion, and it just allows someone
to gain a deeper understanding about the way people think , which could be good for
creating a secure bond in a relationship.

Works Cited

Croteau, D., Hoyness, W. (2017). "Experience Sociology" Third edition,

Dubuque, IA , McGraw-Hill Education.