Every person is born with the propensity to trust others but through life

experiences, you may have become less trusting as a form of self-protection.

Falling in love can be invigorating and scary all at once. An inability to trust a
new partner may take several forms, from feeling they’re dishonest or secretive, to
doubting they’re going to keep their promises or be dependable.

Take a moment to consider this: i am not solely responsible for creating

mistrustful feelings. In this case, you take equal responsibility for creating an
atmosphere of safety and security in your relationship. In order to begin the
process of overcoming mistrust, ask yourself:

What is the story I’m telling myself?

Does my fear of loss and abandonment cloud my perspective and cause me to
overreact to my her actions?
Is my mistrust coming from something that is actually happening in the present,
or is it related to my past?
Do I feel comfortable asking for what I need and allowing myself to be
vulnerable?
Do I bring my best self to my interactions with her?
Do I possess self-love and allow myself to be loved and respected?

Many relationships are sabotaged by self-fulfilling prophecies. If you believe i

will hurt you, you have unconsciously encourage hurts to emerge in this
relationship. But day by day, if you learn to operate from a viewpoint that i love
you and wants the best for you, you can enjoy trust in our relationship.

Here are seven ways to proactively build trust in your relationship.

Acknowledge your feelings and practice being vulnerable in small steps Build
confidence in being more open with your partner. Discussing minor issues (schedules
or meals) is a great place to start before tackling bigger matters like
disciplining kids or finances.

Be honest and communicate about key issues in your relationship

Be sure to be forthcoming about finances, your past, and concerns with a family
member, co-workers, or children. Don’t sweep important issues under the rug because
this can lead to resentment.

Challenge mistrustful thoughts

Ask yourself: is my lack of trust due to my partner’s actions, my own insecurities,
or both? Be aware of unresolved issues from your past relationships that may be
triggering mistrust in the present.

Trust your intuition and instincts

Have confidence in your own perceptions and pay attention to red flags. Be
vulnerable and ask for reassurance if you feel mistrustful.

Assume your partner has good intentions

If he or she lets you down, it may just be a failure in competence–sometimes people
simply make a mistake.

Listen to your partner’s side of the story

Believe that there are honest people in the world. Unless you have a strong reason
to mistrust him or her, have faith in your partner.

Practice having a recovery conversation after an argument

Take a short break if you feel overwhelmed or flooded and set a time to process
what happened. This will give you both time to calm down and collect your thoughts
so you can have a more meaningful dialogue with your partner.