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Divorce in the Philippines – Say NO to It
Divorce in the Philippines is planning to take over Filipino values and culture. It’s all over the
news, the Philippine Congress is now pushing forward the Divorce Bill right after they have put
forward the Reproductive Health Bill. This is exactly what I have been worrying about. Just a
couple of weeks ago, when I attended our Baptist Convention Meeting here in the Visayas, this
issue was brought up. And just as what I have stated, “RH Bill can also lead to the Divorce Bill”
because they have the same proponents.
Why I am Against Divorce in The Philippines
It is not what God wants. Since I started Biblical studies nothing in the Bible that will tell you that
God favored and felt better for divorce. It was only allowed due to the hardheadedness of men.
God did not make man and woman to be united and then separated if they got into some
problems.
If you fear the Lord and his commands, there is no way that you will agree on divorce. This is
not what God wants. As simple as it is. Even if some pastor and theologians quantify it as a
“necessary amputation” as far as I remember what my American Theology professor said, I
would say that divorce is divorce, and God hates it. It was only men who wants it, not God.
It is not the answer to the growing violence against women and children. Most divorce
advocates give emphasis on the growing children and women abuse. But I really do not see it
as a solution for these problems. In fact, it extends to the growing problem of immorality and
sexually related diseases and problems such as unwanted pregnancies and sexually related
diseases. And I believe that you will agree with me that these problems are a threat to women,
children and even family.
But why? Simply because people were given the so-called choice and chance to change while
the fact is, it is where the so-called “rights” is abused. It is where many people make use of the
right and abuse it for their own self-centered selfish quest for happiness and will only bring them
to the same situation again and again and again. That’s why you will see people divorced not
just once, nor twice, but multiple times.
It gives a wider path to domestic problems. As I mentioned earlier this right has proven to be
easily abused. And we are not actually giving people a solution to their problems, but a chance
to repeat the same mistakes. Divorce is like a medicine… but an unrecommended one.
It gives a wider path for immorality and marital infidelity. Immorality. I guess this is not so much
“in” nowadays. It’s something that most people don’t want to talk about except those that are of
the religious sectors and religious people. I hate to say this but the Philippines have a steep
moral degradation and that is why most of these divorce proponents put forward a SILLY
SOLUTION for various problems.
Did we not learn from the US? Did the stats of violence against women and children dropped by
the use of divorce law? We talk much about the positive things that we can get from the divorce
law, while the negative effects far out weighs the positive.
Here’s the summary of the advantages of divorce:
Spouses will have a “second chance” for a happier life.
Spouses will have a “second chance” for a non-violent life.
…. “second chance”
to be happy…
to be happy…
to be happy….
My goodness… is there any solid advantages of divorce bill than being self-centered and selfish
reasons??? What about your family??? What about your children??? That’s what family is for…
Divorce is not only anti-Filipino, but is anti-Family and anti-marriages. It simply opens a wide
range of disadvantages over the family.
But here’s the list of what they are not talking about:
1. One out of every two marriages ends in divorce.
2. In 1991, only 50.8% of American children were living with a mother and a father. The
numbers have worsened since that study.
3. Approximately 4% of American children are living only with their father.
4. The vast majority of children who are raised in a two-parent home will never be poor during
childhood. By contrast, the vast majority of children who spend time in a single-parent home will
experience poverty.
5. Children from female-headed homes are five times as likely to be poor as children in two-
parent families.
6. Four times as many divorced women with children fell under the poverty line than married
women with children.
7. Children from disrupted marriages experience greater risk of injury, asthma, headaches, and
speech defects than children from intact families.
8. Suicide rates for children of divorce are measurably higher than for children from intact
families.
Read more about the Side Effects of Divorce and see that there are more side effects than that
of a solution.
So What’s The Real Answer?
Fear of God and teach Morality… Morality… and Morality…. If we have the fear of God and we
understand what morality means, then we understand the real answer to the growing problems
related to violence against women and children.
Divorce is definitely NOT a TRUE medicine nor a solution to the growing domestic problems. I
see it just like illegal drugs which may have a little benefit of easing the pain of the patient. But
in most cases, it is an addictive medicine that can kill and destroy life and relationships.
And finally, let me state this as Filipino as possible:
It is NOT TRUE that you will be happy with second chance. It is NOT TRUE that you will gain
your happiness back when your marriage fail and divorce is the solution. The only solution for
marital problems is to adhere what the word of God says…. “Wives, submit to your husbands.
Husbands, love your wife as you love yourselves…” (Ephesians 5:22-33). This is where you
gain happiness and fullness of marital life and your family.
Want Deeper Advise on Marital Problems and Biblical Teachings About Marriage? You can
read:
Biblical Teachings About Marriage and Divorce
How to Resolve Marital Problems
If you are pro-divorce… then you are anti-family, at least to Biblical standards.
Be a Pro-family…. Be an Anti-divorce!!!

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236 Comments
HappyOrange on December 31, 2019 at 1:55 pm

I honestly hate it when other people assert the definition of a democratic country, and that we
are living in a democratic country, therefore a democratic country sees divorce as a human
right…
Seriously, the right to deny a marriage in a quick and easy way?
The right to leave your spouse (and who knows, your kids) to find a seemingly ‘better’ partner
that could better satisfy your sexual desires?
The right to escape the vows you’ve vowed and the responsibilities you have just to make your
lives better?
And now, someone might contest their beliefs… Oh yes, I am aware of all the cases VAWCs in
our country, and I am against all of it. But are you aware of all the adultery cases present here in
our country? Have you met persons who belong to broken families? Those with single mothers,
single fathers who were annulled or legally separated?
Only if you have the chance to mingle with them… You (divorce advocates) don’t know how
hard it is for them to live in an incomplete family! How they express their honest jealousy over
kids who have happily married parents, like me!
“Oh, what about the victims of domestic violence?”
“How are we going to separate victims from their abusive partners?”
And tons of similar questions will follow.
Well, here I ask you, how about you?
What do you think would happen to our country if we legalize divorce?
Will it make our country more progressive?
Will it produce happier and internationally competent Filipinos?
Does it strengthen and improve the mentality of a Filipino child whose parents are divorced?
Plus, not all escapes are the key to freedom. Some escapes may lead you to a deeper
graveyard, including this.
Not all medicines are effective or helpful, sad to say, some are even abused.
I see that others think divorce is the medicine to a failed marriage… It might be, but just like
cannabis, though proposed with health benefits, can be abused if legalized.
With divorce, imagine how many broken families will add if it is already a law?
And you, who despise such articles like this with religious references and cultural beliefs, what
is your religion? Do you love God?
Oh yes, you do.
But have you read His scriptures very well?
I’ll leave you there to answer that, have a good day!
(Call this comment biased, it’s fine, we live in a democratic country, right?)
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Aly on November 15, 2018 at 9:58 pm

You have your point but it seems kinda biased and based mostly on religious beliefs. It seems
kinda one-sided especially when you’re generalizing when you said divorce is an act on one’s
selfishness which is not solely true unless you present a factual data that says so.
Your statement gives the impression that people are not allowed to grow and make themselves
be a better person. Yes, one should be responsible but mistakes are inevitable too. Not all
problems residing marriage comes from the husband and wife. There are a lot of circumstances
that can come along.
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Vince Olaer on November 16, 2018 at 10:15 pm

Hi Aly! Thanks for the opinion. Well, this is a religious blog so it definitely has it’s own bias
especially when it comes to faith and moral vs legal issues. However, this article does not intend
to prohibit people to grow. This is to prevent big time mistake, mistake that can take a lifetime to
repair. It is to educate those who are not yet there and to avoid facing the same mistake. You
are right that mistake is inevitable, but this particular mistake is “avoidable”. With proper moral
understanding on how marriage works, how to look for your lifetime partner, how to nurture
relationship, etc, learning these things can definitely put someone in a bigger advantage for a
successful lifetime relationship.
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cecil on June 11, 2019 at 11:50 am

Civil Divorce is a right for those whose marriages have failed.
Our generation should be made aware that marriage is for life- for keeps- and not something to
be entered into and then gotten out of whenever one feels like it. But when adultery has taken
place, a DIVORCE can be obtained, because adultery has already severed the marriage
relationship and divorce is a formal acknowledgement of what has already taken place.
WHAT IS DIVORCE ?
A DIVORCE, or legal dissolution of a marriage, is the ending of a valid marriage between a man
and a woman returning both parties to single status with the ability to remarry. The basic rule is
that divorce and remarriage are not permitted, except for adultery or desertion, and that is the
rule the church should stick to.
PERSONAL MORALITY – PUBLIC MORALITY
We are not imposing a new private morality. Private morality could be maintained independently
of the change civil law, because personal morality and public morality, while they are related, is
not one and the same thing. We are not undermining religious teaching or the family values.
PERSONAL CONSCIENCE
Just as we are willing to accept the autonomy of personal conscience and to respect the wishes
of the Anti-Divorce Camp, we are asking the Filipino people to adopt the same attitude to our
Divorce Pilipinas Coalition STAKEHOLDERS whose personal conscience allows us to avail of
Divorce.
Allowing Divorce to be publicly available, we are suggesting, we would enable those of us who
wish to avail of it to do so and would still allow those people who object to Divorce to maintain
their personal commitment to lifelong marriage.
MORAL STANDARDS & BELIEFS
We are here not for a battle to fight for your moral standards and beliefs. We are here to solve
the puzzle conflict between Husbands & Wives, between the Abused & the Abuser, between the
Innocent & the Accuser and the Believer & the Unbeliever. If you are not in favor of Divorce then
do not file for a divorce. Thank God, you have a peaceful married life!
ROOT CAUSE OF FAMILY BREAKDOWN
We believe that we are to truly help the Filipino Family; the energies of the Anti-divorce camp a
better directed towards addressing the root cause of family breakdown, rather than illogical
campaigning against divorce legislation.
DIVORCE IS A CIVIL RIGHT.
In a democratic republic – Civil Divorce is a right for those whose marriages have failed. It is
time to FREE us from the concept that everyone must hold to one cultural or religious pattern.
Will it be Philippines of tolerance and generosity, ready to accommodate the differing views and
traditions on people of all religions and none?…
Is there not an obligation on all of us in the Philippines to be seen to be scrupulous in
according…respect and recognition of the rights of the minority in this jurisdiction?
Therefore, we believe that it is undemocratic and intolerant to DENY us Filipino-Christians that
RIGHT TO DIVORCE and allow the Filipino-Muslims that right under their Sharia Law!
CIVIL LAW RATHER THAN RELIGION
We are still Christians We believe the issue should be decided on the basis of CIVIL LAW,
rather than RELIGION. But even then we also believe that these signals a real democracy to do
its thing, without the intervention from the Catholic Church.
IN CONCLUSION
1. We believe that it is clear that we need a divorce law. We do not need to pretend that after
couple of year there was no marriage that happened. Divorce acknowledges that there was a
marriage that took place but for whatever reason, that marriage is no longer tenable and the
couple needs to separate.
2. We believe that allowing divorce will also make for a humane and amicable separation
among couples.
3. We believe that if people are not in favor of DIVORCE then they do not file for divorce.
4. We believe that we have a republic and that we are living in a republic. All of us stand under a
democratic republic and is fair & equal to all- majority & minority.
PRAYER
We pray that on this 17th Congress:
• we must have the duty and grave responsibility of translating the people’s mandate into
legislation.
• we will ensure that the RIGHTS OF MINORITIES are upheld.
• If Muslims & Foreign married Filipinos have the Right to Divorce then, we Filipino Christians
and Filipinos married to Filipinos should also be allowed the right to Divorce.
If this DIVORCE BILL fails, we believe that our Philippines Constitutional democracy will
become the clubhouse of moral majority where the prejudices of the day labeled constitutional
laws.
Note:
PLEASE STOP JUDGING US and start listening to our stories, feel us, empathize with us and
help us… That is the true meaning of Christianity…Remember, our God isn’t a Catholic God; He
is a God to all who believe in him. He is also a God of second chances. He is a God who is able
to do immeasurably more than all we ask for or imagine- whether we have a spouse by our side
or not.
Prepared by:
ccjueco
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Edna Torio on September 20, 2019 at 11:05 pm

Very well said. Thanks for standing up on this issue that millions of Filipinos needed ASAP.
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windberg on November 12, 2018 at 7:44 pm

it good to know that someone has able to spread the truth based on the fact that they had and
pastor vince is the greatest person God used to enlightens the minds of those people who
cannot understand to the situation.It is true for the freedom in abuse about women but let keep
in mind our child because without their parent who will guide them they will go to the wrong
track Good day and godbless the world hoping to see pastor vince!!
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cecil on July 1, 2018 at 11:48 pm

Everything you said is WRONG. Read the Bible and why God permitted Divorce and not
Annulment.
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Raven on July 3, 2018 at 12:49 pm

Matthew 5:31-32 New International Version (NIV)
Divorce
31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’[a] 32
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the
victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Hebrews 13:4 New International Version (NIV)
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the
adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
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Jetro San Buenaventura on July 28, 2019 at 5:40 pm

so you’re saying that our God is wrong? i respect but in order us to have a Good relationship we
must have a God in our life. just my opinion.
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raven on June 19, 2018 at 5:26 pm

I really love how accurate and how informative your article pastor. im so bless the way you
stand for what is right…. I like also the way you reply to the pro divorce rude comment. you are
so professional even though they are rude and they attack you personally. i see how awesome
the lord giving you the right wisdom regarding with this matter. thank you for sharing this
wisdom and knowledge that God given to you. i know that the Lord is so happy that you share
his words to other people and i believed manny pro divorce will be enlighten once they read
your article. May the Lord Bless you and your family exceedingly.
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Vince Olaer on June 24, 2018 at 7:18 am

You are very welcome Raven! Thanks for reading the article. 🙂 May the Lord bless you in every
way and may your family be a good example of a Christian faith. 🙂
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Cleo on March 22, 2018 at 2:44 pm

Wala naman magbebenefit sa DIVORCE other than the “Kabits” na walang moralidad na itinuro
ang magulang at respeto sa kasal na pinagbuklod ng Diyos..aminin na natin yan..
Lets face it guys! if DIVORCE will not have the “Allowed to remarry” thing, walang maeexcite
dyan..come on lets get real! You can’t fix violence against women and children which is
CHRONIC with something LAME as DIVORCE…
I am against DIVORCE..its a waste of time..that bill belongs to the TRASH BIN..
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Cleo on March 22, 2018 at 2:26 pm

Lets make this simple..okay approve DIVORCE..but…take out the “ALLOWED TO REMARRY”
thingy, I don’t think you Pro-Divorce supporters will have much of the excitement would you??
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Edna Torio on September 20, 2019 at 11:18 pm
Yes, I will be the one excited. Why? Hindi po lahat ng nghahangad ng Divorce Law na yan ay
pra mkpg asawang muli. Marami pong dahilan ang mga tao at isa nko dun. Ang gusto ko lang
ay mawala na ang apelyido ng asawa ko sa lahat ng documents ko dahil hindi ko magawang
bumili ng properties or ang mg ampon since wala kaming anak at ayoko isunod sa apelyido ng
asawa ko ang lahat ng yan na gusto ko sanang gawin. Now, tell me, how will I not be excited for
that? Ang hirap kasi sa inyo hindi nyo inaalam lahat ng reasons namin, dahil sarado ang mga
isip nyo. Napakarami ng mg asawang ngkahiwalay at may kanya kanya ng pamilya na mas
lumigaya kesa sa una pero nkatali prin sa kasal nila. All we need is you guys to understand and
listen the stories of each of everyone who needs it. Wag masyadong close minded. Look around
and see for yourself how many adulteries, bigamy, infidelities in the Philippines, at this moment?
At kung ang sinasabi nyo mapapariwara ang mga bata, well for God’s sake din po, mawalang
galang na, sa buong mundo sana lahat ng anak ng mga Divorce marriage sa ibang bansa eh
pariwara? At may annullement din nmn tayo dito, marami naring na grant, meaning pariwara
lahat ng mga anak nila? At hindi nga po lahat ng mg asawang nghiwalay ay may anak. Mind
you people of the Philippines, PLEASE OPEN YOUR MIND.
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Anne on December 15, 2014 at 3:26 pm

“It is not the answer to the growing violence against women and children. Most divorce
advocates gives emphasis on the growing children and women abuse. But I really do not see it
as a solution for these problems. In fact it extends to the growing problem of immorality and
sexually related diseases and problems such as unwanted pregnancies and sexually related
diseases. And I believe that you will agree with me that these problems are a threat to women,
children and even family.” – See more at: http://thedisciplers.com/divorce-in-the-philippines-say-
no-to-it/#sthash.hcWSN7c6.dpuf
You are all over the place. If you are going to argue against a human right that’s long overdue in
the Philippines, at least have the decency to have all the bases covered. There is a good reason
why divorce is considered as a human right in many countries, including those which the
Philippine government tries to emulate. You are a sad example of what this country is
becoming. Instead of preaching rickety assumptions like its gospel, try for once get out of your
cave and experience the world the way it is.
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heart on October 1, 2013 at 8:11 pm
“both of you have a point” peru alam niyo ba kung anu ang dapat problemahan sa ngayon yon
yung mga nasa politics na manluluko….!!!!!
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anon on August 12, 2013 at 5:11 pm

A bunch of bullshit put together. that’s what I call this post.
In a real world’s democracy, you can’t favor one religion over another. That’s why we have
State-Church separation, which is just a big fat lie in this country.
I don’t care if you are Christian. Even if I was one, I wouldn’t try to force my beliefs on people
who might not believe on the same thing I do.
The people of other religions, and those who don’t believe in a deity, are not supposed to abide
to a set of rules mandated by a deity they don’t believe on. This, together to the lack of support
for marriage equality, is what is making people challenge their beliefs more and realize there’s
no evidence that there is god (which god? Thor? Shiva? Zeus? Flying Spaghetti Monster?),
leaving the catholic church and throwing away religion altogether.
The state is secular. And so it should be if the goal is to defend all its people
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liberty eviola on May 22, 2013 at 3:43 pm

Hi, i respect your opinion and all, i know you speak base on your religious belief but honestly,
your points are so biased towards women and our rights. Recovery??? how do you suppose to
stop a man from beating on his wife and children??? are women suppose to just bear the
suffering of being married to an abusive husband? aren’t law suppose to exist to protect those
who need it? marriage is a wonderful thing. but in real life, it does not work for all, as people
make mistake – as in judging characters because. more importantly, a law does not destroys a
family, only the family members can. thus, it is only logical and MORAL to provide a legal
remedy to the moral corruption in society. i hope we could stop from using religious faith from
twisting the real necessities of society.
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Ptr. Vince on May 25, 2013 at 8:39 am

@liberty eviola. First, if you have read my answers to the previous comments, you will see that I
am not against filing a case against abusive husbands. You yourself said that the law exists to
protect people. However, I would say, not all laws are beneficial as you think. Some laws may
be good to see, but underneath when you start digging to the real problems, you will see that it’s
not really solving the problem. And this is what I am seeing on divorce. Divorce law will “NOT”
solve abuses. In fact, we already have laws dealing with abuses, infidelity, rape, etc. The
problem actually lies on the cultural part of the involved parties and our “legal system” itself.
Walang nagdedemanda at kung meron man, medyo mahal.
Anti divorce does not mean pro-abuse. We hate abuses. We don’t want anybody to be abused,
nor we don’t want to increase the incident of abuses, and more specifically we do not want
people who are not abusers become abusers of the law. I don’t know if you are getting the point,
but we simply do not believe divorce will help solve the real problem of abuses, what we see is
that it will only enhance it and the tendency will be more people will even abuse the law of
divorce itself.
Secondly, sorry to tell you that I cannot stop using faith in exposing this truth because this is a
religious blog. But I want to straighten this up, I am “NOT” twisting the real necessities of
society, I am actually helping you to think better and dig deeper to see the “REAL
NECESSITIES” of society. I hope you too will start digging deeper. Blessings! 🙂
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Chelle on March 16, 2017 at 9:14 am

Excuse me lang po pastor ha. Pasalamat po kayo kung may asawa man kayo at masayang
nagsasama tulad nga ng paniniwala nyo na binuklod kayo ng Diyos. Eh pano naman kami ng
binuklod ng mayor or judge? Kami na niloko ng mga asawa na walang kaalam alam na may
kinakasama na pala ung mga asawa namin at may anak na. Ngayon sabihin nyo kung may
chance pa bang magkabalikan kung alam mong wala ng chance. Pano kami makakamove on at
may magkaka “second chance”? Tulad ako nagkaron ako ng partner na kayang ibigay ung
maganda at masayang buhay para s aming mag ina pero nde kami makakilos dahil nga kasal
kami ng asawa ko. Ngayon sabihin mo, may chance pa ba kaming magkabalikan ng aswa ko?
Sa sobrang mahal ng annulment dito sa pinas, divorce lang ang paraan par makalaya kami sa
failed marriages namin. Madali sa inyong sabihin na pinagbuklod kami ng Diyos? Wag nyo pong
gamitin ang Diyos sa issue ng divorce dahil nde lahat sa simbahan kinasal. Madali s inyong
sabihin na wag iapprove ang divorce dahil wala kyo s sitwasyon namin.
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Ptr. Vince on March 17, 2017 at 4:37 pm

First and foremost, I want to give my sympathy to your failed marriage, wala ho akong
karapatang mag judge sa situation nyo at kayo po ang higit na mas nakakaalam kung may pag
asa pa ang first marriage ninyo o wala. However, in the matter of “divorce” as a law, it is a moral
issue and not just a law. Hindi ko ginagamit ang Diyos. At wala akong karapatan gamitin ang
Diyos. Ang pede ko lang gawin ay sundin ang sinasabi ng Diyos patungkol sa pagaasawa. And
because this is also a matter of moral issue, ang mga katulad ko po ay may karapatang
magsalita patungkol sa tamang moralidad lalo na po at itoy itinuturo sa Banal na Kasulatan.
Kasal ka man sa simbahan o sa huwes o sa mayor, as long as it is legal, it is basically the
same, it is marriage. Hindi po magkaibang marriage contract ang ginagamit sa simbahan, sa
huwes, at sa mayor etc. Pareho lang po yun. Hindi po nangangahulugan na ang kasal sa
simbahan ay higit kesa sa kasal sa huwes. Ang kaibahan po lang nun ay yung nag kasal at ang
pag bibigay emphasis at payo at pagkakaroon ng premarital counselling in which often times,
ginagawa po iyon sa simbahan. But then again, all marriages are the same.
Kung binasa nyo lang din po ng mabuti ang nakasaad sa artikulong sinulat ko, makikita nyo rin
po na hindi lang ito patungkol sa paniniwala. Meron din po itong sources at stat na ang layunin
ay malaman kung nakakatulong nga ba sa bansa ang diborsyo o hindi. Unfortunately, hindi po.
Ngayon patungkol po sa sinasabi ninyong “Pano kami makaka moveon at may makaka second
chance”, ang tanong ko lang po sa inyo, ang pagaasawa lang po bang muli ang magiging
kaligayahan ninyo? Yun lang po ba ang tanging paraan para maka move on? Yun lang po ba
ang solusyon upang mabuo muli ang isang broken heart? Kayo lang po ang makakasagot nyan.
Mainam po na maitanong nyo rin po yan sa sarili natin upang mas maliwanagan po tayo sa
susuonging bagong relasyon.
Ngayon po kung ang habol nyo lang po ay pagmamadali at maging madali ang mag asawang
muli upang maging ganap ang inyong relasyon, I assure you po na hindi po yan ang tamang
sukatan upang makamtan natin ang tunay na kaligayahan. At maaari din po na yan din ang
nauna nating pagkakamali sa unang relasyon.
Nawa poy patnubayan tayo ng Panginoon sa ating pag didisesyon. God bless po!
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charlene on May 13, 2013 at 3:17 pm
I cant wait the divorce bill in the philippines ..pls sooon as possible
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Mark Jason Z. Fuyoc on March 8, 2013 at 4:25 pm

I have only with me these points that should be considered by our country.
“Prevention is better than cure”
I hope we are all familiar with that.
After having failed marriage, do you think divorce is a solution? No. The only thing it will provide
is the dissolution of your marriage. And after that what? Marry another man/woman, have
another failure marriage and resort to divorce over and over again. But first, let me know, why
YOU COMMIT MARRIAGE? Why did you do so when in fact, you do not know every side of
your partner? Is it just only because YOU WERE IN LOVE? YOU WERE PREGNANT FIRST?
OR WHAT ELSE?
Considering that, your relationship has already been broken, does divorce guarantee that if you
will let go of each other by dissolving your marriage, you’ll find PERFECT PERSON that will suit
you in life? Of course not. There are those who choose to be single and live the life because
they already knew what the consequences are. They may had a marriage failure back then but
they also knew that another marriage cannot solve it. You may resort to having another
companion but not another marriage.
What am I trying to say here is, WHY PASS A BILL THAT CAN ONLY PROVIDE ANOTHER
CHANCE TO BREAK MARRIAGE?
WHY NOT PASS A BILL THAT WILL PROVIDE GUIDE AND TIME FOR PARTNERS’
PREPAREDNESS BEFORE COMMITTING MARRIAGE?
WHY NOT PREVENT THINGS FROM HAPPENING RATHER THAN PRESENT A BOGUS
CURE!
WHO NOW HERE POSSESSES OPEN AND CLOSE MIND? WHO NOW HERE THINKS
ABOUT THE WELFARE OF ONES COUNTRY? WHO NOW HERE WANTS TO BE HAPPY
WITH HIS/HER WHOLE LIFE WHEN IN FACT IT REALLY CANNOT BE? THAT IN ORDER TO
FEEL HAPPINESS, YOU MUST KNOW WHAT IS PAIN!
Let’s not make things very much comlicated! DO NOT BE TOO GULLIBLE! Can’t you see how
you’re being easily deceived because they knew you are emotionally challenged? WHY NOT
THINK A MILLION TIMES BEFORE GIVING YOUR ALL? BEFORE SAYING, “YES, I DO!”
It’s evident that the proponents of RH and Divorce are the same. C’mon, there are so many
things that should take into consideration more than divorce! I hope by this you are awakened.
You know who to vote in the coming election.
Above all, ito lang yung dapat nating tandaan ee na palaging pinaaalala satin ng ating mga
magulang!
“ANG PAGPAPAKASAL AY HINDI PARANG KANIN NA BAGONG HAIN, NA KAPAG SINUBO
MO AT NAPASO KA, BASTA-BASTA MO NA LANG ILULUWA.”
GOD BLESS WORLD
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Well said Mark Jason.
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Arlc on March 5, 2013 at 8:10 pm

Sir what is the difference between annulment and divorce?
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Arlc, Annulment is pronouncing that the marriage is null and void, as if there is no marriage that
really exist at the beginning. Divorce on the other hand is the dissolution of marriage. Meaning,
there is a marital union, and now you are dissolving it.
In application, they are almost the same. But in effect, they are totally different.
Annulment is also more expensive than divorce. Not only that, Annulment is harder to prove,
while divorce is really really easy to do as if you are just applying for a license.
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Mara Joyce Cervantes on March 3, 2013 at 8:53 am

Matthew 19:9
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another,
commits adultery.”
Matthew 5:32
“But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual
immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits
adultery.”
Divorce is allowed according to the Bible as written in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. The phrase
“except for marital unfaithfulness” is the a thing in Scripture that gives God’s permission for
divorce. This “EXCEPTION CLAUSE” as referring to “marital unfaithfulness”. According to this
view, immorality during a marriage would then be a valid reason for a divorce.
Moreover, the Greek word translated “marital unfaithfulness” is a word which can mean any
form of SEXUAL IMMORALITY. It can mean FORNICATION, PROSTITUTION, ADULTERY,
and etc. Jesus is saying that DIVORCE IS PERMISSIBLE if sexual immorality is committed.
Sexual relations are an integral part of the marital bond: “the two will become one flesh”
(Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31). Therefore, ANY BREAKING OF THAT BOND
BY SEXUAL RELATIONS OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE IS PERMISSIBLE FOR DIVORCE. If so,
Jesus also has remarriage in mind in this passage. The phrase “and marries another” (Matthew
19:9) indicates that divorce and remarriage are allowed in an instance of the exception clause,
whatever it is interpreted to be. It is important to note that only the innocent party is allowed to
remarry. Although it is not stated in the text, the allowance for remarriage after a divorce is
God’s mercy for the one who was sinned against, not for the one who committed the sexual
immorality. There may be instances where the “guilty party” is allowed to remarry, but it is not
taught in this text.
I BELIEVE I HAVE A GOOD ARGUMENT IN HERE SO PLEASE REPLY TO MY COMMENT
AND DO NOT DELETE THIS. :)) God bless. 🙂
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Hi Mara Joyce!!!
Yes, you do have a good point… however, you missed a few things by only considering the
“exemptions” without seeing the bigger picture. Please read verse 2-6 of Matthew 19. Some
points to consider:
v. 4. God created male and female. No other gender by the way.
v. 5. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother to be united to his wife. That means
to be together as one family.
v. 5-6. The two will become one flesh, not two separate individuals but as one.
v. 6. Therefore (which is very conclusive), what God has joined together, let man not separate.
And then your argument comes in because just like the Pharisee, he is probably looking for
exemption. In that case, he quoted Moses. But notice how Jesus introduced your exemption.
v. 8. “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not
this way from the beginning.”
Reading this and also highlighting these things will give us the right answers to these questions:
1. Does Jesus agree on divorce? The answer is NO. He does not.
2. Did the Scriptures permitted divorce? Yes it did. Since the Old Testament times.
3. Is it God’s will to have divorce? NO it is absolutely NOT. It was permitted, but it is NOT what
God wants.
4. So why is there divorce? Because the hearts of the people are hard.
Now let me ask you a question? Are you one of those people whose hearts are hard? Or you
want to follow God’s ultimate plan for marriage?
Again, thank you very much for a very nice presentation. 🙂 God bless your heart and may you
find wisdom. 🙂
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Mara Joyce Cervantes on March 5, 2013 at 1:28 am

Thank you, too, Pastor Vince. That was a great answer. Actually, tomorrow will be our debate
about this topic and reading your blog’s thread is a big help for tomorrow’s big day. He-he. 😀
To answer the question you left me, My heart is not hard and I believe I am not just a believer,
but also a fateful servant of God. 🙂 Moreover, my ambition in life, I’m glad to share, as what I
have written in my Elementary Yearbook, is not to become a successful professional but rather
TO HAVE A HAPPY FAMILY. <3
But I also would like to ask you, how about those IRRETRIEVABLE marriages? Those couples
na Love na mismo ang nang-iwan at napalitan na ng hatred at kasamaan ang puso ng isa sa
kanila… For example, there is this battered wife. The wife can't just FORCE herself to "submit to
his husband", or tell him "love me as you would love yourself". (Phrases with quotation marks
are words of God). And let's say, the husband is some kind of an atheist or he has lost his fate
in God, would you just let the wife suffer from the situation because she had a mistake choosing
the wrong man to marry? I think that's unfair (though I know every thing seems to be unfair in
life. I am right, right? Ha-ha 😀 ) .
Yes, I know God hates Divorce.
And, yes, there are people whose hearts are hard. It's a fact, but unfortunately, a sad reality…
But hey! Don't you think they deserve the Divorce? It may not be an assurance that it can soften
their hearts, but look at the other side of the coin — IT MAY! 🙂 — don't you think? :))
PEACE&LOVE :))
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Ptr. Vince on March 5, 2013 at 8:22 am

@Mara, Hi there again!
To answer your follow up questions:
1. I never recommended that the woman stick with his violent husband. So what now if there is
no divorce? Our law has provisions on violence against women and children. The woman can
always file a case against an abusive husband and put him to jail. In most cases, that’s the way
to teach him a lesson, not divorce. Divorce will never stop him from hurting women. Putting him
to prison will.
2. For irretrievable marriages, I also did not say an “absoluteness” of separation. Our laws
already provide “Annulment”. In fact some people even say that they are just the same. In a
sense yes. But I strongly believe that divorce is way too easy to get where people can really
abuse its provision. At least for annulment, filing a case is quite expensive thus, one will really
think of pursuing to that.
Another option is legal separation. But most people doesn’t like it simply because you cannot
remarry.
Here’s the fact, many (not all) people suffer from failed marriages due to lack of moral standards
in choosing one’s partner in life. Irretrievable marriages can actually be avoided “if only” we had
been careful in choosing our partner. Why would we need divorce or annulment if our family is
good? Just come to think of it.
Would I let one suffer just because she made a mistake? I would answer this yes or no. The
Bible is very clear that when there is sin, there are “consequences”. For that, it is normal for
people to suffer from sinful actions and that’s for all. Rule of thumb yan.
No, because all sins can be forgiven (except for blasphemy of the Holy Spirit). If we only come
to the Lord and confess it and “do” his will, then we can be free. Is divorce the answer? No it is
not. Again, our law already gave provisions for that. We don’t need divorce any more.
Divorce will probably lessen the burden of those qualified people to have it, but it will be a huge
open gate for abuse and more immorality. 🙂
Hoping that I answered you well. 🙂 God bless!!!
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BLAH on February 27, 2013 at 12:59 am

And yes, divorce may not be a solution to abused women. But it sure as hell helpful. I don’t see
The Church providing SOLUTIONS.
And one more thing, it really makes me wonder how the Catholic Church, despite divorce being
legal in the very home of the Vatican, is so against divorce in our country. Gusto niyo ata
maging HIPSTER ANG PILIPINAS eh (not conforming to norms)
Anyway, this site really pissed me off. The author is obviously hateful (notice the exclamation
points and the question marks. It’s as if he’s telling us that he is absolutely right and we’re
utterly wrong)
If you’re a disciple of God, learn to understand your fellow humans first ’cause I really am trying
to understand where you’re coming from. Unfortunately, you just pissed me off more rather than
INFORM us.
THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS
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Ptr. Vince on February 27, 2013 at 12:59 pm

@Blah… Sorry to tell you whoever you are. This is definitely not a hateful site. In fact, people
like you who cannot accept God’s word and keeps on attacking me as the author of this makes
this site looks hateful. Open your eyes. This article was published for people who wants to stand
for NO Divorce. I suggest you go and visit other site who are pro divorce.
And if you are pissed of, well, that’s really your problem. As you see there are people who are
pro divorce who simply commented their own opinion. That is how you should express your
opinion.
There’s only one thing that I see here why you are pissed off, because you are pro divorce and
you hate opinions of people who are anti divorce. And indeed, I am a disciple of God. That’s
why I wrote this article not to intentionally displease you, but to let the people know why should
we say no to it.
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BLAH on February 27, 2013 at 12:49 am

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
1. One out of every two marriages ends in divorce.
2. In 1991, only 50.8% of American children were living with a mother and a father. The
numbers have worsened since that study.
3. Approximately 4% of American children are living only with their father.
4. The vast majority of children who are raised in a two-parent home will never be poor during
experience poverty.
5. Children from female-headed homes are five times as likely to be poor as children in two-
parent families.
6. Four times as many divorced women with children fell under the poverty line than married
women with children.
7. Children from disrupted marriages experience greater risk of injury, asthma, headaches, and
speech defects than children from intact families.
8. Suicide rates for children of divorce are measurably higher than for children from intact
families.
You gave everyone examples from AMERICA. You didn’t give us the possibilities of what would
happen if divorce would be legalized here in the Philippines. And please, cite your sources for
your examples. I’m scared that your not credible enough to say those things. For all I know,
baka naka-post lang yan sa Wikipedia.
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@Blah, hmmm.. I am not really sure if you have read the article. I think, I stated there the most
possible outcome.
And if you read the articles and follow the thread, you should see my sources.
You are scared that I am not credible enough? Then why don’t you conduct your own
research???
I can really conclude that you just scan the article without completely understanding it. Go and
read it again. If you are not satisfied, go ahead and conduct your own research. And may I
suggest that you make a blog where you can post your opinion about it? And send me the link.
Thanks!
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yoda_man on February 25, 2013 at 6:32 pm

I just want to add my opinion on this article and this is basically my opinion. This article does not
speak for the many people who are suffering from neglect due to men or women who cheat,
control and abuse their spouses.
Where does it say in the 10 Commandments that the husband is free to commit “Adultery”(7th
Commandment) and ignore the 10th Commandment to refrain from inward desires of the
another person that is not his? And to keep his spouse from having the freedom to live morally,
ethically and committed to the right person?
Poverty is high when countries become known for their prostitution because women are
oppressed and have no other source of direction but by the man’s desires.
What this article is stating is that “men should be free to do what they want and can ignore any
religious beliefs unless it has anything to do with a woman’s freedom”? Sounds like a double-
standard to keep men in control of their wants and needs and has nothing to do with the country
economically, morally and religiously. You can just review the 7 and 10th Commandments to
know that the rules have been broken which led to this suffering in the first place. It must be
rectified requiring a modification of the judicial system to loosen the shackles of this oppressed
women.
This article compares the poverty rate of single/divorced parents to that of the Philippines when
the Philippines poverty rate is so much higher. How do you teach a cheating, lying, gambling,
laziness or any one two or three of those combinations the moral value of being a good
husband or wife? Much less teaching his or her kids how to be a good spouse when they are
already setting the bad example?
Moral retraining? At what cost? And how would that be implemented when just about everyone
is involved with self gratification?
Filipino people are the most generous, selfless and hospitable people in the world until they
have to deal with their own people. This is where the breakdown in beaurocracy begins to weigh
in.
If you allow freedom for all to follow their dreams as individuals to commit to better
relationships…the end results become a bettery way of living…morally, ethically and
financially…
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Excuse me…the poverty rate comparing Philippines to the US is not valid.
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BrAvEHeArT on February 17, 2013 at 10:58 pm

i can’t agree here…
Alam naman nating maraming naaaping mga babae kesa sa lalake at lalong lumalaki ang iba’t
ibang kaso dito tungkol sa pambubugbog,pangrereyp,pagpapatay at pati mga anak
dinadamay..listen here, hindi mo alm ang situation ng mag-asawa…i do understand that
marriage is for lifetime…but kung ang asawa mo ay may-iba at sunod ng sunog ka parin sa
asawa mo, masasaktan ka lng, magtitiis ka lng hanggang sa buhay mo na ang pinupunterya ng
asawa mo…ayaw mong makitang may ibang anak ang asawa mo,no?…bakit nating pagpipilitan
ang pagiging perpekto kung wala nmn tlgang perpekto sa mundo, tao lang po tau…bnigyan tau
ng isip ng diyos na gawin ang tama, ayaw ng diyos na MAGDUSA TAU….at ayaw ko ding
maging martyr sa asawang hindi na ako kailangan…..ayaw kong magmakaawa at lumuhod sa
asawa para lang mahalin ako,para sa mga anak…kung ang mag-asawa ay hindi
magkakaintindihan masisira parin ang pamilya at wala parin yung pagkakaiba sa
paghihiwalayan ng mag-asawa..sa huli maaapektohan parin ang mga anak..
Ang tao na minamahal mo na sobrang bait, maalagain atbp ay biglang nagbago..nagsawa at
iniwan ka…….tayong mga tao ay sanay na sa mga pangyayare kung kaya’t nagagawa na
nating itago ang sarili natin sa iba.
sabi ni god magpakarami tau…but we should know that we are no more living in the past, god
said those dahil kunte plng ang tao sa mundo noon..pero ngayonwe need some changes
around here..we should take care of ourselves for the good of the people of the society..
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csny on February 17, 2013 at 4:48 pm

i want a divorce .. i dont want to be in a relationship where ur wife has an immoral act/infedelity
and left us both with my son..
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sphinx on February 14, 2013 at 11:34 am

This is why religion and state should be separate. What may seem right to you may be wrong to
me and vise versa.
You are saying “no” to divorce simply because your god implies it.But God also gave you free
will and that’s why you have the right to fight for your belief, I hope none of your family members
are battered wives. cause you were like. ” send your dad to jail cause he beats up you mom, but
your mom cant be happy and marry someone else and start a new life cause god says no to
divorce.
From what I understand God teaches love. if love fails, are you not suppose to love again? we
are human and we make mistakes, even in marriage. what god had joined can not be separated
by man. but funny thing is… it is a priest who marries people and not god himself. would he
show up and tell the priest “stop! I am not allowing this cause I know they aren’t right for each
other” A priest acts in the person of Christ is what you would most likely say, then I would say
Christ was also there when some priests do unholy things. lol priests and altar boys, priests and
young women. oh yes. reality.
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yan2 on February 13, 2013 at 10:38 pm

i was searching for an additional knowledge about my thesis when i saw this blog….actually my
thesis states that: “Divorced should not be pursued in the Philippines” ….as i read those
comments my knowledge about this issue became wider…though we have different opinions i
am glad that everyone of us want to be part of this issue…lumalabas lamang na we care for the
betterment of marriage and families…but there is something lacking on it…anu ba talaga ang
magandang patutunguhan nito?if the divorced bill was approve there would be peace in both
parties (wife n husband) how about their children??it would stop immorality??para kasing
binibigyan lang natin ng pagkakataon na abusuhin ang marriage…for what pa ang sumpa.an sa
harap ng altar?? marriage is a sacred commitment between the partners and god for all i
know…hindi ba pwede na manatilitayo sa dati nating culture n tradition??why don’t we preserve
it?
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William Katoliko on February 10, 2013 at 6:55 pm
A Divorce Law will destroy the Filipino Family. alalahanin po natin na ang Filipino family is the
foundation ng ating bansa.. wag po nating sirain ito.. Matakot po tayo sa DIOS. No to Divorce
law!
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Rain on February 5, 2013 at 3:05 am

I am happily married with three kids and would not want divorce to put a gap in my marriage but,
I was not raised to think lowly and selfish thinking only of myself. Yes, I am happy and a content
woman with a husband who loves and support me and my children but, I feel for those who
suffer in their marriages. I am pro divorce though, I don’t need one. We all know that every
nation in the world honors Divorce. I mean, if you try to look at it… On the moral side of the
argument. How far are we morally differeng from other nations who has divorce laws?! Isn’t it
that we are flocked by foreigners for our filipino prostitutes, isn’t it that other nations are always
ahead of us in terms of morality, economic and financial aspect?! So, how dare we happily
married people choose off the right from other unhappy filipinos entrapped in marriages- I’m
sure they all tried to work out for but, just can’t?! If morality is the issue here, explain the morals
of all our philandering politicians, explain the morals of those businessmen who would come
home to their families after spending time with their mistresses! Who are we to judge on how to
make something broken work out?! Who are we to force to others about what will and will not
work for them? Who are we to generalize the formation of our youth’s morality? Divorce cannot
or will not destroy families… The members of the family most especially the married couples are
the only ones who have the power to destroy their families. If we are after the maintainance of
morality in our country then, everything should start from us by heart. Can you just sit back and
feed your righteous ego and assume about what’s best for everyone?! My mother raised me
well and I am also trying my best to raise my children the same way she did- and Among the
many things my mother taught me I always tell them the one thing I know is applicable to their
daily living- Don’t judge other people. Don’t assume you know best for others. Why?! Because
you don’t know anything about what they are going through.
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@Rain, first and foremost, no one is judging other people here. The article is a presentation of
why say “No” to divorce. It’s intentions is to bring to light, why NO to divorce and not NO to
people. I think there’s a huge difference there.
Most people who disagree with the “NO to Divorce” in this article usually attacks me personally.
Why not stick to the issue, and talk about it instead of attacking me? In this case, I think I am the
one being judged. I stand for “No Divorce” and I presented the reasons, I think it is best to do
the same if you are pro divorce.
On the other hand, to answer your argument, it doesn’t mean that the world is immoral then we
need to go along with it. The campaign for No Divorce is an expression of opinion, belief that
Divorce Law will not help the Philippines. It is a waste of money and a waste of time. As I said,
divorce solved nothing. The government has a better choice.
Unfortunately, we do not want the better choice, we want the easier choice.
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If I may…I don’t agree with your comment about divorce not solving anything. It absolves a
damaged relationship that is irreparable, irreconcilable and no longer absolute. How can you
call that happiness or a marital bliss?
I respect your opinion…I really do…but she and others are right….religion should not be
involved in the political arena. The 7th Commandment alone states the case to many of these
broken relationships.
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vik on January 29, 2013 at 10:11 pm

divorce is giving freedom to couple/s suffering from emotional, financial, spiritual and almost all
aspects of life.
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paulmark on January 29, 2013 at 8:16 pm
kung inaabuso ka ng asawa mu di ipakulong mo o ireklamo mo. eh nasa iyo ang problema kung
dimo gawan ng solusyon. kasi kung ang problema ay ang pananakit ng asawa o kung ano pa at
ang tanging solusyon ay divorse eh para saan pa ang —– The Philippine Constitution ARTICLE
XIII: WOMEN 1.)Section 14. The State shall protect working women by providing safe and
healthful working conditions, taking into account their maternal functions, and such facilities and
opportunities that will enhance their welfare and enable them to realize their full potential in the
service of the nation. 2 .) Republic Act 9208 An Act to institute policies to eliminate trafficking in
persons especially women and children, establishing the necessary institutional mechanisms for
protection and support of trafficked persons, providing penalties for its violations and for other. 3
.) Republic Act 7192 of 1992 An Act known as the “Women in Development and Nation Building
Act”, promotes the integration of women as full and equal partners of men in development and
nation building. 4 .) Republic Act 8353 An Act known as the “Anti-Rape Law of 1997.” Contains
answers to commonly asked questions about the law and rape as a public crime. Also contains
contact details of agencies and organizations that rape victims may approach for help.
5.)Republic Act 7610 An Act providing for stronger deterrence and special protection against
child abuse, exploitation and discrimination, and for other purposes. 6.) Republic Act 9262 An
Act Defining Violence Against Women and Their Children, providing for protective measures for
victims, prescribing penalties therefore, and for other purposes. Otherwise known as the “Anti-
Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004”.—–nagsayang lang ng malaking pera
para dito
——walang manloloko kung walang magpapaloko
——walang broken family kung walang broken promises
——be mature enough, everything has a purpose
——kung inaapi ka bat ka nagpaapi?,
——kung inaabuso ka bat ka nagpaabuso?
——ang divorce ay sandata ng mga manlolokong tao
——pasensya po kung ganto kagulo ang comment ko haha
——by the way comment lang naman- your reaction
——i’m anti-
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You are right Paul Mark. Yeah… Divorce Law can actually be a defence ng isang mangaabuso.
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Krizzy on January 27, 2013 at 1:46 pm

Hi question po. San po sa bible or ano yung mga verses indicating that God is against divorce
thank you po.
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Ptr. Vince on January 29, 2013 at 1:20 am

“Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this
way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital
unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:8-9 NIV)
They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away. “It was
because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. But at the
beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his
father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no
longer two, but one.
Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” When they were in the house
again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and
marries another woman commits adultery against her.
And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:4-
12, NIV)
Explanation:
Moses was permitted to write a provision for divorce because of the hardened hearts of men.
But such is not the designed will of the Father. For marriage was designed to be a lifetime
commitment.
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rick on January 26, 2013 at 7:49 pm

No to RH BILL… Marriage is very sacred… think first before marrying someone to avoid being
abused
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laila on January 24, 2013 at 1:27 am

YES TO DIVORCE!
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jberx on January 22, 2013 at 10:10 am

you’re such a blessing pastor! 🙂
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Eve on January 20, 2013 at 8:06 pm

One may be able to assume that God do not favor divorce however, seemingly, God saw the
necessity for it: “It was only allowed due to the hardheadedness of men.”(please see third
paragragh of the above post)… Why not our law allow it then?
Restricting a whole nation to prevent them from sinning is impossible. They have means to do
whatever they wish to do anyways. Instead of punishing the wrong doers (only if they get
caught), why not give the victims refuge if they sought for it (as it will remain a choice).
Surely Divorce Law won’t make people do what’s right- Surely it is not a solution to many
problems that arises in our country- Surely it will not make violence in a disrupted marriage
disappear- as these had accompanied humanity eversince- However Divorce Law will give
people a choice to stay a in their pathetic state or not.
If our government cannot keep its people safe with the numerous laws they implemented, why
not give the people a way to protect themselves instead?
Unhappiness shouldn’t be taken lightly. So is safety, peace of mind and the desire to start over.
Sacrifices are not necessarily good nor produce good results. There are always two sides on a
coin… Who has the right to restrict a fellow person to see only the head not the tail?
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go... divorce!!! on January 19, 2013 at 8:34 am

i agree DIVORCE s pinas… para may freedom nman ung mga ginawang pantyimbag n mga
wives…
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laila on January 24, 2013 at 1:40 am

It is true that GOD doesn’t favor divorce but would GOD favor for the women to suffer????? I
don’t think so. Ganun nlang po ba yun? Magtitiis ka para maging masaya ang pamilya? Ina,
Ama at mga anak. MAgtitiis ang ina para manatiling buo ang pamilya. Hndi po kaya unfair din
yun. Kung nananakit ang ama, OO pwedeng ipakulong pero mas pipiliin ko nlang po na e-
divorce ng mama ko ang father ko kung ganun.
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Kim on January 19, 2013 at 12:33 am

My parents also separated when I was a kid. My mom left us for another man, my dad took care
of us and then left us for another woman as well. My mom is a born again and my dad is a
catholic. My life with them was a total hell. I’ve always wanted for them to separate for good.
They both believe in God but I totally did not see them apply what the Bible says about
marriage.
I’m glad that they already separated but at the back of my mind, I know that there is still
something wrong. I believe in God, I believe what the Bible says. I am a bit scared as I don’t
know how real family functions. I learned everything from school from church but I didn’t see
real application from my parents so I wonder if I can make my own happy family in the future.
One thing I realized is,
God made us in His own image (Genesis) and God hates divorce.. He forgives us with our short
comings and renews us when we ask for it. This is His way to show us how much we are loved
by Him. Imagine if God would agree with Divorce, like, when we make mistake He’ll forsake us
and look for somebody else better. 🙁
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leelay on January 18, 2013 at 10:53 am

Ptr. Vince says: “Nonetheless, for those of you who are in abroad, or is planning to go abroad,
we counselors never and do not advise that you go abroad alone. Bring your wife with you. Go
and work together rather than working in abroad alone. As much as possible, work in the same
country and stay at the same place. Family comes first money will follow. ”
HAHAHA iba ka! idol!!! hahahaha haaaay hahahaaha waaaaaa di ko mapigilan tawa ko!
hahahaahaha ang galing mo mag isip teh!
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It’s seems to be foolish ey? But just try it… it works. I have people who did this, and they are
very happy. Up to you. After all, it’s your choice. 🙂
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philip on January 10, 2013 at 7:04 pm

divorce is your passport to hell–st padre pio
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rainzeineir on January 9, 2013 at 9:10 pm

ako?buo ung pamilya namen..
sang-ayon sko sa divorce bill kasi nkikita ko sa pamilya ng tito ko na
hirap na hirap na ung asawa niya sa pamumuhay nila!!..
hiwalay na ila kaso di legal so dapat diba?..maging legal!..kaya mas gusto ko magkaroon
na ng divorce d2 sa aten..para maging maly na ang mga mag-asawa na nakakalabuan na
at para mawakasan na dn nila ung pag-hihirap nila!
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Anonymous on January 8, 2013 at 4:40 pm

When you have anything more concrete than the ‘Fear to God’ bulshit let me know.
Only frigging country in the world without divorce. How did this work out for you so far? You
think you will be saving families like this? Bullshit. I’ve met many, MANY married Filipinos who
don’t even talk to their “spouses” for years. Tell me again how making someone stuck with a
marriage saves the family? Thank god no one started chaining spouses together yet.
Think again. If divorce is to give someone a second chance, and that’s selfish (why? because I
should fear god?? Just don’t…) so be it! People deserve to be happy and although many people
I’ve met here are happy with their marriage, many of them are not! People deserve to be happy.
What they don’t deserve is to be miserable due some imaginary God who had a book written by
some people and some people believe it was written by him. Wake up!
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sphinx on February 14, 2013 at 11:39 am

+1
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Micha on January 7, 2013 at 2:43 pm

Hey, the Pope said “ours is a church without circumcision’. Why do you blatantly disobey the
church like this (as you did for years of the church telling you to get rid of the death penalty), but
want to be ‘true Catholics’ and not allow divorce? You want to be good Catholics? STOP
CIRCUMCISING your children, you are disobeying the pope and NO medical board in THE
ENTIRE world recommends it.
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Not allowing divorce does NOT keep people together. They merely have affairs and live apart. If
Philippines is truly the secular country it claims it is, it will stop not allowing divorce because of
the Catholic Church. Not everyone in Philippines is Catholic, why should they be denied?
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Grin on January 6, 2013 at 7:22 pm

I’m 14, hindi po ako pabor sa DIVORCE na yan. Unang una po eh ayokong masira ang aking
pamilya at mahantong sa divorce. Hindi ito bf/gf relationship na pwede kayong maghiwalay dahil
lamang sa mabigat na problema. Lagi kong inaalala na walang problema na hindi
masosolusyunan. Wag po nating isipin ang PANSARILI NATING KALIGAYAHAN. Mas lalong
magiging malakas ang loob ng isang babae’t lalaki na magLOKO dahl alam nilang may
DIVORCE na pwedeng patakan. Hindi ito ang solusyon sa mag-asawang hindi magkasundo.
Sana naman ay nauunawaan nyo ako. HINDI lamang nakatatanda ang dapat tanungin sa batas
na ito kundi pati na ang mga KABATAAN na maaring maapektuhan .
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Xanuz Mysterious on December 30, 2012 at 4:58 pm

WHY I AM IN FAVOR TO HAVE DIVORCE IN THE PHILIPPINES?
After the RH Bill has been passed by the Philippine Congress lately and ready to be a law after
President Noynoy Aquino will sign it. Another controversial Bill is in line for deliberation when
the Philippines Congress resumes in 2013 – this is the DIVORCE BILL.
Before you make conclusions against this Divorce Bill, you have to read and understand the
whole provisions of the Family Code of the Philippines that needs amendment from the original
“Legal Separation” code to “Divorce”. This Divorce Bill was authored by Cong. Manuel C.
Ortega, of La Union. If this bill be translated into a law the provisions for filing a divorce is not
that easy where several grounds for divorce shall be considered. This bill is not to suggest that if
you don’t like your spouse, you can file for divorce that easy, it has to be in accordance with the
provisions transpired in the Divorce Law.
Some people or even some of you who made comments that are against this Divorce Bill, are
actually ignorant about the whole essence of this Bill filed by Cong. Manuel C. Ortega. All your
apprehensions and fears are immaterial, and are just based on your emotions, personal
understanding or even taken from the “kwentong kalye” rumors.
Some citizens who are against to this Divorce Bill have persuasions based on Roman Catholic
Church’s mandate disfavoring divorce. These “men in white” are influencing their religious
constituents to bar against divorce in the Philippines when in fact they haven’t had strong
program in giving alternative solutions for eliminating broken families in placing hundreds of
thousands of Fiiipino single parents in jeopardy, who have been living estrange away from their
legal spouses. Some of these “holier than thou” are just following some principles against
divorce being taught to them by the clergy, but totally ignorant on Biblical principles about
divorce.
Although it is not God’s will to divorce because it was God who established the first family in the
Garden of Eden, but the Bible also has few provisions in allowing divorce for some certain
reasons: The Torah of Moses has provisions about divorce (Deut. 24:1-4; Deut. 22:13-19). Even
Jesus Christ DID NOT favor divorce but has allowed it to happen if it is based on marital
infidelity (Matthew 19:1-9). Saint Paul also was against divorce but has admonished the
Corinthian Church about divorce if it would happen inevitably (I Corinthians 7:8-14)
I am a single dad with 4 kids living with me. I have been estranged from my wife for the past 8
years and there is no way for us to be reunited. I have been struggling raising my kids without a
marital partner and I am not getting any younger anymore, and I need a new wife to grow old
with me when my children will have their own families someday. And in fact there are thousands
of single parents here in our country that are also struggling to find and live with new legal
spouses just because they are bound with the validity of their previous marriages with live
Marriage Contracts, and can’t afford to get an Annulment. If this Bill be passed into a Law, this
will be very favorable to single parents just like me to remarry without hassle in going through
the process of an Annulment.
This Divorce Bill is not intended to break an existing well-established, solid and firm families, but
rather, it will protect abused women to disregard their abusive and infidel husbands. It is to
protect the welfare of the children away from irresponsible and abusive parent/s. It is to give
hope to those single parents who have been separated and estranged from their legal spouses
for many years to find a new legal spouse.
Kaya kayong mga tumututol laban sa Divorce Bill, basahin nyo muna ang Divorce Bill na ipinasa
ni Cong. Manuel C. Ortega, bago kayo mag satsat ng satsat at dakdak ng dakdak laban nito.
Kayong mga single parents at mga separado at separada, suportahan natin ang Divorce Bill na
ito at ating isusulong na ito’y masaibatas upang tayo ay magkakaroon ng kalayaan mula sa
nakataling kasal na di naman nagsasama, at magkakaroon tayo ng pag-asa na makapag-
asawa muli.
ISULONG ANG DIVORCE BILL!!!!!
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cadel on December 26, 2012 at 10:15 am

I believe that divorce law will never be a solution to the growing problem of marital rape,
battered wives, etc. I think the problem here is the loss of virtues that we supposedly have. The
virtue of respect, the virtue of love, the virtue of honesty, etc. In the first place, there would have
not been battered wives if the married couple put Christ at the center of their marriage and if
they learn to understand and respect one another. There would be no divorce if the couple
stands for what they promised at the altar during their marriage. Before you should enter
marriage, you should know the kind of person you are going to marry because in marriage,
there is no turning back and it is a lifetime commitment. Being married is a long time
preparation, you start from your childhood until the moment of your marriage. So there is no
reason why you should engage in divorce, unless you were not able to prepare very well.
Marriage is a reflective act of God united to the church. WE people are the church and Jesus
Christ is the head. We can never be separated to the head of the church who is Jesus Christ.
So if divorce law will be pushed through, then we are as if saying to God that we are not part of
the church. We are as if left as a body without a head. No guidance!
RESULT:
Divorce can only create confusion to a child for the reason that he or she does not know which
family he or she belongs, for his or her mom or dad could be married to another man or woman
having their own children. I believe that divorce will just cater the selfishness of both parents.
There is annulment in the country so why ask for divorce.
The point is bakit pa kayo nagpakasal nang di ninyo inalam kong ano talaga ang karas nang
mapapangasawa ninyo. Dapat inalam ninyo muna sana at di kayo nagpadalos-dalos nang di
kayo humantong sa pag.didivorce. Being is not a trial and error.
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Word “married” inserted between “Being” and “is not a trial”
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ldsfw on December 20, 2012 at 8:44 am
Divorce, supported by 90% people in the Philippines. Go for it!
Religion Sucks!!!!! Priests Sucks!!!!!
No God, No Religion= Peace of mind.
Pilipinas nalang ang naiwang “tanga” sa buong mundo.
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Ptr. Vince on December 20, 2012 at 9:14 pm

Or it’s the other way around… 🙂
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These comments only emphasize that you do not know and understand religion. I wonder what
happened to you that you ended this bitter.
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Ivy on February 19, 2013 at 10:52 pm

tama ka! malaking check korek!
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marriage is not easy on December 19, 2012 at 4:19 pm
seriously, all of you who believe divorce should be legalized and assume that people who are
against it does not mean that they are ONLY experiencing happiness and never had to go
through any struggles in their marriage, or that they have never been married, which is why they
cannot empathize with what you are going through.
but NO ONE FORCES ANYONE TO BE MARRIED. you went into it with your own free will, why
marry when you don’t even know your partner well enough (both their good AND BAD sides)
have tested their limits enough to see if they are the type to hit you when you argue, to see any
signs of abuse or doubts about the partner committing infidelity, or if you just do not mesh
together as well as you’d hoped? WHY GET MARRIED when you do not know who the hell it is
you’re marrying yourself into?
divorce secures the possibility of an insurance that if you go into a marriage at full throttle
without any sufficient work of actually getting to know each other and yourselves figuring out
together (without any mind games or mere assumptions that the other SHOULD KNOW WHAT I
AM THINKING AND FEELING without me having to spell it out for them), the first sign of a
disagreement, you would be rest assured that if you do not work at the marriage to
communicate your issues, decades from when the first disagreement started, you know you
have a safety net that you can get away if it gets out of hand. there is no sense of risk anymore.
when love is supposed to be ultimately sacrificial, now it’s just dead. even ten folds more worse
when a couple has children.
unless you were raped, abused, forced into the marriage, i really cannot see why anyone should
be granted divorce when in the first place they promised TILL DEATH DO US PART and IN
SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH. did anyone force you to say that? no? yes? see, logic would be: if
you feel like you’re not ready to risk getting married? THEN.DO.NOT.MARRY! stop pointing
fingers telling people who are happily married DO NOT HAVE PROBLEMS, because we do. we
just have the HUMILITY TO WORK THROUGH IT, TOGETHER. and blaming priests? *sigh*
God bless all of you for such accusations when most priests who are against divorce only wish
what is best for our souls.
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marriage is not easy on December 19, 2012 at 4:33 pm

i think what should be passed is a bill for PRE-MARRIAGE SCREENING Certificate. where
whoever that wishes to marry should not be allowed to get married unless they get a pre-
marriage approval from psychiatrists that they are actually IN A HEALTHY and GENUINELY
LOVING relationship. there should be tests, books that they need to read, and 2+ months long
seminars, that way if whoever wishes to really marry someone, that wouldn’t even bother them
because they know they would do ANYTHING to make their partners happy.
now on the upside, the insincere ones would think, THIS IS B.S. and a waste of my time!!
anyone who isn’t right in the head would not bother sitting through weeks of seminars just to be
with someone they don’t really love.
so if they can’t sell that? the relationship? if the psychiatrist/psychologist IS NOT SOLD on their
story? then they won’t be able to get married. this way, future abuse in any marriage is
prevented and there won’t be any need for divorce anymore.
stop being reactive people, start being PRO-active. if you’re Pro-DIVORCE? and you’re
married? teach your children to not get married unless they really know whoever it is they’re
marrying into. if there is anyone to blame, it’s our own selves.
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Well said… 🙂
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Karl on December 11, 2012 at 12:11 am

Horrible grammar aside, do you even think before you give advice? Clearly your advice to Jojo
(if it can even be called advice) is thoughtless and insensitive kasi andyan na nga, nangyari na
sa kanya. Do you really think na ganun kadali magdala ng asawa or pamilya abroad? Yung may
work commitment na nga lng nadedeny pa minsan, what more kung di ganun kataas ang
sweldo, tapos isasama mo pa spouse mo. Do you have an idea as to how hard it is to feed
yourself there while trying to save money to send home, tapos dagdagan mo pa ng isang
bunganga na kelangan kumain dun? Ano tingin mo sa OFWs natin, executive positions ang
pinapasukan? Sa payo mo kay Jojo parang sinasabi mo na kasalanan nya ang nangyari and
not his wife. Na mali ang ginawa nyang decision to sacrifice and bear the loneliness and pain of
being away from his family kasi he wanted to be able to provide for them and he had no other
way to earn enough money except to try his luck abroad. Mas ok ba na hinayaan na lng nya
magutom pamilya nya, or turn to a life of crime here, para lng andito sya?
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Ptr. Vince on December 12, 2012 at 9:10 am
@Karl …Bringing your wife and your family in abroad is difficult. I know that. Pero yun ang gamit
ng word na “planning”. Please don’t give me your petty argument that it’s not possible because I
can give names of people who have brought their family abroad. I have personal friends whom I
advised to bring their family and was able to bring them. It’s a matter of choice.
I never said that it is Jojo’s fault… But there is a better choice if you really want to go abroad. If
you prefer to stay there in abroad without your family, it’s always up to you, but you are
endangering your relationship with your spouse and your children. You are opening yourself and
your spouse to a more tempting situation to go and find another man or woman. It’s not a
mindless advice Karl… It is about the basic principle of what is family is about. A reminder of
how you should raise your family.
Feeding the family… your whole issue. I was just puzzled by your insults and as you insist that it
was mindless advice. Because as far as I can see here, it seems like you are making a picture
of having a family without having a good plan of feeding your family but to go abroad.
I highly respect our OFW’s, that is why I am giving a sensible advice not like you who opened
up in a very insulting opinion with a mindless answer.
Karl, I hope that you are able to answer yourself your last question, because I really don’t
believe that there is “no other way”. There is a way, only you don’t like the idea and you don’t
like to work for it.
I think I made my statement well.
Don’t answer back if you will post inappropriate words and insults because you will just waste
your time and it won’t be published. If you want to answer, be responsible to your words. After
all, we respect opinions here, it’s just we don’t tolerate vulgar, nor insulting words. This is a
religious blog. Thank you!!!
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isa sa milyon milyong kababaihan na iniwan ng asawa on December 10, 2012 at 3:38 am
Unfortunately, divorce is not a black and white, cut and dry thing na totally masama or totally
mabuti ang maidudulot. Ito naman po ang masasabi ko sa inyo bilang isa sa milyon milyong
kababaihan sa Pilipinas na iniwan ng kanilang mga asawa:
“For example, there is a an abusive husband who have been divorced by his wife. THIS
HUSBAND WILL THEN JUST LOOK FOR ANOTHER WOMAN TO ABUSE. While the woman if
she’s the one having some problems, she will just look for another guy and if things will not get
well, all she has to do is to apply again for divorce. Ridiculous isn’t it? It is just a picture of
FREEDOM TO TRY MARRIAGE.”
– So ano? Hayaan na lang natin yung kanyang kasalukuyang asawa na maabuso hanggang
mamatay na sya para lang walang ibang babaeng maabuso ang asawa nya? Very smart
argument there above. Mapapailing ka na lang.
“Approximately 4% of American children are living only with their father.”
– E bakit dito sa Pilipinas? Kala nyo ba porket walang divorce lahat ng pamilya buo? We live
like divorced folks, kumakayod at nagtataguyod sa mga anak namin on our own dahil iniwan
kami ng mga asawa namin. Ang kaibahan lang namin sa mga divorced folks ay ang papel at
ang mandated support for the children. So you see (and this is so obvious that feeling ko
nakapikit sa katotohanan ang blogger na ito), with or without divorce, millions of FILIPINO
children are living without their fathers NOT as a result of divorce, but of abandonment.
“The vast majority of children who are raised in a two-parent home will never be poor during
experience poverty.”
– Tama kayo. Just like the above AMERICAN statistics, hirap na hirap kami. PERO HINDI AS A
RESULT OF DIVORCE, BUT AS A RESULT OF ABANDONMENT BY THE
HUSBANDS/FATHERS. And while divorce will have strict guidelines for child support, wag kayo
magalala, mga kalalakihan. Very few women will ever accept support from you because of our
Filipina pride. After all, ilang taon na naming binubuhay mag-isa ang mga anak na iniwan nyo.
At isa pa, dahil sa tindi ng motivation naming mga ina _ ang mga anak namin, sa totoo lang
karamihan samin mas malalaki pa ang sahod kaysa sa mga lalaking umiwan samin. Pero kita
nyo hirap pa rin kami? Kasi nga, tama naman, ideally, dalawa ang dapat na nagtutulungan
magtaguyod ng mga anak. AT SINO NAMAN ANG AYAW NUN??? LAHAT NG KILALA KONG
MGA INIWAN NG ASAWA NILA, myself included, FOUGHT TOOTH AND NAIL TO GET OUR
HUSBANDS BACK, if only for the kids man lang, KAHIT PINAGPALIT NA KAMI SA MGA GRO
HOSTESS. So you cannot say that we like where we’re at. In fact, YOU HAVE NO IDEA OF
THE SUFFERING OF EVERY WOMAN LEFT BY THEIR HUSBAND. YOU HAVE NO CLUE AT
ALL.
“Children from female-headed homes are five times as likely to be poor as children in two-
parent families.”
“Four times as many divorced women with children fell under the poverty line than married
women with children.”
– As I stated, totoo po yan. Pero nagpapatuloy kami. Habang nagpapasasa ang mga asawa
namin sa iba-ibang babae matapos kaming iwanan. But again, it is not a woman’s choice to be
poor. Kaya nga todo ang kayod namin eh, hello???
So you see, first of all, your above statistics, sir, are from the US and, therefore, do not apply to
the Philippines as we are miles apart in difference. The above facts are statistics. Statistics
mean there was data upon which these figures were based. Those figures were collected from
Americans, NOT FILIPINOS. In fact, I’m sure that if someone were to do a survey, they would
actually see that the majority of these so called poor folks are poor because they were
abandoned, not because they chose (or will choose, if in case the divorce bill is passed)
divorce. Sa America, karamihan dyan sa mga divorce na yan, ano? Hindi makatiis sa kahirapan
yung mga babae, gusto ng marangyang buhay. Irreconcilable differences, ang tataas ng pride.
And the like. PERO ANG MGA PINAY, ano? Matiyaga ang Pinay. Matiisin. And generally,
tutulong talaga kami sa mga asawa namin kung talagang hirap sa buhay.
I speak only for Filipino women who have been abandoned by their husbands, as I am one of
them. And unless you are one of us, you don’t know what we go through everyday of our lives
with our children dahil iniwan kami, hindi dahil pinili namin makipaghiwalay. And I’d like to
mention I am a Baptist myself. So was my husband, or so he professed and I thought. I speak
not only for single moms who are Catholics, Protestants, etc. Yes, I speak for Baptists as well. I
have seen all of this in church. I mean, why else are there more moms than dads going to
church with the kids.
And now I have met a Baptist gentleman who, despite the fact na para lang akong basurang
itinapon ng isang lalake ay tanggap ako at ang anak ko. Who loves my son even more than his
own father ever did. And who continues to pray for me, believing that inspite of my
circumstances, I AM GOD’S BEST FOR HIM. Now, my child (and millions of other abandoned
children, if given the chance) has a chance to not fall under your so called statistics above. Now
he has the chance to not be poor, not become rebelious, the chance to be loved by two parents,
the chance to be taught basketball coz I never could, the chance to address the Father’s Day
greeting card they make in art class to someone real, who’s there and who will actually receive
and read it. But we can’t.
Alam nyo, buti na lang I’m a firm believer in the sovereignty of God. I know that everything was
planned _ from me having my son, and yes, to being left by my husband. And that it why this
gentleman and I continue to pray for God’s will for us, for the chance, not to be happy, because
I do not believe God made man to be happy. But to glorify God together, with “our” son. To
show the world how God loved me enough, na kahit iniwan ako, bibigyan pala Nya ako ng isang
taong mas mabait at tatanggapin lahat sakin, at tuturingin ang anak ko, hindi bilang isang
dagdag sa buhay ko na kailangan lang nya tanggapin, kundi bilang isang blessing. Buti na lang
naniniwala akong mas makapangyarihan ang Panginoon kaysa sa inyo at sa makitid nyong
opinion at sa lahat man ng mambabatas sa Pilipinas na maaring magpasa o kumontra sa sa
divorce bill.
Yes, God hates divorce. But I think the reason He permitted it in the Bible is, at the very least,
for the children’s sake. You’re all so focused on the mentality na “magdidivorce lang yang mga
yan para makapagasawa ng makapagasawa. YOU ARE MISSING THE WHOLE POINT, THE
REAL ISSUE, THE REALITY THAT IS US.
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isa sa milyon milyong kababaihan na iniwan ng asawa on December 10, 2012 at 10:51 pm
It’s funny how I see your response to this post in my email but not on here. Did you delete it???
Hay nako. Napapailing na lang ako. If it appears on here, then I’ll comment on it as there really
were loopholes in your response. Di ko na alam kung makitid or playing dumb. Parang the
latter.
FYI. “Seeing first hand” is not the same as “experiencing.” Think about that.
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bianca on November 24, 2012 at 7:08 am

Point taken Pastor. I was once in a happy marriage and always afraid and disagree with the
concept of divorce. I was so immature to judge those who are in favor of divorce because they
simply wanted to be free and happy. Not until I realized I needed one. I never wanted to stay
with a guy who keeps on telling me that he doesn’t love mo anymore everyday of my life in front
of my innocent child. Keeps on insulting me and reminding me of my imperfections. He doesn’t
go home everyday, if he goes home, he’ll sleep just to avoid me. He tells my kid he loves her,
but just her, not her Mom! It’ s been going on for a year. my poor kid will cry everytime she sees
me cry. I just want to get out of this but see, I would need a lawyer a psychiatrist and a bunch of
money. Can you help people like me get out of misery? Sure you can’t! And don’t you ever think
that divorce is selfish for the family. What’s selfish is hiding the truth from the family,my
daughter until she hears it from someone else.
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Ptr. Vince on November 29, 2012 at 12:00 am

Hi Bianca! Was sad to read your story. I can’t give you personal advice especially that I don’t
know the overall situation (from both parties). But I just want to ask you a question, what do you
think will divorce give you? Sure, you will be “legally” away, and have no obligation at all with
your husband anymore granted that we have divorce in the Philippines. But my question is, do
you think divorce will really give you freedom? Do you think divorce will give you happiness that
you want?
Please know that I never judged those who are wanting divorce. I certainly understand them
and my sympathy is with people like you. And it also doesn’t mean that because I am anti-
divorce, I don’t love people who are in your situation. The fact is, I have ministered to a lot of
problematic relationship that resulted to annulment, separation and even abandonment. But I
have never seen that divorce is the solution to these problems. Believe it or not, many of them
have repetitive problems even after annulment and separation. It still lies to the couple in a
relationship on how they value that relationship and their family. Please note that I said, “couple”
not just you nor him, because marriage is about 2 people becoming one.
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Larry on November 6, 2012 at 3:17 pm

My name is Larry, I live in Australia, and I’m happily married to a lovely and caring wife, with two
kids. A very big problem occurred
in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife. So terrible that she took the case to
court for a divorce. She said that she
never wanted to stay with me again, and that she didn’t love me anymore. So she packed out of
my house and made me and my
children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back, after much
begging, but all to no avail, and she
confirmed it that she has made her decision, and she never wanted to see me again.
So one evening, as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my
wife.So i explained every thing to
her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it
has really worked for her too.So i never
believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the
email address of the spell caster whom she
visited.{greatbabalajaoracletemple@gmail.com}.
So the next morning, I sent a mail to the address she gave to me, and the spell caster assured
me that I will get my wife back.What an
amazing statement!! I never believed, so he spoke with me, and told me everything that I need
to do. Days later, so surprisingly, my
wife who didn’t call me for the past seven {7}months, gave me a call to inform me that she was
coming back. So Amazing!! So that was
how she came back, with lots of love and joy, and she apologized for her mistake,and for the
pain she caused me and my children.
Then from that day, our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a
spell caster.
So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website
{greatbabalajaoracletemple@gmail.com}, if you are in any condition like
this, or you have any problem related to “bringing your ex back or your relationship is about to
crumble.
So thanks to Great Babalaja Oracle Temple for bringing back my, and brought great joy to my
family once again.
{greatbabalajaoracletemple@gmail.com},
Thanks…
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Ptr. Vince on November 6, 2012 at 10:31 pm

Sorry… but we do not believe in spell caster.
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chuck on November 28, 2012 at 6:40 am

Spell &*^(^(&^*^$%#$%$ ask her who was the guy she was staying with I bet the guy got tried
of her because the game was over…
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Jhirah on November 5, 2012 at 7:17 pm

Thank you po sa mga ginawa nyo. Nakatulong ito sa aming debate kasi po negative side
kami…. Pero ayaw ko po ng divorce… Ayaw ko po talaga
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Ptr. Vince on November 6, 2012 at 10:34 pm

Looking forward that you will have a better marriage life.
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asty on October 31, 2012 at 4:49 pm
simple, ayoko ng divorce sa Pinas. Andame ng mga bata na lumalaki ng sira ung pamilya.
Dadagdagan pa ba? Come on. isipin nio naman ung mga bata na lumalaki kasama ung
ikalawang asawa nung magulang nya instead sa tunay nyang parent? hahanapin at hahanapin
ng bata ung tunay kalinga ng tunay nyang MGA magulang. Hindi ung nagmamagulang
magulangan sa kanya na ibang tao pa. sad to say, na andami na ng mga bata na
nakakaexperience ng pagka broken family. Sana maging considerate naman kayo sa mga
batang nangangarap ng buong pamilya. Kung talagang gustong maayos ung family, there’s a
way if there’s a will. Sana pakinggan din naman ung voices nung mga batang umiiyak para sa
pagkakaron ng buong pamilya. kawawa sila. Nasa magulang yan, sakanila magsisimula ung
morality na yan. If they only have strong faith to God, me solusyon yan. Hindi divorce. Don’t
build a family kung alangan ka (di lang sa sarili pati sa magiging kasama sa buhay). Parents,
nasa sainyo po kung anong vision nio para sa family nio. Sa inyo po yan mag uumpisa. Your
children are your blessings, kayo po dapat ung maging huwaran sa kanila.
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korek! nasa magulang yan. nasa BOTH parents.
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the operative word there being BOTH.
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Enid on October 30, 2012 at 4:30 pm

I agree with Pastor Vince, Nhene and all others as much as we should we have the word of God
to guide us through this life respecting each other we need to tell others why we see things
differently so that their decisions may be based on facts. the person you want to divorce and
throw out of yr life needs you, the challenges that are making you sign a divorce certificate are
just temporary misunderstanding. If only one shed a little understanding, patience and
acceptance you may find yourselves in a peacefull situation again. When you got attracted to
each other, that attraction was natural that it drove each of you crazyly in love and you decided
to spend your life time together, on every long journey, people get thirsty, hungry and tired but
when some refreshments are received and a little rest people continue the jouney and till the
end they rejoice. Dear brother or sister out there, what you are lacking is not love but some
refreshments to give you strength for a fresh step. There are no angles to get married to here on
earth we are all human bound to stamble but when the truth is made clear challenges would be
over come and you will understand why we say NO DIVORCE
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I really like what you said above coz they’re true. Unfortunately, those who should be hearing
them, either do not read this stuff or are busy na with their third parties after leaving their
families.
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GE on October 29, 2012 at 11:40 pm

Hi everyone. I know this is an old issue, but just the same I would like to state my stand on it.
I’m actually thinking about going pro-divorce with specific clauses under it. I understand that
should divorce be legalized, it may give irresponsible people of the way to abuse it. Rather, lay
out specific restrictions to only who can undergo divorce under very valid reasons. Thanks for
hearing me out:)
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Of all the folks here, with such a short post, you seem to not only make the most sense, but are
the most inquisitive.
My heart aches for women, yes, even Baptist women I know with Baptist husbands, being
beaten and abused everyday. Having a close mind on divorce kinda like says hintayin mo na
lang mamatay ka, dyan ka lang. In my case, though, I was not a battered wife. But my son
was. :,(
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Ninyow on June 24, 2012 at 9:37 pm

Thanks for your opinions Ptr. Vince. It really helps me for my debate. I’m start loving your words
and your passion to stand against critics. Godbless !!
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Ptr. Vince on July 5, 2012 at 9:44 pm

May God bless your heart Ninyow!!!
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serendipity on June 20, 2012 at 10:05 pm

Divorce is not an escape-goat thing nor does not signifies a weak Christian life..rather facing the
reality of life that not everything we had committed on our past are certain but just a fruit of our
immaturity and a diversion of our emptiness during our young ages.That now, as we get older
and was a mold into a better person making wiser decisions, we have come to realize that
everything was a mistake that were wish to correct before its too late for us.Everybody deserves
chances and everybody deserves to be happy. Definitely, this idea will not hinder our Christian
life as long as our intentions are pure ; rather will take us even more closer to God, by
submitting our weaknesses, repenting, building a new life with someone new whom you
Perfectly believe that is truly meant for you. Remember that aging is Wisdom.and as we age, we
wish to manage of correcting our faults; the wrong Marriage and we could decide for better and
for best.
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Jayjay on June 11, 2012 at 3:22 pm

Right, the Bible doesn’t support divorce I guess. But what was it god said about adultery? Oh
yeah…..straight from god’s mouth to Moses:
” Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that
committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be
put to death.”
You didn’t really need divorce when your wife cheated back in biblical times now did ya? God’s
solution was pretty darn simple…..and much cheaper than divorce.
I would have to say that since it is no longer acceptable to whack your wife for cheating, which
was in a sense getting rid of your wife, divorce seems to be much more a modern, humane, way
of dealing with adultery. But hey, if you are against the humane way of dealing with it I say let’s
bring back the godly way (wracking people who cheat)…..since you are all about god’s “word”.
Don’t pick and choose which “words” benefit your agenda.
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Makki Mabesa on May 29, 2012 at 1:35 pm

Congrats to those who have their marriage until now and maybe forever. Inggit ako sa mga
ganon frankly. But be aware my friends that sometime things we do not wants to happen is a
thing to happen and be ours one without expectation and contribution to it. It so hard losing your
better half but believe me. It will just come sometimes like a thief at night. Noon ayaw ko rin ng
divorce but after saving my marriage for almost 30 years now. Do you think it is still reasonable
to die with him in my heart and mind? If he is happy out there in any manner why not me? Does
it mean if you are divorced you can not be a God believer anymore and hindered to attend the
mass? All other countries (except Thailand, Ghana and few others) are more blessed compare
to Philippines where divorce already existing many years ago? Let’s say this is not the Will of
God, yes. But in real life it is needed. At least the law of the land is in favor to it, after all, wala
namang pagkakaiba. Palitpalit din naman ng babae ng lalaki kahit walang divorce.
Pinaguusapan lang why, it’s not legal! Nasa tao na yan kung aabusohin nila ang divorce! if you
love a person though kasal nga kayo o hindi magwuwork din, di ba? It’s a long story, maybe
complicated too but I really loved my husband before he was my true love and my ideal man. Of
all the men in the world i felt he is really alone for my choice. But remember it takes two to
tango. And it’s hopeless already as i could see. So now apparently I’m go . . . . to DIVORCE!
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Maricar Ventura on May 28, 2012 at 1:55 am

My ex is a drug addict and pusher since we started and had couple of kids which he had one of
my children killed, due to a reason of him being paranoid that it is not his son. In Philippines if
you don’t have enough evidence no one will take your care seriously even there’s a dead body
it’s difficult to prove especially if witnesses refused to testify for you so nothing will happen. Why
would I be stock with a man like this? We individually has right to be free and if we chooses to
be with someone else that is our choice but it doesn’t mean we have to put up living with
someone we know it’s a big mistake…We deserved a better life especially if we have to bring up
our children on our own.
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@Maricar. I really sympathize with you with what had happened. And your husband must be a
very irresponsible guy.
But since we are in the issue of divorce, you yourself said that it was a “big mistake”. Why?
Haven’t you seen what kind of man he is when he was still courting you? Haven’t you
investigated who he is when you are not yet husband and wife?
Yes, you do deserve to have better life. And should have had a better life if you have been
careful enough in choosing your husband. But I am not blaming you or something. I am just
emphasizing “our responsibility” to choose the BEST husband that we can ever have for the
sake of our readers and the younger generation who will be reading this.
In your case, I think divorce is NOT the solution. If you believe it’s a crime, then it should be
litigated by our criminal law.
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leenie on May 12, 2012 at 8:47 pm

YES I AGREE, SAY NO TO IT!!!
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Maricar Ventura on May 28, 2012 at 1:57 am

NO! I DISAGREE YES TO DIVORCE!
TOO MANY DRUG ADDICTS AND BAD GUYS WHY PUT UP WITH THEM?
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@Maricar… Why marry drug addicts after all?
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kailash on May 4, 2012 at 3:40 am

Divorce is needed for philipines for the betterment and development of human value in 21 st
century.
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@Kailash… You should check Stats on morality and violence against women and children in
other countries such as US and Australia. See if these rates are down. If it’s not, then DIVORCE
is NOT a solution.
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kailash on May 4, 2012 at 3:38 am
This is wrong and completely insane idea not to give divorce. Chirsanity is the best religion in
the world and freedom is always needed. This is very bad If Philipines wants democracy and
development they have to make bill passed allowing divorce. This will make all woman of
philipine will be happy. LOGIC BEHIND not given to divorce is nonsence. I am from Nepal and
We have also same culture like philipines but this is really not scientific in 21 st century. Please
Jesus provide Philipineas divorce Law passed Then this country will flourished and developed
country like UK and Japan. Thanks.
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melai on April 25, 2012 at 12:31 pm

Ituloy na dapat ang divorce sa PILIPINAS.. Pano naman ung mga biktima ng pang aabuso ng
asawa..Nabuntis lang nung pusukan pa nila. Napakasal lang sila sa kagustuhan ng magulang..
alang alang sa reputasyon.
Hindi kaya ung mga taong tutol.. masyadong close minded sa mga ganito situation.. Dadaan pa
naman sa due process ang lahat… Pwede din naman ilimit hanggang second time lang
divorce.. then 3rd time ung annulment… Dapat hindi rin nakikialam ang simbahan sa mga
ganitong desisyon ng pamahalaan…
“Everybody deserve second chance”.
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Ptr. Vince on April 25, 2012 at 9:23 pm

While I do respect most of your opinion… I do disagree with “Dapat hindi rin nakikialam ang
simbahan sa mga ganitong desisyon ng pamahalaan.”
First, Divorce is NOT JUST a national issue, it is ALSO a MORAL issue. That alone is enough
reason for the church to say something.
Second, you have said it, “dadaan ito sa due proess”, part of this due process is consultation to
the citizens of the Philippines. Are we NOT a fellow citizen? Kung ang mga militante nga may
pakialam, lalo na ang simbahan na nagtuturo ng morality.
Third, is the church not entitled to its opinion? This is a democratic country.
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Karla on April 14, 2012 at 11:39 pm

I believe in my personal god, my personal jesus. But this anti-divorce bill sucks bigtime. God
gave us free will. From there, we can decide whether to end our marriage or not. I feel that this
country is being bullied by the Catholic church. By Jove, that they experienced sad marital
stories especially wives getting
beaten by the husbands.. Of course not, cause they cannot relate to what’s happening inside a
married life! As for those with happy marriages, God bless you. With or without the divorce law,
you can go about your daily happy married lives. Unless, you are anti divorce because you are
afraid that your spouse might file divorce once the law gets passed. Lol. Shame on you. These
women who push divorce have counseled more than a handful of women who needs real
sympathy. Not the emotionless sympathy you type here. Oh yes, btw, my husband cusses and
beats me up when he visits my daughter and i here in the philippines. He is an ofw who had an
affair with a married pinay for more than 3 years. My daughter is even the one pushing me to
find her a new daddy who wouldnt beat me up in front of her and curse me. She is 7 years old.
Beat that! I am so for Divorce even ive read that it wont be passed within 6 yrs time..
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lorna on March 23, 2012 at 8:09 pm

sabihin mo yan after …10yrs …after your married life …if you make it to have a successful
marriage then ….good but if not …..come back here im sure i know you will say….
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sio_ashford on March 22, 2012 at 9:07 pm

i do disagree that this divorce bill shall not be legallized, it is never an option to help a
relationship of a married couple, it just only destroy everything. if ever this bill is been legallized
the holliness of a marriage in our country, will be gone! people nowadays has no control on
themselves, they can do everything what they want, the importance of marriage will be lost,
although i am a high school student i knew that this bill could never ever gonna help our society
specially (married couples), it just only allow people to be married over and over again^^
we should dwell on what our ancestors taught about how to appreciate and protect the
importance of a marriage. LOL thank GOD i found this website it clears my mind^^ haha we’re
going to have a debate tomorrow about this bill, yeah i know what im going to say. NO TO
DIVORCE BILL!!!
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Go sio_ashford!!! May God be with you as you fight for righteousness!!!
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lorna on March 23, 2012 at 8:11 pm

sabihin mo yan after …10yrs …after your married life …if you make it to have a successful
marriage then ….good but if not …..come back here im sure i know you will say….GOOD
LUCK!!!
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LORNA on March 19, 2012 at 11:10 pm

Yes,i agree with divorced bill..
why?
i’m separated almost 6yrs.
My ex husband now is living with her mistress and we have 4kids living w/ me.
He is happy with his new family and have kids w/ there own.
Yes he give an allowance w/ the kids but can’t afford them to go to collage ….,its just enough for
there foods but sometimes not…
The question is …how about me?…i will tie to our marriage forever …cos there is no divorced in
the PHIL?
I want to get out of our marriage to face a new life and re married again to the man i newly love!
But how?….i’m poor i can’t afford the annulment then …it is infidelity or my ex not perform as a
husband to me…and what if not granted by court because infidelity is not valid reason as i read
in this column…
For me marriage is a bond that should be kept if you can’t keep it don’t commit to it simple as
that.
At the same time you have to understand how the Philippines functions or more importantly how
its dysfunctional in many ways when it comes to love and marriage.
And its unfair to those unsuccessful marriage.
In my case my ex husband now is happily living w/ her mistress….so i deserve also to choose
what i want to do in my life.
I want to re-married again.
If anyone here can help me(we were married in municipal mayor) ..i will be happy but i don’t
have money to pay.
I just want to live happy and peaceful with someone i love now…but because i’m married its a
hindrance to us,cos i want to make it legal to go into new relationship.
I hope there is someone here can help me!!
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@Lorna. Hi there!!!
Sometimes it was really a pain to have made a mistake in the past and now we are suffering
because of it. But, are you really sure marrying “again” to another guy will be you better and
happier?
Then, if it is, you and your new husband to be should invest something on it. You said you are
poor. Then again, if your husband to be is also poor and is not even willing to do his best for
your annulment, I think you need to think twice because marrying him will not solve your
financial needs at all.
The lack of divorce law in the Philippines is not actually a hindrance… but a blessing to you. So
that you will be more careful in choosing your partner. Hope this gives you some wisdom.
Blessings!
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“marrying him will not solve your financial needs at all. ”
wow. marriage is not about money! marriage is about two people glorifying God in their
marriage, with the wife submitting to their husband and the husband loving the wife as Christ
loves the church.
i’m kinda confused about these responses on here….
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ever consider not every marriage in annullable? what if the church doesn’t find any reason the
marriage wasn’t valid in the first place, what then? she just has to try and make her ex leave his
current and abandon the man she loves? think, mcfly, think
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claire on March 13, 2012 at 10:21 pm

Pastor, I think divorce should be legalized.It is more traumatic to the children involved.For
example, it would hurt the children to see his parents fighting and killing each other.The child
would blame himself of course.so number one reason is ABUSE.
next is ADULTERY.if there is divorce cheating husbands and wives would be obviously
lessened.why cheat and sin if you can have a new husband and start a new life.
next is ANNULMENT.since this is already legalized why stop divorce?and since our economy is
already going down and most of us filipinos are poor and the annullment cost is high how would
they be able to break free from their living hell of marriage?
I know that marriage is a holy sacrament but does god really wants a loveless marriage full of
hatred and pain?why not marry again and REALLY make it a holy one.
next point is DEMOCRACY.we are free people.philippines is a free country.do not enslave us
from a marriage full of pain.thank you.
i have a debate tomorrow(3rd year high school-15 years old) 🙂
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@Claire
Please read “Jestine Salonga’s” points. They are very helpful in understanding the relationship
of economy and divorce.
You said, “does god really wants a loveless marriage?”
My question is, do we really have to blame God for our irresponsible choice of who to marry?
Believe me, there are more people who wants divorce because of wrong decisions to marry
someone that they though they love only to find out that marriage is not just about “feelings” nor
sex, nor comfort.
Please, do not blame God for that. We are the one who is enslaving ourselves to situations that
we do not want. And then when problem comes, after realizing our mistakes, we want to escape
from it and then blame God? So that’s? Make a law for something that will just gratify our
cravings? Those people who are addicted to illegal drugs love to do it, and they enjoy it a lot…
why not propose to legalize those drugs as well to make it dignified?
Democracy…. yes we are democratic. And we have the right to have a divorce free family. A
family valued at the very beginning before marriage, A family where mom and dad love each
other even before they got married. And that’s how we should value marriage. If we only value
marriage, there is no such thing as a loveless marriage.
I wish I am there to face you in the debate. 🙂
I appreciate your views. I just want to refute them though. 🙂
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Why is everyone thinking just coz a marriage is messed up, it’s coz you chose the wrong
guy/girl??? Helloooo meron ngang isang pastor na iniwan nya ung asawa nya eh! Point is, NO
ONE CAN TELL THE FUTURE. And everything is preordained according to the soverrignty of
God. Kakafocus nyo dyan sa mistake ng mga taong to, baka magulat na lang kayo isang araw
sa inyo o sa isang mahal nyo sa buhay mangyari yan _ na akala nyo they made the right choice
talaga, etc. Cmon. Ever heard of apostates? Haaaaaay. Kakitd.
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Rio on March 12, 2012 at 7:14 pm

yes it’s man moral duty and obligation to know and till the truth. but divorce is not necessarily
destroy morality.corruption, abortion,cheating,adultery or concubinage,and others destroy
morality. I am a guy but i give sympathy to innocent victim of adultery and abuse. Many innocent
husband or wife suffering but still looking for a good one….who are really love them.
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Jestine Salonga on March 11, 2012 at 5:08 pm

nasayang yung mahabang tinype ko for a comment., 🙁 anyway., I’m anti-divorce., but your way
of persuading people is not commendable Your reasoning dwells so much in the Bible., I too,
am a Christian and have read the Bible myself., But people nowadays are not as religious as
they were before., my reasoning dwells on the science and sociology., did you even bother
researching about the reason for the global recession that started in the mighty USA. that
could’ve helped your argument., Three studies state that the recession was a product of
divorce., The foundation of family in the USA trembled before the legalized divorce in their
country., it destroyed the foundation of the family and destroyed the foundation of society., If the
basic unit of society is “disoriented” so will the country it resided. The comment that was lost is 2
hours worth of typing., pity. I’ve discussed a lot of things., anyhow., NO TO DIVORCE.
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@Jestine, Your comment was not lost… it was only held for moderation. But you should see it
now.
I am glad that you are anti-divorce and thank you very much for clarifying that science and
sociology aspect and divorce. That’s really a help.
However, I must clarify that the post is not intended to persuade people. It is intended to open
our eyes of the reality that divorce does not help. Furthermore, this is a religious blog, so you
cannot expect that this will be more scientifically inclined than religiously inclined.
Yun lang nakakatawa minsan because people tend to forget that this is a religious blog instead
of an ordinary blog. LOL.
Anyway, please know that I do appreciate your views. This helps a lot. 🙂 More blessings!!!
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haha. 😀 My bad Pastor. I, as a matter of fact, did forget that this is a religious blog. God Bless
and may God help you in your quest to negate what is being promoted by many. 🙂
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The Pope said, “ours is a church without circumcision”. Since you’re already breaking the first
one, why not adopt the more practical one? Real Catholic don’t disobey the Pope.
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Actually, it is my firm belief that the BIble is never outdated. It has provisions for everything we
go through, everything everyone in this world will ever come across. And yes, it has provisions
on divorce, too. Funny why you don’t see them here. See John MacArthur’s book Divine Design.
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Harriet Madrideo on February 2, 2012 at 10:04 am

As a Filipino citizen and a daughter,can I ask you why you prefer divorce over annulment? The
majority of Filipino marriages is in the point of failure and marriage is the only thing that keeps a
family together. It’s completely selfish!!! You only consider the feelings of the two people who
started ‘the family’,what will happen to the ‘family’ if their parents got divorce.Philippines is still
the Philippines and we dwell in the cultural values and custom traditions our ancestors taught
us. The Philippines together with the Vatican is the only country without divorce.It make us
unique.
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@Harriet… the answer is very simple. Divorce does not help in promoting godliness and moral
values.
Since Annulment is much more difficult and expensive than divorce, people rethink over their
relationships. And all the more before they get marry.
If we will allow divorce, our courts will be flooded with these cases, and people will tend to
abuse its provisions. Just as it happened to all other countries with divorce law.
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So dahil na naman sa pera. hahaha…
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Ptr. Vince on December 10, 2012 at 8:27 am

Hindi lang dahil sa pera… People should learn that marriage is not only valuable because it’s
expensive, but because it is sanctified union.
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That’s exactl\y the point! It’s not just about money (in fact, it’s not about money AT ALL. And not
love, either, but, as the Bible says, two people glorifying God in their marriage) But your
comment made it seem like it was just about the money, as if the money factor will be a
deterrent for couples to separate. Knock knock, open your eyes, you know it’s not.
This is getting tiring. Ang slow ha.
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@isa sa milyon milyong… I can see that you really want to get rid of your “marriage” with your
husband. At the first place, you should have not entered into it. Yes you are right in saying that
the Bible speaks on divorce. I never disagreed with that. I think you can even see that in the
post and some comments. However, that is just a provision because of the hardheadedness of
man. The main point of the passage is that, God is not glorified with marital conflicts that results
in divorce.
The main point Ms. isa sa milyon milyong… is that, people need to go back to what the Bible is
saying about the basics of marital relationship and practice it wholeheartedly. Please note that it
should happen on both sides, man and woman. Kahit sa side mo, if kung ikaw ang
mangangaliwa, it’s basically the same thing. Your husband will want to get rid of you.
I hope you are getting the point of the post. We DO NOT need divorce. We need moral recovery
and the desire to go back to what is right.
Lots of people are attacking me personally instead of my views. Some are even trying to
discredit me. But believe it or not, I have ministered to a lot of cases like yours already. I know
how hard it is and how painful it is. But there’s always hope if the offending party is religiously
willing to work it out and the offended party will open their heart for reconciliation. I have seen
reconciled marriages, and I also have seen totally wrecked marriages. Hindi po makitid utak
ko… Hindi rin sarado mata ko. In fact, it is wide open that’s why I can tell that divorce is NOT a
solution to the growing problem of marital separation, divorce and annulment.
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Annulment is similar to divorce, yes. But they are not, in totality, the same. Harriet, annulment
signifies that a marriage never did happen. It dissolves the marriage completely. Yes, it kinda
sound more negative than what most people know about divorce. But there are certain grounds
for an annulment be recognized. And it’s far too long to discuss it here. Try and see the
Philippines’ family code article 45. Anyhow, divorce also has certain grounds. But there are
three, if I’m not mistaken, types of divorce. And one, and the most hideous of the lot, is the no-
fault divorce. This type of divorce is what I’m pertaining to when I said in my previous comment
that divorce would reduce marriage into a mere sexual permit. I implore you to do your reading
about what you’re promoting. You might regret it when it’s finally come at hand and reveals it’s
true nature.
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You’re not in line with the Vatican as you blatantly ignore the Pope’s request NOT to circumcise
children. Hypocrites. Wannabe Americans
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Gie on January 16, 2012 at 7:24 pm

I want the divorce bill. And I want it so bad and I cant wait for it. say what you want I dont care.
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gil on June 4, 2012 at 10:18 am

I badly want the divorce bill also. Divorce Bill is very much ok for people like me who are already
separated , living alone, and want to build another family again. it is not self centered, its a
helpful way to find my own family and happiness in life. BE OPEN MINDED and BE
REALISTIC!!! I some family are not haapy anymore so why live together? just to say that the
family is intact? its a lie. a family should be happy, why suffer if your not happy anymore? we
are not living in this world to spend a lifetime suffering. so divorce bill is a very helpful answer for
a hell life.
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Pawel on January 4, 2013 at 5:50 pm
The reason why one can easily say that you are self-centered is because we are here to decide
about what is good for the entire country, not what is good for you , because of how you look
into your personal affairs!!! got it ?
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Ptr. Vince on January 4, 2013 at 6:32 pm

@Pawel… it is not what is good for me… it is what is good for the country which you never get a
hold of what we are saying here. The country does not need divorce, it needs moral recovery.
Got it??? And please stop the personal attacks. If you do have an opinion, share it let others
know it without personally attacking me else if you cannot do that, then it just proves that you
are not even analyzing the view so that you can learn from it. And please take note that
comments with personal attacks will strictly be sanctioned and weighed if they are worth
publishing.
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mae on January 13, 2013 at 7:29 pm

i want to ask if what is the effect of divorce to the people.
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Kindly read the article mae. 🙂 Thanks!
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REY NTHNIEL IFURUNG on January 21, 2013 at 7:10 pm
everybody wants divorce! Marriage is a contract nd parties should be allowed to dis-contract. U
r clearly outnumbered. No-divorce is a mere creation of the church.
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george on March 7, 2013 at 10:51 pm

The effect of the divorce in our country is so bad that our country cannot hold on it. Others are
thinking that marriage is only a contract on papers, but what they feels when the time they were
bounded together as one in marriage. It is in the real feeling of Love that makes you inspired. It
is a vow of love and devotion that a man trying to convince a woman he is the right man for her
and promises of unending love. But now when the wife becomes fat and bulging due to the
children and love of husband, A certificate of divorce will be awarded to her.How ungrateful the
proponents of this bill are.
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Rizle Sogradiel on February 13, 2013 at 1:41 pm

Prt. Vince is right!!! we don’t need divorce in our country… all we need is moral recovery… kaya
nga ang kasal ay hindi basta-basta..na kung feeling ng isang couple na “ito na ang tamang
panahon para magpakasal tayo” ay magpapakasal na kayo. kaya nga po before nagiging mag-
asawa ang isang couple ay dumadaan muna sila sa “getting to know you more my love”…
naiintindihan ko po kung bakit gusto ng iba ang maging law ang divorce… pero sana naman
ho… isipin naman natin ang inang bayan… hindi po siya nabubuhay para lang sa ating mga
sariling kagustuhan… sa mga mag-asawa po, lahat naman may solosyun, kung mahinahon po
kayo sa pagresolve ng inyong mga problema. para saan pa na nagbuo kayo ng isang pamilya
tapos ay bubuwagin ninyo lang dahil sa hindi na kayo masaya sa isa’t isa… sana naman po
daanin natin ang lahat sa mabuting usapan at mahinahong paraan… tulad ng turo ng bibliya,,,
opinion ko lamang ito…pasensya po sa mga natamaan..
🙂
♥♥♥
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Dennis on June 4, 2013 at 5:57 pm

Needs Moral Recovery ?
You will never pull that off, Only countries that have managed to do anything like that on a
national level are Theocracies. Are you suggesting a theocratic government, of course not, as
most of us would not care to live in such countries.
What your article doesn’t address is the current status quo. Like the Church is raises a lot of
hoop lah, but falls short of any real answer. Your basically demonizing divorce, which I agree
isn’t always the best answer, but you don’t address repetitive Infidelity or Dead beat
husband/fathers. Hate to tell you this, but morality is pretty set in most individuals by a given
age, Educate them while they are young, but for the time being, the cheaters and the dead
beats need to be dealt with. Divorce is preferable to being stuck in a marriage like that.
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paul on November 14, 2012 at 9:51 pm

@pastor, i just want you to know, na 4th year student po ako, and it would be a great help, kung
malalaman ko po, ang mga sources nyo or yung mga references nyo, i just need it for our
debate. kung okay lang po ay bigyan nyo din po ako ng mga sources, Thank you! and GOD
BLESS!
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Hi Paul!!!
I have here a few links. The first one is the divorce rate around the world:
http://www.graphs.net/201206/divorce-rates.html
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/blackwhiteandgray/2012/05/marriage-and-divorce-statistics/
They are saying that divorce rate in the US has dropped. However, it should also be noted that
“marriages” (meaning legal wedding) stats also dropped. I hope you know what that means.
And here’s the stats for violence against women and children:
http://www.feminist.com/antiviolence/facts.html
http://www.rainn.org/statistics
http://www.tebtebba.org/index.php/content/202-violence-against-indigenous-women-and-girls
Again, here you will see that Divorce NEVER SOLVED ANYTHING EXCEPT for self-
gratification that one is free from the legal obligations of marriage, NOTHING ELSE.
It DOES NOT solve violence against women and children.
It DOES NOT solve poverty.
It DOES NOT solve marital conflicts. It just separates the couple legally, but NOT solve the
conflict.
IT DOES NOT promote better family.
etc.
It allows one to escape from a broken relationship to form another one. But still there’s a HUGE
percentage that everything repeats by itself simply because MARRIAGE is NOT A PROBLEM.
The main problem is, ungodliness, liberalism, lust, and violence that plagued our society. That’s
the reason why we have TONS of domestic problems.
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Blueeye on January 21, 2013 at 1:40 pm

You need to read further study. See what type of Divorce does those countries with high divorce
rates have. Divorce on demand or Divorce on default? Big difference between the two. This is a
hypocritical view on the issue. This does not make any reference to the proposed ground and
process to get divorce. Don’t mislead by giving wrong information. Read the bill first and make
your analysis from there since that is the issue, not your view on divorce.
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How about analyzing it yourself and answer my questions:
1. Did divorce stopped or at least decreased cases of violence against women and children?
2. How did divorce helped solved poverty?
3. How did divorce helped both parties (husband and wife) became better person after divorce?
You know, I can give you a lot of questions used by most of these proponents, but please help
me get some results before you tell me I have the wrong information.
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chuck on November 28, 2012 at 6:35 am

You stand for god? what about the rape of lives the church has hidden all these years…I riches
church on earth. So guess you will be spending the money in hell..
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Ivy on February 19, 2013 at 10:50 pm

I super like! tirahin mo pa tong mga hypocrites na to. Kala mo kung magsalita sila eh may
magagawa sila sa bansa. eh for the country kuno sila di naman nila mapakain ang country dahil
ang pera nila eh pra lang sa church nila! tas anti divorce sila eh di naman nila ma comfort ang
mga couples na di na nga pwedeng maging couples dahim meron nang irreconcilable
difference. Eh kung ang babae naging punching bag na at di na masaya so kailangan naka stick
pa rin sa lalaki dahil pinag isa sila ng dyos? kagaguhan!
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@Ivy, I think you are out of your league. You should respect the opinion of other people. The
next time you post a comment like this, I will block you out of this blog. This blog is a religious
blog and you should respect it. Nobody is acting as hypocrite here. If you cannot accept the
opinion of others, go and search a pro-divorce blog and there express your opinion and
probably your emotion. Furthermore, refrain from attacking other people verbally. Post your
opinion, not your anger for the anti divorce. After all, you probably have had so much anger from
your experiences in relationship.
I will only tolerate this once to make an example of non-helpful comments. Your other comment
has already been turned down and deleted. Hope you understand and learn to respect other
people’s opinion.
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phil on December 27, 2012 at 3:06 pm

You are right god did not ordain man to have a divorce, it is the wishes of man, but reading
further, he did not imposed his will but let the people have their own, because god is not a
dictator, at the end he will punish those who committed transgression against him. Divorce in
my opinion is an option for marriages that cannot be further reconciled by both parties, specially
if parties are no longer respecting one another and has totally there marital obligations to one
another. It can be used against those couple who were forced to marry a person he/she really
did not wanted in the first place to marry. It has pro’s and con’s, immorality is all over the place,
but just like any issues in life and politics, the person must be given that option, and deny him
not that option. Because at the end of the day, God will punish us for the sins with committed
against him, not by the sins of others, for it is written the sins of the parents cannot pass it their
children. Others may revoke me and insist that god look into the sins of the generation who has
committed it unto the 7th generation (pardon me if i cannot totally cite the version in verbatim), if
in case, i may answer it before hand, to what generation and people did he told it?, those it
include the generations of today?, I firmly believe that God is a just God, and he will measure us
to deeds that we made, again, not by other people. God is just and he is not a dictator, he
wanted his people to obey him voluntarily, if this was not the intend he should have not send his
only son to redeem and save those who believe in him.
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Bryan Gene Marasigan on January 23, 2013 at 1:18 pm

i’m respecting your feelings, but don’t think for this in wrong way.divorce is divorce.god doesn’t
want it.END OF
QUOTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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jic on February 13, 2013 at 3:35 pm

ok
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Len on February 25, 2013 at 12:21 am

i am married to a guy who is a drug addict and irresponsible. No job, hobbies are sleeping with
bitches, habitual lying, stealing my own money which i worked really hard for us to have food in
our table. We almost got arrested becoz of him coz he is a drug dealer. i gave everything, even
more.. .coz i used to believe still have the chance to change.. .but being with his mistress now,
never showed up after he got out the rehab, going back to drugs, bringing that girl in our room,
hiding our wedding picture? isn’t it too much? is it not being immoral? i am young and a brighter
future ahead of me. should i just let the marriage destroy my life and choose to stay with that
type of person? come on guys, let’s be sensitive to the feelings of others. we don’t have a
perfect marriage like everyone has.
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Janis on April 4, 2013 at 10:38 pm

people never knew how hard to be in that situation… they can only judge what is right or
wrong… wish one of their family will experience it… destroying women’s life… men are allowed
to do bad things…and women must live to their bad luck… men can do immoral things which is
accepted by the everybody, then the woman must wait until the man will change… do u think
there would be a chance to a man who is enjoying exploiting his wife? i don’t think so… no one
will pay his gambling, his addiction, and support his mistresses…
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mhek on April 16, 2013 at 3:46 am

in the case of abuse, God will allow divorce. but of course, again, God didn’t want divorce in the
first place. it is because of the hardness of men’s heart that God allows this. God cries when
man and wife can’t reconcile. It’s usually because of selfishness and inability to commit to right
behavior.
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sokoken pervis on June 18, 2013 at 11:12 am
reason why i would want a divorce i want to live happily for the rest of my life not the person that
i married because of the likes of my parents thats why the court must agree with the divorce
here in the philippines
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glenn on January 16, 2012 at 11:09 am

it is man’s moral duty and obligation to know and till the truth.. the truth that divorce destroy the
morality of man.
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mae on January 6, 2013 at 1:11 pm

divorce cannot destroy the morality of man. It is man who destroys its morality.
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Emmanuel Sarmiento on January 21, 2013 at 6:28 pm

I agree with you Mae, and I am pro divorce, I happen to find this blog because I’m hardly looking
for the best solution for my parent’s problem, last night they were in fighting again, it’s an
unending drama at home where my papa always hits my mama on the face or anywhere that in
her body, since I was young at age 3 I have always seen them fighting brutally, I love my mother
and she have tried everything already to find solution to this problem, there’s the time when we
go to the doctor and have a medicolegal report after their fight as my mom’s body was full of
bruises, and wounds, that’s not only happened at once, today was our 4th time we did it but
maybe will be the second time that my mother will file a case against my father…I hate my
father, really hate him, so if it’s divorce will be an answer to all women who have the same
problem, I would be glad to say YES to it! divorce is a freedom for me, a freedom that every
suffering women would rather like to have than legal separation.
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Hmmm… your dad should really go to jail. I am anti divorce, but I am not proposing that when a
man is battering his wife, the wife should stick to his husband. You should pursue your case
against your father if that’s the case. Do not hesitate to do it.
About divorce as a law, it may allow you to scape your problem, but it does not resolve any of it.
Your father has to go to jail, because his violent treatment to your mom is a form of abuse which
has to be dealt by the law, and that can be done even without divorce.
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ella on February 25, 2013 at 12:05 pm

Well, let’s say that the wife already filed a case against her husband, it could only be slight
physical injuries to less serious physical injuries. But in the case of Emmanuel’s mother, since
she had only had minor bruises and wounds it might have been slight physical injuries (physical
injuries which incapacitated the offended party for labor from one to nine days or required
medical attendance during the same period) which is punishable by arresto mayor or a
minimum of 1 month and a maximum of 6 months and that’s according to Sec. 6a of Republic
Act No. 9262 (Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children
Act of 2004). And if the husband is already in jail and even if he is sent free after 6 months, why
is there still a need for them to be married? They have physically, d emotionally and
psychologically hurt each other and yet they are still committed to each other because of
“bonds” of marriage. Divorce is not only for people to have freedom to look for another husband
or wife or “freedom to try marriage” but it is also freedom from all the physical, emotional and
psychological pain that troubled relationships bring to each party. And marrying after a divorce
is ONLY an OPTION. And that because you have that OPTION, you will take advantage of it. Of
course, we all have our personal values and philosophies in life and you will always consider
these in making major decisions in life. So I guess this also answers your argument that divorce
will bring down the moral standards of the Filipinos because at the end of the day, a person
should stick to his personal values and beliefs whether we have divorce or not.
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Dkota on January 6, 2012 at 11:49 pm
What happens with women who suffer from abuse by their husbands? they don’t have the right
to be free? Anyone who supports your point of view is nothing but a monkey. So narrow-
minded. It were Spanish whom gave you Christian religion, so if those hadn’t ever gone to that
island, what would have been your ‘culture’ like? I don’t know why all this theather and acting ,
for all these years I’ve come to realise you are one of the most hypocrite people in this
world….c’mon, you always try to evangelize everything and look like saints BUT it’s is know
worldwide PH has one of the highest number of prostitution, girls engage in sexual activity on
average at the age of 12 and you also have those old women in the HIGHEST part of society
(they are supposed to be a pure role model to be followed by the female youth) who
acknowledge themselves as a Saint Virgin to her public face, meanwhile they are using her
money to buy young men and have sex. Why? because divorce is not allowed. But something
tells me, that even if it was allowed, the situation still stinks. As all these things are CLASHING
with CATHOLIC MORAL.
So please, stop pretending you have something to be proud of. You know, a little bit of self-
criticism doesn’t harm, it isn’t like if you were the chosen ones in this huge world, is it?
Peace.
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Vinson on May 26, 2012 at 5:51 am

thats a good article u wrote, alot of people dont thing and want to punish a woman by making
her go thru an annulment and making her get a mental doctor test. thats pure crazi where half of
the philippino population is separated, and also u have to know that catholic religion is not
christain, but philippino congress doesnt care about progress of philippinos only there pocket, if
the congress did they would of pass the law for divorce without going thru all the hassles and all
those outrageous fees and takes forever
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Marlito Poblete on December 12, 2011 at 11:19 am

This is a democratic country, and I’m speaking to this Pastor who had been saying no to
divorce. If you don’t want any law to be passed, then go and find yourself another country. We
should respect each other’s view and opinions. If the Divorce law pass then it is the will of the
majority. This pastor just want himself to be seen a holy man, so why don’t you focus on the
corrupt officials as well? Put yourself in harm’s way for the sake of the people and not just on
this Divorce Bill. If you don’t want it then be a martyr for yourself. You don’t have the right to to
say too much against the bill, are you saying that you’re the best mind to be followed? If it pass
then accept it, it’s the will of the majority of the people.
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Ptr. Vince on August 3, 2016 at 2:32 pm

“This is a democratic country, and I’m speaking to this Pastor who had been saying no to
divorce. If you don’t want any law to be passed, then go and find yourself another country. We
should respect each other’s view and opinions.” — I don’t see any respect of opinion from you
on your side and you are also speaking against yourself when you just stated this is a
democratic country?
“This pastor just want himself to be seen a holy man, so why don’t you focus on the corrupt
officials as well?” – Why work on personal attacks??? To be seen and to work on holiness, isn’t
that what should every Christian do? As what the Bible says; “Be holy for I am holy (Lev. 20:26,
1 Pet1;16)” “As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you
have received. (Eph.4:1)” Please note that Apostle Paul is not even referring just to me, but for
“EVERY” Christian. So….. State your opinion on the matter.
“You don’t have the right to to say too much against the bill, are you saying that you’re the best
mind to be followed?” — I thought you just said we are in a democratic country and we should
respect each others opinion?
“If it pass then accept it, it’s the will of the majority of the people.” — The problem is, it hasn’t
been passed. And if it will be passed, rest assuredly my respect will be on it, but it doesn’t mean
I am switching side. But for now that it hasn’t been passed, my article is my argument why
should it not be passed.
STOP your personal attacks and go to your point “Why should we approve of divorce”. Plain
and simple. I am not claiming to be an intelligent person, and perhaps you are by FAR more
intelligent than me (ONLY that you don’t know how to state your arguments and instead
resolved yourself from attacking me personally). But I am voicing what the Bible say about
morality and divorce. After all… this is a “democratic country”.
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Patricia on December 5, 2011 at 8:52 am
You have an argument there, but then not everyone in the country thinks the same way you do
about divorce. You mentioned that “For example, there is a an abusive husband who have been
divorced by his wife. This husband will then just look for another woman to abuse. While the
woman if she’s the one having some problems, she will just look for another guy and if things
will not get well, all she has to do is to apply again for divorce.” I’m sure that you, like many
other people, will agree for divorce once your marriage goes haywire. More importantly, divorce
is not forced upon anyone who experiences domestic problems. It is a choice. Not all divorced
people will attempt to do it again and again. Divorce may be the solution, and if other people
choose to abuse this right, then it is in their conscience and faith, not yours.
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Dman on November 30, 2011 at 10:18 am

I’m guessing the people who are against divorce are in a happy marriage or never have been
married. I hope that they will never experience anything like an unhappy marriage, it is
absolutely one of the worst things in the World to happen to a couple (family). When 2 people
are no longer seeing eye to eye it is time to separate or divorce….as terrible as that may sound.
I’m not sure where this person is getting his facts from, but anyone can write misleading
information just to get what he wants. There are good & bad sides to all things in life. We are all
here for only a short time (life). We will all make many mistakes & hopefully learn from the
mistakes we make.
I feel their is no right or wrong answer to this problem, but being a divorced Man myself I can
say that not only am I a happier person….so is my Ex Wife. Yes the children & Family structure
will suffer (sorry to say), but I have seen some terrible children coming from Families that have
stayed together in a loveless marriage.
So to stay together to work things out, sometimes you just can’t work things out. Divorce is
necessary as is Marriage. No right or wrong answer. on this topic. Everyone trying to fight the
good fight….who will win & who will lose. Divorce is to generate money to the economy…..so be
prepared for divorce to take over very soon.
Good luck to all those happily married Families…..
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jejeje on October 29, 2011 at 12:39 pm
my kakilala akong couple na nagpakasal lang dhl gusto lang ng babae na kmha ng bahay so
nagpakasal sila pero after ilang years hnd na sila magkasundo panay insulto nung babae sa
asawa at wala pa silang anak.Kaya pag legal na ang divorced d2 sa pilipinas hihiwalayan daw
niya.hnd nmn lht ng babae ang naaapi d2 pati lalaki.
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jejeje on October 29, 2011 at 12:33 pm

hello
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Jane Doe on October 26, 2011 at 10:19 pm

I don’t understand why God would want to preserve a loveless marriage when its more harmful
to keep the marriage intact than for the marriage bond to be severed.
I’m sorry but everytime I hear an argument that begins with, “It is not what God wants”, my ears
fall off and my eyes go blind. How can we be so certain what God wants? Are you really that
superior than everybody else because you know what God wants? Are you God’s prophet now?
At the end of the day, we are all accountable to Him, it’s not up to someone claiming to know
absolutely what God wants.
We should just open our hearts and minds to people who are suffering, that is what Jesus would
have done, and any Christian for that matter would have done. Let us not impose our “superior
moral values” to others. Respect other people’s decision. You are not in the position to judge
whether what they are doing is immoral or moral because you did not experience the suffering
and pain that person went through. Respect!
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Rain on February 5, 2013 at 2:50 am
I agree.
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Kailee on October 3, 2011 at 8:37 pm

@Ptr. Vince, Do you know anyone personally who committed suicide because their parents are
divorced? My cousin and his brother and sister is perfectly fine, my Aunt who had been
separated from her husband had been working more eagerly to help her children and her to
rise, and they’re far more richer than us who have parents who’s staying together. And I know a
lot of people who have divorced parents and they’re perfectly fine, academics, socially,
everything. These statistics are biased.
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Ptr. Vince on October 11, 2011 at 11:31 pm

@Kailee, Oh yes…
Good for your aunt. But it doesn’t mean that the situation of your aunt is the same with other
people. And please don’t ask me if I know people who have been to deep poverty because their
parents have been separated, because I do know people.
If the statistics are biased, can you cite “statistics” that are not biased? Perhaps you can send
us the link. Thanks in advanced.
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CHRISTINE on October 3, 2011 at 6:50 pm
mabuhay po tayo ng naaayon sa kagustuhan ng DIYOS hindi yung naaayon sa kagustuhan ng
tao…
ang taong nabubuhay ng walang DIYOS.. ay ang mga taong hindi makakamit ang TUNAY NA
KALIGAYAHAN.
opo may mga problema tayo pero hindi ibig sabihin nun susuko na tayo..
gawin natin yung mga bagay na alam nating kaya natin at ipagpasa diyos na po natin ang
lahat..
JUST TRUST GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART ..
HE WILL MAKE A WAY FOR YOU.
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jojo on September 29, 2011 at 6:25 am

Sir,
Anim na taon ako sa abroad, pagguwi ko after six years may kinakasama na ang asawa kong
babae na sinupurtahan ko ng pawis at dugo sa pagtatrabaho sa abroad, wala ako naipon, lahat
pinadala ko para maitaguyod at mabigyang magandang bukas ang pamilya ko…pero etu ang
mapait na nangyari sa akin….lawakan nyu po ang isip nyu. hindi etu tungkol sa diyos or sa
morality or kung anu pa man na bagay. lahat tyo po ay may karapatang lumigaya. I have also
my right for the pursuit of my own happiness. SANA IPATUPAD NA ANG DEVORCE BILL
The world is full of fools and faint hearts; and yet surprisingly everyone has courage enough to
speak about the misfortunes of others, and wise enough to manage the affairs, of his neighbors.
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Ptr. Vince on September 29, 2011 at 6:58 am

I’m really feel so sorry about your experience… And I myself is saddened with these kinds of
stories. You are not alone. There are lots of people who have this kind of experience.
Nonetheless, for those of you who are in abroad, or is planning to go abroad, we counselors
never and do not advise that you go abroad alone. Bring your wife with you. Go and work
together rather than working in abroad alone. As much as possible, work in the same country
and stay at the same place. Family comes first money will follow.
You see Jojo, some things happen in our lives because of wrong decisions. Do not make
another wrong decisions as a result of the first. I hope you will be thinking deeper.
I understand clearly your hurts. But divorce is never been a pro-family. I can see that you love
your family but what you hate so much is what your wife did. Divorce will never be the answer
for your hurts.
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friday on September 29, 2011 at 3:32 pm

then what’s is the answer to his pain? never kayong advice na to go abroad? is that a realistic
situation? knowing that most of Filipino ang mga ama nasa abroad while nasa bahay ang mga
ina nag aalaga ng mga anak. dalhin ang pamilya sa abroad? pwede ba yun? usually nasa mid
east yung tatay ang knwoing walang family immigration duon. if you never advice to go abroad
alone then you don’t know the real Filipino family settings. there was one point that you cited
that many children commit suicide because of broken family? may statistical facts ka ba? as a
worker in dept of health parang wala namang stats na maraming bata or teenagers nag
cocommit ng suicide? hindi realistic ang mga adices mo ang kahit isang point walang kang
natumbok sorry to say. your aices is not actual nor factual. i am against divorce but the way i
see how you tackle the issues of those people who come for your advice kahit they see you as
someone who knows a lot,as you project it, but walang clear na helping point na kahit maging
basihan man lang nila sa future decisions nila. sorry but the more you write here the more you
sell yourself and the anti-divorce campaign. wag kag pikon pastor =)
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Ptr. Vince on September 29, 2011 at 4:18 pm

@Friday…. Hmmm… you seem very knowledgeable in your comment… So what do you do to
make it the situation more realistic since my advice as you say is “not realistic”? At ano naman
kaya para sayo ang “katumbok tumbok”? What then can you give that are “actual” or at least
“factual”?
Sorry Friday, but if you just commented for the sake na makapambastos ka, well, your future
comments will be deleted. On the other hand, please make some comments that are “actual”
and “factual”. 😉 This is a place for serious talk… not a bystander’s talk. 😉 I hope hindi ka rin
pikon… Your future comments if it will not add to the value of subject matter and instead you will
be insulting me or anyone else in this thread, will be deleted. So please add value to it.
Sorry for public rebuke. But really, don’t bother to post “senseless – personal attack” comments
again, because you will never see it published. You will just waste your time.
If you are pro… explain why… If you are anti… explain why. It will be accepted. But if you will
post insulting remarks and personal attacks, you are the one selling yourself. Wag ka ring pikon
sana. 🙂 Blessings!
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Married to One have kids By Many!!!!!!! on October 4, 2011 at 12:44 pm

Its amazing that for all your words that each one amount to how stupid you are…
Take your wife with you, dont make me laugh, the last time I remember he work aboard
because you dont have jobs there in the philipines. So after 20 years on working abroad to
support his family and while the wife is there with man in his house spending his money, eat his
food and lying in the bed with his wife, all you can say is “I am sadden by that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wake up and stop drink the wine, so the man comes back now and all is forgive and now hes
happy life goes on. Wow only a fool would say that and I hope he read this. Jojo that is the most
and worst kind of this disrespect a man can get. I am for divorce and you are a good case.
remember this man of God here want say that your kids are in the next room listen to there
mom disrepect dad each nite while you are working hard to support them.
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Stupid? Is it really stupid to desire to bring your wife abroad? Well, I think it will be more stupid if
you will not even try it. I know many couples who did went abroad together and have been very
successful in their marriages as well as in financial terms. Well… if you are really thinking that it
is impossible and don’t even want to try it, then you are far more stupid than me.
Infidelity happens for various reasons. But these are the common reasons:
1. One of the spouse or both do not love each other anymore because of differences.
2. One spouse was tempted because the partner is far and is no longer feeling the love and
filling in the need of each other . This is the case of many OFW’s.
3. One of the spouse was tempted because of the lack of moral convictions where most of you
guys despise the church for pursuing the “moral standards”.
There could be more reasons… but these are the most common. Tell me, are these things
really UNAVOIDABLE??? Now, if you are calling it “STUPID”, then I really don’t know what kind
of thinking you have.
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john on September 29, 2011 at 6:01 am

All of us are experts at practicing virtue at a distance !!!! Everyone are so judgemental !!!
nakakatawa kau lahat! wala kasi kau sa kalagayan ng mga taong may problema sa
“MARRIAGE” na kanilang pinasok. All people has its own circumstances. Wala kayung
karapatan mang husga. Everybody has the right for the pursuit of their own happiness. Huwag
niyo ng isama ang Diyos dito or ang morality.
The world is full of fools and faint hearts; and yet everyone has enough courage to speak about
the misfortunes of others, and wise enough to manage the affairs, of his neighbors. “
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Ptr. Vince on September 29, 2011 at 4:29 pm

@John, I really don’t see any kind of “panghuhusga” dito. If it is “panghuhusga” to say that “we
need to save our marriage.” , “we need to value our marriage”, then alin ba dito ang hindi
panghuhusga? People commit mistakes… that’s normal. But for the anti-divorce side, what we
are just saying is we need to value family, value our marriages. It is actually an encouragement
for us to have a better family.
” Huwag niyo ng isama ang Diyos dito or ang morality.” – Hmmm…. I guess I already have
answered this. Why are we continuously disqualifying moral standards and God in this
issue???? I really don’t get it…
God and his moral standards are the basis of a strong marriage and family relationship. The
divorce issue is NOT just a social issue my friend, it is more than that. It is a “moral issue” it is a
“Biblical issue”, it is a “Cultural Issue” and it is a “Filipino values” issue.
What I am saying is…. we can never disqualify God and moral standards in tackling this issue.
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Ella on September 22, 2011 at 2:21 pm

Tomo!!! We have to make the right decisions. Right decisions can only be achieved if, and only
if, we would make our stand with God. Many people are making themselves fool by making a
decision outside God’s teaching, then when they had experienced difficulties in the situations
would blame God. Does God wants you to make that decision? No! It’s you who made that. I
could say that, before enter any relationship esp. “marriage” (which is a lifetime decision), think
over and over, and over again…not just on emotional aspect but have to look in all aspects esp.
spiritual aspect of the person you want to marry. In addition, I think those people who do not
want to talk about morality…do not really care if they will have a broken family and worst, that
they don’t care if their children will have a broken family in the future. These people would really
be pro-divorce! But if you want a lasting and happy married life..you would surely be anti-
divorce. It’s just making the right choice of the person from the start. Just to reiterate, that
person must be godly..must be God-fearing and God-loving person and you would be happy…
🙂
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John on September 19, 2011 at 7:51 pm

Every argument stated has something to do with morality, is it the FILIPINO way to be a wife
battering, cheating man in the Philippines? Where was God when these women were taken out
of their rights to live a happy life? God gives us choices and we have to make the right decision.
Even the church believes in reconciliation, which is basically asking for a second chance. If
Catholicism was so great we should trust it’s teachings and wouldn’t be afraid even if divorce
was legalized. Saying no to it, just proves that Catholicism is against becoming modern because
it will just prove themselves wrong yet again.
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LBC on September 12, 2011 at 4:30 pm

The philippine law gives alternative of separation like legal separation and annulment, does it
really important to have divorce? Isn’t it more important for two people to separate than pass
this divorce bill? If the divorce bill will be passed, i do not think the philippines is ready for it,
because mostly filipinos are catholic and not just that, most of them are conservative too,
whether or not you like it.
and how can divorce be prevention of the increase in population if a person can leave his kids,
remarry again and have children again? come on, it is not that hard…
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Kaye on September 11, 2011 at 2:18 am
You may want to consider reading my position on the matter based on legal, philosophical,
societal, and Christian perspectives in http://www.ayoungchristianwoman.com/?p=339.
Kaye´s last blog post ..Kalunos- lunos na Sitwasyon ng Kahirapan sa Pilipinas
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jepp on August 4, 2011 at 10:43 pm

the 1st victim of divorce are the siblings of the couple!
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steven on August 1, 2011 at 8:37 am

think pls
what if one of thé persons hurt thé other person bad
so you mean stay together and hurt eachother more so it will be better
come out of your fake dream and be real pls
sometimes people het married for thé wrong reasons so they have to het out of it
so stop hiding behind a bible and come to reality
i wonder if this msg will be printend
hope to hear from you
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Ptr. Vince on August 1, 2011 at 8:56 pm

I think I already have answered this example. Kindly read the previous comments. Thanks!
What I don’t understand here however, is that there are people who says they are “Christians”
and they believe in the Bible, “YET” wants me to take away the Bible for this discussion.
Divorce, brethren is not JUST a “SOCIAL” issue… it is a “MORAL” issue where the Bible should
be the basis of morality? Right??? Else, taking out the Bible of the picture will be like putting out
the BASIS of MORALITY. Tell me, why should I put out the Bible out of the picture?
Is it because the Bible is a “FANCY” representation and is almost a FICTION? Get over it
guys… It is the basis of morality and it directs us in identifying what is right and what is wrong.
Unfortunately, the Bible says Divorce is wrong… Sorry guys!!!
Let me give you a challenge, why not follow the Bible, do what it says…. everyone of you who
wants divorce. Let me give you a verse, Ephesians 5:22-33… Live it out for at least 2 years.
Then come back to this post and tell me what happens to your marriage.
Oh… you got to try that first and do everything you can to fulfill it. It is only then you will get your
answer if you really need divorce. If it will not work out your marriage, please come back to this
post and tell me that you MUST have it.
Want reality??? This is reality… this is what life is…
If you cannot do my challenge… it simply means that you “DO NOT” want reality…. you want to
escape from the reality that marriage indeed in MOST cases can be saved. You just don’t want
to have any effort for it.
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jojo on September 29, 2011 at 6:50 am

The world is full of fools and faint hearts; and yet surprisingly everyone has courage enough to
speak about the misfortunes of others, and wise enough to manage the affairs, of his neighbors.
Pastor Vince, with all due respect, Divorce is not about God, its not about morality, its about
having a choice..being free to choose…to have the right to the pursuit of our own happiness…to
protect oneself from the harms and dangers of marriage..from battering husband to the
unfaithful wife..to the irresponsible man etcetera…everyone has a choice.
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Ptr. Vince on September 29, 2011 at 7:16 am

Jojo,
Once again, I would like to express my sympathy to what happened in your life. But you are
wrong in saying “it’s not about God, it’s not about morality”. Family was instituted by God, where
he created man and woman to become one. God owns the family. The family was not created
just for you to be happy, but to glorify God. But sin creeps in and destroys family.
God instituted moral standards so that we can be guided on what we should do to keep that
family. But again, it was the sin that continuously disagree and disqualify the moral standards.
I will give you a hint; what if your wife kept the good moral standard? What if she did not do it
and she had been very faithful to you and to your family? Do you think you will grieve? Do you
think you will say that you want to divorce your wife? I guess the answer will be “NO”? Why?
Because she kept her promise, she kept that morality that you disqualify to be the basis.
So tell me, is it not really about good morality? Is not really about God?
Godly family makes a happy family. If husband and wife follow what God said, there will be no
divorce, no unfaithfulness, no separation. And I think we ourselves need to focus in that area.
Believe me Jojo, even if you get divorced, if you yourself or your next wife does not follow the
moral standards, you will always end up in grief and your family destroyed. That’s the reason
why you will see lots of people (Americans, Europeans, etc) who have been divorced several
times, and until now was not able to find the happiness that they are looking in the family.
If you want to be happy on marriage, follow the moral standards from the Bible, teach and lead
your wife to do the same. If you are single, get a religious wife who does the have a high moral
values especially about family, and you will have a happy family. 🙂
I do hope you will get a better picture of what family is all about. God bless!
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Rachelle on July 22, 2011 at 3:22 am

If you really love one another, you will remain together loving each other forever. Divorce is only
an option for those people who are into a very complicated situation. I guess it will be more sef
centered if you will only think of your opinion because you’re lucky enough to find a partner
who’s willing to spend the rest of his/her life with you no matter what. And I believe it is not fair
to focus only on one idea without considering other ideas. Besides, you don’t need to fear for
the presence of divorce in our law if you believe there’s love, trust, and respect in your marriage.
I believe everybody deserve to find someone whom they can spend the rest of their lives
peacefully and content.
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JUAN DELA CRUZ on July 19, 2011 at 1:49 am
FOR A GUY WHO SPEAKS OF GOD AND CHRISTIANITY, YOU PISS ME OFF.
At least understand what you’re talking about before making stupid claims without proof. And if
you plan on providing perspectives from both sides, you’d better stay away from being
prejudiced in the first place, and stay way away from being sarcastic. Dude come on. I have
nothing against contradicting divorce. But if you plan on convincing people, I’d rather have
someone else do it. Cause you’re reasoning, besides being completely narrow and prejudiced
towards others (which is in the Bible NOT TO, see GOOD SAMARITAN), is completely
disorganized and weak.
You make the Church look like an idiot. DUDE COME ON. PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH,
OR DON’T PREACH AT ALL. I don’t mean to be hating, BUT COME ON.
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Ptr. Vince on July 19, 2011 at 7:25 am

@Raffy aka Juan De La Cruz
I did my assignment, and did some study about the issue… I certainly understand what I am
talking. And I do practice what I preach and that’s why I am anti-divorce, because the Bible is
always anti-divorce. You should read it so that your wisdom about the issue will grow.
I don’t make the Church look like an idiot. It is only you who wants divorce that makes the
church an idiot. The Church and the Scriptures will stand in its moral standards.
Who’s narrow minded? Is it he who studied the issue and stand for what is upright and practice
what he preaches? Or is he who keeps on babbling and hating other people’s stand without
even studying and completely understanding why he is doing it???
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Raffy Raralio on July 19, 2011 at 10:29 am

I did my research too Ptr. Vince. I apologize for the excessive language used, sincerely.
But sir, if you indeed did the research on the topic, you have failed to balance out the argument
by providing the side of pro-divorce, and then contesting it. I’m Christian also, I know what I’m
talking about. I’m just saying, for a an article from the Church’s point of view, this article did not
work for me.
This was inappropriate: It would’ve been better if you didn’t post this. Its an insult to the people
who really do think about whether it works or doesn’t work.
Here’s the summary of the advantages of divorce:
* Spouses will have a “second chance” for a happier life.
* Spouses will have a “second chance” for a non-violent life.
* …. “second chance”
* to be happy…
* to be happy…
* to be happy….
My goodness… is there any solid advantages of divorce bill than being self-centered and selfish
reasons??? What about your family??? What about your children??? That’s what family is for…
Divorce is not only anti-Filipino, but is anti-Family and anti-marriages. It simply opens a wide
range of disadvantages over the family.
This does not look like it came for research. You researched on one side of the coin, or have
chosen not to provide the other side of the argument.
I’m not pro, nor am I against it, that is why I’m researching. Other articles have formed sound
points about the issue, by keeping calm, by exerting effort not to sound all high-and-mighty. This
article would’ve been more effective if the basis of the argument wasn’t on one-click American
Divorce Stats found on every generic internet site, and if it wasn’t too Bible centric without the, If
it too actually did talk more about modern day situations and contexts of the Filipino people.
For an open mind, this was a very closed argument.
I’m sorry for the previous comment, it was also too, uncalled for.
I mean no offense, I just needed to voice out an opinion.
Good day.
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@Raffy, I really do not see anything inappropriate in my post. If you only read the title, this is
“An Anti-Divorce Stand” and therefore, you should expect that I already have put my decision to
support anti-divorce, after all, I am a moralist.
I have seen all these debates…. and articles about it…. what else should I need to learn from
the bill? It has its pros and cons… unfortunately, on the moralist point of view (like me) it far
outweighs the disadvantages that we can get from its advantages.
Raffy, life is not just about happiness, but it is about obedience to the Scriptures and to the Lord.
No theologian will ever stand that divorce is God’s will.
You call it “an insult to the people who thinks if it works or not”, but did you ever think that the
law itself is also an insult to the Christian faith? I am simply expressing my stand about it, so as
the pro-divorce on their side. But the question is, did I insult those people? Nope, I think not. I
am simply rebuking them especially that I belong to the religious sector.
My challenge is very simple for those pro-divorce people, present us “REAL ADVANTAGES”
where people can have long lasting benefit from this law where families will be united, where
families will be settled, where families will be fed, where families will be nurtured. If they can
present that, then I would probably change my mind.
But as for now, I see divorce as:
– anti-family
– anti-morality
– anti-Christianity
– and anti-Filipino
They said it protects the children… if so, then why is there so many cases of suicide among
broken families?
They said it protects the women… if so, then why is there still so many cases of violence
against women?
They said it gives you freedom… then why is it that there are so many cases of multiple
divorces? What freedom do you need?
They said it is pro-family… but why is unfaithfulness became so rampant and cheating from
their spouses has become a norm?
Raffy, divorce is NOT a solution. The solution is fear of God, and in-depth moral values. Read
the Bible and it will teach you that you need to love your wife as you love yourself, so as for the
wife should respect her husband (Ephesians 5). If these teachings will only be followed and be
taught, and be lived out by each Filipino couple, you can expect a radical change of life. The
true key to successful marriages is in the Bible. This has been the key since the ancient times,
even so will it remain to our modern times. This principle never fades no matter how you viewed
it.
Sometimes we are very skeptic against the Bible, simply because we are not willing to follow
what it say and we think that reading it is NOT “IN” in our generation. That quoting Biblical
insights is overly reacting and a stupid way of reasoning, and is being close minded…. No
Raffy, the Bible gives a lot of solutions to our problems. Why don’t you try it? Read it, study it,
and live it… after a year come back to this site and tell me if there is a change in your life.
By the way, you should understand that my website is a “Religious” website not a “Legal” and
generic opinion website. It is a God-centered and Bible-centered website. It’s goal is to teach
and to disciple, and influence people by God’s word… But of course, it is up to the people if they
accept the Bible teachings or not. So, please, don’t expect that this will talk something good
about immoralities even if it is legal.
Don’t expect that this website will say, Lotto is good because it is legal… nor “divorce is a
solution” when it does not build families. You should know that. If you are really looking for a
view of pro-divorce, then you can find lot over the net. This website is only one of the FEW who
openly express that WE ARE ANTI-DIVORCE.
I accept your apologies. No offense taken.
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james on September 23, 2011 at 10:58 am

Abuse to women and children always they say when they talk about divorce but did they ever
consider the feelings and emotion of the affected couple or family. Deciding to divorce is not that
easy they need to consider many things if they are just living together without love is more
pathetic because living together but having a having a relationship to other person are more
sinful to the eye of God than separating and just move on. And when i read this part of article
which state this “For example, there is a an abusive husband who have been divorced by his
wife. This husband will then just look for another woman to abuse. While the woman if she’s the
one having some problems, she will just look for another guy and if things will not get well, all
she has to do is to apply again for divorce. Ridiculous isn’t it? It is just a picture of FREEDOM
TO TRY MARRIAGE.”
I think the husband is not a Husband his was an abuser his not looking for love but for lust and
abuse. Who was a damn man who’s from divorced will enter in a relationship just the same what
he entered, of course he will choose a better relationship than he had the last time. And who’s
this damn Woman that will marry a man which she knows is abusive. I think divorce had a bad
and good effect to our Country bad in the part that we are a christian and family oriented country
good in part that we will still live a second chance and move on living in a better relationship..
and please explained about the woman in the bible having a 7 husband.
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This comment’s absolutely right. On my part, though, I don’t mind the fact it’s Bible-centric, to
use your term above, as long as it presented EVERYTHING the Bible states about divorce. The
Bible DOES have a provision for divorce but only on the grounds of infidelity/fornication and
abandonment, espcially between a believer and unbeliever.
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Nhene on January 19, 2012 at 10:37 pm

I totally agree with you Pastor Vince. I am Anti-Divorce. I am married and my husband and I
love each other faithfully. Though people try to criticize our relationship because of our age gap,
but I don’t care because all I know God gave him to me. Like other marriages, we’ve
encountered challenges, problems and issues in our marriage but we openly talked with each
other our feelings, and dislikes in a right manner, then we forgave each other and moved on.
Prayer, love and understanding are the important things to have a strong relationship. Divorce
doesn’t help to solve problems but it teaches immorality which contradicts to the principles of
the Bible. Being an Anti- divorce it doesn’t mean I am hindering the prosperity of our country but
NO! Divorce bill doesn’t help the property of our country.
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maturation on July 10, 2011 at 3:48 pm

BOO!!! try to grow up people….
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noreen on July 9, 2011 at 12:08 pm

mga bro & sisters, tin is right.phirap ng phirap ang pinas at lhat n lng ng nging presidente dto ay
isinisisi ang khirapan. yet ayaw nman mg-control ng bwat pamilya. f sarado ang mga isip,values
at kung anu-ano p ng mga pilipino s gnyang mga batas n gustong ipatupad ng ating mga
mambbtas, wg n taung umasa n mkkbangon p ang ating bansa,,,,,try to look around, observe,
evaluate and most of all “THINK”…..i’m a catholic, but then i’m not againts rh bill and divorce
law…
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cristine claire dramayo on February 27, 2012 at 4:08 pm

hmmm what do you think? is philippines ready for selective divorce?
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Ptr. Vince on February 28, 2012 at 11:56 am

@cristine… I think nope.
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Ella says:
September 22, 2011 at 2:21 pm
Tomo!!! We have to make the right decisions. Right decisions can only be achieved if, and only
if, we would make our stand with God. Many people are making themselves fool by making a
decision outside God’s teaching, then when they had experienced difficulties in the situations
would blame God. Does God wants you to make that decision? No! It’s you who made that. I
could say that, before enter any relationship esp. “marriage” (which is a lifetime decision), think
over and over, and over again…not just on emotional aspect but have to look in all aspects esp.
spiritual aspect of the person you want to marry. In addition, I think those people who do not
want to talk about morality…do not really care if they will have a broken family and worst, that
they don’t care if their children will have a broken family in the future. These people would really
be pro-divorce! But if you want a lasting and happy married life..you would surely be anti-
divorce. It’s just making the right choice of the person from the start. Just to reiterate, that
person must be godly..must be God-fearing and God-loving person and you would be happy…
🙂
🙂🙂🙂
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People, Filipinos, nowadays lose their hope for our country and that, as I see it, is the second
worst problem of our country — having the lack of discipline as the first. I, for, one, is not a
hypocrite of my words. A lot of times people look at me as if I’m crazy, not crossing morayta on
a green light, but I’m just abiding the laws and being a responsible citizen and people think and
see me stupid. I really hope that you guys would not give hope up for our country. I’m far more
qualified to go and work abroad but I stayed because I know that my people need me more. I
stayed because I believe that with some aide, Filipinos would see that our country still has IT,
we have hope still.
Divorce is one heavy subject to discuss. But as I see it, divorce would not help our country.
Family is the basic unit of the society and divorce has the tendency to lower the foundation of a
family. And a weak foundation of a family reflects a weak foundation of a society, more so, a
nation.
Divorce is basically a broken vow. I value my words, my promises to people around me. But
what I value more is my promise to God. The vows we say on our wedding days is not just a
vow we make to the person before us but also a vow we make before our God.
Divorce would not serve a solution to marital problems but an escape-route. Marriage is not a
game where you could try again when you lose, it’s a SERIOUS COMMITMENT. Don’t start a
relationship if you don’t intend it to last, more so, don’t go into marriage if you’re not to keep it. I
value relationships greatly — friendship, kinship or whatever relation that is, even rivalry. One
should give time to know his partner well before going into marriage. Rushing things up never
yields a good result. With divorce, marriage will lose its meaning. Marriage is not just a piece of
paper, marriage is waaaaaaay far more than a piece of paper. THIS IS TO SAY THAT
PREVENTION IS BETTER THAT CURE.
But is some inevitable cases, wherein people are already in marriage and facing a whole deal of
a problem, here’s my answer to that. “A LOCKSMITH WOULD NOT MAKE A LOCK WITHOUT
A KEY, AS GOD WOULD NOT GIVE PROBLEM WITHOUT A SOLUTION.” All problems has a
solution. If it doesn’t, then it’s not a problem. As I to what I’ve said earlier, divorce does not
serve a solution but a escape-route. Let’s us say that one managed to be divorced from an
abusive partner then remarried. Having divorce as an option would promote escapism. With a
smallest of a problem couple might resort to divorce and not try to solve their problems as loving
and responsible partners would do. Then again, marriage will lose it’s meaning. Marriage will
just turn into a piece of paper that will legalize marital act such as making love or having sex, a
mere sexual permit.
As a matter of fact, studies tell that the global recession that started in the mighty USA was a
result of divorce. If the basic unit of the society is not properly oriented, how would the whole
nation be? Divorce then, posed as a threat to a country as mighty as the USA. Imagine what
divorce would do in our society, the Philippines. It would certainly be tragic, devastating, even
obliterating.
Anyhow, that is just my opinion. I’m not forcing my idea to anyone. Although, most people who
had heard my reasoning towards divorce, even those who are promoting it, had a change of
heart. They saw my arguments are not just Biblical as most Con-divorce are. I’m rational. And
with my reputation with my colleagues, they cannot argue.
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Angela Ilagan on July 7, 2011 at 8:44 am

Check out this video about the Divorce Bill. Really interesting! http://www.youtube.com/watch?
v=9LsO00rq2ec
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Hahaha… the video is nice to watch… But it was more like a joke as far as I am the one who’s
watching it.
In the video, it flashes the causes of legal separation/ annulment application. Unfortunately, the
fact remains…. DIVORCE CANNOT SOLVE THEM!!!
Divorce is like this: We have a disease in the body. And in order to take away that disease, we
need to get rid of the body.
When we are united, we become one… so the body represents the marriage relationship. But it
suffering from a disease. It has to be cured. It has to be treated. But instead of doing it, we want
to destroy that body just to get rid of the disease.
Divorce DOESN’T BRING CHANGE. If it does, hundreds of thousands of couples in the world,
even millions would have a better life. But no… another BIG FACT: LIFE GETS WORST!
Ang Divorce Bill ay isa sa pinaka walang kwentang batas dahil ito ay HINDI nagsosolve sa
totoong problema. It tears down the basic unit of the society, it brings MORE INFIDELITY, it
brings MORE immorality, it brings MORE POVERTY, it brings MORE suicidal cases… In short,
it DOESN’T solve anything, but bring MORE PROBLEMS than solutions to our society.
People just want it because of an EASY GET AWAY for their problems. But get what??? Life is
not easy.
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Married to One have kids By Many!!!!!!! on October 2, 2011 at 10:10 am
Have you live there lives???? You have no ideal of what you are talking about you sound very
ignorant and you call yourself a man of god please you fool. You say one thing and when
confronted with the very problem, from the womans who is abuse and beaten you answer
earlier “I sympathize” That makes you a hypocrite. Is your wife beating you? I see now why you
are against divorce maybe you are hiding something yourself.. If your closet door open what
may spill out….
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Tish on October 5, 2011 at 10:02 pm

Yo Ptr. Vincent just got PWNED.
Personally speaking, I am a child of an annulled couple. My parents have waiting 10 years to
seperate legally and it finally happened. I have no bias against divorce at all. Having divorce as
an available option only strengthens the bond, because if the love of a married couple is true,
even if the option of divorce is available to them, they will try and work it out.
Why do think we are the ONLY COUNTRY in the world wherein divorce is illegal? Are we
morally superior to them and holier because of this?
No. We have a disgustingly corrupt government, increasing poverty and unhappy citizens. But
it’s alright, our morals are backed up by the church right?
Wrong.
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Yo Tish!!!
So what are you going to do with that??? Backed it up with an immoral law??? Naaah…
wrong…
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chuck on January 9, 2012 at 1:06 am

Good for them but I hate the lawyers got rich of of them. I wonder how must the church cut
was…
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Corrine Sugue on July 6, 2011 at 4:26 pm

You have a point and I respect your opinion regarding this very controversial issue. I am a
Christian and I have a very big faith in Him. But with regards to this issue, I think whether
Divorce in the Philippines will be legalize or not, it doesn’t matter because the decision to
sustain ones Marriage is still up to the two persons involved and what they believe in. And with
regards to issues of moral and cultural Filipino values, I don’t think it will be a problem if from the
start of a child’s life they were already taught strong moral and cultural values within the family.
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tin on July 6, 2011 at 3:56 pm

i work here in Norway where divorce function well. walang pilitan,kng ayaw na ayaw na,move
on. it really works. kids here are well adjusted, no pressures, no stress. i got married july of
2002, i am from visayas, while he is from luzon. i was 2 mos pregnant when he went home to
his mom because he said he has to be on his mother side coz she’s sick. he has 4 siblings
more who lives within the block from his mom’s house. that was feb 2004. he visits me & the
kids 3 times within 18 mos,then the last time he saw the kids was apr 2007… i went here to
work jan 2010, i keep on telling him visit the kids becasue they are asking about you, it’s just a
plane away but still nothing from him. easy for others to say commitment & family counseling or
whatever they can think of… to each is own, not everything is applicable to everybody so i think
it’s about time we get in touch to reality & not be so emotional about life with all our dramas ,
move on & prosper. walang pilitan pra eveybody can live their lives, live & let live,simple lng un,
kung ayaw na nila bakit nyo pipilitin eh malay nyo naman sa mga buhay nila kasi kayo masaya
naman kayo sa buhay nyo. don’t be s negative,hinid pa nga na try, kaya hindi umaasenso ang
pilipinas kasi we don’t welcome change. the government can’t take care of 99M population,
anong problema sa prevention as long as hindi naman abortion ang pinag uusapan dito? bible
is written in ancient times, may mga bagay na hinid na applicable dyan, i believe in GOD but
let’s not be blind & hypocrite. open your mind, buhay nila yan so don’t be nosy & makialam. i
feel i have to dissolve my marriage, my kids don’t have a normal family life either. having a
father who doesn’t want to see for reasons i don’t understand. so how can i have a so called
family is one member is missing? i don’t think i had a married life to begin with, i am alone in
raising my kids, when one child is in the hospital i asked him to visit, no papa showed, the child
begged him, nothing… one thing more, he SOMETIMES sends money. can you see any
REALISTIC solution to this? thanks.
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Hi Tin!
First, I sympathize with you. Life indeed is not easy. Life is hard, and someone unfair especially
with others. Sometimes we do mistakes that we really do regret and we want to turn everything
around. We want to be more happy than what it was before. We want to get away from the
miseries of life. “Do not dwell in the past” this is what we always think.
But Divorce Bill is not a “SOLUTION” to marital problems. I am not saying that you should stick
with your spouse that is hurting physically or emotionally. Though irreconcilable relationships
does exists, Divorce is not really the answer. AGAIN, I MUST stress out that there has been NO
POSITIVE results of divorce. It did not lessen violence against women, child abuse, and other
things… rather it drags the people to “shallow” view of love and marital relationship where they
view sex as something only for pleasure.
Yes, you are right, the Bible was written in the ancient times. But the “MORAL VALUES” it
teaches especially about love is not bound by time. It is immortal, it is UNIVERSAL.
For sure, you do not want your children to have a broken family someday. For sure, you still
hope that they will find the best partner for them. But that’s NOT gonna happen if you will
support divorce.
WHY???
Simply because it teaches people to be more immoral and teaches the children to have a
shallow view on sex, relationships and marriage. AGAIN, there is nothing positive about divorce,
only a disillusionment of freedom from the past.
I do respect your stand… it’s up to you. But I’ve seen more people who ended up marrying not
just twice but multiple times than just simply correcting what went wrong in the past.
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chuck on January 9, 2012 at 1:03 am
I quess that dont include Bar Girls
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Ptr. Vince on June 13, 2011 at 9:07 am

Traumatized??? What could be more traumatic for children who commits suicide??? Stats say
there are more children who commits suicide whose parents were divorced than having an
intact family. So what does this mean??? It simply means that divorce is not really the answer.
Furthermore as I said, we really can’t stop couples from parting ways if they really chose to.
That’s why we have legal separation and annulment. It’s basically other terms for divorce as far
as the expert of the law said. The only difference is that it is more difficult to justify their
separation which will most likely give the couple more opportunity to re-think and re-try their
marriage to work out.
One thing that we need to keep and understand as Christians is to VALUE OUR MARRIAGE
and our VOWS. Now, I really don’t believe that we give that value if support laws like this.
The Bible is strong in its stand, GOD hates divorce. ONLY MAN wants it that’s why it was
allowed. Our stand should be on God’s side. Now, if you are not with Him, then you are against
Him…. Divorce is divorce… Yes it can be forgiven, but why would I encourage couples to
consider it? I will never do that.
I do understand people who have been through tough times. And I don’t condemn them from
being separated. But again, it is not a reason for me to encourage them to separate their ways,
but rather I would encourage them to follow God’s word of love and respect between spouses.
To summarize:
Divorce is too secular, too carnal and unChristian. It is NOT A CHRISTIAN WAY…. and I would
say it again, IT IS NOT A CHRISTIAN WAY to encourage divorce. If you are a Christian pastor,
a Christian Counselor or Minister and you are PRO-Divorce, then I would say you are standing
on a shaky grounds theology and morality. No theologian could ever say that God “loves”
divorce… not even close to say that it is “God’s will”.
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anonymous on July 3, 2011 at 8:50 pm
is that so.. given a situation that a woman is beaten by the husband and is also raping his
children or harassing them would you still stand protecting a marriage that is already harming
the children, with all the domestic violence that are already happening woman have the right to
stand up and dissolve the marriage that is ruining the life of her children or vice versa.. divorce
is not just to ruin marriage and pure negative lets also open our minds to its positive sides…
divorce is not also just given to those who want it it has a process. you are anti divorce why not
dissolve annulment. anyway they are alike by all means have you ever thinked about it
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Nobody is saying that a woman has to stay with her husband basing on your description. But I
really don’t think that divorce is the best solution for that problem. The point is, people want
divorce as an ‘IMMEDIATE SOLUTION” for marital problems, which I really don’t agree.
Divorce has HUGE NEGATIVE effects to the following:
1. Biblical moral values.
2. Cultural (Filipino) moral values.
3. Marriage.
4. Family
5. Children
6. Society
Even though many people say we need to be “OPEN MINDED” for divorce…. the GIANT Fact
is…. there is NOTHING POSITIVE about divorce.
It DOES NOT:
1. Satisfy Biblical standards.
2. Satisfy cultural values.
3. Help marriages.
4. Promote family – it DESTROYS Family.
5. Build confidence for the children. In fact more children commit suicide and more children
becomes PROBLEMATIC children and then later on becomes the problems of the society.
6. Help economically. In fact more people was added to the poverty level.
WHAT DOES IT SOLVE??? NOTHING!!!
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Karina on September 8, 2011 at 10:28 pm
If you took your ass out of your comfy, sheltered life and actually considered the possibility that
maybe some people are just plain incapable of being in a committed relationship, maybe you’d
see where anon is coming from.
Citation needed, please?
On all of your claims?
From an unbiased source? (Unbiased, meaning the Bible does not count.)
BTW, using capslock and a large amount of “!!!” does nothing to make your point more valid. It’s
the equivalent of shouting in a debate, which makes you look and sound ridiculous.
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You should really read John MacArthur’s Divine Design. Even he found it a pain to declare the
Bible has provisions on divorce. But because he has the responsibility to lay down everything
the Bible says about a topic on the table, he did. You are presenting only what you want to, not
what the Bible is entirely saying. You are cherry picking for your own purposes.
” if there’s any confusion about the subject of divorce it is not due to the fact that God has given
us a confused picture in the Bible it is due to the fact that so much sin has entered into the world
that it has confused the simplicity of what God has said. God is very clear in the Bible about the
issue of divorce.”
~ John MacArthur
I Corinthians 4:17
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Married to One have kids By Many!!!!!!! on October 2, 2011 at 9:50 am

It sound like you are hiding something? What about the priest who have traumatized the
children to kill themselfs after being sexually assaulted, this is a church control situation and you
know it. You will have the same cycle repeated itself over over over again. So I guess you have
a church full of sinner that hate each other but along as they are is your church!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it is
ok…
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Maui on June 13, 2011 at 5:33 am

Cmon!!! We are living in a modern world. Children with divorced parents are fine like children
who has both parents. So you think it’s better to traumatized children everyday while parents
are fighting everyday living their pathetic lives together? Children are children, they are not
stupid! you want to traumatize them over over and over again because their parents can’t get a
divorce? Cmon people, being narrow won’t get ph somewhere… I say traumatize the children
once and if they end up crazy, then there are shrinks who need jobs. I myself came from a
broken family, and it would sadden me if my mom stayed with my abusive father.
Duh, if course it would never heal the wounds, but at least parents can move on and be happy.
Modern world, don’t be narrow 🙂 yes to divorce!
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Milanor on June 28, 2011 at 12:54 pm

Where there is an abusive spouse/partner, there may be a season of “therapeutic separation”
where the objective is to ensure the physical and emotional wellbeing of the victimized spouse
and any children, while the abusive spouse receives help to deal with his/her issues. I know of
some marriages where this happened. I am sorry you went through what you did, Maui, but I do
hope you someday realize that God can definitely and actually change people and turn
marriages around. Peace to you. 🙂
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tin on July 6, 2011 at 4:00 pm

i agree, let’s be realistic & not be hypocrite, kng hapi kau sa life nyo,merong mga hindi dahil sa
maling decisions, walang pilitan kasi para wla nang drama sa mundo. sa buong mundo Pinas
nlng at vatican ang walang divorce, at we are now 99M in population kasi ayaw sa prevention.
wag makitid ang ulo pra may asenso.
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Ptr. Vince on June 12, 2011 at 9:27 pm

Nobody is saying here to force a couple to live with each other without the love factor. The point
here is all about the ease of making the decision of separating from each other. Having a
divorce bill will never heal the couple from the wounds of their failed relationship.
About the kids, I guess you will have to do some research about the detrimental effects of
divorce to children. And I assure you that the disadvantages outweighs the advantages you get
for your children in having a divorce. So I guess you will need to erase that for a good deal of
reason.
As what the article says, divorce is more on a self-centered idea of solving a relationship
problem. It’s all about gaining “MY LIFE” from a wrong and careless decision of the past.
Approve divorce and you will see a landslide moral degradation of moral and biblical standards
and values.
I would say NO to divorce.
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Angela Ilagan on July 7, 2011 at 8:42 am

Hey guys, watch this video about the Divorce Bill. Whether you are pro or not, this is
interesting.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LsO00rq2ec
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ronald santos on June 12, 2011 at 9:05 am

It will be more sinful if we force the two persons to reconcile despite the absence of the love
factor. It will be deliterious to the family and leads to more unhappiness and psychological
trauma and stresses to the kids seeing their parents quarrel everyday.
Divorce is good to help them relieve of that stress and also protect both parties legally in their
own personal safety and interest. Dont be mistaken that divorce is done only because they want
happiness since more and more people now do not choose to remarry after an unhealthy
married experience. They only need divorce decree to recapture that previous life that was
stolen from them out of a failed marriage.
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Milanor on June 28, 2011 at 12:46 pm

Dear Ronald, love is a decision and commitment; it is carried out through actions. True love is
not limited to the level of feelings. That is exactly why GOD–who is love–continues to love us
despite our faults and failures. I have read about, and personally known many marriages, where
it was getting the right help–counseling for the family, and perhaps on an individual level for the
husband and for the wife; a commitment to GOD’s word and faith in His power to bring about
healing and restoration–that made it possible for marriages filled with hate and stress and
fighting to be turned around. As the children see the changes, it is a powerful message of hope
and life and love to them, and they grow up being better able to enter marriage with a clear view
of what it entails, and how beautiful and enduring God designed it to be. The “life stolen” can be
restored…not by divorce, nor by a new partner, but by God. Blessings to you. 🙂
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Married to One have kids By Many!!!!!!! on October 1, 2011 at 9:14 pm

I think that it is about control and ignorance, this is not about the people is about the church
losing control and that is far from it. It is a male driven attitude. Think about it a man can leave
his wife in the philippines and be with many women and have many kids by these woman, and
care for none. And the woman with no help from the man are the church must just pray that
peace will come. But In the mean time they go aboard to work as someones maid to be abuse
and look down apond like aminals. And wasting there lives aways while the man sits back in the
philippine and have more baby to replace the women whos lives are dead as they live. I quess
the purpose of man there is to make laws that keep it cycle going forever..But remember thoses
same men will answer to god. But remember life has ups and downs and when a chance comes
along that can change the womans and her kids life she has no chance because the life she
must suffer, it stop her and then she die never being a truly happy woman in gods eyes….
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janice andu-an on November 25, 2011 at 6:44 pm
Marriage is a social union or legal contract between 2 people that create kinship.To choose a
good partner,we must decide a million times so that in the end we will not put in a situation that
needs a divorce because absolutely in can affect the children.I am a product of a separated
family.It is so difficult to live w/o a father.Every time that a father’s day comes,you’ll just sit aside
and got envy w/ some kids bonding w/ there father.I absolutely don’t
agree,DIVORCE…..sorry……..
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Harriet Madrideo on February 2, 2012 at 9:55 am

No it won!’t Divorce in the Philippines won’t help.It will only deteriorate our cultural values and
beliefs.No to Divorce is my plea.
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William Katoliko on February 10, 2013 at 6:45 pm

Romans 7:2 ESV
“For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies
she is released from the law of marriage.
for knowledge, it will pass away. … ”
Luke 16:18 ESV
“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a
woman divorced from her husband commits adultery”
1 Corinthians 7:39 ESV
“A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be
married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. ”
House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.
Matthew 19:2-9 ESV
“And large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. And Pharisees came up to him and
tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you
not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said,
‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two
shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has
joined together, let not man separate.” …
MALIWANAG ANG SINASABI NG BIBLIYA TUNGKOL SA DIVORCE KAYA HINDI PWEDENG
BAGUHIN ITO NG TAO.. KUNG MAY MGA BANSA NA GINAWANG LEGAL ANG DIVORCE
EHH BAKIT GUSTO NYONG GUMAYA ANG PILIPINAS?
MATAKOT PO TAYO SA UTOS NG DIYOS WAG PO TAYONG MAGPADALA SA SULSOL NG
MGA SECULARIST, COMMUNIST, ATHEISTS, AT PROGRESSIVES KUNO.
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Janine Jimena-Perez on January 31, 2013 at 6:34 pm

Ptr Vince, may I have your permission to copy your article and permission to send your article to
my friends and permission also post it in my Facebook account? I want to echo your article to as
many friends as I have, because this is also my stand, NO TO DIVORCE LAW! I want to openly
campaign against Congressmen in our district and senatoriables advocating pro-divorce law. Di
ko Lang po kc maarticulate ang gusto kong sabihin sa mga friends ko as much as you have
expressed it in your article. So I will just ask your permission that I be allowed to copy your
article and quote you as the source.
Ptr vince, i agree with all that you said. I have a friend in the Congress and he said that “after
the passing of the RH Bill, itaga mo sa Bato, Divorce Law ang kasunod nyan, it will be legalized
3 years from now.” I was alarmed. You are right, walang pakundangan na ang pagpasok nyan
sa marriage and get away with it easily. I’m a mother of two, ano na Lang ang environment na
gagalawan nila in the future. Divorce is not the solution. Jesus Christ is the answer. Then moral
recovery will come in. I knew of a couple who were separated for 20 years, they come to know
Jesus, nagkabalikan sila, now they are both in their 70s happily serving The Lord.
Thank you again for your article. You are a blessing ptr Vince, God bless you and your family.
Reply

@Janine Jimena-Perez. Please do what you want to do with this article, just leave the link or at
least my name on the article. Share it to your FB, copy it, share it to your friends, etc. The more
people who reads it, the better.
Let’s stand for righteousness even in marriage or in the plan of marrying someone. 🙂
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