INSIGHTS

1) Both parents are important in attachment and should be consistent. If not, ambivalent. If
with violence/ abuse, disorganized.
2) We tend to cling to individuals who love us more. Poor, but secure. Mother took the role of
both the father and the mother. Forgiveness was an important key in having a secure
attachment
3) Used to be avoidant, but looking at the good things that happened in the past changed the
perspective and even revolutionized parenting. We cannot change the past, but we can
change how we look at things so that we can become more secure as parents and provide
secure parenting to his/her children.
4) Helicopter parent, hoping to protect/ shield children from negative experiences that the
parent had – setting standards that the parent himself/ herself cannot accomplish. Used to
be easily irritated and disappointed, but when the parent realized his/ her own limitations
and trust God that He knows what He is doing, he/ she was able to let go being a
controlling.
5) Emphasis is on providing and support to children as learned from the parent and make up
for whatever lapses the parent had. In absence of one parent, another parent assures to
make the child feel secure.
6) Parents may be working, but it is important to have bonding with the child and that the
yaya is dependable.