Professional Documents
Culture Documents
JUST What
You Eat.
It’s WHEN
You Eat.
The Ultimate Guide to
Intermittent Fasting!
15751
APART,
ALONE,
AND TOTALLY J
U ST B E FO R E C OVI D -1 9
CONNECTED
came and made egg salad of
the world, I took the princi-
pled, but in retrospect foolish,
step of removing myself from all
social media. The world had be-
come too mediated by screens.
So I dumped my smartphone for
How one man’s adventure in a dumb one; deleted Instagram,
Twitter, and Facebook; forswore
completely immersive, highly Google Calendar for an old-fash-
socialized solitude holds lessons ioned day planner; and vowed to
live my life face-to-face.
for us all. BY JOSHUA DAVID STEIN
It has not gone as planned. So I embarked my mom’s chin. Conversations with my AS THE WEEKS BECAME
on a self-isolated journey to see if virtual kids—Auggie, who is six, and Achilles, MONTHS . . .
connectivity can bring us together. who is eight—consisted of small talk while Before the virus, a common trope on
Could screens be my savior? If I couldn’t my ex held her phone up to them and they Hinge and Tinder was “I’m not looking
be together with anyone, could we at least stared into their iPads. “Hey, Daddy!” for a pen pal.” Now we were all pen pals by
be together-ish? And now, as we all emerge they said, then returned to building vast default. Former flames had been reaching
into a different world, what’s the best way Minecraft worlds. out, goaded by a mixture, I imagine, of
for all of us and our new avatars to live Unfortunately, I had a lot of angst. For- death-doorstep regret (maybe I was the
in peace? tunately, I had a therapist. Anyone who has one?) and boredom. I’d been WhatsApping
been in therapy knows the rituals: Couch with an ex living in Belgium. Thanks to
means safe space; neutral landscape the time difference, I’d wake up to steamy
THE FIRST FEW DAYS means I can talk about my father. Skype shots from Bruges.
Early on, I staved off existential worry therapy, however, is different. With a few I also scheduled a Zoom Hinge date with
with a superficial one about losing my six- beeps and boops, Julia, my therapist, was Svetlana, a Russian lady I’d met IRL once
pack. Thankfully, the Workout from Home in my bedroom and I was in her . . . den? for coffee, back in the days when one did
Movement is having a moment. There’s Most of the 45-minute session involved that kind of thing. After a few chirps, I
Mirror and Tonal and others with ener- some variant of “Can you believe this found myself peering at her on my screen.
getic names like Tempo and FightCamp. shit?” As I closed the laptop, it occurred to She drank wine and did her nails. I drank
I chose the familiar if upgraded version of me I hadn’t really let down my guard for the Dalmore and watched while eagerly await-
an old college pastime with a rowing ma- entire session. It reminded
chine called the Hydrow. me of a phrase I’d read
Hydrow combines the theology of bike- about. In 2004, John Suler,
based Peloton—there is a fitness god; you Ph.D., of Rider University,
must follow this god’s workout edicts— coined the term “online
with the maniacal difficulty of indoor row- disinhibition effect” to de-
ing, also called erging. When it arrived, my scribe some freewheeling
first workout was a quick 30-minute row actions. “[People] loosen
in the canals around Miami Beach. Sunny up, feel less restrained, and
climes in such dark times seemed profane, express themselves more
yet there was something uplifting about openly,” he wrote. This was
moving in unison with someone, even if due to six factors, including
they were on a screen and prerecorded. asynchronous communica-
Graham M. Jones, Ph.D., an anthropol- tion (it’s not in real time),
ogy professor at MIT who studies culture invisibility (you can’t see
and technology, understands. “In a time me), and anonymity (you
when we’re spending a lot of time alone . . . I don’t know me).
think bodies moving in harmonious mo- But my emotional reluc-
tion is a powerful engine for human sense tance was likely related to
of intersubjective connectedness,” he another Suler finding: The
says. Also, it was hell on my lats. Internet minimizes our
sense of status and author-
ity. Therapists. Celebrities.
AS THE DAYS Late-night talk-show hosts.
BECAME WEEKS . . . We are just human beings
All human interaction now took place looking through screens at
through the same 13-inch window on one another. Maybe that’s
my laptop. I became very familiar with not such a bad thing.
things, but I’ll take what I can get. mutpāda, or interdependent arising. So- Some screens reveal it. The best are like
One day, I selected a recipe for creamy cial distancing had left me more aware windows. They are meant to be opened
tomato soup and turned the dial to blend. of both my aloneness and my connec- and climbed through, out into a new
Then I tuned in to a Facebook Live about tion with others than I’d ever felt before. world full of old friends, more together-
no-knead bread making. The lady, named Whether it was Nick on the river or Julia ish than ever.
TOP
1 2
TURN DOWN THE TEMP STUFF AND TOP
Searing heat burns and splits the Transfer the rested
skin of hot dogs before the insides hot dogs to the toasted
DOGS
warm through. Instead, preheat buns. Then pile or
your grill to medium low. Then add spoon on the topping
your franks, close the grill lid, and combos that follow.
cook, turning them every minute Don’t skimp: You
or so, until browned and plump, 5 to shouldn’t see more
7 minutes. Then remove the dogs than the ends of the
and allow them to rest for 2 minutes dogs. Each recipe
(during which time you can grill your makes 2 servings.
buns till crisp, about 30 seconds). Scale up to feed more.
BLT
2 chopped cooked
bacon strips
+
⅓ cup chopped
tomato
+
½ cup shredded
lettuce
+
¼ cup sliced
dill pickle
CORN
DOG God
½ cup fresh ⅓ cup plain
corn kernels
+ + verde
⅓ cup chopped ¼ cup crumbled +
roasted red feta 2 Tbsp
pepper +
+ seeds
⅓ cup halved dill
Food styling: Simon Andrews. Prop styling: Carla Gonzalez-Hart.
+
cherry tomatoes + ¼ cup chopped
+ cilantro
¼ cup chopped +
cilantro + ¼ tsp cumin
+ 1 tsp fresh
½ chopped
jalapeño
+
1 sliced scallion
+
2 tsp fresh
lemon juice LEADERS You could fill a baseball stadium with all the mealy-textured, sodium-clogged, lacking-in-
snap packaged hot dogs at the supermarket. Two options that are actually worth relishing:
of the Teton Waters Ranch’s Bun Length Uncured Hot Dogs and Applegate’s Great Organic
Uncured Beef Hot Dogs. Both are meaty and delicious, as well as uncured, which means
DOG PACKS they’re made with natural nitrates, like celery powder, not fake ones.
MAD GREENS
WHERE: AZ, CO, TX
Buy turkey with a WHAT YOU’LL NEED 1. In a large bowl, minutes, turning
“100% organic” add the turkey, every 3 minutes to
2 LB SKINLESS,
seal. An organic BONELESS TURKEY onion, cumin, cori- grill evenly on all
label ensures that BREAST, CUT INTO
1½-INCH CUBES ander, cinnamon, sides. Transfer to
the animal was olive oil, 2 tsp salt, a serving platter.
1 LARGE RED ONION,
raised without the CUT INTO LARGE and 1 tsp pepper. Garnish with mint
PIECES
use of antibiotics Toss well, cover, and leaves, sliced pep-
2 TBSP GROUND
or growth hor- CUMIN refrigerate for at pers, and lemon
mones and given 1 TSP GROUND least 30 minutes or wedges. Makes 6 In a pot over medium-high heat,
only organic feed CORIANDER
1 TSP GROUND up to 1 day. skewers add 2 Tbsp olive oil and 4 minced
devoid of con- garlic cloves. Cook, stirring, until fra-
CINNAMON
taminants, such 2. Preheat your grill PER SKEWER: grant, about 2 minutes. Stir in 3 cups
1 TBSP OLIVE OIL
as fecal matter to high. Thread the 225 calories, 37g canned precooked lentils, 1 (28 oz)
¼ CUP LOOSELY
(see!). Try to avoid PACKED FRESH turkey and onion protein, 7g carbs can chopped tomatoes, and ½ tsp
MINT LEAVES, salt. Reduce the heat to medium;
buying turkey that FOR GARNISH pieces equally onto (1g fiber), 5g fat simmer till thickened, 15 to 25 min-
looks gray or slimy ¼ CUP SLICED 6 skewers. Grill over utes. Garnish with ¼ cup chopped
and smells sulfu- RED HOT PEPPERS, high heat until nicely fresh cilantro. Makes 5 servings
FOR GARNISH Per serving: 230 cals, 12g protein,
rous—all signs of 6 LEMON WEDGES, charred and cooked 35g carbs (11g fiber), 6g fat
degradation. FOR GARNISH through, about 12
UP GR A DE IT The turkey kebabs taste great on their own. But if you have
the time and want them to taste even better, here are three
easy ways to do just that.
I F YO U H AV E . . .
5 15 1
MINUTES MINUTES HOUR
Food styling: Simon Andrews. Prop styling: Carla Gonzalez-Hart.
Garnish with pomegranate Make a quick yogurt-based Make your own hot sauce. In
arils. Cut a whole pomegran- sauce. In a blender or food a pot over low heat, stir ½ cup
ate in half lengthwise. Hold processor, blend 1 cup olive oil, ¼ cup sliced red chiles,
one half over a bowl, the cut washed fresh herbs (parsley, 2 Tbsp tomato paste, 1 tsp In a large bowl, stir together 1
side facing down in your mint, and/or cilantro), smoked paprika, and 1 tsp salt. (28 oz) can chickpeas (rinsed and
palm, turned upward. Using a 1 cup plain yogurt, and Cook, stirring occasionally, drained), 1 cup thawed frozen peas,
wooden spoon, firmly slap the 2 garlic cloves. Season to until the flavors meld, about 30 ½ cup chopped walnuts, ½ cup
outer skin repeatedly until taste with salt and lemon minutes. Transfer to a blender
chopped dried figs, ½ cup chopped
the arils start to dislodge from juice. Serve as a dip for or food processor, add 2 Tbsp
fresh parsley, 2 Tbsp lemon juice,
the pith. (Yes, this is fun.) the kebabs. white vinegar, and blend.
and 2 Tbsp olive oil. Season to taste
with salt. Makes 4 servings
Per serving: 335 cals, 10g protein,
Want more 30/10 meals in your life? You’re covered with 30 of them at 37g carbs (10g fiber), 19g fat
MensHealth.com/30-10.
CH I L L
Especially these unsung bottles, each
paired to a purpose: sipping straight, on
ice, and in cocktail form. BY CAREY JONES
NEAT:
SNOW LEOPARD
This Polish vodka has an almost creamy texture.
Credit a base of spelt (that’s right, not potato), an
ancient grain that delivers a surprisingly bold flavor
with no afterburn. Keep a bottle stashed in your
freezer for summer-evening sipping. $30
ON THE ROCKS:
ST. GEORGE ALL PURPOSE
As the ice melts in your glass, the water opens up
some of the subtle flavors of your vodka. That’s why
rocks are best suited for more complex spirits, like this
one, which is made with pears from northern Califor-
nia. Your first sip (slightly sweet and strong) will taste
different from your last (slightly floral and clean). $29
IN A COCKTAIL:
HAKU
If you’ve tasted the glory of a whisky from the Japa-
nese distillery Suntory, well, now it’s making vodka.
As it does with its whiskies, Suntory distills this spirit
from rice and filters it through bamboo charcoal,
Food styling: Simon Andrews. Prop styling: Carla Gonzalez-Hart. Jason Tinacci (St. George). Courtesy brands (remaining bottles).
producing a soft, clean vodka that heightens the
flavors of whatever you throw at it. $26
3 CUCUMBER SLICES
HAKU COBBLER
5 RASPBERRIES
If you want something
PINCH OF SALT
that goes down as easy as
1½ OZ HAKU VODKA
a vodka soda but with a
½ OZ SIMPLE SYRUP*
lot more going on, try this
½ OZ FINO SHERRY (TIO PEPE
drink from Marlowe John- IS A GREAT BRAND)
son, beverage director L A CROIX OR OTHER
of Flowers of Vietnam in SPARKLING WATER
Detroit. It’s fresh, thanks
In the bottom of a tall glass,
to cucumber and berries,
muddle the cucumber,
but also deliciously dry
raspberries, and salt. Add
due to a little dry sherry. the vodka, simple syrup,
Use whatever LaCroix and sherry. Fill the glass
flavor you like—Johnson with ice and pour in the
recommends hibiscus, LaCroix to fill. Stir briefly
but grapefruit works, too. and serve. Makes 1 drink
Now
What?
Mow it? Grow
it out? Go
crazy with it?
Here’s how to
manage your
COVID crop.
BY GARRETT MUNCE
ber to cut it in, then trim it at home using a thinning spots and cowlicks. Add definition up or don’t like it, going back to square one is
clipper with no guard. with a texture paste to get a similar effect. as simple as buzzing it off again.
NO MATTER Whether you’re shearing yourself like a sheep or just trying to maintain
your crop between barber visits, using the proper tool is essential. Invest
WHAT, USE in a hair clipper with multiple-length guards that’s powerful and can
THE RIGHT better cut through a variety of hair textures. The Wahl Elite Pro High
Performance Hair Clipper Kit ($60) is professional grade but specifi-
TOOLS! cally designed for home use.
PROMOTION
E XCLUS IV ELY AT
LIFE
NO
S W E AT
SUMMERSeven ways to
KEEP COOL when
UPGRADE YOUR POLO
Some shirts make you
feel as if you’re drown-
it’s hot outside. ing in sweat, but this
moisture-wicking cotton
polo from Banana Republic
dries fast and feels good.
Plus it’s anti-odor, so it
kills any sign of BO.
KEEP YOUR
GOODS DRY
Hit the gym or go for a
swim with these board
shorts from Rhone,
built with spandex and
THE TALENT
Keoni Hudoba nylon so they’re quick
is a cofounder drying and won’t feel
and creator of damp and sticky during
Cyc Fitness and a the day ahead.
chief instructor at
Barry’s Bootcamp.
A Hawaii native, Tank ($30) by Adidas; shorts
($98) by Rhone; sneakers by Nike.
he knows a thing
or two about sur-
viving the heat.
CHOOSE A BETTER
DRESS SHIRT
When you need to dress up, try this J. Crew oxford,
made with a fabric that actively cools your skin
and transfers sweat away from your body.
WEIGHT LOSS
HOW TO LOSE
WEIGHT FAST
SMART
NEED TO DROP SOME
POUNDS? TAKE IT OFF
WITH A MORNING SHAKE.
BY CHRIS HANSEN
Being a trainer, bodybuilder, and nutrition placement that works and has a taste so good While there are over 1000 testimonials
expert means that companies frequently that it’s addicting.” on Amazon about how INVIGOR8 “gave me
send me their products and ask for my stamp Being skeptical of what Zee told me, I de- more energy and stamina” and “melts away
of approval. Most of the time I dive into re- cided to investigate this superfood shake abdominal fat like butter on a hot sidewalk”,
search, test the product out, and send the called INVIGOR8. what really impressed me was how many
company honest feedback. Sometimes, how- Turns out INVIGOR8 Superfood Shake has customers raved about the taste. So I had to
ever, I refuse to give the product a try, because a near 5-star rating on Amazon. The creators give it a try.
frankly, the ingredients inside aren’t real food. are actual scientists and personal trainers
When it arrived I gave it the sniff test. Un-
And I’d rather drink diesel fuel than torture who set out to create a complete meal re-
like most meal replacement shakes it smelled
my body with a chemical concoction. placement shake chocked full of superfoods
like whole food, not a chemical factory. So far
Like my father always said, “What you put that—get this—actually accelerate how quick-
inside your body always shows up on the ly and easily you lose belly fat and builds even so good. Still INVIGOR8 had to pass the most
outside.” more lean, calorie burning muscle. important test, the taste test.
One protein shake that I received, that will We all know that the more muscle you And INVIGOR8 was good. Better than
remain nameless, was touted as ‘the next big build, the more calories you burn. The more good. I could see what Zee meant when he
shake’ but really had a list of gut destroying fat you melt away the more definition you get said his clients found the taste addicting.
ingredients. Everywhere I read I saw harmful in your arms, pecs and abs. I also wanted to see if Invigor8 would help
artificial ingredients, added sugars, synthetic The makers of INVIGOR8 were deter- me burn that body fat I’d tried to shave off for
dyes, preservatives and cheap proteins; the mined to make the first complete, natural, years to achieve total definition.
kind of proteins that keep you fat no matter non-GMO superfood shake that helps you Just a few weeks later I’m pleased to say,
how hard you hit the gym, sap your energy lose fat and build lean muscle. The result is shaving that last abdominal fat from my mid-
and do nothing for your muscles. a shake that contains 100% grass-fed whey section wasn’t just easy. It was delicious.
Disappointed after reviewing this “new” that has a superior nutrient profile to the Considering all the shakes I’ve tried I can
shake, I hit the gym and bumped into my fa- grain-fed whey found in most shakes, me- honestly say that the results I’ve experienced
vorite bodybuilding coach. This guy is push- tabolism boosting raw coconut oil, hormone from INVIGOR8 are nothing short of aston-
ing 50, has the energy of a college kid, and is free colostrum to promote a healthy immune
ishing.
ripped. So are his clients. system, Omega 3, 6, 9-rich chia and flaxseeds,
A company spokesperson confirmed an
While I firmly believe that the gym is a no- superfood greens like kale, spinach, brocco-
exclusive offer for Men’s Health readers: if you
talk focus zone, I had to ask, “Hey Zee, what li, alfalfa, and chlorella, and clinically tested
protein shake are you recommending to your cognitive enhancers for improved mood and order INVIGOR8 this month, you’ll receive
clients these days?” brain function. The company even went a $10 off your first order by using promo code
Zee looked at me, and shook his head. step further by including a balance of pre and “MEN10” at checkout. If you’re in a rush to
“Protein shakes are old news and loaded with probiotics for regularity in optimal digestive burn fat, restore lean muscle and boost your
junk. I don’t recommend protein shakes, I health, and digestive enzymes so your body stamina and energy you can order INVIG-
tell my clients to drink INVIGOR8 Superfood absorbs the high-caliber nutrition you get OR8 today at www.drinkInvigor8.com or by
Shake because it’s the only all natural meal re- from INVIGOR8. calling 1-800-958-3392.
LIFE
YOUR EXPERT
Naomi Piercey
answers your
questions about
sex and relation-
ships that
Google can’t.
Everyone feels the hurt as you age, is, after two weeks of using it, my knee pain no
longer affected my daily mobility.
but CBD can help you deal with it. The Zebra Mint Oil, on the other hand, had a
different but equally positive effect on my body.
Life really does fly by. Before I knew it, my 40s Association, 70% of CBD products didn’t To take it, the instructions suggest holding the
had arrived, and with them came some new gifts contain the amount of CBD stated on their oil in your mouth for about 30 seconds. This
from dear ol’ Mother Nature—frequent knee labels. And, as a consumer, that’s terrifying! was simple enough, and the mint taste was,
pain, stress, low energy and sleeplessness. Now, well, minty. After about 15 minutes, a sense of
If I was going to do this, I needed to trust the
I’m a realist about these things, I knew I wasn’t calm came over my body. It's hard to describe
source through and through. My two-fold exactly; it's definitely not a "high" feeling. It's
going to be young and resilient forever. But research process naturally led me to Zebra CBD.
still, with “middle-age” nearly on my doorstep, I more like an overall sense of relaxation—a chill
couldn’t help but feel a little disheartened. That is First, I did a quick online poll—and by that, factor. Needless to say, I’ve really enjoyed the oil.
until I found my own secret weapon. Another gift I mean I posed the CBD question on my While it hasn’t been a catch-all fix to every one
from Mother Nature. Facebook page. Call me old fashioned but I of my health issues, it has eased the level and
wanted to know if there were people whom I frequency of my aches. And it sure doesn’t
It began a few months back when I was trusted (more than anonymous testimonials) seem like a coincidence how much calmer and
complaining about my aches and pains to who’ve had success using CBD besides my more focused I am.
my marathon-running buddy, Ben, who is buddy. That is how I found out that Zebra CBD
my same age. He casually mentioned how All-in-all, CBD is one of those things that you
has a label accuracy guarantee which assures have to try for yourself. Although I was skeptical
he uses CBD oil to help with his joint pain. customers like me what is stated on the label is
He said that CBD has given him more focus at first, I can say that I’m now a Zebra CBD fan
in the product. and that I highly recommend their products.
and clarity throughout the day and that his
Secondly, I wanted cold hard facts. Diving My 40s are looking up!
lingering muscle and joint discomfort no
longer bothered him. He even felt comfortable deep into the world of CBD research and Also, I managed to speak with a company
signing up for back-to-back marathons two clinical studies, I came across Emily Gray spokesperson willing to provide an exclusive
weekends in a row this year. M.D., a physician at the University of offer to Men’s Health readers. If you order this
California at San Diego (UCSD) Medical month, you’ll receive $10 off your first order
That made even this self-proclaimed skeptic School and Zebra CBD's medical advisor by using promo code “Health10” at checkout.
take notice. who is researching the effects of CBD. Dr. Plus, the company offers a 100% No-Hassle,
But I still had some concerns. According to one Gray wrote “early results with CBD have Money-Back Guarantee. You can try it yourself
study in the Journal of the American Medical been promising and we have a lot of research and order Zebra CBD at ZebraCBD.com.
MIND
59 ........... BR AIN-BOOSTING TOOLS
60 ............... MAN VS. SLEEP DEMON
62 .......................... C A LLING
B.S. ON
SPIR IT UA L HE A LING
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
GETS A
REBOOT
E
Patrick Dossett, a former Navy SEAL, VERY YEAR, Blake Mycoskie, 44, and a bunch of his
guy friends go on a surf trip. It’s a time to catch up, take
and Blake Mycoskie, the socially con-
stock, shoot the shit. In 2017, they hit Mexico, where
scious founder of Toms, have teamed
Dan Salinger/Trunk Archive
they spent a week riding waves off the coast of Baja. One
up to create Madefor, a self-care night, during a round of Imagine you won the lottery and you no
start-up to help you reach your full longer had to work for money; how would you spend your time?
potential. The hook: You have to do one answer struck a chord with Mycoskie. Patrick Dossett, 40, a
the hard work. BY JOSH OCAMPO program manager at Google and a former Navy SEAL, said he’d
In 2006, Mycoskie founded Toms Shoes, didn’t have the right to be depressed. all at once, in a high-intensity scenario
its name shorthand for Tomorrow’s Shoes, “I felt a void,” he says. “I was ashamed (like a bad case of food poisoning that
its goal to get a pair of shoes to children because I felt like I didn’t want to admit turns you off oysters forever), or as the
in need around the world with each pur- to being depressed.” Mycoskie started a result of small, incremental change. He
chase. Soon Toms espadrilles became a social-entrepreneurship fund and argued that for people to realize their full
totem of well-dressed virtue, ubiquitous spent the next two years on a decom- potential in life, they often require the
among brunch enthusiasts and hungover pression sabbatical, dabbling in differ- latter. “The true way to change things is
millennials. As Toms—and Mycoskie’s ent kinds of self-optimization. That’s more like a staircase,” he says. “You take
one-for-one model—turned into a phe- why that night in Baja, Dossett’s answer one step every day or couple of days, and
nomenon, he was lauded for doing well resonated. The über-practical ex-SEAL slowly-ish, you arrive at the top.”
while doing good, but he began to sacrifice and the Big Thinking do-gooder decided You’ve probably heard some version
his own mental health for the company’s to try to create a self-help brand that of this before, and so had Mycoskie and
growth. “My relationships with my wife would serve people—and make money. Dossett. But based on their research and
A
COUPLE YEARS ago, I went on a On Holy Isle, a monk gathered us “wellness” industry (worth more than
three-day mindfulness retreat on together on the beach and asked us to $4 trillion worldwide as of 2018), an indus-
Holy Isle, off the coast of Scotland, choose a pebble. He told us to imagine that try that has gone way beyond mindfulness
where the Kagyu Samye Ling Tibetan Bud- the stone contained within it all the psy- and down a slippery slope to far more per-
dhist monastery has an outpost. chic and physical woes that afflicted us. nicious hocus-pocus, such as crystal dan-
I’m a man nearing the end of my sixth Then we were to hurl the stone of misfor- gling, horoscopy, and Goop’s vaginal eggs.
decade. Things are starting to malfunc- tune as far as we could into the sea. To invert the science-fiction writer
tion. I was diagnosed with a myeloid blood No way! I protested internally. No way Arthur C. Clarke’s dictum—“Any suffi-
disease in 2011, and while the symptoms am I going to surrender all my resent- ciently advanced technology is indistin-
(and the side effects of the medication) ments and traumas and aches and pains guishable from magic”—we might say
aren’t that egregious, they have syner- so easily! Dammit! My “mindfulness” had that in a world where such innovations
gized with the aging process to make turned into a bad attitude. have become commonplace, magic starts
everything physical feel just that much But I’ve come to see the monk as a pos- to appear credible once again. But can
more difficult. What I need at this time of itive beacon of low-cost sincerity when I actually get something from all this
my life is vitality. set beside the obvious boondoggles of the stone-throwing magic?
15751
APART,
ALONE,
AND TOTALLY J
U ST B E FO R E C OVI D -1 9
CONNECTED
came and made egg salad of
the world, I took the princi-
pled, but in retrospect foolish,
step of removing myself from all
social media. The world had be-
come too mediated by screens.
So I dumped my smartphone for
How one man’s adventure in a dumb one; deleted Instagram,
Twitter, and Facebook; forswore
completely immersive, highly Google Calendar for an old-fash-
socialized solitude holds lessons ioned day planner; and vowed to
live my life face-to-face.
for us all. BY JOSHUA DAVID STEIN
It has not gone as planned. So I embarked my mom’s chin. Conversations with my AS THE WEEKS BECAME
on a self-isolated journey to see if virtual kids—Auggie, who is six, and Achilles, MONTHS . . .
connectivity can bring us together. who is eight—consisted of small talk while Before the virus, a common trope on
Could screens be my savior? If I couldn’t my ex held her phone up to them and they Hinge and Tinder was “I’m not looking
be together with anyone, could we at least stared into their iPads. “Hey, Daddy!” for a pen pal.” Now we were all pen pals by
be together-ish? And now, as we all emerge they said, then returned to building vast default. Former flames had been reaching
into a different world, what’s the best way Minecraft worlds. out, goaded by a mixture, I imagine, of
for all of us and our new avatars to live Unfortunately, I had a lot of angst. For- death-doorstep regret (maybe I was the
in peace? tunately, I had a therapist. Anyone who has one?) and boredom. I’d been WhatsApping
been in therapy knows the rituals: Couch with an ex living in Belgium. Thanks to
means safe space; neutral landscape the time difference, I’d wake up to steamy
THE FIRST FEW DAYS means I can talk about my father. Skype shots from Bruges.
Early on, I staved off existential worry therapy, however, is different. With a few I also scheduled a Zoom Hinge date with
with a superficial one about losing my six- beeps and boops, Julia, my therapist, was Svetlana, a Russian lady I’d met IRL once
pack. Thankfully, the Workout from Home in my bedroom and I was in her . . . den? for coffee, back in the days when one did
Movement is having a moment. There’s Most of the 45-minute session involved that kind of thing. After a few chirps, I
Mirror and Tonal and others with ener- some variant of “Can you believe this found myself peering at her on my screen.
getic names like Tempo and FightCamp. shit?” As I closed the laptop, it occurred to She drank wine and did her nails. I drank
I chose the familiar if upgraded version of me I hadn’t really let down my guard for the Dalmore and watched while eagerly await-
an old college pastime with a rowing ma- entire session. It reminded
chine called the Hydrow. me of a phrase I’d read
Hydrow combines the theology of bike- about. In 2004, John Suler,
based Peloton—there is a fitness god; you Ph.D., of Rider University,
must follow this god’s workout edicts— coined the term “online
with the maniacal difficulty of indoor row- disinhibition effect” to de-
ing, also called erging. When it arrived, my scribe some freewheeling
first workout was a quick 30-minute row actions. “[People] loosen
in the canals around Miami Beach. Sunny up, feel less restrained, and
climes in such dark times seemed profane, express themselves more
yet there was something uplifting about openly,” he wrote. This was
moving in unison with someone, even if due to six factors, including
they were on a screen and prerecorded. asynchronous communica-
Graham M. Jones, Ph.D., an anthropol- tion (it’s not in real time),
ogy professor at MIT who studies culture invisibility (you can’t see
and technology, understands. “In a time me), and anonymity (you
when we’re spending a lot of time alone . . . I don’t know me).
think bodies moving in harmonious mo- But my emotional reluc-
tion is a powerful engine for human sense tance was likely related to
of intersubjective connectedness,” he another Suler finding: The
says. Also, it was hell on my lats. Internet minimizes our
sense of status and author-
ity. Therapists. Celebrities.
AS THE DAYS Late-night talk-show hosts.
BECAME WEEKS . . . We are just human beings
All human interaction now took place looking through screens at
through the same 13-inch window on one another. Maybe that’s
my laptop. I became very familiar with not such a bad thing.
things, but I’ll take what I can get. mutpāda, or interdependent arising. So- Some screens reveal it. The best are like
One day, I selected a recipe for creamy cial distancing had left me more aware windows. They are meant to be opened
tomato soup and turned the dial to blend. of both my aloneness and my connec- and climbed through, out into a new
Then I tuned in to a Facebook Live about tion with others than I’d ever felt before. world full of old friends, more together-
no-knead bread making. The lady, named Whether it was Nick on the river or Julia ish than ever.
TOP
1 2
TURN DOWN THE TEMP STUFF AND TOP
Searing heat burns and splits the Transfer the rested
skin of hot dogs before the insides hot dogs to the toasted
DOGS
warm through. Instead, preheat buns. Then pile or
your grill to medium low. Then add spoon on the topping
your franks, close the grill lid, and combos that follow.
cook, turning them every minute Don’t skimp: You
or so, until browned and plump, 5 to shouldn’t see more
7 minutes. Then remove the dogs than the ends of the
and allow them to rest for 2 minutes dogs. Each recipe
(during which time you can grill your makes 2 servings.
buns till crisp, about 30 seconds). Scale up to feed more.
BLT
2 chopped cooked
bacon strips
+
⅓ cup chopped
tomato
+
½ cup shredded
lettuce
+
¼ cup sliced
dill pickle
CORN
DOG God
½ cup fresh ⅓ cup plain
corn kernels
+ + verde
⅓ cup chopped ¼ cup crumbled +
roasted red feta 2 Tbsp
pepper +
+ seeds
⅓ cup halved dill
Food styling: Simon Andrews. Prop styling: Carla Gonzalez-Hart.
+
cherry tomatoes + ¼ cup chopped
+ cilantro
¼ cup chopped +
cilantro + ¼ tsp cumin
+ 1 tsp fresh
½ chopped
jalapeño
+
1 sliced scallion
+
2 tsp fresh
lemon juice LEADERS You could fill a baseball stadium with all the mealy-textured, sodium-clogged, lacking-in-
snap packaged hot dogs at the supermarket. Two options that are actually worth relishing:
of the Teton Waters Ranch’s Bun Length Uncured Hot Dogs and Applegate’s Great Organic
Uncured Beef Hot Dogs. Both are meaty and delicious, as well as uncured, which means
DOG PACKS they’re made with natural nitrates, like celery powder, not fake ones.
MAD GREENS
WHERE: AZ, CO, TX
Buy turkey with a WHAT YOU’LL NEED 1. In a large bowl, minutes, turning
“100% organic” add the turkey, every 3 minutes to
2 LB SKINLESS,
seal. An organic BONELESS TURKEY onion, cumin, cori- grill evenly on all
label ensures that BREAST, CUT INTO
1½-INCH CUBES ander, cinnamon, sides. Transfer to
the animal was olive oil, 2 tsp salt, a serving platter.
1 LARGE RED ONION,
raised without the CUT INTO LARGE and 1 tsp pepper. Garnish with mint
PIECES
use of antibiotics Toss well, cover, and leaves, sliced pep-
2 TBSP GROUND
or growth hor- CUMIN refrigerate for at pers, and lemon
mones and given 1 TSP GROUND least 30 minutes or wedges. Makes 6 In a pot over medium-high heat,
only organic feed CORIANDER
1 TSP GROUND up to 1 day. skewers add 2 Tbsp olive oil and 4 minced
devoid of con- garlic cloves. Cook, stirring, until fra-
CINNAMON
taminants, such 2. Preheat your grill PER SKEWER: grant, about 2 minutes. Stir in 3 cups
1 TBSP OLIVE OIL
as fecal matter to high. Thread the 225 calories, 37g canned precooked lentils, 1 (28 oz)
¼ CUP LOOSELY
(see!). Try to avoid PACKED FRESH turkey and onion protein, 7g carbs can chopped tomatoes, and ½ tsp
MINT LEAVES, salt. Reduce the heat to medium;
buying turkey that FOR GARNISH pieces equally onto (1g fiber), 5g fat simmer till thickened, 15 to 25 min-
looks gray or slimy ¼ CUP SLICED 6 skewers. Grill over utes. Garnish with ¼ cup chopped
and smells sulfu- RED HOT PEPPERS, high heat until nicely fresh cilantro. Makes 5 servings
FOR GARNISH Per serving: 230 cals, 12g protein,
rous—all signs of 6 LEMON WEDGES, charred and cooked 35g carbs (11g fiber), 6g fat
degradation. FOR GARNISH through, about 12
UP GR A DE IT The turkey kebabs taste great on their own. But if you have
the time and want them to taste even better, here are three
easy ways to do just that.
I F YO U H AV E . . .
5 15 1
MINUTES MINUTES HOUR
Food styling: Simon Andrews. Prop styling: Carla Gonzalez-Hart.
Garnish with pomegranate Make a quick yogurt-based Make your own hot sauce. In
arils. Cut a whole pomegran- sauce. In a blender or food a pot over low heat, stir ½ cup
ate in half lengthwise. Hold processor, blend 1 cup olive oil, ¼ cup sliced red chiles,
one half over a bowl, the cut washed fresh herbs (parsley, 2 Tbsp tomato paste, 1 tsp In a large bowl, stir together 1
side facing down in your mint, and/or cilantro), smoked paprika, and 1 tsp salt. (28 oz) can chickpeas (rinsed and
palm, turned upward. Using a 1 cup plain yogurt, and Cook, stirring occasionally, drained), 1 cup thawed frozen peas,
wooden spoon, firmly slap the 2 garlic cloves. Season to until the flavors meld, about 30 ½ cup chopped walnuts, ½ cup
outer skin repeatedly until taste with salt and lemon minutes. Transfer to a blender
chopped dried figs, ½ cup chopped
the arils start to dislodge from juice. Serve as a dip for or food processor, add 2 Tbsp
fresh parsley, 2 Tbsp lemon juice,
the pith. (Yes, this is fun.) the kebabs. white vinegar, and blend.
and 2 Tbsp olive oil. Season to taste
with salt. Makes 4 servings
Per serving: 335 cals, 10g protein,
Want more 30/10 meals in your life? You’re covered with 30 of them at 37g carbs (10g fiber), 19g fat
MensHealth.com/30-10.
CH I L L
Especially these unsung bottles, each
paired to a purpose: sipping straight, on
ice, and in cocktail form. BY CAREY JONES
NEAT:
SNOW LEOPARD
This Polish vodka has an almost creamy texture.
Credit a base of spelt (that’s right, not potato), an
ancient grain that delivers a surprisingly bold flavor
with no afterburn. Keep a bottle stashed in your
freezer for summer-evening sipping. $30
ON THE ROCKS:
ST. GEORGE ALL PURPOSE
As the ice melts in your glass, the water opens up
some of the subtle flavors of your vodka. That’s why
rocks are best suited for more complex spirits, like this
one, which is made with pears from northern Califor-
nia. Your first sip (slightly sweet and strong) will taste
different from your last (slightly floral and clean). $29
IN A COCKTAIL:
HAKU
If you’ve tasted the glory of a whisky from the Japa-
nese distillery Suntory, well, now it’s making vodka.
As it does with its whiskies, Suntory distills this spirit
from rice and filters it through bamboo charcoal,
Food styling: Simon Andrews. Prop styling: Carla Gonzalez-Hart. Jason Tinacci (St. George). Courtesy brands (remaining bottles).
producing a soft, clean vodka that heightens the
flavors of whatever you throw at it. $26
3 CUCUMBER SLICES
HAKU COBBLER
5 RASPBERRIES
If you want something
PINCH OF SALT
that goes down as easy as
1½ OZ HAKU VODKA
a vodka soda but with a
½ OZ SIMPLE SYRUP*
lot more going on, try this
½ OZ FINO SHERRY (TIO PEPE
drink from Marlowe John- IS A GREAT BRAND)
son, beverage director L A CROIX OR OTHER
of Flowers of Vietnam in SPARKLING WATER
Detroit. It’s fresh, thanks
In the bottom of a tall glass,
to cucumber and berries,
muddle the cucumber,
but also deliciously dry
raspberries, and salt. Add
due to a little dry sherry. the vodka, simple syrup,
Use whatever LaCroix and sherry. Fill the glass
flavor you like—Johnson with ice and pour in the
recommends hibiscus, LaCroix to fill. Stir briefly
but grapefruit works, too. and serve. Makes 1 drink
Now
What?
Mow it? Grow
it out? Go
crazy with it?
Here’s how to
manage your
COVID crop.
BY GARRETT MUNCE
ber to cut it in, then trim it at home using a thinning spots and cowlicks. Add definition up or don’t like it, going back to square one is
clipper with no guard. with a texture paste to get a similar effect. as simple as buzzing it off again.
NO MATTER Whether you’re shearing yourself like a sheep or just trying to maintain
your crop between barber visits, using the proper tool is essential. Invest
WHAT, USE in a hair clipper with multiple-length guards that’s powerful and can
THE RIGHT better cut through a variety of hair textures. The Wahl Elite Pro High
Performance Hair Clipper Kit ($60) is professional grade but specifi-
TOOLS! cally designed for home use.
PROMOTION
E XCLUS IV ELY AT
LIFE
NO
S W E AT
SUMMERSeven ways to
KEEP COOL when
UPGRADE YOUR POLO
Some shirts make you
feel as if you’re drown-
it’s hot outside. ing in sweat, but this
moisture-wicking cotton
polo from Banana Republic
dries fast and feels good.
Plus it’s anti-odor, so it
kills any sign of BO.
KEEP YOUR
GOODS DRY
Hit the gym or go for a
swim with these board
shorts from Rhone,
built with spandex and
THE TALENT
Keoni Hudoba nylon so they’re quick
is a cofounder drying and won’t feel
and creator of damp and sticky during
Cyc Fitness and a the day ahead.
chief instructor at
Barry’s Bootcamp.
A Hawaii native, Tank ($30) by Adidas; shorts
($98) by Rhone; sneakers by Nike.
he knows a thing
or two about sur-
viving the heat.
CHOOSE A BETTER
DRESS SHIRT
When you need to dress up, try this J. Crew oxford,
made with a fabric that actively cools your skin
and transfers sweat away from your body.
WEIGHT LOSS
HOW TO LOSE
WEIGHT FAST
SMART
NEED TO DROP SOME
POUNDS? TAKE IT OFF
WITH A MORNING SHAKE.
BY CHRIS HANSEN
Being a trainer, bodybuilder, and nutrition placement that works and has a taste so good While there are over 1000 testimonials
expert means that companies frequently that it’s addicting.” on Amazon about how INVIGOR8 “gave me
send me their products and ask for my stamp Being skeptical of what Zee told me, I de- more energy and stamina” and “melts away
of approval. Most of the time I dive into re- cided to investigate this superfood shake abdominal fat like butter on a hot sidewalk”,
search, test the product out, and send the called INVIGOR8. what really impressed me was how many
company honest feedback. Sometimes, how- Turns out INVIGOR8 Superfood Shake has customers raved about the taste. So I had to
ever, I refuse to give the product a try, because a near 5-star rating on Amazon. The creators give it a try.
frankly, the ingredients inside aren’t real food. are actual scientists and personal trainers
When it arrived I gave it the sniff test. Un-
And I’d rather drink diesel fuel than torture who set out to create a complete meal re-
like most meal replacement shakes it smelled
my body with a chemical concoction. placement shake chocked full of superfoods
like whole food, not a chemical factory. So far
Like my father always said, “What you put that—get this—actually accelerate how quick-
inside your body always shows up on the ly and easily you lose belly fat and builds even so good. Still INVIGOR8 had to pass the most
outside.” more lean, calorie burning muscle. important test, the taste test.
One protein shake that I received, that will We all know that the more muscle you And INVIGOR8 was good. Better than
remain nameless, was touted as ‘the next big build, the more calories you burn. The more good. I could see what Zee meant when he
shake’ but really had a list of gut destroying fat you melt away the more definition you get said his clients found the taste addicting.
ingredients. Everywhere I read I saw harmful in your arms, pecs and abs. I also wanted to see if Invigor8 would help
artificial ingredients, added sugars, synthetic The makers of INVIGOR8 were deter- me burn that body fat I’d tried to shave off for
dyes, preservatives and cheap proteins; the mined to make the first complete, natural, years to achieve total definition.
kind of proteins that keep you fat no matter non-GMO superfood shake that helps you Just a few weeks later I’m pleased to say,
how hard you hit the gym, sap your energy lose fat and build lean muscle. The result is shaving that last abdominal fat from my mid-
and do nothing for your muscles. a shake that contains 100% grass-fed whey section wasn’t just easy. It was delicious.
Disappointed after reviewing this “new” that has a superior nutrient profile to the Considering all the shakes I’ve tried I can
shake, I hit the gym and bumped into my fa- grain-fed whey found in most shakes, me- honestly say that the results I’ve experienced
vorite bodybuilding coach. This guy is push- tabolism boosting raw coconut oil, hormone from INVIGOR8 are nothing short of aston-
ing 50, has the energy of a college kid, and is free colostrum to promote a healthy immune
ishing.
ripped. So are his clients. system, Omega 3, 6, 9-rich chia and flaxseeds,
A company spokesperson confirmed an
While I firmly believe that the gym is a no- superfood greens like kale, spinach, brocco-
exclusive offer for Men’s Health readers: if you
talk focus zone, I had to ask, “Hey Zee, what li, alfalfa, and chlorella, and clinically tested
protein shake are you recommending to your cognitive enhancers for improved mood and order INVIGOR8 this month, you’ll receive
clients these days?” brain function. The company even went a $10 off your first order by using promo code
Zee looked at me, and shook his head. step further by including a balance of pre and “MEN10” at checkout. If you’re in a rush to
“Protein shakes are old news and loaded with probiotics for regularity in optimal digestive burn fat, restore lean muscle and boost your
junk. I don’t recommend protein shakes, I health, and digestive enzymes so your body stamina and energy you can order INVIG-
tell my clients to drink INVIGOR8 Superfood absorbs the high-caliber nutrition you get OR8 today at www.drinkInvigor8.com or by
Shake because it’s the only all natural meal re- from INVIGOR8. calling 1-800-958-3392.
LIFE
YOUR EXPERT
Naomi Piercey
answers your
questions about
sex and relation-
ships that
Google can’t.
Everyone feels the hurt as you age, is, after two weeks of using it, my knee pain no
longer affected my daily mobility.
but CBD can help you deal with it. The Zebra Mint Oil, on the other hand, had a
different but equally positive effect on my body.
Life really does fly by. Before I knew it, my 40s Association, 70% of CBD products didn’t To take it, the instructions suggest holding the
had arrived, and with them came some new gifts contain the amount of CBD stated on their oil in your mouth for about 30 seconds. This
from dear ol’ Mother Nature—frequent knee labels. And, as a consumer, that’s terrifying! was simple enough, and the mint taste was,
pain, stress, low energy and sleeplessness. Now, well, minty. After about 15 minutes, a sense of
If I was going to do this, I needed to trust the
I’m a realist about these things, I knew I wasn’t calm came over my body. It's hard to describe
source through and through. My two-fold exactly; it's definitely not a "high" feeling. It's
going to be young and resilient forever. But research process naturally led me to Zebra CBD.
still, with “middle-age” nearly on my doorstep, I more like an overall sense of relaxation—a chill
couldn’t help but feel a little disheartened. That is First, I did a quick online poll—and by that, factor. Needless to say, I’ve really enjoyed the oil.
until I found my own secret weapon. Another gift I mean I posed the CBD question on my While it hasn’t been a catch-all fix to every one
from Mother Nature. Facebook page. Call me old fashioned but I of my health issues, it has eased the level and
wanted to know if there were people whom I frequency of my aches. And it sure doesn’t
It began a few months back when I was trusted (more than anonymous testimonials) seem like a coincidence how much calmer and
complaining about my aches and pains to who’ve had success using CBD besides my more focused I am.
my marathon-running buddy, Ben, who is buddy. That is how I found out that Zebra CBD
my same age. He casually mentioned how All-in-all, CBD is one of those things that you
has a label accuracy guarantee which assures have to try for yourself. Although I was skeptical
he uses CBD oil to help with his joint pain. customers like me what is stated on the label is
He said that CBD has given him more focus at first, I can say that I’m now a Zebra CBD fan
in the product. and that I highly recommend their products.
and clarity throughout the day and that his
Secondly, I wanted cold hard facts. Diving My 40s are looking up!
lingering muscle and joint discomfort no
longer bothered him. He even felt comfortable deep into the world of CBD research and Also, I managed to speak with a company
signing up for back-to-back marathons two clinical studies, I came across Emily Gray spokesperson willing to provide an exclusive
weekends in a row this year. M.D., a physician at the University of offer to Men’s Health readers. If you order this
California at San Diego (UCSD) Medical month, you’ll receive $10 off your first order
That made even this self-proclaimed skeptic School and Zebra CBD's medical advisor by using promo code “Health10” at checkout.
take notice. who is researching the effects of CBD. Dr. Plus, the company offers a 100% No-Hassle,
But I still had some concerns. According to one Gray wrote “early results with CBD have Money-Back Guarantee. You can try it yourself
study in the Journal of the American Medical been promising and we have a lot of research and order Zebra CBD at ZebraCBD.com.
MIND
59 ........... BR AIN-BOOSTING TOOLS
60 ............... MAN VS. SLEEP DEMON
62 .......................... C A LLING
B.S. ON
SPIR IT UA L HE A LING
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
GETS A
REBOOT
E
Patrick Dossett, a former Navy SEAL, VERY YEAR, Blake Mycoskie, 44, and a bunch of his
guy friends go on a surf trip. It’s a time to catch up, take
and Blake Mycoskie, the socially con-
stock, shoot the shit. In 2017, they hit Mexico, where
scious founder of Toms, have teamed
Dan Salinger/Trunk Archive
they spent a week riding waves off the coast of Baja. One
up to create Madefor, a self-care night, during a round of Imagine you won the lottery and you no
start-up to help you reach your full longer had to work for money; how would you spend your time?
potential. The hook: You have to do one answer struck a chord with Mycoskie. Patrick Dossett, 40, a
the hard work. BY JOSH OCAMPO program manager at Google and a former Navy SEAL, said he’d
In 2006, Mycoskie founded Toms Shoes, didn’t have the right to be depressed. all at once, in a high-intensity scenario
its name shorthand for Tomorrow’s Shoes, “I felt a void,” he says. “I was ashamed (like a bad case of food poisoning that
its goal to get a pair of shoes to children because I felt like I didn’t want to admit turns you off oysters forever), or as the
in need around the world with each pur- to being depressed.” Mycoskie started a result of small, incremental change. He
chase. Soon Toms espadrilles became a social-entrepreneurship fund and argued that for people to realize their full
totem of well-dressed virtue, ubiquitous spent the next two years on a decom- potential in life, they often require the
among brunch enthusiasts and hungover pression sabbatical, dabbling in differ- latter. “The true way to change things is
millennials. As Toms—and Mycoskie’s ent kinds of self-optimization. That’s more like a staircase,” he says. “You take
one-for-one model—turned into a phe- why that night in Baja, Dossett’s answer one step every day or couple of days, and
nomenon, he was lauded for doing well resonated. The über-practical ex-SEAL slowly-ish, you arrive at the top.”
while doing good, but he began to sacrifice and the Big Thinking do-gooder decided You’ve probably heard some version
his own mental health for the company’s to try to create a self-help brand that of this before, and so had Mycoskie and
growth. “My relationships with my wife would serve people—and make money. Dossett. But based on their research and
A
COUPLE YEARS ago, I went on a On Holy Isle, a monk gathered us “wellness” industry (worth more than
three-day mindfulness retreat on together on the beach and asked us to $4 trillion worldwide as of 2018), an indus-
Holy Isle, off the coast of Scotland, choose a pebble. He told us to imagine that try that has gone way beyond mindfulness
where the Kagyu Samye Ling Tibetan Bud- the stone contained within it all the psy- and down a slippery slope to far more per-
dhist monastery has an outpost. chic and physical woes that afflicted us. nicious hocus-pocus, such as crystal dan-
I’m a man nearing the end of my sixth Then we were to hurl the stone of misfor- gling, horoscopy, and Goop’s vaginal eggs.
decade. Things are starting to malfunc- tune as far as we could into the sea. To invert the science-fiction writer
tion. I was diagnosed with a myeloid blood No way! I protested internally. No way Arthur C. Clarke’s dictum—“Any suffi-
disease in 2011, and while the symptoms am I going to surrender all my resent- ciently advanced technology is indistin-
(and the side effects of the medication) ments and traumas and aches and pains guishable from magic”—we might say
aren’t that egregious, they have syner- so easily! Dammit! My “mindfulness” had that in a world where such innovations
gized with the aging process to make turned into a bad attitude. have become commonplace, magic starts
everything physical feel just that much But I’ve come to see the monk as a pos- to appear credible once again. But can
more difficult. What I need at this time of itive beacon of low-cost sincerity when I actually get something from all this
my life is vitality. set beside the obvious boondoggles of the stone-throwing magic?
MARK
his early-career shenanigans into a hit TV show, Entou-
rage, and created his first television-and-film production
company. He is also a part owner of a burger chain, a gym
chain, a supplement line, and a Chevy dealership. In July,
he will launch an athleisure brand called Municipal. All
WAHLBERG
this while raising four kids and being the most famous
Catholic other than the pope. We’ve tracked his progress
since 2005, having put him on the cover of Men’s Health
six times—more than anyone else. It’s because he has big
movies and big arms (and he sells well), but also because
IS LETTING
Wahlberg’s story shows how a flawed man who spent time
in prison as a teenager can fi x himself and keep trying to
become a better man. In his case, fitness has served as a
guardrail on that journey.
ITGO.
Now Wahlberg faces the challenges of juggling all his
multiplatform projects and the demands of marriage and
parenthood. Just looking at his schedule is exhausting.
Even he says he works like a psychopath and has a boot-
camp existence. Part of the appeal of getting older used to
be that you could stop reinventing—you could slow down,
settle in—and finally be yourself. You were good enough.
IT’S MAY 1, and Wahlberg has been sheltering at home for 39 days At 49, he’s still going at it, and so are more and more of us. The
with his wife, Rhea Durham; his two daughters, Ella, 16, and Grace, idea of good enough isn’t always good enough. Then again, “good
10; his two sons, Michael, 14, and Brendan, 11; and the family’s new enough” was never good enough for Mark Wahlberg, which is why
addition, a Pomeranian named Champ who has nearly 80,000 fol- he’s Mark Wahlberg and not Vanilla Ice.
lowers on Instagram and rules the house. The actor-producer-busi-
nessman, who once caused a disturbance on the Internet with a post WAHLBERG’S RULE NO. 4:
about how he starts each day at 2:30 A.M. and schedules everything
in 15-minute increments, rolls out of bed around 9:00. He eats a veg- START IN THE GYM
etarian breakfast, often plant-based sausage with a sweet-potato IT MAY seem shallow to lead off a story on Wahlberg by talking about
patty and avocado, washed down with three juice shots: greens, tur- his body, but muscle first led him into trouble, then helped him
meric, and apple-cider vinegar with raw garlic and ginger. “Everyone escape it. I ask if prison—where at age 16 he spent 45 days, in 1988,
hates it, because when I start burping, it smells like a restaurant.” after pleading guilty to felony assault for beating up two men—is
He finally heads down to his basement gym at 10:30 A.M. “That’s where he started strength training. “No, I started doing it before,
usually like my midafternoon lunchtime,” he says. “I’m still knowing that it’d be in my best interest to be as fit and as strong as
training five days a week, but now my wife is with me. I feel like possible,” he says, referring to the muscle he needed as a street tough
I’m a human alarm clock. I’m pushing her to get down there. . . . in the Boston neighborhood of Dorchester. “I wasn’t going off to foot-
The rest of the day, I’m eating more and drinking more wine than ball camp.” But prison is where he realized training and prayer could
I normally would.” We’re on a Zoom video call, and Wahlberg is give his life structure: pray, lift, eat, sleep, repeat. Focusing on his
sitting at the desk in his home office. He is in quarantine casual— fitness and faith, and the discipline that comes with those things,
sweatpants, a red T-shirt, bed head—fancied up with a crucifi x on pushed him to make better choices and helped him be happier.
a chain. “I’m just maintaining until I get the word that we might be Wahlberg pivots to tell a story about how he’s trying to pass
going back to work. Then I’ll get super disciplined again.” that gym discipline down to his children. “You know, it’s funny,
That discipline switch has been dialed up to 11—for the past because my kids came down to the gym today after the workout
30 years—and it’s helped Wahlberg earn a unique place in our and my two sons are super athletic, but they’re like, ‘Oh, Dad,
cultural memory and imagination. As Marky Mark, he rapped you’re a try-hard. You know, all you want to do is be buff.’ I said,
into our collective consciousness, buff and shirtless, with “Good ‘You should be training right now, too. You’re going to want to be
Vibrations,” which hit number one in 1991. A year later, he helped in shape later.’ ” Even in quarantine, on a relaxed schedule, he’s
make showing your underwear waistband a thing, posing in noth- staying fit, but his approach has changed from that of his 20s.
ing but his Calvin Klein sport trunks. We didn’t really expect In those days, his training emphasized mirror muscles, with
to see him again, but then he started acting. At fi rst he popped iconic results. See: the Herb Ritts–shot Calvin Klein ads from 1992.
up in minor roles, but he steadily earned bigger parts, shifting More than a decade later,a 2005 Men’s Health cover story noted,
from gritty dramas to action blockbusters to raucous comedies. “Wahlberg hits the iron hard, but in the simplest ways. He picks
Often Wahlberg played characters who were larger than life yet two or three body parts to focus on for 30 minutes five days a week.”
still relatable. He’s the porn star with performance anxiety. He’s “My head was hard,” he says, referring to his old regimen. “A lot of
Optimus Prime’s buddy on Earth. He’s the Navy SEAL who sur- people that I worked out with would be amazed where my focus is
vives a mission that kills his team. He’s the guy who fights with with my training now: No more isolation movements. It’s got to be
his best friend, a talking teddy bear. fully functional.” He also spends more time stretching with a foam
roller or TRX, targeting his “quads and hammies, the psoas, all the Currently he’s eating a plant-based diet five days a week that
uncomfortable stuff that takes stress away from my back.” makes it easy to keep his weight close to his quarantine target of
The training he did at 10:30 was a “big, functional F45- around 180 pounds. Wahlberg was in London last year fi lming
style workout,” he says, referencing the Australian-based gym Infinite, a 2021 sci-fi thriller directed by Antoine Fuqua. He was
chain known for group classes that combine strength, mobility, doing the Full Wahlberg—waking up at 2:30 A.M. to train, eating
and cardio. (See “Build Hollywood Muscle,” page 71.) Last year, every two and a half hours—but “by the time I went to work, I was
Wahlberg became a part owner of F45, which has more than 800 just tired.” He consulted his doctor, who suspected he had leaky-
franchises in the U. S. He says he went to a class and “fell in love gut syndrome and put Wahlberg on a bone-broth cleanse and
with the workouts.” He was struck by the scalability—an older then a steamed-vegetable diet. Soon he was feeling much better,
overweight newbie was doing the same workout as a college ath- and because he’s “a creature of habit,” he leaned into plant-based
lete—and the upbeat, communal vibe. The people were inspiring eating, supplementing with lots of plant-based protein shakes.
one another, and it seemed like a saner, safer version of CrossFit. He goes wild on the weekends, adding “a little pasta and fish.”
He’s also a part owner of Performance Inspired, a supplement “Between work, I want to grow and evolve and be in the best possi-
company he founded in 2016 with a former GNC executive. It’s ble shape for life,” he says. “That’s being strong, mobile, flexible,
a fitness and wellness play, with training and recovery products no inflammation, feeling good.”
made with high-quality natural ingredients. Compared with
brands that make wild marketing claims with images of XXXL WAHLBERG’S RULE NO. 11:
bodybuilders, it’s basic (but in a good way).
Wahlberg admits that he gets obsessed with new workouts and TAKE SMART RISKS AT WORK
diets, partly because he’s had to put on or take off weight for roles. THE MOST dramatic reinvention in Wahlberg’s career was play-
“The fun thing about my job is that it’s constantly forcing me to ing Dirk Diggler, a well-endowed porn star, in Boogie Nights. “It
challenge myself and change,” he says. His record low weight was was a risky move: With my background, with Calvin Klein, was it
137 pounds, for The Gambler in 2014. “I was 138 pounds for Boogie just me being exploited?” he says. “It was cool to be tough or edgy,
Nights [in 1997] and I had to beat that number,” he says. “I went on a but it wasn’t really cool to be vulnerable. It was also liberating.”
liquid diet for six weeks and did 200 rounds of jump rope every day.” It’s not clear if he’s talking about acting or real life, but it applies to
His heaviest was 212 pounds, for Pain & Gain in 2013. both. Paul Thomas Anderson’s film demonstrated that Wahlberg
his own experience. With his production companies, Closest That Wahlberg’s upbringing is so different from his own kids’
to the Hole and Unrealistic Ideas, that means shows Wahlberg is intimately wound up in what motivates him and who he says
either lived or would watch: Entourage, Boardwalk Empire, his hero is: his dad, Donald Wahlberg, a Korean War veteran
Ballers, and McMillion$, the HBO show about the McDonald’s and truck driver who delivered school lunches. Wahlberg was
Monopoly-game scam. With Performance Inspired and F45, introduced to film through his dad, who showed a teenage Mark
Styling: Ted Stafford and Samantha McMillen. Hair: Cheryl Daniels. Makeup: Allan Apone. Production: Emily Pando/Crawford & Co.
it means supplements he takes and workouts he does. With old gangster movies starring guys like Steve McQueen, James
Wahlburgers, it means food he wants to eat (now including the Cagney, and John Garfield. “It was so pivotal in so many ways.
Impossible plant-based burger). “I have to live it, and it has to be My dad worked hard just to put food on the table. He showed me
a direct extension of who I am,” he says. what hard work looks like, and I knew what it smelled like when
Wahlberg’s next venture is Municipal, an online clothing I sat with him in the yard. He was sitting in his garden and he
brand somewhere between Lululemon and Supreme that he’s wouldn’t flick cigarette ashes onto the yard, because that was the
creating with CEO Harry Arnett, who previously worked at the only home he’d ever owned. He would flip them in his pant cuffs.”
golf company Callaway. “The goal is versatility: It’s the clothes Wahlberg is trying to inspire that same blue-collar work ethic
you wear 95 percent of the time in the gym, at home, at work,” in his kids, but from his Beverly Hills chateau with a swimming
says Arnett. “It’s orientated around the inclination to move, lit- pool and a basketball court. “I’m sitting across from my son,
erally and as a metaphor.” But because Wahlberg is baked into just yesterday, having this conversation, and I’m like, ‘Dude, if
the identity of the brands, he has to stay relevant and keep star- you don’t work hard in school right now, you will regret it later.
ring in big movies to drive growth. You always give it 110 percent, then you’ll never have to live with
It’s telling that Wahlberg has said the actor who most inspires regret.’ I’m speaking from experience. I’ve got to instill that
him is Paul Newman, because of his philanthropy and business ethic; if you want to make something happen, the only way to do
smarts. He’s thinking Big Picture. “All the success and all the that is to roll up your sleeves and do the work.”
things that I achieved, guess what?” he says. “You can’t take it It’s obviously something he’s wrestling with, because he fur-
with you. There’s no luggage racks on a hearse, right? What do rows that famous brow and keeps talking. “What I want to give
you do with it? How do you make the most change and move the them is the drive and desire to find out what they’re passionate
needle in the most ways? I didn’t have to look any further than out about and go and be the best version of themselves. Maybe one
my window where I grew up. I didn’t have to say, ‘Is there a crisis will want to go into acting; others may want to take over one of
in the world that I can get involved with—you know, rain forests, these companies that we’re building. And one may say, ‘I want
animals, and all this stuff ?’ ” That’s why he supports the Boys to be a professional skateboarder.’ ”
& Girls Clubs of America through his foundations and why his He continues, “My faith and all that weighs heavy on me, too, in
businesses have philanthropic components. a good way, to inspire them. I don’t force them to go to church with
BUILD
One of Mark Wahl-
it’s not a small step. It’s a giant leap.
berg’s favorite routines
One thing his kids don’t follow his is a 60-minute F45
lead on is crying during movies. He’s a
famous crier, and I ask how he got to a HOLLYWOOD session called Holly-
wood, a 27-station HIIT
place where he’s comfortable tearing
up in front of his children. “It’s real
life, dude,” he says. “There are many,
MUSCLE workout. It involves
40-on, 15-off intervals.
Go to F45challenge
many times when my kids will tell me, .com for the full circuit.
Don’t have an hour? Do
‘Dad, whatever you do, don’t cry.’ But
2 rounds of this Holly- STEP TRAINER SHUFFLE
I tell them there’s nothing wrong with
wood-inspired circuit. Stay on the balls
crying, with conveying those kinds of of your feet!
emotions. When I watch a movie that
feels real and emotional, it just gets me;
it gets me every time.”
Wahlberg brings up his dad again
at the end of our interview, when I ask
when was the last time he cried. It wasn’t
at Donald’s funeral back in 2008; it was
actually just the previous day, recall-
ing how a dear friend’s father had been
in the hospital for six weeks and had
just passed away. Because of the pan-
1 INCHWORM TO SQUAT PULSE PLANK
demic, the son wasn’t allowed to visit.
10 MOUNTAIN CLIMBERS Keep your Brace your abs and
But he had written a letter to his dad Walk out to pushup position, chest up! your glutes!
and emailed that letter to Wahlberg, then tighten your core.
saying he was feeling depressed. So
Wahlberg FaceTimed him.
“I’m sitting in my bathroom looking
at this picture of my dad with my old-
est son, knowing that my youngest son
never met my dad and my youngest girl
never met my dad. And thinking about
mortality, thinking about my mom,
Ben Mounsey-Wood (illustrations)
FE ATU R IN G. . .
1. B U I L D N AT U R A L - B O R N M U S C L E | Daniel Murakami
2. G L I D E O V E R G R AV E L | Le o Ro dgers
3. R U N U P ( A N D D O W N ) M O U N TA I N S | Jim Walmsley
Logging gains:
Training with
awkwardly shaped
objects builds
total-body
strength, says A N I E L M U R A K A M I , 33, spent
Murakami. years dominating deadlifts,
bench presses, and squats. Then
five years ago, he walked up to
a boulder field near his home
in Murrieta, California, braced his core,
and tried to lift a huge rock. Nothing hap-
pened . . . except a change in Murakami’s
training philosophy. If he couldn’t lift
anything outside the gym, was gym train-
ing really working? “I wanted farm-boy
strength,” he says, “and that was best
achieved through unconventional means.”
So Murakami, a certified trainer who
had worked in various gyms for more than
a decade, rethought everything. He’d mas-
tered bodybuilding, powerlifting, body-
weight training, and Olympic lifts. But he
shifted gears, first exploring the origins of
strongman training in the late 1800s, then
going even further back in history to study
how ancient Chinese warriors trained. That
led him, in 2018, to create Human Strong
Training, a California-based strength
workout program inspired by nature.
Murakami still works with actual bar-
bells on most days, but on occasion he
pushes clients (and himself) through shoul-
der presses and cleans using jagged rocks,
uneven tree trunks, and anything else he
finds in the wild. “The symmetrical, linear
box we put movement in doesn’t necessarily
translate to the chaos of life,” he says.
Nature replicates that chaos, delivering
uneven loads and imbalanced surfaces
that hot-wire your nervous system, forcing
oft-neglected stabilizing muscles (think
rotator cuffs) into action and challenging
your core muscles, too. (Hello, abs!) “There
is a certain ‘strength IQ’ we gain from
training with these organic loads that offer
much-needed complexity,” Murakami
BUILD
says. “It’s not just the weight that prevents
you from lifting it. It’s the awkwardness.”
Nothing exemplifies this better than
rocks. They were used as training tools
NATURAL-BORN
by Chinese weightlifters as far back as
the 1300s. (Translation: way, way before
Concept2 anything.) “Every single one is
a complex riddle that requires a different
MUSCLE
solution,” Murakami says. “The weight
is a mystery. The right grip must be found
and the weight distribution adjusted for in
real time. Every rock is an opportunity.”
These six moves from Murakami involving
How lifting rocks, flipping tree stumps, and sprinting on rocks, trees, and sand will help you see those
sand increase your strength IQ. BY EBENEZER SAMUEL, C.S.C.S. opportunities, too.
Spin master:
LOG ZERCHER SQUAT Leo Rodgers riding
GLIDE
Challenge your legs and core: Get your arms in Grinduro in
Quincy, California.
under a medium log, holding it in the crooks of
your elbows. Stand with your feet shoulder width
apart. Keeping your elbows and chest up, core
OVER GRAVEL
tight, bend at the knees and hips, lowering your
torso until your thighs are parallel to the ground.
Stand back up. That’s 1 rep; do 3 sets of 8 to 10.
STUMP FLIP Riding on dirt lets you explore new terrain and
Build explosive power: Stand beside a heavy find the outer limits of your fitness. BY PETER FLAX
dislodged tree stump. Squat down beside it and
get your hands underneath it. Brace your core.
Push the stump up and away from your body, EO RODGERS is shredding down a sandy, abandoned railway
using the leverage from your legs to flip it. Run line not far from downtown St. Petersburg, Florida. Rodgers,
around to the other side 35, has got a huge smile on his face—and not only because
and repeat. That’s 1 rep; he just hucked off a foot-high curb and landed cleanly. He’s
do 10 sets of 3 to 5.
doing the thing that he loves: riding bikes. More specifically,
he’s enjoying the kind of cycling that he loves the most: gravel riding,
SAND SPRINT GEAR UP: a discipline that’s quietly experiencing a major upswing.
Rodgers has spent nearly his whole life here in the Tampa area, but
GLOVES
Upgrade your agility:
While barefoot in the this sort of riding has taken him on adventures around the country—
s a n d, s p rint fo r 1 0 on dirt paths through forested knolls in Georgia and desert land-
seconds, focusing on Gloves protect your
scapes in New Mexico and endless farmland in Kansas. He’s held his
speed and lifting your hands from flinty
rocks and painful own competing in serious races (with jokey names) like Dirty Kanza
knees high. Walk back
and repeat. Do 10 sets. splinters. Outdoor and Grinduro that are won by top pros.
Research’s Splitter Anyone who rides with him can’t help but notice two things: He’s
Work goat-leather fast as shit and has only one leg. As a teenager, he was a swaggering
GORILLA HOPS gloves are tough motorcycle rider who had a life-changing crash late one Saturday
Ignite your core and but also tactile, so
night in 2007. Out with friends, he did a wheelie while going more
shoulders: Get on all you can grip with
precision. $55;
than 100 miles per hour. It was the type of trick he’d pulled off many
fours in the sand, core
tight, hands shoulder outdoorresearch.com times before, but this time he went down—launching over a guard-
width apart. Hop your rail and slicing his left thigh before landing in a river. Doctors saved
feet forward, just out- his life but could not save his leg. After two weeks in an induced
side your hands, keep- coma, he woke up to a new reality.
Ronnie Romance (Rodgers)
ing your butt low. Move After some tough rehab and existential homework (“I had to ask
your hands forward,
myself, Why am I even here?” he admits), the daredevil discovered a
extending your legs as
you do so. That’s 1 rep;
way to find action and meaning on a different kind of bike. One day in
do 3 sets of 20. 2010, he brushed the cobwebs off his high school bicycle. With prac-
tice, he learned how to mount and dismount it even with one leg and
found he could power it with his right leg if he used a clipless pedal.
“It was like being back on a motorcycle, only I was the motor,” he
says. Now Rodgers’s life revolves around bicycles: He works at a
Tampa bike shop, leads rides around the area, and has earned a
national championship in Paralympic track cycling. “The bike is a
lot of things to me, my transportation, my toy, and my prosthetic,”
he says. “But most of all it’s my tool—it helps me feel free.”
RUN UP
That freedom, the wanderlust to pedal down unpaved roads,
draws Rodgers to gravel. “Getting out there and getting lost—
that’s part of the point,” he says. “I fell in love with gravel right
away—the way you have to use all your skills.” Gravel adventures
combine the speed of road riding with
the technical challenges of moun-
(AND DOWN)
MOUNTAINS
tain biking. Because the surfaces can
range from packed dirt to deep sand,
riders must adapt. “The terrain forces
GEAR UP:
you to develop skills that also give you
confidence on the road,” he says.
Be ready to sweat; gravel riding is
not easy. Rodgers says it’s an organic
BIKE
Wider tires, disc
Turn boring training runs into wild
scavenger hunts. BY LISA JHUNG
brakes, and a carbon
mix of high-intensity interval work
frame help smooth
with traditional aerobic exercise. the chatter of gravel
“You’re riding along and have to and ensure greater
power through little sections,” he control and comfort.
says. “That’s especially true at races, Canyon’s Grail CF SL
where you get to blow yourself up 7.0 has all those fea-
while you have fun—and then there tures, so you can ride
longer and happier.
are beers at the end.” Use these four
$2,499; canyon.com
tips to get rolling.
START WAFFLING
Carry tasty snacks that evoke the sport’s
sweetest European traditions: perfor-
mance waffles. Honey Stinger, Gu, and
UnTapped make nutritionally sound Y E A R A F TE R graduating from the Air
treats in flavors including gingersnap, Force Academy, where he was a stand-
campfire s’mores, and maple.
out track and cross-country runner,
Jim Walmsley picked up a hiking book.
UPGRADE YOUR BAG AND TIRES It was 2013, and he was living in Great
Be prepared for minor repairs and changing weather. A frame bag, Falls, Montana, within striking distance of Glacier
like Revelate Designs’ Tangle, offers space for snacks, tools, and a National Park and Helena National Forest. “I’d figure
rain slicker. To limit punctures, go with a durable tire like Panaracer’s out routes that ended at a lake, a mountaintop, or a
GravelKing Plus. It comes in a 28c size that fits on most road bikes. waterfall and would run the routes like a scavenger
hunt,” he says. “I didn’t know trail running was a
LOOK AT A MAP sport at that time, but I liked the sense of adventure.”
Fast-forward seven years and the 30-year-old
If you’re unsure how to find primo unpaved roads, check out
gravelmap.com, which has a curated interactive database of thou-
holds records for many top trail events, including the
sands of user-generated routes in all 50 states. The staff at your local Western States 100-Mile Endurance Run (14 hours, 9
bike shop probably also knows the best trails in the area. minutes, 28 seconds) and the 42-mile Grand Canyon
Rim-to-Rim-to-Rim trail (5 hours, 55 minutes, 20
seconds). He even cranks out insanely fast miles on
TRUST YOUR SPEED road, finishing 22nd at the Olympic Marathon Trials
When faced with tricky terrain, there’s a natural instinct to squeeze in February with a 2:15:05 in his debut (5:10 per mile).
your brake levers hard. Don’t. Typically, maintaining momentum is
Chances are you’re no Walmsley, but like him, you
the safest and surest way to pedal through thick sand and over roots,
rocks, and other obstacles. might have a sense of adventure and find that trail
running scratches that itch.
GEAR UP:
SHOES
ing obstacles, but also glance down directly in front of
FORGET ABOUT PACE you to target your foot strikes. Use your arms more as a
Walmsley’s advice for trail-running newbies is simple. counterbalance, especially when descending.
Traction in the form
“Pick places you want to go, that inspire you to get out
of multidirectional
the door,” he says. Even if it’s a ribbon of dirt around
Central Park, or up to the top of the local hill you’d nor-
USE TRAILS AS PORTALS TO ADVENTURE rubber lugs on your
soles can keep you
mally only hike. Set realistic expectations: Your per-mile When choosing routes, decide what you’re craving:
upright on gravel, wet
time on a trail won’t equal what you run on road. That’s TRANQUILITY? Run a trail to a lake or next to a river.
grass, and slippery
fine; you’re still making massive fitness gains. QUIET? Choose a route in dense woods.
rocks. The Hoka One
ACHIEVEMENT? Run to the top of something.
One Torrent 2 delivers
A REBOOT? Choose a rocky, rooty, or twisty trail that
BUT FIND CHALLENGING TERRAIN forces you to be present and think about your footing
superior traction and
cushioning. $120;
“Make a purposeful attempt to get on trails that chal- instead of your work/relationship/money/etc.
hokaoneone.com
lenge you,” says Walmsley. That can mean super-rocky
terrain that forces you to work on foot placement while
strengthening your core muscles, or hilly terrain that NEVER BE BORED AGAIN
taxes your cardiovascular system. Or eventually both, While you run, try ticking these items off a mental check-
as you gain confidence. It’s okay to power-hike on list (and feel free to create your own list based on your
ascents. Run descents carefully and deliberately, but local surroundings):
avoid tensing up. Spot a four-legged animal (chipmunk, squirrel,
Hoka One One (Walmsley)
YAN UTSUMI, 41, had been drenched in the turquoise “However long” stretched from two hours to six hours to eight,
blue and calm of southern California pools since he and within a year—in 2016—Utsumi swam the English Channel
started swimming competitively at age five. “But in (11 hours). He topped that by completing the “triple crown” of
2001, after 15 years of chlorine and coaches on the pool open-water swimming, adding the circumnavigation of Manhat-
deck, I was done with all that,” he says. tan (7:17) and the Catalina Channel (11:06) in 2017. He’s now four
What the investment-management professional didn’t know down in the Oceans Seven challenge, the open-water swimming
was that he wasn’t done with swimming. Ten years later, a move equivalent of the Seven Summits. He’s already booked to attempt
to San Francisco gave him access to the bay, “and I started pick- the fifth, the Cook Strait (nine to 12 hours) in New Zealand in 2022.
ing up swimming as a way to get active again.” Free of sets and The Brits call open water “wild swimming,” and what draws
clocks—“all the things I was done doing,” he says—“I felt freer to so many people like Utsumi isn’t just the chance to experience
swim wherever I wanted to, for however long I wanted to.” nature from a totally different perspective. It’s the skills open
Utsumi loved what San Francisco Bay served up: cold water, water requires of you—swimming ability, yes, but also adaptabil-
challenging chop, and “no two days that are ever the same,” even ity and grit. You’ve got to learn to plan, and you’ve got to plan to
if you’re swimming the exact same route. “I loved the thought pro- not be able to follow your plan. “It’s unsettling and exciting that
cess required when swimming outdoors—How long can I swim at you can’t control it,” says Utsumi. For him, the fun starts in rough
this temperature? What are the currents doing? Are there seals? water, but plenty of open-water swims are held in calmer seas,
And I loved answering the question Can I swim from A to B?” lakes, and rivers, which is your best way to try wild swimming.
WATCH
open water is tricky
DON’T HOLD YOUR BREATH without a watch. The
As soon as you put your face into the water, exhale. If you get out of Garmin Swim 2 has a
breath really quickly while open-water swimming, it’s likely because GPS to do that, plus it monitors heart
you’re not exhaling enough, not because you’re not inhaling enough. rate and gives you pacing alerts, all in
Many swimmers take little sips of air in with each stroke and never extra-large numbers that you can see
exhale. That makes you feel anxious, out of breath, and exhausted. through goggles. $200; garmin.com
Let it out. It’s magic. Treading water to gather yourself is also okay.
ANSWER: A OR C
All three of these plants contain a sticky, long as the soap contains a degreasing
invisible oil called urushiol. Getting it agent, as in dishwashing liquid.
off within 30 minutes of exposure will Rubbing alcohol can also remove
prevent the oil from chemically bonding urushiol, so carry alcohol wipes when
with your skin, lessening the itchy, oozy camping or hiking if you can’t wash
misery. Don’t overthink cleanup and immediately. With either remedy,
3
turn to bleach: That shouldn’t be used rinse your skin thoroughly and avoid
on skin. Soap and water do the trick, as scrubbing, as this can irritate the skin.
4
C Answer A or B. survival. If you haven’t had
formal CPR training, at least
D Ten minutes. After that, there’s no use. do this hands-only version
(after calling 911), recom-
mended by the American
ANSWER: C Heart Association:
YOUR FRIEND HAS Don’t ever stop CPR worked on her for 31 1. Place the heel of one hand
in the center of the chest.
SEVERE CHEST PAIN because you think it’s
hopeless, says Pauline
minutes and she eventu-
ally left the hospital just
Place the other on top of it
AND COLLAPSES ON Meekins, M.D., an emer- fine.” What that means
and interlace your fingers.
2. Keeping your arms straight,
THE TENNIS COURT. THE gency-room physician for you: “No layperson push down hard and fast.
FIRST THING YOU SHOULD in Chico, California. should ever stop CPR.
3. Aim for about 100 to 120
“I had one woman in her Not unless you’re in a
DO IS FIND AND HOOK THEM compressions a minute,
20s come in,” she says. fire, on a sinking boat, or as fast as the beat in
UP TO A NEARBY AED. “She was blue. ‘Dead.’ I or EMS gets there.” “Stayin’ Alive.”
A True B False
A Yell loudly.
B Punch it in the nose, claw
its gills, and gouge its eyes.
C Churn wildly to scare it away.
8
D Swim away.
ANSWER: C
IF YOU FIND YOURSELF BEING PULLED OUT Making a scene might give
TO SEA IN A RIP CURRENT, YOU SHOULD: some land-based predators
Sources: Owen James Burke, U. S. Coast Guard master captain and fishing guide; Pauline Meekins, M.D., Chico, California–based emergency-room physician; Andrew Nathanson, M.D., professor
shore. But swimming against the water further out and be able to
current will only exhaust you. In- look back at where the waves are scare sharks, but when a great
stead, try to swim parallel to shore, breaking—that’s where you want white reportedly latched on
and be aware that the current might to go. Chart your path of least resis- to New Zealand surfer Nick
carry you out a bit. If you get tired, tance to shore (which might be Minogue’s surfboard and arm
you can back-float to save energy. a diagonal, not a straight line). earlier this year, he punched
the animal in the eye and
yelled, “Fuck off !” And. It. Did.
By MICHAEL J. MOONEY
Photographs by BENEDICT EVANS
84 July • August 2020 / MEN’S HEALTH
WE WEREN’T ACTUALLY GRAPPLING.
I
WASN’T ON this adventure alone. As
soon as I arrived, I met Pete Roberts,
Jocko’s business partner and the
This was purely for demonstration purposes. Still, it founder of Origin, the Maine-based
gi-manufacturing company that
all happened so fast. One second I was kneeling there, hosts the camp. Roberts, 40, has a
hunched over Jocko Willink, this hulking beast of a shaved head and 250 or so pounds
poured over a six-foot-five frame. (He was
man. A second later, I could feel the strong tug on the a tight end at the University of Maine.) He
collar of my martial-arts-style gi and the powerful whip gave me a crisp white gi and pointed me to
of his legs—and then suddenly I was on my back, staring my cabin. When I told him I was nervous,
he gave me a sweaty hug and assured me
up at the ceiling. I was told this move is called a scissor that the jiu-jitsu community is like “one
sweep. ¶ There is no shortage of popular podcasters and big family.”
At lunch on the first afternoon, I met
best-selling authors offering men advice on how to live Jesse Beddingfield, a 42-year-old single
a more fulfilling life. The lineup includes Jordan Peter- father from North Carolina who owns a
plumbing company. He sported a long
son, Ph.D. (the “crisis of masculinity” psychologist), Viking beard and wore an Iron Maiden
Tim Ferriss (the efficiency and psychedelics expert), compression shirt.Like many of the camp-
ers, he listens to Jocko Podcast and seemed
Joe Rogan (the pot-smoking, comedic every- “The Path is the only way to get where you on an unselfconscious journey toward self-
man), and, of course, Jocko. Though they are going. STAY ON IT.” His books break improvement. He’d been doing jiu-jitsu for
all regularly ruminate on what it means to down approaches to leadership that apply about eight months, minus time off due to
be a modern man, only one is a retired U. S. to both the battlefield and the boardroom. a horrific-sounding groin injury.
Navy SEAL and the clear bet in a fight. His weekly podcast, simply dubbed Next, I met Andrey Koltsov, who was
Jocko is the warrior sage. At age 48, he Jocko Podcast, consists of hours-long about to turn 24. The camp was a birth-
provides the stern encouragement and discussions about topics that range from day present to himself. Born in Belarus,
blunt advice many of us never received modern warfare tactics to diet and work- Koltsov grew up in New York and works
from our fathers. A lot of people are look- out strategies to the literary stylings in IT in Manhattan. He started jiu-
ing for a successful, healthy, happy life, of William Shakespeare and Cormac jitsu about a year ago, competes in rucking
but the idea of what exactly makes a good McCarthy. (Jocko was an English major in events, and has no apparent body fat.
man is more complicated than ever. Jocko college. It’s not rare for him to reference “I really want to see what I can accom-
seems to simplify everything. Listen to Blood Meridian.) He espouses axioms like plish with my time on this planet,” he told
him for long enough and you’re likely to “Discipline equals freedom” and “All your me. “What can I be?”
hear guidance on every aspect of life, excuses are lies”—all about the infinite Most of the campers were men, but there
from work habits to workout regimens to rewards of well-flexed willpower. were at least a dozen women as well as a few
relationships. As technology offers us the Through such unwavering dispatches, couples, like Eddie and Tami Nantz, lean
chance to binge-watch television while Jocko has built a considerable fan base. He’s vegetarians in their 40s who’d arrived from
someone delivers food to our door, Jocko a first-name-famous lifestyle guru to mil- Indiana. Their eight-year-old son trains,
tells us that some rewards come from lions of people who buy his books and listen too, although the camp doesn’t have a chil-
understanding struggle, not avoiding it. to his podcast. Many of those fans also buy dren’s component—yet. This trip was part
Being physical is part of that lesson. his supplements and branded clothing. of their anniversary gift to each other, so
That’s how I ended up sprawled on the pad- And about 450 of the most devoted attend they’d arranged for a private cabin.
ded mats inside a field house at a luxury this annual jiu-jitsu camp with him. People We’d all signed up to study the austere
summer camp in rural Maine last year. from all walks of American life pay $1,000 art of controlled aggression in a place
Jocko has the broad shoulders and chest of a each for a four-day session—or $1,800 for known as Camp Laurel. Its 160-acre cam-
comic-book hero and a square jaw to match. eight days—in which they sleep in cabins, pus is located deep in the forest, with doz-
Conversely, I’m in my late 30s and . . . not eat camp food, and train for several hours a ens of wooden cabins along a placid lake.
that. While Jocko is a black belt in jiu-jitsu day with Jocko and his entire team of black- The first evening, there was a two-hour
who’s trained consistently for more than belt instructors. training session. The white belts were told
20 years, at this point I had been taking jiu- Like a lot of Americans, I could definitely to partner off, so I paired up with Bedding-
jitsu lessons for exactly a day and a half. use more discipline in my life. When Jocko field. Then a team of instructors showed us
If you’ve never heard of Jocko—well, said I could write about the camp, I wasn’t a few different guard escapes—techniques
let’s start with the fact that he wakes up expecting to participate. But he encouraged to help neutralize an opponent’s legs when
around 4:30 A.M. just about every day and me to gain some personal perspective. So grappling. Beddingfield was gentle and
posts a photo of his watch to Twitter with there I was, tumbling through the air over patient as we alternated wrapping our legs
motivational messages like “IT’S ON” and over, never completely sure where I was around each other’s waist. “It’s only weird
and “ANNIHILATE THIS WEEK” and going to land or what I’d be looking at next. if you make eye contact,” he joked.
J
OCKO GREW up in small-town New After he retired from the Nav y in skills. He’s also written four children’s
England, and from the moment he 2010, Jocko cofounded Echelon Front, a books, starting with Way of the Warrior
learned the job existed, he wanted management-consulting f irm, w ith Kid, which chronicles a “wimpy” fifth
to be a commando. He joined the another retired SEAL, Leif Babin. Over grader’s transition into a strong, healthy,
Navy straight out of high school in the past decade, the duo have built their disciplined young man. (The Nantzes’ son
1990, discovered jiu-jitsu shortly own small-business empire. In 2015, reads them voraciously.)
thereafter, and eventually served Jocko and Leif wrote Extreme Owner- Jocko Podcast averages more than a
eight years on active duty as a Navy SEAL. ship, a best-selling leadership guide full million downloads a week. That helps move
In 2006, he deployed to the Iraqi city of of lessons from combat that might apply T-shirts with his famous taglines, a line of
Ramadi with SEAL Team 3 as commander to business. They followed that up with beverages—teas and all-natural energy
of Task Unit Bruiser, which included the 2018 book The Dichotomy of Leader- drinks—plus branded supplements and a
“American Sniper” Chris Kyle. Jocko ship, explaining the balance required in so spoken-word album of short motivational
was honored with both a Silver Star and many parts of life. speeches. And he cofounded a gym called
a Bronze Star for his service. (He also Jocko has penned “field manuals” that Victory MMA and Fitness in his current
earned his degree while enlisted.) share more life-conquering, pragmatic home of San Diego.
Much of what’s taught in MMA gyms The first goal of jiu-jitsu, if you’re fighting to new tests. During the day, some peo-
in America is Brazilian jiu-jitsu , a spe- a guy, is to bring him to the ground.” ple would meet behind the cafeteria and
cific adaptation developed over the past Using Jocko as his hypothetical oppo- plunge into ice baths to practice calming
century that emphasizes ground fighting nent, Echo went through the fundamen- breathing exercises. At night, various
and the ability to use leverage to defeat an tal offensive positions once someone is on campers sat on the docks to stare up at
opponent who may be bigger and stron- the ground: “mount,” when you’re on top of the starry sky while performing Wim Hof
ger. The combat-based art traces its roots your opponent, straddling the torso; “side meditations, which to the untrained prac-
back to Japan around 900 years ago to a mount,” when you’re perpendicular to titioner (that would be me) looks a lot like
close-combat technique that combined a your opponent, pinning from the top and hyperventilating until you hallucinate.
variety of grappling approaches, includ- side; and “take the back,” when you’re con- During one break, Roberts and Jocko
ing throws, holds, traps, and joint locks. trolling your opponent from behind (you offered campers a tour of the Origin fac-
For Jocko, it’s one big metaphor for life. can fully control someone and that person tory, located in a sprawling warehouse
“Jiu-jitsu is a simple, straightforward, can’t even see you). in nearby Farmington. Three years ago,
practical representation of the Way,” he “If ‘mount’ is like the golden castle of when Jocko first visited the mostly empty
says in a promotional video for the camp. positions,” Echo said, “ ‘take the back’ is building, he and Roberts shared a vision:
“It has offense. It has defense. It has flank- the diamond room inside that castle.” a fleet of factories paying fair wages across
ing. It has conservation of energy. It has The white belts laughed. Jocko, still the country, making gis, jeans, hoodies,
deception. You can use that for combat, seated on the mat, smiled and shook his leather boots, and more.
tactical situations. You can also use it in head. Part of his allure is that he gener- So far there’s just one, but it’s running
business. You can use it in interactions ally remains ultraserious, so when he’s at full throttle. One wall features a poster
I
with other human beings.” imparting wisdom, it’s impossible to tell of George Washington wearing an Ori-
if he’s also messing with you. gin gi while riding a massive rattlesnake.
KN OW IT sounds like a cliché, but “I was going to tell you that human Jocko’s plans to remake America don’t
on the second day, I woke up sore beings are predatory animals,” Jocko end with manufacturing, either. One day
in places I’d never felt before: the deadpanned. “That’s why we have eyes in he’d like to open his own school of new
muscles on the outsides of my hips, the front of our heads. That’s why we can fundamentals, where students are taught
the insides of my armpits, the area attack forward. That’s why our arms go everything from literature and American
T
where my groin meets my quads. forward. Because we’re predatory animals history to jiu-jitsu and car maintenance.
Jocko and Echo Charles, his cohost that are meant to stalk and kill.”
on the podcast, taught the first white-belt When we paired off, I drilled with Bed- HE MORE I trained, the more I
class of the day. Echo, who looks like he dingfield again. Jocko walked around the realized that jiu-jitsu is a sort of
could be an NFL linebacker, explained mats with his tattered black belt resting mental competition. More than a
the basic concepts of Brazilian jiu-jitsu as loosely at his waist. I was struggling with few people compared it to chess.
people jotted down notes or took out their “shrimping,” a basic escape maneuver, so The infinitely changing puzzle of
smartphones to record. he got down and demonstrated it solo, as move and countermove is what
“Jiu-jitsu is fighting,” he said in a calm though countering an invisible opponent. makes it so compelling. Jocko
voice. “When I fight this guy, I want to win. After sparring, many of us seemed open agreed to demonstrate a few of his favorite
moves after dinner one night. That’s how Jocko took a moment to explain his and he had to back off and change the pri-
I ended up in the field house, in front of a intense, enduring affi nity for jiu-jitsu to ority on the jiu-jitsu mats. “You’ve got to
small crowd, getting thrown all over. the entire group. He said it’s full of chal- make it fun,” he said.
He showed me a total of seven moves, lenges: injuries, humbling encounters, Roberts opened up the floor to whoever
some more than once. We started with a moments of mental exhaustion, times wanted to roll. Everyone got a chance to
quick, powerful hip-bump sweep: Jocko when it’d be easier to quit. Life, he pointed grapple with the masters in order to learn
hooked my leg with his foot, then rolled out, is the same way. “You’re gonna have their own lessons about the craft. Then
me from my knees onto my back in one ups and downs in your life. Things are suddenly it felt like, well, the last day of
smooth, unstoppable motion. Then came gonna go wrong. You’re gonna lose busi- camp. I said goodbye to Beddingfield and
the scissor sweep, during which I could ness. You’re gonna lose jobs. You’re gonna Koltsov and the Nantzes. Several times
feel his legs essentially flinging me over break up. What you do is you keep moving I was asked, “Did you catch the bug?” I’d
onto the mat. It felt like jumping into the forward. No matter what, you keep mov- already started researching jiu-jitsu gyms
middle of the teacup ride at Disney World. ing forward.” He concluded: “Jiu-jitsu is in my neighborhood.
Even when I knew what was coming, the representative of life. If you stay humble Around midnight, most of the campers
gym quickly turned into a giant blur. At and you stay on the Path, you will end up had migrated across the campus, over to
one point, I could see my own hand swing- achieving your goals. That will happen.” the cafeteria for some late-night snacks.
ing gracelessly through the air, extended When he talks, it’s easy to imagine men Roberts eventually pulled out a bottle of
by centrifugal force as my entire body following Jocko into battle. After dinner Pappy Van Winkle he’d bought at a char-
spun sideways. The main thing I mastered that last night, everyone gathered in the ity auction. There were toasts. After most
was how to tap out for mercy, but the small field house. We were allowed to ask Jocko, people went to bed, about ten of us headed
group of campers was incredibly jealous of or any of the other instructors, anything. to the lake under the stars.
O
my experience. Most of the questions were questions about Roberts was there, as well as Jocko, even
life disguised as questions about martial though the time was quickly approaching
N T H E L A S T morning, Jocko arts. One man asked Jocko how to make when he’d usually post his morning watch
and Echo taught the white-belt time to train now that he’s married. photo. When Jocko fi nally left to catch a
class again. The lesson covered Jocko told him that life is about balance flight, the rest of us stuck around, talking.
transitioning from a hip-bump but that he had to make it a priority. He About jiu-jitsu, and its power to unite peo-
escape (shifting someone off said he used to do jiu-jitsu with his wife— ple and shape lives. About life in general
you with the power of your hips) until she got pregnant. The crowd laughed. and what we expect from ourselves. How
to a guillotine choke (using your Jocko remained straight-faced as usual. do you balance the professional and the
arms to encircle an opponent’s neck) to Beddingfield raised his hand and asked personal? How do you live in the moment
an arm bar (a hold that hyperextends an Jocko how to get kids to love jiu-jitsu. Jocko but stay prepared for an uncertain future?
opponent’s elbow). This time I drilled with told the group that he’d made a mistake As morning dawned, the next step at
Koltsov, the IT worker. Three days in, I trying to get his own children to love it. least looked clear: more jiu-jitsu.
was slowly starting to understand some of He pushed them to compete against older,
the physics involved. I could see the basic bigger kids. He wanted them to learn from MICHAEL J. MOONEY also writes for GQ, The
elements of deception and strategy. losing. Ultimately, he said, it was too much Atlantic, and Texas Monthly.
INSIDE A
BROM BOOK
JASON, the Founder
WHAT
HAPPENS
when you create a
real-life rah-rah
BROTHERHOOD
of men fully
committed to
reading LUSTY
fiction—and then
actually start
talking about it?
C LU B BY JASON ROGERS
BROMANCE
B O O K C LU B
T
RADITIONALLY, MEN and women mance collection, says the genre’s overall
have both enjoyed sexual storytell- popularity has allowed authors to build
T
ing, but with one big difference. brands that follow mainstream trends. HE FIRST meeting never quite rose
“Women want to feel the story and men “Romance is its own entity, but contained to the occasion. When the corona-
want to see it,” wrote an erotic author who within are dozens of subgenres—detec- virus hit, we decided to move our
goes by “Average Don Juan” late last year. tive, sci-fi, historical, just to name a few,” meetup online, which meant splitting the
That division went mainstream in 1972 he says. If you enjoy George R. R. Martin full group of a dozen guys into two chapters
as the romance industry took off, along- but want even more heat, he recommends that met separately. To encourage sharing,
side the Golden Age of Porn. This was Kresley Cole. If you prefer James Patter- I made it clear that no last names would be
the same year the blockbuster romance son, try Jayne Ann Krentz. (See “Your Ro- used in this story. But given the distance
novel The Flame and the Flower, by Kath- mance Reading List,” below.) and the fact that you can’t really cross-talk
leen E. Woodiwiss, hit shelves and Deep In the several months after I discovered on Zoom, idle chitchat about “throbbing
Throat arrived in movie theaters. Even Adams’s book, it inspired me to explore boners” immediately felt awkward and
at more than 500 pages, the novel sold 2.3 these new worlds, and I devoured every- ungainly, not at all what I’d had in mind.
million copies in its fi rst
four years of publication,
though it was also unapol-
YOUR
ogetically rapey, as were
many of its early bodice-
ripper counterparts.
ROMANCE
That changed with the
rise of feminism, and the
READING
books continue to evolve,
w ith today’s romance
novels often featuring
mutual respect between
1. 2.
partners. The Bromance
Book Club, for instance,
has passages that not only
LIST
Romance expert and
NAKED IN DEATH
(from the In Death series)
AUTHOR: J. D. Robb (Nora Roberts)
THE UNSUNG HERO
(from the Troubleshooters series)
AUTHOR: Suzanne Brockmann
read as sexual how-tos but
SUBGENRE: Futuristic suspense SUBGENRE: Contemporary
also model healthy be- university librarian Steve
romance SEAL/military romance
haviors, like prioritizing Ammidown offers five book READS LIKE: Blade Runner meets READS LIKE: The A-Team
your partner (“You’re in recommendations for guys Law & Order meets 24
charge . . . I surrender to new to the genre. HEAT LEVEL: HEAT LEVEL:
BROMANCE
B O O K C LU B
As my friend Faisal, a 30-year-old “Because there are a lot of women that their friends,” she says. “Once we start
banker from Kuwait, unwittingly pre- can have intimate and vulnerable sex even seeing books and movies modeling new
dicted just 20 minutes into that first ses- if they don’t climax,” Nolan says, “and for kinds of masculinity and new modes of
sion, “I like the concept of the bromance that to be considered a failure feels like a communication between intimate part-
book club as a means for emotionally inept losing setup to begin with.” We all nod sup- ners, it becomes less scary in real life.”
men to come together, but I think we can portively as the conversation rumbles on. Back in our meeting, there’s a growing
all honestly admit that men don’t neces- We’re getting closer to how Bromance debate over whether Gavin Scott is truly a
sarily interact in that way.” author Lyssa Kay Adams encouraged her bad husband or needs to “grow a pair” and
As the minutes pass during our second fictional guys to connect. Adams, who is stand up to his wife, Thea, who criticizes
group’s meeting, though, the chemistry is 46, uses a pen name to ensure privacy. She him. The verdict: Team Thea. Gavin ar-
different. Alejandro, for instance, is my spent two decades as a journalist before rived in the marriage with his own prob-
neighbor, and we see each other enough becoming a romance writer—her subge- lems but never worked to correct them.
that every interaction is already casual. nre is “sports romance,” in part because My friend Mike, a 38-year-old who man-
“This is actually my second romance the sports world gave her a chance to chal- ages production on TV shows, has been
novel,” he tells the group. Later in the call, lenge the value of “hypermasculine” jocks relatively quiet thus far. But from the gri-
he admits that his wife gave him a couple in a way that could appeal both commer- mace on his face, it’s clear he’s been stew-
and told him to pay attention to a few very cially and emotionally to both sexes. ing on a thought for some time. Finally he
specific parts. Bromance is Adams’s fourth book and says that the “machine lover” transforma-
The knotted muscles in my neck finally the first in a trilogy that features the book- tion that Gavin undergoes feels like the
begin to relax. Maybe I just needed to get club members having to support one an- adult version of what happens in a Disney
my bromance sea legs, but the night has other on various adventures. (The second princess movie. Not all our hang-ups dis-
started to feel different. Unstructured, installment, Undercover Bromance, is al- appear so easily. Or as the result of book-
relaxed, fun. When was the last time one ready on store shelves.) It’s been optioned club meetings.
of my friends told me about his fantasy by Netflix, but Adams never expected any- “Personally, I don’t think the answer
life? Let me think about that. Yeah, never. one to form a similar group in real life. “If that women are looking for is a guy who
“I had an issue with the fact that the you’re going to start one, that would make goes all night,” Mike says. “Because with
book equates success in the bedroom with my day,” she told me when I was still in the this stuff, there’s one word that keeps com-
making the heroine come,” adds Nolan, early stages of planning my group. Weeks ing to mind. It’s fiction.”
a 30-year-old e-commerce exec, who mo- later, she reported hearing of another
ments earlier joked about what it’s like group forming among guys in Germany
W
to hear a gravelly audiobook narrator de- and seemed thrilled to be maybe making HEN SOMEONE in the group
scribe the rigidity of a plunging cock. a difference in her readers’ lives. asks what I took away from the
“Why do you think that’s unhelpful?” “I think one of the saddest things that book, I feel comfortable shar-
asks André, a 27-year-old former pro track we strip away from men and boys is the ing the truth. It fundamentally changed
athlete now studying public policy. ability to be emotionally available with the way my wife and I communicate in the
bedroom. “In the past I was
like a little mouse—you know,
my lips were zipped and I might
grunt a bit,” I say. “But the idea
of dirty talk was really, really
uncomfortable for me.”
I tell them how I spent
nearly a decade unwinding
my own performance issues.
After years of therapy and the
discovery of a hormone imbal-
ance, I finally edged my way
3. 4. 5. into recovery. But for a long
HEROINE COMPLEX AN EXTRAORDINARY UNION THE WARLORD WANTS FOREVER time, talking during sex felt
(from the Heroine Complex series) (from the Loyal League series) (from the Immortals After Dark series) like something only confident
AUTHOR: Sarah Kuhn AUTHOR: Alyssa Cole AUTHOR: Kresley Cole
g uys did—yes, Fabio-t y pe
SUBGENRE: Superhero romance SUBGENRE: Historical romance SUBGENRE: Fantasy/paranormal
stuff—because my body so of-
READS LIKE: The Devil Wears (Civil War) romance
Prada meets Shazam! READS LIKE: Mr. & Mrs. Smith READS LIKE: Game of Thrones
ten failed to respond.
HEAT LEVEL: meets Glory meets Buff y the Vampire Slayer For that rea son, Gav in
HEAT LEVEL: HEAT LEVEL: Scott’s rugged good looks and
eight-pack abs might have ran-
BE S T
L ONGE V I T Y
1. SAN JOSE, CA
2. OAKLAND, CA
3. SAN DIEGO, CA
4. HONOLULU, HI
5. SIOUX FALLS, SD
6. BURLINGTON, VT
7. SAN FRANCISCO, CA
THIS MONTH
8. AURORA, CO
Maybe it’s all the biohacking Yup, Sioux Falls. The city This ski-slash-college town 95. PHILADELPHIA, PA
going on in Silicon Valley? rated high in our healthy- had the second-lowest
San Jose snagged the top food score, which consid- prevalence of Alzheimer’s and 96. LITTLE ROCK, AR
spot for life expectancy (84.6 ered access to quality food dementia. One possible factor:
years on average, compared
with Detroit’s 75.3), access to
as well as the ability to afford
it. (Living in a “food desert”
the University of Vermont Med-
ical Center’s Memory Program,
97. OKLAHOMA CITY, OK
healthy food, and well-being, is associated with a higher a clinic that evaluates, diag-
which included variables like risk of obesity and premature noses, and treats age-related 98. TULSA, OK
purpose, community, and a death.) Credit Sioux Falls’ memory disorders. Burling-
network of friends. Like, real
friends. A 2019 review found
seven area farmers markets,
one of which has been
tonians also ranked high for
their well-being and access
99. INDIANAPOLIS, IN
that when older adults spend running for more than 100 to healthy food, both of which
time with buddies, it contrib- years. An eighth, Dakota may help prevent age-related 100. DETROIT, MI
utes to health. Fresh, is online only. cognitive decline.
METHODOLOGY To determine our rankings, we
weighted the data from city- and state-level Gallup
To see where your city ranks, go to MensHealth.com/longevitycities. polling, the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services,
and county health assessments from the Robert Wood
Johnson Foundation and the University of Wisconsin
S T O P B Y N E X T M O N T H F O R A M E R I C A’ S H A P P I E S T C I T I E S . Population Health Institute.
Men’s Health (ISSN 1054-4836) Vol. 35, No. 6 is published 10 times per year, monthly except combined issues in January/February and July/August and when future combined issues are published that count as two issues as indicated
on the issue’s cover, by Hearst at 300 W. 57th St., New York, NY 10019. Steven R. Swartz, President & Chief Executive Officer; William R. Hearst III, Chairman; Frank A. Bennack, Jr., Executive Vice Chairman. Hearst Magazines, Inc.:
Getty Images
Troy Young, President; Debi Chirichella, Executive Vice President, Chief Financial Officer and Treasurer; John A. Rohan Jr., Senior Vice President, Finance; Catherine A. Bostron, Secretary. Copyright 2020 by Hearst Magazines, Inc.
All rights reserved. Men’s Health is a registered trademark of Hearst Magazines, Inc. Periodicals postage paid at New York, NY and at additional mailing offices. Postmaster: Send all UAA to CFS. (See DMM 507.1.5.2); NON-POSTAL
AND MILITARY FACILITIES: Send address changes to Men’s Health Customer Service, P.O. Box 6000, Harlan, IA 51593-1500. IN CANADA: Postage paid at Gateway, Mississauga, Ontario; Canada Post International Publication
Mail (Canadian Distribution) Sales Agreement No. 40012499. Postmaster (Canada): Send returns and address changes to Men’s Health magazine, P.O. Box 927, Stn Main, Markham ON L3P 9Z9 (GST# R122988611). Mailing Lists:
From time to time we make our subscriber list available to companies that sell goods and services by mail that we believe would interest our readers. If you would rather not receive such mailings by postal mail, please send
your current mailing label or exact copy to: Men’s Health, Mail Preference Center, P.O. Box 6000, Harlan, IA, 51593. You can also visit preferences.hearstmags.com to manage your preferences and opt out of receiving marketing
offers by email. Customer Service: Visit service.menshealth.com or write to Men’s Health Customer Service, P.O. Box 6000, Harlan, IA 51593-1500.