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 INTRODUCTION

Fantasy plays a vital role in our sex lives from infancy,

through puberty and into maturity. The infant, nursing at
his mother’s breast experiences some kind of sex fantasy as
his little hands squeeze the swollen breast and his tiny lips
suck and gum at the hardened nipple. During childhood,
the chance sight of a nude woman or perhaps a co-habiting
couple will give rise to wild flights of sexually inspired fan-
tasy. During the years of puberty we find that masturbation
is nearly always accompanied by emotional fantasizing.
What boy does not have his “dirty magazines” or pictures of
naked women with whom he relates while performing the
act of masturbation. His hand becomes the fantasy female.
Throughout the later school years, while going through the
early pangs of puppy-love affairs girls as well as boys are
given to daydreaming which is simply another word for fan-
tasizing. Usually the hero or heroine is the crush of the mo-
ment. The fantasies are overly romanticized and generally
have a heavy undercurrent of sexual thoughts.
The sex drive is one of the most powerful of life forces. As
such it is perfectly normal that it should occupy much of the

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mind. Before one had had any actual sex experience, or be-
fore he has enjoyed sex with a particular girl, favorite actress
or what have you he can only imagine what it would be like.
This form of conscious, purposeful imagination is one of the
commonest forms of sexual fantasy and is practiced, in vary-
ing degrees, by virtually every man and woman alive.
I am reminded of the psychiatrist who asked the adolescent
youth:
“Tell me, son, do you ever suffer from immoral or dirty
thoughts?”
To which the lad promptly replied:
“Hell no . . . I love and thoroughly enjoy them.”
Psychologists who work among prisoners of both sexes who
are incarcerated for extended sentences report that for the
first six months these people are completely preoccupied
with sexual fantasies but, as they serve more and more of
their long terms, these are gradually replaced, in a majority
of cases, with fantasies concerned with fancy foods and
liquors.
In this book we shall attempt to establish a few guidelines
to aid you in properly directing your fantasies through sim-
ple explanation of the mental process involved in or under-
lying them. We offer a number of case histories to further
illuminate the various types of fantasy and the personalities
of the individuals involved. The successes of most of our the-
atrical productions on both stage and screen are due to the

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desire for fulfilling sexual fantasies in the minds of those at-
tending. This had tended to indicate that, contrary to much
published opinion, the female fantasizes about viewing the
sexual organs of males just about as much as males fantasize
about viewing the female genitalia.
It is generally agreed among psychologists that emotional
maturity in human living is reached only when the individ-
ual has dispelled all of the anxieties which plague the ado-
lescent or immature mind. Therefore, those members of both
sexes who wish to attend a “blue” movie or stage play, or who
like to read and examine the explicit photographs in the so-
called “pornographic” books are actually asserting and
adding to their maturity by so doing, inasmuch as they are
dispelling those anxieties created by their fantasies to do so.
As the mature reader knows, the subconscious mind, and
even the unconscious mind, must be satisfied in order to
eliminate or at least minimize frustrations and anxiety. These
two areas of the human mind do not possess the power to
reason and usually operate on human level of the conscious
mind of a first grade pupil.
The aim of this book, therefore, is to study, explain and show
some examples of sex fantasy forms, along with a commen-
tary on the mental development and emotional level of ma-
turity of the individuals in the cases cited. Undoubtedly as
you read about the experiences of others you will recall to
mind some of your own past fantasies. The erudite reader
will also find a tendency to attempt to classify himself ac-
cording to his related experiences and individual personal-
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ity.
Personality is best described for our purposes as being com-
posed of the sum total of all of the individual’s past experi-
ences, whether real life experiences or experiences in fantasy.
Bear in mind that no one’s personality is static or fixed since
new experiences are effecting it every day. Therefore, one can
condition himself toward a better personality by means of
positive fantasizing, followed-up with realistic action and
effort which may partially or completely fulfill the fantasy.
My experience leads me to believe that sexual fantasy occu-
pies about fifty percent of all fantasies at one time or another
in women as well as men. One correlation of this is that the
practice of masturbation is very common in married couples
as well as in single normal people of both sexes, applying to
all age groups. To think differently for one moment would
be to indulge in the ultimate fantasy. As we will see in the
ensuing chapters many an individual guards and protects his
fantasies as he would his very life; and often suffers accord-
ingly. This is especially true in the area of sexual fantasies.
It would be of inestimable value to a couple, married or hot,
to openly reveal to each other all of their fantasies and to
discuss them freely. Only through such intimate revelations
can the sex partners really learn to know and understand
each other and how to care for the individual erotic needs
of each of them. Such a practice would truly remove the
greatest of anxieties, that of fear of sexuality, or of the guilt
and frustrations so often associated with unfulfilled sexual
desires and needs.

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It is a sad mistake to try to teach our youth a little bit about
sex. You cannot teach youth, or adults for that matter, a little
bit about so vast a field as sex, any more than you could teach
them a little bit about mathematics, grammar or medicine.
We are all too well aware of the truth of the old saying “A
little bit of knowledge is a very dangerous thing.” If they are
taught anything at all it must be the full course. Only in this
matter can sexual curiosities and anxieties be resolved at a
younger age so as to permit the individual to get on with his
or her life, in what Dr. Herman Murstein of Yale likes to
call “the inertial life drive” an expression adapted from the
laws of physics which describe inertia as the tendency of a
body at rest to remain at rest and of a body in motion to re-
main in motion. (Describes a hell of a lot of people we all
know, doesn’t it?) Only in this manner can youth be taught
to direct their fantasies toward a positive and worthwhile
goal. It is sincerely hoped that this book may constitute a
small contribution to that important field.
THOMAS H. HIlTOn PH.D.
WEST HOllYWOOD, CAlIFORnIA
JUnE 30TH, 1972

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 CHAPTER ONE
THE WORLDS OF FANTASY

“Dream, when you’re feeling blue . . . . Dream, that’s the

thing to do . . . . ”
So go the words of an old song; and most of us are quite
willing to take that advice. Fantasy—or daydreaming, as it
is popularly called—is a favorite activity for those times in
our lives when reality just isn’t what it should be. We day-
dream during the lonely times, the sad times, the times of
boredom, frustration or failure. Sometimes we even day-
dream during the happy and fulfilled times, because our very
contentment releases us to produce glowing fantasies of the
future.
Everyone daydreams, at least occasionally, and accepts the
whole process of creating an imaginary world as entirely
natural and not particularly important.
What many of us don’t realize is just how much our fantasy
life reveals about our true inner personalities. Psychologists

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Psychologists say prisoners fantasize sexually for
the first six months of incarceration.

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have come to realize that the imaginary words we create in-
dicate the nature of our conflicts, our anxieties and further
show the kind of environment we feel would help us to deal
with our problem areas of life.
Fantasy is an especially good indicator of the sexual nature
of the individual. This is not surprising to anyone who real-
izes how much of our emotional and physical power is ex-
pressed through sexuality. It is only natural that a life-area
which dominates so much of our thoughts and feelings
should be a prime subject for our fantasies.
Most of us lock our sexual fantasies behind a mental door
marked: “Private; Keep Out”. We keep them protected and
hold them “sacred”, bringing them out only when we need
them. Most of us neither share our fantasies with others nor
even examine them very closely ourselves. There seems to be
an innate fear that if we subject these products of imagina-
tion to the harsh light of reality they will wither away into
nothingness.
This fear may be well founded. When fantasy has to collide
with reality, it usually can’t stand the strain. It is certainly
understandable why no one likes to tell others about his fa-
vorite daydreams. What would happen, for example, if a
man who was so shy he couldn’t get a girl to go to dinner
with him—let alone to bed with him—confessed that he
regularly fantasized himself surrounded by beautiful women
who would gladly suffer the tortures of hell just to get into
bed with him? He’d probably be laughed at by most people
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Females fantasize about males as much as males fan-
tasize about females.

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the huge gap between reality and fantasy.
Most of us seem to realize intuitively that confiding fan-
tasies would result in either amusement or pity on the part
of the confidant. We are thus usually more reluctant to ex-
pose our fantasies than our actual dreams. We feel respon-
sible for our daydreams, but have no conscious control over
our sleeping dreams. This lack of conscious control over ac-
tual dreams places us in a position where we can say: “It’s
not my fault it came out that way . . . I just dreamed it.” In
this way we are protected from ridicule or pity.
It is worth noting that some of the case histories included
in this book were released with great reluctance by the in-
dividuals concerned. In several cases we had to change
names, but the facts are exactly as they occurred. With oth-
ers, only a clinical, non-judgmental approach, along with co-
pious explanation of the use of the material, persuaded them
to allow me to include their stories. Fortunately, for our pur-
poses, many of these people, themselves, had first contacted
me as a result of reading some of my earlier similar books.
Despite this, in all probability their general reluctance to di-
vulge the details of their personal fantasies is, for the most
part, wise and understandable.
Children live almost exclusively in a fantasy world. The big
barrel in which they play in the backward is not a barrel at
all but rather a spaceship on its way to Mars. The huge pack-
ing crate in the corner is not a box but a pirate ship sailing
the Spanish Main. By openly sharing and combining their
fantasies they strengthen and reinforce those of each indi-

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Fantasizing aids in eliminating or minimizing our
frustrations and anxieties.

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vidual so that you have a group fantasy action brought into
play. This is a practice from which many adults could learn
much and it is the subject of much current psychological
and sociological study in group encounter and group therapy
sessions, which are still in the early stages of development.
The writer, actor, artist—all creative types, make their living
and reputation by translating their inner fantasies into outer
realities. What more charming examples of this could we
have than lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland, Mark Twain’s
Life on the Mississippi, Charlie Chaplin’s lovable and pathetic
little clown, Marcel Marceau’s delightful pantomime trans-
lations of pure fantasy and the king of all fantasy . . . Walt
Disney. In the field of painting probably more people are fa-
miliar with Salvador Dali’s Wet Watches than any other
work of modern art, simply because it was sheer pictorial
fantasy.
Many creative individuals “sift” their fantasies to turn them
into a thing of social worth, but even they, for all their
avowed good intentions, do not expose their private words
in absolutely raw form. This guarded attitude is carried to
the “nth” degree when we discuss or consider our most pri-
vate sexual fantasies.
Some psychologists reason that we don’t like to scrutinize
our fantasies because an intellectual and critical evaluation
robs them of their emotional charge. One of the main rea-
sons we fantasize in the first place is to enable us to experi-
ence the things that are impossible in reality; and we want
to experience those things with all of the attendant emo-

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tions.
The man who fantasies himself making physical love to a
beautiful woman isn’t just sitting back and letting cold
thoughts run through his mind. He’s in there with all his
feelings, all his senses, experiencing every detail of the action.
In reality, he will become sexually excited, often even climax
with, or without, masturbation.
This ability of our daydreams to elicit strong feelings is what
we mean by their “emotional charge”. Analysis of the fantasy
puts it to the test of reality and it becomes a worthless thing,
full of psychological implications but devoid of emotion,
wherein lies its greatest charm and value.
Even if this is the price of analyzing our fantasies, it is a price
well worth paying. Understanding the fantasy life — how it
is formed in the personality and the ends it serves (both
good and bad) gives a deeper view of the sexual life by de-
lineating the difference between the parameters of what we
have and what we want.
The possibility of increased sexual enjoyment and self-ac-
ceptance seems well worth the effort and courage it takes to
understand the content of our daydreams and the various
purposes which they serve.
In the ensuing chapters we shall examine many variations
of fantasy including normal and abnormal, constructive and
destructive, those used as an adjunct to masturbation, inter-
course or other forms or erotic stimulation and those used
entirely on their own. Some will be easy to understand and

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People guard and protect their fantasies.

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explain. Others which deal with projections or regressions
in time and with other occult psychic phenomena defy log-
ical understanding, much less explanation, even among the
experts.

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 CHAPTER TWO
NORMAL AND ABNORMAL
SEX FANTASIES

The underlying purpose of a fantasy, sexual or otherwise, is

to enable a person to relate himself, or herself, to some per-
son or situation with whom a normal, physical, relationship
is, for one reason or another, impossible.
The young girl who is an ardent movie fan may mentally ro-
manticize daydreams of finding herself being swept into the
arms, or beds, of George Montgomery or Marlon Brando.
The lonely, lovesick soldier in Vietnam may patronize a local
prostitute in order to satisfy the demands of the flesh while
he mentally fantasizes that he is making love to his faithful
fiancee halfway across the world. Many traveling salesmen
(in spite of the millions of jokes about them) would not
think of dating another woman but will obtain the services
of prostitutes for purely physical gratification while they
mentally convince themselves that they are home enjoying
sex with their wives. Many unsuccessful salesmen will con-
fess that the only way they kept up their spirits and got up

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the nerve to ring the next doorbell was by engaging in day-
dreams or flights of fantasy about the great sales that they
were going to make.
Virtually all struggling authors goad themselves to get back
to their typewriter by mentally pretending that the rejection
slips in that week’s mail were really checks from publishers.
The actress who lives in a daydream world of seeing her
name in lights; the singer who pictures himself on stage at
the Hollywood Bowl, all of these normal people live in
hopes of a brighter tomorrow are engaging in fantasizing.
Perhaps this particular sociological phenomenon was best
described by author Arthur Miller in his classic play Death
of a Salesman. An old friend makes a brief eulogy to the clas-
sic type traveling salesman, Willie lohman, now deceased,
in these words: “There are some people who manage to smile
and glad-hand their way through life because of the beauties
and successes which exist only within the privacy of their
imagination. In tangible terms they get little more reward
from life than an occasional haircut or shoe-shine.”
For the average person the days of our lives read, in the most
part, like a soap-opera script, interspersed all too rarely with
those days of wine and roses. In the gray area that constitutes
the bulk of human existence each person needs his or her
own private Shangri-la in which to take occasional retreat.
For most of us this human requirement, which is as normal
as the need for food, water and sleep, is met by occasional
fantasizing. Virtually all psychologists and psychiatrists
agree that this is both normal and healthy. There are, of

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Children live almost entirely in fantasy until
about the age of seven.

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course, abnormal areas in all facets of life and, in the interest
of total reportage, we must include some mention of the ab-
normalities of fantasy as they exist and effect some people.
It is a basic and necessary characteristic of all fantasies that
the person must relate to the characters and situations which
he has painted in his own mind. He must be in the picture,
usually in a starring role. In psychological terminology this
is labelled fantasy identification. Such Fantasy identifica-
tions are often directed toward characters in books and
movies, sports figures and politicians. In thus identifying
himself with a fictional hero or an actual famous person, the
individual actually shares in his hero’s triumphs and suffers
through his failures.
James C. Colman, in Abnormal Psychology and Modem Life,
gives the following explanation of fantasy identification:
“We are probably all prone to a certain amount of fantasy
identification in which we gain vicarious satisfaction
through identifying ourselves with the leading characters in
novels, movies and television dramas. It is psychologically
interesting to note that in those rare pictures in which the
hero dies, some members of the audience slump down in
their seats and figuratively or symbolically die themselves.
Such identifications, particularly in the form of “hero wor-
ship”, may play an important role in shaping the personality
development of the child, who strives to be like his hero in
both dress and manner. Subconsciously, he shapes his own
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Fantasies reveal much about one's anxieties, but
a/so reveal as much about our hopes and goals.
“This process of identification is what enables people to
shape their fantasies around literature, drama and pictorial
art. Once the identification takes place, the individual sees
himself as living the life and experiencing the emotions and
thoughts of the fictional hero.”
However, in my own opinion, what Dr. Colman leaves out
of this prognosis is the fact that the transference of his own
personality into that of the hero is by no means a complete
entity unto itself. The individual who views a movie or reads
a book knows only as much about the hero as he sees on the
screen or reads in the author’s words. Therefore, a certain
companion type mechanism of projection is brought into
play.
In actual practice, as the individual adopts the hero’s per-
sonality (as he understands it) he also projects certain of his
own unique personality traits onto that hero. Ergo, he envi-
sions the hero as being possessed of certain qualities of de-
meanor that are closely akin to his own, even though these
qualities are not actually graphically or descriptively demon-
strated by the plot.
As an example of this situation, a particular novel or movie
might portray the hero fighting valiantly in a war, demon-
strating time after time his bravery and fearless devotion to
duty. The individual who relates to that hero will identify
with that bravery but will also project various other qualities
of his own as well. If he envisions himself as being a kind
and gentle soul under non-combat situations, he will picture
his hero as a similarly kind and gentle soul who has been

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forced into combat and yet performs his military duties in
an heroic fashion. If, on the other hand, this individual is a
basically hostile personality, he will see his hero as equally
hostile and demonstrating his aggressiveness through war-
fare. All of this is part of the fantasy, even though the plot
gave no indication whatsoever that the hero was possessed
of either kind and gentle or hostile personality traits.
Thus we come to understand that in the mechanism of pro-
jection, as taken in its general context, the individual who
engages in fantasy tends to see others in the light of his own
personality. If he is an honest and forthright person he proj-
ects these qualities into his heroes ai\d expects them to be
the same as himself. If, however, he is sneaky, underhanded
and basically dishonest he projects these traits onto others
and may become a suspicious person who is fearful of being
cheated, even by his fantasy hero.
Viewed in this light we must conclude that this personality
identification and projection which is a major facet of fan-
tasy thoughts is all too often used as a means of blaming
others for one’s personal failures. The eminent psychologist
Dr. Eric Berne describes this superbly in his delightful book
Games People Play as the “Goddamn you, you made me do
it game”. Dr. Berne explains that this is one of the common-
est of human defense mechanisms. To my own way of think-
ing comedian Flip Wilson’s routine “The Devil made me
buy that dress!” is an hilarious example of this type of pro-
jection carried to the “nth” degree.
The very fact that so many of the various verbal and pictorial

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Children share and combine fantasies with their
playmates to create that "special world."
sexual stimulants elicit the combined responses of identifi-
cation and projection is. the scientific basis for many psy-
chological tests. In the famous Rorschach “ink blot” test, the
ambiguous nature of the forms make it necessary for the in-
dividual being tested to rely upon his individual powers of
projection in order to give responses. Another popular per-
sonality test, the Thematic Apperception, bases its conclu-
sions upon both identification and projection on the part of
the individual being tested. In this case the person is shown
pictures which illustrate a potentially dramatic situation and
asked to tell stories about them. In order to be responsive
the person being tested must identify with one of the char-
acters in the picture and then must project his own thoughts
on the illustrated situation.
Still another test relies on the symbolic values of words. The
individual is given a word and told to say the first thing that
comes to his mind. Thus the word “apple” might elicit the
response “red” or “fruit” or “tree”. This particular form of
word-association test has been the basis for hundreds of par-
lor games and television shows. In a great many cases the
spontaneous response answers given can be extremely hu-
morous. I recall a couple of instances of replies given by very
dignified women. Even one untutored in psychology can
readily see how such a test can prove of great value in pen-
etrating false fronts, shells of respectability. To the rapid-fire
question word “two-bit” one proper dowager replied
“whore”. To the quickly proffered word “blow” a prim ma-
tron shot back the answer “job”.

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Creative people translate their fantasies into real
social situations.
The forms, pictures and words in these various tests are, of
course, carefully chosen to elicit such revealing responses.
Their specific purpose is to help the psychologist ascertain
the basic inner personality conflicts of the individual.
However, the random fantasies which are formed around
various works of art and literature use the same basic mech-
anisms of identification and projection and therefore can re-
veal a great deal about the true personality of the individual.
Erotic material in particular will reveal a great deal about
any person’s specific sexual desires and attitudes. Take, for
example, the person who reads a tender but explicit descrip-
tion of the act of coitus and mentally develops that scene
into a sadomasochistic fantasy. Surely he is obviously reveal-
ing more about himself that the material involved. Similarly,
the individual who views pornographic photographs and be-
comes aroused to the point of orgasmic climax is revealing
something quite different about his individual sexual atti-
tudes than is the person who views the same photos and is
so morally or aesthetically repulsed that he must turn away
from them.
Such “instant fantasies” do not involve the usual weaving of
an elaborate story, but they nevertheless depend upon the
same basic mental and emotional mechanisms as the com-
plete fantasies. Exploring the case histories of specific fic-
tionally stimulated fantasies would have educational value
only if the material which launched the fantasy was also
taken under consideration.

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Understanding fantasies delineates the difference
between what we are and want to be.
For the most part, up to now, we have spoken of healthy and
normal fantasizing but we have mentioned that there are
also cases in which this practice is abnormal and unhealthy.
In my personal opinion the most logical way to describe this
phase of fantasy is to compare it to the consumption of al-
coholic beverages. Almost all healthy, social, normal persons
enjoy a few cocktails or hi-balls with friends on social occa-
sions. Such limited, or controlled imbibing serves to
heighten the conviviality of the situation by minimizing the
individuals normal inhibitions. At the same time, up to a
degree these serve to whet the appetite for lunch or dinner.
This is a perfectly normal aspect of our present sociological
pattern of behavior. As we are all too well aware though,
there are those who get “carried-away” (literally, if not figu-
ratively) by alcohol so that they retreat into it as a form of
personal “happy darkness” and its excessive consumption
precludes their interest in food or even social or sexual ac-
tivities. In the words of Dr. Albert Ellis: “. . . thus they pro-
ceed to turn into a featured main event that was intended
to serve only as a preliminary.”
We have all heard of people who are accused by their peers
of “living in a little dream world of their own.” It is when
an individual retreats too often or too deeply into his fanta-
syland that the situation becomes abnormal, unhealthy and
fraught with the dangers of potential psychological imbal-
ances.
let’s take a brief look at a couple of such cases: George Ross
had been married previously to a very lovely, petite movie

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A person is always part of his own fantasy.

actress of whom he was extremely proud and with whom he
was deeply, almost blindly in love. When she divorced him
he felt utterly crushed and crawled into his shell for months
on end. At last he began getting out among people again
and in time he met and married another most attractive
woman, but the exact opposite of his first wife. This woman
was large, or at least slightly Junoesque, and after a short
time George reported that he was unable to raise an erection
with her. Since she was quite wealthy and George was nearly
destitute it was important for him to perform and sustain
the marriage. One night after she was in bed he was looking
through some papers in the study and ran across a large en-
velope of pictures of his ex-wife. He fantasized that it was
her, rather than number two who awaited him in bed. In his
own words he described the effect as “instant hard-on”. The
new wife was delighted and George had sense enough not
to tell her what it was that had turned the trick. He repeated
his fantasy trip every night thereafter just before joining her
in bed. For awhile things went fairly smoothly but gradually
it became harder and harder for him to retain the fantasy
and the erection that accompanied it, due to the fact that
her figure was so totally different from that of his dream girl.
If she spoke to him, even words of endearment or encour-
agement during the coital act he would lose his erection in-
stantly. In time he learned to maintain his fantasy only while
alone and masturbating with no outside distractions to stick
a pin in his dream balloon. His wife took on a lover, whom
she subsequently married. George has degenerated to a
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world with his memories, his pictures and his palm.
Dr. C. G. Jung, in his scholarly work Memories, Dreams, Re-
flections, states repeatedly: “Memories, reflections and
dreams of both a sleep induced nature or the pure fantasies
of daydreaming are a normal experience for all well-adjusted
human beings. I am of the opinion that, engaged in moder-
ately, such mental journeys solve and prevent far more seri-
ous mental disturbances. It is only when a person seeks to
spend all, or at least a major part of his waking hours in fan-
tasyland that they assume dangerous aspects.”
Almost all couples after experiencing sex together year-
after-year begin to suffer from what Dr. Albert Ellis, writing
in Sex and The Single Man, refers to as “boudoir boredom”.
The desire for variety in partners, as well as types of sexual
acts, is as normal as the desire for a varied diet or a wide
range of activities and entertainment forms. The need for
this partner variety seems to reach its peak with men in their
forties who are beginning to have doubts as to their sexual
appeal and prowess. Women experience it also, especially
during early menopause, but to an infinite lesser degree than
men. A restauranteur friend of mine tried to explain a sexual
transgression to his wife in these words:
“It’s the same as with my business. Hell, I own the best
restaurant in town but that doesn’t mean that every once in
a while I don’t enjoy eating somewhere else!”
The prominent Hollywood sexologist, Roy A. Catizone,
M.D., likes to set his new patients at ease by telling this little

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Fantasy adds a personal dimension to movies , TV ,
radio, and plays.
anecdote:
“I remember one couple in their mid-fifties who came to
me recently after thirty years of marriage. The husband re-
ported that while he was not a premature ejaculator, his wife
was very slow to be brought to orgasm. Somewhere he heard
of Dr. Humphrey noyes, founder of the sex commune of
Oneida Community, over a hundred years ago. Humphrey
had developed a technique of Male Continence through
coitus regulatus. He managed to locate a copy of noys’ book
The Berean, which he studied diligently as he slowly mas-
tered the technique (which is a reversal of the usual fantasy
approach in that you think of someone or something that
turns you off, rather than on, sexually. In this way the male
maintains an erection almost indefinitely without ejaculating
semen into the female.) On this one night they had been
pumping away for over an hour when his wife suddenly
opened her eyes, looked up at him and asked: ‘What’s the
matter, Frank? Can’t you think of anybody either?’ The prac-
tice of providing counterfeit variety in the marriage bed by
making use of sexual fantasies during coitus is probably as
old as the institution of marriage itself.”
Dr. Catizone’s point is well taken. What normal man has
not watched an old Sophia loren or Gina lolobrigida
movie on the Late Late Show and clung desperately to the
sex fantasy image of the sex goddess as he, eyes tightly
closed, sneaked into his old Plain Jane wife. The wife was
possibly just as intent on picturing, in her mind’s eye, that
her lover was not the man, but Tony Curtis.

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The Rorschach " ink blot" test elicits fantasy in our
daily experiences.
Bob Sammon had a near-tragic experience at overexposure
to personality projection and fantasy cam combined. He was
very much enamored of a young woman who was only sex-
ually attracted to men who were outstandingly successful in
the business or professional world. Bob got every book on
success, self-taught, that he could get his hands onto. He
followed the advice of the French self-help pioneer, Emile
Coue. Each morning he would look at himself in the mirror
and repeat Coue’s magic line: “Every day, in every way, I am
he getting better and better.” next he graduated to
napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, and added the Hill
incantation: “look successful, feel successful, act successful,
be successful.” Finally he added to these positive, optimistic
auto-suggestion techniques, W. Clement Stone’s philosophy,
as expressed in his book Success Through A Positive Mental
Attitude. Each morning he screamed at the top of his lungs:
“I feel healthy, I feel happy, I feel terrific.” In keeping with
the Stone theory, whenever anyone inquired as to his health
or job or love life he would answer in a loud and positive
tone of voice: “Terrific”.
While Bob’s success form of sex fantasy did make some
points with the girl, no one at the large plant where he
worked seemed to look upon him as a potential “golden
boy”. While most fantasies are considered very private and
well hidden from society in general, Bob regaled anyone
who would take the time to listen with wild tales of his great
business acumen. All day, at his small desk he made small
and inconsequential entries onto ledger sheets while con-
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Through fantasy, we add a touch of our own per-
sonalities to the people we meet and know.
solely responsible for the future success of the company. Bob
finally overdid it and came to the point where he completely
believed in his pure fantasies. One day at lunch with his girl
and some friends he went into a glowing description of this
vitally important, top-secret report he had been asked to
make and submit in person to the Board of Directors that
afternoon. The flip-flop switch in his mind that had alter-
nated between reality and fantasy wore out. Bob actually be-
lieved his story. After lunch he marched into the Directors’
room where an all day board meeting was in progress. Most
of the executives didn’t even know that he worked there.
When he started to announce his important plans and de-
cisions the Chairman rang for a guard to have him escorted
from the building. Fortunately one member of the Board
was a psychologist and recognized Bob’s symptoms. He had
the plant nurse take him to a local psychiatrist. Bob spent
six months in a mental institution undergoing daily medical
hypnosis treatments as the doctors slowly and painstakingly
sorted out the fantasies from the realities that clashed in his
mind. He was, at last, pronounced cured and moved to an
Eastern city where he sought a different type of employ-
ment. He left his success, self-taught library of books be-
hind.
With all due respect to Dr. norman Vincent Peale and his
Power of Positive Thinking, and all similar works on this sub-
ject it must be remembered that anything, taken in too large
a dosage, or too frequently can be harmful to the human
body and mind.

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Too much fantasizing is symptomatic of deep seated

emotional disorders that need attention.
Dr. Freud recognized this “two-way street” aspect of sex fan-
tasies. In his book, The Ego and the Mechanisms of De-
fense, he states: “. . . these fantasies take on innumerable
forms, some of which are helpful to the patient, some of
which are harmful. They might be called both progressive
and regressive. Unfortunately, the more the patient engages
in such fantasies, the weaker becomes his judgment as to
whether they are good or bad for his overall mental balance
and well-being.”
This good vs. bad aspect seems to exist in nearly every facet
of the study of sociology and psychology. Although brought
to popular modern light by Freud and Havelock Ellis, it was
first applied to all aspects of sex by the great latin poet,
Publius Ovidius naso, better known as “Ovid” in his book
The Art of Love, which, though written over two thousand
years ago is still in constant demand today by those seriously
interested in the study of sexology.
Ovid, in one of his many prescriptions for love and sex,
stated it this way:
“If you ask me what my advice is, regarding the gifts of Bac-
chus, my answer will come quicker than you anticipate.
Wine prepares the body for coitus, except when you drink
too much. Too much liquor stupefies the mind and drowns
the senses. Dreams of sex are like a fire that is nourished by
the wind and extinguished by the wind. The gentle wind sus-
tains the flame, a stronger one will put it out.”
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ing the realm of fantasy.
the dawn of the Christian era. As with the Bible, it was the
nature of the philosophers of that time to speak in parables.
The parallel to our area of consideration is obvious. In my
own words I would state that these sexual fantasies with
which we deal in this book can serve as either a “relief valve”
or a “destruct button” depending upon the direction they
take and the depth of the fantasizing practiced by the indi-
vidual.
Author K. M. Colby, in his book A Skeptical Psychoanalyst,
relates the case of a love-smitten high school boy whose sex-
ual fantasies started off as a much needed aid to achieving
emotional relief and sexual gratification and wound up in
complete emotional devastation.
“Young Dick had fallen in love with Sally when they were
both in the third grade of grammar school. He was an ex-
tremely timid boy and had never made any social overtures
to her, fearing that he might be rejected. His earliest roman-
tic fantasies were all built around Sally. When he came into
puberty and started getting erections and experiencing mid-
night emissions and began to masturbate on a regular basis,
it was always Sally who was his phantom mistress. His per-
sonality projection and relations soon convinced him that
Sally had the same feelings about him. He was sure that she
probably masturbated herself at night while fantasizing
about him. He began to think of her as his girl and later, as
his fiancee and finally, during their last year of high school,
as his wife. While masturbating he would strengthen the
fantasy by mumbling her name and calling her his lovely

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Normal fantasizing can be an adjunct to sound
mental and emotional stability .
bride. Then one night after a basketball game some of the
boys got together to celebrate the victory by drinking
whiskey with beer chasers. Dick had had only very limited
experience with beer and none at all with hard liquor.
He became quite intoxicated and bragged to the other boys
about his beautiful wife. In his befuddled state of mind, he
accepted the old familiar fantasy as fact. He staggered over
to Sally’s house. Why should they not really sleep together
since they were married and in love. He saw her parents in
the living room watching television.
The light was out in her room. The kitchen door was un-
locked and so he went in quietly and stealthily climbed the
back stairs and let himself into he her room. She was sleep-
ing peacefully. Somewhat unsteadily, he managed to remove
all of his
clothes and slipped between the sheets with the nude flesh
and blood body of his long-standing mental sex fantasies.
He fondled her body and began doing, in actuality, the same
things he had done so often in fantasy. He had almost ef-
fected a full penetration of her vagina when she suddenly
awakened and began screaming hysterically and beating her
fists at his body on top of hers. He kept trying to sooth and
quiet her by mumbling: “But, we’re married . . . you’re my
wife . . . what’s wrong?” He was still babbling when her par-
ents burst in the door and the father pulled the drunken boy
off of the frightened girl. He then called the family doctor
and the police. The court psychiatrists did not buy his story
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statements of being married to a girl who claimed she had
never even been out with him led them to adjudge him
mentally unbalanced. Dick was committed to an institution
for the criminally insane. He has been there for five years
now and the doctors report “no progress”. Sally is married
and the mother of two small children.
This is just another example of what so often happens when
these sex fantasies assume fanatical proportions.
Before we move along to examine some of the really way-
out forms that sex fantasies can assume, let’s review some
queries and replies from my files which serve help us to un-
derstand some of the “garden-varieties” of sexual fantasies.
Our first letter came from a young man of good family and
better than average educational background. He regards his
sex fantasy experience as being a rare and unique indication
that he is possessed of clairvoyant powers. His fantasy in-
volved an experience in future time projection which is nei-
ther rare nor unique. I believe that many readers will be able
to relate the experience to happenings in their own lives. In
a later, longer chapter we will give a complete report on the
unusual experience of Bill Howard in past time regression.
This type of regressive fantasy is far more rare, and therefore
deserving of considerably more detailed coverage than this
young man’s experience.
Dear Dr. Hilton:
I am somewhat hesitant about writing to you
about my experience for fear that you will feel (as I

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The sex act itself depends upon fantasy.
have at times since it happened) that I need psychi-
atric help. I have sometimes wondered if perhaps my
great-grandmother may not have been a gypsy for-
tune-teller gazing into a crystal ball to describe some
yet unencountered lover. Maybe rather she was a
witch at Salem. While I cannot understand, or even
explain it, I am sure that what happened to me was
a parapsychological experience. I shall try to relate
it as simply and impersonally as I can.
For several years now I have engaged, perhaps
too heavily at times, in masturbation. I felt much
better after reading the Kinsey reports that almost
all normal, healthy males do. My masturbatory acts
were always accompanied by a sexual fantasy in
which I would envision myself performing the coital
act with some very beautiful young woman. I used
to use girlie magazines in the beginning but all the
different pictures distracted me. I preferred to be
“true”, if you can. call it that, to one and one only.
Try as I might, I could never seem to succeed in
conjuring up a really clear and accurate image of her
in my mind. Then, one night I had this extremely
vivid and explicit wet dream. It was as though the
girl who played the starring role in my fantasies was
real and alive and right there in bed with me. I care-
fully, even in my sleep, noted every minute detail like
the flare of her nostrils, the little specks of green in
her cornflower blue eyes, the shape of her earlobes,
the fullness of her lips, and the color and size of her
nipples and aureolas. Her left breast, when lifted, re-
vealed a small bright red strawberry birthmark.

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Loners tend to encase themselves in fantasy.

Down lower, there was a tiny little black mole, like
a beauty mark, just at the upper right corner of her
soft blond pubic hair.
I knew I was dreaming and yet I wanted to
save a picture of my’ dream lover. It was like when I
was a little boy and I’d dream that I was finding
hundreds of nickels, dimes and quarters. I’d know it
was a dream and I’d try to hide them under my pil-
low to see if they’d stay safely there until I awakened.
I really wanted to hold onto this vision of loveliness.
As usually happens to me I awakened immediately
as I ejaculated. Both of my arms and hands were
under my pillow so I had been brought to climax
strictly by this fantasy without the aid of masturbat-
ing in my sleep. I hopped from bed immediately and
ran to my desk. I wrote down every detail of her ap-
pearance before any eluded me. I wish that I were
more artistic, I would have drawn a likeness of her.
When I got up the next morning, the picture was
still clear in my mind and it has remained so ever
since. All this happened about six or seven months
ago and, like I said before, I’ve been true to this fan-
tasy mistress of mine ever since. But all that is just
the background.
last week I needed some research material for
a term paper I’m doing. Our little local library is
pretty limited in technical material and so I bor-
rowed the family car and drove way downtown to
the main branch of the Public library. I had just lo-
cated my books and sat down at one of the big study
tables when I saw her. She was sitting right across

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cation of clairvoyance.
the table staring at me with a funny little half-smile
like she was saying: “Why did it take you so damned
long to find me?” It was like she had been expecting
me. The whole situation was absolutely spooky. I
didn’t even open my books and I didn’t notice if she
even had any. We never spoke a word, just got up
from the library table and walked out onto the
street, hand-in-hand.
Her name was Gloria, and she really lived up
to it. She told me that she had just gotten to town a
few days earlier and was staying with an older aunt
who didn’t know any young people. When she saw
me she didn’t want to take any chances on my get-
ting away since she had been lonesome for her own
age group of friends. Every detail of her face was
precisely as she had appeared to me in my dream six
months earlier. I asked her where she had been six
months ago and explained that she had been at a U.
S. Air Force Base in West Germany where her fa-
ther was a career military man. After I got a couple
of drinks in her we got into the car and I drove out
by the lake where it is real romantic. Girls that have
been raised around military bases just naturally be-
come more sexually permissive and promiscuous
than girls who are brought up in normal homes.
now here’s where it gets really weird. It didn’t take
me long in just necking to get her unzipped and fi-
nally undressed.
Sure enough, there they were: the red straw-
berry mark below her left breast and the little black
mole at the upper right hand corner of her golden

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Abnormal personalities fantasize roles that are
opposite to their present situations
 fleecy triangle! We were both very hot by now and
before that evening was over we had engaged in
modes of sex that didn’t even exist in my erotic fan-
tasies.
I have seen her every night since and we are
tentatively engaged now. I have been afraid to tell
her about my having forecast our meeting and affair
in my dream for fear that she would develop serious
doubts about my sanity and ancestry.
How do you explain such a mysterious and
impossible happening, or is there any explanation,
other than perhaps that I must have a screw loose
in my skull.
I have read many of your books and you always
have seemed to get me straightened out on matters
over which I was confused. I gave Gloria a copy of
your Marital Variety and also your How to Have a
Happy Sex life Though Married. I’ll sure appreciate
any advice you may be able to give me on this in-
credible coincidence.
Gratefully yours,
Robert Robinson, Jr.

Experiences of this type with sex fantasies that actually

come to life are frightening to those unfamiliar with the still
little understood field of parapsychology, but they are a great
deal more commonplace than many people realize. I has-
tened to reply to young Robinson’s letter. Here is a copy of
that reply:
Dear Mr. Robinson:

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Homosexual fantasy is practically identical to
heterosexual fantasy except for the sexes.
 I hope that it will not come as either a shock
or disappointment to you to learn that you are nei-
ther a witch nor one possessed of some rare magical
powers to foresee the future. As to your possibly
being mentally deranged, the general indications
would be quite to the contrary since only persons of
higher intellectual levels seem to experience these
occult phenomenon. Even the great pioneer psycho-
analyst, Dr. Sigmund Freud treated such matters
very seriously and was fascinated by them. In his
book, Dreams and Telepathy he states: “I am not
going to take up the position that I am nothing but
a psychoanalyst and that problems of occultism do
not concern me as a functional area of the human
brain.” You might like to read more of his thoughts
on this fascinating topic. His book Studies in Para-
psychology has just been re-issued in paperback.
Also much material is available reporting upon the
experiments and studies conducted at the famous
Duke University laboratory for Parapsychological
Research.
It impresses me that your experience is unique
only in the amount of detailed information you re-
ceived in your dream. Perhaps all persons having
such dreams get a lot more detail but they lose it
since they do not have your forethought to make
complete notes while the picture is fresh in their
mind’s eye. Actually, almost everyone has occasional
flashes of this, which is, at times, a touch of ESP, at
other times an experience in time regression or fu-
ture projection. How many times have you seen two

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The initial sexual experiences in life tend to be
draped in greater amounts o f fantasy .
people sitting in silence and suddenly, without out-
side memory jogs, begin to hum or whistle the same
tune at the exact same time? Many people have en-
tered a strange house or building and known in-
stantly and in detail what they would find in the
next room even though they had never been there
before.
You may find some degree of solace in an ex-
perience which I had when I was in college. I had
saved for months to get together enough money to
make a down-payment on a practically new (to me)
car. It was the biggest event on my horizon and oc-
cupied my every dream and waking thought; even
temporarily taking preference over the sex drive. At
long last the big day arrived. With a cashier’s check
in my pocket I strode happily into the salesroom and
was immediately set-upon by one of those real
fender-thumpers . . . the overly aggressive car sales-
man. I told him I was prepared to buy a certain car
that I pointed out and had the money and just
wanted to sign the papers and get my car. Oh no! I
had to listen to his damn sales talk. Do you know
that I knew everything he was going to say before
he got it out of his mouth. I could have taken a pen-
cil and paper and written every word verbatim be-
fore he said it. I had wanted it so long and so much
that, during sleep, my subconscious mind leaped
ahead in time to experience the big day for which
my conscious mind was waiting. The principles are
exactly the same in your case as mine. There are very
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 their dream woman. For you these fantasies were a
healthy and a helpful step towards a time when you
would no longer require them. Congratulations on
winning the real jackpot of life by having your fond-
est dreams literally come true.
I am enclosing a little reprint of a recent article
I did which touches on this subject entitled Dream
lovers. Perhaps you and your Gloria may find that
you relate to the characters in it. Best wishes for
much happiness in married life.
Very truly yours,
Thomas H. Hilton Ph.D.

Our next letter was received from a young woman and

paints almost the mirror image of the situation that young
Robinson depicted. It is rather interesting in that it indi-
cated, in the area of sexual fantasies, there is little difference
in psychological attitude between men and women.
Dear Doctor:
I feel kind of silly writing to you in this way
but I have been thinking what great strides have
been made in psychological sexology over the past
ten years when a girl like myself can write to a total
stranger and openly and frankly discuss her mastur-
bation practices. Just a few short years back it was
generally conceded that “nice young ladies don’t
practice such vulgar and degenerated acts.” now we
realize that almost all do and that the practice is not
only condoned, but often recommended by compe-
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 My sexual experience is not entirely limited to
masturbation. I have engaged in normal intercourse
and even oral-genital contacts to orgasm with a
number of boys but suddenly I got turned off of
them. It seems that the boys I met are all such creeps
and so juvenile. Some of them think of a big date as
winding up playing stinkfinger and having me jack
them off. This was highly unsatisfactory. To begin
with none of them know a damn thing about a girl’s
inner anatomy and seem to feel that just shoving
their finger way up my vulva will do something for
me. It does, it frustrates me so that I can hardly wait
to get home and finish up by doing it right. Then
when I stroke them they always jump and jerk so
that they shoot jism all over the place and I often
wind up with pecker tracks on my best skirt or
blouse. Their straight sex technique is even worse.
Most of them are so intent on their own pleasure
that they just slip it in and pop their load. They act
like the girl should be honored. They either never
heard of, or never cared about, giving the girl some
orgasmic satisfaction from the intercourse. The oral
approach is the only one that’s been even passably
satisfactory for me. At least when a guy is down
there I can tell him where to lick and can move my
crotch around so as to get the touch of his tongue
in the right spot to bring me to climax. I prefer to
reach a multiple climax this way but most boys do
not understand. As soon as I come once they want
to quit and have me go down on them right away.
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Studies show prostitutes engage in fantasy while
having sex with their clients.
of these squares I seem to be stuck with want to grab
my head and force it down violently on them, rather
than the nice gentle stroking that is better for both
of us. Then, when they come they often ram it so
hard down my throat that I lose my breath and
sputter, choke and almost throw-up when they blow
their load in my mouth and throat.
I tell you this to explain why I have recently
come to the conclusion to retreat from the arena of
sex with a real live partner and instead, content my-
self with self-administered sex with a fantasy lover.
not long ago I bought some nudist magazines. They
have a lot of real groovie young guys shown in color
with real deluxe equipment. They are my fantasy
lovers. At first I just fingered myself while staring at
their pictures. Then one day I saw this vibrator in a
drug store. It was shaped just like a penis. You put a
battery inside and when you pressed a button the
whole thing vibrated like wild. It did an infinitely
superior job
Fantasy is the material of many tomorrows to
my finger so now I look at my dream men in the
magazines and picture that the vibrator is their sex
l staff really doing a job on me. Sometimes I
orgasm as many as fifteen or twenty times in a single
session. none of these callow youths in my social set
could do that for me.
Someday I hope to meet a real live dream man
like my fantasy lovers in the magazines but mean-
while I am content to stay home and provide for my
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Fantasy is sometimes used to apply "punishment to
oneself for guilt he feels.
perior to what I’ve gotten from boys. The reason I
am writing to you now is that something happened
the other night that really has me worried. I saw an
ad in the paper that they were showing a full length
color nudist movie at this theater on Santa Monica.
I thought that perhaps, just perhaps, my two dream
men might be in it and I could see them in action
instead of just static on a magazine page. Sure
enough, they were both in the picture, big as life in
full living color! The mere sight of them made me
want to “cream my jeans” as we used to say. I was so
hot I could hardly stand it. I was over on one side
of the theater and no one was seated near me so, as
I watched the screen, I slipped my hand up my skirt
there in that darkened theater. I was already juicy as
hell just from the sight of them. I began to finger
my clit as I had done so often before. It felt good
and was surely a very pleasant sensation but even
after fifteen or twenty minutes, nothing happened.
I mean, even with the visual projection of my fantasy
lovers before me on a wide screen, I was unable to
bring myself to orgasm even once. At first I attrib-
uted it to the lack of privacy in the theater and the
subconscious fear of discovery. It would be different
when I got home alone. Coincidentally, that a night
the battery burned out in my vibrator. I
a was already undressed and in bed. Again I
tried to manually manipulate my sensitive genital
areas but, even then, was unable to achieve orgasmic
relief for my pent-up emotional frustrations. I got
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 hours drug store on la Cienega. I bought three new
batteries for my vibrator. Returning home I got it to
working and rapidly brought myself to a fantastic
multiple orgasm.
The vibrator provides me with ecstatic thrills
and I admit I have been hitting it pretty heavy lately.
I had been looking at this as a temporary phase,
until I met some real men. now I am frightened. Is
it possible that I have gotten so hung up on the wild
feeling of that vibrator inside of me and quivering
against my clit that I an unable to reach orgasm
without it? My finger seems no longer capable of
getting results. I realize that men do not come with
vibrating peckers so perhaps even one of my fantasy
lovers wouldn’t be able to satisfy me now. What
should I do? Have I doomed myself to a sex life that
is limited to a fantasy ghost-man and a self induced
vibrator?
I am really quite desperately worried about this
and will deeply appreciate your advice.
With sincerest thanks, I am,
Most sincerely,
Arline J.

Arline’s letter required some careful analysis before attempt-

ing, a reply. What she seemed to think of as a possible prob-
lem, actually resolved itself into a whole psycho-sexual ball
of snakes. Unless she took some very definite and immediate
action the future loomed on her horizon like a sexual disas-
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The id projects fantasy; the ego deals with it.
It has been my experience that when a person needs advice
on a multi-faceted problem they are more likely to heed that
advice if it comes from multiple sources rather than from
one individual who appears to be trying to wear many hats.
Generally when people write me for counsel I try to reply
by stating my own opinions in my own words. In cases such
as Arline’s I find it is generally more effectively helpful to
include quotes from authoritative sources on different as-
pects of a complex situation. I mention this so that the
reader will not misunderstand my motives in cases where I
am asked for my advice and opinions and then I reply, in
part, with the advice and opinions of others. Such replies
are, of necessity, lengthy and time-consuming to prepare due
to research time looking up exact quotations, etc. If they help
to unravel the mental kinks and knots then the time is well
spent.
Here, therefore, is what was finally assembled as the answer
to Arline’s letter:
My dear Arline:
Whether or not you realize it, your letter poses
quite a variety of sexual problems and I am going to
try to separate these (not necessarily in the order in
which they were submitted) and to give you excerpts
from the authoritative works of other researchers on
certain of these with the suggestion that you check
the source of the quotations given and read more
thoroughly on these subjects. Most of the sources
from which I will quote are available at the public
library in the Psychology section.

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The transvestite wears the outer garments of

his fantasized role in life .
 I am led to believe that the source of all of our
problems lies rooted in your unsatisfactory sexual
experiences with the males of your acquaintance in
your early heterosexual activities. There is nothing
very rare or surprising m about this, other than the
fact that you did not take the same straightforward,
outspoken approach to solving these minor prob-
lems of adjustment with your sex mates, that you
took in frankly outlining your personal situation to
me in your letter. Remember, Arline, great lovers,
like great pianists and great golfers are made, not
born. They had acquired their skills from teachers,
coaches, mentors and pros. You should have told
your inexperienced lovers that they were not per-
forming satisfactorily for you and advised them on
how to improve. Effective verbal communication is
probably the most effective tool for building mutu-
ally satisfactory sex relations. One of the leading
modern authorities on such matters, Dr. Albert
Ellis, in his book The Art and Science of Love, gives
the inexperienced, neophyte sex fledglings the fol-
lowing q excellent advice:
“no man or woman is a mind-reader. Even in-
dividuals who are passionately in love frequently
misunderstand each other; and many husbands and
wives certainly do. Your sex proclivities are neces-
sarily so personal and unique that it is difficult for
another member of the same sex to understand
them. A member of the opposite sex, who is bound
to be startlingly different in many ways, has even
greater difficulty.”

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Exhibitionism is fantasy brought to reality .
 The only sane way, therefore, to know what
sexually arouses and satisfied your mate is, in unvar-
nished English, to ask him; and the only sane way
to get your mate to understand what sexually
arouses and satisfies you, is to tell him.
Shame, in this connection, is utterly silly —
just as silly as a husband’s being ashamed to tell his
wife that he likes his eggs scrambled rather than
sunnyside-up, and then becoming angry or with-
drawn, because somehow she does not fathom this.
Why the devil should she? And why on earth
should he be ashamed to tell her? It is precisely the
same situation if the sexes are reversed. You made
the original mistake by not telling those boys what
you liked and how to best please and satisfy your
sexual appetites and needs. Had you have done this
one or more of them may have developed into
highly competent and satisfactory sexmates and the
balance of this letter would not be necessary.
If, therefore, you like your sex best with the
lights on, with music playing, in front of mirrors,
rolling on the floor, slow or fast, orally or manually,
by land or by sea, for heaven’s sake say so. And, in
all fairness, do your best to discover, by words as well
as deeds, how he likes it best too. This simple and
logical approach would have precluded the necessity
for what you describe as: “. . . it frustrates me so that
I can hardly wait to get home and finish up by doing
it right.” Better you would have shown a bit more
patience and taught them how to finish you up by
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The fetishist fills his fetish with fantasy.
 You go on to relate that because of continued
frustrations at not attaining orgasmic satiation of
your sexual appetites from your activities with het-
erosexual partners you retreated to the exclusive re-
liance on masturbation in privacy as your sole source
of sexual gratification. One reads between the lines
of your letter an underlying feeling of guilt, shame
or fear of abnormality in your chosen course. The
dean of sexology, Dr. Sigmund Freud, in his classic
volume Sexuality and the Psychology of Love, gives the
following advice which relates to your situation:
“There are many diverse pathways that lead to
ultimate sexual .satisfaction. There should be no
shame involved in traversing any or all of these
routes. nor should any one of them be considered a
sexual abnormality—until, or unless, it is practiced
exclusively, to the exclusion of all others.”
Thus, in the eyes of Freud, your attitude is ab-
normal when you retreat to it as a sole means of sex-
ual expression.
Another great sage of sex, Havelock Ellis, in
his book, Psychology of Sex, states:
The initial sexual experiences in life tend to be
draped in greater amounts of fantasy.
“Masturbation seldom produces the full emo-
tional and sexual gratification obtained from actual
coitus but, in the absence of the desired partner, the
orgasm, whatever relief it may give, must be fol-
lowed by a sense of dissatisfaction, emotional ex-
haustion, shame and remorse. This is compounded
when masturbation is used as a substitute for coitus

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Sadists fantasize themselves as great conquerors.
when the desired partner is physically available.”
The fantasy lovers you describe are used by you
as a substitute for reality-action in sexual matters.
Surely, I would not argue that practice of masturba-
tion with fantasy is infinitely more psychologically
desirable than the practice of masturbation without
fantasy. The latter act borders upon the animalistic
approach to sex.
Any individual who leads a bare existence, sub-
stituting fantasy sexual satisfactions for real ones, is
living at the infantile id level of human develop-
ment. The primitive id has no concept of reality ac-
tion, but relies instead on merely picturing the thing
desired, leaving any actual fulfillment of that desire
to the ego.
The real danger lies in the fact that when fan-
tasy becomes the center of life in all areas, the indi-
vidual soon loses all contact with reality and
becomes mentally ill, living in a self-made world of
make-believe. On the less serious levels (which
yours hopefully is) it is possible to function in the
reality environment in relation to most life areas but
have “blind spots” which are fulfilled only in fantasy.
In cases in which this is due to lack of oppor-
tunity for fulfillment, then the fantasy may be the
only available substitute and therefore be healthy
under the circumstances: i.e., prisoners, explorers,
commercial fishermen, etc. If, however, as in your
case, reality opportunities do exist and you refuse to
take advantage of them, choosing to rely instead on
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Inadequate sexual education means simply that the
gaps will be filled in by fantasy.
healthy and immature ability to function in this one
vital area of sex.
One of the most common life areas for such a
“blank spot” in reality functioning is sexuality so that
you may console yourself with the realization that
your problem, while potentially serious, is none-the-
less common. The main danger, of course, is that sex
is one of our most powerful basic drives and causes
frustrations when it remains unfilled. These contin-
uing frustrations worsen the condition that was the
very source of the problem so that we have a mental
problem which is akin to a cancer that feeds upon
itself.
It is, of course, most damaging to the person-
ality when the entire sexual nature (as in your case)
finds its expression only in fantasy. There are, how-
ever, many people whose fears and guilt complexes
over sexuality are so strong that they are completely
blocked from reality fulfillment.
Your letter indicates a highly erudite mind so
I am sure that, in retrospect, you will recognize the
glaring inconsistency in your thinking as easily as I
did. I refer to your statement that someday you hope
to meet a real live dream man like those in your
magazines but meanwhile you are content to stay
home and play Si with yourself. Where the hell do
you expect this dreamboat to find you? Hiding in
your
closet? In order to make contacts and meet the
right people one must expose herself. One of the
fables of the motion picture industry is how movie

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star lana Turner was “discovered” sitting at the soda
fountain of Schwab’s Drug Store.
She might be a librarian or schoolteacher
today instead of an internationally known star had
she have been home hiding under the bed instead
of out in public where she was seen and developed
into an actress.
I strongly urge you to give up this hermit ex-
istence. Force yourself to get out among young peo-
ple. They may not all be dreamboats, but they won’t
all be complete sex squares either. If you are really
interested in the well developed, bronzed male nud-
ists you may encounter them anywhere. Most of the
nudist parks are near los Angeles and most of these
people are, by financial responsibility, week-end
nudists. During the week you may encounter them
in a store, a restaurant or on a bus. If you really dig
this type so much why not contact one or two of the
better nudist organizations and make arrangements
to spend a few weekends at their lovely facilities.
Once you see the type of men you seem to prefer in
the flesh and close-up, you will soon be unwilling to
settle on a fantasy with the real thing so available.
By all means, Arline, crawl out of your shell before
it is too late. The longer you continue in your se-
questered existence in this self-imposed hibernation,
the harder it is going to be to shake off the fantasy
and return to the reality of human social interaction
in your relationships. From the tone it of your letter
I would think that you have the strength and intel-
ligence to make this step on your own, if you do it

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now. If delayed you may require serious psycholog-
ical aid in returning to the normal world of live peo-
ple, I have left until last your primary question about
the vibrator. If I had by way I would like to see these
products all destroyed and banned from the future
market. While they are capable of providing a high
degree of erotic response they are probably respon-
sible for more sexual maladjustments, more frigid
women (where normal sex activity is concerned) and
more frustrated men who used to be able to satisfy
their wives sexual needs but, after she got hooked
on a vibrator, found they were unable to do so any
longer, thus plunging them into the depths of de-
spair over imminent impotency and sexual incom-
petency. In addition to these psychological factors
there have been many internal physical damages
blamed on the frequent use of these devices for ar-
tificial over-stimulation. As you yourself pointed
out, it is highly doubtful that you will ever meet a
man physically capable of matching its shake, rattle
and roll rhythms.
My best advice to you is to throw the damn
thing away at once and to resolve never to buy or
use one again. If you will do this and force yourself
to get out into normal society the rest of your prob-
lems will soon solve themselves in a natural pattern
of progression. Firstly, if you get rid of the vibrator
and it is the only thing that can bring you to orgasm
now, you will have less temptation to masturbate
manually, since it will prove less gratifying than be-
fore. If you find that your finger will not take the

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 place of the accursed vibrator then you will be more
receptive to trying the only other thing that will, an
erect male penis. This time you will be afraid to talk
to your sex mate and learn to adjust to one another
so as to achieve maximum mutual satisfaction. Once
you begin to dissolve your present mental blockage
against normal sex you will learn to enjoy it more
and have less desire for the fantasy substitute, al-
though in the beginning I would assume that you
may still want to fantasize that the man who is join-
ing you in coitus is one of the nudist dream men.
This is a limited fantasy and should be far more
stimulating. You are thinking of one fantasy man
while enjoying sex with another very real physical
man. You will not have to engage in fantasy as re-
gards the physical union of real human genitalia in
actual, rather than substitute, coitus. I have faith that
you have the strength and brains to administer your
own curative program. Godspeed to your efforts.
Just one final bit of advice. Remember that today is
the very first day in the rest of your life. Do it now!
It may prove to be a long trip and the sooner you
get started the sooner you’ll reach your goal. As the
old Chinese proverb goes: “The journey of a thou-
sand - miles must start with but a single step.”
Cordially yours,
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph.D.

As a footnote to Arline’s correspondence, her file also con-

tains a picture postcard which I received about a month later
from one of Southern California’s lovely nudist parks. The

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brief message constituted a most encouraging progress re-
port on her case. It read:

“Having a simply glorious time . . . thank you

for the fact that I am here. It’s good to be out among
them again.
love,
Arline.
P.S.
What’s a vibrator?

I had thought to include one or two brief notes from and

replies to people who engaged in homosexual forms of fan-
tasy substitution but due to the excessive length of the Ar-
line correspondence, I have decided to not include them.
Actually, they would tend to be redundant since the homo-
sexual applications of sexual fantasies are psychologically
identical to their heterosexual counterparts.
Good and bad sexual fantasies, such as we have reviewed in
this chapter, all have one thing in common: they are an illu-
sionary will-o-the-wisp, a figment of the imagination, a sort
a of mental trompe l’oeil, a sexual substitute, fake, phony or
counterfeit. As such they have a very definite place and pat-
tern of function in human sexuality. The only danger in fan-
tasies lies in the degree of importance placed upon them.
When any individual, or group of individuals, reach the
point where they prefer a counterfeit to the legitimate tal-
isman, they are sick and need help.

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 CHAPTER THREE
VILLAIN VERSES VICTIM
SEX FANTASIES

The fantasies we discussed and reviewed in Chapter Two are

those which are most generally practiced among men and
women whose sexual drives, tastes and demands are basically
normal and well balanced. By and large such sexual fantasies
are healthy, as long as they are not carried to such extremes
that they preclude reality. We examined cases on both sides
of that dividing line, in order to show both sides of the coin.
In this chapter we are going to take a look at the type of
sexual fantasies that are generally practiced by those indi-
viduals in society who suffer from some type of sexual aber-
ration. While the main attraction of normal fantasies is
personality identification of one’s own true personality (as
he or she sees it) with the hero or heroine of the fantasy; the
attraction of the fantasies in this section is just the opposite
in that the fantasizer seeks to identify with a fantasy char-

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acter in just the opposite role he normally plays. For exam-
ple, the domineering wife may picture herself as a weak and
helpless sex slave. Her meek, introverted, “scared of his
shadow” type husband may see himself as the bloodthirsty
captain of a pirate ship with a full cargo of kidnapped maid-
ens to be sold into white slavery. The iron-fisted captain of
industry may wish to play the part of a subservient underling
while his long suffering, mild-mannered secretary may see
herself as the ruthless director of a women’s lib styled com-
mercial conglomerate crushing all who dare to cross her
path.
There is a basic element in human nature that sees attraction
in its exact opposite. The old saying “opposites attract” ap-
plies not only between people but actually within an indi-
vidual personality. The poor man dreams of being rich while
the poor little rich girl complains that the shop girls have
all the fun in life. The fat woman would love to be thin and
the short man would give anything to be tall. This basic cu-
riosity about what it would be like to be just the opposite
from the way we are is inherent and normal in all average
people. It is therefore understandable that it would pop-up
in their sexual fantasies.
The need to feel dominant or dominated is served by these
type of fantasies. Although both roles appear in most peo-
ple’s daydreams, most have a favorite guise for themselves
and this guise dominates the majority of their sexual fan-
tasies.
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hero or suffering hero, can reveal a great deal about their
inner personality.
I am often asked just who engages in sexual fantasies and
why? The question always amuses me. It’s almost like asking
who gets married and why, or who commits murder and
why? The answer is, of course, practically anybody . . . all
types of persons and for all varieties of reasons.
One classic example which I find surprises a number of peo-
ple is the extent to which prostitutes engage in fantasizing
with their clients. The average person would be inclined to
think that the prostitute gives less though to sex, and pays
less attention to actual coitus, than any member of our so-
ciety. However, in this case, as in so many other areas, sci-
entific study and research does not always bear out what has
been commonly Accepted as “public opinion”.
A series of feature articles in the Los Angeles Times last year
served to focus attention on the tremendous rise in adoles-
cent prostitution in that city, especially in the Hollywood
and Sunset Strip areas. So vast was the influx of the “tee-
nie-boppers”, as the hippie element call girls between fifteen
and twenty-one, that they had practically driven the “old
pros” out of the world’s oldest profession. This particular
phase of the upheaval in the already much-publicized socio-
sexual revolution seemed of great interest to the public in
general and to sociologists and psychologists in particular.
A study group, headed by Dr. Joseph M. Bernard from
Boston University, an eminent authority on adolescent psy-
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phenomenon. Dr. Bernard’s group was comprised of four
sociologists and seven psychologists with two consulting
psychiatrists available to it. The interviews to which we here-
inafter refer were conducted over a four month period. One
may wonder just how a number of psychologists go about
interviewing prostitutes. All too many clinical reportage
completely omit this information which causes the reader
with a naturally quizzical approach to conjure up some weird
and often amusing images of the interview technique. Some
may envision a bearded, bespectacled, professorial type gent
approaching a young woman on the street, tipping his hom-
burg, and saying: “I beg your pardon, my dear, but you look
to me like you might be a whore. If so, I don’t wish to pur-
chase your services, but I have here a list of highly personal
questions I would, like to ask you.”
Can you picture the reaction to such an approach? This ex-
ample may be a bit extreme but how many times have you
read one of these books full of psychological questions, an-
swers and conclusions and asked yourself how the hell they
came up with the information?
I have the type of mind that asks such questions and I as-
sume that many of my readers have also. In this connection
I often have occasion to recall the words of an old professor
I had in Psych I. He started his opening lecture with this
statement:
“Gentlemen, psychology is nothing but a two dollar word
meaning ‘how to understand and get along with people’. In
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fifty percent horseshit. In its practice, the only ones who get
into trouble are those who attempt to alter those percent-
ages.”
It is to Dr. Bernard’s credit that he is surely not one to fool
around with the percentages. He prefaces his book A New
Look at the Oldest Profession, based upon his study with these
words:
“Many people must wonder how psychologists go about
finding people who are willing to answer the most personal
of questions in order to prepare reports such as those which
follow. In our case we were most fortunate in obtaining the
full cooperation of the Vice Squad and Juvenile officers of
the los Angeles Police Department as well as many of the
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available their good offices to permit us to interview the girls
whose innermost secrets comprise the bulk of material for
this book.”
In the first chapter of his book Dr. Bernard starts by clearly
defining those women who should be considered prostitutes.
This is worthy of inclusion here since the sexual fantasy as-
pects of these women’s thinking applies to many females
who the layman might not normally include in this category.
For purposes of clarity, he elects to quote the definition of
the eminent Dr. Albert Ellis as reported in The International
Journal of Sexology:
“It seems to me that some of this confusion might be cleared
up if prostitution were consistently defined as ‘a woman’s en-
gaging in sexual relations for non-sexual and non-amative
considerations.’ Under this definition, commercialized pros-
titutes would certainly be included—whether they accepted
many or a chosen few paying partners. But also included
would be girls and women who trade their sexual favors for
food, drinks, entertainment, or other gifts; and wives who,
having no love and no sex desire for their husbands, continue
to have sex relations with him in order to maintain the
socio-economic benefits of marriage.”
It would seem to me that if prostitution is seen in this light,
so that all persons who barter sex favors for non-sexual gains
are realistically viewed as prostitutes then it would be easier
for writers and their readers on the subject to agree to pros-
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Fantasy includes the id, ego, and superego for

functions of reasoning and combining.
Dr. Bernard and his associates reported that almost without
exception the hundreds of young women they interviewed
admitted, when questioned on the subject, that they habit-
ually engaged in some form of fantasy thinking while plying
their trade. According to their figures, about twenty percent
fantasized on asexual subjects such as shopping in fine stores
for expensive items that they could afford only because of
their prostitution of their tender young bodies. The remain-
ing eighty percent were given to fantasies of a purely sexual
nature while actually engaged in various sex acts with their
clients. This group were pretty evenly divided between the
“conquering heroine” and “suffering heroine” imagery. The
first, or positive fantasizers pictured themselves as sex god-
desses straight from the movie screens or perhaps the cen-
terfold of some popular men’s magazine. They were admired
and idolized by their public to whom they charitably gave
their sex favors, like autographs, to a fortunate few. Their
thoughts were filled with glory and grandeur
which boosted their ego to the skies and made them feel
that they were the greatest and most beautiful thing walking
on two feet. To them the fantasy served a positive purpose
by completely overshadowing any feelings of shame, guilt or
wrong-doing in regard to their actions.
The less fortunate remainder, the “long suffering heroines”
wallowed in self pity and thoughts of “poor little me”. Their
fantasies portrayed them as a virtuous young girl forced to

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Adopting mannerisms of others is a sort of appli-

cation of fantasy to our real lives.
sell her innocent body to some horrid, dirty old man in order
to provide food and shelter for a blind mother and infirm
father and to send her young brothers and sisters to school.
Some of this group actually enjoyed their personal soap
opera daydreams in a form of sadistic pleasure while others
subconsciously used the fantasy to inflict punishment upon
themselves for what their conscious min i knew was wrong-
doing. To them the fantasy served a negative purpose by em-
phasizing and strengthening their feelings of shame and
guilt in regard to their actions.
like the prostitutes themselves, their clients or patrons in-
variably engaged in one of several forms of sex fantasy while
performing the various sex acts which they had purchased
for money or other favors. In the first instance of these types
the fantasy was entirely concerned with the prostitute while
he pictured himself exactly as he was. In his dream image
his paid sex partner was not a whore at all but rather his fa-
vorite movie or television heroine or that beautiful, but un-
nattainable, secretary at the office. This is identical to one of
the situations described in the previous chapter and is an
unusually common form of sexual fantasy. The remainder of
the men who patronize the world’s oldest profession fall into
the same two categories of fantasy-thinkers as do the
women themselves; namely the “conquering hero” and the
“suffering hero”. For the price of her services the mouse
among men can become a lion. His fantasy is more con-
cerned with changing his mental image of himself rather
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actually is. In his mind’s eye he pictures himself as “Super-
stud”, a sex god, an Adonis, a sexually irresistible male in
whose presence women are reduced to fleshy putty. For such
a man this form of fantasizing serves a healthy and positive
purpose in that it bolsters his deflated ego, asserts his man-
hood and makes it easier for him to live with himself.
The “suffering hero” or “victim” type of prostitution customer
is basically a masochist. He enjoys feeling sorry for himself
and would go to almost any lengths to be pitied by others
or to be the subject of their sympathy. He belongs to the
“You’ll be sorry you didn’t treat me better when I’m dead
and gone” school of thought. Often this type is among the
most fortunate of men. He may lead a happy and well ad-
justed sex life and even an extremely active one. As we men-
tioned in the beginning of this chapter there are many
people who feel the need to experience the exact opposite
side of life and for them, fantasy provides the vehicle to
make this trip possible. Perhaps, driven by feelings if inse-
curity or inner guilt that he is not really deserving of his
good fortune he seeks to punish and humiliate himself in
order to make amends for the imagined inequities of his life.
To heighten the self-pity aspects of his fantasy he will often
seek out the most unattractive and sexually undesirable pros-
titutes available. During the sex act his mind is filled with
thoughts such as “Poor little me, after all I’ve done to be
kind and generous to the women in my life, I have to buy
my miserably small sexual needs from this frumpy, disease-
ridden harlot.” In his fantasy he sees himself as being caught
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sad lot in life becomes boundless. For him such fantasy sat-
isfies a latent masochism in his inner personality.
In his book Homosexuality, author Edmund Bergler, M.D.,
observes: “The homosexual lives in a fantasy world in which
he must constantly envision either himself or his partner as
being a member of the opposite sex. Only in this manner
can he consider that his sexual liaison is normal and reject
the stigma which is associated with homosexuality.”
In all homosexual affairs of any duration one partner as-
sumes the dominant (male) role while the other takes on the
submissive (female) characterization. In such a relationship
the pseudo-female may allow the male to make anal intro-
mission. In his fantasy world his anal cavity is viewed en-
tirely as a vagina and in this way he can think and function
as a female in the intercourse. His dominant male partner
may, or may not choose to fantasize about the nature of
coitus. In cases wherein he does then he sees the partner as
being female. When the sexual positions are reversed; the
sex fantasies are reversed along with them. The same type of
unreal mental projection takes place in female homosexual
partnership. The submissive partner subconsciously thinks
of her aggressive female mate as a man whether she is per-
forming cunnilingus upon her or impaling her on a dildo in
mock coitus. Here again, the dominant homosexual partner
may or may not resort to fantasy in order to get the most
satisfaction out of the relationship.
An interesting sidelight on this facet of fantasy personality
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of the sexual being.
female homosexual who had consulted me about a different
problem which has no bearing on our present sphere of in-
terest. Here, in her own words (as best I remember them,
since the conversation was not recorded) was her commen-
tary on the difference between male and female homosexu-
als:
“You know those damn faggots are luckier than us poor les-
bians. Each of them came equipped with an artificial pussy
in the back so they can have at it almost normally and both
enjoy the action. A dike who wants to screw her girl has to
go out and spend her hard-earned money on a goddamn
dildo and then she doesn’t get any real feel out of using it!
Just one more reason I wish I’d have been born a man.”
This is in line with what we were saying about everyone hav-
ing an inner desire to be the opposite of what they are. Just
to even the score between the sexes, I might include an
amusing experience related by a psychiatrist friend of mine.
He had been treating a handsome young male homosexual
whose parents had insisted he undergo therapy. At one point
in the interview he asked the young man to describe the
most beautiful woman he had ever seen. The man gave a
glowing and highly detailed description. At this point the
doctor asked what his feelings were towards her. He replied:
“Jeez, doc, for a minute there she had me wishing I was a
lesbian.”
It is generally agreed that sex fantasies play a great part in
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Aphrodisiacs are largely fantasies themselves.

merely outlines these since the forms they take are more ex-
plicitly described in other chapters and we do not wish to
become unduly redundant by repeating them here.
The SADIST is generally found to be a disturbed person
who usually has been taught, consciously or unconsciously,
to have disgust for anything sexual. Since normal sexuality
is unacceptable to him, his acts of cruelty are punishment to
his sex partner for engaging in something so shameful. In
his fantasy-life the sadist envisions himself as an angel of
justice sent here to mete out divine justice against moral of-
fenders. He cannot accept the lustful demands of his con-
scious so he shrouds these in the fantasy cloak of
righteousness in his subconscious.
The lUST MURDERER is the extreme example of sadism.
Here, his fantasy image pictures him as the immortal exe-
cutioner of the sinner. His illness is at a psychotic level and
seldom, even during his fantasy, does actual coitus occur. Or-
gasm often is the result of his brutal murder and mutilation
of the victim, who is the fantasy personification of the devil
and his work.
The MASOCHIST is the mirror image of the sadist. This
disturbed person receives sexual pleasure and/or gratification
from being hurt or tortured, physically or mentally, by his
or her sexual partner. His fantasy-image pictures him as a
hopeless sinner and sees his sex partner as his appointed tor-
turer or executioner. As a matter of interest the term
masochist is derived from the name of the Australian nov-
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life were devoted to a craving for punishment; much as the
opposite term sadist was derived from the name of French
author the Marquis de Sade, whose writings and personal
life were devoted to the inflicting of pain.
The EXHIBITIOnIST is one who receives sexual gratifi-
cation from exposure of his genitals to unwitting and un-
willing sex prey. This is a relatively common sex crime and
is involved in approximately 35% of sex offenses which end
in arrest. Here, again, the fantasies take the form of “villain”
or “victim”. The aggressive person thinks of himself as a sex
king and believes that his exhibits of his genitalia elicit re-
spect and admiration while the regressive person, so afflicted,
actually seeks ridicule, scorn and rejection as a result of his
performance.
The TRAnSVESTITE is one who delights in dressing in
the clothes of the opposite sex. Fullest appreciation of this
activity can only be enjoyed under a fantasy that they are ac-
tually transformed to a member of the opposite sex, much
as in the fantasy life of the homosexual.
The term PEDOPHIlIA is used to describe those dis-
turbed persons who can only obtain sexual satisfaction from
coitus or other sex acts with a much younger partner of the
opposite sex. Those afflicted with this form of sexual aber-
ration are deeply involved in the fantasy of their very action.
In their mind’s eye they envision themselves as Ponce de
leons’ who, through sex with a partner twenty or more years
their junior declare: “Behold, I have drunk from the Foun-
tain of Youth and I am now young again.” The fullest enjoy-

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Removal of inhibition and myth is a good aphrodis-
iac , but one that takes a lot of work.
ment of pedophilia can only be obtained when the practi-
tioner is heavily garbed in fantasy thoughts.
The nECROPHIlE is the psychotic level sexual aberrant
who can achieve full sexual gratification only from coitus
with a corpse. As such he falls very much in the “conquering
hero” or “suffering hero” categories of fantasy. In the former
case his fantasy thoughts proclaim: “Behold my sexual pow-
ers which transcend the grave. My coital act with your dead
body has turned you into a Phoenix, the fabled bird of death
of the Egyptians which arose from the ashes of the funeral
pyre to soar again into the warm heavens of life. The “suffer-
ing hero” has thoughts of “behold my grief and loss so that
now I throw myself upon your corpse so that I join you in
the dark, cold halls of the House of Death.”
The FETISHIST must use a very advanced degree of fan-
tasy-vision to enjoy his particular sexual aberration. He be-
comes erotically stimulated at the touch and possession of a
particular item of clothing such as s glove, a brassiere, silk
hose, high heeled shoes or panties. Often he is brought to
great heights of sexual arousal, even orgasm by the touch
and possession of these items, but in order to function erot-
ically, he must fantasize them as being filled with woman
flesh, not merely empty fragments of cloth, so we have even
another prime example of sexual fantasy.
The MATE-SWAPPERS and the SWInGERS are a
major new part of the socio-sexual scene. While most lay
opinion holds that the attraction to this ever-growing ac-
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Sexual inadequacy is a side effect of alcoholism .

realize that it is more deeply rooted in the ego. Even with
so much physical display and activity going for them that
one would think there would be no room left for imaginative
thinking, these people often resort to fantasy to get the most
from their activities. Here again the “conquering hero” and
“suffering hero” roles emerge. Driven by sexual egos and ap-
petites beyond their physical capacities, some seek mass ac-
ceptance in their envisioned role of a real sexpot, while
others, negatively oriented, seek mass rejection and humili-
ation with resultant pity and sympathy.
There are an infinite variety of sexual aberrations but these
major types have established a pattern for fantasy usage that
would apply equally to any others that the reader may care
to add to the list.
In summation of this chapter one is brought to recall the
words of Dr. Karl Menninger, founder and head of the
famed Menninger Clinic, in his book Man Against Himself:
“A retreat into the dream world of fantasy is often man’s only
salvation in the frustratingly endless quest to locate and
identify his inner self.”

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Alcohol in any amount weakens sexual ability.
 CHAPTER FOUR
ON SEX DREAMS AND THE
SUBCONSCIOUS

It is the nature of our society that primary sex drives are ex-
perienced by the youth prior to the time when they are phys-
iologically or psychologically prepared to accept and handle
them. Except in extremely rare cases, the adolescent mind
is unable to cope with these strange and mysterious de-
mands of the flesh. In general they have been taught to re-
gard any such thoughts as bad, wicked or sinful and so they
hide them in the innermost recesses of their immature
minds, as some sort of shameful experience. Being socially
precluded from discussing them openly, much less doing
anything about them, they are forced to retreat with their
burgeoning thoughts and interests in sexual matters, into
the secret hiding places of their private dream worlds, both
waking and sleeping. As a result we find that many an initial
orgasmic experience on the part of the adolescent male or
female, came about in the form of a “midnight emission”

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Yes, alcohol does increase sexual appetite while
reducing the ability to perform sex acts.
which was most often a purely fantasized sexual experience.
It is, therefore, not difficult to understand how the role of
sex dreams and fantasized sexual situations become deeply
and indelibly stamped into the minds of youth. Since their
only relief for the early pangs of sexual desire came from
within the area of their own subconscious minds, either
through dreams of sex or wakeful fantasies, it is readily un-
derstandable that this mental association or relationship
should carry over into the area of sexual experience of the
maturing adult.
Havelock Ellis, the dean of modern sexologists, in his book
Psychology of Sex, describes sex dreams and fantasies as “a de-
vice conjured up by the subconscious or unconscious areas
of the mind, by which it attempts to alter the individual’s
sex life from the lacking or wanting state of conscious exis-
tence, to the full and abundant experience which that indi-
vidual would like for it to be.”
One is moved to comment that Ellis likened dreams and
fantasies of sex to hindsight . . . which is always 20-20. In
this make-believe world our dream houses never have leaky
roofs or defective plumbing: our dream women are not
plagued with such common human imperfections as hali-
tosis or body odor.
Sigmund Freud, in Dreams and Telepathy, said over seventy
years ago:
“Most dreams of adults treat of sexual material and give ex-
pression to erotic. nearly all such dreams, in the male at

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Yohimbine is the most widely used of all the alleged
aphrodisiacs.
least, are preceded or accompanied by an erection. The same
is probably true of females, although that is harder to estab-
lish. This means that there is a lot of sexual activity going on
in both sexes while they are asleep, and that erections occur
about every ninety minutes throughout the night. This can
go on for years, or even a lifetime without the person’s ever
being aware of it.”
For years we have been taught to accept the word of Freud
on much the same basis as we accept the words of Moses or
the disciples. With all due respects to the great white god
of the sexologists, I must say that this final statement is a
little hard to accept on a factual basis. Bear in mind that in
Freud’s day there was no radio, no movies, no television, no
phonograph to keep one up late at night. Only the homes
of the wealthy urbanites were equipped with electric lights
making reading for more than an hour or so after dark, prac-
tical. As a result we must take into consideration the fact
that the men and women of the Freudian era spent a lot
more time sleeping than members of the current generation.
Ten to twelve hours sleep a night was not an uncommon
schedule for that day and age. On his ninety minute theory,
simple projection shows us that this would mean that the
average man might .experience six to eight separate erec-
tions during a single night’s sleep. His concluding remark
that this can go on for years or even a lifetime without the
person’s ever being aware of it seems absolutely inconceiv-
able to me. If one does accept this it surely must be on the
basis that either the good Dr. Freud’s subjects were sound
sleepers indeed or that he provided them with sleeping po-

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tions infinitely more powerful than the Tuinal and Seconal
in common use today.
Quite apart from the purely mathematical considerations of
Freud’s early studies, most modern psychologists and sexol-
ogists are agreed upon the fact that most adolescents are in-
troduced into the orgasmic phases of their adult sex lives
during their sleeping hours.
The most prolific of modern writers on sex and psychology,
Dr. Albert Ellis, makes frequent mention of this phenome-
non in his various works, notably in Sex Without Guilt, in
which he states:
“The midnight emission, or ‘wet dream’ is, in no way a con-
scious act. It is, rather, entirely and exclusively a normal
function of the unconscious mind which is the domain of
all dreams, sexual and asexual. This portion of the brain is
happily unhampered by rules and regulations, religious or
moral doctrines. Its reactions are based upon native instinct,
so that it is, to a large degree, almost animalistic in function.
As such, it rejects the logical, purposeful control of the con-
scious mind. A lack of understanding in this area is the
source of much adolescent frustration and unfounded guilt
complexes. A young man who frequently experiences mid-
night emissions is often accused by his family members
(whichever find the unmistakable traces on the bedsheets)
of excessive masturbation.”
In this connection, it would appear that Dr. Ellis has, as he
does so often, managed to pull all of the nails out of the keg

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Papyrii reveal that the ancient Egyptians were one

of the most sex oriented of all nations .
and hit each of them squarely on the head. As we shall dis-
cuss subsequently, there are few areas of the sexual arena that
are more fraught with misunderstanding and misinterpre-
tation, than are .the areas of “wet dreams”. Since they are,
definitely, the forerunners of subconscious and semi-con-
scious sexual fantasies, it is important that we study and un-
derstand them in their true context.
In his later book Sex and the Single Man, Dr. Ellis states:
“It seems to be the general opinion among young men that
these midnight emissions are the end product of masturba-
tion while they sleep. Most have the impression that they
dream of a pretty girl and that this causes them to have an
erection which they then manually stimulate to the point of
ejaculation. Recent clinical studies have proven that, while
this is indeed the procedure in some instances, it is far from
being the rule. In a large number of cases there was no man-
ual contact with the penis before, or at the moment of or-
gasmic discharge. Because of the nature of the survey, all of
the volunteers slept in the nude and without sheets or blan-
kets to cover themselves. In a number of cases the male slept
flat on his back and his penis did not come into contact with
the mattress, a pillow, or even a sheet during the time he ex-
perienced an erection and finally ejaculated. This was re-
garded by the researchers as proof that the entire arousal and
satisfaction of his sex drive was controlled entirely by mental,
rather than physical means.”
I have talked with many young men and boys who felt
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Cannabis does not increase desire or need for sex.
said that before going to sleep they would make an auto-
suggestive implantation in the form of saying to themselves:
“I will not have a wet dream tonight. I will not masturbate
in my sleep.” Such an approach is, of course, a hopeless waste
of time and effort. It is about as impractical as the Colonial
times cure for a headache; in which the patient was told to
run around the house three times without thinking of a fox.
Utterly impossible! Once these young men learn that this is
purely a natural function controlled entirely by the uncon-
scious area of the mind, much of the shame and guilt which
they have been taught to associate with these uncontrollable
experiences disappears.
In Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey’s now classic reports Sexual Behavior
in the Human Male and the later Sexual Behavior in the
Human Female, this famous research team in which Dr. Kin-
sey was assisted by W. B. Pomeroy, C. E. Martin and P. H.
Gebhard, reported that over 91% of males under 25 and ap-
proximately 72% of females in this same age group reported
that they had experienced “wet dreams” during at least one
period in their lives. Frequencies ranged all the way from
“on a few occasions” to “four or five times a week”.
Obviously, anything that occurs in such a large majority of
cases must be regarded as normal behavior or natural expe-
rience. It is a fundamental rule of sociological studies that
all which tends to occur as a social phenomenon in a vast
majority of people must be considered normal and all that
occurs in a very small minority is considered abnormal.
Ergo: sex dreams which terminate in orgasmic relief of pent-

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Cannabis is not an aphrodisiac, but it definitely does

enhance sexual climax.
up sexual desires are normal and are generally regarded as
nature’s way of introducing the adolescent mind and body
to the hitherto mysterious secrets of the full adult sexual ex-
perience.
Clinical studies of females in this area have, quite under-
standably, proven less conclusive than those of their male
counterparts. There is no problem in ascertaining that a male
has reached climax due to the accompanying seminal dis-
charge or ejaculation. This is not so easily discernible in the
female since her orgasm in entirely internal in the form of a
series of muscular contractions which, in most cases, cannot
be observed outwardly. Drs. Masters and Johnson, writing
in the Western Journal of Surgery, Obstetrics and Gynecology
on The Sexual Response Cycle in the Human Female, re-
port that they experimented in sleep studies of the midnight
emission phenomenon with the insertion of vaginal pulse
sensors which would transmit an electronic signal when the
vaginal walls contracted in the rhythmic series’ of muscular
spasms which would indicate that the sleeping female was
experiencing an orgasm. They found such devices to be un-
satisfactory since many of the women, in their sleep, related
them to a penile substitute.
In a later report, The Clitoris, Anatomical and Clinical Con-
siderations, Masters and Johnson further reported on clinical
sleep studies of the field of sex dreams: “Almost all of the
females who obtained orgasmic relief during their sleep were
observed to manually stimulate their clitoris in order to pro-
duce single or multiple orgasmic reliefs. less than 20% of

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LSD has no aphrodisiac qualities, and has been
shown to be an impediment to climax.
those tested reported that they had orgasmed during sleep
and had been observed to make no physical contact with
their genitalia. It must be assumed that these orgasms were
entirely achieved by the unconscious mind.”
not all sex dreams, of course, are of the “wet dream” type.
Many could, no doubt be carried through to orgasmic cli-
max but the feelings of guilt or shame or both, on the part
of the dreamer are so deep rooted as to penetrate even into
the area of the unconscious and he forces that part of his
mind to either change the subject of the dream or brings
himself to an awakening just prior to orgasm. This is a rela-
tively common experience. In some individuals all dreams
of sex terminate in this fashion, while others report that
some do, while others continue to ejaculation.
Although I am not generally disposed to make generalized
statements, I believe that it is reasonably safe to state that
all normal, healthy people have, at some time experienced
sex dreams. The meanings of such individual dreams, how-
ever, may differ greatly and cover a very wide range of both
origin and interpretation. In what appears to be the most
prevalent situation, the sex dream might be described as a
form of wish fulfillment, a carrying over and expanding on
the experiences of the waking day. This is probably the most

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the sexual act that dull its pleasure.

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common motivating force for sex dreams among adolescents
and adults alike who find that their sexual appetites were
not appeased by the physical experiences of the wakeful con-
scious mind. The individual falls asleep while still suffering
the pangs of sexual hunger. The unconscious area of the
mind which seems only to have the ability to take over con-
trol during periods of deep sleep says to the conscious area:
“Okay, stupid, you blew the whole deal. now I’ll show you
how you should have handled it.” As a result, the individual’s
dreams, which take up where the waking conscious control
left off, continue into the world of fantasy or, in simple lan-
guage, the way we would like for things to have worked out.
During the hours of sleep the unconscious mind takes over
control from the now sleeping conscious area of the mind.
Certain thoughts which are important to the conscious have
seeped through and are carried on by the unconscious in the
form of dreams. Here, the big romantic date that was pre-
maturely concluded with a light kiss on the cheek is carried
on into the full realm of sexual fulfillment. As a result, the
sleeping individual now mentally envisions himself as being
allowed the hoped for sexual liberties and sees himself as in-
dulging in various forms of sexual activities with the general
or chosen individual object of his erotic desires. Sometimes
such dreams arrive at their logical conclusion; sometimes
they fall short of it. In any event such dreams of sex generally
transcend the boundaries of the conscious or real world of
wide-awake existence. As such, they serve as a type of emo-
tional relief valve for the frustrations of real life. At times
they may be subject to outside physical influences. The

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dreamer may clutch and squeeze a handful of the foam rub-
ber mattress or down pillow and, in sleep, fantasize that he
is caressing the breast of the subject of his dreams. The mere
touch of the mattress, or bed-clothing, against his sex or-
gasms may translate itself into the bodily contact of his
dream woman.
While many psychologists and even psychiatrists are in-
clined to summarily dismiss such sex dreams as a “pressure
relief valve” or mental escape hatch for pent-up sexual frus-
trations, this writer is inclined to feel that they may well be
doing their readers a grievous disservice by adopting such a
“shrug-off ” attitude. Whereas we all realize that all normal
people build up certain mental restraints and frustrations;
particularly where their sex drives are concerned, we must
also be cognizant of the dangers inherent in hitting the
“panic button” for instant relief too often. The emotionally
distraught female who seeks relief through sobs and tears;
the sexually frustrated person who attempts to alleviate the
pressures of mental anguish by emitting an occasional
scream, will surely develop into neurotic, if not downright
psychotic, emotional conditions if they allow themselves to
overuse these release mechanisms.
I sincerely feel that this is worthy of mention and consider-
ation simply because we must realize that the dream or sub-
conscious fantasy release from sexual tension is a form of
psychological medication; and we all must know that the
excessive use of any form of medication—even aspirin
tablets—can be fraught with danger.

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In An Introduction to Psychoanalysis, Dr. Sigmund Freud
stated: “The behavior of a human being in sexual matters is
often a prototype for this whole reaction to life.”
Obviously, the individual who retreats too often from his
real, waking sex life, into the fantasy of dream sex, will like-
wise retreat too often from other phases of his life into some
similar form of private retreat.
Up to this point we have devoted our attention to the more-
or-less normal forms of sex dreams: those that have to do
with actual coitus, or other physical acts of sexual gratifica-
tion with some member of the opposite sex. now we must
consider the infinite variety of other forms of sex dreams.
These are those which deal with sexual symbolisms: those
things that attempt to deliver the message of the uncon-
scious or subconscious mind to the conscious by means of
speaking in parables, rather than in straight-out language.
now we should devote ourselves to these symbolic messages
and our conscious interpretation of their meanings.
In his book, Basic Writings, the pioneer Freud, seemed to
place a sexual connotation upon even the most innocent of
life associations. Much of this has carried over into modern
psychological and sexological thinking. Even in this ad-
vanced age, a person may mention a snake, or a banana, and
there are those who are wont to leap upon it and label this
as a “Freudian slip”, and attribute to it all sorts of sexual im-
plications.
Many of these sexual symbols or associations appear to

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Here's a sure fire aphrodisiac: good health, lots
of exercise, good food, and plenty of rest.

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mentally well-adjusted people, of both sexes, in dreams. The
dreams in which they appear may be quite asexual in general
nature. Many writers, notably Havelock Ellis and Theodor
Reik rejected much of Freud’s sexual associations. In spite
of this, many of the present-day psychologists and psychia-
trists seem to revert to the Freudian sexual connotations and
still place great emphasis upon these pseudo-sexual sign-
posts.
These sex symbols appear most often in dreams. On occa-
sions when the dream is remembered upon awakening,
much emphasis is placed on them and, more often than not,
the layman makes an entirely erroneous interpretation of
their meaning.
One of Freud’s pets was the sexual symbolism of the snake.
Beyond the serpent’s role in the Garden of Eden episode
wherein he supposedly talked Eve into eating the forbidden
fruit of the apple, thus giving birth to human sex and per-
manent banishment from that paradise on earth, it is diffi-
cult to see anything very sexy about a snake (Unless, of
course, you happen to be another snake). Yet Sig-mund
Freud would have us believe that any dream involving a
snake has strong sexual overtones. In my own case, I was
raised in Southern Florida. In this area children were taught,
from the time they could crawl, to have great fear of snakes
and to avoid them at all costs. This is understandable in an
area in which 85% of the snakes are deadly poisonous. With
me, that fear reached a near psychotic level. I have never had
any fear of sex, therefore, I am unable to relate the two.

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Ginseng root from Korea, a legal substance
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This Freudian snake symbolism in sex dreams is a favorite
topic at discussion group meetings, many of which I have
conducted. Most of the males fail to see the relationship,
other than in the Adam and Eve context. Even those who
do not share my irrational fear in this connection often re-
mark that a snake is a cold blooded creature and sex is a hot
blooded activity and therefore the two seem diametrically
opposed, rather than related.
One young man reasoned that in order to have sex he had
to have an erection and that the erection was caused by
blood rushing to the penis and raising its temperature but
that, asleep or awake, the mere thought of a snake made his
blood run cold as ice water, therefore, a dream about a snake
could not possibly be a sex dream.
A young woman in one group did recall one very definite
relationship. She recounted an experience when she was a
girl of about fourteen. Her very best girl friend came to her
all excited and confessed that the night before she had her
first sex experience with a boy. The young lady telling the
story said that she had never even seen a boy’s penis and
asked her friend what it looked like. The girl thought a mo-
ment and replied: “It looks like a one-eyed pink snake wear-
ing a white turtleneck sweater.”
Eric Berne, M.D., author of the popular Games People Play,
makes the following observation on sex dreams in his latest
book Sex in Human Loving:
“In dreams, even more than in wide-awake experiences,

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nearly all of the difficulties of erection originate with the
operator and not with the mechanism—pilot’s error, as they
say in aircraft circles. The impulses to the penis are sent
down from the brain, and there is a little man up there who
is supposed to keep his finger on the button when the signal
flashes green and all systems are Go. But if he gets tired,
scared, distracted, or upset, he may relax the pressure or re-
lease the button, even when the light is green. Since it is a
fail-safe button or dead man’s throttle, once it is released,
the mechanism is disconnected and goes back into idle. The
little man is of course the eternal Child in the person’s sub-
conscious and unconscious mind. If he chickens out there
is no erection; or if there is one, it is lost, even though all the
wiring is sound and even though there is lots of stimulation
coming in from the outside.”
Dr. Berne’s reference to the “eternal Child” in the person’s
mind relates to the fact that, except in very rare cases, the
subconscious and unconscious areas of the human brain sel-
dom develop beyond the intelligence level of a 6 or 7 year
old child. These areas do not have the capacity to reason, nor
are they able to weigh facts and evaluate. Everything in life
to them is either wrong or right; black or white. There is no
gray area between. This is vital to the understanding of the
importance of the sex dream pattern and its significance.
Take the case of the young boy experiencing his first sexual
awakening. If his first sex dream should be a wet dream in
which he is engaging in an incestuous coital act with his
mother, he is likely to be filled with feelings of shame and

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Alcohol, uppers, and downers, and narcotics ,
are highly effective anaphrodisiacs.

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guilt. Upon awakening he may not consciously remember
the details of the dream and the fact that his sex partner was
his mother, but these facts remain indelibly engraved on the
subconscious. Sex to him has become a sinful act and this
thought is established in his conscious as well as subcon-
scious mind. In extreme cases of this sort it has even been
known to preclude the person’s ability to achieve or maintain
an erection sufficient to complete normal coitus with any
woman. Many such persons simply give up on the thought
of ever having normal sex relations with women and retreat
to a sex life which is limited to masturbation or, at times, to
homosexuality, two forms of sexual release against which
they do not feel this mental blockage. Often, when such per-
sons undergo psychiatric treatment, the doctor will take
them back in time through regressive hypnosis until he dis-
covers the original source of the sex “hang-up”. In most cases
the patient will have no conscious memory or knowledge of
the early childhood incident. One of the outstanding merits
of the subconscious is that it possesses total recall memory.
Similarly, if the adolescent male experiences early midnight
emissions during sex dreams of girls he has taken to the
movies, school dances, or necked with in the park, he will
feel nothing but pride and pleasure from these dreams and
this attitude will, in all likelihood, be reflected in all of his
conscious sexual experiences in the years ahead. As the old
saying goes, “First impressions are lasting impressions.”
Elsie Sechrist, in her book Dreams, Your Magic Mirror, gives
two very interesting examples of sex dreams which involve

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fantasy combined with reality.

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totally asexual sex symbolisms:
“In this sex dream a rabbit and a bobcat play parts. ‘Along a
country road is a fence. The countryside is beautiful with
gently rolling hills and lovely trees. I stop to admire the
scene when I see a rabbit trying to get through the fence.
The rabbit is large and seems to be growing, even as I watch
him. I am worried that he may get through and onto the
road. Then I see a large bobcat and hope that he will destroy
the rabbit before he gets through the fence and onto the
road. The bobcat does attack the rabbit by the throat and
pulls him off the fence’. Mrs. Sechrist explains that this was
the dream of a young unmarried man who, at her request,
developed the following associations:
Rabbit
Sex (because of their frequent mating)
Rabbit Growing
My sex desires are growing
Rabbit on Fence
I am still on the fence regarding sex
Bobcat Pulling Rabbit Off of the Fence by
Throat
I must use strength to overcome my growing
sexual desires through sheer willpower.

The symbolisms and interpretations of such dreams are rea-

sonably simple and straight-forward. A common variation
on the rabbit theme is that of dreams involving minks or
mink coats, based upon the old cliche “she screws like a

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mink.”
Of course, sex dreams are by no means the exclusive prerog-
ative of the male. Females have their own variations and
their own exclusive set of sex symbolisms. Mrs. Sechrist in-
cludes the following example which was described to her by
Dr. Karl Menninger, author of Man Against Himself and You
and Psychiatry. This dream was related by a disturbed young
female patient at the famous Menninger Clinic:
“I dreamed that a man was creating a clay model of me.
When it was completed he placed it on the desert. I was sur-
prised and frightened to see that the upper half of the torso
was alive. It did not, however, resemble me at all. Rather it
looked more like an exotic, dark, foreign girl. To my com-
plete consternation I then observed that the figure from the
waist down resembled a toilet bowl, moist, slimy and earth
colored!”
This dream, in everyday language, was warning the girl that
she was becoming a “sex-pot.” This was symbolized by the
toilet bowl, the use of which relates to the natural discharges
of the sexual organs. The newly molded sculpture repre-
sented the fact that this was a relatively recent experience.
The foreign looking, exotic woman indicated that this was
not her true self. The desert in which the man placed his cre-
ation symbolized the spiritual aridity to which this activity
was reducing her. The sculptor represented “the man” in her
life who was responsible for this creation—with her help of
course.

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Dramatic symbols in a warning dream about sexual temp-
tations or actual activities are common to all normal adults.
This is one of the reasons that psychiatrists question their
patients so strongly about their dreams in order that they
may penetrate the hard shell of the conscious in order to ex-
amine and study the underlying subconscious and uncon-
scious areas of mental activity. The erudite reader who
seriously desires to undertake a program which will increase
his understanding of his own true inner personality can do
much by dream analysis. The recommended procedure is to,
immediately upon awakening, write down or tape record as
many details of the dream as you can possibly remember.
The Psychology section of the Public library will have sev-
eral books which have been prepared by highly qualified
psychiatrists for the sole purpose of aiding the layman in
self-analysis by means of dream interpretations. These are,
by no means, to be confused with the twenty-five cent
dream magazines available on the local news stands; which
are about as firmly based in scientific fact as are the true ro-
mance type of magazines.
There are very few adults today who have graduated from
the public school system of our country who aren’t familiar
with at least some basic information on physical hygiene:
the necessity of keeping clean, brushing their teeth, getting
the right food, fresh air, exercise and rest. They learned it in
terms that they could understand and relate to their daily
lives. It is indeed regrettable that, at the same time, there are
so many persons who have no such clear understanding of
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sonalities.
It would take an extremely short-sighted observer to deter-
mine that there is not a crying, if not desperate need, for
such understanding after taking a quick look around him
today. Broken homes, juvenile delinquencies, crime waves,
group hatreds, sexual offenses, riots, political wranglings,sus-
picion and fear on all sides are not likely to make a thought-
ful man or woman very smug about the current state of our
individual or collective mental health. What goes for the
United States you can double or triple for too much of the
rest of the world.
This writer has been deeply gratified to observe the tremen-
dous increase in interest, especial among the young adults,
in seeking out fundamental knowledge on the vital aspects
of living th; are not taken care of by food, tooth paste, soap
an water, or any amount of money. The manifold increase in
the sale of guides such as this one, on a facets of the experi-
ence of life is extremely encouraging when one thinks in
terms of a better future. The individual who is sufficiently
concerned with self-improvement to analyze and interpret
his dreams with the help of such printed matter as is avail-
able on the subject in order that he may better understand
his own true personality, can do much to make life happier
and fuller for himself and those around him. Of course, no
book can solve your problems if they are serious — this takes
professional consultation. However, such study ought to give
you a clearer insight into yourself and what makes you tick.
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and other people a little better.
In his book You and Psychiatry, Dr. Karl Menninger de-
scribes dreams as “The Royal Road to the Unconscious.”
This concept is stated another way by author Frank G.
Slaughter, M.D. in his book Your Mind and Your Body.
“Anyone can start the process of lifting his repressions to
probe into his own unconscious mind merely by daydream-
ing, sometimes by actual dreaming if he happens to remem-
ber the dream in detail upon awakening. The simplest way
to understand your unconscious is to understand your
dreams.”
Ever since Dr. Sigmund Freud first demonstrated the pres-
ence of deep instinctual forces within the unconscious,
which the individual so often represses, psychiatrists have
been seeking a simpler method than psychoanalysis of
changing the states of feeling and conscious thought in
order to remove the barrier-hiding or obstructing access to
man’s innermost thoughts. In this connection, Dr. lawrence
S. Kubie, the eminent psychiatrist, has advanced the inter-
esting proposition that at the time the original conflictive
impulse was repressed, the Ego was momentarily in a state
of flux, almost panic, and therefore took the path of regres-
sion as the easiest or most expedient way out. In order to re-
channel psychic energy away from the repression and the
path of the neurosis, this “moment of truth” which fostered
the uncertainty must again be created and faced. The shift
can then be made properly to face the facts and integrate
them into the personality in the right direction. Thus com-

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plete psychotherapy may mean practically reverting the in-
dividual to the infantile state in which the basic mental dis-
turbance occurred, then reorienting him in relation to it.
Then, with the conflict recognized and energy reoriented,
the neurosis is no longer needed, nor are the psychosomatic
symptoms which often accompany such a neurosis.
Drugs, hypnosis, and other methods of emotional catharsis
aid in anesthetizing the Ego, so that it can undergo this mo-
ment of threatened disintegration without automatically
dropping into the way of the old repressions. This seems a
logical explanation of the method by which the currently
popular narcosynthesis technique works.
The basic method of inducing catharsis by means of drugs
is relatively simple, but the handling of the powerful psychic
forces which may be liberated under the influence of the
anesthetic to the Ego lies exclusively within the province of
the trained psychiatrist or psychotherapist. This is neither a
parlor game approach nor a psychiatric experiment for the
“do-it-yourself ” amateur analyst. The most widely used drug
for this purpose, as of this writing is sodium pentothal,
which has given birth to the commonly used misnomer
“truth drug”.
The approach outlined above applies to the more advanced
or extreme cases which must be treated professionally. For-
tunately, such extreme cases occur in less than ten percent
of the total of persons afflicted with sexual problems,
“hangups” or malfunctions which are rooted in the uncon-
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justments do not require such extreme or intensive treat-
ment, but often respond to simple autosuggestion under the
influence of hypnosis, or even self-hypnosis. This is a rela-
tively safe approach and can be used with comparative safety.
Fortunately, in the more extreme cases, while it will do no
real good, it can likewise do no serious harm. This whole re-
view has been presented in this somewhat reverse manner
in order to explain the tremendous popularity today of the
amateur hypnotist and self-hypnotist. Available space in this
guide allows little more than a passing mention of this ap-
proach. I refer the seriously interested reader who seeks in-
depth information on this subject to my full length books
devoted to it, Sex Help Through Self-Hypnosis (Brandon
House, 1972) and Sex and the Occult (Centurion Press, 1972)
or to How to Solve Your Sex Problems with Self-Hypnosis by
Frank S. Caprio, M.D. (Wilshire Book Co., 1971) or Hyp-
nosis and Sexual Pleasure by Judson Riordan (Viceroy Books,
1967).
So much for sex dreams and the unconscious. now let’s re-
turn our attention to sexual daydreams (fantasies) and the
subconscious, and the interpretation of some of the mean-
ings of these mental flights of fancy. We have already deter-
mined that the subconscious lies somewhere between the
unconscious, which expresses itself only while we sleep, in
the form of dreams, and the conscious which deals with the
nitty-gritty facts and figures of life as it actually exists. Most
individuals disavow any responsibility for the productions
of the unconscious portion of their brain in the form of
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simply stating: “I am not responsible for my dreams, since
they are completely beyond my control.” It is strange that
these very same people will attempt to influence the uncon-
scious mind by reading erotic literature and staring at ex-
plicit sexual photographs just before going to sleep in hopes
that these words and pictures may come to life in their
dreams! The majority of normal, well-adjusted men and
women will accept full responsibility for their actions and
reactions during their waking hours when they are under
the control of the conscious area of the mind. Even here
there are exceptions in the person of the chicken-hearted
who defensively proclaim: “I cannot help being the way I
am — after all I am merely a product of my upbringing and
environment.”
Between these two extremes of all black or all white there
exists a long and complex gray-scale of human personality
which is especially applicable to the area of sex. It is this
“Twilight Zone” of human sexuality that is the undisputed
domain of the subconscious. This is the fantasy world into
which the conscious mind beats a hasty retreat when the
facts and activities of life are not what it would have them
be. Within the portals of this magical “never-never” land
each man or woman is a wizard, with a magic wand that can
direct and divert the wellsprings of life forces into the main
channels of his or her particular needs or desires, rather than
have them dissipated in the diverse rivulets of conscious ac-
tivities.
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the control of the conscious. Here is the stage of the mind;
a “Make-Believe Playhouse” in which each individual can
be author, producer, director and star of the “blue movie” of
his choice. In this connotation the subconscious mind of
man is the greatest “Actors’ Workshop” on earth. Upon its
stage even the meekest member of the audience can enact a
simple or extravagant drama of sex which is tailored to his
own individual tastes.
Havelock Ellis, writing in his Studies in the Psychology of Sex,
puts it in these words:
“Of all of the gifts with which mankind is endowed, surely
none is greater than that of his subconscious mind. In this
private mental wonderland, the pauper can be King, the
midget can be a giant, the impotent male can find the ca-
pacity for ten women and the frigid female can be a sexpot.”
Earlier in this chapter we spoke of those individuals who
attempt to select and control the subject matter of their
dreams by reading erotic literature and looking at explicit
pictures of sex acts just before going to sleep. Instances of
such activities having any positive reaction on the uncon-
scious and producing the desired dreams are rare indeed. It
is not quite so simple as checking through the TV Guide to
select what programs you want to watch while you sleep. The
subconscious portion of the mind is, however, almost com-
pletely under our conscious control and is, therefore, highly
susceptible to suggestions. When these same individuals at-
tend an X rated Blue movie the subconscious automatically
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nude maidens; when he reads an erotic novel, he becomes
the hero and when he looks at pictures of sex acts, it is his
penis that is receiving all the attention, not that of the male
model in the picture.
In his recent study A New Look at Masturbation, Dr. Frank
S. Caprio reports:
“Every research team since the Kinsey group have come up
with substantially the same figures — that over 90% of
American males either do, or have masturbated. More ex-
plicit recent questionnaires further indicate that, of these,
nearly 75% reported that they enjoy adding fantasy to the
physical act by looking at pictures of one or more of their
‘dream women’ so as to subconsciously delude themselves
into the belief that they were engaging in sex with the girl
(s) in the picture rather than merely regarding it as a simple
act of auto-eroticism.”
From my viewpoint I must admit that I am a little shocked
to note that Dr. Caprio seems to treat this as somewhat of
a newsworthy item or a brand new disclosure. In my own
experience I recall my grandfather telling of his boyhood on
a southern farm. There was no indoor plumbing in those
days and the frugal farmers would not think of buying toilet
paper. Instead, all of the old mail order catalogs were taken
to the outhouse and used, sheet at a time, for that purpose.
The boys in the family would become extremely upset if any-
one used a sheet from the brassiere or corset sections since
these were their fantasy aids to be studied and daydreamed
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In a similar recent work on the female counterpart of this
situation entitled Nymphomania, our old friend Dr. Albert
Ellis, reporting in collaboration with Edward Sagarin re-
ports:
“The consensus of sex researchers’ opinion seems to be that
approximately 65% of modern American females revert ei-
ther periodically, or frequently, to masturbation as a means
of receiving sexual gratification. In an alarming number of
cases this auto-stimulation was used in addition to, rather
than as a substitute for, normal sexual activity. Only a neg-
ligible minority within this group engaged in daydreams of
a fantasy lover during their self-arousal and self-satisfaction.
Most adopted the completely selfish viewpoint that this was
the only practical means by which they could satiate their
hearty sexual appetites. It was completely removed from any
connection with a male partner since they felt that no man
could fully satisfy their needs. Many regarded these mastur-
batory practices with little more importance than they
would assign to doing their nails, brushing their teeth or
performing their bathroom duties.”
One frightening pattern seems to have emerged since the
second Kinsey study and report Sexual Behavior in the
Human Female of 1953. In that study virtually all women
who admitted to practicing masturbation reported that they
performed the act by digital or manual excitation of the cli-
toris. now, in less than two decades, well over half of the
women making such admissions in the latest surveys indi-
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the most prevalent among these are the relatively new elec-
tric and battery powered vibrators. This growing trend is
ominous indeed to the highly sexed woman who leans to-
wards nymphomania. As we have indicated elsewhere, the
underlying cause of nymphomania is the inability of the
women to receive a sufficient degree of sexual satisfaction
from her mate. The frequent and extended use of these me-
chanical, electrified, pulsating, quivering penile substitutes
cannot help but broaden and deepen the chasm that exists
between her and her mate in learning to satisfy her sexual
needs by normal love-play and intercourse.
Only the youngest members of the groups interviewed
stated that they resorted to photographs or fantasy associa-
tions as a regular part of their masturbation technique.
While some very young girls, admitted ‘groupies’ studied
pictures of favorite musicians, by and large women do not
seem to experience sexual arousal from various forms of
erotica to anywhere near the degree that men do, and thus
it plays little part in their self-induced sexual satisfaction.
The wondrous fantasy land of the subconscious is an impor-
tant, and often very necessary, means of maintaining a happy
and healthy mental balance between the frustrations and
disappointments of daily life and the Utopian existence each
of us would like to lead.
A certain amount of daydreaming, no matter how way-out
it may be, is good for one, as long as it does not usurp one’s
ability to perform their normal, conscious functions and re-
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drinking. Most adults find the cocktail hour to be a valuable
means of unwinding the overtight springs caused by the ten-
sions of the day. It is the intermission between the working
day and the social evening. The average person finds great
therapy in a few martinis, or even beers, after work. Many
people precede Sunday morning brunch with a tall Bloody
Mary, a luxury they cannot afford during the working week.
Few among us do not enjoy the conviviality of an occasional
cocktail party. All of these experiences are a normal aspect
of the sociological scene of modern life. And yet these same
“plus” factors can prove devastating if they are carried to ex-
tremes. The businessman who spends more time unwinding,
alcoholically, then he does getting cranked-up at the office
soon finds himself in line at the Unemployment office. So
it is with the chronic fantasizer. Every normal human needs
the private ivory tower of fantasy in which to take occasional
retreat from the rigors of life, but that does not mean that
he or she can take up permanent residence therein.
One marvelous feature of the subconscious is that all things
are possible to it. nothing you can possibly conjure-up and
submit to your subconscious will be rejected by it on the
grounds that it is impractical, illogical or too “far-out”. Sine
this is the case and we have already determine! that a certain
amount of daydreaming or fantasizing is a good thing, why
not go all the way. This is no area to be approached on a
chicken-hearted basis. The subconscious is the “Gung-Ho!”
province of the human mind.
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at which you met a very sexual! attractive young woman.
When you return horn you can’t get her out of your mind.
You light a cigarette and stretch out on the couch while you
day dream of how it would be to be making love to hei As
long as this is a fantasy daydream, rather tha: an unconscious
sleeping dream, you are in ful control, so why not go all the
way? Suppose you met her at this party in Brooklyn. Once
your mini has painted her firmly in the foreground, you cai
fill in the background any way you like. Instead of a walk-
up flat in Brooklyn, why not change th locale to the deck of
a fabulous private yacht in the South Seas. now that you’re
there, might a well throw in a full moon, balmy tropical
breezes, the starry pattern of the Southern Cross in the
heavens above and some soft guitar music now give her a
dab of some exotic perfume and you have a full picture,
rather than just a vignette. Make it in full living color, wide-
screen and with stereophonic sound. I have very little pa-
tience with those who grind out class B productions in
fantasy.
Unlike the unconscious of the dream world, the subcon-
scious is highly cooperative and will work hand-in-hand
with the conscious to produce some extremely gratifying re-
sults. The applications of combining daydreams with reality
in order that one strengthens the other are virtually limit-
less.
In his book Human Sexuality, Dr. James leslie McCary,
Professor of Psychology at the University of Houston, states:
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while engaged in a sex act is subconsciously rejecting his sex-
mate and expressing an underlying disappointment or dis-
approval of that mate.”
For my part, I disagree entirely with Dr. McCary’s analysis.
In one of my own books, Marital Variety (Marquis, 1971) I
extol the merits of practicing what I call “The Five Essen-
tials” of Sex. In essence, this refers to the five different means
by which one can bring their partner to orgasm (coitally,
orally, anally, manually or soixante-neuf) and suggest that any
well adjusted permanent sexual liaison would be well advised
to address their alternate attentions to all five of these es-
sential means. We all know that variety is the spice of life
and that boudoir boredom has been the downfall of all too
many marriages and romances.
In his book Sexual Aberrations, Wilhelm nope Stekel, M.D.
repeatedly points out that “man is, by nature, a polygamous
animal”. Other writers from Freud to Havelock Ellis have
commented on the fact that the “one man — one woman”
concept of our moralistic social system is not in keeping
with the balances of nature since in all civilizations and cul-
tures the female population greatly exceeds that of the male.
The wise female will realize that since it is her mate’s native
instinct to crave variety in his sex life, she should attempt to
provide as much as she possibly can. One method is, of
course, to bring him to orgasm by as many different methods
as she can conjure-up. Another is to actually encourage him
to use the powers of his subconscious to fantasize about an-
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derstanding and practice can often save and strengthen a
marriage or sexual liaison.
In Marital Variety, I recount the rather odd practice that one
young couple fell into in the dream and subconscious sex
department. As they described it to me, it all came about
quite accidentally but the results were, in their words, “marvy
and groovy.” One night, on the Late-Show on tv they
watched one of those sexy foreign films starring Brigette
Bardot. As soon as the picture was over they went to bed.
The wife awakened sometime later to hear the husband talk-
ing in his sleep. He kept repeating the name “Brigette” and
mumbling words of love in his sexiest high school French.
She realized that he was dreaming about the star of the sexy
film they had seen. As she reached over to awaken him or
turn him over so he would stop talking in his sleep she dis-
covered that he had achieved a gigantic erection. Since she
was both a dutiful and resourceful wife she determined that
if he wanted to dream about the French sex kitten he might
as well go all the way with it. She stroked his penis for a few
moments while he groaned with pleasure and finally (since
the star of his dream was French!) she bent over and fellated
him to a fantastic orgasm. She laughed to herself as she re-
alized that she had discovered a perfectly safe way of letting
him sow his wild oats. Just now in his dream, he had made
the big scene with la Bardot, but all the while he was safely
home between the sheets with his own wife. In the morning
she asked if he had had pleasant dreams and finally admitted
what she had done. Shortly afterwards they watched a Tony
Curtis movie and he returned the favor. now this fantasy-

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reality combination approach has become a regular part of
their sex routine.
Sex dreams and subconscious fantasies can be a valuable ad-
junct to the sex life of any normal person, provided it is
viewed in exactly that light — adjunct, and not as a substi-
tute for conscious reality. There is surely no element of sexual
perversion, or even aberration, in such practice. Both Sig-
mund Freud and Havelock Ellis have repeatedly stated that
no sexual act of any type can be considered abnormal or per-
verted, until and unless it is practiced to the exclusion of all
other variations. This rule applies equally well to sexual fan-
tasizing as it does to oral or anal specialization.
There are, of course, exceptions to every rule. Obviously the
exception to this one would be prisoners who are physically
precluded from engaging in any other form of sexual activity.
We might also include in this exception category the elderly
whose sex lives are limited to memories and fantasies. In this
connection, I am reminded of the words of a well-known
television actor who, at a recent birthday party, remarked:
“I’m getting so damned old that even my wet dreams are re-
runs!”
The following correspondence has been selected from my
files as being typical of the hundreds of letters we have re-
ceived relating to sex dreams and subconscious sex fantasies.
The first letter came from a distraught mother in Bremerton,
Washington:

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 Dear Dr. Hilton:
This is the most embarrassing letter I have ever
attempted to write. It has taken me nearly a week
to get up my nerve to put it down on paper. I only
hope that I don’t ramble on like a typical neurotic
female. I will try to be as factual and to the point as
I know how.
I am a navy wife. My husband is a Captain
and expects to retire with at least the rank of Rear
Admiral. He will be the fourth generation of his
family to do so. I mention this so that you can see
how terribly important the problem I am writing to
you about is in this career navy family. I am afraid
to even mention it to my husband. We have no pri-
vate family doctor since our medical requirements
have always been taken care of by the navy doctors
on the base. As you will soon see, it would be im-
possible to approach them with this problem. One
of my friends has several of your books and I am
writing to you in hopes that you may give me some
much needed advice.
After much political and military “string-
pulling”, my husband has succeeded in getting our
eighteen year old son, Robert, on the eligible list for
the naval Academy at Annapolis. I am not in the
least concerned over his academic qualifications. It
is the rigid physical examination that strikes terror
into my heart. The whole thing started one night
when Robert and his father went out to a navy
league meeting. I was in the house alone and there
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of thing. On the coffee table I found the book on
admissions to the naval Academy. I knew how im-
portant it was to Robert and his father and I felt
that it would be nice if I could discuss it intelligently
with them, so I began leafing through it. Under the
section on physical prerequisites it stated in no un-
certain terms that any evidence of masturbation
would be cause for rejection from the navy.
You see, doctor, the problem is that ever since
Robert was twelve years old I have found daily de-
posits of starchy semen on his sheets and bedclothes.
In the beginning I thought of speaking to his father
about this but the father-son relationship was so
beautiful that I was afraid of destroying it. I then
tried to speak , Robert but somehow could never
bring myself to do so. For over a year I cried in the
privacy of my lonely hours, knowing that my son
had fallen into the sin of masturbation, but not
knowing how ‘to fight back against this insidious
monster that was consuming my only male baby.
now, I blame myself for not having made the effort
to extinguish this roaring inferno while it was still a
brush fire. I realized, with a shudder, that by now the
scars of years of excessive masturbation were now so
distinct that surely the navy doctors would spot
them instantly and reject him as a candidate to the
Academy. Such an incident would practically break
his father’s heart and I could not bear to think of
what might happen to this happy family scene as a
result.
Please tell me, is there anything that I can do,

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 or recommend to my son that will either eliminate
or disguise the obvious signs of years of self abuse.
Under the circumstances I am sure that you will ap-
preciate that my concern in this matter is at a critical
level.
Is there any drug, medication or treatment that
will make it impossible, or at least more difficult, for
the admitting doctors to learn of my son’s weakness
in this area. Apart from this one human frailty, I am
certain that Robert would make an excellent mid-
shipman and cadet and prove to be a credit to his
family and the service. Please believe that any help
or advice you may be able to give will win a worried
mother’s everlasting gratitude.
Hopefully yours,
Mrs. R.T.l.
Despite the underling pathos in Mrs. l’s letter, I realized
that the problem was not unique to her family. I had en-
countered similar cases several times before. I also under-
stood that this fact was of little interest or comfort to her in
her present state of mental anguish. In a sincere desire to set
her mind at rest I hastened to get the following reply off to
her via Air Mail, Special Delivery.
My Dear Madam:
I hasten to reply to your most sincere request
for advice. I trust that you will not consider my at-
titude to be either unfeeling or facetious if I preface
the requested advice with a few keynote remarks.
First, I honestly feel that, in your present mentally
distraught state, you are much too close to the forest

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to see the trees. In any emotional crisis such as you
are facing it is imperative to establish a proper per-
spective in order to evaluate the problem and its po-
tential solutions. Secondly, I would recall, for your
consideration, an old line from early English litera-
ture: “lady Alice devoted five years to licking her
wounds—most of which were self-inflicted.”
If I interpret your story correctly, you have ob-
served traces of seminal discharge on your son,
Robert’s bedclothing over the period of the past six
years. Taking these observations as prima-facia evi-
dence you have concluded that your son is a chronic
masturbator. now you write to me in desperation,
seeking means by which to obliterate or disguise any
physical signs of his anti-social self abuse. As a psy-
chologist, I find it difficult to understand your rea-
soning in preferring to discuss this problem with
me, a total stranger, than with your own flesh and
blood son whom you have nurtured and sheltered
for the past eighteen years. If it sounds like I am lec-
turing to you it is only because I intend to do just
that.
Quite aside from these considerations, I must
go along with the fact that you have written me for
my professional opinion and advice and you are en-
titled to receive just that. I would, however, suggest
that in any possible future personal problems of this
sort, a closer line of communication within the fam-
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sional counsel from the outside.
Although it is highly unlikely, it is none-the-
less, entirely possible that your son Robert may
never have engaged in masturbation. While most
boys do practice this vice, they treat it as a highly
overt act. Surely they do not purposely leave evi-
dence, in the form of seminal discharge, on the
sheets and blankets of their bed to be discovered by
their parents. Those who do, habitually, masturbate
in bed generally ejaculate into a Kleenex, or other
disposable receptacle so that- they can dispose of
the evidence of what they regard as an immoral or
sinful act. The mere fact that you found frequent
traces of Robert’s semen on his bedclothing would
tend to indicate that he did not engage in mastur-
bation. More likely he was caught up in the uncon-
scious phenomenon of midnight emissions, or
so-called “wet dreams”. Because he was in the un-
conscious state of sleep when these erotic sensations
came upon him he was incapable of capturing the
ejaculation in disposable tissue and dispensing with
the evidence, as is the classic pattern with virtually
all young male masturbators. The entire procedure
was completely outside of the realm of his self-con-
trol.
Quite apart from any moralistic considerations
(and in this case there surely should be none), you
will be happy to learn that such normal and natural
bodily functions leave no physical scars or traces
such as you seem to fear may be discerned by the
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 I am quite familiar with the section of the en-
trance requirements for the naval Academy which
you mention. I have also been informed by navy
brass that the allowance lists for many modern ships
still require 100 gallons of whale oil to be aboard for
illuminating lamps. By bureaucratic neglect this
item has never been deleted since the days of the
wooden fighting ships of a century ago. In my opin-
ion the navy’s rejection of potential midshipmen for
the Academy on the basis of masturbation is equally
.antiquated. In his first report Sexual Behavior in the
Human Male, nearly a quarter of a century ago, Dr.
Alfred C. Kinsey reported that over 91% of young
American males interviewed admitted to practicing
masturbation. Based upon this, one cannot help but
feel that the august academy of blue and gold at An-
napolis must be hard-pressed indeed to fill its ranks
if it goes “strictly by the rule book”.
Please believe, dear lady, that I appreciate both
your letter and your concern. Based upon the evi-
dence, as you have submitted it, I do not believe that
Robert is guilty of the social crime of which you
have suspected him. neither do I feel that you have
any legitimate basis for worry over his ability to pass
the physical examination for admission to the Acad-
emy. I have no doubt that he will perpetuate a proud
name and reputation within the annals of the
United States navy.
Very truly yours,
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph. D.

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Young Robert, no doubt, had a highly active unconscious
mind and engaged in frequent dream fantasies of sexual love.
Most of his contemporaries that I have ever met would envy,
rather than condemn him, for this capacity.
Our next letter, on a much lighter plane, came from a young,
unmarried man in Oklahoma City:
Dear Doc:
For some reason that I can’t understand, and
don’t seem able to control, I am just one of those
guys that is a natural “strike-out” where girls are
concerned. Believe
me, it’s not from lack of trying on my part. I
dress as well as I can afford. I think my manners are
socially acceptable. I try to be personable and inter-
esting but somehow, dames just don’t “dig” me. Per-
haps, like they say in the psychology books, I’m
trying too hard. Anyhow, whatever it is, I always
wind up alone when all the other guys corral a chick
to take out to lovers’ lane. I guess I’ve developed a
kind of a complex over it, but that’s not what I’m
writing to you about.
Here’s my problem. I came home from a social
gathering, alone and sexually frustrated. I want a
dame so bad I can taste it. About all I can hope for
is that maybe one will come to me in my dreams —
it happens sometimes — so I try to push my luck.
next to my bed I’ve got all these special magazines
that I call my “dream books”. You know the type I
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 and sex books. Once I’m in bed, all alone, I keep
staring at them trying to convince my stupid brain
that this is what I want to dream about. I stick with
it until I can hardly keep my eyes open another
minute. Then I turn off the light and fall asleep. Fi-
nally, in a state of exhausted frustration, I fall asleep
and then, at last I start to dream^about InDIAnS!
It’s driving me nuts, doc. What do you suggest
I do?
Sincerely yours,
Joe G. Maguire

The question wasn’t so much whether or not Joe had a prob-

lem, but rather whether or not I had an answer for him. For
several days I kept shoving his letter back to the bottom of
the heap, hoping that something might occur to me that
would help him. When I felt that I could delay a reply no
longer, I sent him the following answer:
Dear Joe:
Your problem is an interesting one indeed but
I must admit that I have difficulty in following your
established patterns of mental relationships. It has
finally dawned on me that perhaps the answer is so
obvious that it eludes the trained mind. I recall that
several months ago I would leave the house each
morning and cross the lawn to my car. Every day the
lawn was strewn with feathers. My seven year old
son always walked to the car with me. One day I
again noticed the feathers and asked him:
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 coming from?”
With the practically of a child, he looked me
squarely in the eye and replied:
“Birds.”
Perhaps in this same childish logic may lie the
answer to your problem. On that simple theory I
would suggest that you discard your present erotic
bedside library and replace it with picture books on
Indians. We can only hope that your odd association
pattern is a two-way street!
Sincerely,
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph. D.

I never got a report back from Joe. Perhaps my idea worked

or, more likely, he figured that I was just as nutty as he was,
and not worth the postage.
Another letter that was typical of many came from a young
man in San Diego, California. It is interesting because it oc-
curs in more cases than the layman can possibly imagine:
Dear Dr. Hilton:
I am writing to you out of sheer desperation. I
am afraid that I am either going queer or crazy, and
I’m not at all sure which might be worse. I am
twenty-two years old and have always considered
myself to be as normal as blueberry pie (as they say
in the lyrics to the song) but lately I have been hav-
ing these crazy dreams and they have made me
begin to wonder about myself.
I don’t want to sound like some sort of a con-

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ceited ass, but I have always been a rather big, hand-
some guy, very active in athletics and more than suc-
cessful in competitive sports. In other words, what I
am trying to say is that ever since I was just a young-
ster, I spent a lot of time in locker rooms and show-
ers with other guys who were running around
naked. I never gave it a second thought. Why should
I? Then, in high school, because I was well devel-
oped, I got onto the wrestling team. As far as I was
concerned it was just another sporting event but we
had this coach who kept looking at all the guys on
the team kinda’ funny like. He used to give us long
lectures on the fact that all sorts of strange things
could happen to men engaged in bodily contact
sports. I remember one time, in his office, he gave
me a long, funny look and told me that if I ever felt
that I was getting an erection as a result of the close
body contact with one of the other guys with whom
I wrestled, I should come to him immediately and
report the fact. I thought that he was nuts. Why the
hell would a guy get a hard-on by wrestling with an-
other guy? With a broad, yes, but surely not with
another guy. So, I shrugged my shoulders and forgot
all about it—or at least I thought I had.
In my senior year our team won the state
championship. We really had a great bunch of guys.
It was all very exciting. We had lots of pictures taken
of us and they appeared in newspapers all over the
state. The local paper sent each of us on the team a
set of big glossy prints and we were very proud of
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 now I’m in college. I’m working my way
through and money is pretty tight, so another fellow
from campus and I are sharing this crummy little
pad over a garage because it’s cheaper than living on
campus in one of the dorms. My roommate, Al, had
all these pictures of girls and he stapled them up on
the wall on his side of our tiny domicile. While I
had gone out with a few girls, none of them ever
gave me their pictures, so my side of the room
looked pretty bare. Since I had nothing else to dis-
play I stapled up those glossy prints of my buddies
and me on the old wrestling team.
I had been dating this girl — Cynthia was her
name — she was quite a dish. I was pretty sure that
I could make the bid with her but then, I didn’t have
a car, or money enough for a motel room and the
park was to crowded to score on a bench, so I just
had to cool it. Suddenly Al gets a telegram that his
dad is real sick and he takes off for home. now I
have our little pad all to myself. So, the next date I
have with Cynthia, I bring her up to our little pent-
house over the garage and I figure that this is going
to be the night.
I had bought a bottle of wine and even a cou-
ple of candles which I hoped would make the little
dump look romantic. Once we climb up to my poor
man’s “executive suite” she starts snooping around.
She sees all the pictures of Al’s girls on his wall and
then the photos of the old wrestling team on my
wall. A sudden subtle change came over her but I
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 Up until tonight Cynthia had always acted like
she was pretty hot to trot—like all we needed was
the place and the opportunity. Well, here we were
with both and now she starts to clam up on me. I
didn’t get it. I lit the candles and poured us a glass
of wine. I snuggled close to her but no response. For
a little while she wouldn’t talk at all. When she did
she kept referring to all those pictures of Al’s girl
friends and all too casually inquired why I had the
pictures of my private stable of “muscle men” on my
wall. Somehow I couldn’t bring myself to admit to
her that she was the first real girl friend I’d ever had
and that those guys on the team were really my only
friends. I thought it would sound like I was asking
for sympathy, or something. I kissed her and cupped
her breast in my hand, but somehow it wasn’t like
before. After a while I got her sweater and bra off
and had her skirt hiked up to her waist. I was as hot
as a two-dollar pistol but she seemed uninterested
in returning my ardor. I wanted her now like I had
never wanted her before. It seemed to take forever
to get her panties worked down over her ankles. I
was sure that she had no idea that this was my first
time to really be with a woman. At my age, I was a
little embarrassed by the fact, so I tried to act like I
thought a real man-of-the-world would act. I rolled
over on top of her and was just at the point of mak-
ing initial penetration when she asked me: “Have
you always been homosexual?” The effect was like
having my burning hot rod of manhood suddenly
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and I could not find words to reply. More important
I completely lost my erection.
She didn’t say anything then. She just pulled
her panties back on, found and hooked on her bra
and struggled into her sweater. Before I knew what
hit me she was fully dressed and running down the
steps. I heard the door slam and I was suddenly
alone with the candles and the wine. I had finally
gotten my big chance and blown it.
To say I was disappointed and frustrated
would be a masterful bit of understatement. The
shock of her accusation kept coming back over me
in waves. I killed the wine, blew out the candles, and
finally fell into a fitful sleep alone and abandoned.
That was when the worst of it came.
In my dream I remembered that high school
coach and his warning about body-contact. I tried
to dream of Cynthia but instead it was one of the
other male wrestlers in my arms and I was trying to
make love to him—trying to have sex with him! I
don’t know how long the crazy dream continued. It
had no orgasmic climax, or anything of that sort.
When I awakened I was in a cold sweat. I got up
and stood in the cold shower for fully fifteen min-
utes. Then I got dressed and started to walk.
Was I, indeed, a homosexual, as Cynthia had
suspected? If I was not then why the sex dream with
another man? I was dead tired but afraid to even try
sleep again for fear that the frightful dream might
recur. How does a guy know about these things. I
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 Maybe Cynthia was right. After all, she must
be more knowledgeable of these things than I am.
Supposing she was right. I began to worry about
what might happen when Al came back and we
shared that tiny pad together. I walked all night. In
the morning I went back and packed my few pos-
sessions, without the wrestling team pictures, and
found a new room behind a local delicatessen that
wanted a roomer to double as a night watchman.
Please tell me, doctor. Do you think that this
is an indication that I am basically homosexual,
without knowing it?
Desperately,
James D.

Although James’ problem must have seemed like the end of

the world to him, it is by no means rare or even unique. Al-
most all normal people have, at one time or another, faced
up to a similar question. Fortunately, most of them have, by
then, had sufficient heterosexual experience that they could
simply shrug it off. Since he was totally lacking in any type
of sexual experience, James was not equipped, emotionally,
to handle this accusation against his manhood.
Here was my reply to him:
Dear Jim:
nothing in your letter gives any basis for
thinking that you are a homosexual or in any immi-
nent danger of becoming one. In my opinion, from
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merely became entangled in a strange chain of
events, each link of which was quite normal in it-
self.
Taking first things first, let’s dispose of the lit-
tle talk on the part of your P.E. instructor or
wrestling coach. Such an announcement regarding
any bodily contact sports in pre-college level edu-
cational institutions, and even clubs like the
Y.M.C.A. is required by law in many states. It is
somewhat like the police having to read a suspect
his “rights” when making an arrest. looking back
on it later, in the light of future coincidental hap-
penings, you read into it a personal connotation
which was never there, so dismiss this from your
mind.
It is unfortunate that you had no girl friends
nor sex affairs during your high school years. If you
had have had these normal experience in love and
sex at this phase of life, what followed in your case
would not have happened. When Al displayed the
pictures of his girls on his wall, you would simply
have matched it with pictures of your girls on your
wall and Cynthia would have considered this nor-
mal. Since you had none, you chose to display the
wrestling team pictures, not because you were en-
thralled by their manly physiques but rather because
you were proud of your prowess at the sport and the
championship that your team had won. I would ven-
ture to guess that Cynthia was taking Psych. I, like
all students at that level, attempted to play Freud
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might have deduced if your wall had have contained
pictures of dogs or birds! I remember an old profes-
sor who used to liken students at that level of edu-
cation to blotters that soaked up everything they
saw and invariably got everything backwards.
The loss of your erection at the crucial moment
is another normal and reasonably common experi-
ence. You were nervous and possibly a little worried
since it was your first time at bat in the big sex game.
When she questioned your manhood at this very
point, your ego was crushed, your false front of
pseudo confidence collapsed and you crawled back
into your shell (to use a pictorially applicable simi-
lie). Cynthia, the amateur analyst took this as the
final proof of her false analysis and, with this in
mind, dressed and left. It is regrettable that you did
not, at that point, use one of your wrestling grips on
her, pin her shoulders to the pad and proceed to give
her a convincing demonstration of your manhood.
There are times in life Jim, when a little physical
pressure can outdo a hell of a lot of psychological
approach.
now, as to your dream. This is the part that re-
ally disturbed you. I feel that you placed entirely too
much importance upon it, just as Cynthia did with
the wrestling pictures. Freud preached that the seeds
of homosexuality lie dormant in every normal male
and female. In a few they are cultivated but they are
implanted in all. Havelock Ellis expanded on this
“latent homosexuality”, as he called it, and explained
that curiosity and even some experimentation on the

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subject is neither perverted nor abnormal, unless or
until it precludes the primary concern with hetero-
sexual activity. Kinsey’s 1948 survey reported that
about one half of the males under 25 interviewed
admitted to at least one homosexual experience.
This, mind you, was before the advent of the now
famous “Sexual Revolution”. The figures in a similar
survey today would probably run considerably
higher.
Almost everyone has experienced homosexual
dreams. Yours was no doubt triggered by Cynthia’s
accusation which hit your Ego so hard that the force
of the impact was felt by your subconscious and un-
conscious. While your conscious could not conceive
of such a possibility, all things are possible to the il-
logical unconscious and so, as you slept, it toyed with
the idea, producing your dream. Such dreams are
usually based upon either wish fulfillment or re-
pressed fears. This fell into the second category.
My advice to you is to have sexual relations
with a woman—any woman—at the earliest possi-
ble moment. If it will expedite matters, patronize a
few prostitutes while you are in the process of se-
ducing a few promising look ing co-eds.
Once you have armed yourself with the Ego protec-
tion of satisfactory sexual experiences, you will laugh
at this little episode of Cynthia and her idiotic
analysis.
Happy hunting!
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph. D.

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 CHAPTER FIVE
DRUGS AND FANTASIES
IN SEX

Almost since the beginning of civilization, man has been in-

terested in methods of controlling sexual appetite; most
often he seems to be seeking ways to increase sexual desire
(aphrodisiacs), but there are also times when he wishes to
diminish the desire (anaphrodisiacs). For countless centuries
he has sought to achieve these ends through a seemingly
endless variety of foods, drugs, mechanical devices and phys-
ical activities.
While our main area of interest in this chapter is the study
of the effect of drugs on the fantasies of sex, the author has
felt that mention of certain foods to which sexual properties
have been attributed is in order. While most of us tend to
think of drugs as coming in liquid or powder form, we also
recognize that they are basically chemical in nature. These
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of many drugs. The drug is merely the highly refined end
product of the food. On this basis we shall, for the purposes
of our present study, include such foods in the same category
as drugs in classifying the two as either aphrodisiacs or
anaphrodisiacs.

APHRODISIACS:
Certain foods have long been thought to have sexually stim-
ulating properties. Ideas concerning the erotic value of var-
ious foods seem to spring from two sources. First, the rarity
or newness of the food (such as the potato when it was first
brought to England) has given hope to some that at last a
great sexual stimulant has been discovered. Second, “the
doctrine of signatures” is applied wherein it is assumed that
sexual strength can be gained by eating foods that have ex-
ternal characteristics resembling a sex organ—for instance,
bananas and oysters, with their superficial resemblance re-
spectively, to the penis and testicles.
Dr. D. Macdougald, Jr., in his Aphrodisiacs and Anaphrodi-
asiacs, which appears in Volume One of The Encyclopedia of
Sexual Behavior, edited by Dr. Albert Ellis and Dr. A. Aber-
banel, makes this observation:
“Oysters have long been adjudged to contain certain sexually
arousing properties, but a chemical analysis shows no single
ingredient which could have any such an arousal effect. It
should be fairly obvious that there is no relationship be-
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though if a man has strong enough faith in his convictions
that added sexual prowess can be gained by eating a certain
food, the psychological effect may be sufficient to provide
some increase in sexual ability, at least temporarily.”
What Dr. Macdougald is saying here is that certain foods
and drugs that are widely believed to have some magical
aphrodisiac qualities often bolster and strengthen the power
of the individual’s belief in them. This engenders a sort of
“self-hypnosis” under the influence of which he believes
himself to be more virile and therefore he performs as
though he were. Thus the myth is perpetuated.
The most famous of the alleged sexual stimulants is alcohol.
It is widely presumed that alcoholic consumption propels
the sexual drive to new heights. In this connection one re-
calls the classic remark of writer Dorothy Parker which ap-
peared years ago in the New Yorker magazine:
“Candy’s dandy but liquor’s quicker.”
The truth is that when it is taken in considerable quantity,
alcohol is a depressant; it narcotizes the brain, thus retarding
its reflexes, and dilates the blood vessels, thus interfering
with the capacity for erection. Physically, alcohol decreases
sexual abilities. On the other hand, while it decreases certain
physical powers, alcohol also tends to remove, at least tem-
porarily, feelings of guilt and fear from the minds of some
people, making them less inhibited than they normally
would be.
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terbalances loss in physical ability, and there can, therefore
be an actual increase in sexual
functioning despite depressed physical reactions. It can gen-
erally be accepted, however, that if a person’s sexual drive
and ability increase after the use of alcohol, he or she has
some serious emotional blocks in the area of sex. It would
follow that if he could rid himself of his emotional conflicts
in this area, without resorting to alcohol, his sexual ability
would be even greater than ever before.
In his book Lushes are Lousy Lovers, author Edward S. Sul-
livan comments on the sexual patterns established by female
alcoholics:
“Because it is basically a depressant, alcohol has the ten-
dency to weaken one’s power to resist. Many women actually
crave sex but because of social concepts of morality or a de-
sire to remain faithful to her absent mate or lover, build up
a mental protective barrier. When they become emotionally
relaxed and mentally less alert under the depressant effects
of alcohol they lose the mental strength to constantly mend
these moral fences against attack. Once their defenses are
down, the erotic physical wants and needs of their bodies,
long imprisoned behind the moral walls of the mind, escape
and run rampant. Thus, many a restrained mouse turns into
a lust seeking lioness.”
Mr. Sullivan expresses the modus operandi of the drinking
woman in eloquent terms. Many women need the relaxation
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Sex is more a function of the mind than of the body.
them from freely engaging in sexual permissiveness, if not
promiscuity. There is, however, still another point. Most
women, when they have indulged in excess of what might
be called a “genteel sufficiency” tend to become quite drowsy.
When a man takes them home, to a motel, or even out in
his car, they are often in a near semi-somnambulant state in
which their physical capacity to resist an aggressive male has
disintegrated along with their mental defenses. Women in
this state make poor sexual partners and the conquest is of
little more than moral victory importance to the man. Usu-
ally, in this condition they have also lost their capacity to re-
spond physically so that intercourse with a woman under
these circumstances degenerates to an act of secondary mas-
turbation. Perhaps this is the basis of Mr. Sullivan’s title
Lushes are Lousy Lovers.
Dr. Jules Griffon, in his book Sex and Alcohol cites a classic
example of the sex pursuits of the alcoholic male:
“Many men possess strong sexual inhibitions. These may be
in the form of guilt or shame complexes (as in the case of
married men seeking extramarital sexual liaisons), underly-
ing feelings of sexual inadequacy, fears of impending impo-
tence or the driving need of the sexually insecure male to
constantly prove his virility to himself and others. Freud re-
lated this last instance to a neurotic fantasy based upon a
constant fear of threatened castration. Under the influence
of alcohol these inhibitions are overcome and the male sex
Ego takes full advantage of the opportunity to assert itself.
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one, but many women as he pictures himself a great stud.
Under the influence of his alcohol induced sexual self-con-
fidence he may propose troilistic relationships with two fe-
male roommates or friends. His totally assumptive attitude
frequently engenders a receptive response, which he cele-
brates with a few more drinks. By the time he gets to the
scene of assignation with his two conquests he finds himself
unable to erect or to produce satisfactory results with one,
let alone two women. Such experiences not only perpetuate
but compound his frustrations until he reaches a point of
desperation beyond which he uses alcohol as a substitute for
sex.”
Dr. Griffon’s analogy is not as far-fetched as it may appear
to some. While he has given an extreme example this pat-
tern of alcoholic sex life is borne out repeatedly in the pri-
vately reported Sexual Survey of Alcoholics Anonymous. In
this report sexual frustrations was given as one of the pri-
mary causes of excessive alcoholism.
In this connection alcohol occupies the unenviable position
of being at one and the same time both an aphrodisiac and
an anaphrodisiac in that while it increases the sexual appetite
it decreases the capacity of the drinker to satiate that ap-
petite. While the alcoholic problem has grown to alarming
proportions in recent years it is far from a new social phe-
nomenon. Over a hundred years ago, British author Charles
Dickens made the following observation in his classic book
Oliver Twist:
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Sensate focus is a technique used to induce fantasy.
the Creator balanced the wantons of one sex with the
drunkards of the other.”
The most popularly known drug used to reinforce sexual
drive is cantharides (“Spanish Fly”), derived from Cantharis
vesicatoria, a beautiful iridescent beetle found in southern
Europe. The insects are dried and heated until they disinte-
grate into a fine powder, which is then taken internally, cas-
ing acute irritation of the genitourinary tract. Specifically
the mucous membrane of the urethra. Accompanying this
inflammation is a dilation of associated blood vessels, all of
which produce a certain stimulation of the genitals. The drug
can thus indeed produce penile erection, but usually without
an increase in physical sexual desire. In this connection it is
an ideal adjunct to the subconscious in fantasized sexual
performances since it assists the penis in keeping up with
the fantasies of the mind while engaging in coitus or other
sex acts.
In his book Spanish Fly — Facts and Myths, Dr. John D.
MacPherson gives the following insight into this much mis-
understood drug:
“While the medical profession generally regards cantharides
as an unstable and ineffectual sexual stimulant and seldom
uses it in modern practice, one cannot ignore the fact that,
at least physically, this much maligned drug does have the
power to achieve its well known goal. The penile erections
affected by “Spanish Fly” can be extremely strong. A side-
effect of the drug is that it has a tendency to deaden the nor-
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and maintains an abnormally firm erection, it is as though
the penis had also been injected with novocaine. This means
that coitus can be carried on for substantially longer than
normal before ejaculation occurs. From the female’s point
of view this is, of course, highly desirable and the use of the
drug is therefore of especial value in cases where the male
tends toward premature ejaculation. It is, in effect, a narcot-
ically induced form of coitus regulatus. During the actual sex
act the male usually engages in fantasies of sex in order to
increase his mental stimulation while his physical sensitivi-
ties have been dulled.”
I must warn the reader at this point that while cantharides
is indeed a physically effective aphrodisiac, it is a dangerous
drug. Taken in excessive dosages it can cause violent illness
or even death.
Dr. Raymond S. Stites in his book Sex in History provides
the following interesting sidelight:
“One notices the position of importance given to the scarab,
or beetle, in the artifacts of the Egyptian dynasties. For
many centuries the significance of this was not understood.
It was not until the late nineteenth Century that ar-
chaeologists unearthed papyrus scrolls and other historically
important guideposts for the Egyptologists to fill in some
of the missing links. The Egyptians were a highly sexed civ-
ilization. In order to pursue their interests to the ultimate
degree they were constantly in search of various forms of
aphrodisiacs. The two drugs which were most widely and
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bilities were “The Sacred Mushroom” (peyote) and the pow-
der of pulverized beetles which was similarly ingested. This
discovery led to the renaissance in what was later to be
known as “Spanish Fly”. As indicated by their art, the Egyp-
tians were anally oriented in much of their sexual activities.
Some scholars believe this was largely for purposes of pop-
ulation control while others feel that sex was symbol of
power. In the earlier Egyptian Dynasties, circa 1600-1400
B.C., the female was the dominant sex. As the male asserted
his domination over the female he attempted to subjugate
her in every possible way. Analistic intercourse became pop-
ular through its original use to “put-down” the female. One
extremely interesting bit of papyrus dating from the 20th
Dynasty (about 1200-1100 B.C.) is preserved in Turin. It
shows twelve drawings which detail the sexual tastes and ac-
tivities of Rameses III. These pictures show the aging
Pharaoh in various sexual positions, and the obvious point
is that his anal interest is far stronger than any other. In these
drawings his woman awaits him on all fours, clearly present-
ing her anus for penetration in an attitude that is distinctly
animalistic. In others she sits on him, obviously allowing
him anal intromission; she bends over a chariot, her buttocks
fully exposed to the Pharaoh, while he in turn usually dis-
plays a penis of heroic proportions.”
Combining the findings of Drs. Stites and MacPherson one
may deduce that the penis of heroic proportions was main-
tained in that condition by the use of “Spanish Fly” and that
while the Pharaoh’s physical appreciation of anal coitus may
have been dulled by the drug he was rewarded by the grat-

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ification of his fantasies of power that his sexual prowess and
form of displaying it afforded him. Historically, one is led
to comment that since this was the primary sexual interest
of the Egyptians the act today should be known as “The
Egyptian Way” rather than “The Greek Way.”
Another drug to which aphrodisiac qualities are attributed
is yohimbine, which is taken from the yohimbe tree, native
to Africa, and which the natives have long used to increase
their sexual powers. native lore has it that the men of the
tribes observed male lions grazing on the leaves of the
yohimbe trees and noted their amazing capacities for sex.
The effect of this drug is to augment the excitability of the
lower areas of the spine where erection and ejaculation cen-
ters are located. At the same time it effects the central nerv-
ous system and triggers wild mental fantasies of sex while
giving the body the physical powers to keep pace with these
orgies of the mind. Missionaries and other explorers have
reported observing native sex rites which included the use
of yohimbine in which the males performed an unending
succession of sex acts with many females often for periods
of up to three or four hours.
Any present-day use of yohimbine should be under the di-
rection of a physician, and even then there is still some areas
of doubt about its real effectiveness. Effective or not, yohim-
bine is generally conceded to be the most widely used drug
for increasing sexual drive, durability and the production of
wildly uninhibited sex fantasies.
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and the production of sex fantasies in the United States
today is marijuana. This tobacco-like leaf which was once
known as “loco-weed” because it seemed to make the cattle
go crazy after grazing on it, much as the effect of catnip on
a cat, is also the most controversial of the drugs at this point
in time. Once regarded as a dangerous narcotic which led
its users inevitably into a habit of the “hard stuff ”, it has pro-
gressed to a point of near social and legal acceptability. The
consensus of opinion today is that it is probably no more
dangerous than tobacco or alcohol, either of which can also
be lethal in over-usage. As of this writing the California leg-
islature is considering the legalization of marijuana within
this state. Under the progressive thinking of State’s Attorney
General Evelle J. Younger, arrests and prosecutions for mar-
ijuana use and possession have been tremendously liberal-
ized.
The recent report of Chairman Raymond P. Shafer of the
national Commission on Marijuana and Drug Abuse, en-
titled Marijuana — A Signal of Misunderstanding, has done
much to soften the public’s attitude on the imminent ac-
ceptance and legalization of its free and open usage.
In her book The Sexual Power of Marijuana, author Barbara
lewis gives one of the most comprehensive reports ever
published on the subject of marijuana and sexuality.
A review of Miss. lewis’ book tempts one to establish a new
connotation on the old expression “the greatest thing since
grass”. In summation of her reports, marijuana seems to have
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tensions and sexual frustrations. Unlike alcohol it does not
physically effect the user’s sexual abilities or capacities. Cou-
pled with this it has a certain hallucinatory quality which
many users report vastly increases their sensitivities to the
five normal senses and their appreciations of these senses.
Many state that, in addition to this they seem to develop a
sort of sixth sense which increases their comprehension un-
leashing previously unrealized and unrecognized sensuality.
One medical characteristic of marijuana that has been long
recognized is its time-prolongation effect upon the mind.
This effect varies with the individual user but an apparent
stretch-out of the time factor of from three to ten fold is not
uncommon. Thus a sex act such as coitus that may last three
to five minutes can seem to last between thirty minutes and
an hour, even while physical and sensual sensitivities are
heightened. For the male this means a longer period for en-
joyment of the act before it is forced to end when he ejacu-
lates his semen. For the female it means time to bring herself
to multiple experiences of orgasmic relief rather than worry
as to whether she can achieve one orgasm before her mate
climaxes.
The aphrodisiac qualities of marijuana are difficult to assess.
In chemical analysis they do not appear present. The drug
unquestionably does possess what might be called elements
of mental aphrodisiacs. One of these is the increased sensi-
tivities. The slightest touch of the partner upon the genitalia
is thrilling beyond words and has infinitely greater arousal
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The fantasies of the mind add still more to the ultimate en-
joyment of the sex acts. The male may readily mentally con-
vert his plain Jane partner into the movie star or dream
woman of his choice. With the release of mental inhibitions
the subconscious seems to be effected equally with the con-
scious and is released to pursue the wildest possible flights
of fantasy.
Unlike many of the stronger drugs marijuana appears to be
no more habit forming than tobacco or alcohol. Its halluci-
natory fantasies seem to be almost invariably of a positive
and pleasant nature. Reports of “bad trips” are rare indeed
and these are generally attributed to the underlying state of
mind of the user at the time he smoked it. Severe chemical
or blood unbalance reactions are virtually non-existant, nar-
cotic type hang-overs, when they do occur, are comparatively
mild. When the drug is not available withdrawal pains are
no worse than from cigarettes or alcohol.
Or all of the various sex-aids drugs, marijuana appears to
have more credits in the plus column and less in the minus
than any currently known. First, it is relatively inexpensive
and easy to come by. Second, it is less dangerous in use, both
physically and mentally, then any other similar drug. Third,
its effects are more directly and pleasantly related to the
fullest enjoyment of the sex act than are any of the others.
Here you can discard your fears, frustrations and inhibitions
without discarding your ability to perform along with them.
You are physically more sensitive and responsive along with
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this the time expansion factor and it would appear that this
gift from the cattle country seems to have everything going
for it in the sex appreciation department.
There are persistent rumors that several major tobacco com-
panies have been pursuing “top secret” projects to prepare
for the mass production, processing and distribution of mar-
ijuana once it has been legalized. The trend is similar to
those of the major beer barons and illicit distillers shortly
before the repeal of Prohibition some forty years ago.
Marijuana is also commonly known as “grass” and “pot”. It
grows on a small bush from which the tiny, oval-shaped,
sawtooth-edged leaves are picked and dried in the sun. The
dried leaves are crushed into the consistency of cigarette to-
bacco and sold in small cloth pouches along with cigarette
papers. Most users roll their own in the true old cowboy tra-
dition producing a sloppy looking cigarette known as a
“joint” or a “stick”. Others use the little rubber belted and
roller cigarette machines which are available with various
brands of “roll your own” cigarette tobaccos. They carry the
neater looking finished products in a cigarette case, while
others prefer just to carry the “makins’”.
In the interest of complete reportage we will include at least
a brief mention of some of the heavier drugs which can and
do sometimes produce sex fantasies.
lSD is the commonly used term for a powerful hallucino-
genic drug, lysergic Acid Diethylamide, which gives birth
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these will produce vivid hallucinations and distortions of the
mind resulting in fantasies of the wildest type. The fantasy
experience under the influence of the drug is commonly re-
ferred to as “a trip”. In this there are “good trips” and “bad
trips”. The use of this drug for the creation of sex fantasies
is extremely dangerous. The hallucinations are often extreme
in nature and sometimes acts of unintentional sexual cruelty
occur.
Similar drugs to lSD, slightly less powerful but potentially
just as dangerous, include mescaline, which is derived from
the buttons of the cactus plant; psilocybin, a mushroom poi-
son, peyote a Mexican Indian mushroom concoction
thought to be based upon the “Sacred Mushroom” of the
Egyptians, bufotenine; DMT (dimethyltry ptamine). Their
names are listed herein only to serve as a warning to the un-
wary.
Hard drugs, usually injectable, such as heroin, commonly
known as “horse” and produce fantastic fantasies but rarely
do these relate to sex since these drugs, while they stimulate
the mind, depress the sex drive. Heroin is dangerously habit
forming and once the habit is established the user needs an
ever increasing supply in order to achieve the desired level
of effect. This leads many to place a sexual connotation on
heroin which is unwarranted. Many females who get
“hooked” are soon hard-pressed to come up with sufficient
money to support their habit. Often they engage in prosti-
tution, not because of a desire for sex but merely as a means
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scrupulous males will purposely get a girl “hooked” in order
to either make a sex-slave out of her or to force her into
prostitution, from which they will reap profit. Males who
become addicted often turn to crime to keep abreast of their
body’s ever increasing demand for the narcotic. A full-
fledged habit of an addict of heroin can cost hundreds of
dollars a day. Heroin, the users of which are often called
“mainliners” since they inject the stuff directly into a main
artery, do not heighten the sex drive but rather kill it. The
fantasies produced are of weird and often frightening sub-
jects, but sex is not among them. In time the drug becomes
a substitute for sex, which they can no longer enjoy. One
young female describing her reactions to an injection said:
“When I get that needle in the main line suddenly the shot
slams into me like an orgasm.”
Hashish, Opium and other opium derivatives are generally
smoked. Many great men of literature and the arts are ru-
mored to have used these drugs because of the fantasies
which they created in their brains. Many of these fantasies
are concerned with sex and often addicts report the most
fantastic sexual exploits while under the influence of the
drug. A recent series of carefully clinically controlled exper-
iments by a major West Coast medical center kept the drug
users under constant surveillance during their opium
dreams. Members of both sexes were placed together into
small rooms and given a supply of the narcotic. When they
came out from under its influence, each was interviewed
separately. Many described the most exotic and erotic sexual
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ner was interviewed a totally unrelated experience was re-
lated. These notes and recordings were then compared with
the film record that was kept of them during their fantasy
episodes. In not one single case on record did any sexual ac-
tivity take place between the two during this dream period.
The sexual exploits they described were entirely the drug in-
duced fantasies of the mind: a narcotically induced “wet
dream”.
El Dopa a relatively recent drug has been found to produce
frequent and powerful erections among even men in ad-
vanced years who are undergoing treatment by means of this
drug for Parkinson’s disease. Experimentation to determine
whether or not this may prove to be a true aphrodisiac has
not yet advanced to a point worthy of reporting.
Aphrodisiacs are not likely to increase sex drive unless a psy-
chological component of suggestion is present that might
whet the sexual appetite and increase the drive momentar-
ily.
All in all, good health, plenty of rest and sleep, an adequate
amount of food, fresh air and exercise, and freedom from
emotional tension remain the most effective aphrodisiacs for
man.

AnAPHRODISIACS
As long as man has sought to increase his sexual appetites
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decrease and appease them when they were not. The best
known method of decreasing the sexual appetite is the use
of the chemical potassium nitrate, more commonly referred
to as saltpeter. It has been used on prisoners and military
men for generations. Actually, this is an almost completerly
neutral chemical, except that it is a fairly effective diuretic,
which perhaps accounts for its far-flung but undeserved rep-
utation as a sex deterrent. It is a failure as an anaphrodisiac.
Recently, experimentation with the drug “Ismelin”
(guanethidine sulphate), used for the treatment of high
blood pressure, showed that erectile potency, ability to ejac-
ulate, and intensity of climax were all reduced significantly
by intake of the drug.
The use of tranquilizers and sleeping pills (so-called “down-
ers”) has often been tried in order to decrease the sex drive.
These have much the same effects in this area as alcohol and
generally reduce the ability to perform without diminishing
the desire for sex, thus creating even greater frustration and
in some cases unusual sexual behavior.
In summary, it can be stated that most information on drugs
that produce sex fantasies and also serve as either aphrodisi-
acs or anaphrodisiacs is based more on folklore than on sci-
entific evidence. In those cases where there seems to be some
change in desire and ability as well as the mental concepts
of sex, the drugs are probably affecting some bodily function
only remotely related to sexual function, and the sexual abil-
ity is affected only indirectly, if at all. Any changes, therefore,
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physiological factors.
Any of the drugs mentioned in this chapter must be re-
garded as, at least potentially dangerous, and the use of most
of them is not suggested unless undertaken under the su-
pervision of a competent physician.
Much of the mail that I receive, especially from younger
readers, is on the subject of sex and drugs. This is highly un-
derstandable since these two major forces loom large on the
horizon of the “now Generation”. So many vast sociological
changes have taken place in the past few years that even the
trained professional observer is hard-pressed to keep abreast
of the latest developments. What was jet black three years
ago was gray last year and is snow white today.
I am often led to wonder if we are really quite as modern as
we like to think we are. Perhaps I can best illustrate my
meaning by recounting to you a rather amusing and inform-
ative experience that I had several years ago. It was shortly
after the publication of one of my books (I have forgotten
for the moment which one it was) and I had been invited
by the Head of Psychology at one of our local universities
to be a member of the panel who were moderating a group
discussion session on modern sex techniques and to partic-
ipate in a question and answer period at the end of the ses-
sion. Most of the audience was students in their late teens
or early twenties. Rather conspicuous in their midst was a
handsome looking woman who appeared to be in her early
to mid-forties. As the session warmed up she participated
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opposing viewpoint to that offered by an eighteen or nine-
teen year old co-ed. It was clear that the younger female
thought that this (to her way of thinking) ancient woman
had no concept of the modern sex scene. In a determined
effort to “put her down” the young woman demanded:
“Tell us, madam, have you ever experienced performing the
complete act of fellation upon a man?”
The audience became suddenly silent, partly in shock and
partly in anticipation of an outraged reply. After a perfectly
timed long pause the older woman smiled patiently at her
young antagonist and replied:
“My dear child, I was doing that for years before Kinsey fi-
nally made it socially acceptable.”
It is the nature of each new generation to feel that it has in-
vented or discovered that which it has merely resurrected or
adapted from the past. So it is with our concepts of moral-
istic values. Great grandfather hid behind the barn and
smoked a wicked cornsilk cigarette; grandfather sneaked
into a speakeasy and sipped an illegal beer or whiskey; father
visited a well disguised horse parlor to place a bet on the
race. Today none of these activities are looked upon as
wrongdoing. Today’s youth smuggle a little grass to some
remote location and have a “pot party”. no doubt the next
generation will wonder what all the secrecy was about.
The letters that follow constitute a pretty fair cross-section
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The first is typical of scores of inquiries on the subject of the
related effects of marijuana and sex:
Dear Doctor Hilton:
I hope you won’t regard this letter as just some
stupid kid asking a question to which the answer
should be obvious. I have attempted to get an ac-
ceptable answer from some of my contemporaries
but it seems like everyone with whom I talk has ei-
ther a total hang-up on the subject, or an axe to
grind ad what I want is some straight-forward, un-
biased information. Your books say that you will an-
swer questions and I am hopeful that you can find
time to give me the advice I need so badly right now.
I have been going with this boy on campus for
about five months now. He is about two years older
than I am but we are only a year apart since I am a
sophomore and he is a junior. We have been engag-
ing in sex since our second date. I see him four or
five nights a week and we’ve gone off campus and
spent a few week-ends together. I guess we are sort
of in love, in a strictly sex-oriented way. I’m pretty
happy with him, even though he seldom satisfied
me, sexually. It takes me a long time to get my jollies
off and he is one of those jackrabbit types. It seems
like I’m just getting built-up to the point where I
think maybe this time, I’ll be able to go the full route
when bam! He blows his load, and my hopes right
along with it. A couple of times I’ve gone down on
him and made him come in my mouth before we
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and the second time he lasts long enough to bring
me to orgasm too. It’s the greatest. He knows what
is happening and he’s not one of those selfish guys
who just cares about getting his nuts off and to hell
with me. The other night he went down on me and
got me worked up to a real boiling point and then
he stopped and put his big thing in me. Doing it to
me had gotten him all excited and he hardly lasted
long enough to get it all the way in. Meanwhile I
lost it completely. When he substituted his penis for
his tongue it was like I’d have to start all over again
that way. The effect was doubly frustrating.
That night I talked to my roommate about it.
She asked me if I had ever smoked pot. She said she
used to have the same trouble and that this grass
made time stand still so that she could have three
or four orgasms before her guy shot his wad. She
said not only did it seem to last so much longer but
that she was so much more sensitive that it felt even
better than without using grass. She said that when
she smoked a few joints before a sex session she lit-
erally blew her mind as well as her bottom. I have
to admit that she made it sound pretty damn attrac-
tive.
I have heard so many lectures and warnings
against using any type of drug that I have a real
hang-up against it. They say it starts with grass then
you move on to acid and then to horse and next
thing you know you’re a hopeless junkie. Is this re-
ally true?
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 looking for any real way-out trips or kooky kicks.
All I want is to be able to enjoy the.full sex scene
and get orgasmic relief and satisfaction, like any
other normal, healthy girl. If pot will help me
achieve that goal I am just about sold on giving it a
fair try. Do you think I’ll get hooked if I try it just a
few times? Is what I have been told true or am I just
being handed a line? I think laura, my room mate
mentioned our conversation to one of the guys she
goes out with because he came up to me on campus
the other day and tried to make a date with me. He
said he’d teach me how to use and enjoy grass and
keep me supplied. I think all he wanted was to get
into my pants and then add me to his list of con-
quests and customers.
Maybe being a pot smoker isn’t really as bad
as being a frustrated or frigid woman. All I know is
that right now I’m about ready to climb the walls.
What advice would you give me if I were your
daughter, or your niece (in case you’re not married)?
I’m not going to do anything until I hear from you
but meanwhile I’m really getting pretty up-tight so
please answer me as soon as possible.
Thankss a million.
Barbara M.

Barbara’s letter expressed a problem and posed questions

that I had heard so many times before. I have often been
tempted to take the coward’s way out and have a form letter
mimeographed to send out in answer to such inquiries but
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the time and trouble to write you a long personal letter bear-
ing their very soul and revealing their innermost secrets they
are surely deserving of a bit more consideration than a coldly
impersonal form letter. Here is a copy of my reply:
My dear Barbara:
Thank you for your very frank and outspoken
letter. I shall try to reply in the same tone. Actually
your letter poses a two part question. First you ask
me to advise you as I would a daughter or niece on
the subject of your sex life and second you ask for
answers on various aspects of the smoking of mari-
juana and its effects upon your sexual responses, I
am sure you realize that neither of these questions
comes as anything new or shocking to me. You have
a great deal of company in the confused position in
which you currently find yourself.
My best advice as regards to your first question
proposes a solution which I rather suspect you will
not entertain. I will, therefore, attempt to soften you
up to accept it by relating a very brief psychologist’s
joke which concerns two close friends; one Chris-
tian and one Jew. On one of their frequent social get
togethers, the Christian asked his Jewish friend:
“Sam, why is it that every time you ask a Jew a
question, he answers you with another question?”
Sam thought for a moment and replied:
“Do I do it?”
In line with Sam’s philosophy I shall answer
your first question with another question, namely:
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given to finding a replacement for your present lover
who is possessed of greater staying power in sexual
matters and who could thereby bring you to com-
plete orgasmic satisfaction before he himself cli-
maxed?”
Such a solution would provide you with the
sexual relief you require and would eliminate the ne-
cessity for even considering your second question.
In my considered, professional opinion this would
be the ideal solution to your problems and the one
fraught with the minimum dangers.
now let’s get to the nitty-gritty of discussing
the use of marijuana. I personally do not use it—
but then neither do I chew tobacco or sniff snuff but
I do not condemn those who do. It is my personal
opinion that all of the recent witch hunt on the sub-
ject of marijuana is a tempest in a teacup. It is as
though a latter-day Carrie nation emerged upon
the social scene and tried to eliminate and outlaw
social drinking because an unfortunate minority
wind-up in alcoholic wards of mental institutions or
die of alcohol poisoning. A little research soon re-
veals that these over-indulgers have a record of con-
sumption of up to a half-gallon a day of whiskey
over an extended period of time. Hell, that much ice
cream would have done them just as much harm.
This experience should not be interpreted as a har-
binger of doom for the vast majority of social
drinkers who enjoy two or three martinis before
dinner. All too much emphasis is placed on the ex-
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therefore, newsworthy.
Any stimulant, taken in reasonable quantities,
is healthy and good in maintaining a balance in our
hectic present day lives. Even the Bible speaks of
wine with meals. While the use of marijuana does,
in the cases of unstable personalities, lead to exper-
imentation with harder drugs, this need not be the
case. The college boy who enjoys a few beers while
watching a sports event on tv is not doomed to the
living hell of a hopeless alcoholic. Young people who
like a few glasses of wine to set off a good mean
need not, of necessity wind up as Skid-Row “winos”.
The man who smokes a pipe, cigars, or even ciga-
rettes in moderation risks little danger of contract-
ing terminal lung cancer. So it is with the use and
enjoyment of marijuana. The guiding rule should be
use but don’t abuse.
What your roommate told you about the ef-
fects of marijuana on your sexual sensitivities and
reactions is basically true, although these reactions
do not occur equally in all individuals. Unlike more
powerful drugs, marijuana is not necessarily habit
forming, nor does the user’s need for it increase log-
arithmically.
Please do not misinterpret what I have said in
this letter. I am not recommending that you smoke
marijuana any more than I would recommend that
you smoke cigarettes or drink whiskey. Any of these
things can be harmful, but moderate use of any of
them need not be.
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 have them. I still say that my first advice is the best.
The safest solution would be to find a sex partner
who could provide you with all of the physical and
emotional gratification you require without the help
of a narcotic “crutch”.
Most sincerely,
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph. D.

Our next letter came from a young man who was a little fur-
ther downstream in his problems than was Barbara:
Dear Doctor Hilton:
I’ve got this little problem and I figured that it
wouldn’t hurt to get your opinion. Oh, I’ve been get-
ting plenty of advice from the guys but I have the
feeling that actually they don’t know shit from Shi-
nola, they’re just trying to act real smart-like.
My greatest interest is sex and I make no
bones about it. I mean, like why not? What else does
life have to offer that can even run it a close second?
The way I feel about it, this is the real living end. I’m
one of those real turned-on guys who’d rather screw
than sleep and rather eat snatch than steak and I’m
proud of it.
Because of this I’m real hooked on getting the
most out of it, you know what I mean? like I always
dug it but then I met this chick that was on grass
and she got me turned onto it and wow! Where had
this been all my life? It like multiplied the fun by
ten! So, anyway, I’m going along real great thinking
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 meet this guy that’s on acid. He claims that’s the real
way-out end of life. He’s told me about some of his
sex experiences and fantasies on acid trips that made
me turn green with envy. He keeps telling me that
smoking pot is “kid stuff and that acid gives the only
ultimate experience. Me? I’m kinda’ on the fence.
On the one hand I’m real tempted but then I talked
to other guys and chicks and they told me about
some friends of theirs that had real bad “trips” and
then I chickened out. I really want to experience the
whole scene and still I’m scared. I read a couple of
your books and you don’t sound like no square to me
so I figure I’ll just sit down and write you and ask.
I’m hoping you’ll tell me it’s okay and safe. Even if
you don’t I may give it a whirl anyway, but I’ll feel
better after getting your advice. Do you mind, doc?
I’m ready and willing but not quite able until I’m a
little more sure of what I’m getting into.
Thanks,
Chuck M.

Chuck’s letter arrived in a stack with about twenty others. I

always read quickly through all of them first and then set
them up for answers. On that day I put his on the top of the
answer pile. Hopefully, my reply might reach him in time to
avert pending disaster. Here is what I told him:
Dear Chuck:
For God’s sakes boy, don’t do it!
“I, too have heard a lot of those wild tales
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One young man told me he relived the whole of
“Arabian nights” in the unexpurgated edition. Oth-
ers report that they were transported into harems or
fancy bordellos or spent a night on the pleasure
barge with Cleopatra. Maybe in the fantasies of
their minds they really did. I’ll never know and nei-
ther will you. An acid trip is a very private affair and
a lot of people like to lie a lot too. They’re a lot like
horse players. They love t rant and rave over the time
they went to the track with fifty bucks and came
home with six grand but strangely enough, you
never hear about the times they took the rent and
the car payment to the track and had to hitch-hike
home.
So you see, Chuck, I can’t tell you about these
great “trips” because I seldom come into contact
with the boys that had them. But I can, and will tell
you about some of the losers with whom I have
come into personal contact so I know what I’m talk-
ing about. First there was Walter Morrison, age 20.
Walt was studying motion picture production at
U.C.l.A. He had won several class awards and his
work had been noticed by a major studio that had
offered him a contract and a chance to show his cre-
ative skills on a professional basis once he graduated.
Walt had it made. He decided to do a film, a docu-
mentary, on lSD. Since he was a real nut on realism
he determined that the only way he could put it on
film was to experience it and feel it himself. He got
together with a group of his friends and they all
went on an acid trip. Suddenly Walt became Ra, the

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fabled Egyptian sun god. He stripped naked and sat
cross-legged on the balcony of his friend’s apart-
ment staring at the July sun. His companions were
off on private trips of their own. Hours later one of
the neighbors complained to the police about this
naked man on the balcony. By the time they got him
to the hospital and under the care of an ophthal-
mologist the retinas of his eyes had been completely
burned out by the glaring sun. Walter would be
blind for life. His years of hard work at learning mo-
tion picture production went down the tubes—there
is very little demand for blind movie producers.
And then there was Fred Anderson, age 19.
He too had a very interesting “trip” although he
never ascended to the god heights like Walter. In his
fantasy he was transformed into the living, breathing
existence of Vincent Van Gogh in Tahiti. He re-
membered that Van Gogh had cut off an ear and
sent it as a token of love to a woman of whom he
was enamored. Fred saw this native girl with the
body of a sex goddess. Surely she deserved more
than a mere ear. What the hell, they award that to a
bullfighter. She deserved the ultimate tribute. With
his pocket knife, Fred completely emasculated him-
self. Fortunately they got him to a hospital before
he bled to death. I saw him a few days later but just
for one visit. Shortly afterwards he hanged himself
from a pipe in the bathroom.
Maybe the worst was Alex Glen. He and his
wife were on their honeymoon in a high suite of a
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 that there was in sex they decided to celebrate their
wedding night with a little acid trip. The fact that
they were love birds stuck, even in their fantasies.
They poised on the windowsill and flew off into the
night air. Their bodies were scraped up off the side-
walk 32 stories below. It had been a short flight of
fantasy indeed, and all straight down.
Yeah, like I say, Chuck, you always hear the
winners running off at the mouth; you don’t often
hear from the losers. Maybe that’s because a lot of
them can’t talk anymore . . . not ever.
I agree with you in feeling that sex is the great-
est but sometimes, in the inherent frailty of human
nature, we extend the bounds of common sense and
try to improve on perfection. You wouldn’t try to im-
prove on mom’s apple pie or on Colonel Saunder’s
fried chicken, would you? Well then, my friend,
leave well enough alone and don’t try to gild the lily
in the sex department either. If you do there is al-
ways the chance that that lily may wind up on your
casket.
Get smart, and stay that way!
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph.D.

The next letter came from a young man who had been told
that certain drugs could easily double his enjoyment of sex.
Dear Doc:
I have heard that certain drugs can produce sex
fantasies which serve to double a man’s enjoyment
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 doubling their sexual satisfaction?
Thanks,
Joe Friedman

This was an easy one. My reply was short and to the point:
Dear Joe:
All that jazz about drugs doubling your enjoy-
ment of sex is, in most cases, sheer nonsense. The
answer to the second part of your question is con-
tained in a slight parody on the Wrigley Double-
mint Chewing Gum singing commercial which
appears often on tv. You know the one I mean. It
goes something like this:
“Double your pleasure — double your fun,
Two broads in bed are much better than one.”
Cheers!
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph. D.

A similar inquiry came from a young woman in north Car-

olina:
Dear Doctor:
I have heard that there are perfectly safe ways
of doubling one’s sexual activities and enjoyments.
Is this true and, if so, how do I go about achieving
this enviable position?
Yours in heat,
Maria l.

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stupid answers, I replied:
Dear Maria:
Yes it is true that you can double your sexual
activities and pleasures. This can be accomplished in
one of two ways. The first and most practical means
is to take on two lovers. The second method is a bit
more difficult. It involves retreating to the womb
and refusing to emerge until your mother agrees to
have Siamese twin girls.
Give it up!
Thomas H. Hilton, Ph. D.

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 CHAPTER SIX
CONCLUSIONS

The origin of sexual arousal is in the mind and the ultimate

satisfaction of the sex drives must likewise dwell there. If
this were not really true, man would have little need, sexually,
for anything other than masturbation and prostitutes, who
are merely a second-person form of masturbation.
The greatest joy and satisfaction in sex comes from the fact
that we are performing this most personal and intimate of
human inter-relationships with a particular individual of our
choice. The sexual merits of that special someone are more
mental than physical. Apart from these mental considera-
tions there is little to differentiate between various members
of the opposite sex in terms of achieving purely physical sex-
ual gratification. From the man’s viewpoint, one vaginal cav-
ity is about as comfortable and erotically exciting as another.
Conversely, any honest woman must admit that one penis
which holds her impaled can get the job done just about as
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What then is the big deal about specific individuals? Every-
thing else being equal we can urinate just as satisfactorily in
one urinal as another. The movement of our bowels is in no
way impaired by the specific identity of the toilet bowl into
which we dispel our human waste matter. Food tastes just
as good when served up to a hungry man on one plate as
another. The person who is physically exhausted can sleep
as well on any conveniently available bed. To the man suffer-
ing from thirst from a prolonged stay in some arid waste-
land, water has the same restorative powers whether served
to him in a tin cup or a crystal goblet.
Sexual satisfaction is basically a physical need of the human
body. Why should it be so much different from our basic re-
quirements for air, water, food or sleep? What special some-
thing is there about it that makes it unique among the bodily
requirements of mankind? Is not a penis a penis and a vagina
a vagina? Why all this hue and cry about specific individuals
and personalities in this basic facet of the life pattern?
At this point a number of people will rush forward with the
answer that the difference is that magical something called
“love”. While the thought is very romantic and lovely, the
answer is not so all-encompassing as they presuppose be-
cause a great many well adjusted and happy sex partners
make no pretense of being in love. What, therefore, is the
elusive answer?
Psychologically it is based upon the simple premise that, in
the human animal, sex is infinitely more a function of the
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endless fantasy. She may be remembering and reliving the
thrill of the night when they first met. He may be envision-
ing, during coitus, how she looked in that cute little bikini
at the beach last summer. While the basic food is physical,
the condiments and spices are entirely mental.
All of these things are the products of the ceaseless day-
dreaming of the subconscious mind. They are what make the
individuals involved something different—something spe-
cial. Without the impetus of this great mental capacity for
erotic appreciation, the present superb romantic sex affair
would degenerate into just another animalistic “piece of ass”.
In this over-simplified, and admittedly crude, analogy, lies
the entire secret to human sexuality and the important part
that mental fantasies play in making it the ultimate of inti-
mate personal relationships. It is this capacity which sepa-
rates man from beast.
The human mind seldom engages in sex fantasies of a gen-
eralized nature. The camera that conjures up the mental im-
ages does not possess a wide-angle lens. Rather it specializes
in “choke-shots” through a long telephoto.
In the preceding sections devoted to the unconscious and
to real, sleeping dreams, we mentioned that it is virtually
impossible to control such dreams or to feed meaningful
input into the subconscious. I would be remiss were I to in-
clude this study without mentioning one psychological tech-
nique which has shown considerable promise in establishing
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conscious portion of the mind during sleep and which can,
under ideal conditions, control and direct the subject matter
of dreams.
This approach is an outgrowth of a training aid device de-
veloped during World War II, known as “sleep teaching”.
The military realized that many Americans had to learn
Russian, Japanese and other languages totally foreign to our
tongue. In military barracks a number of bunks were
equipped with so-called “silent speakers” through which the
sleeping soldier could hear certain prerecorded information.
This included the sound of the language and certain elemen-
tal exercises in speech. During formal instruction it was
learned that those who had been subjected to this “sleep-
teaching” technique progressed infinitely faster than those
who had not. The whole system is in wide usage today as a
form of tutoring for students in weak subjects.
Professional medical hypnotists have long believed that the
only approach to the unconscious area of the mind was by
means of audible communication. For purposes of control-
ling the sexual fantasies of dreams, tape recorded messages
in which the dreamer speaks to his own unconscious mind
in an electronic form of self-hypnosis, or sparks the imagi-
nation of the unconscious by playing to it recorded sounds
of the subject of the desired dream have great potential.
Generalized dreams of fantasized sex can often be triggered
by playing, during sleep, recordings of the sounds of sex, i.
e., squeaking bedsprings, accompanied by heavy breathing,
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We stand today merely on the brinks of understanding of
the true depth and nature of the unconscious and subcon-
scious. It is much like our program to establish meaningful
communication with the porpoise. Although not yet scien-
tifically accepted, such methods as “sleep teaching” express
much hope for the future.
Dr. Sigmund Freud long ago observed: “There is naught that
can be conceived by the mind of man that is unattainable to
man.”
For untold centuries man stood on earth, his feet planted in
the mud, and dreamed of standing on the moon and staring
back at Earth. In our time we have seen this impossible
dream come true. Can our present fantasies of sexual de-
lights that are within the grasp of our minds be any more
impossible.

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Fa ntasy is an important aspect of our sex lives
from infancy throug h a d ulthood, fo r even the
infant nursing at his mother 's brea st experi-
ences some kind of sex fantasy. D uring c hild -
hood the chance sig ht o f a n ude woman o r
perhaps a co uple cohabitati ng will give rise to
wild flights of sexually inspired fantasy. During
the years of puberty, mast u r bation is nearly
always accompanied by fantasizing. W ha t boy
does no~ have his "di rty magazine" or pict ures
of naked women? Throug hout the later years,
w hile going through t he pangs of puppy-love
a f fairs, girls as well as boys are given to day-
dreaming, w h ich is simply another word for
fantasizing. Usually the hero or th e heroine is
the crush of the moment. These fantasies are
overly romanticized and generally have a
heavy undercurrent of sexual t hought .

In Sex Fantasies we stud y sexually rela t ed

dreams and fantasies and att empt to interpret
t heir meanings; and, from t he w riter's private
correspondence files, we learn how oth er s have
done just t his. It is hoped tha t thi s down-to-
earth guide on a litt le understood aspect of
sexual psychology will prove a valuable self-
improvement tool fo r t he reader .

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