If your doctor agrees that you are maintaining a healthy weight for your height/age/gender

but your mother tells you that you are fat, which is both hateful and untrue, then the real
issue here is your relationship with your mother, not your weight.

I suggest that first, you phone your primary care doctor and ask him or her to speak to
your mother on the phone, and reassure her that you ARE at a very healthy, good weight for
your height/age/gender. That should resolve the issue; that should shut her up.

But if it doesn’t stop your mother from unfairly criticizing you about your weight,
then I suggest that you do the following:

Get your mother to agree to go to family counseling with you, so you can both learn
healthier and more loving ways to communicate with each other, and/or

Set firm adult boundaries for yourself, if you are an adult. That means that when
your mother mentions your weight, you remind her of your boundary. “Mom, that topic is
not on the table for discussion, ever. Is there something else you want to talk with me
about?” And if your mother won’t stop talking about your weight, you end the conversation
immediately, firmly and politely. “OK, I can see that you aren’t up for a visit, so I’ll say
goodbye now. Talk to you later.”

If you’re living with your mother, say that and then leave the room or even leave the house
and go somewhere else for a while. If you are visiting your mother at her home, then just
cut the visit short. If you are on a phone call with her, end the phone call. Always be polite,
but firm.

I sympathize for your situation, that’s what I lived with my whole life while my mother was

alive, and dad to a lesser extent. They were obsessed with weight and
appearance. I survived, but I still struggle with maintaining a healthy weight. Best of luck to
you.