Conversation Topics + CD AL U E S 30 Bred Bisa Le her SA Ad ANUS) i neOCO00C®e girlfriend, Michelle. Why is he unhappy? So, how's Michelle? You guys are still gaing out together? Yeah, we are, but, | don't know. t's actually getting kind of weird’. I'm not sure it’s going to last. Are you serious? Man, you've got to find a way to make it last”. Michelle is awesome"! She's got everything! Yeah, she is great. Really energetic — Yeah! ‘And fun to be with, and... But, this is going to sound stupid. What? It's her piercings. Yeah, so, what about them? Well, first she got her nose pierced. Coot ‘And then her belly button. Her belly button? Wow. | didn’t know she did that | guess that was okay. Yeah! But then she went and got her tongue pierced. | don't know if | can deal with it. Tongue piercing? Have you kissed her yet? 17 Phil is talking with his friend Brian. Phil is unhappy with his Phi Brian: Phil: Brian: Phil Brian Phil: Brian: Phil Brian: Phil: Brian: Phil: Brian: Phil: Brian: Phil: Brian: Phil: Brian: CTS fel MILT SACLE Tg 41. What do you think of piercing? 2. Do you have any piercings? ‘Would you like to get some? 3. Do any of your friends have parts of their bodies pierced (ears, nose)? Cem Yeah, | did kiss her! Cool, huh? It was disgusting"! Disgusting? Itfelt dirty! And now every time | think about it just start wondering what part of her body she's going to pierce next. Well, have you told her how you feel about it? Yeah, | tried, And? asked her if she could stop wearing some of thom, at least when we were together. What did she say about that? She said it was her right to express herself’, You know, she said something like, "Look, you can't control the way I look. You should accept me the way | am.” | was, like, what? Idon't know, man, | think you just don't get it. You can't let a few pieces of metal get between you and the woman of your dreams. Well, | don't know if she's the woman of my dreams anymore. What? Besides, now every time when we get together she tells me how good I'd look with pierced ears. I's bad enough that she's getting pierced. Now she wants me to do it, too? Why not, man? It's no big deal. And, you know, if it turns Michelle on* I can't believe you agree with her. Totally’. don't know what I'm going to do. You're going to get a piercing, man! 1. How does Phil fee! about Michelle's piercings? 2. What does Brian think about them? 3, What does Michelle want Phil to do?LeTLERCLAILD Read these three opinions. Amber Anton Monica If Phil really loves her, he will If Michelle really loves Phill, Body piercing is neither natural get used to her body piercing. _she will stop wearing her nor beautiful. piercings. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 a ‘True love is deeper than physical ») /In any relationship, people have ~) (We were born without holes in») beauty. ) (oltelanderstanding. (our bodies ‘ : 6 (canals rales Pa NA ee Should aoc chaoge sr damage.) ( Ean asedoamoat spiking.) (Soncemed abot shin ‘Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Amber? Do you agree with Anton? Do you agree with Monica? Answer for each person: / really agree / | agree / I disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? How should Phil and Michelle solve their problem? Write your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Gaeierine € Exchancine > i > | Now form groups and ; discuss your advice and reasons. ! ere a hid What would you do for fashion? Fill out the chart. Work with a partner. Talk about each idea. * pierce my * wear a (an) (parte boayy (Hem of clothing * get a tattoo of ‘on my * use ‘Gometing? (pant of boyy ‘Bind olor of makeup) + dye my hair * your idea (coloaes PEED 'cueexcese: FA RRREMD 0 Leah is tatking about her time as a collage student. Paral any/ 1~2 hours a Why did she decide to stop watching television? day/ 3-4 nous aay) 2, Why 60 you watch televsion? My family loves television. My earliest 3. What programs do you lke? memories are of watching TV with my family. I think we had five or six television sets at home— the bedrooms, the kitchen, everywhere! At least one television was on all of the time. When | went to university, | lived in a dor- mitory' my first year. Of course | had a TV, so! continued watching my favorite programs. But after a while, | realized | had a problem. My cours- es were hard — much harder than high school — and there was a lot of homework. Iso, | felt stressed in my new environment. | started watching more TV to help me relax. Guess what? Soon | was spending more time watching TV than | was on homework. Plus, | didn't have a lot of friends. Maybe a childhood full of television made me less social”. At the end of my first year, my grades weren't very good, and | was really disappointed in myself At home that summer, I watched television with my family a lot. At first | thought it was great. But then | noticed something. We talked all the time, but...always about TV. ‘Something was missing. Television brought us together, but in a way it also kept us apart. ‘When I got back to university, | made up my mind? to do better. I walked into my dormitory, and started to turn the TV on. But then an idea popped into my head’: “Stop watching TV!" Suddenly it became crystal clea’: my old ‘friend television was really my enemy! It had kept me from getting good grades, and from making friends, | had to stop watching TV. \ did. I quit. | gave away my television, and I've never looked back. | started doing better in school, made more friends, actually started having more energy. I don't know if Il continue to lead a TV-free life. But if | do watch television again, it won't be like before. | have vowed" that tele- vision will never again be a major part of my life. CHECK YOUR UNDERSTANDING 1. What role does TV play in Leah's family? 2. Why id Leah stop watching TV? 3 What hanpened after Leah stopped watching TV?Read these three opinions. 2 @ Jamos Thin Pablo Our lives would be better if we It is okay to watch some TV, Television is an important part didn’t watch TV. but not too much. of our lives, Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 ‘Watching television takes the pla (Television is a major source of (Some TV programs are valuable, ort things in le.) (news, information, and pleasure. _) \ but some are a waste of time: & 5 ee (When people watch a lot of (‘Sometimes we need entertainment) (Television is a good formof (television, they grin weight, _) \ Sometimes we need enterainment) ( ortcrainment ») Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with James? Do you agree with Trin? Do you agree with Pablo? ‘Answer for each person: / really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. LeeLee) eeu sty Should Leah start watching television again? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Yous Position ‘Supporting Statements > Gawerine € Excuancine VALUES PROJECT Work with a partner. Find out what your classmates think about television. Make about 10 questions. 1 6 example 2. Ee ee 1. lke to watch television. True? False? 5 fe 2. Why do you wateh television? : aa 3. What is your favorite program? 5. 10. ‘Ask your classmates and your teacher your questions. Write their answers. Analyze your results and write a short report. Share the results with the class.{Lis boauty impor Ea | Forcther people? |} 2.Doyou tke to be called Yumi: I'm so glad you finally got a chance to meet Amani, because | think 3. Can you name some “beaut | ful" male singers? Actors? TV Sa oe Yumi: What did you think of him? Sara: Come on. You can't really be serious about a guy who wears makeup? Yumi: Why not? | mean, he’s beautiful, and... and | think that men should be Sara; But i's just not natural, you know? | — okay — he was beautiful, and... 11 Yumi and Amani have just started dating. They're talking about each other to their friends. What is Amani like? What is Yumi like? 'm falling in love with him. beautiful if they want to. | don’t know if | prefer a guy looking beautiful. Maybe more, you know, naturally goocHooking. Rugged’, masculine’ Yumi: Why? | mean, you wear makeup. Look at you: you've got on foundation’ and blush*. Sara: | know. Yumi: And how long did you spend on your hair this morning? Sara: Well, an hour, But, okay — that's not the point. I'm a woman. Women ‘wear makeup. Women spend an hour on their hair in the morning. It's, just — that’s how it is. It's totally different. Yumi: And who came up with these social stereotypes"? Why can't men look beautiful if they want to? ‘Amani: 'm so glad you finally got to meet Yumi, because | think I'm falling in love with her. George: Amani, she doesn't wear any makeup. ‘Amani: Well, no, She doesn’t wear makeup, but that’s okay. George: Doesn't that seem weird* to you? ‘Amani: No. What's wrong with that? There's no problem with her not wearing makeup. She looks so beautiful without that. George: Well, wouldn't she be, then, more beautiful if she were to wear makeup? | mean, it's not a question of whether she needs it or not... doesn't it just strike” you as a little. Well... odd that she doesn't wear makeup? Well, | mean, why should she be forced to wear makeup, really, when you think about it? | mean, she doesn't need it. Because that's what women do. Oh, but who came up with these social sterectypes? Why do women have to wear makeup to be considered beautiful? eta CO) SLL kd 4, Deserine Yumi boyfriend, nen 2, What is Sara's view about men who wear makeup? 3, What is Aman's view of women who don't wear makeup’OTUERCLALLD Read these three opinions. carmen ‘Anton Monica Itis okay for men to wear Makeup is for women, ‘No one (men or women) should makeup. [El Itis wrong for men to wear care too much about how they makeup. fl Hl look. il ia Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements a 2 3 Men should look masculine, ‘Men and women should not spend Men are behaving too much like ‘not beautiful. too much time and money on ‘women these days. cosmetics. Naturalis best. 4 6 5 People often judge others by their) (“it is important for young men to Inner beauty is more important looks, So men should make every | ( be nice-looking to attract women, ) | than looks. Use your time and effort to look neat, too money for getting skills or know! rather than on cosmetics, edge, Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Carmen? Do you agree with Anton? Do you agree with Monica? ‘Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. Ca Leen LO aseg Is it okay for men to wear makeup? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. VaLucs suRVEY ‘What “beauty care" activities are okay? Make a check for each activity. Do it quickly. Don’t think too long! Capierine & Excuancine lean tee lee eae wearing lipstick getting pedicures sha eos wearing earings shaping eyebrows mers ‘ applying face pack hewng ong har ocd your oo es wenn uncon ‘Compare answers with a partner. Then, compare answers as a class. °COeeee before after you do to 3. Would you ever consider 4 Cosmetic Surgery 1, How, important aro "good looks PRN 11 Ayuis 18 years old. She wants to have cosmetic ‘surgery on her face. What does she want to change? Why? What does her mother think? Ayu; Mom, | have something exciting to tell you Mother: What's up? Ayu: I'm going to have an operation to get my eyelids fixed’. Mother: What? Are you saying that you're going to get cosmetic surgery’? At a hospital? Ayu: Well, it’s... it’s not so expensive, and it's only my eyelids. Mother: Only your eyelids?! Ayu: Yeah. It's not like I'm going to, you know, do anything drastic’. I'm just going to fix it so | can look prettier. And Mom, it's my money. I've saved it. 've been working to save my money, and |... i's my body Mother: So that explains it. That's why you've been working alll those jobs. You're beautiful the way you are, You look great. ‘yu: But, Mom, boys don't see what you see in me. If | look beautiful, then, you know, I'l be approached by more boys. Maybe I'll have a chance to get jobs that | wouldn't be able to if | didn't fix my eyelids Mother: Honey, you should attract” people with your inner beauty. Your personality, your intelligence — not your looks. Ayu: Mom, you don't understand. Boys aren't attracted by your intelligence and your wit’. The first thing they see is your looks. If you're not beautiful, they won't approach you at all. Then how are they to know if you have wit or intelligence? Mother: You can't do this. Ayu: Mom, I'm doing it whether you like it or not \ Mother: | think you're making a terrible mistake, CHECK YOUR UNDERSTANDING | 1.What is 1's idea about beauty? Is it the same as her mother’s idea? 2, How is Ayu going to pay for her cosmetic surgery? 3, Will Ayu take her mother's advice?LTC AILD Read these three opinions. Pablo Ray Amber Ayu should have the cosmetic Ayu should think more about Ayu should not have the surgery surgery now. itand decide later. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 ioe cae aT Ta aa, Your body is what's \ (Cosmetic surgery ean give you Women can be beautiful by nature and by your parents. You) (better chances in life wearing makeup. Cosmetic \_Shouta never 1 eee eee surgery is not necessary 5 (Your ideas and values might (‘Simple cosmetic surgery is getting / You should learn how safe ( hang i more common these days. Its not) | cosmetic surgery is before you 1 big deal \ have an operation Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Pablo? Do you agree with Ray? Do you agree with Amber? ‘Answer for each person: / really agree // agree / | disagree / | really disagree. LECLELacel mL eusts Should people have cosmetic surgery? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Your Posi ‘Supporting Statements Ganierine € txcuancine > D> | Now form oroups and discuss your position and Supporing satements role TE Ys Work with a partner. One of you is A, one of you is B. Read your “roles.” Have a conversation. fe ae ee ea | You have an attractive girfriend/ boyfriend ( You had cosmetic surgery about five years ago. You love. One day, at B's house, you find a photo of her/him not told A, your boytriend/gitiriend. A asks you about i from five years ago. B looks totally different. B had cosmetic surgery! You are shocked and say. useful phrases It's not a big deal Teel more. useful phrases ie - Now | can Belor, | Is this really you? Way? That's really... I'm not sure if |.1. Do you like to help your friends? Why or why not? 2.D0 you ask your fiends for help? 3. Would you ever pay a friend for helping you? When? CTT iter ® () Brad is a busy man, but somehow he is always helping people. Read his story. What is his problem? | hate to admit it, but | think | have a problem. Actually, I'm not sure what my problem is. But whatever it is, | need help. it seems like I'm always doing favors for peo- ple, and | never have time for myself. | mean, | like people, and | want them to like me, but it's getting to be too much. You see, like this week, I'm taking care of Rex. i's a dog that belongs to a woman in my office. How did | end up taking care of this dog? | don't even like dogs. | guess, it was in the office, and Sheila mentioned that she was having trouble find- ing a dog-sitter’, and she said if she couldn't find a dogssitter, she couldn't go on vacation. And suddenly I said, “Oh, | can take care of the dog for you. No problem.” Why did | say that? | always seem to get into this kind of situation. Just last week, this guy across the hall had a problem with his toilet. So he called me! And | don’t even know this guy. He said that another eS el LS ed neighbor said that | was really good at fixing things. and that she was sure | would be willing’ to help him, 80 how could | say no? So | fixed it, and | really didn’t mind, it only took me about an hour. It's not only my neighbors and people at work. Like yesterday, my brother needed helping fix- ing a broken window. | drove two hours to his house to help. it only took ten minutes to repair, but my whole day was shot’. And Rex chewed up my sofa while | was gone. These sorts of things happen to me all the time. Oh, there's the phone. That's probably Emily. She's moving out this weekend, and | told her I'd help her pack. | just couldn't say no, Oh, what am I going to do? 1. What are some things Brad is doing to help people he knows? 2. Why do people ask Brad for help? 3, What does Brad want to change about himsetf?LoTR. Read these three opinions. Monica Koji Brad needs to learn to say no. Brad should help only his fam- Brad is lucky that people need He should refuse to help people. _ ly and close friends. him. He should be happy that he can help people. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 (We can’t do everything. ) (Brad needs to Focus on his own >) (He needs to show his fi —— ies. _) \ his time is important (acti 4 5 6 vetimes when we help people ») (Some people like to have busy lives.) (Kindness is always returned. we get in trouble, ) os Ne aft Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Trin? Do you agree with Monica ? Do you agree with Koji? ‘Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. eae cel Lieu sts What advice would you give to Brad? Write your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. ones ee vine & EXCHANGING ‘Now form grouy discuss your advice and reasons. >» eT eM TGAL LIAS How do you feel about helping other people? What would you do in these situations? Lend a friend money Yes Yes, but {Limit No Help a friend move Yes Yes, but [Limi No Give someone a seat on a crowded train or bus Yes Yes, but (Conditions: No Leta friend live with me Yes Yes, but [Conaitions: 1 No Share my umbrella with a stranger Yes Yes, but [Conditions: 1 No Look after my friend's pet Yes Yes, but (Conditions: J No Give a friend a ride home Yes Yes, but [Conaitions: ] No Help my friend with a home repair Yes Yes, but [Conditions: } No your idea: Yes Yes, but (Conditions: No ‘Share your answers with a classmate. 66 Embarrassing Mother! 1. Are your parents fashionable? 2. What famous people are fashionable even though they aren't young? 3. Are age and fashion related? CED 1 Risa is 15. Her mother is now 40 years old. Risa thinks ) her mother is acting strange. Why does Risa think this? Marie: Risa, | just saw your mom. It's $0 coo!" that she dress- es that way. She looks so young and hip”. Risa: Young? Hip? Ugh! She's so embarrassing’! She's driv- ing me crazy‘ with the way that she’s always trying to wear young clothes and talk to you guys about music and stuff. Marie: But | don't mind at all. | really like your mom. She's fun. Risa: It's not fun for me. It's been crazy ever since her 40th birthday. She's been trying to act like she's our age or something. It’s just wrong. She wants to go shopping at the same stores as me, and half the time | can't even find my fashion magazines because she “borrows” them. Marie: Really? Risa: She bleached” her hair, she started wearing these little tops and short skirts. And now she says she might get a tattoo"! Marie: No way! Risa: If she does that | seriously won't go out in public with her anymore. Marie: | think it’s kind of cool that she wants to be your friend. She's a lot better than my mom. With her it’s always “Where are you going? When are you coming back? Who are you going with?” | mean, | would love it if she took me shopping or asked me for fashion advice. Risa: Yeah, but my mom has gone completely overboard’. | And my dad, too. ! mean, he isn't any help. He says | she looks prettier and sexier than ever. “You are just like a good wine,” he says, “more delicious with age." J 2.Wny doesit Risa tke it? CHECK YOUR UNDERSTANDING 1. What is Fisa's mather's new fashion style? \ | | Eeewwww! Marie: Eeewwww! Risa: It's disgusting! | | 3 Wat doe na wieeT ATED Read these three opinions. James ‘Amber a Risa’s mother is having prob- Risa does not have to like what Risa should encourage her Jems, and Risa should try to her mother is doing, but she mother, and be happy that she is help her: should accept it. having such fun, Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 2 3 Z r = (Sharing fashion styles is a great) (“Perhaps her mother has a lot of) (_ Children should respect their parents. ) opportunity to enjey doing things | ( saree in he life, She needs suppor, |S a (together. \ x pe eae 4 5 6 (Risa should take her mother to) (“Risa should not worry about what) (( Risa should be happy that her \ see a doctor. (Cher friends think oF her mother.) (mother is enjoying lite Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with James? Do you agree with Amber? Do you agree with Ray? Answer for each person: / really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? What would you do in Risa’s situation? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. See, Gapiering € ticwancine > > | Now form groups and COMMUNICATION ACTIVITY Give a presentation about “Me when I’m 40.” Talk about: : Fi vi eee Se ease eee Rerwarialy ee eer When | am 40 | will be (the same... more careful...) * Liestye * Fashion Iw ive ina Be marie. work or) * Romance * Responsibilities For fun, | will (go out with friends... play gor... take my family to.. OGC0GS i Newlyweds 1. What household chores are do? Mi 11 Sam and Cheryl are newlyweds. They're talking to their Soe ee oot friends about their marriage. How is their marriage going? Keith: Hey, Sam, congratulations! | haven't seen you since you got married, How are things going? Sam: Ah, it’s not like | thought it'd be. Keith: Really? | thought you were in love with Cheryl. She seems like a wonderful person. Sam: Yes, she is, but. Keith; But what? Sam: She can't cook. Please don't laugh at me. I'm sarious. She cannot cook Kelth: So what? Lots of people can't cook Sam: No, you don't understand. | mean, she really can't cook. | mean, she tries, but she can't even cook rice or make toast without burning it, and she tries to make these special dishes, but they're just inedible’, They're nothing at all like my mother used to make for me. Keith: Well, maybe it's just that you have to get used to her style. And maybe you should learn to cook. Ever thought of that? Sam: Me? Cook? Come an. That's a woman's job. eG eyes Surg a disaster. You know, | remember my father and my brothers —t Heidt Hey, hi, Cheryl. | haven't saen you since you got married. Congratulations. Chery: Thanks, Heidi: How are things going? Cheryl: Ah, well, not as... not as well as | thought. Heidi: What do you mean? I... | thought you were in love with Sam. Cheryl: Well, !am. Heidi: Well, he seems like a great guy. Cheryl: Oh, oh, he is. He is, but. Heidi: But what? Cheryl: Well, I don't know. Well, he... he’s such a... well, he's a klutz’ Heidi: A klutz? What do you mean? Chery: Well, you know we bought an old house, and it needs a lot of work and, well, | just assumed that Sam knew how to fix things. Heidi: You did? Cheryl: But, you know, he can't even change a light bulb! Oh, it's such ey all knew how to fix things, and build things, and... Why can't Sam? 1. What is Sam worried about? Heidi: Well, | don't know. Well, maybe, Cheryl, that not all guys are good at that kind of stuff. And, you know, have you ever thought about 2 What is Chery! worried about? learning how to fix things yourself? Chery: Me? 3. What do their friends think? Heidi: Yeah, Chery: Fix things? Come on. That’s a man's job.UTUECISTTIS Read these three opinions. Pablo Koll carmen Cheryl should learn to cook They should get divorced. ‘Sam and Cheryl should just and Sam should learn to accept each other the way fix things. they are. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 Sain simply needs to learn how to /“T's important for people wo under “They don't really love one another) fix things. He didn’t learn from his stand each other's strengths and | | iy did, they would not com: \ father U) \ scaknesses ( plain about each other: 3 6 (These are minor problems ina /Cheryl simply needs to learn how, (They will never appreciate each oth Se |) ( Rana Eee, | ( secebeuiallae eee ae Shouldn't worry about them.) \ mother. _/ \ spouse to their parents, a Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Koji? Do you agree with Carmen? Do you agree with Pablo? Answer for each person: | really agree / / agree / | disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? ‘What do you think about gender roles in a relationship? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Your Position ‘Supporting Statements > . Ciamierine € Excuancine Les Tren eet Las Make a list of things that: men generally do but women don't often do; women generally do but men don't often do; both men and women do. Think about: work clothes/appearance home activities sports language Work in a group of four. Compare your lists. Is there a good reason for any of these?8 Stanley in Love 1. Are you shy? a — or is he? Is thi ? ee ite) ‘Stanley is in love — or is he? Is this really love? . Would you ast ne ona Mark, his best friend, is worried about Stanley. Jate even ft they might say "no"? 0 you chang} ut Why is Mark worried? I've got a problem. My best friend, Stanley, dated anyone, and he's kind of shy and sensitive’, and now e's madly in love" with a woman. Her name is Lian, and she Stanley says recently started working at the department store where S and | work parttime ‘As soon as Stanley saw Lian, he thought she was the woman he'd ever seen! That's okay, | mean, she is tractive, but | think he's going too far. He told me that Liar y likes him, but that she’s too shy to admit it. That's a lttie because she's not shy at all Lian is really c think she and, to be honest, | might h ley is her ty fe a boyfriend, The other day, told me “I've got to find out more he didn't ask her out. He secretly fol her home from work to find out where she lives! | thought, of him he shouldn't do that — th ting’, that he w his is weird, and | told tin trouble, He told me | was Now, though, I'm getting really worried, St y was ing her. | was ing t Lian, and said that he was thinking thought, good, he’s finally being direct®. And he said better to call her at home than trying to talk to her at work. When | We him her number, he said no, that he looked at t SURI employee files’, We're really ed to do that | don't know what | should do. | tried to talk to him about it, but he just got mad a ped talking to me. | don't know if led Lian, or whether she even ki ne li might be turning into a stalker" How is Stanley acting towarc 2, What is Lian i 3, Does Lian know how 4, What is Mark going to dooe TTD Read these three opinions. 66 $ Mark should insist that Stanley Mark shouldn't say anything Mark should wait and see what stop. even if itends his friend- to Stanley, buthe should warn happens before doing anything. ship with Stanley. Lian Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 a / a ms iy (2 probably not serious, but it’s ) (it’s important not to accuse some») /” You have to stop problems before ») \ better if she knows. ) \ one until you are sure. _) \ they get out of control 4 5 i a, (Stantey will probably stop once he ) (“He has to do something, butit could) \_ealizes she’s not interested in him, (be dangerous to upset Stanley. { Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Amber? Do you agree with Trin? Do you agree with Ray? Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree /| disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? What advice would you give to Mark? Write your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Gonwierine & Cicuancine > D> | Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons. DISCUSSION ACTIVITY. What's the best way to meet someone for a date? parttime job personal ad in the newspaper ‘school bars and social clubs ‘work hobby groups ‘amily introduction m= 07 vacation, .~ through a friend your idea: Internet Compare your answers with a partner. Do you know someone who met and fell in love in any of these ways?OOOS8e Situation Father Duksoo: Father: Duksoo: Father: Duksoo Father: Duksoo Father Duksoo: 9 Always Late! 1. Are you usually school? For meeting: 2. What is a good ng lat 11 Duksoo is a Korean American. He's talking with his father about his fiancee. But his father thinks there is a problem. What is the problem? We've been waiting almost half an hour now. Where's Jinhee? | don't know. | quess she's late again. You mean this has happened before? Yeah. All the time. Really? And this is the woman you're engaged to, and planning to marry? Yes, of course! She's beautiful, she's kind, she's really a wonderful person, Dad. And know she'll be a great mother. So what if she runs late’ sometimes? It's really not the big a deal’. Okay, but being late is a sign of disrespect’. s a lack of respect for other people, mmitments. It's a sign of a bigger problem. No, it's nothing like that. Believe me. She's not disrespectful, she’s just, um... disorge nized", Disorganized? Well, let me make sure | understand. She's really th time? Yes. To tell the truth, sometimes it's even worse. Like yesterday, we had an appoint ment at 5 o'clock to talk with the mi of the Prince Hotel. Father: Where the wedding is going to be? Th very important meeting, Duksoo: | know. So | arrived on time, at 5. But Jinhee didn't come until almost 6, Actually, it was really embarrassing®. But, Dad, she didn’t mean it. She said that. Father: An hour late. | had no idea it was that bad. That is rude", That's very selfish. Very disre- spectful. Have you talked to her about it? Duksoo: Of course | have. Over and over. But if bring it up too often she gets angry, and tells me to relax Father: You're trying to help her with her problem, and she gets angry at you. That's even more disrespectful. I's obvious that the problem is deeper than just being late. If you marry her, you're going to have a lot of trouble. Ahh, Duksoo. ate all the COT Oe) MLE SC LLG Why is Jinhee late a lot? 2. Does it bother Duksoo? 3. What does Duksoo's father think? 4. What does Jinhee think?UTES} ATED Read these three opinions. Pablo carmen People cannot be changed. People who are late are rude Everyone is different and lazy. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. Supporting statements 1 2 3 a on \ (We should enjoy people who see >) (Some people are late by nature.) /“ Live and let live! The world would \ the wold itterently. / \ be dullifeverybody were the) same. me 4 5 6 (Some parts of a person's characte?) (Th en Tae iikcicnnitainianenadll visa arue atelaion ) (Teg cae im fi Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Pablo? Do you agree with James? Do you agree with Carmen? Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree /| disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? What should Duksoo do? Write your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Advice Reasons Ganievine € Excuancine > > | Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons. PERSONAL STORY What is the latest you have been for something (a meeting, a class, an interview, an airplane... )? Why were you late? What happened? Think about the situation, and write some notes. notes: t00k place in ‘main event: your reaction’ other people's reaction: ms what you learned: Tell your story to the class.COSSCe puter fo Entertainment? 3, Do you know someone who uses a Computer a lot? What does he or she do on the computer? 4, What is “too much” computer use? SITUATION 1. How long do you use a " computer every day? ‘What do you use a com- 1001? Work? 1 O The Comic! Nut 1) Read the conversation between Susan and Ken and find out why their marriage is in trouble. Susan; Sweetie’, do you know what day it is? Susan: | don't care about flowers. 'm worried about us Ken; Exousa me, but I'm very busy right now, | have to and about you. Do you remember when we answer this email were first married? We used to do so many Susan: You forgot, didn't you? ‘things together. We used to hike in the moun- Ken; What? Did you say something? Can't you wait tains, we used! to ride our bikes. until tomorrow? I'm real busy’ right now. Ken: You know | remember. But that was before Susan; Agh!* ‘computers. Now | use my computer to go any- Ken; Why are you sitting on my keyboard? Look what where in the world. can hike mountains in you've done! Europe and go bike riding in China. Susan: You forgot my birthday! Susan: But that's not real. And I'm not with you. I'm Ken: sit today? Really? Today? Let me check my worried about your health. You spend all day appointment file on my computer. Please get off ‘with your computer at your office and then all my keyboard. night and the weekends with your computer at ‘Susan: You don't have to check your computer file. My home. It's not healthy. birthday is TODAY! This is your wife talking to ‘Ken: But I'm happy. | love my computers, okay? But, you. Do you need to check your computer file to because | love you, | will see my doctor and get a see who | am? checkup’, all right? Now, please get off my key- Ke: Okay, okay. | believe you. 'm sorry. 'm...'m_ really board and I'lsend an email to my doctor to really sorry. Now, please get off my keyboard make an appointment. and... and send you an email birthday card. ‘Susan: Agh! What is wrong with you? You spend all of your time with your computer. Do you stil love me? Ken: Of course | do. Now, if you get off my keyboard, 1. How does Susan feet? Why? 2, How does Ken feel? Why? 3, How has the computer changed their Ife. |i order some flowers from the flower shop's. website,LAOTLIERCIEIELD Read these three opinions. Tan Ken should spend less time Computers destroy human with his computer and more relationships. time with his wife. Monica ‘Susan should share her hhusband’s interest in the computer. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 (Susa \ important computers are to Ken. —_) (each other's interests and hobbies. 4 5 (We need to have a balance in our) (“Computers a Cites, Gari sonvenient but Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: oul understand ow >) (“Husbands and wives should shure») (A spouse is more important than Danae 3 >) (Rizzo) ) \ dime with a computer. Do you agree with Trin? Do you agree with James? Do you agree with Monica? Answer for each person: | really agree / / agree / | disagree / | really disagree. oT acta cela Ya Sey What advice would you give to Ken and Susan? Write your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Advice Reasons >» UTE e Xa tas How does technology affect your life? Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons, ‘Work with a partner. Talk about each object. Do you use it? Do you like it? Why or why not? Va ks digital map system iPod computer cell phone 8 O digital music your idea: player1 1 ieee Romance 1. What is your opin- [onclmames people FR GRE TIRE 17 Diane is having a relationship with a married man. outside of tree manage? She's writing in her diary about this relationship. C@GO68 2. Isit okay to have secrets, What do you think will happen between her and Frank? from your spouse? About what? Dear Diary, Is divorce okay in some 08? Today is our first anniversary’! Frank and | have been together for one year. We had a lovaly lunch at DeNiro’s, our favorite restaurant. Of course, I was disappointed that we couldn't have dinner together, since he has to be with his wife and his children. | understand that. But next week, he's going on a business trip for two days, and I'm going with him. | can't wait! \ can't help saying it again: | love Frank deeply, with all of my heart. | know I've written this before. I can't help it! Ha is so different from other men. He is handsome and intelligent. But, more importantly, he talks to me and listens to me. The problom is his wife, Louise. Louise learned the truth last week She insists she doesn't want a divorce. Frank told her he doesn't love her any: more, and that he's truly in love with me. But she still wants him! | understand. | would not want to let go of Frank. But she's being unrealistic’, She's going to lose him. Frank told me that he wants a divorce but the time is not right yet. He still has to figure out’ what will happen with his two teenage children after the divorce. | haven't told anyone about Frank. Except | did tell my best friend, Virginia. She thinks I'm crazy and says that Frank's a liar. She said that he's cheated on* his wife—that he's been unfaithful” toher and that you can't trust a man like Frank. And Virginia also told me that most married men stay with their wives. But | don’t beliave Virginia. | know that I love Frank, and that he and | will get married and will start our own family together. For now, | just have to trust that everything will be all right: CO ol tae uK 1. Does Frank's wife know about his relationship with Diane? 2. How does Diane feel about Frank's wife and fri? 3, What does Diane's friend Virginia think?LOLUIERCLAID Read these three opinions. carmen Ray Trin Diane loves Frank very much Frank should stop seeing When a couple has children, and will be a good wile, Diane until he gets a divorce. divorce is wrong. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 (Children are always hurt when >) (“Love is the foun \ their parents are divorced ) \ marriage on of «strong ) (Its wrong for a married \ person to have a lover. P 4 5 6 hen two people love one ano (( Children need to be with their \ they will have a good marriage.) | mother and father (ae ty and respect is important » relationship, a Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Carmen? Do you agree with Ray? Do you agree with Trin? Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? Are relationships like this okay? State your position and support your i Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. ‘Your Position Supporting Statements Gaauerine € frenancine > > | Now form groups and discuss your position and ‘supporting statements. eS You are Louise’s best friend. She asks you for advice. What advice will you give Louise? Circle one or write your own. ‘A. Louise should allow Frank to have a relationship with Diane. B. Louise should aivorce Frank, even if he stops seeing Diane. C. Louise should stay with Frank, but only if he stops seeing Diane. your idea: Write a letter to Louise. Give your advice. Exchange letters with a partner. Do you agree with your partner?1 2 rie Together 1. Havo you ever been really, really angry? When? What was the reason? What did you do? 2, Has anyone ever become really angry at you? When? What was the reason? What did you da? What's Annie's problem? Tess: Annie, you look upset. Is. is something wrong? Annie: Yeah, i's Dan, Tess: Dan? What... what's wrong? Annie: Well, a couple of days ago, he called me from. work and he said he'd be home at 7:00. So, | had dinner ready, but, 7:00 —he didn't come home. About an hour later, | called his office, and nobody answered. Tess. Strange. Annie: | left a message for him to call me. And then at 9:00 | called his cell phone, but it was tumed off Itseems like if he had to work, he should have called. Annie: Yeah. So, after midnight he finally came home, and he was really drunk. Tess: Oh, wow. Yeah, you know, he drinks too much Annie: | know. Well | told him that he should have at least called me, Tess: Yeah. Of course. Tess: “| ‘Annie: But he told me that | was being bossy’, Tess: Really! ‘Amie: He yelled” at me and he told me to shut up! Tess: Well, that's terrible! Annie: Yeah. | was really mad, and | told him that | wasn't his slave" (1 Annie needs advice about her relationship with her boyfriend. She's talking to her best friend, Tess, about it Tess: Well, good for you! ‘Amie: | don't know, After that, he got really angry. He started yelling at me, and he grabbed my arm. No. ‘Amie: And he pushed me against the retrigerator. Tess: Tess: Really? Annie: Yeah. So | screamed, and he hit me Tess: What? He hit you? Oh, |. can't believe it. That... that's terrible! Annie: | know. | decided right then that | was going to break up with* him. I was so shocked” and so scared. Tess: Yeah, ‘Annie: But the next day, well, he came home from work and he brought me flowers. He said that he was really sorry for what happened. He told me that he needs me. He also told me that his boss is causing a lot of trouble for him at work, and that he's really stressed. And he promised” that he would stop drinking. Do you believe him? Do you think he really will? What are you going to do? | don't know. | really want to believe him. It's hard to imagine him changing. | don't know what to do, Tess: Annie: CHECK YOUR UNDERSTANDING 1. What made Dan angry? 2. What did he do? 3, How did Tess react?UMUC AISD Read these three opinions. Tein Koji Monica Annie should break up Annie should give Dan another Annie should tell Dan how she immediately with Dan, ‘chance, and not talk about it. feels, and try to discuss the problem. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 (e's obviously sorry, and she) “Dan seems to be under stess, and) (“Everyone gets angry once in a ouldn't overreac ) Antic should try to help (whi 4 5 6 —____*_____. =e (Dan tas serious problems. Things) (“He'll soon forget his promises. >) (“Communication isthe key 10 (Cat get wore (Afnie can't trust him _) \ solving this kind of problem Now compare with a classmate, Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Trin? Do you agree with Koji? Do you agree with Monica? Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree / | disagree / | reaily disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? What advice would you give to Annie? Give your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Advice Rewons > > Gapierine & txcwancine Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons. role TE Read the advice that counselors might give. Check the ones you agree with. Then have a role play. A 2 ‘Show all your feelings. It's okay to argue! ‘You are a relationship counselor You are having trouble with Talk about your problems calmly and rationally. Ask many questions about Student Se eran You ask a Ee ee aaa Bisrwatenahip Gve advice on how elonehip courseor (Student Bont daa bres is en alae Lest atts Aiornepy xpath irae ja about your i. guumala__sourpartner dee that you Being a good listener is the most important skill How is your relationship with..? don't lke. Ask for advice. my idea: a vininu HOW did you feel about.” oe eee oe You could. My boyfriend/ girlfriend always. Whal should Ido? @ee Lae 3 1, Does your work influence your healt i , 2.Atwork, doyourboss and GUT en 17 Shen has a problem in his office. He emails his American coworkers uence your mood? friend, John, for advice. As you read their emails think about this: iow? é mi 3. you havea “mean boss" what can Do i carer ee you do’ Shen Hi, John, hows everything going? Did you have a good weekend? Do you remember that | wrote you about the new boss in my office? | was excited because he seemed to be a great guy, very polite and easy to get along with. Well, unfortunately, | was wrong. He's not so easy to get along with, At least not for me. I don't think he likes me, When we're alone, he's mean’ to me. He speaks harshly’, and criticizes’ my work. And he doesn't joke with me or act friendly ike he does with other employees", But when other people are around, he's very polite to me. The rest of the workers in the office say he is terrific"! Everyone likes him. | wil try to do my best, and hope the new boss changes his mind. What do you think I should do? John: ‘Shen, thanks for your email. Yes, I had a great weekend. But /am sorry to hear about your new boss. It sounds like you need to do something! Do you have any idea why he doesn't like you? Did you do something to make him angry? Shen: I don't think I did anything wrong. | think he just doesn't like me. Yesterday he gave me a list of 500 people to contact and told me that | had to reach? everyone by Monday—in three days. I's going to be impossible! Three people couldn't do itin @ week! Il do my best, but 'm worried that he's setting me up to fail”, | really think he just wants to fire’ me and this is his way of doing it John: ‘Shen, you've got to do something! Don't let him get away with it Your new boss is trying to fire you. You need to talk to him directly. Tell him that you feel you're being mistreated". Ask him if he thinks he's being fair to you! Or maybe you should talk to the president of the company. Good luck! CTS ole LSC UUIL How does Shen's boss treat him dit ferently trom other workers? What jod did Shen's boss give him? How does he feel about i? Shen: Thanks, John, for your advice, But there's no way | can do what you suggest. t's impossible for me to ask my boss what is wrong. We can't do that here, And going to the president, well, that would even be more diff cout. In this country, you don't go over your boss’s head" and talk to the president. | will continue to try® to do my best. If he fires me, Ill have to accept that. Why won't Shen tak to the president of the company? 4, Wheat will Shen do?Monica ol Shen should talk directly Shen should find a new job. Shen should say nothing, and to his boss. continue to do his best. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the box Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 (Somesines tsa goteato >) (“Complning on envio mow) (is ei find a ae jo wed) \ ind out what is going on. _) \ aittcuties. _) ou alteady havea job oe 4 5 6 (When your boss doesnt like you, ) (Stow everyone your value by») (Direct action is usually a good») (het you should quit (_srerking Hard snd not causing ouble,) { way to correct x problem or as senna it ee al, iatrnsnscinanlanseeceli se \ misunderstanding, y Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Monica? Do you agree with Pablo? Do you agree with Koji? ‘Answer for each person: / really agree // agree / | disagree / | really disagree. LOGUE LAce. ALLO Lste What advice would you give to Shen? Why? Give your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Advice Remons ring & Excwancing > > | Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons. VaLucs activity What makes a good employee? Someone who... wee Yes No works hard all of the time . has a life outside of the office ‘comes to work on time 7 : is respectful to the boss leaves work at the end of the day ns is respecttul to fellow workers always stays late doesn't complain never takes a vacation ‘ your idea: takes a vacation Exchange your ideas with a classmate. ®OOCoCee 2, Are you more comfortab! ora woman boss? Does it matt | 4 Naomi Dilemma Feiettieny © Naomi calls her brother, Tom, to ask for advice about a situation at work. What is the problem? you more comfortable matter? tha man CCST MUSOU Naomi became uncomfortable, What di Naomi's boss do? \What does Naomi think about dating in offices? What is Toms acvioe? man or a woman teacher? Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi Tom: Naomi Tom: Naomi Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi: Tom: Naomi Tom: Whats she atraid of? Hallo. Hey, Tom. It's me. Oh, hey, Naomi, What's wrong? I need your advice. |... have a problem at work, Let's hear it. Well, it's... i's my boss. What did he do? He's... he’s acting weird! | thought you liked him. | did, up until yesterday. What happened’ Well... okay. | had just sent him this long email updating’ him on a really cool project | was working on, and he called me into his office and I thought he was going to talk about that. But then he asked me out” Ona date? Yeah. It was really uncomfortable. Oh, | get it’, So, you don’t like him that way’, | thought he was great, until he did that, you know? Now | don't know what to think. it was just so inappropriate’. It was creepy’ Creepy? | mean, is he older than you? No, not really. A few years, maybe. Well, | mean, is he married? No. Did he act weird with you? No, not... act weird with me. Did he threaten'to fire you if you didn’t go out with him or something? No, he was actually very polite. But, wait. That's not the point. He shouldn't ask me for a date at work like that. t's not right. I's going to mess everything up". Naomi, dating nowadays, it's becoming a lot more common in the workplace Tom, don't you get it? He’s my boss! I'm afraid he might fire me if | say no. I don't think itl come to that”, Listen. Things are really changing nowadays. I'm not sure those old rules apply anymore. And, | mean, you're both adults, and you like each other, so why not give it a shot"? | don't know if that's such a good idea. But thanks for your advice anyway. Yeah. What are big brothers for?Read these three opinions. 5 ¢ 8 Carmen ‘Anton Tein Naomi should go out with her Naomi should find a new job Naomi should complain to some- boss one time. first, and then quit her job. ‘one in the company. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements G a a 5 (nite, we often have to do things) (~ Sometimes people worry too much. ) (When we think we are right, we re are) (eee ) 4 5 6 (People who do wrong things have) (“It is hopeless o complain ) (Aa situation is hopeless, then we >) i be exposed. ) Sesh velar eee need to be clever and fi tobe exposed, 7 \ need to be clever and find a solution. Now compare with a classmate, Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Carmen? Do you agree with Anton? Do you agree with Trin? Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree /'| disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? What advice would you give to Naomi? Write your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Reasons Gianierine & frcwan > > | Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons. Advice CET Ss ds What makes a good boss? Someone who is... we te Yes Ne aman . wellkeducated : woman a ‘experienced ae 2 older than me . very formal younger than me easy to socialize with very smart your ideas: Exchange your ideas with a classmate.@ e @ Q @ @ GD «. 1 5 ea ane Workers titel) 1) Mark, a Canadian software engineer, has been working in Tokyo for six months. His company, Intensa international, but most of the Tokyo staff is Japanese, including Mark's boss, Mr. Tanaka. He's 1. Should you socialize with your co-workers or your boss? Why or why riot? 2. Should you keep your personal life Separate from your work? Why o UT talking to his fellow worker, Yosuke. As you read their conversation, think about this: How does Mark feel about drinking with the other people who work in the same office? Mark: Yosuke: Mark: Yosuke: Mark: Yosuke: Mark: Yosuke: Mark: Yosuke: Mark: Yosuke: Mark: Hi, Yosuke, how's everything? Hello, Mark. What's happening? Oh, not much. Are you okay these days? I'ma little worried about you. Why? Well, you know, we all went drinking last night and you didn't join us, and | was wondering, Oh, that again. Yes. We missed you. Hmm. Did Mr. Tanaka say anything about my Rot joining you? Well, he did say he was worried about how you were getting along with' everyone. | was afraid of that. | think what he really means is "Why won't Mark go drinking with us?” Well, Mark, itis important. I's part of the way we do things here in Japan. And actually, we hired? you because you speak Japanese and you understand how we do things here. | thought you hired me because | was a good CSS lL Cg 1. Why Goesn't Mark want to go df Why does Yosuke think it's impo ant? Yosuke: Mark Yosuke: Mark Yosuke: Mark: Yosuke king after work? What do you think Mr. Tanaka is going to do about Mark? engineer, nat because I'm a good drinker. Well, you know what | mean. it's more than that. Often we spend time talking about work. things... nothing official’, but it helps when we're all back at the office. I's part of getting ahead. Look, Yosuke, | understand, but | don't want to be pressured’. | have to have a personal fe | don't want to spend my free time that way, But, Mark, that's the only way to get ahead” here. Human relations are important if you want to succeed | don't believe thet. Ill succeed with my abot, not by getting drunk" with my boss. It’s unprofessiona’’ But, i's fun. We always have a great time, and we all know each other really well now. know you guys have fun, but... t just seems unprofessional to me. Okay, well, | respect your opinion’. But | don't think that's the way Mr. Tanaka sees itRead these three opinions. 6 8 §$ Monica Koji ay Mark shouldn't go out drink- Mark should go out drinking Mark is right. He'll get ahead by ing. His company shouldn't It's part of the culture. being a good engineer. expect him to. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 (Me's not trying hard enough to) (“An international company should ») (( He shouldn't insist on his cultural (understand Fapanese culture.) (adapt to its work U) ales. D 4 5 - 6 (Ts important to focus on your “Drinking has nothing to do ») (Tes okay if not everyone does the ») Crontieg sm son rent) ethensincerng ( same hing D Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Monica? Do you agree with Koji? Do you agree with Ray? ‘Answer for each person: / really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? What advice would you give to Mark? Give your advice and your reasons. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Avice Reasons > > | Now form groups and discuss your advice and reasons. Coa TTT ae Here are some cultural practices. If you were living in a different culture, which ones would you adapt to? Write a number (1=easy to adapt, 2-somewhat easy, 3=somewhat hard, 4=very hard to adapt). singing karaoke (Japan) smom Gating fast food (US.) eating dinner at 10 p.m. (Argentina) kissing someone to say hello (France) w~ taking a siesta in the afternoon (Spain) hugging someone to say goodbye (Canada) ‘wearing tiny bathing suits (Brazil) your idea: giving gifts for many social occasions (China) Compare with a partner.1 6 Dre for Success 41s there a formal wilted inn] (1 Mia Rios, an English teacher, is talking to the director of her OO your office or school, Mr. Lee, about another English teacher in the school. sores What is Ms. Rios complaining about? What does Mr. Lee decide to do? - What do you wear avery day? How do you decide? Ms. Rios; Thank you for taking time to see me this moming, Mr. Lee. | know you're vary busy. Mr.Lee: No problem, Mia. Now, what's on your mind? Ms.Rics: Well, it's kind of a touchy subject’. I's about Ms. Bailey. Mr.Lee: Really? Is it something about her teaching? She's one of our best teachers. She always gets high evaluations’ Ms. Rios: Oh, yes, yes. Mr.Lee: The students love her. Ms. Rios: Yes, | know that Mr.Lee: Did the two of you have an argument"? Ms.Rios: No, no no no. It’. i's nothing like that. I's... well, i's the way she dresses. You know, her short skirts, and her lttle tops. Mi.Lee: Ah, yes. That Ms. Rios: Yes. Yes, the way she dresses. | know it distracts" the students, especially the boys. | mean, just this moming | heard some of them talking in the hall about it Mr.Lee: Well, in fact | did try to bring it up indirectiy’, but she didn't seem to understand. Ms. Rios: Well, could you talk to her again? Don't you — don't we have a responsibility’ to the students? Mr.Lee: Well, perhaps you can talk to her. You're a woman, and she might. Ms.Rios: | can't do that! That's not my place, Mr. Lee. You're the director. I's your responsibilty Mr.Lee: I'm not sure I can either. Ms. Rios: Well, if you won't bring it up’, then perhaps we should recommend a dress code" at the next teachers’ meeting! Mr.Lee: No, | mean, that's not necessary. | mean, | hope that we can work this out. Cer Bol UL 1. What do the students think of Ms. Bailey? 2. What does Ms, Rios think of Ms. Bailey? 3, What does Ms. Rios propose to do about the situation? 4, Does Mr Lee agree with Ms. Flos?Read these three opinions. 6 G Carmen Amber ‘Ms. Rios was wrong to ‘Mr. Lee aa ell Ms. Bailey Mr. Lee should talk to some of complain about how another to dress differently. the students to see if there is a teacher dresses. problem. Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 1 2 3 ((Atis the job of the schoo! director) “If you have a problem with some-) / The director of a school needs to to make sure that teachers act and | ( one, talk diteetly to that person.) | make sure that students pay dress correctl ee \_ attention to their studies. MS 4 5 6 /‘Pethaps Ms. Rios is the only» (“We should not act quickly.) Don’t worry about what other person who is upset by the way) \ We need to think before we act.) | people do. Just do the best job ) ~ e went / \ that you can do. (Ms Bally dresses Now compare with a classmate. Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with Carmen? Do you agree with Ray? Do you agree with Amber? Answer for each person: | really agree / | agree / | disagree / | realy disagree. a Mcel ML esty What should Mr. Lee do? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. Your Position Supporting Statements >» Capievin & thewancine Life siren mai ULas Describe what you would wear in these situations. Give a reason: ‘totes eween Toschoo Towork: Z To the movies: To an expensive restaurant. Toa wedding: Toa funeral: Toajob interview: your idea! Now compare your ideas with a partner.1. Have you ever done something embarrassing at work or at School? 2. Have you ever done something to make your boss angi 3. What is the most for you asistible food in the world (1 Sometimes a small act can cause a big problem. In this story, Lydia is in trouble. Why? What does she decide to do next? I'm in chocolate trouble! Last week our boss came back from Europe and brought some Belgian chocolate into the office. At lunch, when | want to the employee refrigerator’ to get my lunch, saw the box in there, and | knew it was for us! But for the rest of the day, my boss didn't say anything. | kept checking the refrigerator, and back at my desk, | couldn't stop thinking of the chocolate, Then, around 4:00, | pretended? to go for coffee, but in fact ‘went to the employees’ lounge and took out the box of chocolates. was only going to small it. But when | had it in my hands | thought, “It's okay, i's for us. Why not have my piece a little early?” opened it up and ate one and went back to my desk, A bit later, | found myself back at the refrigerator. | looked at the box and noticed that you couldn't tell one was missing. The box stil looked full. | thought, “I might as well? have a second piece.” It was so good. | was in heaven’. Then | thought, “Well three isn't so different from two... well, four isn't so different from three...” until suddenly | had eaten half the box. | felt really stupid knew that I'd have to admit that | ate all of those chocolates. But, oh well — what's done is done. | closed the box and retied* the ribbon and thought, “At least it looks okay from the outside. The explosion* came the next day. The chocolates were for a client”. When the client opened the box and it was half emily, my boss nearly died of embarrassment’. That was a week ago. ‘Our boss is still furious” and has been making everyone work late. ‘What did Lydia She keeps asking us over and over who ate the chocolates. She says she told everyone beforehand that they were for a client ‘Wht was her boss's reaction? My colleagues” are disgusted" with her attitude, but are also disgusted that “the thief” hasn't admitted to the crime. I1hink that 3, What is Lydia's main problem? they secretly suspect me. | never thought this problem would get so big. Should | quit my job? Admit the truth? Just let things calm What are Lydia's down? I'm in so much trouble. that got her in trouble? ices now?Read these three opinions. James ‘Anton Lydia should admit to her boss Lydia should tell the truth to that she stole the chocolate. her co-workers and ask for adh armen Itis better if Lydia doesn’t tell anyone Match the supporting statements with the opinions. Write the numbers in the boxes. Each opinion has two supporting statements. supporting statements 2 3 (Ws unfair won -workers) (There's nothing to be d>) (They can help decide 's unfai workers) 's nothing to be gained, and») (‘They can help decide how to ( sutte. alot w lose ) rant the situation 5 6 (you mate a misake, you should) (er co-workers havea right (Admitting « mistake would only (beionest about it ») Goiknow things worse Now compare with a classmate. ‘Work in a group of three. Ask your partners: Do you agree with James? Do you agree with Anton? Do you agree with Carmen? ‘Answer for each person: / really agree / | agree / | disagree / | really disagree. CALL ced oases ‘What would you do in this situation? State your position and support your ideas. Use new ideas in addition to the ideas above. You Position ‘Supporting Stam ‘Ganerine € treuancine > PERSONAL STORY Tell a story about a time you felt embarrassed. Draw simple pictures in these four squares to show what happened. Tell the story using the language below. language remember once, When I was... years old In this picture here, This is a picture ot. Then what happened was. Next After that I fot. horible/ totally embarrassed/ shocked St ©