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I will be talking today about sadness, from a personal perspective.

As I only have a few minutes, I will start directly with the definition of today's
topic: sadness. As we all know it is an universal emotion resulted from the loss of
someone or something important. We see sadness as unhealthy, wrong, unproductive.

In our society, we’re constantly striving to feel positive emotions—only positive

emotions. Happiness. Joy. Gratitude. Calm. Peace.

We see sadness as unproductive. We just “don’t see the point” in feeling sad. “If
there’s a lot of sadness, due to grief or loss of a loved one, it can feel
overwhelming. Plus, there’s a kind of pressure to “at least appear happy all the
time,”.Ultimately, we see sadness as an emotion to avoid at all costs. And we do
try to avoid it at all costs. “Most of us weren’t taught how to be there for
ourselves when we’re feeling down, so avoidance feels like the only way to
alleviate the pain,”

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If we dive deeper into the matter: Sadness is one of the four main human emotions —
the others being happiness, fear and anger. Sadness is valid and useful; it alerts
us to how we need to treat ourselves, and also as to how we want to be treated by
others.

Next we will be talking about the feeling, the challenge and the question - all
around this topic of sadness.

The feeling of sadness which will not be confused with depression or grief, can be
experienced when someone we like or love is unkind to us, when we see or we
experience something that hurts us.

The challenge: Some people have a real difficulty when trying to identify this
emotion, due to living in a culture which values “positive” emotions above the more
negative ones. We need the full range of our emotions to be in working order so we
can respond appropriately to our own needs and those of others.

The question: You can check your true feelings by asking yourself what made you
feel angry. If you are interested in your authentic feelings, then you can uncover
what you feel by keeping asking the same question: “What does it mean for me when -
feel in the dots.

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So, going to the timeline: We ask ourselves what does that mean for us when we get
angry so we can identify what made us sad and be able to respond appropriately.
Allow the feeling of sadness, explore it and find out what we need, work through
our feelings and accept them.

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Seeing the brights side: sadness can improve our memory, our judgement, can
increase our motivation and in some cases even improve human interactions.
A negative mood improves attention to detail and results in better memory.
It promotes a more detailed and attentive thinking style.
People who are happier will sometimes be less motivated to push themselves toward
action compared to someone in a negative mood, who will be more motivated to exert
effort to change their unpleasant state.
Theory is nothing without practice. Sadness can help individuals attract social
support after a loss, protect them from aggression after defeats, and promote
personal reflection and self-repair.
1) Ask yourself: How does sadness actually feel in my body?
2) See if you can locate a place where sadness is most noticeable.
3) Try mentally “breathing” into that location or simply incline your attention
toward.
4) Let go of the need to make the feeling go away. Let it be there, moment by
moment, and allow it to do what it does. Perhaps it is simply saying, in its own
way, “This moment is not what you wanted, but it’s the only one you’ve got.”

I will leave you the link to the presentation and also what inspired me today. The
books, the articles and a list of music to listen to - about sadness but that, in
the end, will give you a warm fuzzy feeling.