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PAPER
This paper was prepared to fulfill the assignment for the Cross-Cultural
Understanding taught by Mr. Mulyadi, SS, M.Pd.
Compiled by:
Dela Safitri (19381032038)
Muh Fathor Rosy (19381031041)
Ananda Naufal A.M (19381031184)
TARBIYAH FACULTY
2021
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FOREWORD
Group 4
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
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FOREWORD..................................................................................................
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TABLE OF CONTENTS...............................................................................
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CHAPTER I PRELIMINARY......................................................................
A. Background
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B. Formulation of Problem........................................................................
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C. Purpose of Writing
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CHAPTER II DISCUSSION.........................................................................
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A. Friendship
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B. Madurace and American Create Circle of Friend
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C. Madurese and American people View Male-Female Relationship
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D. Madurese and American People Initiate
Cultural Relationship
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REFERENCES...............................................................................................
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CHAPTER I
PRELIMINARY
A. Background
Culture is the power of the mind in the form of copyright and flavor, while
culture is the result of a copyright sense, initiative, and a sense of the
Koentjaraningrat (1976:28). Culture is owned by every nation, and therefore the
culture of every nation are mutually different. Although sometimes there are
similarities as well as family and race. As in discussion is that how can we facilitate a
positive impression of the people of different cultures with us, of course we must first
understand their culture so as not occurred clash culture between our culture with
their culture.
Speaking of the word 'friend', in the Oxford Dictionary the word friend is defined
as: “one attached to another by affection or esteem”.
In American culture and some countries in the world, the definition of the word
friend alone can be very diverse. Friends can mean many things including: close
friends childhood, best friends, new friends, family friends, schoolmates, friends in a
particular team or community, coworkers, friends roommates, acquaintances, or even
girlfriends/boyfriends (lover).1 So In the practice of everyday life, the word friend can
be more freely defined depending on the proximity factor, the relationship factor with
the family, the condition factor environment, and so on. One may have many friends,
but they will only have a few close friends.
B. Formulation of Problem
1. What is friendship?
2. How do Madurese and American people create a circle of friend?
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Iin Rachmawati, S. M. (2018). Dasar-dasar Teori Cross Cultural Understanding. Bangkalan: STKIP
PGRI Bangkalan Press .
3. How do Madurese and American people view male-female relationship?
4. How do Madurese and American people initiate cultural relationship?
C. Purpose of Writing
1. To understand about friendship.
2. To understand how Madurese and American people create a circle of friend.
3. To understand how Madurese and American people view male-female
relationship.
4. To understand how Madurese and American people initiate cultural
relationship
CHAPTER II
DISCUSSION
A. Friendship
Friendship or best friend is an interpersonal relationship between two
individuals who are productive and positive2. Relationships that exist in
friendship must build each other in a positive direction. Friendship is a voluntary
relationship that has intimacy, mutual help, and both individuals desire the
presence of friends in their lives3. Friends are a source of happiness for
individuals, because the intimacy that is formed can exceed other types of
interpersonal relationships.
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DeVito, J. (1995). The interpersonal communication book. New York: Harper Collins College
Publishers.
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Miller, R. S. (2015). Intimate relationship (Vol. VII). New York: McGraw-Hill.
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Talking about the word 'friend', in the Oxford Dictionary the word friend is
defined as: "one attached to another by affection or esteem". In American culture
and some countries around the world, the definition of the word friend can vary
widely. Friends can mean many things including: close childhood friends, best
friends, new friends, family friends, school friends, friends in certain teams or
communities, co-workers, roommates, acquaintances, or even female
friends/friends. man (lover). So in the practice of daily life, the word friend can be
more freely defined depending on the proximity factor, the relationship factor
with the family, the environmental condition factor, and so on. A person may
have many friends, but they will only have a few close friends.4
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Iin Rachmawati, S. M. (2018). Dasar-dasar Teori Cross Cultural Understanding. Bangkalan: STKIP
PGRI Bangkalan Press, hlm.78.
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intimate or close.5 This example is not to generalize to typical Americans
because there are definitely some of them who have enough time to establish and
maintain their friendship.
Madurese
On the other hand, typical of some Indonesians, such as Madurese people,
who have very strong friendship bonds between one person and another who
come from one area. For example, when there are Madurese people who
migrate to an area, usually in that area an association or community of
Madurese people will be formed. They will help each other and their
friendship will become closer and become like brothers because they both
assume that they share the same fate. Even when there is a Madurese who has
migrated to Kalimantan or Papua and he gets a fairly high position in an
institution or company, he does not hesitate to help his friends both for work
and other forms of assistance.6 No matter how far they migrate, the bonds of
friendship among people from their culture will always be strong.
C. Madurese and American people View Male-Female Relationship
In American culture in general, men and women can form very close
relationships. In terms of a society that comes from a culture where the
relationship between men and women (where there is no marriage bond) is
limited or even prohibited altogether, of course this American-style culture can
be very confusing. Single men and women as well as those who are married or
engaged can interact intimately and become close friends and share their personal
problems without getting involved in a romantic relationship.7
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Iin Rachmawati, S. M. (2018). Dasar-dasar Teori Cross Cultural Understanding. Bangkalan: STKIP
PGRI Bangkalan Press, hlm.78.
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Ibid.
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Iin Rachmawati, S. M. (2018). Dasar-dasar Teori Cross Cultural Understanding. Bangkalan: STKIP
PGRI Bangkalan Press, hlm.79.
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Friendship between men and women in Madura is still seen as an unusual
relationship in society. Social norms held by society are still limited in regulating
how individuals make friendships between men and women in society. Social
norms are guidelines that regulate how a person behaves in society. These
limitations give rise to stereotypes about friendship between men and women.
Society has a stereotype that the relationship between men and women is a
romantic relationship, there are even people who think that friendship between
men and women is an impossible relationship. The existence of border ambiguity
between male and female friendships and romantic relationships reinforces this
assumption. Individuals who undergo these friendships must be careful in their
behavior in their environment, so as not to be considered a romantic partner or a
potential partner to continue the relationship into a romantic relationship.8
Americans (especially those who live in smaller cities) are still known to be
friendly even to foreigners. It's not unusual when you're queuing at the post
office or at the grocery store, for example, when someone invites you to talk
on light and universal topics like "It's really sunny today, isn't it?" And a few
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Monsour, M. (2002). Women and men as friends : Relationships across the life Span in the 21st
century. USA: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.
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Iin Rachmawati, S. M. (2018). Dasar-dasar Teori Cross Cultural Understanding. Bangkalan: STKIP
PGRI Bangkalan Press, hlm.78
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minutes later they will tell you a little life story or information related to their
life for example, "Yes, my wife left me a long time ago" or something like "It
seems I really need a new assistant because my children are moving out of
town soon. ” or something like “I'm going to be a dad soon”. For some
foreigners in America, this is considered very strange because you should not
trust strangers to tell about your life. For Americans themselves, telling a little
bit of their life story to strangers is not an exaggeration because they just want
to share happiness or want to relieve fatigue for a moment. For them, it's okay
to talk to strangers because after all they will never see that person again.
In contrast to the Madurese, when on a trip for example and meet foreigners
with different cultures, of course. Madurese don't hesitate to start a
conversation, even many of them seem to "glorify" strangers and maybe some
also want to make closer friendships. But it doesn't necessarily tell a private
life like some Americans do to foreigners.
CHAPTER III
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CONCLUSION
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friendship will become closer and become like brothers.
REFERENCES
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