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Building trust in addiction recovery is a challenging task that demands a great deal of honesty and
planning to ensure that broken relationships can be repaired.
Medically Reviewed
Updated on 01/18/21
For people struggling with substance use disorders, the recovery process can be difficult. Oftentimes,
relationships with family, friends or loved ones may become strained or permanently altered as a
consequence of addiction. In many instances, addiction recovery requires individuals to rebuild trust
with the people they once had friendships or intimate relationships with.
Rebuilding trust is very much a part of the recovery process, especially if a person with substance use
disorders violated another person’s trust at some point in the past. Individuals might feel undeserving of
the trust and support they once received from their loved ones. The work needed to repair relationships
in recovery can introduce many different feelings, including some stress and anxiety. Therefore, it is
important for people in recovery to seek a healthy means of self-expression, adopt positive and
constructive coping strategies and learn how to mend broken relationships with those they love.
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When contemplating how to build trust in a relationship, individuals should assess which relationships
are in need of repair and why. People in addiction recovery must be mindful of the potential harm that
can come from continuing a relationship with someone who is not concerned about their recovery or
growth toward a substance-free life. If you are in recovery, it’s important to rebuild relationships where
trust has been breached and with individuals who encourage your recovery.
Rebuilding trust in recovery takes time. Other people’s emotions, time, space and the healing process
must be taken into consideration in order to mend broken relationships. When rebuilding trust in a
relationship, individuals should set small, but clear goals and have a plan about how to achieve them.
This could be something as small as a phone call once a week with an estranged relative or a lunch date
with an old friend. The transition period should move naturally, gracefully and without force, as other
people deserve to make a conscious decision about whether they want to have a relationship with
someone in recovery who has hurt them in the past. Examples of relationships where individuals may
hope to rebuild trust include:
It is important to note that there are other potential relationships that individuals in recovery may wish
to mend. These may include relationships with sponsors, teachers, coaches, coworkers or bosses.
Trusting yourself in recovery is one of the greatest challenges. Substance use disorders can leave lasting
impressions that can cause someone to lose their self-esteem, motivation and sense of purpose.
Feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy can exacerbate difficulties during recovery. Individuals must
remain intensely dedicated to their recovery by having a support system that can help them through
turbulent times.
One way people hinder their own recovery is through internalizing a victim mentality. The underlying
reasons why a person may feel victimized are often complex. Generally, individuals may blame others
for their own predicament, even if they are the cause of their own problems. It is important to practice
building self-esteem in recovery.
Forgive yourself for past mistakes and committing to adopting healthier habits is a huge step toward
healing. If you continue to focus on how others have wronged you, where you fall short, or your past
mistakes, then you may continue to be distracted from opportunities for building trust in recovery.
Replacing old habits with new, positive habits and thoughts can go a long way in establishing
constructive routines. For example, going for a morning walk in nature can help you devote time for self-
reflection in your day.
Addiction creates wedges between friends because in an attempt to hide addiction, lies are created to
cover it up. When trying to figure out how to rebuild trust with someone you hurt, taking responsibility
for your actions is of the utmost importance. Second, acknowledging wrongdoings when talking to a
friend can go a long way. Third, apologizing and moving forward, even if a friend decides not to repair
their relationship with you, is necessary.
Rebuilding trust and repairing relationships with family can take months or even years. Relationships
may never be fully repaired. Remaining patient and dedicated to repairing and nurturing a “new”
relationship with family or loved ones can make a difference in how the relationships are mended.
The importance of family support in recovery cannot be overstated. If you have a family that has been
supportive throughout the recovery process, taking time to acknowledge and thank them for their
support can reinforce the positive changes that have taken place and the progress that everyone has
made.
Research suggests that family support is a crucial part of a person’s recovery. The same way that
addiction can destroy friendships, it can also impact relationships with loved ones. Family members may
lose trust because of lies to cover up your addiction, for example. When building trust in recovery,
honesty should be the guiding principle. Openly expressing to loved ones how you plan on repairing the
relationship with them is the first step. Following through on promises is the second step. Drug
addiction recovery is a lifelong process for most people. Continuing to make efforts toward mending
relationships with family will be beneficial in the long run.
Rebuilding trust in a marriage can be complex, especially during recovery. Professional family or
marriage therapists are available to help navigate and coach people in recovery on how to rebuild trust
with their spouse or partner. Addiction may drastically change how one partner views the other. With
professional help, conversations about what it means to be in a relationship with someone in recovery
can be a learning experience for both parties. Repairing relationships with a spouse is important for the
same reasons as rebuilding relationships with family members. Having an adequate support system can
ease stress and pressure during recovery.
Atadokht, Akbar; Hajloo, Nader; Masoud, Karimi; Narimani, Mohammad. “The Role of Family Expressed
Emotion and Perceived Social Support in Predicting Addiction Relapse.” March 2015. Accessed
September 20, 2019.
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