Sweet November

Most probably you’re familiar with the movie, or for the ones that didn’t have yet the pleasure to watch
it, I recommend it to you with all my heart. I will not go through the same approach of most of the
existent comments on the internet, and I don’t intend to describe the fatality of an incurable disease, of
an inevitable passing in the “after life”, or of an unfulfilled love.

I’ll describe here still a different kind of fatality, with a great relevance proved by each of us, more or
less, and that is, that after 20, 30 or 70 years, whenever we find out such overwhelming piece of news
like the one in the movie, we suddenly notice that we wish to “live life to the max”. What stopped us in
doing it until then? Why do we wish so badly to live our lives to the maximum only when we are told
that our lives is getting to an end soon? What did we do until now?

As far as I understood from this movie, the main actress plays the role of a woman (obvious!!! ) that is
trying to impose to others and to herself a set of rules meant to create the fake feeling that she’s
controlling her own life. Many would say that I have no right to criticize and or to analyze the behavior
of someone in this type of situation, and I don’t even intend to. But I can use it as an example to criticize
all of us for the learnings we’ll get from this movie, and we’ll never apply them in our lives.

What’s interesting here, is that even if the majority of us are surrounded by a feeling of fatality, of
unfairness, of helplessness, of sadness etc by watching this movie, in our day to day lives we do … well,
almost nothing of what should resemble with the “life to the max” concept, wrongly believing that our
lives will last for at least 450 years and that we have enough time to do whatever we like to do.

In reality we should be better (and not just miming the goodness), we should make time to appreciate
an autumn leaf, the sun, a nice romantic walk with the person we love, the simple fact that we have
parents and friends, we should be thankful and enjoy the fact that we are healthy and we have the
possibility to do so many things during our lifetime.

I’ve red once, I don’t remember where, something really relevant for this purpose: “The man was born
to live, and not for preparing to live”. This is what I wanted to highlight. We should try to be more
relaxed, to be more opened, to disbelieve the fact that what we have now was given to us “by default”
as I like saying, to stop being so miserable about we are, to disappoint less.

In conclusion, we should make each and every single day a special one, because we have a reason, and
the is to avoid ending up someday, one day, even around 70 year old … to look back and to see just a
huge gap, and wanting then so badly to start filing it. “Sweet November” …. Make every day of your life
a …. November one.

Keep it positive.