Success Story - Cold Approaching Works

Escalation & Calibration

Hey all,

Been lurking on this sub since my break up summer of this year. Have had some major ups and
downs since then but the last few days have really opened my eyes to what approaching can do
for you.

I'm from a Western large US city visiting Miami for work. The women here are not only extremely
gorgeous but they're everywhere. Something about the nice weather just brings them all out and
they dress to show some skin. My first week or so in town I was getting down on myself because I
didn't approach much and actually fell for a hooker scam on a dating app ($100 but still).

Over the weekend, I rode a bike to Miami Beach and saw a beautiful lady getting off the bus. I was
nervous but approached her from the side and asked if she had recommendations of anywhere to
eat. She responded in a thick accent, said she just got in town and was looking for the mall. We
ended up cruising along the walking mall, getting to know each other. She was a flight attendant
from Albania in town on vacation for a few days off. I found somewhere to eat and got her
WhatsApp before we split up.

We ended up texting and it was a little flirty but not overtly and decided to grab dinner and hit a
rooftop bar the next day. We meet up and she's dressed to the nines. Dinner goes smoothly but
not too flirty, I'm telling myself to not try and impress her and just think "Do I like her" as opposed
to does she like me.

We go to a rooftop bar and it doesn't quite have the amazing views I was expecting and you can
tell she's a little disappointed. We have a drink and a good conversation but she's not really fully
reciprocating my eye contact or flirty notions. Few hours pass by and we take septate Ubers back
to where we were staying.

She hits me up after and says I'm sad the night ended so quickly. I told her it's not too late and she
tells me where she's staying. Long story short I take an Uber to her hotel and we go at it all night.
We have a quiet morning, take a walk on the beach, some good conversation and then go our
separate ways. To be fair I think she was kind of starved for physical affection but I'm not gonna
complain.
POINT IS -- closed mouths don't get fed. You have nothing to lose by approaching a stranger and
you never know what will happen. Keep putting yourself out there because someone will be into
you for being you and for being bold.