Advanced Personality Development - Session5

ADVANCED PERSONALITY
DEVELOPMENT
Session - 5
BECOME CLASSY AND ROYAL

Become Classy and Royal
➢Habits that Makes You Classy!
If you're on a mission to become more sophisticated, it will mean paying more

attention to your looks, attitude, and behavior. A classy guy is one who is polite,
charming, neat, clean, and cares for others. Pick your wardrobe carefully, brush up
on your manners, and treat others with respect. Do this, and you'll become the
envy of others.
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Become Classy and Royal - Learn Secret Habits to become Classy in your Actions.
Show self-confidence through body language.
Classy guys are like the magnet in the room: everyone is drawn to them. This
isn’t because they show off or go out of their way to draw attention to
themselves. Rather, it's simply because of their self-confidence. Even if you feel
shy, appearing confident will actually make you feel more self-assured over time.
Try things like:

✓Looking people in the eye when you talk to them.
✓Shaking hands when you meet people.
✓Standing in a “power pose” (legs slightly apart, hands on hips, arms bent out
slightly at the elbows).

Compliment people around you.
Look for ways to make others feel good about themselves, and they'll start to
admire you for paying attention. It's easy to do this by dishing out compliments.
Just keep them genuine!

✓Try giving simple compliments to people you know, like “Hey Karl, that jacket
looks great on you!”
✓You can also practice by saying nice things to strangers, like "What a cute dog
you have!"

Remember things that are important to other people
Make notes about birthdays, special things you know they like, and so on. People
will consider you classy if you show attentiveness. Everyone loves to be
appreciated!

✓Make sure to congratulate people on their birthday and other important dates.
✓Surprise people by remembering their likes: “Pam, I know you love chocolate
eclairs, so I brought some in for the office this morning.”

Give others a chance to talk.
Classy guys will be charismatic, but not dominate conversations. Give others a
chance to speak, and ask them questions to show that you care about what they
say (“So you’re into action movies? Which ones are your favorites?”)
▪ As you listen to others talk, nod and use facial expressions to show you're listening.

Start conversations in a classy way.
Whether you're meeting someone for the first time, or starting up a

conversation with someone you already know, take things slow. A classy guy will
start by asking how the person is doing, then move on to natural topics of
conversation.

✓For instance, if you're at a wedding, start by asking the person next to you if
they're enjoying themselves.
✓Avoid asking for someone's phone number or contact info right away. Wait until
you've talked a bit, to make sure the person is interested.

➢Eliminating Bad Impression!
First impressions go a long way. One mistake, one bonehead move, and your
reputation can be damaged forever.

As an affiliate marketer, creating personal relationships with the right people in

the industry is imperative to your success. Sure you can do everything by
yourself, but knowing other successful affiliates and key players in the industry
will present a lot of new and exciting opportunities and help you grow your
business a lot faster.

Become Classy and Royal - Eliminating Bad Impression
Personal Hygiene
Having bad hygiene is one of the ultimate first impression killers, which is why it’s
first on the list. Making sure that you shower, brush your teeth, wear deodorant
etc, especially before a big meeting, conference, or networking event, should be a
top priority.

No one wants to hang around someone that smells like one of Shaquille Oneal’s
socks after a basketball game, so it’s important that you make sure you are
always at your freshest.

Be Confident
Showing a lack of confidence can be detected from across the room and is
something you want to try and avoid at all costs. Things like fiddling with your
hands, talking softly, and avoiding eye contact will not only make the conversation
“weird”, it can also hinder your ability to take that relationship to the next level.

Most people want to work with someone that gives off a confident persona (FYI
there’s a difference between confidence and cockiness) and someone that
believes in themselves and in their abilities. Simply put – showing a lack of
confidence will equal a lack of opportunities.

Stay Clear Of “The I Disease”
Constantly talking about yourself and how awesome you are (especially when
meeting someone new) is a great way to lose their interest in you, the
conversation, and any hope of developing a prosperous relationship with them
moving forward.

Instead, focus on speaking less, listening more, and trying to learn as much as you
can about the other person. When the time is right, fill them in on who you are,
what you do, and how you see the two of you helping each other in the future.
Be brief, don’t ramble, and remember that it takes two people to have a
conversation.

Avoid Wandering Eyes Syndrome
Do you remember how you felt the last time you met someone, started talking
to them, and throughout the entire conversation they were either playing on
their iPhone, looking around the room, or constantly checking their watch? It’s
something you will always remember about that person, and chances are, you
wont ever want to do business with them again.

So make sure you give each and every person you meet, your undivided
attention.Trust me, it will go a long way.

Leave On A High Note
You just had a great conversation with someone you met for the first time, you
exchanged contact information, and now you’re unsure if you should keep
speaking with them or if it’s time to walk away and meet some new people. One
way to gauge this is by the other person’s body language.

It will usually tell you whether or not they want to keep talking or if they are
ready to move on. So make sure you pay close attention to it, because nothing is
more awkward than sticking around when the other person is ready to move
on.

Mind Your Manners
Things like chewing with your mouth open, texting at dinner, and using foul
language (depending on the situation) are all first impression killers. Not only will
people take you less seriously, some will be turned off by you completely. So
make sure you are always on your best behavior, especially when you meet
someone for the first time. If not, you risk losing that relationship forever.

KnowYour Boundaries
Sometimes people can go a little overboard trying out “risky”

humor (jokes they thought others would find funny, but in
reality found extremely offensive), and by asking questions
that are way too personal (especially for a first time
conversation).

I always suggest that you hold off on those types of questions and humor, until
you’ve spent some time with that person and got a feel for their boundaries.
That way you don’t put your foot in your mouth the first time you meet them.

➢How to Win Trust?
Trust is a huge asset in every business situation.
While it's possible to do business with people who don't trust you, it takes a lot
longer-- and it usually involves complex negotiations and ridiculously detailed
contracts.

Become Classy and Royal - How to Win Trust
You're vastly better off winning the trust of your customers--as well as
colleagues, coworkers, and employees. Here's how.

1. Be Trustworthy
This rule seems obvious, but there's more to it than you'd think. The word
"trustworthy" literally means being "worthy" of "trust"--that is, you need to be
the kind of person who can be depended upon to follow through on
commitments that you make.

2. Create a Reputation
If you want to win trust, simply being trustworthy is necessary but not sufficient.
To create a reputation, you must transform your commitments (and your follow-
through) into publicly available information.

Whenever you make a commitment, send an email or letter, make blog post, or
in some other way create a kind of permanent record that you have done so.
(That means, for instance, that a text message won't suffice.) Then do the same
when you've fulfilled that commitment.

3.Add Daily Consistency
Trust builds on consistency, which is why commitments (and their fulfilment) is

so important. If you build up more consistency, people will naturally realize that
you can be counted on.

When people realize that you're capable of executing a simple task, day after day,
they naturally believe--correctly--that you can be counted upon to deliver, day in
and day out.

➢Increase Your Value
Your goal is to organize your life in such a way that you enjoy a good income, a
high standard of living, and that you are the master of your economic destiny
rather than a victim of changing economic times.

Become Classy and Royal - Increase Your Value
Contribution is the Key
Your job is an opportunity to contribute a value to your company in excess of

your cost. In its simplest terms, your job is as secure as your ability to render
value in excess of what it costs to keep you on the payroll. If you want to earn
more money at your current job, you have to increase your value, your
contribution to the enterprise.

Add Value Every Day
If you want to get a new job, you have to find a way to

contribute value to that enterprise. If you want any kind of
job security, you must continually work at maintaining and
increasing your value in the competitive marketplace.

And here’s a key point. Your education, knowledge, skills and experience all are
investments in your ability to contribute a value for which you can be paid. But
they are like any other investments.They are highly speculative.

Knowledge and Education Are Sunk Costs
Once you have learned a subject or developed a skill, it is a sunk cost. It is time
and money spent that you cannot get back. No employer in the marketplace has
any obligation to pay you for it, unless he can use your skill to produce a product
or service that people are ready to buy, today.

Prepare For Your Next Job
Whatever job you are doing, you should be preparing for your next job. And the
key question is always: Where are the customers? Which businesses and
industries are growing in this economy, and which ones are declining?

Never Be Without A Job
There are three forms of unemployment in America:

voluntary, involuntary, and frictional. Voluntary employment
exists when a person decides not to work for a certain
period of time, or not to accept a particular type of job,
hoping that something better will come along.

Involuntary unemployment exists when a person is willing and able to work but
cannot find a job anywhere. Frictional unemployment is the natural level; this
includes the approximately 4 or 5 percent of the working population who are
between jobs at any given time.

Three Keys to Lifelong Employment
However, there are always jobs for the creative minority. You never have to be
unemployed if you will do one of three things: change the work that you are
offering to do, change the place where you are offering to work, or change the
amount that you are asking for your services. You should consider one or more
of these three strategies whenever you are dissatisfied with your current work
situation.

Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, look around you at your current job and find ways to create added value
every day.There’s always something more you can do.
Second, identify the kind of work you want to be doing in the future and then
make a plan to develop the knowledge and skills you will require to do it well.

➢ Dealing with People
Learn the Simple Art of Dealing with Difficult People!

Become Classy and Royal - Dealing with People
3 Simple Strategies For Dealing With Difficult People

Think of a time when you were interacting with someone whom you found to
be difficult. Did he or she make you want to pull your hair out?
Let’s face it, difficult people can be extremely frustrating. No matter how hard
you try, you can’t hide from them. If you are a people-pleaser, they latch onto you
even more.

The fact of the matter is that you can’t change peoples’ behaviors. However, you
can change how you respond to it.
Difficult people show up in many different forms—they can be loud, rude,

aggressive, arrogant and/or dismissive. To make matters worse, they are usually
completely unaware of their behavior and how it impacts others.
3 simple strategies for dealing with difficult people.

1. Stay Calm
When dealing with difficult people, emotional control is the name of the game.
Don’t allow their toxic energies to derail you. When someone has you up against
the wall, it’s easy to want to react without thinking. However, reacting only
makes things worse.

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the
water is clear?” ~ Lao Tzu
When people project their emotional baggage onto you, do your best to stay
calm and have compassion for them. Maintaining your composure under fire is
the truest form of emotional mastery.

2. Listen To Understand
When you are confronted with a difficult person the worst thing that you can do
is get defensive. Instead, listen to understand. Listening is one of the most
powerful communication tools. A lot of people act out on others simply because
they want to be heard.

“In order to master compassion, you have to spend time getting to

know monsters. When you can do that you will see that there are no
monsters, only people that acted like monsters because no one gave
them the time or compassion to hear their story.” ― Shannon L.
Alder

Go beyond the surface level of someone’s words and strive to understand how
he or she feels. Listening to understand doesn’t mean that you have to agree
with someone. Rather, the intention is to uncover the root cause of someone’s
behavior so that you can better understand where he or she is coming from.

3. Establish Clear Boundaries
Establishing clear boundaries with difficult people can be challenging, especially if

it’s with people who you live or work with. However, sometimes enough is
enough.

If you want to protect your energy, you eventually have to draw the line in the
sand and say, “This is not okay.” Use your feelings as signposts. If something
doesn't feel good, then it isn’t good for you.
As Brene Brown once said, “Daring to set boundaries is about having

the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing
others.”

Express your truth and be clear about where your boundaries lie. Taking care of
yourself is a priority. Don’t ever feel guilty for standing your ground and
protecting your emotional and mental health.

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ADVANCED PERSONALITY

BECOME CLASSY AND ROYAL

➢Habits that Makes You Classy!

If you're on a mission to become more sophisticated, it will mean paying more

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Show self-confidence through body language.

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✓Looking people in the eye when you talk to them.

✓Shaking hands when you meet people.

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Compliment people around you.

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Remember things that are important to other people

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Give others a chance to talk.

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Start conversations in a classy way.

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➢Eliminating Bad Impression!

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Stay Clear Of “The I Disease”

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Avoid Wandering Eyes Syndrome

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Leave On A High Note

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Mind Your Manners

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➢How to Win Trust?

Trust is a huge asset in every business situation.

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3.Add Daily Consistency

Trust builds on consistency, which is why commitments (and their fulfilment) is

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➢Increase Your Value

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Contribution is the Key

Your job is an opportunity to contribute a value to your company in excess of

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Add Value Every Day

If you want to get a new job, you have to find a way to

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