Professional Documents
Culture Documents
5cb5ba39 9b48 d562 99ef 3caf9bc0a9a3 Wecanchilddevel Year by Year
5cb5ba39 9b48 d562 99ef 3caf9bc0a9a3 Wecanchilddevel Year by Year
Year by Year
The child’s sense for physical warmth Sing. Sing to your child. A baby is very
is not yet developed and we need to attuned to the sound of the parents’
make sure that the child’s physical voices. You will of course speak to your
forces are being used for growth rather child, but sing to your child, too, even
than for staying warm. The soul warmth if you only know a few songs. There is
of the family also protects the child and nothing as calming to most babies as a
invites him or her into life. lullaby. This is a timeless tradition that
is as true now as it ever was.
Create a Safe Space for Free Move-
ment Exploration. The child learns and Trust. Learn to trust in your developing
develops capacities through move- relationship with your child and your
ment. The restraint of a car seat is nec- own intuition. When questions arise,
essary for the child’s safety, but free- new parents should, of course, use
dom to move in an uninhibited way as supportive resources such as doctors,
often as possible at other times is the counselors, and more experienced
best way to support the child’s unfold- parents, but also weigh the advice
ing movement capacities. The size and given to you with your own growing
nature of the play space will change understanding of your child. Trust also
as the child grows from a blanket on in your child’s capacities. Life is not
the floor to a child-safe room next to always easy and we need to allow our
the kitchen where a child can explore children to learn to overcome small
freely while dinner is being prepared. challenges.
We need to resist the temptation to
Renewed trust, in yourself and in your
help the child or use equipment that
child, is the gift of the first year. You
helps the child sit or stand prema-
have survived life with not enough
turely. Play objects can be simple and
sleep, overcome fears of failing to be
will also change as the child grows.
the perfect parent, and discovered a
Observing what interests your child in
newfound joy to balance what you
the moment will help you choose new
may have had to let go of in choosing
play objects as he or she grows.
to become a parent. Your child’s open-
Take Walks in Nature. Give yourself ness and trust in the world may even
and your child regular excursions in have led you to a greater trust in life.
the fresh air and elements. Of course Links
this implies dressing the child in J. Swain, “Emmi Pikler’s Trust in the Wise Infant,” from
proper clothing for the weather and A Warm and Gentle Welcome (WECAN 2008)
protecting the child from overexpo-
sure to heat or cold. Babies love to Books
lie on the grass beneath a tree and T. Atchison & M. Ris, eds., A Warm and Gentle
Welcome (WECAN 2008)
watch the dancing light and shadows
M. Gerber
of the leaves overhead. The rhythm Dear Parent: Caring for Infants with Respect
of walking or walking with the child (Resources for Infant Educarers 2003)
in a stroller can soothe the fussiest of Your Self-Confident Baby (Wiley 2012)
babies. The younger child is, the more H. Heckmann, Nokken: A Garden for Children, 2nd
important it is that he or she is nestled Edition (WECAN 2015)
M.T. Schunemann
in the parent’s arms (rather than facing
Sing a Song with Baby (Naturally You Can Sing 2001)
outward in the baby carrier) or can see
The Wonder of Lullabies (Naturally You Can Sing)
the parent’s face when being pushed in
the stroller.
becomes inner speech and for the emotional/social life and for
then, thoughts begin to arise thinking have already been planted by
ahead of speech. We could the age of three, movement is still the
say that movement brought primary mode of learning for the child
to stillness allows speech to before the age of seven. At any given
arise, and speaking brought moment, it is likely that the three-year-
to stillness allows thinking old may have a different plan or agenda
to arise. than that of the parent, and can be bold,
Karl Koenig expressed this process in a assertive and quite stubborn at home.
fairy tale picture. He called thinking the On the other hand, he or she can also be
sleeping beauty in the castle of the head sensitive, shy and reticent, especially in
that is kissed awake by the ”I.” The ob- new social situations, and in those situa-
jectification of the world that is required tions will not want to be the visible focus
for thinking is strengthened first by the of attention.
freedom that the child experiences in Challenges for the parents of the
uprightness and learning to walk, then three-year-old:
by the power of language to describe
Because of the child’s new capacities,
things and relationships. The differentia-
it can be tempting to over-stimulate
tion between the self and everything
the three-year-old with intellectually
else culminates in the child’s saying, “I.”
oriented activities. This can be a hidden
The sense of self as separate is referred
challenge for parents. Even asking
to in developmental psychology as the
the child many questions and giving
emergence of self.
them too many choices can tax their
The sense of oneness with everything forces and cause unnecessary stress.
fades somewhat with the emergence Offering two equally good choices (for
of self, but along with the capacity for clothing, food or activities) is much
thinking comes the capacity for fantasy more age appropriate than asking,
”What would you like for breakfast?” prefer to know already that the story
or “What would you like to do today?” is about them. Stories about simple
Objects for creative or dramatic play are everyday activities and excursions are
more essential and developmentally just as satisfying as “adventure stories”
appropriate than puzzles or specifically for the three-year-old. All of life is still
designed teaching toys. an adventure.
There are many media options de- This is the gift for the parents of the
signed for young children around the three-year-old: finding the spirit of
age of three. In Waldorf early child- adventure in everyday living.
hood education, however, we recog- Links
nize the continuing critical importance R. Long-Breipohl, “Thinking and the Consciousness
of three-dimensional experiences for of the Young Child” from A Warm and Gentle Welcome
(WECAN 2008)
the child up to the age of seven. The
J. Steegmans, “The First Three Years, Part III” from
long-term benefits for future academic Cradle of a Healthy Life (WECAN 2012)
success of supporting the develop-
ment of their imaginative capacities Books
and strengthening their will to stay T. Atchison & M. Ris, eds., A Warm and Gentle
Welcome: Nurturing Children from Birth to Age Three
with and play out their inner “thought (WECAN 2008)
pictures” has been well documented in H. Britz-Crecelsius, Children at Play: Using Waldorf
recent studies. Principles to Foster Child Development (Inner
Traditions 1996)
When is the right time to begin instruc- S. Howard, ed., The Developing Child: The First Seven
tional classes or preschool? Again, play Years (WECAN 2004)
is the key. Is the class or preschool play- S. Jenkinson, The Genius of Play: Celebrating the Spirit
of Childhood (Hawthorn Press 2003)
based? Are the instructors develop-
A. Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from
mentally aware and appropriate in their Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason (Atria
approach? Too many different activities Books 2006)
in the course of a week can leave both N. Mellon, Storytelling with Children (Hawthorn Press
2013)
parent and child breathless.
J. Steegmans and G. Karnow, Cradle of a Healthy Life
Three-year olds are beginning to follow (WECAN 2012)
Books
One expression that engenders social-
P. Bradley and B. Patterson, eds., Beyond the Rainbow
ness is “Let’s,” for example, “Let’s tidy Bridge (Michaelmas Press, 2000)
up together.” This takes the sting out of L. deForest, ed., Tell Me A Story (WECAN 2013)
the child’s having to stop their chosen A. Faber and E. Mazlish, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen&
activity to do something that is neces- Listen So Kids Will Talk (Scribner 2012)
sary for the good of the family. Another A. Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards
expression that seems to work magically and Punishment to Love and Reason (Atria Books 2006)
is, “You may…(fill in the blank).” What is R. Long-Breipohl, Supporting Self-directed Play
(WECAN 2010)
being communicated here is that the S. Oppenheimer, Heaven on Earth: A Handbook for
children are being allowed to participate Parents of Young Children (Steiner Books 2006)
in something important, and doing so K.J. Payne, Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary
is a privilege, especially if adults carry Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure
Kids (Ballantine Books 2010)
the same feeling inwardly. Parents have
need protection from their self-initiated new phase of development that begins
chaos. By upholding the consistency around the seventh year.
of their expectations, parents provide
dependable ballast that can mitigate
the child’s feeling of upheaval.
Six-year-olds will cooperate if they are
given simple, appropriate reasons for
doing so; if requests are communicated
with a good dose of humor; if decisions
are framed so that they are not an either/
or or a yes/no situation. Generally speak-
ing, direct confrontation is not usually
an effective strategy. Six-year-olds need
some breathing space to process the
situation and to feel that they are coop-
erating out of their own will.
Keeping a positive attitude, although
not easy, will help both parent and child
navigate more successfully. Modeling the
they are working notice their increased R. Ker, “Observations of the Six-Year-Old Change,”
ibid.
skills. Time outside in nature is also a
healing and helpful influence during this Books
period of development. N. Blanning, ed., First Grade Readiness (Second
Edition) (WECAN 2009)
The gift of parenting a six-year-old is R. Ker, ed., You’re Not the Boss of Me! Understanding
the strengthening of one’s own calm the Six/Seven-Year-Old Transformation (WECAN 2007)
center in order to support your child as R. Louv, Children and Nature: Making Connections
(The Myrin Institute 2014)
he or she navigates the changes that
M. Rawson & M. Rose, Ready to Learn: From Birth to
herald the end of the first seven-year School Readiness (Hawthorne Books 2002)
cycle of growth and development. You
may begin to notice a calming down
after 6 1/2 , as your child consolidates
these changes and prepares for the
In Waldorf education we speak about From physiology, we know that all of our
the first seven years as the period of cells are replaced every seven years. The
time during which the child “takes hold” birth of the child’s life body is the result
of his or her physical body. This “taking of the child’s taking hold of his or her
hold of” gesture includes the change physical body during the first seven years
of teeth. The emphasis on teeth comes of life. Once the child has taken hold of
his or her physical body and some of
the growth forces are freed up for other
creative functions, the child has gained
his or her own “protective garment,” usu-
ally referred to as the life body or etheric
body. Waldorf educators recognize this
freeing of some of the creative forces
from activities of growth and mainte-
nance, at around seven years of age, as
a sign of the birth of the child’s own life
body or etheric body. Prior to this subtle
“birth,” the child has lived in the “womb-
like” protection of the family life.
One visible sign that seven-year-olds are
undergoing significant change is their
passion for skipping and jumping. While
the child at the beginning of the first
Photo courtesy of Gretchen Devinsky
This publication was made possible by a grant from the Waldorf Education Foundation.