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Attitude of Gratitude
2019/12/12
But in the world of coaching gratitude is more than just giving thanks,
it is an intentional practice, one that is backed by scientific research
and an ever increasing awareness of the benefits of an ‘attitude of
gratitude’.
Source: Audio extracted from ICA’s Module ‘Gratitude’
The idea that gratitude was something one could “choose” to develop
really began around the same time as Positive Psychology took off.
The Benefits of Gratitude
Strengthening emotions
Improving sleep
Reducing a focus on materialism (and increasing a focus on
spiritualism)
Reducing feelings of envy
Improving productivity
Source: https://www.happierhuman.com/benefits-of-gratitude/
Like many things that are good for us, it seems that deliberate focus
and daily practice of gratitude can eventually create a desire to
continue, even if we were reluctant to begin with The article “Health
Benefits of Gratitude: 6 Scientifically Proven Ways Being Grateful
Rewires Your Brain + Body for Health” by Conciouslifestylemag.com
talks about the effect Gratitude can have on the brain, and highlights
some of the main benefits.
Elements of Gratitude
1. GENEROSITY
A natural extension of gratitude is generosity. Grateful people
notice the contribution of others to their success. They see when
others are behaving at their best and, when others make
mistakes, they look behind the mistake to the other person’s
intent. They give others “the benefit of the doubt”. They so
clearly see the “gifts” that others give them that they
automatically want to give something back.
2. ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
One of the most powerful strategies is acknowledgement. By
acknowledging how far you have come, you not only encourage
yourself to strive further, but you actually force yourself to stop,
recognize and enjoy the wonderful things that you have
achieved. Reflect for a moment and recognize the positive
things in your life and the things that you have done to make
these things happen. Acknowledge others around you.
3. POSITIVITY
Most coaches have heard about the story of the 2 wolves. It is a
story attributed to native American origins and tells the tale of a
grandfather using a metaphor of two wolves. The wolves
represent his inner conflicts are fighting within him. When his
grandson asks which wolf wins, the grandfather answers
whichever he chooses to feed.
4. APPRECIATION
Noticing and being appreciative of what you already have in life,
or what you haven’t had to endure can also be great vehicles of
gratitude. Sheryl Sandberg talks about the death of her husband
Dave. They were on holidays in Mexico and he died suddenly
and unexpectedly from cardiac arrest whilst working out at the
gym.
One day my friend Adam Grant, a psychologist, suggested that I think
about how much worse things could be. This was completely
counterintuitive; it seemed like the way to recover was to try to find
positive thoughts. “Worse?” I said. “Are you crazy? How could things
be worse?” His answer cut straight through me: “Dave could have had
that same cardiac arrhythmia while he was driving your children.”
Wow. The moment he said it, I felt overwhelming gratitude that my
family was alive. That gratitude overtook some of the grief. Sheryl
Sandberg, The Boston Globe
There is not a whole lot written about grief and gratitude but there
are select articles that demonstrate the role it can play and helping
someone grieve. It seems that by turning the focus, even just for small
moments each day, on positive thoughts and feelings around the
bereaved person the days can be easier and resilience can be
developed.
Coaching Application