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Helvinder Balbir Singh 1, Drs. Zulkernain bin Hashim 2, Muhammad Iqbal Samadi 3
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Senior Lecturer / Counselor, UniKL Royal College of Medicine Perak
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Lecturer ,UniKL Royal College Of Medicine Perak
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Counselor, UniKL Royal College Of Medicine Perak
ABSTRACT
The aim of this study is to identify the trend of love styles (romantic-eros, game-ludus,
UniKL RCMP according to their streams. A survey was conducted to observe the love styles
among the undergraduates students from University Kuala Lumpur Royal College Of Medicine
Perak (UniKL RCMP) in Ipoh, Perak. This survey involved 120 undergraduates from UniKL
RCMP. The instrument used in this study was a set of Inventory (contained of 60 items) called
The Liking and Loving Scale by Rosenman which had been translated and innovated by Dr.
Sidek Mohd Noah (1998). Analyses and outcomes were presented in this studies. The result from
the study have shown that there is a strong endorsement for romantic-eros love style profile and a
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INTRODUCTION
Recently, there has been a major resurgence of interest in the topic of love. For many of us, love
is like an oxygen. We can't live without it. Expression of words like ‘love is blind’ is often heard
but we seldom express such words of love to our loved ones. Surely, we as human beings have
never get rid from experiencing feeling of love. The feeling of love has been given to us by GOD
so that we are able to enjoy and same time give love to others and feel it as well.
Researchers have long examined the concept of love. The media and arts have presented many
examples of lovers who exhibit different styles of love; e.g., Romeo and Juliet. Love is an
important predictor of happiness, satisfaction, and positive emotions in our lives (Anderson,
1977; Diener & Lucas, 2000; Myers, 1992). Over the years, there are have been many different
conceptualizations of love.
According to Mohd. Makzan Moses (1997), romance and love is the most ideal attraction
between people. Love affection and intimacy can provide endless fun in humans. Romance and
love are found to be difficult and complex to be practical, particularly in the studies of
Robert Sternberg (1986) in J. Grace Craig (1999) uses the "Triangular Theory of Love” to
describe love in a complex relationship. According to him, love must go through three
components that is intimacy or closeness, feeling of passion or infatuation, and the third
component is commitment.
Therefore, style of romantic relationship may be measured by using an inventory called The
Liking And Loving Scale. It is by observation and sensitivity made by individuals against
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individuals who are in love. Generally there are six types of love and the ways it is the love of
friendship, romantic love, game love, logical love, belonging and sacrifice love. Therefore, it
will be interesting to find out the new trend of love styles among students in UniKL RCMP
Love has also received considerable attention from both the research community (e.g., Hendrick
& Hendrick, 1992a, 1992b; Sternberg and Barnes, 1988) and the popular press (e.g., Buscaglia,
1972). Lee (1973, 1988) described six love styles; three primary (eros, ludus, and storge) and
three secondary (pragma, agape, and mania). Each of Lee’s love style will be discussed below.
Friendship Love (Storge): Storgic love develops from a strong sense of friendship with the
partner. If eros is characterized by love at first sight, storge is love as ‘evolution.’ Storgic love is
Romantic / Passionate Love (Eros): Eros is full of passion and sexuality. Erotic lovers are
attracted to the physical characteristics of real or potential partners. They know what physical
characteristics they want their partner to possess and know a potential love partner when they see
one or more. Erotic lovers believe in and experience love at first sight. As such, Lee (1988)
notes that in eros, love is very much not blind. Eros regularly begins with an intense physical
Game / Playful Love (Ludus): Ludic lovers see love as a game is to be played cunningly for all
that it is worth. Ludic lovers see love as exciting and will remain in a relationship (or multiple
simultaneous relationship) only as long as the ‘game’ remains fun. Commitment is not the ludic
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lovers’ strong suit. For the ludic lover, sex is an enjoyable, but purely physical part of a
relationship.
Logical Love (Pragma): A combination of ludus and storge, the pragmatic lover represents a
cognitive (as opposed to an emotional lover). The pragmatic lover has a number of
characteristics that they are looking for in a romantic partner and systematically searches for a
partner possessing those characteristics. Pragmatic love is the outcome of meeting another
Sacrifice / Selfless / All-Giving Love (Agape): A combination of eros and storge, agape is
unconditional. The agapic lover is altruistic, willing to give up everything for their lover. Where
ludic lovers anter a love relationship for what it can do for themselves, the agapic lover enters
Belong / Dependent/ Obsessive Love (Mania): A combination of eros and ludus, mania
preoccupation with one’s partner, is ‘intensely jealous and possessive, and in need of repeated
assurance of being loved’ (Lee, 1988, p.43). On the other hand, the manic lover holds back from
OBJECTIVE
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METHODOLOGY
Participants
UNIKL RCMP. The sample was comprised of 50 males and 70 females students ranging in the
age from 18-24 years old. The age group, gender, religion, streams and education level
Instruments
The instrument used in this study was a set of inventory from The Liking And Loving Scale
which has been translated and innovated by Dr. Sidek Mohd. Noah (1998), to examine the six
love types of individual. IGB consist of 60 items with a five point Likert Scale according to the
level of strongly disagree to strongly agree with the statement in the item (1=Strongly Disagree;
5= Strongly Agree). Six items in the scale represents each of six major love styles named as Eros
Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania, and Agape. High scores obtained from each subscale indicate the
Procedure
The data collection procedure was conducted in classrooms on a voluntary basis after a brief
description of the purpose of the study. Details about the completion of measures and importance
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Data Analysis
RESULT
AGE GROUP
Column1
41
33
29
17
6
GENDER
FEMALE Series 3
34
18
12
18
8 12
6 12
NURSING
PHARMACY
PHYSIOTHERAPY
RADIOGRAPHY
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RELIGION
NURSING PHARMACY PHYSIOTHERAPY RADIOGRAPHY
35
25
15
10
2 2 1 3 2 3 2 2 2 2 3 3 2 2 2 2
0 0 0 0 0
ISLAM BUDDHA KRISTIAN HINDU SIKH LAIN-LAIN
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STREAMS
NURSING PHARMACY PHYSIOTHERAPY Column2
45
35
20 20
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EDUCATION LEVEL
NURSING PHARMACY PHYSIOTHERAPY RADIOGRAPHY
41
27
25
17
2 1 2 1 1 1 1 1
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LOVE STYLES AMONG NURSING STUDENTS
Nursing Series 3
42
35
20 18
16 15 15 15
10 12 12
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Table 6 shows love styles among Nursing students. The results from the studies shows that there
is a strong endorsement for a romantic love style profile that is 35% and a poor endorsement was
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LOVE STYLES AMONG
PHYSIOTHERAPY STUDENTS
Physiotherapy Series 2
35
32
29.1
26.6
19
15.8 15.8
13
11 10 10.8
9.1
Table 7 shows love styles among Physiotherapy students. The results from the studies shows that
there is a strong endorsement for a romantic love style profile that is 29.1% and a poor
endorsement was found for a game love style profile that is only 8.3%.
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LOVE STYLES AMONG PHARMACY STUDENTS
PHARMACY %
40
33.3
22
18.3 18
15 16 15
12.5 13.3
9
7.5
Table 8 shows love styles among Pharmacy students. The results from the studies shows that
there is a strong endorsement for a friendship love style profile that is 33.3% and a poor
endorsement was found for a game love style profile that is only 7.5%.
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LOVE STYLES AMONG
RADIOGRAPHY STUDENTS
Radiography
43
35.8
24
20
18
15 15
12.5 12
10
8 6.6
Table 9 shows love styles among Radiography students. The results from the studies shows that
there is a strong endorsement for a game love style profile that is 35.8% and a poor endorsement
was found for a sacrifice love style profile that is only 6.6%.
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LOVE STYLES NURSIN % PHYSIOTEHRA % PHARMACY % RADIOGRAP %
G PY HY
FRIENDSHIP 20 16 11 9.1 40 33.3 15 12.5
(STORAGE)
BELONGING 15 13 19 15.8 18 15 12 10
(MANIA)
In general, the results of these studies reveal that love styles experience vary as for streams are
concern. It is important to keep in mind that not all individuals possess one approach or styles of
loving. A man or women may adopt numerous love styles, and a person’s love style may change
over his or her lifetime or during the course of a given relationship. As for this research is
concern, a strong endorsement was found for a romantic love style profile and a poor
DISCUSSION
(i) Strong Endorsement For Friendship (Storge) Love Style Among Pharmacy Students
Friendship includes characteristics most people desire in their spouses and lovers too and
includes enjoyment of each other’s company most times, acceptance of one another, mutual trust
that you hold each other’s best interest, mutual assistance in times of need, ability to confide in
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one another, understanding each other’s behavior and spontaneity; freedom to be yourself (King,
Among college students, the most desired love styles are storge and agape, and the least desired
love style is ludus (Hahn & Blass, 1997). Furthermore, most individuals prefer, and are happier
with, a partner with the same love style(s) as themselves (Davis & Latty-Mann, 1987; Hahn &
Blass, 1997). Similar love styles is an important predictor of satisfying, long-term relationships.
ethnically diverse sample of university students in Toronto. Women viewed love as more
friendship oriented, more pragmatic, but less permissive than did men, findings consistent with
previous research with American college students. Ethno-cultural differences or Gender x Ethno-
cultural Background interactions were also found. In line with an expected contrast between
Asian and Western cultural traditions regarding love, Chinese and other Asian respondents of
both sexes were more friendship oriented in their love relationships than were respondents of
(ii) Strong Endorsement For Romantic (Eros) Love Style Among Nursing And Physiotherapy
Students
Romantic love has strong components of sexuality and infatuation, and it often predominates in
the early part of a love relationship (Hendrick & Hendrick, 2004; Metts, 2004). Romantic love is
especially important among college students. One study of unattached college men and women
found that more than half identified a romantic partner, rather than a parent, sibling or friend, as
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According to Santrock (1999), romantic love is very important among students whilst according
to Erikson (in Papalia, 2000) to form an intimate relationship is one of the development tasks
Jankowiak and Fischer (1992) conducted a study of romantic love cross-culturally and found that
89% of the 166 societies they studied had evidence of passionate love (love songs in the culture,
delopement due to mutual affection, etc.). Hatfield and Rapson (1996) in their overview of love
in different cultures concluded, "People throughout the modern world seem to be equally
susceptible to love and to experience it with the same fervor" (p. 88).
In regard to romantic love in the U.S., researchers (Knox and Sporakowski, 1968; Knox, 1970a)
found that the younger the respondent the more likely the belief in romantic ideas about love
such as "love at first sight" and "love conquers all." Data from the current study show that after
almost thirty years, youth and romanticism are still related. Thus, despite a high divorce rate,
premarital education programs, and public awareness of violence in relationships, first and
second year college students still believe very much in the mystery of love (it happens on sight
and conquers all problems). Montgomery and Sorell (1997) found that relationships
characterized by romance and passion are likely to be among the most satisfying.
In a classic book titled Colors of Love (1973), J. A. Lee defined six varieties of relationship that
might be labeled love. In his studies of couples happily married for over 30 years showed that
couples who rated their marriages as highly satisfactory described their relationship in terms
which resembled erotic love more than the other five types. This might be surprising; in view of
the earlier-mentioned finding that limerence type relationships tend to flare out quickly among
college students. However, it might be the case that long-term relationships that contain both
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friendship and a passionate spark are more likely to endure and provide satisfaction to both
Scott R. Braithwaite conducted a study on Romantic Relationship And The Physical And Mental
Health Of College Students found that his studies tested the hypothesis that, analogous to
well-being than single college students. In a sample of 1,621 college students, individuals in
committed relationships experienced fewer mental health problems and were less likely to be
which in turn decreases both risky behaviors and problematic outcomes. These results are
discussed in the context of how premarital dating relationships may contribute to understanding
of the observed association between marriage and well-being. (Scott R. Braithwaite, Raquel
In the majority of Western cultures, most people involved in long-term romantic relationships
consider their partners to be their best friends and the persons they would most likely turn to for
support in times of need (Pasch et al., 1997). Receiving social support has important benefits,
including a decrease in stress and an increase in physical health and happiness, while
simultaneously increasing satisfaction and commitment to the relationship (Coyne et al., 2001;
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(iii) Poor Endorsement For Sacrifice (Agape) Love Style Among Radiography Students
Agape type of love was least familiar to students. In a classic book titled Colors of Love (1973),
J. A. Lee defined six varieties of relationship that might be labeled love. He reported in a
classroom poll, conducted in two American introductory psychology classes of over 250 students
each, the first five types were all familiar to over 80% of the students from their personal
experience (their own relationships or people they knew). However, less than 10% of students
(iv) Poor Endorsement For Game (Ludus) Love Style Among Physiotherapy, Nursing And
Pharmacy Students
The Effect Of A Ludus Love Style On Sexual Experience research by Hensley, Wayne E. (in
Social Behavior And Personality: An International Journal, Vol 24, Number 3, 1996, pp. 205-
212 (8) examined the effects of a game-playing love style - ludus - (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1991)
with sexual experience. In a sample of American college students (N=305) the study found that
sexual experience was related to the ludus (game-playing) subscale. As the tendency to endorse
items of the ludus scale increases, the individual reported an ever larger number of sexual
partners. Neither the gender of the respondent nor the effect of being in a deepening
interpersonal relationship mollifies the tendency to endorse the ludic items (Hensley, Wayne E.,
1996).
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CONCLUSION
expressions of love are important, including romantic, partnered love. Generally there are six
styles of love and the ways it is the love of friendship, love, romance, love games, love logical,
love, belonging and love sacrifice. While the world changed, but love does exist and bloom.
Love may be the same style but the techniques and how to change. Advances in information
technology has enriched techniques such as electronic love or e-mail and so on.
The result from this study have shown that the students have a strong endorsement in romantic
(eros) love style profile and a poor endorsement was found in game (ludus) love style profile
characterized by students.
Some different limitations of this study were that the research was only conducted among college
students, within a limited age group. Research related to this study could be expanded through
various measures. Subjects in different age groups could also be included in the study. Different
types of marital status and ethnic groups could also be examined. The subjects might be tested
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