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It was a large rock — more like aboulder. While standing on this rock, Henderson's grandfather said, your great- grandfather was sold as a slave at the age of 12. Decades later, after poring over census and property records, Henderson's sisters went looking for the rock. Driving around the area where they expected the rock would be, they instead found a man working at a construction site. The man knew nothing about the history of, the land, but he knew about the rock — he had 2 JANUARY 23,2022 broken it up to make space for a garage and thrown the debris in bushes nearby. Henderson's sisters went looking in the bushes. The rock, in pieces, was there. Now, a three-pound chunk of it sits in Henderson’s office. To him it’s a symbol and a stark reminder that the justice system in which Henderson built a career — as general counsel for Amtrak and as head of labor relations for the National Football League — is built on a corrupt foundation. ‘What concerns him is the citation of legal precedents dating to slavery. “It bothers me not so much specifically as a Black person, but as a Tawyer,” he said. “The precedent that stands today — there's still prejudice, bias and misconception that tended to shape the law.” Justin Simard, a law professor and legal historian at Michigan State University — Henderson’s alma mater — has been fighting bias with an unlikely weapon: footnotes. Director of the Citing Slavery Project, Simard is building a database of cases involving enslaved people and ‘modern cases that cite them as a precedent. He even got the editors of the Bluebook — the legal profession’s arcane but rigorously adhered-to citation bible — to change its rules in its 2021 edition, requiring cases involving slavery to be identified. ‘Simard got the idea for the rule change when he saw a pre-Civil War case related to slavery cited as precedent in 2012. He started looking for other ILLUSTRATION: JONELL JOSHUAles from the past 20 years, thinking he'd find one or two. he found more than 200. ‘Simard was disturbed. For a ea on to be good precedent i, ue to treat that person as property.” he told me wolving an enslaved ay, @ property matte! The new Bluebook citation rule shines a light on this pract lawyers in search of procedent to find some not angled with the reprehensible human trafficking that 1 aun riven the Western Hemisphere lawyers must own the fact that t in historical suffering, “This forces judges and lawyers to confront the faet that they’re relying on slavery,” Simard said, “Is that the best support for their proposition?’ Rule 10.7.1(d) is unlikely to inspire a national racial reckoning — it demands, quite literally, parenthetical change. o 1619. Alternatively, these ‘theories find supyAs the Bluebook’s website explains, enslaved parties are now noted as exactly that: “(enslaved party)” And, the rule states, those eases “involving an enslaved person as the subject of a preperty or other legal dispute but not named as a party” are noted as “(enslaved person at issue), Harola Henderson, 2 retired tor lawyer, in Weston, Fl, Photograph ty Calla Kessler ‘These parentheticals are indeed modest change in legal citation overall and would be overlooked by those without bar exam in their past or future. They appear amid the tangle of other information routinely ineluded in case citations: party names, case year, and the volume number and page number of the ease collection, or “reporter,” where the ease can be found. In the Bluebook's new edition, “Dred Scott v. Sanford, 60) U.S. (19 How.) 393 (1857)" — the infamous ease that denied US citizenship to a Black man held captive in Missouri becomes "Dred Seottv. Sanford, 60 U.S. (19 How.) 293 (1887) (enslaved party)” Another example of the change: “Wall v. Wall, 30 Miss. 91 1855),” which saw a man’s widow and his brother fight over who would inherit the people he enslaved, becomes “Wall v. Wall, 30 Miss. 91 (1855) (enslaved person at issue).” ‘As small as this change seems, it has erties. Ahead of the rule's adoption last yeat, University of Chicago law professor Will Baule wrote in Reason magazine that it was “Iegally misleading, morally misguided” and “unscholarly."In an interview, Baude said slavery was a “moral horror” but a blanket rule wasn’t nuanced enough to address its legacy. Some decisions, such as Dred Scott, are so caught up in the Supreme Court's struggle with slavery that they wouldn't be blithely cited without direct reference to thelr historical meaning, he argued, “However the legal profession handles the issue, Baud said the remedy is not “tossing in some parentheticals." Indeed, phrases in parentheses may help normalize ahistorical wrong that should never be normalized. “Td hope when we're reading something, and suddenly the word slavery’ there, it raises our eyebrows,” he told me. “If we get used to seeing slavery vyada, yada, vada’ every time .. that's a harm." ‘Those behind the Bluebook — compiled by student editors at Harvard, Yale, Columbia, and University of Pennsylvania law schools — aren't talking about Rule 10.7.1(2). The style guide's current and most recent former editor declined to comment. Julie Graves Krishnaswami, Yale Law School's head of, research instruction, dismissed criticism of the rule as “opinions from outlier.” The Bluebook is edited by elites behind closed doors, she said, then sold to every law student in the country for profit The product often lags behind technology and popular practice — as when female scholars fought for a rule change in the early 1990s to include their frst names in citations, ending “rigid depersonalization and a sort of patriarchal system.” Though often confined to the margins of law review articles, names matter, Krishnaswami said. “Authority is important,” she said. “Naming in eitation is Tinked to how a discourse is shaped, how a field is shaped, and hhow one was placed in the hierarchy.” Henderson said he hadn't touched a Bluebook in 30 years, However, he was eager to work with scholars at Michigan State and at the University of Virginia, where researchers found three of his enslaved ancestors were forced to build the college, to learn more about how enslaved people built the country. “Knowledge is empowering,” Henderson said. “we get researchers working — if we get academies pressing the issue and following up on it, giving input and guidance — the next, generation will be much better informed.” Justin Wi. Moyer isa Washington Post etft write. THE WASHINGTON POST MAGAZINE 5,Just Asking “Modest reform creates tremendous backlash. And sometimes the backlash is more enduring than the reform.” Kimberlé Crenshaw INTERVIEW BY KK OTTESEN PHOTOGRAPH BY IAN MADDOX Kimberlé Crenshaw, 62, sa legal scholar who developed the notions of crtical race theory and intesectionality, She is law professor at UCLA, and Columbia, where she ks cofounder and execute rector ofthe ‘AMrican American Policy Forum and tho Canter for intorsectionaltyand ‘Social Policy Studes. Shelve in New York and Loe Angeles. Recently, critical race theory burst onto the national scene in sbably is somewhat unrecognizable to those who have studied it. Having coined the term yourself, what has ‘your experience been as you've seen ithecome this sortof intellectual boogeyman? ‘Wall, one ofthe very first articles I wrote was “Race, Reform, and Retrenchment.” The entire point was to anticipate that reform would inevitably reproduce retrenchment and backlash. ‘That has been the history of progress around race inthe United States: Modest reform creates tremendous backlash. And sometimes the backlash is more enduring than the reform. ‘When you see all those parents out protesting at school board ‘meetings about critical race theory being taught in the classrooms, what do you think? Tthink that the Republican right-wing outrage mach very powerful. [see the money behind it. [see the lick, high- production-value videos and booklets, and Isee the common language and phrases and jst ow isa campaign. Acarpaign ‘that isnicely framed as grass roots when, in fat, it isnot. Iseethe ingerprints ofthe think tanks thatforsome timehavebeen rooting around forsomething that would eateh ire, And Iseethat parents, some of them, fyou just follow some of the organizations ~ the Moms for Liberty — you see this isa regeneration of activists who have been in various formations. 1 plays well on TV, and itis shows. I'slike reality TV, which is not necessarily reality Yousaw [Florida Gov. Ron] DeSantisissued an “anti-woke” act? (6 sana 23, 2022 ‘Yes, And he actually used Martin Luther King o support the idea, What can be more a statement of racial power than to use martyr who died for particularcause, to use his name in order to say that he would support eliminating farther discourse about the cause that he died for? So that would be bad enough if they ‘were just using Martin Luther King as justification, but the fact thatsome ofthese folks are also saying we need to take ‘Martin Luther King’s books, or astory of his March on. ‘Washington, out ofthe curriculum even as they'reusing itto justify. Isitbetter inyour mind that critical race theory isout there being talked about, even ifit’'s being misused, rather than ‘existingiin its pure state but in amuch smaller conversation? ‘That is the question ofthe moment, and I think we won't know ‘the final judgment on this until history writes this story. And that ‘tumson who's doing the writing. [Laughs.] Which is honestly ‘whae'sat take right now. This is about what the future knows about this moment. ‘My thought, my hope, is that having put front and centerin ‘the American consciousness the importance of what histories we tell will bring constituents, parents, policymakers tothe table in away that they haven't been inthe past. To really understand ‘that to shink-about race is not the problem. To be racist isthe n. And racism isnot primarily thought erlme: its.an ional problem. So is it etter that this turns out that it makes people ‘who should have been conversant in theseideas realize that thereis no democracy without grappling with these issues, that there's no daylight between maintaining a multiracial democracy and being fully literate on anti-racism. If people recognize now what this has to do with January 6 if they recognize now what this has to do with the deterioration of ur democracy, then itwill have been a good thing, Because i's five-alarm situation, kk Ottesenisa regular contributor tothe magazine. Thisinterview hes ‘boon edited and condensed. 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Jordan Pyles and Ashlyn Harrell had come to make some small adjust ments to a temporary custody arrangement for their ‘year-old daughter, but on this March afternoon in 2018 what preoccupied them was their upcoming trial in June. Pyles, sar-old project manager at a steel manufacturing company, and Harrell, a 22-year-old full-time mom, were both hoping to win sole custody. “Teare about your child because I eare about kids,” Hall sald of the trial, which he would also be presiding over, "but I'm goingin Dlind, and you are going to have a very limited period of time to tell me and try to get something to click in my mind that makes me see things your way. .. And ['m probably not going to see it your way, either one of your ways.” At that point in Kentucky, as in most states, in a contested custody ease, one parent typically became the main custodian 16 sana 23,2022 fand the other was granted a certain amount of visitation. Listening to Judge Hall, Jordan and Ashlyn were each worried that the other parent would be awarded custody. Ashlyn was additionally concerned that during their contentious year-long ‘custody battle they had spent so much time painting each other as aabad parent that the court would take their daughter and put her into foster care Jordan and Ashlyn never married. Their relationship had floundered even before Ann, who is identified in this story by her middle name, was born. Ashlyn had been prepared to raise the child on her own, but from the beginning, Jordan had embraced fatherhood and sought to be an equally aetive part of Ann's life Ever since, Jordan and Asblyn had been on an exhausting ‘emotional and legal roller coaster: With Hall's words echoing in his mind, Jordan decided he needed to convince Ashlyn to consider another option. Witl ‘weeks, the state legislature was expected to pass a shared pare ing law mandating that, except in certain situations, 50-50shin Harel baits 3 fish nook wth her daughter Anni Madison, Ki Jhe, Previous pages ftom let: Ann with her father Jordan Pyles, ‘and with Harel. Pyles and Harrell share 5050 custody ran, parenting time would be the presumptive arrangement for permanent custody orders. If s0, it looked to Jordan like the ‘outcome was basically already decided, in which case there would ‘be no point to sitting through a heated trial. Cultural and legal norms in favor of 50-50 parenting — in ‘which children spend equal time with both parents — have long ‘existed in countries such as Sweden and Belgium. In the United States, over the past 25 years, there has been a broad movement by families and courts to give divoreed and separated fathers more time with their children and to encourage less traditionally ‘gendered parenting, But while joint legal custody, whieh involves shared decision-making about schooling, location, religion and ‘health, isthe norm, a30-50 shared parenting outcome is still the ‘exception, according to Michael Mosberg, past chair of the American Bar Association Family Law Section. Kentucky's 50-50 custody legislation — which dic end up. ‘passing and took effect in July 2018 — was the first of its kind in the country to make equal parenting not just up to a judge's discretion but the standard outcome. In 2021, Arkansas followed suit, Additional laws pushing for more equal parenting time are n in states as politically diverse as New York, Carolina. Spearheading this drive isthe National Parents Organization, fa group with roots in the fathers’ rights movement that is now focused on children’s rights and parental equality. In Kentueky, ‘Matt Hale, a construction company salesman who believed his ‘own kids benefited from a 50-50 custody arrangement, led the charge for the shared-parenting law on behalf of the local NPO branch, ‘Jordan favored the Taw and had engaged in activism to support it; Ashlyn didn't have a strong opinion regarding the legislation, but she questioned equal parenting in her own ease, For years, she'd worried about the impact on Ann of traveling back-and-forth between homes, of losing the strong mother- child relationship that she had always considered so important to a child's sense of stability, and even about her daughter's well-being in Jordan's care, Bt after that March afternoon at the courthouse, Ashlyn began to wonder if she was staking too much on a battle she wasn't assured of winning, At one of their regular pickups soon after the March court date, Jordan broached the idea of compromising on 50-50 themselves, and Ashlyn confessed that she'd been thinking about it too. Shortly afterward, following more discussions with family, she decided that going to trial ‘wasn't worth the potential heartache, Jordan and Ashlyn met with lawyers to formalize a plan for their daughter to go between Mom and Dad's place every other week, except for one night. The holidays would be evenly split. Jordan would continue to pay ehild support because he had ‘more income, and he didn't want that to get in the way of an agreement. But even as they arrived at a final answer, they were worried, Ashlyn especially. After all that time as enemies — including a troubling allegation that had left deep emotional scars — she wondered: Could they manage as co-parents? Most important, would the agreement end up serving the best interests of Ann? AS the push for equal-parenting laws continued to spread, the Kentucky law ~ and the experiences of parents like Jordan and Ashlyn — was about to become a potential bellwether for custody ygements across the nation. bhroughout history, the legal system has attempted diferent approaches to dealing with the emotional, cultural and legal challenges of child custody. When the United States was founded, children were considered thir fathers property, and so fathers automatically aequired custody, though there were fewer divorees back then. That presumption existed until the 1850s, when mothers became favored instead, especially ina childs “tender years" because they were thought to be the natural caregivers. ‘This practice continued for almost a century, until the 19705, ‘when favoring the mother came tobe sen as gender diserimina tion, an outgrowth of the feminist movement for equal treatment. Courts adopted a more gender-neutral frame, that custody should be decided in “the best interest of the child” instead. But almost immediately, legal scholars began arguing that the “best interest” standard is subjective, with judges bringing their personal beliefs around child rearing to the bench. The cultural Polities can become even more complicated in states like THEWASHINGTON POST MAGAZINE 17Kentucky, where family court judges are elected, “There is good reason tobe offended by the breadth of power exercised by trial court judge in the resolution of eustody disputes," Robert Mnookin, a Harvard Law School professor, wrote in a 1975 anticle, ‘Aceording to some legal scholars, this eurrent system ineentiv- izes parents to fight, both because it usually sets up a winner — a primary eustodial parent — and provides the financial incentive of child support. The amount of additional time a parent spends caring fora child, the more child support they're entitled to, and erties argue that the money sometimes interferes with parents’ ability to consider the welfare of the child frst. But this system, also has a purpose; it was meant to help address an imbalance that has long existed in American families, that fathers typically are the breadvinners while mothers sacrifice careers and earning potential to be the primary caregivers. The trend toward two-income households with more but not completely equal co-parenting, according to @ 2014 follow-up article by Mnookin, provides “fuel for both sides of the gender wars that plague divorce policy.” Over the past 25 years, there have been other efforts to even cout these gender roles. Each state has a list of gender-neutral factors that judges are supposed to consider when making a custody decision, including each parent's preference as well as the child's. Many states have laws stating a preference for both, parents to have substantial time with their children, Child support payments have been reduced, and long-term alimony has fallen out of favor. Inthe past decade, states have implemented “friendly parent” statutes to discourage any parent from trying to limit contact with the other parent by threatening to remove their status as the primary earogiver. Despite these efforts, mothers still usually get the kids. According to 2018 Census figures, mothers are custodial parents 79.9 percent of the time. Beeause couples goto court only around 10 percent of the time, the Pew Research Center says t isnt clear that gender bias by the courts isthe reason. Rather, it could be that fathers are not asking for primary or joint physical custody, perhaps because of their perception of how the courts will treat them or societal beliefs about who should be the primary parent. Jordan, however, was not one of those fathers content to allow ‘themother ofhis child tobe the main caregiver. He grew up inthe suburban working-class town of Hopkinsville, Ky., where his parents owned businesses together, ineluding a restaurant and car dealerships. “My parents were always together, and they raised us as a team, s0 I couldn't fathom anything different,” he says, Jordan imagined a traditional ife for himself: going to college, goting married oneehe'd established a career and having a large family. His senior year at Hopkins County Central High School, in search ofa date io the prom, he noticed ablond, bubbly freshman in one of his classes. Ashlyn, whose last name was Locke back then, was flattered by the attention from an upperclassman — a football player, no less. She grew up with her mom and grandma in nearby Madisonville, and though she was close to her father when she was young, he disappeared for along period due to personal problems and the relationship never filly recovered. Ashlyn, sil far from gradua- tion, didn’t have as eleara picture of what she was looking for in terms of career of family. She just knew the importance of the strong maternal figures in her li ‘The relationship was meant to be casual since Jordan was set to gooffto college the nest year. But the summer after his senior year of high school, Jordan decided to attend community college 1 sana 23, 2022 Annwatches her {ether prepare dinner athomewth other members oftheir family. | while working at a sporting goods store, partially to remain close to Ashlyn, Ashlyn was flattered by his dedication, She imagined that one day they would get married, Within a few months, however, their carly chemistry faded, and they ended up bickering constantly. Jordan thought Ashlyn acted immaturely, and Ashlyn believed Jordan's age made him feel like he had the right to tell her what to do, Despite their problems, they stuck it ‘out for more than two years. On a vacation together in Panama City, Fla, they were on the verge of breaking up when they got some shocking news: Ashlyn was pregnant. Even though she was just 17 and a child was in neither of thelr plans, they didn't consider an abortion. Jordan wanted to try to ‘make the relationship work. Ashlyn felt firmly that she had to ‘move on and be a parent alone, *Being pregnant, it was a very scary time to break up, but I couldn't stay in a relationship that ‘made me unhappy.” Her family was supportive of her decision. The plan was for her to move into her grandmother's basement, get help withraising her newborn from her grandmother and mother, and eventually pursue a career. She thought Jordan would want the same arrangement as her father had: seeing the baby every other ‘weekend. But Jordan immediately balked at that idea. His plan was to be equally avolved in child rearing 1 didn’t know anything else existed other than 50-50," Jordan says. But pretty soon I figured out I'miving ina world where the norm is every other weekend. How did we come up with this idea?” When Ashlyn was still afew months away from giving birth, Jordan consulted a lawyer. His attorney warned him he was unlikely to win 50-50 custody. It wasn't the norm in the courtrooms she'd been in. If they went to court, she said, they would each be trying to get primary custody, and Ashiyn would win, To increase his chances, the attomey asked that he get a paternity test, start paying child support and keep a regular account of when he saw his daughter. When Ann was born in Fobruary 1014, Jordan respected Ashlyn’s wish that he not be in the room. He anxiously paced outside, waiting for news, and then gave mother and daughter time to bond sllone before he went in to see them. His presence stressed Ashlyn out, though she knew it wasonly fair forhim tobe thore. The resentments surrounding the breakup still flt fresh, so she pulled away her arm when he tried to comfort her, and she Tet his name off the birth certificate. Ashlyn hoped he would eventually accept his role asa secondary parent. “Las just so angry at him all the time," she say ‘picture in my mind oflike, maybe hel just go aw obviously that would never happen, Jordan only became more committed to establishing his place in Ann's life, He immediately asked fora DNA test to establish his, paternity, as he was instructed by the lawyer. He insisted, without Ashlyn’s asking, that he pay child support. He tried to play the part of father, modeling his own dad. He got up early in the morning, read the news and found a higher-paying job as. teller at a bank, a big step up from the sports store, Even as he settled Tkind ofhad eventhough THE WASHINGTON POST MAGAZINE 1)Ann fishing with halting down in Henderson, 40 minutes north of Madisonville, with his new girlfriend, Dalas, he drove every other day to spend a couple of hours holding and feeding his daughter. He kept careful notes ‘on how long he was there and what he did Ashlyn had mixed feelings about the arrangement, She felt pressured into these meetings because Jordan had brought up that he'd met with a lawyer, and she was nervous about being taken to court. She was afraid that Jordan was becoming too clingy, and sometimes she'd ask him to space out hs visits more. But she was also charmed by how much he wanted to be with his daughter. Seeing him with Ann was a sweet contrast to the relationship she had with her father. “Lve always kind of flt like Jordan was trying to be more of a ‘mom, ifthat makes sense,” Ashlyn says, “He was always the one telling me how things were going to go. And that was the basis of all of our arguments because he was so headstrong.” ‘As time passed, she made a fragile peace with him keeping Ann overnight. Ashlyn knew he was serious about Dalas, and she ‘trusted her to help him out. By this time, she was also dating her fature husband, Jonathan. About a year after Ann was born, Ashlyn and Jordan settled on a plan, He would have her every other weekend and some weeknights. It was about a 35-65 time split, For the most part, the routine went smoothly. But at times, it was hard for Ashlyn to give up Ann, She didn’t feel completely committed to Jordan's involvement and felt coerced into the arrangement. “Lielt like T absolutely had to do this, or it was going to be a court thing,” Ashlyn says. ‘ocial scientists are divided over whether ereating a shared- parenting norm is beneficial for families, According to Linda Nielsen, a professor of adolescent and educational psychology in the Department of Education at Wake Forest University, joint physical custody means that children have more emotional resources at their disposal. Italso decreases the sense of loss they experience because ofthe breakup oftheir parents. In an analysis fof 60 studies performed on children in shared-parenting 20 sununny 23, 2022 situations in the past 40 years, Nelsen found worse emotional, physical and behavioral outeomes in children who lived mostly ‘with their mothers than in those who lived with their fathers at least 85 percent ofthe time. Shared parenting was beneficial, she ‘vas surprised to find, even when the parents reported a high degree of confit, ‘Critics saythat most ofthese studies don tesplain how parents srrived at ashared-parenting arrangement, however — a crucial data point. Anja Steinbach, a sociology professor atthe Univer- sity of Duisburg-Rssen in Germany, looked at a suney of teenagers from Europe and North Ameriea and found that while those in joint physical custody arrangements generally reported 1morelife satisfaction, it wasnt because of the arrangement itsell Rather it seemed to be the characteristics of families who opted for shared parenting. The parents likely both had jobs and had chosen the arrangement because they experienced less interper- sonal conflict and had previously shared child-care duties. These couples likely made the decision to do shared parenting on their ‘own or through mediation, The 10 percent of eustody cases that 0 to court are usually the most problematic. The research so far doesnt say enough about those kinds of eases to recommend shared parenting fr them too, Steinbach sas. ‘Cristine Adams, a child psychiatrist in Louisville who often ‘ncats children post-divoree, says that although children may not alvays behaviorally act out their frustrations with shared parenting in a way that can be documented in a study, they do often suffer from inner turmoil when going back-and-forth. In her clinical experience she has found that children often force ‘themselves to be compliant with their parents and the courts that ‘want them to split time evenls, but they are often privately ‘unhappy. Commonly, Adams says, one parent is a better caregiver than the other. During the marriage this caregiving parent often provides a buffer forthe children against the more dificult parent. But in separate homes, children don't have that protection. Additionally, these children often feel rootless, ‘without a single place to call home. To Adams, the ideals forthe child to live with the most earegiving parent, while the other has significant visitation. “Overburdening the child forthe sake of their parents having ‘equal access isirrational,"she says. "This becomes an overwhelm= ing, inappropriate job forthe children.” “An even more significant concern about the new shared-par~ cnting legislation is that twill make courts more likely to ignore abuse coneems, says Joan Meer, director ofthe National Family Violence Law Center at George Washington University Law School. The Kentucky law has an exception for eases of domestic Violence. Vietims’ advocates, however, cite scholarship that suggests that even with such exemptions, laws favoring shared parenting undereut courts’ consideration of abuse allegations, precisely because such allegations are seen as interfering with the ‘ultimate goal of shared parenting, Gaining more custody through shared parenting, Meier says, could be way for an abusive partner to panish an ex-partner for leaving them. It also places children at risk, Vietims of domestie violence with financial limitations are the most likely to suffer because they cant afford to hire lawyers to challenge the new law. “There are lot of challenges for women and children who are bused to overcome the ineredibly strong gospel, as T put it, of shared parenting,” Meier says. “But when it's in the statute, and ‘specially when i'sa new change with big fanfare, I think that i rocket fuel that gives courts even more ofa sense of: Okay, not ‘only is this what I'm supposed to do; this is what I have tod.”“If the laws are just stated in a way that says, ‘You have to for the sake of the well- being of your child get along or share parenting, then everyone's behavior has to change.” says Matt Hale, who wrote the first draft of the Kentuck custody law. shlyn and Jordan’s tense arrangement eventually fell apart because of an allegation that both now believe arose from a ‘misunderstanding. One December day in 2016, when Ann was 2 ‘years old, she made a comment suggesting that Tordan had been touching her private areas. Ashlyn immediately called him to relay what Ann had said, Jordan said he had no idea what Ann was talking about. Hs daughter was still learning to speak in fll, sentences, and he was sure Ashlyn had misinterpreted what Ann ‘was saying. Ashlyn had Ann evaluated by a doctor and social worker, who expressed concern aver what Ann had communicated but found no physical signs of abuse. For a few months, the parenting arrangement continued as usual. But the incident was still picking at Ashlyn, so she asked the state Health and Family Services agency to file a petition alleging abuse, requiring that Jordan have no contaet with Ann while an investigation was being conducted. Meanwhile, Ashlyn took action in court to modify their parenting arrangement, claiming domestie violence, “Jordan feared he would never be able to spend time with Ann again, although he was soon allowed to see her with supervision, Because he knew how much was at stake, he initiated a counter-defense in court. He accused Ashlyn of coaching their daughter to make the accusation and gave evidence suggesting that she was an unfit mother who was inconsistent and negligent — by, forexample, not bathing Ann frequently enough and failing toprovide adequate medical care. Looking back, he realizes it was, a desperate move, “Tdidnt really talk to Ashlyn because they were telling me not to talk to her,” he says. “So then we go to court, and it was like a battle to prove my innocence.” ‘Though neither Jordan nor Ashlyn discussed the legal situation with Ann, the then-3-year-old clearly knew her parents ‘were fighting, Taking phone calls with lawyers was unavoidable ‘when she was in either of their homes. She appeared sullen uring pickups and drop-off Ty the time Ashlyn and Jordan ended up in frontof Judge Hall in 2018, Ashlyn had begun to wonder whether she had interpreted Ann correctly. Ann had stopped mentioning any- thing about abuse, Several other psychological and physical examinations didnt turn up anything, and evidence that he spent limited time psychologist reassured Ashlyn that el words they don't know the meaning of. Ashlyn was feeling torn. On one hand, she thought the case hhad gotten out of control and that the entire system was foreing her to remain entrenched in her position to win custody. On the other hand, it seemed like she was being punished for fighting for sole eustody, even when she worried that her daughter's safety was at risk. Once itlooked like the 50-50 law was eose to passing, her case seemed even weaker. Agreeing to 50-50 was the best assurance that she could Keep her daughter. “Atthat point, I felt lke [had to agree because I didn't want to take the chance on losing [Ann] completely, so I felt kind of forced,” she says. “I wasnt happy about it at first.” She was rolieved though thatthe law gave her an out from the endless family strife. This is exaetly the emotional off-ramp that the law's proponents believe it offers parents, Advocates claim that the 50-50 law so far has been suecessful at reducing conflict, in families. The year before any equal-parenting laws were passed in Kentucky, beginning July 2016, there were 22,512 cases filed that were categorized as domestic or family-related. That dropped to 19,991 in 2018-19, when the equal-parenting law was THEWASHNGTON FOST MAGAZINE 2“It just speaks to the power of a law to change people's behavior,” says Hale, the author of the first draft of the Kentucky Jaw. “Ifthe laws are just stated in a way that says, ‘You have to for the sake of the well-being of your child get al parenting, then everyone's behavior has to change.” Advocates ofthe law argue that it ean also help change cultural behavior by codifying a more equitable vision of heterosexual parenting, one wherein both the mother and father share the Aaily responsibilities of ehild rearing. Jordan himself ses the law asa path toward a less gendered society. "Why not have this be a springboard?” he asks. “Use the shared parenting to normalize both parents having responsibilities and duties. And then you almost level the playing field inthe professional realm, where you stop sing old mentalities when it comes to when you hire a There isa counterargument, however, that shared-parenting. laws work best in societies that are already equitable, not as a oo share 2 aNuaRY 29,2022 ering tool. Sweden has the highest levels of shared. tody in the world, and it wasn’t as controversial there tod cases because equal parenting was something many couples ware social engin physical e ‘when courts started recommending it in contested e1 already practieln first country in the world to replace gender-specific maternity leave with parental leave. It also has free child care and after-school programs. Sweden’s female labor participation rate is 80 percent, ‘compared with 63 percent in the United States, according to the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development. If parents divided the work during the relationship, there wasalsoa larger possibility that they would do the same when they separated Inthe United States, where parenting rolesare more gendlered and women are still often the primary caregivers, a strict 50-50 agreement can create a very different outcome. Jamie Abrams, a University of Louisville family law professor, says that for most American families, the law gives the father a judicial advantage In 1974, Sweden beeame theAnn plays inthe Dbachyate witha hl sibling he didn't have in the past because he is positioned to get more caregiving time than he might have had before the dissolution. Mothers, on the other hand, feel like they have more to lose but less room to negotiate."If there's any lopsidedness to caregiving” Abrams says, “then primary caregivers will fight an uphill batle because the state has codified the loss of their parenting time, whereas in the past their having provided stable primary caregiving would have been legal leverage, ‘ordan and Ashlyn’s decision to share time with Ann equally ‘wasn’t immediately popular with Ashlyn's family. They continued to worry that Jordan might be unsafe, but as iyn expressed to them that she now had serious doubts about Ash the abuse accusation and remained committed to parenting with, him, they slowly backed down. Jordan was having a similar shift in mind-set. He realized that Ashlyn had been concerned about hhor daughter and had a right to investigate the situation, and he no longer believed she had been trying to purposefully alienate him. Many of Ashlyn’s and Jordan's friends and family remained skeptical they’eould make it work, however. ‘They were shocked when the two of them, with the court ease over, were able to move on, not as friends initially but in a businesslike way. Ashlyn and Jordan had little to argue about once they both had a solid schedule with Ann, and they were committed to working together to raise her. As they arranged Grop-offs through text message, sometimes having toswitch days for change plans, their communication became cordial, eve friendly. Soon, they were exchanging stories abouttheiedanghter and asking each other for parenting advice. Ashlyn was happy to hear Ann's excitement about the fan things she and Jordan did together, ike fishing orstedding, Ann’ happiness with the new arrangement helped confirm Asblyn’s growing sense that her daughter was safe in Jordan's eare. Ashlyn, ‘also didn’t feel like she was losing her connection to her daughter As long as Ann was comfortable with the situation, she realized she could make it work too, “Twant what she wants," Ashlyn says. “Ultimately, it was ust a matter of time that I had to get used to itand adapt. I came to see it’s really not that bad” Ann is now 7 years old. On a summer Thursday, the family gathered to wateh one of her softball games, as they de a couple of times a week. Ashlyn was sick, so was unable to make it. But her mother and grandmother were there in her place. Jord ‘and Ashlyn’s mother cheered on Ann as she went up to bat. At least on the surface, the tensions from the past have calmed, and everyone involved has united as a nontraditional, messy but loving family “Though Ann had been at her mom's the previous night, she didn't have any bags with her to take to Jordan's afterward because she has a set of everything she needs atoth places. That, way, both feel equally like home. Ann doesnt seem to remember the period of her life when her parents were in court battling for custody. She says that while going back-and-forth between the hhomes is time-consuming, each one has a different feeling that she ‘own way. “One side [like how we get to go places, and the other side Tike how we stay home a lot and just rest.” Ashlyn and Jordan each have two other children in addition to Ann, and they're both constantly amazed that eo-parenting thei daughter has worked out as well asi has. Ashlyn even says she'd prefer 50-10 parenting today without court mandate. literally do think about that all the time. The place that we were in once ‘upon a time and then to where we are now, is just totally different,” she says ‘The challenge for famiy courts is being able to tell when situational animosity during @ custody dispute is likely. to dissipate, as in Ashlyn and Jordan's ease, and when parents’ personal problems are more long-standing and complicated and are likely to affect their children down the line. Those nuances aren't easy to spot, especially in an already overburdened system, Ashlyn feols lncky that it worked out for her. But she recognizes that in other families, that might not be the case. T think 50-50 is great in situations where both parents are tyood parents and don’t have major problems,” Ashlyn says. “L ‘would say I support it, but for those situations only.” @ Sushma Subramanian isa journalism professor atthe University of ‘Mary Washington and the author of How to Feel The Sclence and “Meaning of Touch.” This article was produced as part ofthe USC ‘Annonberg Canter for Health Journaisin’s 2021 National Fellowship. THE NASHINGTON POST MAGAZINE 211g WITH TOM SIETSEMA The ining oom at Dole Vita Coastal Mediterranean Cusine on 1th Stet NW. The new Dolce Vita is a blast from the past rnyone missing the carefree days before covid-19 crashed ourcollective p favorand book table at Dolee Vita Coastal Mediterranean, ‘Cuisine, the vibrant new fusion restaurant from Was restaurateur Med Lahlow. Starting witha big oval co table with sunken wine coolers, signs of happier days surface hibellinaon ‘everywhere you look in the two-story successor to Mth Street NW. Ata time when many restaurants are pinching penn ‘control eosts, Dolee Vita weleomes diners with flowers on tables nus, ed and a bread basket trailed bya trivaf spreads: h pepper and black oliveor eating with brioche, focaccia and other house-baked items, Neatly 20 mezze launch the menu, and theentreesineludea showy lamb shank served onaslabof tree. row of raised tables setin an alcove allows occupants privacyanda view ofthe goings-on. Perfect for Instagram! saysa host, one of many e Even the ni every day ofthe week, Sanurday Really, the only evidence of an ongoing pandemicis the sight ‘of the masked staif —allof whom are fully vaccinated, and got paid time off todoso, reports the owner. (Readers whose avoiding indoor dining will have to waitawhileto get a tastoof dvuntil midnight Frida Unrated during the pandemic DoLce vita. ‘COASTAL MEDITERRANEAN ‘CUISINE 1610 14th St. NW. 202.508.4872 doloevitadccom, Open: Inside dining 5to 11pm. Sunday ‘through Thutecoy, Span, to midnight Friday and Saturday. Prices: Appetizers $1010 $28, main courses $28 to $66. Souind check: 75) Must speak wth Acoosetilly ‘wneelenair users can push a button outside, signaling staffto bring portable rem restrooms have grab bars butsinks aro positioned high Pandemic protocols: says his entire staff of about 70 employoes has been fully vaccinated Some have hac booster shots PHOTOS: SCOTTSUCHMANthe new restaurant, which doesn't offer takeout or delivery at present.) “We want to make people happy," Lahlou says. He sees extra touchesike flowers and bread asa way to help diners forget almost two years of chaos.“Weve been to hel.” Hisantidoteishis biggest restaurant yet. Dolce Vitacan host as many as 400 diners, although 160 is the most the restaurant will accoptright now. The neweomer, partofa family ofsix establishments around town, including the nearby Lupo Verde and Lupo Pizzeria, isalso the owner's most ambitious. The son of French mother and a Moroccan father, Lahlot sees Dolce Vita asaway to“do my heritage” with an assist from Greece, Italy and Spain. Hismentor was Greek, hesays, and hissister’shushand is from Spain. Yes, that’s alot of tervitory toembrace. Lahlou has in his favor corporate chef Juan Olivera, 42, originally from Uruguay. The day-to-day presence in the kitchen, executive chef Elier Rodrigues, 28, eomes to the project witha résumé that counts some impressivestops, ineluding Del Mau, the grand Spanish destination at the Wharf and class acts Le Cirque and Picassoin Las Vegas. ‘Menu deseriptions only hint at what to expect. “Like to get out of the comfort zone,” says the Cuban-horn Rodriguez. His spanakopita takes the shape of an egg roll rather than aslab, for Instanee. Otherwise, itsstil aky pastry eneasing molten spinach, nd feta cheese — just in the form of fabulous finger food. Piquillo peppers sted with crab take a moment to identify when the appetizer is delivered; the scarlet centerpiece is hidden beneath a lacy round tile, stained black with squid ink. The peppers are positioned on sauces of tomato and piquillo, for extra tangand sweetness, Greek salads are enjoying renowed attention of late, with the version at Patty O's Cafe & Bakory in Washington, Va., being the standard-bearer. Inthe Distriet, Dolee Vita serves the most elaborate example. Conjurea hedge of he usual suspects with dolmades and miruna tucked infor good measure. Garnishes are taken seriously. Thinly sliced cucumbers are rolled up like scrolls and eapped with what looks like caviar but turns out to be black balsamie pearl. 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Indeed, my cloud thought read "boll-in-a-bag.” ‘Some theater rewartls the recipients ofthe two best entrees, Doth cooked in a wood:-stoked oven and, as theirprices suggest, sized toshare. ‘Nearly a pound of lamb shank is revealed from beneath cloche filled with smoke, which disappearsto find brilliant roasted rainbow carrots hugging the fst ofchive-freckled meat, its flavor ramped up with a paste of aria, garie and paprika ‘The lamb ($49) is displayed on a puddle of mashed potatoes that areas much butter as vegetable, A litle meat pushed on a spoonfl of spuds is sheer comfort. ‘Simpler, but noes sublime, is whole dorade baked ina salt crust thatthe chef seasons with Morocean spices to infuse the fis with flavor. The dorade ($65) isfreed from its sareophagus at the table filleted and served with confit peewee potatoes perfumed with thyme and garlic. The restaurant's walls come with murals of Famoussunny'coastlines; the fish does a nice job of eompleting, the thoughr. Your best exit strategy is Spanish, asin churros. The sugar sprinkled wands of fried batter arrive with atrioof dips — caramel, chocolate, coffee-fucled ereme anglaise — and don't last longat the table. A fleet of staff, some in suits, work the long main dining room asifit were a club filled with VIPs. (The music gives Dolee Vita the sense of lounge, too.) Like the cooking, the evolving wine ‘ment spans aswath ofthe globe. Dry January finds some of us taking break from drinkingand others intent on drinking less >butbetter. So when drinker at my table asked for something. (Churros with three dipping sauces at Dolce Vita special to pair with the lamb shank, a manager returned with a glass ofbarolo, ofthe bottle list. Very thoughtful Really, you don't even have tostep insideto get the sense you're ‘weloome. 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