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Most parents strive to be the best parents they can be. But some of their actions may be doing
more harm than good. Now's the time to make some adjustments and kick some bad habits to
the curb. Here are 33 things you need to stop doing today.
Overscheduling Them
We want our kids to enjoy life, learn how to do new things, and experience everything they
want. But that also can lead to overscheduling them. Resist the urge to cram sports, dance,
piano lessons, scouts, and other activities into their lives at one time. Not only will you run
yourself ragged, overscheduling your kids doesn't give them any free time to just be kids.
Research suggests that unstructured play can have a positive impact on a child's development
and wellbeing. When kids are given the opportunity to play freely, there is a lot of learning taking
place. They develop games, make rules, negotiate with others, and release stress.1
Overusing Technology
There's no denying that technology has become an integral part of our lives. Whether it is at
work, for school, or simply keeping up with family and friends, everyone relies on technology to
get things done. But it's important to have some time apart from technology to simply be with
your family members.
Think about the last time you unplugged your gadgets to spend one-on-one time with your child.
To help make it easier to unplug, consider creating gadget-free times and zones in your house.
It may take a concerted effort, but in the end it will be beneficial for everyone if you all have
some technology-free time together.
Parenting Unplugged: How to Limit Technology Use
Rushing Everywhere
If you find yourself telling your kids to hurry up frequently, it may be time to slow down and take
a closer look at why. Rushing everywhere is often a sign that either your schedule is too packed
or you need to look at your family's time management skills. Rushing around also could be a
symptom of disorganization.
If this tends to occur in the mornings before school, develop a morning routine for your family to
make things more streamlined. It's also helpful to create a homework schedule to ensure
everyone is meeting their responsibilities.
How to Help Your Teen Get More Organized
Overspending
There's a lot of pressure on parents to buy their kids the latest clothing styles, video games, and
technology. But giving in to the temptation to buy everything at once usually wreaks havoc on
the family budget. And it does little to teach kids the importance of delayed gratification.
Instead, teach kids how to plan for the things they want and as they get older, and give them a
budget to work within when shopping. Teaching kids money management skills will benefit them
as they grow into young adults.
Blowing Up at Them
One of your children shoved a paper clip into the light switch. Another climbed the pantry and
helped themself to a bag of marshmallows. Your last straw was when your toddler managed to
give the dog a new hairdo with baby lotion.
Parenting can be frustrating, no doubt. But blowing up at your kids isn't the answer.
Stop yelling and find a better way to communicate with them so they'll actually listen to what you
have to say.
Getting Distracted
With smartphone games to play and social media status updates to read, not to mention
juggling all their work, home, and family responsibilities, parents are more distracted than ever
before. A 2014 Highlights study found that 62% of kids between the ages of 6 and 12 feel their
parents are distracted.3
To avoid being in that group, try to be present when you're around your kids. Put the phone
away when you go to the park. Log off of social media when it's homework time. Pay attention
at their sporting events, recitals, and school performances. If you're working from home, do it in
a dedicated space away from kids if you can, so you're not having to divide your attention all
day long.
Overindulging in Praise
Every parent thinks their kids are awesome and we want them to know it. But it is possible to go
overboard. In fact, overpraising can actually cause kids to develop narcissistic tendencies.
Praising your children's efforts (which they have control over) is more effective than praising
their talents (which they don't).4
While it's important to build your child's self-esteem, focus on giving praise in a healthy and
productive way.
Recognize your child's hard work and efforts rather than complimenting them on their
appearance, their intelligence, or their athletic abilities. If kids think their worth is tied to these
things, it will be harder for them to navigate setbacks or changes.
Depending on Electronics
Tablets and video games are great babysitters. It can be very tempting to rely on tablet time just
to sneak in our own kid-free moments.
As tempting as it is, don't depend on electronics to entertain your kids. Set time limits, stick to
them, and plan other activities, like board games and crafts, that still give you a break without
leaning on electronics as a crutch.