1.

If you are a Christian, have you repented of your sins and put
your trust in Christ? Has your boyfriend or girlfriend?  If you are
not a Christian, what has your spiritual journey been about?  Take
a few minutes and share your testimonies / life stories with each
other.

Obviously I have and so have you . And we already shred our

stories with each other.

2. Are there areas of your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s spiritual life that

causes you concern (e.g., attitude, lack of time reading the
Bible/praying, lack of interest in spiritual topics/disciplines, little
interest in church attendance, etc.)? Share these concerns with
each other.

Not really, the only thing that I’d say maybe I’d love to see
changed is maybe to watch a sermon or two with me and maybe
pray a bit more if you haven’t started doing more already. Also I
don’t think you’d be as keen to do spiritual discussions as much
as me but that’s not a “have to have it” kind of thing given that I
can usually do it with myself :P

3. Do you feel like you “carry” your boyfriend or girlfriend in his or

her spiritual walk or do you think the person became a Christian
(or whatever religion you are) because of you… for you? Do you
believe if you were not in his or her life that he or she would
continue to follow the spiritual path he or she has chosen? What
are the ramifications for that decision?

Um since we were both committed Christians when we met I’d

say that this isn’t an issue haha.

4. What trials has God brought you through? How did this
strengthen your faith? Have your boyfriend or girlfriend answer
the same question. Has God brought you and your
 boyfriend/girlfriend through any trials together? If so, was your
relationship strengthened or weakened as a result?

Umm honestly there’s so many I can’t really name them all, but
the big ones are probably my parents’ divorce, my loss of my
friends, and my dating life. None of them really strengthened my
faith because I honestly was so engrossed with my life
seemingly falling apart to remember to rely on Him. What
strengthened my faith was doing my independent study of
apologetics and listening to sermons and things. As far as trials
together I don’t really think we’ve been through a real trial trial of
the likes that I mentioned, however I do thing that our
relationship itself is a trial for God to pull both of us out of our
holes and towards Him and His way of living.

5. How much involvement in church/spiritual activities will you want

after marriage (e.g., church attendance, serving at church,
witnessing, serving the community with your church, etc.)? Have
your boyfriend/girlfriend answer the same question.

Hopefully it’ll be everyday we engage each other in spiritual pursuits

as well as attending church every Sunday. In addition I’d like for us
to serve at the church in several capacities and maybe help serve
the community at least until we have children to care for.

6. On a scale of 1-10, with 1 being “not at all” and 10 being “it’s all I
ever think about,” where would you rate your desire to talk about
spiritual topics? What is your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s number?
Discuss why you settled at your numbers. Be completely honest.
Do you have concerns with each other’s numbers? Why or why
not?

I would say that I’m at a 8-9 because I’m always wanting to

discuss the big topics like those and really hammer out what
everyone believes, why the believe it, and how we can come to
 an agreement if there is a disagreement between us. I love
doing that kind of discussing or debating about topics. If I had to
guess I’d say that your number is a bit lower than mine in the 2-4
range, it’s still is not really a concern because I already know that
about you so I know I need to look elsewhere for that kind of
engagement which is fine because at least I won’t bug you with it
and you won’t feel like you HAVE to discuss things like that if you
really don’t want to.

7. Ladies: Are you comfortable with the idea of your boyfriend one
day being your husband and leading you spiritually? Does he
currently have the qualities, knowledge, and desire to lead you
and your future children faithfully in spiritual matters?
Gentlemen: Are you confident that the woman you are dating will
submit to you and be willing to follow you spiritually (not because
she is lesser than you, but because that is the role God has
assigned for her in marriage)? Does she currently possess a kind
and gentle spirit (1 Peter 3:4)? Do you believe that she will be a
Godly influence to your children and teach them, by example, to
follow your leadership?
I’m confident that she is going to be submissive in that regard, there may be things theologically that we
disagree on but those are minor things with no real bearing on the core tenants of our faith as a couple
and eventually as a mother and father. She has a humble spirit but can be just as stubborn as me at
times so there’s that :P. Yes I fully trust that she is going to be an excellent example to our children, and
specifically our daughters, as how a Godly woman is to behave as a wife and life partner to their spouse.