1. Is your boyfriend/girlfriend quick to forgive?

Are you quick to

forgive?

She is quick to forgive 😘. While I’m quick to forgive it’s the forgetting
part that I don’t always do because of patterns in behavior being how I
judge a person’s character.

2. Do you find that you think you have forgiven someone only to
have anger and bitterness creep back into your heart?

Yes, happens more than I’d like it to. I’ve let my hurt and
suffering and feeling like I have no value or importance become
anger and bitterness which is something that I need to work on.

3. When you forgive, do you do so with strings attached? Is your

“forgiveness” based on someone else’s apologies or acts of
kindness? Be honest with yourself and have your
boyfriend/girlfriend answer the same questions.

My apologies are always condition free, however there are times

when I would like to see a change in behavior before I start to trust
someone again especially if I have given them my full confidence.

4. How important do you think forgiveness will be to your future

marriage? Are you comfortable with how quick your
boyfriend/girlfriend is to forgive? Is he or she comfortable with
your willingness to forgive?

Obviously it’s very important to my future marriage. I’m

comfortable with hers as she forgives me but I’m unsure she’s
comfortable with mine.

5. Do you or your boyfriend/girlfriend struggle with holding grudges?

How has this struggle affected your life and relationship (with
 each other and other people)? Are you currently holding grudges
toward each other or others?

Holding grudges is one of the things that I struggle with. I don’t

know if there’s been a time when holding a grudge has effected our
relationship, but I could be wrong. To be honest I don’t know if
there’s a grudge against you for something, if there is I don’t know
about it and if it comes up then I want to deal with it together rather
than stew in it.

6. Which offenses do you struggle to forgive the most (e.g., name

calling, breaking promises, destruction of your property, lying,
etc.)? Have your boyfriend/girlfriend answer the same question.
Discuss these with each other and try to discover why certain
offenses are harder for you to forgive than others. You may
uncover pain and anger you did not even realize you are holding.

So the things that I struggle with forgiveness for is unfaithfulness,

lying, and breaking promises. I think all three of those stem from
my home life growing up and I sought out women who would do
those things because I feel like I’m a nobody and unworthy of
love so I found women who would do those things to me
subconsciously. I know that you won’t ever intentionally do
those things to me but there’s still those thoughts of I’m
inadequate to fulfill your desires and your needs. And because I
feel so inadequate that’s why small things like a shirt or hoodie
or jewelry box that shouldn’t even show up as a blip on the radar
are so intimidating and threatening when they shouldn’t be.