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1) Targeting/Contacting
female and will be looking for a
The groomer, could be a male or ,
people in places such as schools
young person or a group of young the internet. They will show an
on
parks or by creating false profiles
rest in you and perhaps offer you something, for example, a
inte
talk to for support.
cigarette, a drink or someone to
2) Relationship
Buildi ng/Sharing Activ
The groomer will ities
mobile phone. Th w ant to keep contact with
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favours for you, u
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begin to spend le u a lift; do fun th ity
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friends and fam u may
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ship
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3) Fake Loving Re tionship with the groomer. Within
the fake
rn or
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friendship you may . You may think everything is fine an
ts
watching sexual ac mer is slowly gaining more control.
but the groo
control,
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xual Exploitation
5) Abusive Relationship/Se ing sex with others for som
ething
ced into hav
This is when you may be for force or persuasion. Groomers can persuade
you need or want, by either sexual acts
e being filmed performing mal.
you to do sexual things lik nd nor
ail and making it sou
by using emotional blackm
STAY SAFE
• Tell someone where you’re going and
when you’ll be back.
• Make sure your phone is charged and
you have credit to use it.
• Make sure you have enough money
to get home.
• Only use a licensed taxi firm and if you’re
in a taxi alone let someone know the
driver’s badge number.
• Look after your drink. Drugs are used to
spike drinks and can be hard to spot.
• Avoid drinking too much alcohol.
• Trust your gut feeling. If you think
something is wrong, tell someone you
trust. If they won’t listen tell
someone else.
• Speak out.
• Don’t do anything you are not
comfortable with.
• Don’t pressure someone else
into having sex.
• It’s OK to say no; it’s your choice.
• Whatever anyone else says it’s not
your fault. You don’t deserve it.
• You can stop at any time, even when
you think things have gone too far!
Information from:
www.thinkuknow.co.uk | www.faceup2it.org
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24hr National
Local Authority POLICE: FPA Sexual
Domestic
Children's Social CALL 101 OR IN Health
Violence Helpline
Care: AN EMERGENCY
0808 2000 247 0845 122 8690
Bournemouth - 999 Childwww.fpa.org.uk
Exploitation
New Pathways
01202 456900 - Rape and Online
NHS Direct Wales:
Poole -and Sexual
Crisis Protection Centre:
0845 46 47
Abuse Support www.ceop.police.uk
01202 735 046
Services www.nhsdirect.wales.
Dorset - 310
01685 379 nhs.uk
Emergency
www.dorsetforyou www.stopitnow.org.uk
Drug and Alcohol
07423 437 020
.com/393713 Support:
Dan 24/7
T www.internetmatters.
Broken Rainbow - RE NO 0808 808 2234
Crimestoppers:
National LGBT YOU A ! org
ALONE
or text DAN to: 81066
0800 555 111
Domestic www.dan247.org.uk
Violence
(Anonymous) CEOP resources for
Helpline Drinkline:
parents and children:
0300 999 5428 0800 917 8282
NSPCC: Someone www.thinkuknow.co.uk
www.patient.co.uk
0808 800 5000 to talk to:
Meic – Information,
Barnardos:
Childline: advice and support
0800 1111
www.barnardos.org.uk for your life
Childline: (24hr helpline) 0808 802 3456
0800 1111 www.child-line.org.uk
UK Safer internet centre: TXT: 84001
www.saferinternet.org.uk
NSPCC (information) Chat/IM
0808 800 5000 www.meic
e-mail: help@nspcc.org.uk cymru.org
National Helpline for male victims of
CSE: 07808 863 662 08457 90 90 90
Samaritans
www.samaritans.org
National Support for Victims:
Missing or Runaway Helpline: 116000
National DV helpline (24 hours) - 0808 2000247
National Men's Advice Line
Children’s (for male victims) -
Rights
8010327 Commissioner for Wales
0808Children’s
www.childcom.org.uk
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SUPPORTS YOUNG PEOPLE ACROSS WALES. THIS BROCHURE WAS DESIGNED BY YOUNG
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