ec Tomac ToPROH Kako MOJH34TH OJTOBOPHY ely ponePa Kpearnann uerrap NPMPYYHMUN Krevra YeTpHaecTa Tpehe u3farbe Hacnos opurunana PET. Parent Effectiveness Training The Tested New Way to Raise Responsible Children by Thomas Gordon 3a usgaree Ha eHrneckom jesuKy copyright © 1974 by Gordon Tomac Topaox 3anpxkasa cpa npasa ykryyyjyhu 4 npaso Aa ce Opa Kibura unv 6uno KOjv teH eo penposykyje y Ma KOM o6nuky, OCMM KpaTKUX YYTaTa y WTaMn 3a usgatbe Ha cpncKoM jesuKky copyright © KPEATMBHM LIEHTAP uv MOCT Ca exrneckor npesene Pyxuya Pocayauk u Haga Kopah Jlextop Buonerta Babuh Vnycrpauyje Ha KOpUu v AusajH KHUre Aywax Nasnuk Vsqasaun KPEATUBHM LIEHTAP Tpyna MOCT Visepwin nsqgasay KPEATMBHMU LIEHTAP, Beorpay, FpagquwtancKa 8 Ten. 011/38 20 464, 38 20 483, 24 40 659 e-mail: info@kreatvnicentar.co.yu www.kreativnicentar.co.yu Komnjytepcxa npunpema a BS ara aeIIpeg2oeop Y Hyjopk Tajmcy og 14. mapta 1975. cemmHapu Ha3sBaHn Kako 6uTn ycnewaH poguTes (Parent Effectiveness Training - PET) npornawexu cy 3a "HalMoHanKn nokper". Vicnppa cy mu Te peuu usrnegane Kao npeyBenuyaBarbe yTuLiaja OBUXx cemvHapa, jep CaM CKNOH Aa OyfeM HesaQOBorDaH THMe WTO OHM HMcy yoneny fa O6yxBaTe HM M3faneka CBe POAMTeMe KOjmma O4UNrNeAHO TpeGa NOMOh y TeLUKOM pogTersckom nocny. Vnak, oBaj unaHak mu je nogcTakao Cekatba. Moveo cam fa npoyerbyjem wa ce foropmno y TpuxaecToro_Muibem nepvo,y OTKAKO CaM OAPKAO CBO) NPBN KypC ycnewHor pogvTenscTea TaMO re KvBKM - y MacageHu, y KanucbopHyju, ca rpy- Nom of 17 poguTensa. Yopepcpenvo caM ce HapounTo Ha Nepvog, og npBMx net rogpna, jep je 08a KHbura npeu nyT wramnaHa 1970. Ta nppa rpyna og 17 o6y4eHux poauTersa nopacna je Ha YeTBpT MunvoHa. OA jeavor Kypca y jeAHoj cpeavH, CemvHap ce npowmpwo Ha xMseane pasHux epegmua y 50 aMepv4Knx ApkaBa W HEKONMKO CTpaHUx semarba. Mpavx roguua ja cam 6Y0 WHCTpyKTOp Ha CBM Kypcesvma, Caga, nocne ABaHaecT rogMHa, BUWe 0g 7000 ctpy4rbaka o6y4eHo je Aa Apu OBe KypceBe y cBOjMM CpeguHama. A cBa- ke roguue o6y4n ce npeko 1500 HOBMXx MHCTpyKTOpa. Kypc je npBo6uTHo NpuBNauvo yrnaBHoM posTere Unjn cy ce OgHocn ca Ae- yom seh 6unn nopemeTunn u no4enn fa cTBapajy npo6neme. BpemerHom, Hau cemnuap je creKao Apyra4uju npocpun. Mpepacrao je y nporpam 3a popmTerbe Kojn >kene fa Hayye BeUITMHE KOjMMa he cnpeYyaBaTn npobneme. JemaH of HaWux uHeTpyKTopa je y jeAHOM TpeHyTky peKao fa je To NpunuKa sa "NpetnpobnemcKy o6yky", Harnauiasajyhu Taj npeBeHTueHn acneKT nporpama. Cama je Tewko Hahn Tpyny nonaskuka Koja Hije CacTaBrbeHa OA po_nTerba Geba unu Bpno Mane Aeue, koja Hemajy o36”sbHyjux NpOGNema Og NoBpemMeHMxX Hanaga Geca unu npeTepaxor \KerbKaHba. Y npswm rofvHama Ha Halle Kypcese cy fona3sunv yrnaBHom npynagHnun cpeatbe Knace, penaTMBHO yCnewWHM YAN HABMKHYTH Ha paste oOnuke fogaTHor o6pasopatha uy cTatby fa ra nnate. ¥Y nocnegtbe Bpeme KypceBu ce OApxaBajyYuehke pogutesmcrTsa Wy cupOMalwHMjaM 4eTBpTHMa BeENMKMX rpafoBa HaCTarbeHMM yrnaBHoM LipHuMMa u JlatwHoamepnkaHyvma. Mxore wkone Koje noxahajy TakBa cupomalwHa geya cbuHaHcupane cy Kypcese 3a tbuxoBe pomnTeme. Y 4vTaBoj 3emrov Haw nporpaM je CnoHsopvicaH Of CTpaHe pasHix ApKaBHHX Apyrux coujanknx uHCTHTyLUKja AN OpraHusaLivja Koje NoMarky caMoxpaHu popn- Teruma, popvTersuma KOjM npumajy couvjanky NoMOh, po_MTeruma ManoneTHux AenunkBeHaTa, poAVTemuMa KOjM Cy 3NoCcTaBsann wnw sanoctaBrann caojy Ae- uy, PogMTesbuMa MeHTaNHo saocTane MM xeHgukenmpake Qeye, poANTersnMa KojM >kMBe Y APMY/CKMM 6a3aMa, POAVTeMUMa AeLIE 3ABUCHE Of APOre, poAVTerLuMa saTBOpeHnunMa, aMepvuKiM VnayjaHumma KOjM *KMBe y peseppaTuMa M popTe- mova eue Koja noxahajly aMepv4Ke LKOMe y MHOTMM CTpaHUM 3emmbama, Kako je oBa KHbvra AonpuHena fa Haw NPMCTyn NocTaHe HalWoHANH noKpeT? Ocam rognia nocrojann cy kypcesv, anv He KHbura. Y cTBapy, 6v0 cam BpNO cnaGo MOTMBYCaK 4a HanveM KHbury O Tome. Buo cam cacaum yGehex fa MHOrM pogvteru Hehe umaTu AOBOrbHO KOpMcTM ako NpouMTajy KHoMry, anv ce He ynuwy Ha Kypc rae uM je OMoryheHo Aa BexOajy HOBe BeLITMHe, uMajy MHCTpyKTopa Kao "TpeHepa" mu caBeToAaBua uv Aa yye jean of Apyrux. KoHa4Ho je Moj oTNop TO} ugejM Cnomuo jefak ynopHy vu yGeArsuBn 43,4aBa4 U ja CaM, TOTOBO HEBOFbHO, npe- Ayseo Teuku nocao cactasmatba kibure. [negajyhn yHasaq To je 6uno Matbe TeWKO Hero LUTO CaM Ce nnalwMo Aa he GuTu, jep cam Morao fa Upniem noparKe u3 6orator uckycTBa poquTerba KojM cy y CBojMM nopoAMyama Beh npaKTuKoBanu OHO LITO cy Hay4unu Ha CeMMHapuma. Viako je y noveTky Muuno BeOMa Cnopo, TMpaK M3farea y TBPAOM MoBesy ce FOTOBO yABOCTpy4aBao CBake roAvHe, AOK Ce Nocne neT ro_MHa Huje npojano OKO 600000 npyMepaka, 6€3 OMX NpoAaTMx Kpo3 NpeTNnaty. Hw moj usqaBay HM ja Hiicmo 6unn TA4HO NPOYeHMNM KONMKO pognTesrba Tpara 3a NpaKTMYHOM NoMOhN y nogvsarby eye. Caga Ham je ouvrnegHo Aa popMTersmma XuTHO Tpebaly cneun- cpaute BewTuHe v yneTpebrvBu MeTOAM, a He yobvYajeHe MarnosuTe anctpakyyje a0 WTO Cy “NowTyjTe AeTe Kao NM4HOCT", “HeryjTe ABOCMepHy KOMyHUKauiy", by- awe ““BpcTy anu npaBn4nn", "cxBaTuTe cBoje AeTe", “Aajre AeTeTy MHOrO my6a- 4", “BogMTe ram ycMepasajre", “He GypvTe Hu NpectporM HM Npeonarn" u CNM4HO. C Tum y Besv caga mn je CMeWHO Kap Ge CeTMM KONMKO CaM ce OnMpao npeANo- ry wgfaBaua Aa Ha CNOsbauHbeM OMOTY KHbure CTOjN : "Saucta ~enyje". Ceham ce Aa cam my pekao Aa To sBy4M Kao peknama 3a HOB AeTepyeHT unin nacty 3a 3y- 6e. Vnak, npunuKom MojMix o6pahatba popvtersuma WupoM semsbe MajKe v O4eBN. cy npmnasunn Aa Min Karky Aa cy NpoUWTaNM KrbMry, BpNO YecTO vspaxKaBalyhn CBOjé YBAKABAILE yNPAaBe TUM MCTMM pe4uma: “Sancta genyje." Uysun oBe peu Ges6poj nyTa WMpoM 3eMMme No4eo cam BepoBaTu aa je oBa kreura Sancta Hay4una po~MTerbe CaCBMM KOHKPeTHMM NOCTYNUMMa M NpakTH4HMM 12Mpegrosop mpoyenypama Koje cy OHAa MOrNM KOPMCTUTM NOTNYHO CaMocTaNHO y CBOjAM nopognyama. Jow me je svwe vsHeHaguna jeqva Apyra YecTa peakynja yuTanaya: "Oso je NOTNYHO HOBM HA4MH 2KMBOTA." OB POAMTesbU Cy MM CTANHO FOBOPMNM KAKO Cy HOBOCTEYeHE BELUTMHE KOPUCTUNN My APyr4M OAHOCHMA - ca Bpa4HMM ApyroBuma, ca Konerama Ha nocny, ca npujaTenuma ui cyceauma, “ak Mi ca cBOjAM popvTersu- Ma MnM pogvTersvMa OpasHor Apyra. MHorm poAVTeru cy mm peKnn Aa cam NOrpewno WTO KrbMry HNCaM HasBa0 "Kako Gut ycneWwHa nu4HocT”. fla cam Taga BYAeO LITO VW OHM MOKA ux TO M ypaquo, jep caga cxBaTam fa je oBaj MeTOqG 3acHOBaH Ha TeOpHjn MebymyACKHx OfHOCA Koja je NDYMeHiuBa Ha CBe OAHOCe meby Mayqnma, He Camo Ha OAHOC PO_HTess - AeTe. Oso mu je, Takoke, romorno fa pasymem jou jefaH KOMeHTap KOjM CaM 4ecTO. uyo of poguTesba: "Opaj noctynak TpeTupa Aeuy Kao myfe." Kreura ce, fakne, savcTa 6aBM THMe Kako GuTV ycnelwHa NU4HOCT, jequHo WTO Huje TaKO W Ha3BaHa. Hawi cemuxapu V OBa Kira 3a4enM cy Apyre nporpame, KHbUre uv OfroBapajyke aktuBHocTu. Hepyro nowTo cy ce npBv Hawn KypceBM nojasunu y Kanucbopxyiv, ynpage wikomia cy ce sanHTepecosane 3a tex. O Hb¥Ma cy 4ynu of poguTensa. Ja 1M je TO NP“MeHMMBO y OAKOCKMa VsMehy HacTaBHMKa M yYeHvka? Mory nu 06e36eU7TM UHCTpykTopa 3a rpyny HaCTaBHUka? Nowro cam umao TajHy amOvuyjy fa vsmMucnuMm HeKM HaYWH 3a TeMerbHy Npo- MeHY MVYHOCTH M KapakTepa HaCTaBHuka, HucaM ry6vo Hn Yaca, KOHa4HO CaM Ao6v0 NpunuKy Aa NpOMeHUM NpuNaAHUKe Npodecuje uvjv cy npeACcTAaBHMYW Npo- y3pokosann moje v36ayMBalbe 43 TAYHO 23 paspefia TOKOM Moje YeTUpH ToAVHe y cpegtboj] wkonn (pekopg 3a Kojm cam, He 6e3 NOHOCa, TEPANO Aa BeEpoBATHO Hukafa Huje o6opeH y Mojoj cpeaHaoj wKonv y Cnpurrcbunay, VinvHonc). ¥ caakom cnyyaiy, 08M Kypcean 3a HACTaBHUKe y KOjAMa Hal MHCTpyKTOpy - Gap y NoueTKy - Hcy yBeK GUNN OHAKO yCneLHM Kao LITO CaM 3amMMlusbao\Aa Tpeba Aa 6ypy, nop- cTaknu cy Me ga Hanpasum cneuvjanHu Kypc 3a HacTaBHuke. HapasHo, HasBanu como ra Kako 6vTH yonewax HacTaBHnk (Teacher Effectiveness Training - TET). Cemuyap 3a HaCTaBHUKe OfpKaH je y MHOMMM wKonaMa, ¥ Ap>kaBH¥M 1 NpnBaT- Hu, y BehuH of, 50 amepu4uKux CaBesHux Akasa. HeKe wikone yrpagqune cy Hawe etope y cBojy ocHoBHY cbunosodpujy, oneT Kao "Ha4MH KUBOTA" 3a HACTABHINKe, yyeunke, ynpasy, CTpy¥He capafHuke - a Takohe u 3a pogmTese. Haw pag ca Ha- CTABHMUMMAa CTBOPKO je NoTpPeby 3a OPraHusoBarbeM CeMMHApAa NOCe6HO HaMerbe- HX AMpeKTOpMMa WKONA, M OMX MOCeGHO HaMeHbeHMX CTPy4HMM CapagHuuéa. Togune 1975. csetno gaxa yrnegana je apyra KHeura, HasBaHa KaKo OuTn yCNeWwaH HaCTABHUK, Koja he OvTv KOpvuthexa v4 Ha OprOBapajyhum KypceBvima. Opa Kiera HY, HACTaBHMUMMa BeLUTMHe Koje Cy 1M NoTpeGHe 3a ycneWwHMjy KOMyYHIKa- unijy ca yueHnuyMa, HOBe MeTOse 3a NocTusarbe AMCUMNNMHE KOje Hcy 3acHoBaHEYuehe pogurenmcraa Ha AeCTPyKTMBHOCTH M ayTOpMTeTy HacTaBHiika VW NpakTu4He MeToMe yonocTaBsba- tba OflerbeHbCKMX NPABMNA, BOKEHA NPOAVKTMBHMX rpyNHAX AMCKyCuja, MsrpahuBa- tba Aeujer caMonowToBarsa Mu NM4He OAroBopHocTM. NpuxsaheHoct kako cemuHapa Tako W KHMre Of CTpae jefe yCTaHOBe Koja ce Kpos UcTOpHiy *eCTOKO OnMpana 6uno KaKByM 3HatajH4M npomeHama y chcTemy MehysbyACKux OfHOCa, 3a MeHe ni4- Ho 6una je Benuka Harpapa. Aja 6x ynotnyxvo oBaj onuc "noKpera” Koju je sa4eT Halim Kypceauma sa PpoguTeme MopaM ykpaTKO NoMeHyTH Hale Mporpame O6ykKe 3a AvpeKTOpe, Hap SOpHMKe uv Apyre pykoBognoue - y 6usHicy, MHAyCTpHiy, GonHMYyama, BNaAnHnM areHuvjama. Kopvictehn ucry onwity Teopuijy ycnewHux MehymyACKMXx OAHOCA, KO- ja ne>ku y ocHoBu ocTannx Hallux Nporpama, CTBOpMnM CMO Kypc 3a pyKOBOAMOLe (Leader Effectiveness Training - LET), kojm ce ycpegcpefyje Ha @AHoce namehy py- KoBogMnaya vu sanocneHvx uw Ha jeAVHcTBeHe Mpobneme KapakTepucTu4He 3a. Tpyne meyav Kojm page y TAMOBMMa. Y TakBvM ycnoBuMa mya chyHKyMOHMy ycnelwHO y Mepn y Kojo) Hay4e BeLUTMHE NOCTH3arba OTBOPEHe M NOLITeHe ABOCMepHe KOMyHMKaLIvje, KpeaTMBHor pewasatha npo6nema, KOHCTpykTMBHor paspewaBatba cyKoba, sajeqHnuKor NocTaBmatba UMbeBa, THMCKOr pajia M capaphe. Npeayro nn je TpeGano ga youu roToBo caBpwexy napaneny usmebhy oAHoca pyKkoBo”MNay, - 3anocneHy v poAMTer = gete. Anu, nowTo cy Mv MHOrM O4eBM KOjM cy saBpLuMNM CeMnHap sa poguTere wenpy4ann KaKo CBe WTO cy Hay4nn HaBeNMKO KOpNCTe TAMO [pe pase, KOHAYHO cam CxBaTMo y Yemy je CTBap. He mory aa ogonum uckywerby rnegarha y 6ypyhHocr. Kyga oBaj nokpeT Bon Hawy opraHvsayniy (HasBary Effectiveness Training Associates) v Hawy naGapy chepepauviy of HeKonuko xunsapa nocseheHux mHcTpyKTopa? To Kyfa Memo sHaMajHO je NOBeSaHO Ca YHbeHMLOM Aa je Halwa HAyMOHaNHa Mpexka MHCTpyKTopa CacTaBibeHa 04 NpeACTaBHuka MHOrMx pasnu4uTHx Npodecnia, ykrby4yiyhv Ncvxonore, CBeELITeHMKe, OpayHe 4 NOPOAMYHE CaBETHMKe, HACTABHMKe, ANpekTope wikona, couvjanve pagHuKe. Behury Hauiux uHCTpykTopa aHraKyly areH- uyje, yoTaHoBe unm opraHnsauyje Koje npysxajy yenyre ca4Mm BPcTaMa Ogpacnux 1 eue, ay Kojuma cy OHM nocTanv sHaYajHv areHcu yTuuaja v npomeHe. Hawa ocHOB- Ha cbanosocpvja v MeTofe NpwMerbeHe Ha HalUMM NPBMM GeMVHapMMa sa poAMTerse cTume cy, fakne, AO HeynopesMBO BULLE MyAM HETO LTO CMO y NoveTKy Morn 4 CatbaTu. Nporpam kojm caga paseuvjamo moxga je Hajys6yAnuenin of cBux - To je Npo- Tpam o6ykKe y ycnewHoj KoMyHMKauyjn 3a mnage. Osaj nporpam npegctasma OpCTyNatbe Of Hale AOcapallibe Npakce O6y4aBatba OHE OCOGe Koja je y jeAHOM OpHOcy jaya 1 MORHMja - pogMTerba, HaCTaBHuKa, pykoBoqmoua. (Hawa nora je ouNrNeAHO To Wa Ce OAHOC uaMeby ABE OCObe MOxe SHAYAjHO NPOMEHUTU CAMO ako Ce NpoMeHN oHaj KO Mma Bey Moh. Oxaj KO Mma Matby Moh Gecnomohan je,Npegrosop maga He cacaum. Ha npyumep, jefak THHejep TeUIKO Moke NpOMeHUTHY vayseTHo cTporor v ayTopuTapHor poauTersa.) Heku 09 Halux uHCTpykKTopa Beh cy Vcnpobanu Hae cemuHape ca mnaguma koja cy gocnenv nog jypucankunjy cyfoBa 3a ManoneTHuKe. Mowro je ycnex npe- MaLUMO Halla O4eKMBalba Cama ce pagqu Ha Mspaqy nporpama cneyyjanHo HaMerbe- Hor Mnaguma. Bepyjemo fa fe oBaj kypc 6uTw 04 BenMke KopucTu Oa cyfoBuMa 3a MANONeTHMKe 4 COMYHMM MHCTUTYUYjaMa, anv He Camo Hema. Hafjamo ce ga he jeqaH oBaKaB Kype 6uTM AOSpogowao uv y CpeAHbyM WKONaMa, Kny6oBVMa Apyrum opraHvsayyjama koje oxynmajy mnage. Ako NpMHUYNe yCneWHUX, XyMaHMX YU AeMOKPaTCKMX OAHOCA YYVHVMG AOCTYNHMM mnagvia oHn he nocratu Gorn popyTersu, Gorn HacTaBHMYn, Boren pykOBOAVOUY. Y Tome je Hawa Haga. Nacagexa, Kanuchopxnja Maj 1975.Poguiliewe oxpusryjy, anu ux He Obyuaseajy Cn oKpueryjy poauterse 3a npobneme mnagoctu M4 3a npo6neme koje mnagn cTBapajy Apywtpy. Cee je To pognterscka rpewka, jaguKyjy cTpy4rbayn 3a AywesHo sfpasme nocne yaya y 3actpaluyjyhe cTaTucTuKe 0 HarnoM nopacty 6poja Aeye ca o36ursHuM eMOLIMOHAaNHvM Npobnemuma, Koja noctajy *KpTBe 3a- BMCHOCTH OA Apora Unn camoy6ucTea. NonuTuuke Boke “ NpegcTaBHuN saKoHa OKpnBrbyjy PoAMTeMbe saTO WTO Cy Nogurnw reHepauniy HesaxBanHuka, OyHTOBHY- ka, XUNYja, MUPOBHbaka 4 OHMX Koj us6eraBajy Mobunusauniy. A Kag fella nonyc- Te y wikonu unn 6yay us6a4eHa v3 He, HACTaBHV\M M ynpaBa Wkone TBpAe Aa cy KpvBu poguTeseu. A ko nomake poguTersuma? Konuko ce Hanopa 4MHM fa ce MoMorHe popMTe- SbuMa fla nocTaHy ycnewHyju y Noqusary Aeue? Tye TO posuTerbu Mory casHaTH y Yemy rpewe v wra 6u morn paguTn apyrauuje? Poguremme oKpusreyjy, ann ux He o6yyaBajy. Munvoxm HoBoneyeHnx majKu n oueBa CBake roayHe ysmaly Ha ceGe jegak of Hajrexkux nocnosa Koju ce yonwTe Moke paguTu, y3Amajyhu HOBOPOHeHYe, Mano uv roTOBO NoTNyHO GecnoMOhHO SbYACKO Gye, NDeyshmajyhn nyHy o{roBOpHOCT 3a HheroBO chuan4KO NY NcAxH4KO 3ApaBrbe nu no_Mxyhu ra Tako Aa nocTaHe NpogyKTMBaH rpahaHnH, cnpemaH Ha capaftby u cnoco6ak Aa AonpuHece ppyuirey y Kome x«vBH, ima nv Texxern sax- TeBHujer nocna? A KonuKo je popyTersa O6y4¥eHO 3a Hera? [JaHac MHOro Bue Hero 1962. Kaya caM, y Nacanenn, y Kanucbopxyju, oany4no ga Hanpasum npo- rpam o6yKe 3a poauTese. Y mojoj npsoj rpyni 6uno ux je camo 17 v To yrnasHom poguTema Koju cy Beh umanu O3s6ursHe NpoGneme ca cBojom Aeyom. Cag, nocne Tonnko roguna, NOWTO CMO O6y4unv OKO YeTBPT MunMoHa (sacTa- peo nogatak - 1974) poqvTersa, nokaganu cmo fa ce Kpos oBaj KypC, HasBaH Kako 6u7Tu yonewaH pogurers (Parent Effectiveness Training - PET) sefuna pogu- Tesba MO>Ke HAYYVTH BeELUTMHaMa koje uM Tpebajy 4a 6 6unu ycnewHyju y nocny nogsatba geue. Y oom ys6yAsbUBoM nporpaMy nokasanu CMO Aa OAPeheHa BpcTa O6yKe MoxKe sHa4ajHo noBehaTn ycnewHocT pogutersa. Ox Tyme cTM4y Beoma cneyndMuHePogureme okpuarsyly, arn ux He o6yyaBajy BeWTHHe KOjMMa Ce KaHanw KOMyHMKaLije MsMehy poguTerba m AeYe Ape o Rerinm.- y 06a npagya, M y4e HosM MeTOA paspewaBatba cykoba usMehy pogyTe- SoA V AeUe KOjM NOBODY Ao javatba, a He AO NoropulaBalba Tor OgHoCa. Opaj nporpam Hac je ysepvo Aa popMTesu w HuxoBa Aeya Mory pagBnTH Tonao, 6nvsak OfHOC sacHoBaH Ha ysajaMHoj myOaBy VM NOWTOBatby. MoKasao je, TaKohe, Aa "jas mehy rexepauyjama™ yonwite He Mopa Aa NocTojm y nopo_nuy. Kao knwHm4KH Nevxonor ca ConcTBeHOM npakcom u ja cam, Kao 1 BehMHa pogyTesba, 6vo yGehex Aa je nepvog HasBaH “cTpawHn nyOepTeT" v HOpManaH n Hev36exKaH - PesynTatT caenpucyTHe oKyAHLe MNaQMX fa sacHyjy cBOjy HesaBn- CHOCT Ml NOSyHe Ce NPOTMB CBOjux poAUTema. Buo cam curypaH ga je agonecyex- unja, Kako je NokasvBana BehMHa MCTpaKnBatba, HeEMB0CTaBHO GypHO M CTpecHO 06a y nopogmyy. Hawe uckycteo ca O6yKOM popyTersa noKasano je fa HucaM 6uo y npasy. Pogutessu Kojv cy npowwnn Kpos Hale cemmHape cTanHo cy Hac M3- BewTaBann O MsHeHabylyhem OpcycTBy noGyHe m Hemmpa y CBOjMM nopognyama. Caga cam yGehex fa ce aflonecyenTh He OyHe mpotue poguTesa. Onn ce byHe NPOTMB HEKMX AECTPYKTMBHVX AVCUMMNVHCKUX MeTOga KOje NpuMeryjy ToTOBO can popyreren. Hemmpy 1 pacnpaee y riopognun mory OTM mayseTak, a He pas: TO Kag poguTersu Hayue Aa cyKo6e paspewaBaljy Ha HOB HAYMH. Haus nporpam je, Takohe, 6ayvo HOBO CBeTNO Ha KaxKHbaBalbe y Noqusarby e- ye. Mxorw of pogvTersa Kojm cy SaBpluumnn ceMMHap AOKasann cy Ham fa ce KadkrbaBalbe KAO AVCUMNNMHCKK MeTOA MOxe SayBeK OA6AayNTM - NPA ToMe Mu- CNM Ha CBE BpCTe KarKbaBakea, He Camo Ha chusu4Ko. PoauTersu mory nogwhn OgroBOpHy, caMoquclynnMHoBaly Aeuy M Aeuy cnpeMHy Ha capaptyy He ocnatba- jyhu ce Ha opyxje CTpaxa; Mory Hay4TM KakO a yTM4y Ha Aeuly fa HuxoB NoHawatbe bye 3acHOBaHO Ha UCTHHCKO] 6pvisu 3a noTpeGe po”yTema yMecTo Ha cTpaxy of kasHe unn yKigalba npveunervyia, Vsrnepa nu oBo cysulwe fo6po fa 6u Guno cTBapHo? Bepogatno je Tako. Men je Tako vsrnegano Npe HO LITO CaM Nu4HO O6yYyaBao po_uTere Ha HAMM cemmapna. Kao v Behuka CTpy4rpaka M1 ja CaM NOTYeHbMBaO poAMTere. PognTe- Ton KOje cam O6y4no Hay4inn Cy Me KOMMKO Cy CNOCO6HM fa Ce MeHbajy AKO 4M ce 3a To Npyku npaBa npunuKka. Crekao cam Bepy y cnocoGHOCT majku v o4eBa a yepoje HOBO SHarbe Vi cTeKHy HoBe BeWTHHe. PoguTerby KOjM cy SaBpwMnn Haw cemmHap, Ca BPNO Mano u3yseTaKa, 6unn cy %KeseH fa Hayye HOBM NpucTyn Nogvsarby Aeye, anv oHu Cy Hajnpe Mopann 6uTu y6eheHu ma he TH HOB MeTOAN Aenosatn. Befvta poguTerma Beh sha fa Cy HMXOBN CTapn MeTogM HeycnewHn. CagpemeHn poguTefen cy, npema Tome, CnpeMHM 3a NpoMeHy, a HAW Nporpam o6yke MoKasad jé Aja OHM Mi Mory fa ce merbaly. Jegax 04 vcxoga Hawer nporpama O6yke noceGHO Hac je o6pagosao. Jegax op, HaLUMAX NPBUX YATeBa GVO je fa poaANTembe Hay4nMO HeKUMa Of NocTynaKa koje: KOPUCTE NPOcecvoHaNHY CaBETHYL UN TepaneyTu fa 6u nomornu AeUM pa18 Ymehke poguremctsa npesasvihy eMounoHanne npoBneme v HenpynaroheHo NoHawarbe, Taxse acnupa- yyje Mory MarnegaTn 4YyAHO Mn Yak npeTeHyMosHO. Ma Kako TO GecmucneHo sBy4ano HeKYM poATersMma (M4 Nonpunn4toM Gpojy cTpy4tbaka) mu caga 3HaMO a Yak vi popTerby Ges HeKor NomxonowKOr O6pasOBarba Mory HayYMTH Te npo- BepeHe NOCTYNKE Vi 3HATH kaKO M kala Aa vx KopucTe Aa 6u NoMornn cBojoj Fey. Ca passojem Hawer nporpama nocTeneHo cMo npyxBaTanv Vu YnrbeHMUy Koja Hac noHeKay O6ecxpabpyje, anu Yeuikhe sa Hac npegcTasrsa usasoB; AaHaltn poguTersMt ce cKOpo HeMsOcTaBHO OCnatbaly Ha MeTOAe No_Nsatba AeUe M Mana- 2kerba Ha Kpaj Ca NOPOAVYHUM NpoSneMuMa KOjé cy KOpYCTUNM HuxoBN poguTe- SoU, POAVTENN HMXOBMX POANTema, POAMTeMM HuxOBMX QenoBa M Gaka. 3a pasnuky Of BehuHe APYUITBEHUX UHCTUTYUMja OAHOC POAVTEs - AeTe viarneza ga je ocTao HenpometbeH. PoguTersn ce ocnatbajy Ha MeToge KOpuwheHe npe Ase xwseage rogvia! Huje qa sypcka paca Huje cTeKna HVKaKBO HOBO 3Haltbe O mMebyryackum opxocnma. Bal HanpoTue. Mevxonorvja, passojya novxonorvja w Apyre HayKe o flovawarby HaroMumane cy UMNpeCMBHeE KOMMYMHE SHatba O “eM, POAUTerDuMa, mehysbyACKYM OAHOCHMA, 0 TOMe Kako NOMObu Apyroj oco6u Aa ce pasBuje, KAKO cTBOpMTM NeuxoNoWKK 3ApaBy KnuMy y rpynu syAY. MHOro ce sha O yonewHO| KOMyHMKauvja Mehy nojeAvHyyma, O edbextuma KOpwuheHsa Moku y mebysbyp- CkKMM OAHOCMMA, O KOHCTPYKTMBHOM paspewlasarby KOHCpnuKaTa M TaKO fare. Hakasi0cT, OH Koj Cy OTKPANM HOBe 4NHLeHMUe 4 pasBunn HOBe MeTOze Hcy ce Ga noTpyaunn 7a po_yTeme obaBecte o HMMa. CBoje konere O6aBewTaBaMO KPO3 KHbMire M CTpyHHe 4aConnce, av TO He PanMMo TAKO AO06po KAA cy y NuTaLy poayTersM, nyHONpaBHn KOpMCcHMUM THX HOBMX MeTOga. Mano6pojHn crpy4ibaum cy, AoO”ywe, noKywasanu fa Te HoBe upeje wv noctynke npexecy poaMTerbuma, Hapounto Xemm [uHoT (Haim Ginott) Kojn je y 4 geTeTa yka3a0 KAKO popuTeru ca yeTeToM camonowTosatbe. Vinak, 1 OHO Mano pogiTersa KojM cy npouMrann ogy HW Apyre Kreme He NoKasyjy O36urbHe sHake Aa cy sHayajHo NpomMeHunu cBoje noHawarbe, HapO4nTo CBO; NPUCTYN ANCYMNNMHH H HanaAKeHy Ha Kpaj ca cyKoOuMa vaMeby 1x 4 Beye. Moxe ce nokasa™ fa OBA Kura Mma Heka 09 OrpaHy4ersa Koja umajy U nper- XOgHe, anu ce HaflaM Aa To Heke 6uTH cnyyaj, MowITO oHa usnaxKe jeaHy O6yxBaTHy @unosodpvjy oHora wo je noTPebHO Aa 6u Ce 3acHoOBaO UH ouyBao cBeobyxBaTaH OAHOC ca AeTeTOM, 6e3 Obsupa Ha OKONHOCTU. Vis oBe Kroure poguTeron he Hay4nTH He Camo MeTOge Mt BeWTHHe, Beh M TO Ka- Aa, 3aluTO v 3a KOjy cBpxy ux Tpeba NpyMerbuBaTH. Kao v Ha HAMM cemvHapyma poavTersvma he GuTM WaT saOKpy>KeH CucTeM NpvHuNa Vv TexHKa. YOeheH cam Aa poayTersuma Tpe6a pehn cBe - ce WTO SHAMO 0 CTBaparby ycneuiHor OAHOCAFOAATESLE OKPHBIby]Y, alu UX He OOyYaBbaly vameby pognTerba n AeTeTa, NOYeBLWM Of OCHOBHMX CTBapM 0 OHOMe WTO Ce ”ora- ha y cay BpcTama OpHOCAa usMehy ABe ocobe. Taga he pasymeTu 3auiTo KopucTe Hawe meToge, kafa je NorogHo KOpucTuTH Mx Mu kakBy he GuTY Ucxogu. PosuTerin he f06vTM Npunnky a Cam nocTaHy ekcnepTu y pewaBatby npobnema KoOjv ce HevsGerkHo jasraiy y CBMM OAKOCMMa u3sMehy poAMTema Mu AeTeTA. Y 0B0j KHbW3M, KAO VW Ha HalMM CeMMHapuma, poguTensu he JO6uTH cBe OHO WTO MH 3HAMO, HE CaMO No Koje napye. 3aoKpyxkeH Mogen yonewHMX OAHOCA poATer - ete 6uhe ope AeTArbHO ONNCaH M YeCTO MnycTpoBaH MaTepyjanom v3 Halwer vckycTpa. BehyHa pogyTensa Hal Npuctyn CMaTpa peBonyuvoHapHum, jep ce ApamaTn4Ho pasnuKyje Of Tpagnuvovanvor. Vinak, oH O”roBapa pogvTeruma Bpno mane Aeue, KAO M poAVTeruma THHejepa, poAMTesuMa Kako xeHAVKenupa- He Tako 4 “HOpManHe” Jeye. Kao v y Hawem mporpamy o6yke Haw npuctyn he OBAe 6uTM ONucaH GBakome pasyMsbuByM jesMkOM, & He CTpy4HOM TepmuHonorvjom. Heku popnterbu ce y noveTky Hehe cnaraTu ca HEKMM Of M3NOx*KeHUX Mfeja, anv je BPNO MANO HEUX KOjA ux Hehe pasymeTn. Nowro yutaoun Heke 6uTu y npunnyn Aa cBoje Hegoymuue u3pase ~MpeKTHO BOAMTeMy, CBO HEKUX NMTarba VY OATOBOpa kOjn Ha NOYeTKy MOry OMTM Of NOMOFM. NUTAMMDE: fla nu je oB0 jegax og OHMx Nprictyna y Kojuma ce pogmrersu ye 7a 6yay nonycTnuen npema peyn? OfPOBOP: HvnowrTo. Nenyctruev pogutenu umajy ucTo ToNuKO npo6nema KOMNKO Vi OHM KOjM Cy CyBMWe CTpOrM, jep HMxOBa Aeya NocTajy ceGn4Ha, pasma- >KeHa, HECNPeMHa Ha Capaatby M HeoceTMMBa 3a NoTpeGe cROjux pog_UTesba. NUTAHE: Moxe nu jefak ponte. ycnewHo KopucTuTM oBaj MeTOA ako ce Apy™ apxv ctaper npuctyna? OfOBOP: V ga He. Ako camo jeqah poguTer no4He fa npumersyje oBaj HO- Bu Mpuctyn AokM he AO BUANMeBOr NOGosLWaHLA y OAHOCY U3Meby Hera UM AeLIe. Anv ofHoc MmMefy feue 1 Apyror PogMTema Moxe ce NoropwiaTH. MHaoro je Gore, Aakne, fa 06a poguTema Hayye HoBM meTog, LiiTasnwe, kag sajeAHo NoKywaBajy Aa Haye HOBY NPUCTYN POAVTes.U MOry MHOFO NOMOKu jezaH Apyrome. NVTAHbE: Xohe nv OBvM HOBMM NPMCTyNOM posKTeru usry6uTH yTHYaj Ha Aeuy? Xohe nu opyctatu of, oprosopHoctu fa yomepaBajy *«MBoTe cBoje AeYye? OJFOBOP: Untajyku npsa nornasrea, posters mory cTehu TaKaB ytucak. Y Kibv3M Ce jefaH CUCcTeM MOxKe NpvKasMBaTM CAMO KOpak NO KOpak. MoueTHAa nornapiea Gape ce HaYNHYMa KOjMM Ce Beyn Moxe NomOhn Aa Hay concraeva pewerba 3a concTBene npobreme. Y Tum cuTyaujama ynora ycnewHor popMTema mMoxke v3rnegaTn Apyrauvje - MHOrO NacnBHVja 4 Marbe "yCMepuBayka" Hero LUTO cy poguesbu HaBnKnn. KacHnja nornassba, MehyTuM, OaBe ce TuMe Kako H3MeHn- Tw HenpyxBaTreMBa NOHalaHba Jee M KAKO yTuYaT Ha HbMxX fa Bue yearKaBaly Bawe noTpe6e Kao poAyTema. Y oBvM crTyalivjama, Ove BaM NoKasaHO Kako fa 19Yuehe poguTesmcrsa NocTaHeTe jou OAFOBOPHYin po_MTer vi Aa cTeKHETe jow BME yTuuyaja HO wo ra caga vmare. Oba Kibur'a - KaO M1 Hal CemmHap - nopy4aBa pogMTemse jeqHocTrasHom noctyn- ky oxpaOpusatea Aeye Aa npeysmy oAroBOpHOCT 3a Hana@xKelbe CONCTBeHMX pewie- tba 3a concTBeHe MpoOneme u unycTpyje Kako poguTersy Mory OAMAX KopieTuTH oBaj noctynak y csome fomy. Pogureren Kojn Haye oBaj noctynak (Ha3BaH “AKTMBHO cnylarbe") MOry AO>KNBETH OHO WTO Cy PoAMTesbM KO|M Cy NpOUINM Kpos Hawe kypCeBe OBakO onucann: “Takso je onakulatse He MMCMTH Ha TO 4a MopaM uMaTH CBE ogroBope sa npo6neme moje Aeue." “Opaj Kype Me je Hay4vo fa MHOro BUWe yBaxKaBam cnoco6HocTn moje neue Aa pewasajy caoje npobneme." “SanarbeH CaM Kako j¢ aKTMBHO cnywWatbe ycnewHo. Moja qeua gonase po MHOrO OOeUX pelllerba 3a CBOje NPOGreMe Hero WTO cy OHA koja 6ux um ja noxygno." “Cag gum fa caM Ce ofysek ocehana Bpno HeyrogHo y ynosu Bora - emaTpajyhu Aa yBeK MopaM sHaTu WTa Moja Aeya Tpeba Aa page kag umajy npo6nema." Y Aakawibe Bpeme MHorM aponecueHTH cy HanpocTo oTnycTunu caoje Poalitere, 3a wa uajy jake pasnore, WTO ce Hux THe. “Mojn poguTersn He pasymejy Zeyy mojmx roguna." “Mpsum fa ogem kyhu vu cBako Beye cnyuiaM UnTaBO. Npegasatte." “Ja HvKag HiuTa He roBopum cBOjuM poavTersuma; kag Oux uM peKna, Hn TO He Ov pasymenn." “Boneo 6ux Aa MM Ce popvTersn ckuHy Cc Bpata." “4um 6yAem Morna, oTuAY hy of Kyhe - He Mory 4a NoAHeceM fla Me CTanHO 360r HeYera rbase." PopTeru ope Aeye cy O6m4HO yBenuko cBecHn’ Aa Cy OTNYLUITeHU, Kao WTO ce BuAM Ms OHOra Wa HaM CaonuTaBaly Ha HaWwMM CeMMHapuma: “Hemam suwe ama 6a HvkKaKBor yTuyaja Ha cBor YeTpHaecToroAMuirber cua." “[urnw cmo pyke op Cenn." “Tum Hikaga He jege ca Hama, v jeaBa HaM AoGayn Kojy peu. Caga xenu fa ce6n ype coby y rapaKu." "Mapk HiKkag Huje Koy Kyhe. ‘Hukag HaM He roBopu rae je 4 wTa pagu. AKo ra nuTaM, K@Ke fa Me ce TO He THYe." 3a mene je Tpareayja fa jena of noteHyyjanHo HajGnucKyimx wv Hajronnujux OAHOCA MW KUBOTY TAKO 4ecTO CTBapa Sy KpB. SaluTo Tako MHoro agonecueHata CONCTBEHE POAMTEMbe B4AK Kao “HeNpujaTere"? SawTo je renepaynicku jas Tako NpucyTak y AaHaulteum nopopniiama? Salto cy poguTersn nu naan y Hawem Apywitey GykBanHo y party jeqHv npoTuB Apyrux?Pogutere oxpuaryiy, anu ux He o6yyasajy Y 14. nornaBry OaBuhemo ce OBMM NuTalbMMa uM NoKasaTu fa yonuiTe Huje HYDKHO 4a Ce AeA 6yHe npoTMB CcBOjmx pog”MTema. Haw meTog, o6yke 3a ycneuwHo PoAvTerscTBo jecTe peBony\ymoxapal, anv OH He npvsnBa peBonyuniy. To je npe MeTO, KOjM MOxKe NOMOhU poAUTeruMa Aa He 6yfAy OTNYWTEHM, KOjn MoxKe cnpe- 4TH pat y Kyhit n 36nwkUTM AeLy VW poguTense yMecTo Aa ux rpynuuie jezHe npo- THB Apyrnx Kao HeNpyjatese. Pogurersu kojv Gu Ha npey norneg 6unw cknoHn ga O”6aye Hae meTope Kao CYBULUE PEBONYLMOHApHE MOKA OM Ce MOrNM HaBeCcTH Aa ux Cap Npoyue oTBOpe- Hor Ayxa - AKO NpouuTajy oANOMak v3 V3BeUTaja KOju cy Hanucann Jegax oray u jegva majKa HakoH 3aspweHor cemuHapa. “Bun, crap 16 roquna, 6vo je Haw Hajsehu npo6nem. Oryhvo ce. Buo je NOAMBMao MW NocTaO CacBMM HeOgroBOpaH. Moyeo je Aa Aobvja ABojKe u Jequxuye y wkonu. Hakaga Huje Zonasuo-Kyhu y gorosopeHo Bpeme npas- Aaiyhu ce npobywexvm ryMama, NOKBapeHwM caTOBMMa M npasHiM pesep- Boapwa. Mv CMo Hera wnujyHupany, a oH je Hac narao. Sa6patbupanu cMo my wanacke. Onysenn cMo My Bosa4Ky AosBony. CMalsunn cMo my yena- pay. Haw pasrosopy Gunn cy nyHn y3ajamHyx ontyx6u. Cae ysany.. Nocne jeqHe xecToKe cBake nerao je Ha kyxuibeKn nog u, 6ayakajyhu ce u BpuUTehM, BUKaAO Kako Ke NonygeTu. Taga cmo ce ynucann Ha Ap Fopaovos cemmuHap 3a poguTerse. flo npomexe Huje qouino npeKo Hoku... Panuje ce HviKaga H¥cMo Ocehanv kao npasa sajeqHuua, Kao Tonna nu 6pwKHa nopo- Auua nyHa my6aBy, To ce Aoro”nno Tek nocne BeNnMKux NpoMexa y HaLuMM CTaBOBMMa M BPeAHOCTUMA... TO HOBO Ocehalbe fa CU OcO6a - jaka, sace6Ha oco6a, koja nspaxaBa cBoje BpeAHOCTH, anu ux He HaMeke Apyrome Beh x HYAM Kao Ao6ap mogen - To je Guna npekpetHuya. CTeKnu cMo MHoro Bek yTnyaj... O@ 6yHToBHNKa KojM uma Hanage 6eca, 04 nower haka Bun ce NpeTBopuo y OTBOpeHy, NpujaTerecKn HacTpojeHy OGOGy nyHy myGaBn Koja cBoje pogvTerbe 308e “Ba Moja Hajapaoka 4YoBeKa"... KOHAYHO Ce BPAaTHO y nopopyuy... Ca thm wMaM OfHOC KakaB HYCaM BepoBao a je moryk, nyx meyOaBu, NOBEpelba M H33ABMCHOCTH. HberoBy MOTMBM AONase 3 Hera caMmor v, Kama je TO 4 ca CBAKYM Of Hac cnyyaj, Mu 3avcTa *KMBMMO MM pacTe- moO Kao nopop”nua." Pognteren kojm Hayye fa KopucTe Hawe Ha4uHe CaonUiTaBalba CONncTBeEHMX ocehatba Hehe npovsBecTM AeTe KAO LITO je WeCHaeCTOrOAMUUHbak KOjV je, cegehn y MOjoj OpAVHayyiv, He TpenHyBWwY peKao cnezeke: “Ja He MopaM HiuTa 4a paguo y Kyhu. [ykHOCT Mojux poguTersa je aa 6pury o MeHu. To wm je sakoHcKa o6aBesa. Hicam Tparkvo fa ce popu, sap He? flokne rog cam ManoneTaH OHM Mopaly 4a Me xpaHe v OGnaye. A ja He MOpaM Hv NpcToM fa MpgHeM." 21Ymehe pogurercrea Kag cam uyo wa je oBaj mnaguk pexao uv, o4urnegHo, BepoBao CaM Mora a fa He nomucnym: "KakBe mn To myfe cTBapaMo Kap je FellM AOsBOMeHO Aa ogpactajy mucnehu 4a “iM oBaj cBeT Ayryje CBe, Wak u ako OHM He Aajy roTOBO Hvwrta? Kakeor To rpahaHnHa popytesn wary y oBaj cBeT? KakBo he ApywiTso copa ce6u4Ha MyAcKa 6uka crBopuTH?" a ‘CKopo Ges usyseTKa pogntern ce mory rpy60 capcraTu y Tpu KaTeropuie: “go6uTHMYN", “ryOuTHMUM" vu “ocuMnyiyhu". PoquTensu v3 npBe rpyne »xycTpo Gpa- He y6eprouBo npaBgajy cBoje npaso Aa Hag AeTeTOM npuMerbyly CBO ayTopmter. Oxm Bepyjy y orpak4aBarbe, NOcTaBsbatbe rpaHwuja, SaxTeBe fa ce Bete novalwa Ha OAPeHeHM Haun, HapepGbe uv O4eKMBarbe NocnywiHOcTU. Kopuicte npeTrbe KasHama Aa Ov yTuyanu Ha geTe Aa ce NoKOpasa, 4 KaxkHbaBaly ra kag TO He umHY. Kaga ce mojaBy KOHcpnuKT vsmehy noTpe6a geTeTa u popuTera, popvterbu ra yeeK paspelasajy Tako Aa OM FOGnjajy, a qeTe ryOu. OBakBy pogy- ) TembM O6MYHO O6bjalitbaBajy cBojy “nobegy" TakBMM CTepeOTMNHYM PasMVLisba- HbeM KAO UuITO je "Tata 3Ha Haj6ome", “To je 3a 406po qeteta", “Jleya 3anpaso Kene Aa poAVTerM BNafajy teuma" wn NpocTo MarnosByToM MAeioM Aa je "AyaK- \ HOCT pOgUTEsba Aa KOPUCTe ayTopuTeT 3a AOOpo AeTeTA, jep poguTensu sHajy wTa (je A06po, a ura nowe". | Qpyra rpyna popytesna, HewTo mano6pojxyja og “Ao6uTHuKa", yrnaBHOM f0- nywiTa cBojoj Aey" MHOro CnoGoge. OHM cBeCHO M36eraBajy NocTaBrbatse rpaHuya Wi MOHOCHO u3sjaBryly a Ke OfOGpaBajy ayTopuTapHe meToge. Kag us6uje KoH- dbnuxt vameby notpeba popvtemma uv peue y themy Bpno pocnepHO AeTe 4o6uja, @ poguTers ry6n, jep TakBn poguTeru Bepyjy Aa je wreTHO OcyjehuBaTn geYje *" |moTpe6e. \ BeposatHo Hajpehy rpyny We pogMTesbu Kojuma je Hemoryhe fa ce AOcnegHO npvApxasajy 6uno Kor of oBa Ba NpveTyna. HacTojehu qa pohy 70 "npaBegHe cmece" cacTaBmexe 04 06a OHM OcUMNyjy WsMehy CTporocTu um NonycTMuBocTH, Tpy6ocTu uv 6narocTu, pecTpuKTUBHOCTH VM NepMVCMBHOCTY, AOGYjarba 4 ryOrberba. Kao wo Ham je jeqxa majka pena: "Nokywasam fa Gy fem nonyctmuea npema cBojoj 7eUV OK Tako He NoaMB- ,, Teajy Aa He Mory Aa ux nopHecem. Oxf~a BMgMM Aa MOpaM fa OKpeHeM nucT, “\na nowHem a WX puxTam Tako fa Bule cebe He Mory Ja NopAHeceM." Popyrersu Koju cy Ha Halim CeMuHapvMma roBopunn Oo OBakByiM OCehatbuma HMCy HV 3HANM Ja roBope y MMe BenuKe rpyne “ocyunyjyhux". To cy poguTersi Ko- JM cy BepoBaTHo Hajs6ybeHyiv Mu HajHecurypHMim “ 4uja feua, Kao LITO hemo Kac- \ Hyje NoKasaTv, O6M4HO uMaly Hajsehe npo6neme. PnapHa aunema faHaluiteux poguTensa je y Tome WTO OHM BYE Camo ABa NpY- ctyna wanaketby Ha Kpaj ca KOHCbAMKTMMa y NopogMuM - OHM HeMMHOBHYM KoHdpnuktuma u3smehy poguTerba u “eye. Ox Buge Camo ABE MoryhHOCTu y no- 22PoguTene oxpusnyly, anu ux He obyyaBajy Arsarby Aeye. Hexn uza6epy npyctyn “Ja goOujam - TH ryOnw", apyru Onpajy “Th Aobujaw - ja ry6vm", a Tpehu ouurnepHo He Mory Aa ce onpepene. Pogutemsu Ha HalUMM CeMMHapMMa Ca W3HeHaheHsem casHajy fa nocTojn antepHaTvBa OBMM ABaMa “ry6“THMYKO - QOOMTHKYKMM" npvicTynuma. To cmMo fa Hayye Kako fa ra ycnewHo KopycTe jecTe jeqaH of rnaBHux yureBa Haler nporpama o6yKe. Viako je oBaj MeTOg roqMHama KOpvutheH 3a paspelaBarbe Apyrux epcta cyKo6a, mano je poauTersa Kojua je ukag nano Ha naMeT Aa 6 ce OH MOrao KOPUCTUTH MM 3a paspelwaBalbe cyKoba uamehy poAMTema u AeUe. Muoru cynpysn m cynpyre paspewasaly cBoje KoHcnukTe sajeqHMYKn peuiaBa- jyhu npo6nem. Tako noctynajy 4 nocnosHu naptHepy. CunaMkaTn uu ynpasa cKna- najy yrosope KojM O6aBesyjy o6e cTpaHe. Mpunukom passofa AC pellerba nuTarba BMACHMLUTBa OGUYHO Ce Jonasu sajenHu4Kum opny4vBalbem. Yak u feua ymejy a ckKnanajy cBoje HecbopmanHe goroBope ysajamHy ycarnawasarsem ("AKO TH ypa- nw oBo, ona fy ja ono"). Benuka npeayseha cee uewhe ysumajy ctpy4pake o6y4eHe 3a YCNeUHO AOHOWeHe OANyKa Vv pewlaBatbe KOHCpNUKaTA. He noctaje ce jegxocTaBHo ycnewak poauTess. Hery6vuTHnYKN MeTOg usncKyje TeMEMbHE NPOMeHe PacnpocTpatbeHMXx CTaBOBa PoAMTera O Nog_Msarby AeYe. 3a npumeny Tor MeToga TpeGa Bpemexa, anu W NpeTXOgHOr yueH.a BeLITMHa aKTUB- HOr CnyWatba VM MCKpeHOr CaONWTaBatha CBOjMx OCehatba. Gor Tora je Hery6uTHU- 4KM MeTOg y KacHyjMM nornasrenma noppobxo onvcaH MW MnycTpoBaH npumepuna. Metytum, MecTo Koje Hery6UTHVYKY MeTOA UMa Y OBO] KHbV3 He OApaKaBa y NOTNyHOCTH Heros 3HaYaj 3a No_Msarbe AeUe. Y CTBapM, Taj HOB MeTOA yBOerba ANCUMNAMHe Kpo3 JenoTBOpHO paspewaBarbe cyKOOa 4MHM CyWTHHy Hae cpnno- so¢cpuje. Poavtersu cnpemuu fa ofBoje Bpeme noTpe6Ho 3a HberoBo pasymMeBatbe WU NOTOHSy NpuMeHy GoraTo Cy HarpaheHn pesyntatuma KojM NpeBasunase CBa HoV- xoBa O4eKMBalba.24 a Poguitiesou cy wygu, a He 60206u Heuito 4yqHo nowve fa ce geuiasa Kag 4oBeK nocTaHe poguTes. Opjeatom noyHe Aa NpeysMMa HekaKBy ynory M a saG0paBra fa je OHO ITO jecTe. Hawao ce y CBETOM YapcTBy poANTes.cTBa, na cmatpa Aa Tpeba fa ce saogeHe ofopom “pogTera”. Mpegako nokywapa fa ce noHawa Ha OgpeheH Ha4nH, jep mucnu fa pogvTerbu Tako Tpe6a Aa ce noHawajy. DpeHk u Xenena Bejre, asa o6u4Ha myp- cKa Ova, HajeqHom nocrajy rocnogMH u rocnofka Bejrc, POQUTESbU, Osaj npeo6parxaj Hocu jeAHy Os6unsHy HeBorby, jep ce YecTo saBpWwaBa TuMe 4a pogutersu sa6opase wa cy n Aare mycKa 6uha pana pa ce Hacmejy, CKNOHa Aa norpewe, KaTkag HeEMOKHM, MYA Of KpBM MM Meca, ca MyACKMM CnabocTua. Sa6opaBreajyhu Ha cTBapHocT cBOje my~ACKOCTM, OHM YecTO MpecTaHy Aa 6y~y reyacka Ova kag nocTaHy poanTersn. YnHn uM ce ga He cMejy Aa 6y~y OHO LITO jecy ma Kako ce ocehanu y nojequuvm Tpexyyyama. Cana cy pogvtesy, na umajy ofasesy Aa 6ypy HeTO BuWe Of COMYHUX my ACKHXx Onha. Jbyay ce cyovaBajy ca TUM y>KacHAM TepeTOM O{rOBOpHOCTH Kay nocTaHy po- AvTerou. nnn um ce fa HenpectaHo mopaly ga 6yzy Aocnegun y oceharpnma, 4a Bone cBojy Aeuy, Aa 6yAy GesycnoBHo npujemunsn v TonepaHTHA, 4a sanocTaB- Teajy cBoje ce6nune notpeGe, fa ce Bpeme 6ypy chep, a usHag cBera, 4a HuKaa He rpewie Ha Ha4inH Ha KOjM Cy TpelwMnn HMxXOBM poguTersn. ako cy oBe Aobpe Hamepe pasymmuBe uv BpegHe AuBrbetba, OHe poguTersuma Npe opMarky HO WTO HM NloMaxy. SanocTaBmatbe Boje N“YHOCTH NpBa je O36us>- Ha rpeuika HOBOr poAMTesba. YonewaH poAUTen AonywTa cebu, aa 6yae np Ha Ocoba. Jjeya KoA CBOjMx popMTersa AyGoKO YeHe Taj KBaNMTeT NPMPOAHOCTH M TeyACKOCTH. YecTo kapky: "Moj Tata je npasy nacb", wnu: "Moja mama je aueHauHocT". Kako ce npv6nvokapajy agonecyeHuyin, cae ueuthe ymejy Aa Ka>ky: "Moja pogyrersn cy Mi BALE NpHjaTerbi Hero Camo pogyTeseu. LleHMM Wx KAO M4HOCTU. Kao w octanw, umaiy W OHM CBOje MaHe, anu ja ux Ga BONMM TaKBe KaKBM jecy." Uta geua The xohe Aa Kaxxy? Cacaym je ownrnegHo Aa CHM Bone ace HenxoBI PoAMTerbM NOHALUaly KAO NUYHOCTH, a He KAO 6oroBi. Onn pogyTense Bone Kao Mby- Ae, @ He Kao rnymue Koj urpaly HeKy ynory npeTBapajyhu ce fa jecy OHO LITO Huy.Pogurern cy mygqu, a He 6oroBn Kako 67 nuutoct npema ceojoj Aeyn? Kako cayysatn npupo~Hoct y popu- TeMCKOj yNo3i? Y oBOM NornaBry Nokasahemo Kako ycnewlaH po_uTes He Mopa Aa ce oppue caoje nuHocTu. Mopate ce6e npuxBaTuTH Kao ocoby Koja Wa HM 4O- 6pa u nowa ocehatba npema caojoj Aeuv. JoOap pogurerm He mopa yak HH fa 6yge gocnegav. He mopate ce npersapatu fa ocehate SeyOaw NpABP»KeHOCT Mpema cBojoj Aeuv Kafa TO AoucTa He OcehaTe. He Mopate Hu NopjeAHaKo Bone- ~ TH cBaKO cBoje AeTe. KoHa4Ho, 84M Bal Cynpyr Mn Cynpyra He MopaTe yBeK Aenutu uctu crap npema Aeuv. Anu, 6uTHo je 4a Hate wra goncra ocehate. Y OBOM Npupy4HMky noHyAMheMO BaM HeKe Avjarpame Kojv poaMTenuma NoMaxky “a Npenosvajy caoja ocehatba u 4a CxBaTe Aa Ce y pasmn4vTMM cuTyaunjama pasnu- 4MuTO ocehaly. “Qwjarpamu npuxsaratsa" Ceakn poguter je nvsHoct koja nospemeHo uma Be BpcTe ocehatba npema cBojoj eur - ocehatbe npuxsatatba u ocehatbe HenpuxBaTatba. PoguTery kao “CTBapHOj Nv4HOCTH" HeKM NOcTynyM HeroBe AeUe cy NpuxBaTreuBY, a HEKN Henpyxeatrenen, Cea Moryha MoHallialba Baler aAerera Pasva novawatba Baler AeTeTa - 6uno HeWTO WTO 4MHM MN HeUITO WTO TOBOpM - Mory Ce NpeACTaBHTH y NoBpwMHM OBOr KBagpaTa. OuurnegHO, HeKa Of, TWX NOHalarba NaKO Cy BAM NpuxBaTMeMBA, aNK HeKAa He MOxKeTe Aa NpUXBaTUTe. Ty pasnuky MoxKeMO NPeACTaBUTU Tako LITO hemo OBaj KBaApaT NoAenuTH Ha ABA Aena - Ha O6nacT npyxBarsuBor v o6nacT HenpuxBaTsuBor. O6nacr npyxearreusor O6nact HenpuxsaTreueor Bawe fete cy6oTom npe nogHe rnega TB, octasmalykn Bac Ha mupy ga o6asyTe KyhHe nocnoBe. To 64 cnagano y o6nact npuxBaTmueor. Anu, ako OHO TONMKO rnacHo NyCTH SByK fa BaM cBe jeu y yuuMMa, TO 6 cnagano y O6nacT HenpuxBaTreuBor. 25Ymehe poguTemcrsa QemapKauvoxa nunvja koja genv opa gea noppyyja Hehe Guu ucta Kop CBX povrersa. Hexoj majuy je Tek NOHeKO NOHawalbe HeHOr AeTeTAa HenpuxBaTIEBO, na npema tbemy Bpno YecTo oceha Tonnuny. O6nact Pogurer koju gocta npuxsaTnusor tora npuxeara O6nact Henpuxsatmmsor Hexoj apyroj maj” MHoro wTowTa je HenpuxBaTsuBO u OHA Hehe Gal YecTO oceTuTu TonnMHy Npema cBoM AeTeTY. O6nact npwxearrevsor Poguren Koju pocra Tora He npwxeaTa O6naet Henpixearmusor Konuko Tora poguTer wore fa npyxBaTn fes0M saBncn Of FeeroBe NuGHO- ctu. Hexu pogyTersu, npocto 360r Tora uITO Cy TaKBN KakBU cy, Mory 4a npuxBaTe MHOro Tora TO Aeuya WHE. SaHumMouBo je Aa Cy OHV, NO Npaemny, TakBv vu npema Apyru oco6ama. To je HanpocTo jeqHa OANMKa HeMxOBe NUYHOCTH - Aa MMajy yHy- TPpaulrby CMrypHOCT, BUCOK cTeneH ToNepaHuyie, Aa Bone camn ceGe, Aa Cy tbuxo- Ba nu4Ha Ocehatba AOGpmM AeNOM HesaBucHa OA Tora LTA Ce OKO Hbux 36uBa MTA. Cau nosHajemo TaKBe Myfe: UakO Moka He 3HaMO 360r “era Cy TAKBM KAKBM Cy, cMaTpamo ux “TonepaHTHum". Y Hb4xoBoM npwicycTBy ce 4o6po ocehamo - npeA HbMMa C@ He YCTEXKEMO, C HbMMa OTBOPeHO pasroBapamo. Jako HaM je Aa ca tema 6yAemo OHO uITO jecmo. ‘~~ Dpyrn popwtersn cy, Kao oco6e, Matbe TonepaHTHv. Houma mHoro Tora cMeTa KOg Apyrx mypy. Kaa wx NOCMaTpaTe C HsMXOBOM AeLIOM HeCTO CTe 30yHbeHM KAKO | He Mory Aa NpyxBaTe HeKo NoHaWwarbe KOje ce BAMA YMHM CacBMM MpvxBaTMENBMM. Y ce6n fete pehu: "Ma xajae, nyctu AeTe Ha mupy - TO Gal HuKOMe He cmeTa!” Uecto cy TO MyAU CTaMeHUx W KpyTUXx Mpeja O ToMe KaKO Ce “Tpe6a" noHawa- Tu, wra je "y pegy", a uta “Huje y peay” - u To He camo Kag ce pan o Aeuy, Beh o cava, YecTo ce ocehate HenarofHo y H4xoBOM npycycTBy, jep ce BepoBATHO nurate fa nv je Bale NOHaWaree 3a HMX NPUXBATMMBO MN Hue. HeqasHo cam nocmatpao Majky ca apa cnH4unha y camonocnysu. Mo Menu, euayn cy ce neno novawanv. Hucy npasunu ranamy Hutu Hepeg. Ma unak, Majka uM je HenpectaHo rosopuna ulTa Tpeba, a wa He Tpeba ga iy 26Pogurern cy SeyAH, a He GoroBH page: "Byay ty, Kpaj mexe." “He xsaTaj ce 3a konwya." “Momepn ce, cTojMus sya Ha Nyy." "Tozkypn." "He nunaj xpary." "Octasy ty kecy Ha mupy." Visrnegano je kao fa 6a HvwTa Og OHOra WTA cy Aeya UnHMnAa He MO>Ke 4a NpuxBaTu. peg? pete Jinja Koja genu o6nact npAxeatremeor of oGnactu HenpuxeatuBor penom | SaBNCH Of OHOra LITA pop"Ter Kao MM4HOCT HOCM y CeGu, anv je genom op”peheHa 4 Gamnm feTeTom. Kop HeKor feTeTa Texe MpAXBaTaMo UCTy CTBAp Hero KOA, Apyror. Pey je Moka 0 arpecuBHujem, aKTMBHHjeM AeTeTY, UNM cbusu4KU HeNpU- BNAYHOM AeTeTy, uM AeTeTy KOje ucnosbaBa HeEKe OCO6uHe KOje He BONYMO. Cacsym je pasymreueo ga je poauTery Texe Aa npuxBaTu AeTe Koje KUBOT OTNO- untbe Gonewhy, Koje Hema 406ap caH, Koje 4ecTo nnavye unu Mma KONKe, Vipeja koja je sactynmexa y MHOrMM KHYMrama UNaHuMMa, NoceGHO OHMM HAM@HEHAM POAMTeMmuMa, Aa poster Tpeba fa wma mogjegHaKo ocehatbe MpuxBaTarba NpeMa CBakOM AETeTY, He CAMO fa je NorpewnHa, Beh je “ WTeTHa jep kog MHOrMx popMTera CTBapa Ocehatbe KpuBnye s6or Tora LTO He NpuxBaTaly y vicToj Mepm CBako cBoje AeTe. Behnia mygn he ce nako cnomnTu fa cBe OApacne meyfe Koje CpeTHEMO He NpyXBaTAMO yBeK Ha CTH Ha4WH. 36or Yera 6ucMo ce Apyrauuje ocehanv npema feun? Untbexvya 4a npyxsatatbe ogpehevor AeTeTa saBvcn Mv Of GaMor Tor JeTeTa Moke Ce NpuKkasaTu Ha cnegehn Ha4MH: (O6nact Npuxsatnensor O6nact npaxearmneor O6nact HenpuxsaTrusor ‘O6ract Henpuxsarrousor Poguters cagetetom A Pogutere ca qererom B Hekvm poguTeruma je nakwe Aa npuxeate gesojumye Hero geyake, a apyru- Ma O6pHyTo. Bpno noxpetrusa Aelya cy NpuxBaTMMBYja HeKMM pogMTeruma. AKTMBHO pafosHana Aeua, Koja Bone cBysa fa 3aBupe M Koja cy HesaBncHa, TexKe cy NPUXBaTIbvBa HEKVM POAMTErbMMAa Of 3aBMCHe M NacnBHe eye. MosHaBao cam Heky Aeuy ca TONMKO HeOgoseuBor WapMa M NPUBNAYHOCTH a MM Ce 4AHUNO Aa 6x Morao Aa NpuxBatum ama 6a cBe WTO OHM ypage. Anu cam, UcTO Tako, uMao Hecpehy “ 4a ynosHam HeKy 4uje mu je Nyko npucycTBo 6uno HenpujatHo Kao u CKOpO cBe UITO cy Ta Aeya SuHuna. Opyra Bakva UvtbeHnua je ga nunyja koja env npwxBaTiuBo Of HeNpuxBaT- FbUBOF He OCTAje BEYHO Ha VCTOM MecTy, Beh ce BpemeHoM WeTa rope-fone. Ha TO yTM4y MHOTM UHVOLN, YKIEYYUB Ml TPeHYTHO CTatbe AYXa popUTerba, KAO uM Ch Tyaunly y Kojoj ce popvTem u fete Hanase. 27Ymehke pogurermcrea Poguteny Kojv ce y onpeheHom TperyTKy oceha eHeprm4to, 3ApaBo, Kojn je Taga 3agoBoMbaH coGom, BepoBaTHo he BMLue Tora LITA AeTe 4MHM 6TH NpuxBaT- seupo. Kag ce camn AG6po ocehaly, myAMMa MHOTO Matbe CTBApM CMeTa. O6nact Poguere Koj ce qo6po| paxsatromsor oceha O6nact Henpuxeatrenor Pogutersy kojm je mpTas yMopaH, u3sHepaupal, natn of HecaHnye unu fmapo6ome, MHOrO Tora he sacmetaTu. Taj Hecknag ce Moxe npuKasaTH Ha cnepehu Haun: O6nact npwxeatrousor Pogurers Koja ce nowe oceha O6nact Henpuxeatrenaor Pogyterscko ocehatbe mpnxBatmuBor u HenpuxBaTMuBor Merba ce u Of cutyauvje go cutyayyje. Caaku poster he npusHaTu fa my je MHOro BuWwe cTBapn y ACTeTOBOM NoHawarby HeNpuxXBaTMUBO TOKOM NoceTe npujaTerouMa Hero Kog kyhe. A Tek Kako Ce HiBO ToNepaHuyje AeTeTOBOr noHawatba NpomeH kag y nocety Aohy 6aKa u geKa! Aleuy “ecto mopa fa s6yrbyje TO WTO pogMTerme NO“Hy Aa MmyTe HnxXOBN MaHMpn 3a CTONOM OHAa KAA Moby rocTu, Mako MM je CTO NoHalatbe Caceum NpwxBaTMvBo Kag Hema rocTHly. Taj HeCKnag Ce MOxe NpukKasaTM Ha Cnegehu HAYnH: O6nacr O6nact Apuxeatrensor apaxsatrusor O6nact O6nact Henpuxearrusor Henpuxeatrensor Curyaupja A Curyayyja 6 Noctojatbe 06a poguTera 4nHn NopoAMYHy cnuKy npyxBaTsMBor MW Henpux- BaTseuBor jouw cnoxwKeHvjom. 3a noyeTak Aa KaxKeMO fa je OGMYHO jeaaH poguTer TonepaHTHyim og apyror: 28PoguTesby cy sya, a He GoroBy Wek, jak v akTveaH neToro_uuttbak, y AHEBHO| cob xBata cpyA6ancky nonty uv 6aya je com 6pary. Majxa je ysHemupexa uv TO CMaTpa HenpuxBaTmuBuM noHawarbem, jep ce Goju Aa he Lek HewTO nonynaTu y coGy. MehyTum, oTay He Camo fa npuxBaTa TO NoHalatbe, Beh KaxKe: "Bugn Lexa! Mpasu je cbyabanep. Nasu Kako ppuGnyjew!" Utasnwe, nvHvja pasrpanv4erba nprxBaTmneor M HeNpnxBaTsbHIBOr KO CBaKOr Poa Terta ce MeHba 3aBMCHO Of CUTyalYje v Of NCVXMUKOr CTaHsa CBaKOr POAMTesba. Ucto noHawatbe eTeTa majKa M OTal| He MOry AOKMBaBaTH Ha UCT Ha4WH y CBa- KOM TpeHyTKy. Poguteru wory fa Gyszy u jecy HeAocnegHH Maxne, HemMHOBHO je Aa poaMTery Syay HeAOcnegHY. Kako 6v u morno Oyu Apyrauvje kaga vi ce Oceharba Merbajy v3 fava y fax, Of AeTeTa AO AeTeTAa, Of cutyaynje Ao cutyaynje? Ako nokyuwiaBaly Aa 6yAy gocnegHu, He mory Aa 6yay Tpapogun. TpaanynoHantio oveKMBarbe Aa popiTeru mopaiy Aa 6yzy ZocnegHn no CBaky eHy SanocTaamba 4MHbeHMUy ga NOcTojv pasnnika usmehy cuTya\ypie vu cuTya- uyie, wsmehy jeAHor peTeTa u ppyror peTeTa u fa Cy MaMa M TaTa SbyycKa Guha Koja cy Takohe pasnuunta. Vi gare, Taka caBeT je wTeTaH, jep HaBOAM posNTeme Aa ce npetBapajy, 4a rnyme nukoge uvja ce oceharba Hukagja He metbaly. Jow BaxxHuje je To wTo je caBeT poauTeruma Aa 6y~y AocnegHN MHOre MajKe 4 oueBe HaBeo Aa MMcne Kako yBeK mopajy jeqHako fa ce Ocehajy u Aa y OAHOCY Ha Aeuy 6yay Ha uCTO} "GopbeHo) NuHujv". A To je GecmucneHo, vako je jeAHo of Haj- yBpexKeHyjux yBepetha O Tome Kako no”vsaT Aeuy. NMpema TO] TpagnuvoHanHo) samvcnn pogntennm yeex Tpe6a fa Opate nosmynjy oHor Apyror KaKO 6m geTe BepoBanio fa 06a POAMTeMba Ha ViCTM HAY DOKMBMbaBajy HKO HberOBO MIN teHO nOHawalbe, Ocvm wo je HenpaBy4na, OBa CTpaTernja ycnoctasrbatba cppoHTa ABOje Hac- npam jeqHor uecTo nogeTuye wi "HenpypogHocT" jeqHor poguTessa. Co6a wecHaecToro~uuirse AeBojke Huje AOBOrbHO ypeAHa No Mepunuma tbeHe majke. 3a Majky cy HenpyxBaTmuBe hepKMHe xurMjeHcKe HaBuke (y o6nactu cy HenpuxBaTreuBor). MefyTu, HeH oTal Hanasn fa je Hea CO- 6a uncta M4 ypepHa. Victo noHawatbe 3a Hera je y o6nacTu npuxBaTmueor. Majka Bpwn npyTucak Ha Oua fia Ha CTH Ha4vH AOKMEsbaBa hepKuHy Coby Kako 6v Mornn fa sayamy jequHcTBeHy nosnupiy (“ Tako OcTBape Behn yTu- uaj Ha hepky). AKO ce oral carnacu, OH SanocTaBsba cBoja npaBa Oceharba. 29Yuehe poguTemctsa Wecroropvuitsy Ae4ak ce vrpa KaMvOHOM MW npaBu Behy 6yKy HO LTO OTA MO- Ke 4a npyxBaTu, Mehytum, maj To yonuTe He cmeTa. Ona je ofyweBrbeHa TO ce geTe urpa CaMo M1 He Mora joj Ce OKO Hory, LUTO je CBaKOAHEBHO UNHMINO. Oray npvnasi Maju: "LUTo He yawn HeTO Aa NpeKuHe Aa NpaBn oBONMKy 6yky?" Ako majka npuictane, OHa 3anocTaBsba CBOja mpaBa ocehatba. JlaxkHo npuxBatarbe Hujeqax popyter He Mucnv Kako je CBakO AeTETOBO NoHalwarbe NPUXBATMMBO. Heka novawatba he yBek 6uTu y “oG6nactv HenpyixBaTMuBor". 3Ha0 CaM popNTerbe unja je nuxyja pasrpaHuyelba BPNO HVCKO Ha OBOM HaleM Ayjarpamy, anu Hukag HVMCaM cpeo poAVTerba Koj cBe CMaTpa GesycnoBHO npuxBaTmuBum. HeKn popu- TefbM Ce npeTBapajy Aa NpuxBaTajy MHOrO WToU!Ta y AeTeTOBOM noHawatby, ann TO Cy OHM KOjM urpajy ynory AO6por popTerba. Mpema Tome, jefaH Geo tbuxoBor Npuxeatatba je naka. Cnoma ce mory NoHawaTn Kao fa HeuITO VHTMMHO JOKMBMaBaTH CTBap KAO HENpMxBaTTEM Npuxeatarbe eee me ee RTANE HESD Oboe Henpuxeataibe Npetnoctasvmo Aa popvTesba HEpBNpa TO WTO HeroBo NeTOrO_NUIHbe AeTe KaCHO ofNAa3M Ha CNaBalbe. PoguTerm va cBoje nuuHe notpebe - peynmo, Aa npounta Ktoury. Paguje 64 To pagno Hero Aa BeYeprbe CaTe nocBelyje geTeTy. Bpie ra To wiTo AeTe MoxKga He GnaBa AOBOMbHO, Na je cyTpagay npesvwie ySHeEMMpeHO UNM Ce MOxKAa MOxe pas6oneTu. Ma unak, HacTojehu fa cnean mogen "nonycTrsvBocTu", okneBa fa SaxTeBa of AeTeTa Wa paHuje o_na3sn Ha cnaBatee “3 CTpaxa fa he npekpwintn cBoja Hayena. He npeoctaje my HvwTa Apyro AO 4a ucnoreM maxHo npaxeaTarse. Moke ce MoHallaT Kao ga My He cmeTa TO WTO AeTe He OANasu Ha CnaBatbe Tako pyro, a fa My TO cTBapHO 6ype NOTNYHO HeNpMXBaTraMBO; TO ra BeOMa YSHEMMpAaBa, MOKJa V SbYTH, a HECYMHSMBO cTBapa ocehatbe OcyjeheHOcTM 3aTO ITO Cy HeroBe nuuHe MotpeGe ocTane HesafoBorexe. KakaB To yak uma Ha DeTe? Ceakom je 400po nosHaTo ga cy Aeya Beoma oceTibuBa Ha CTaBOBe cBOjux po~nTersa. VisyseTHo | Cy OceTMMBAa Npema cTBap- HM POAVTerCKMM Ocehatbuma, jep poguTern cBojoj Geum ofawmny MW "HeBep- 6anHe nopyKe" - sHake Koje ‘Aeua Kat iTKag CBeCHt aTKa Pogue UviM je yHytpawitn goxKuBraj ysHemmpeHocr unn Gec He moxe a