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Communication
A decision is a choice between alternatives and
Skills
decision making is the process of choosing one
Interpersonal alternative over the others. Making good
Skills decisions should be a process. It is a process of
identifying problems and resolving them, or of
Empathy
identifying opportunities and taking
Listening advantage of them.
Assertiveness
Rational Model
Sub-section 1.1
Identify
Problem
How do I feel about myself and what would I like
to improve?
Generate
Repest if
alternative
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solutions
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Implement Select
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The Situation
You have just crash-landed in the woods of
Group Activity – 2 SIX THINKING HATS Northern Minnesota and Southern Manitoba. It is
11:30 a.m. in mid-January. The small plane in
which you were traveling has been completely
White hat:
destroyed except for the frame. The pilot and
Facts
copilot have been killed, but no one else is
Figures
seriously injured.
Information
The crash came suddenly before the pilot had time
to radio for help or inform anyone of your
Red hat:
position. Since your pilot was trying to avoid a
Intuition
storm you know the plane was considerably off
Feelings
course. The pilot announced shortly before the
Emotions
crash that you were eighty miles northwest of a
small town that is the nearest known habitation.
Black hat:
You are in a wilderness area made up of thick
Logical
woods broken by many lakes and rivers. The last
Critical
weather report indicated that the temperature
would reach minus 25 degrees in the daytime and
Yellow hat:
minus 40 at night. You are dressed in winter
Logical positive
clothing appropriate for city wear – suits,
pantsuits, street shoes, and overcoats. No one’s cell
Green Hat:
phones or computers work.
Creativity
While escaping from the plane your group
Alternatives
salvaged the 15 items listed below. Your task is to
What is interesting?
rank these items according to their importance to
your survival. The group has agreed to stick
Blue hat:
together.
Overview pr process control hat
Looks not at subject itself but at the thinking
Winter Survival Decision Sheet - Individual
about the subject
results
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___ compress kit (with 28 ft, 2in. gauze) Would you liked to have done/said
___ sectional air map made of plastic anything differently?
___ ball of steel wool …………………………………………………………………
___ 30 feet of rope …………………………………………………………………
___ cigarette lighter (without fluid) …………………………………………………………………
___ family-size chocolate bar (one per person) …………………………………………………………………
___ loaded .45-caliber pistol
___ flashlight with batteries
___ newspaper (one per person) Sub-section 2.3 – Decision Making Style
___ quart of 85-proof whiskey
___ compass
1. Autocratic
___ extra shirt and pants for each
___ two ski poles person Use when: ...............................................................................
___ knife ......................................................................................................
___ can of shortening ......................................................................................................
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Ways to strengthen this style: .......................................
portant
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Quadrant of Quality & Personal ......................................................................................................
Necessity Leadership
ITC Method
Time
Management
Matrix Impact
Quadrant of
Deception
Quadrant of Waster Timing
Examples- Consequences
Q. What factors will affect your decisions in
Quadrant 1: ...................................................................................
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establishing priorities?
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A: Allocate time to each task according to time 3 – That’s definitely me! Absolutely agree.
All the time.
available and its priority
2 – That describes me quite well. Largely
W: Work-life balance. Always make sure you agree. Some of the time.
Visual
Learning Objectives
By the end of this session, the learner will: If I have to spell a tricky word, I write it
be able to talk about some of his /her own out to see if it looks right
personality traits I remember things best when I write
gain greater understanding of his/her them down
learning style I take a lot of notes of what I read/ hear
I always look at the person who is talking
to me – it helps me concentrate
How do you learn best?
I find it easy to understand maps, graphs
We all learn in many different ways – we see
and diagrams
things, we hear things and we do things. When I have done a test I have often
However, most people have a preference – pictured my notes/textbook
sometimes a very strong preference – for a I am able to visualize pictures in my mind
particular way of learning. I talk quickly – I tend to talk more than
I listen
People who prefer to see information are often I prefer to see a map than be given
referred to as visual learners, people who would spoken directions
rather hear information are known as auditory I say things like, ‘I see what you mean’ or
learners and people who prefer to learn by doing ‘I get the picture’
are called kinesthetic learners. TOTAL /
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It helps to know what kind of learner you are, as
people will generally learn best when they work Auditory
in their preferred learning style. This
questionnaire will give you a clue as to your I prefer to listen to someone explaining
learning preference. rather than read about it in a book
When I recall information, I can hear
the person I heard it from in my head
Remember, it is only a preference; we all learn in
When spelling a tricky word, I say it over
many different ways.
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and over again to see if it sounds right Look at something in print to help you
I say things like, ‘I hear what you say’ or remember it. Use colour, illustrations and
‘that rings a bell’ diagrams to help you learn. Highlight key words,
I often tilt my head to the side and/ make a mind map or spider diagram, use
or rest my head in my hand when pictures to explain text.
listening
I often talk to myself – say things aloud
If you are an Auditory Leaner you could:
– when working
Talk about a new idea and explain it in your own
I often repeat instructions to myself
under my breath words. Discuss ideas and problems with people.
I find/would find it helpful to speak my Read things aloud and listen to yourself talking
notes on to audio-cassette and play aloud. Use a tape recorder for notes and
them back thoughts. Use active listening skills such as
I would prefer people to tell me questioning and summarizing.
directions rather than show me a map
I find it easy to listen to a speaker even If you are a Kinaesthetic Learner you could:
when I’m not looking at them Write things out in step-by-step order. Convert
TOTAL / notes into a picture/diagram. Use touch and do
30 (e.g. simulation/role play). Type rather than
Kinaesthetic write. Help somebody else to do the task.
Your
Below are some helpful tips for effective learning I Preference E
depending on your learning style….
If you are a Visual Learner you could: I think before I I think out loud
speak
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I prefer quiet I prefer variety and I like writing lists I don’t like writing
action lists
I like to be careful I like to act quickly I like things tidy I don’t mind things
I’m a good listener I’m a good talker untidy
I prefer finishing I prefer starting
I prefer to wait and I prefer to join in tasks tasks
see first I prefer a steady I don’t mind things
pace last minute
Your
S Preference N Your Personality Preference Profile
Your
J Preference P Learning Styles
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I - Learn best E - Learn best ‘I’s written thoughts are usually well
- Somewhere quiet thought out and clear. When talking don’t
where you can - Working in groups stop when you’re interrupted, politely ask if
concentrate - When talking about you can finish your point and then you’ll listen
without being the subject to the other person (usually an E who often
interrupted interrupts!)
S - Learn best N - Learn best
- When you know you - When you know the
are learning theory behind the idea Can think Creatively and Solve Problems -
- When you know - When you can apply S/N Behaviour
how you can use the your learning in new
new learning ways S/N Behaviour is used whenever we take in
new information about something and try to
T - Learn best F - Learn best make sense of it.
- When there is a - With support and
logical order to follow encouragement S behaviour focuses on the facts, and using a
- When you can - When praised for step by step approach until we find a solution.
demonstrate that you good work
do or use the N behaviour focuses on the future, looking
learning forward to how something could be different.
J - Learn best P - Learn best Both are important parts of the problem
solving. It is best to start with N behaviour
- When there is a - When there is a thinking about the longer term goals and
clear structure and variety in the place destination. Then use S thinking to identify the
routine and style of study steps required to get there and any potential
- With an accurate obstacles. S’s allow N’s to “daydream”.
start time and finish Consider their ideas fully before dismissing
them. N’s allow S’s to point out the real
obstacles and work on solutions together.
Communicates Effectively in Writing and
Face to Face - E/I Behaviour Respect the Views and Contribution of
Others - T/F Behaviour
E/I behaviour is how we interact with the
world, our direction of attention outward (to F behaviour means making decisions based
people or things) or inward (our own on a person’s feelings, thoughts and concerns.
thoughts, feelings). To communicate Picking up on their body language and putting
effectively we need to use the best of both. yourself in their shoes. This is useful as you
are unlikely to upset someone or ignore their
‘E’s learn to listen. Do not dominate a contributions whilst discussing something
conversation. Encourage others to speak and with them.
describe their ideas. Don’t interrupt or finish
people’s sentences! Learn to put your ideas T behaviour focuses on the task or required
down in writing – this will help clarify your outcome rather than the person involved.
ideas and appeal to I’s. Sometimes this means the person may feel
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Punctual and Manage Own Time- J/P ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTP,ESFP INTJ,INFJ,ENTP,ENFP
Behaviour - Get stuck (can’t see - Get bogged down in
way ahead) unimportant details
J behaviour person is a naturally good - See the future - Over-eat, drink or
timekeeper, managing their own time, sticking negatively exercise
to a plan or schedule is their preferred method
of work. Employers like this because the work ISTP,INTP,ESTJ, ISFP, INFP, ESFJ,
gets done. ENTJ ENFJ
- Have emotional - Criticize everything
P preference person generally finds it more outbursts - Take over without
difficult to work at a steady pace. They tend - Take criticism very listening
to enjoy starting tasks but often get bored or personally
easily distracted and move onto something
else.
Our type preferences can help us understand
They often complete work at the last minute.
our relationship with friends and family.
Employers tend not to like this approach.
P preference tip – at the start of a task e.g. In an argument…
revision, write down what you have to achieve
(goals) by the end of the allocated time. I E
- Would rather go - Talk louder and
Sometimes unexpected things happen at work away and think faster
and home. This is when a P preference is things through - Want to get things
useful. Changing a routine or schedule is easier - Keep quiet (until sorted out now!
for a P than a J. Sometimes J’s need to go with things build up so
the flow. Just because things have always been much that they
done a certain way does not mean a new explode!)
approach is the wrong way. S N
Type preferences can help us recognize our - Argue specific facts - Imagine huge
strengths when faced with problems… - Focus on details consequences from
small incidents
ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTP,ESFP INTJ, - Make sweeping
- Handle problems INFJ,ENTP,ENFP generalisations
with realism - Approach problems T F
- Recognize and use with enthusiasm - Tell people not to - Personalise
relevant facts and - See new possibilities “get emotional” everything
experience - Say, it’s not personal - Sometimes just give
in to keep the peace
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J P Learning Objectives
- Consider all the - Throw in extra issues By the end of this session, you will:
options before “and another thing” be aware of your verbal and non-verbal
deciding - Argue both sides responses to difficult work situations
- Over simplify issues have considered possible alternative
- Would rather go ways of responding
away and think
things through Amit Tiwari, age 22, was excited about his first
‘proper’ job which was in a local bank. Eager to
show that he deserved the job, he worked hard
Here are so me tips on how to avoid /get in the first six months. He liked his colleagues,
out of an argument … got along well with his manager, and was asked
to be involved in a project through which he
I E was able to meet other people in the bank.
- Allow people to talk - Text or e mail ideas
through their ideas before springing them The project aim was to develop a new system to
- Don’t assume their on people deal with customer complaints. Over a period of
ideas are rubbish - Listen! Only talk several weeks, Amit & his project team
because they’re when the other person colleagues worked hard to develop a solution.
thinking out loud has finished
S N The team consisted of Amit plus five colleagues:
- Don’t dismiss new - Don’t ignore two people were about his age and the other
ideas straight away practical details three were a lot older. Things ran smoothly for
- Let others dream - Consider how to get several weeks, until the time came for decisions
and fantasize there & not just the to be made. As soon as there was a deadline,
final destination Amit became aware that people began behaving
T F differently. Two members, who had always
- Consider peoples’ - Don’t take arrived late to meetings, began working very
emotions not just the everything personally slowly and putting off work for
task and the goals - Don’t be afraid of the project. Two others who had attended the
- Say what’s in it for disagreement meetings and usually worked quite hard began
people to spend more time chatting and joking rather
J P than working. One person who had never before
- Consider all of the - Focus on making given his opinions about the ideas put forward to
options before decisions solve the problem now said that the group
deciding - Stick to the point needed more time before it would be ready to
- Doing things the make a decision. Amit had worked hard all along
same way is not and wanted to finish this project so that he could
always the best move on to other projects. He was very
frustrated with the lack of progress being made
by the group and she was also worried that his
manager might think that he
had not been up to the job. Yet he did not want
Group Activity - 4 to speak up. He felt he was too young and had
not been at the bank long enough to give ‘orders’
CASE STUDY – AMIT TIWARI
to the older members of the team. And he did not
think she could go to her boss to complain about
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Questions
1. Why is Amit upset? A rather old fashioned lady, was planning a couple
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of weeks vacation in Florida. She also was quite
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....................................................................................... delicate and elegant with her language. She wrote a
2. In what ways are the work styles of letter to a particular campground and asked for
Amit’s teammates different from his? reservations. She wanted to make sure the
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…………………………………………………………… campground was fully equipped but didn’t know
…………………………………………………………… quite how to ask about the “toilet” facilities. She just
3. What causes those differences? couldn’t bring herself to write the word “toilet” in
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her letter. After much deliberation, she finally came
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…………………………………………………………… up with the old fashioned term “Bathroom
4. Can these differences be sorted? Why or Commode,” but when she wrote that down, she still
why not? thought she was being too forward. So she started
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all over again; rewrote the entire letter and referred
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…………………………………………………………… to the “Bathroom Commode” simply as the “B.C.”.
5. How would you handle the situation if Does the campground have its own “B.C.?” is what
you were Amit? she actually wrote.
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Well, the campground owner wasn’t old fashioned at
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6. Have you had an experience similar to all, and when he got the letter, he couldn’t figure out
Amit’s? what the lady was talking about. That “B.C.” really
…………………………………………………………… stumped him. After worrying about it for several
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…………………………………………………………… days, he showed the letter to other campers, but they
7. Do you feel you dealt with it well? If you couldn’t figure out what the lady meant either. The
could live it over again, what would you campground owner finally came to the conclusion
do differently?
that the lady was and must be asking about the
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…………………………………………………………… location of the local Baptist Church.
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So he sat down and wrote the following reply:
Section 5 – Communication Skills
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“Dear Madam: I regret very much the delay in statement and indicate which option best
answering your letter, but I now take pleasure of
matches your behavior.
informing in that the “B.C.” is located nine miles 1 = disagree strongly, 2 = disagree somewhat, 3 =
north of the camp site and is capable of seating 250 agree somewhat, 4 = agree strongly
people at one time. I admit it is quite a distance 1 2 3 4
away if you are in the habit of going regularly but no
doubt you will be pleased to know that a great 1 I express my opinions
honestly, openly and
number of people take their lunches along, and
appropriately all of the
make a day of it..... They usually arrive early and stay time.
late. The last time my wife and I went was six years 2 I can get angry and
ago, and it was so crowded we had to stand up the am comfortable
letting this show.
whole time we were there. It may interest you to
3 I find it difficult to
know that right now, there is a supper planned to
say ‘no’.
raise money to buy more seats.....They plan to hold 4 If I do not agree
the supper in the middle of the “B.C.”, so everyone with a task I’ve
can watch and talk about this great event.....I would been given, I find a
like to say it pains me very much, not to be able to go way of dragging
my feet on it.
more regularly, but it is surely not for lack of desire
5 If someone knows
on my part....As we grow older, it seems to be more
more than me I feel
and more of an effort, particularly in cold weather..... comfortable in
If you decide to come down to the campground, asking for help
perhaps I could go with you the first time you go...sit from them.
6 I feel guilty if I
with you...and introduce you to all the other folks.....
leave on time for a
This is really a very friendly community....
valid reason and
other people are
still working.
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Sub-section 5.1 – Communication Style I can be sarcastic.
8 I think my way of
The following communication styles have been doing things is
segregated as: better than other
Assertive
people’s.
Passive 9 If someone takes
Aggressive advantage of me, I
Passive aggressive find a way of
This questionnaire is designed to help you assess getting my own
your preferred communication style. Thinking back.
about your behaviour at work read each 10 I feel I have a right
to say no to other
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3. A salesperson calls you on the phone when ......................................................................................................
you are in the middle of doing something. She or If your approach to these situations is primarily
he is telling you all about their new passive, why is this?
magazine ......................................................................................................
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Passive response
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...................................................................................................... Which responses are the most effective and why?
Assertive response ......................................................................................................
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4. You go to an expensive steakhouse and order ......................................................................................................
your steak medium rare and it is served to you ......................................................................................................
well done. What are some other responses that would work
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Passive response ......................................................................................................
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...................................................................................................... Think of situations in your own lifewhere you
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Aggressive response being passive or aggressive. Work out how you
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2. Change your ‘shoulds’ to your ‘musts’ 1. The one or two areas in which I am most
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3. Change your limiting beliefs 2. The one or two areas in which I need more
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4. Intensify your moments 3. One thing I can do to improve:
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4. How I will do this: (Be very detailed about
5. Success leaves clues what you will actually do- when and where and
...................................................................................................... how often etc)
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6. Give more than you can
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Here are some suggestions of things you can do
to make changes in the way you act.
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Specific S
Measurable M
Achievable A
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