Anxiousness Vs.

Happiness
Though the writing happens once in a while, yet there are some topics which I would like to certainly
write on and this is one such.

When comes to our children, Parents of our generation aspire for the “Best”. I would want to
provide my child with the best toys, best play space, best food, best education and best life.

Yes, Is there anything harm in it? No, certainly not.

We observe this ‘best’ is different for each of us and in most cases it is based on the societal trend.
Some of the common ones are,

 My cousin is showing flash cards to the child to identify colours and shapes in 6 months, I did
not, so am I lagging?
 My sister in law says, she has started making her child identify animals through board books
in 1 year, should I try it?
 My friend has put the child in “A” School, therefore I would want to like to enroll in the
same.
 When I met my cousins in a birthday party they said that this curriculum is better, so have I
made a wrong decision in choosing another one?

And the list goes on…

Aiming to give the “best”, there comes another factor which is “fast”.

 How fast does my child walk?

 How fast my child identifies car logos/animals?
 How fast my child operates my mobile?
 How fast does my child start talking English?
 How fast does my child go to School?
 How fast does my child writes Alphabets and Numbers?
 And the list goes on….

And I have seen Parents being super proud about it. Though initially, this might be exciting to the
Parent, soon it will drain both the Parent and the Child.

There are a few questions which pops up which I would like each of us to ask ourselves,

 Whose need am I accomplishing, MINE or my CHILD’s?

 Does not my child has the will to grown on its own without constant external push?
 Can all children excel in Academics at the same level?
 What will be the QUALITY of life as a family when my decisions are influenced by the societal
pressure?
 What do I want my child to be?
 What did you felt bad about your Parents’ Parenting style when you grew up?
 Are you in any way repeating the same which your Parents have done to you?
 Did our Parents allowed us to play on our own, or were they constantly engaging us and
keeping us occupied?

The reflection of these questions in me boils down to the following questions,

Am I allowing my child to be a child and enjoy his/her childhood the way the child wants?

And

Does this Anxiousness have an impact on the Happiness of the child?

Pondering on these …..