Dear ...

I am writing to express my sincere / sincerest apologies for my

insensitive actions / behaviour / words / disregard / blunder / my
failure to...
I very quickly realized / On reflection I realize that I was very wrong to
assume / lash out / ignore / find fault with / accuse / blame...
(I have, of course, no excuse. I can only say that was feeling
overwhelmed / tired / confused / I had had a long day / I clearly and
regrettably had too much to drink.
These are the actions I have undertaken to address that problem /
those problems, so as to prevent .... happening again.
AND/OR
I realize that my behaviour / oversight / omission was totally
inappropriate, inexcusable and disrespectful.
I can only imagine the hurt / distress / embarrassment / awkwardness
I have caused to... and the damage that it has done to our
relationship / your reputation / your chances of... / your trust in me
(be careful not to talk about yourself here!).
I hope that you will allow me the opportunity to express my apology
again in person.
AND/OR
I would appreciate the opportunity to put right my wrongs and prove
to you that I have learned from my mistake.
I will of course accept that I may have caused irreparable damage
and may no longer be...
OR
I appreciate I may no longer... / I understand if you need some more
time before...
Yours sincerely,