A. Activity: AM I ASSERTIVE?

Answer the Questions below

Assertiveness is the ability to express your wishes and beliefs in a positive way. Too little
assertiveness can make you a doormat. Too much, and you can be bossy and aggressive.

Think of a time when you were a doormat.

What happened?
One time, my grandmother told me I look like a slut who would go out at night because I was
wearing liptint.
What did you do?
At first I thought of talking back and defending myself. But instead, I kept my mouth shut and
slowly retrieved myself from where she was and sulked at her for a couple days.
How did you feel?
I was completely hurt. As a very sensitive and emotional person, I get upset by hurtful words
very easily. But instead of talking back, I didn’t because I was being understanding. Growing
up I’ve been raised to not talk back to elders and just understand them because they said
that the thinking of elders turn back to child-like as they get older.
Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and
practice it.
I think I should have said something back to defend myself because I know I’m not doing
anything wrong. I just wore liptint that time because I like making myself look good, since it
makes me feel good. I should have said something like “With all due respect, even you wear
lipstick so why are you judging me?”.

Think of a time when you were too bossy.

What happened?
I tend to be very bossy when I’m with my siblings especially when about the cleanliness of
our room. I tend to shout at them whenever they don’t do something immediately.
What did you do?
I shouted at my younger brother when he didn’t fill up our water jags yet when I told him to
do it a various times already. He got mad at me for shouting at him when I can just ask nicely.
How did you feel?
I realized that he was right and I felt sorry. I thought to myself that even I would get hurt if
someone shouted at me, why would I do it to someone else?
Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and
practice it.
I realized I should have asked nicely and said to him to do it right away when he was done
with what he was doing.
B. Activity: RESPONSIBLE ACTION SHEET I am the BOSS of my feelings!

1. When I get angry, it helps me feel better if I retrieve myself from the situation.

2. When I feel sad, it helps me feel better if I keep myself busy with some other things.

3. When I feel anxious or nervous, it helps me feel better if I am being comforted by someone.

4. When I feel grumpy, it helps me if I am given space so I can cool down by myself.

5. When I feel lonely, it helps me if I am hugged by someone.

6. When I feel embarrassed, it helps if I remind myself that it will all pass.

7. When I feel sick, it helps me feel better if I rest the whole day.

8. When I feel silly, I like to be teamed up in my silliness.

9. When I feel disappointed, it helps me if I remind myself that there's always another wonderful
opportunity out there.

10. When I am honest, I feel proud and happy with myself.