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Though if you make your health top priority, leaving may be the healthiest choice.
Target must
confront the bully
Wrong. If you could have, you would have. It’s in your nature to think of what to say
an hour later. Bullies get the drop on targets using the power of surprise at
unpredictable times. Bushwhacking.
Complain to the
bully’s boss
Why? The bully’s boss either orders the bully to torment you, likes their aggression,
looks the other way while knowing exactly what is being done to you, or is afraid of
them, too. In any case that person will not stop the bully on your behalf.
Complain
to HR
Worst mistake ever. HR doesn’t tell you that they are a management support
function. No one in HR has the clout to affect behavior of higher level managers. HR
is not your friend. Alert them last.
Document
everything
Good advice with some limits. For incidents, note date, time, location, who was
present as witness (either eyewitness or “earwitness”). If no direct witness, who saw
your state immediately after incident? In future incidents, it would help if you asked
people: (1) if they heard what happened, and (2) has it ever happened to you? This
breaks the silence in a way that does not scare away coworkers.
Stop wishing bullies will voluntarily change and feel remorse over the
harm they have caused. They will not. More important, they will not
change to please you.
To externalize the source of your problems. It’s the bully and the abusive work
environment that rewards and sustains cruelty. Self-blame internalizes it. You did
nothing to provoke or invite the misery heaped on you.
Start networking to find next job. Create a list of questions for interview.
Assemble data to make a “business case” that the bully is too expensive
to keep. See Target Tutorial Calculating Costs to Employers
Find the highest ranking “neutral” (not related to, or lover of, the bully)
upper level manager to present to.
Remember you are not a job title. Dis-invest yourself from this or any
job. You are much more. Preserve your adult identity.
Get involved in the movement to help others who can benefit from your
newfound wisdom.
It’s likely that’s your first problem. You’re not seeing your world at work for
how it is; you’re seeing it as you want it to be.
Ask anyone who has worked in a toxic environment long enough, and
they’ll give you the real dope on HR: they’re not there for you. They’re
there for Management. And they will do everything in their power to
protect Management from whomever Management paints out to be a
problem. Even you.
You may find it hard to believe because it’s contrary to how you approach
these things. So you look elsewhere for guidance, this blog article or that
podcast citing solutions for situations involving workplace bullying.
Almost without exception, the “common wisdom” floating out there does
targets like yourself much more harm than good, convincing you that your
adversaries are your allies, and that landmines to avoid – like asking HR
for help – are potential paths of safety and rescue.
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