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EMOTIONS
Learn to love your feelings
Elinor
Greenwood
Written by Elinor Greenwood
Editor Violet Peto
Art Editor Claire Patané
Introduction
Project Art Editor and Illustrator Polly Appleton
Additional Illustration Charlotte Milner, Amy Keast
Design Assistance Charlotte Bull, Eleanor Bates
Feeling
Happy
Child Psychology Consultant Maureen Healy
Science Consultant Wendy Horobin
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Feeling
Publisher Mary Ling
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Contents
5 A note for grown-ups 10 What a feeling!
6 Meet the emotions 12 All are important
8 The emotions HQ
4
A note for grown-ups
5
Hi
Meet the emotions
Excited
Hello, great to meet
Ner
you! How are you
vo
us feeling today?
Shy ul
Joy f
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mb
arra
ssed
L o v i ng
Disgusted
Calm
6 Trusting
Here are four of the really BIG ONES.
Happiness Anger
Well What?!
hello!
Some scientists
say all human
behaviour can be
Hi.
7
The emotions HQ
Feelings and emotions begin deep
inside your brain. From there, they can
affect every part of you, from your
head to your toes.
s a r e m a d e here
t io n !
Here’s how your brain o
reacts to something
scary or dangerous.
Em a lc
or tex
t
ron
1
P re f
Thalamus
Hypothalamus
Your eyes
see a huge
Hippocampus
spider.
2 Like a giant
switchboard, your
thalamus directs
the information from
your eyes to other parts
of the brain.
8
Emotions are complex, but your brain can sort them out!
h is happens
3 ?
t
l l of a s e i n
th co
A
e n n
at
d!
Your hippocampus
makes the decision –
this is scary!
Emotions move
you to react
4 AAAH!
quickly.
Your prefrontal Did you know that
cortex releases sometimes your body
chemicals to make you responds faster to your
react to the threat. basic emotions than your
thoughts? You can look
out for tell-tale signs you
are becoming emotional,
5 Run
like tense neck, jaw,
shoulders, arms, hands,
away! or chest. Then try and
The hypothalamus
change the situation.
is responsible for activating the
alarm response. Messages
are sent to release stress
hormones. Now you
run away!
9
What a feeling!
Throat
and Whole
tummy body
Arms
Hands activated
Warm
glow
10
The messages from your brain affect your whole body.
Do you agree?
Draw out some body silhouettes then colour in the
areas where you feel your different emotions. Use red
for active areas, and blue for inactive.
In the
head
In the
In your heart
throat Heart rate
and chest increases
Muscles
activate
Legs and
arms are
inactive
11
All are important
Anger
Anger helps us stand up an
d
defend ourselves.
Emotions
help us to
survive
rst
Since humans fi
et ,
walked the plan
ave
our emotions h
ival.
helped our surv
he n
Fear Fear mtoayrutenllauwsawy. It’s how we deal
with our emotions
it ’s time
that matters. I get
really angry when
people say anger
is bad. Grrr!
12
Without emotions, humans would be like robots.
Happiness
Love
Love hneglpbsounsds
Disgusotuttells form stro
and relationsh
ips
us to spit with each oth
e r.
poisonous
berries.
Disgust
13
14
All about happiness
“
store for you, wonderful
surprises await you!
15
Happy ever after
1 Dopamine
2
floods your brain Serotonin
when you feel helps keep the
pleasure. good feelings
flowing.
3
Endorphins
are feel-good
chemicals, which
reduce feelings
of pain.
4 Oxytocin
is the “cuddle”
hormone, produced
by hugs and kisses.
16
Even a fake smile releases the happy chemicals.
You are
more generous.
17
A bowl of happiness
ou ture
need for the cisi
tsid
na
ingredients? ng
e
Refecting on
happy memories
18
Doing something you love – that’s a type of happiness.
Gaming
Gaming is good fun, that’s for
li inging
make happy memories?
Scientists believe you could be
Sm ugh
better off and happier if you do
activities with friends and
a s
family instead, so try and strike
a happy balance.
iend
l
f r
ith people
w er
h nk you”
and ing
th a
ot
g “ g grateful
Be
y in in
Sa d be
an
Choosing
happiness
Life is like a roller-coaster
– there are lots of ups and
downs. A great habit to get
into is to think of the good
things in your life. Then
make a decision, choose to
be happy now!
Are the
any mo re
ingredi re
en
you ca ts
n
think o
f?
19
Be grateful
an go on to
uc you
hand r
Count on one
yo
oth
n by asking e r h an
M ayb e
20
There is a strong link between gratitude and happiness.
21
…especially for you!
d
cleve
kin
m up b e a
am
Ia
I am g e n e
I am
r
r
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t
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s
ien dl y
fr
I am
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hon st
am
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I am
et I am funny
d
erm m
Ia
ined organized
22
Count your rainbows not your thunderstorms.
I am bra
achievements to be grateful for,
ginati
ma
no matter how small. What have
you done to be grateful for today ? ve
i
I am
Have you shared well?
Were you enthusiastic?
I am loving
Did you work hard?
Did you do something brave? en t
p a ti
Maybe you made a funny joke?
I am
Were you kind to a friend?
All these are things you ul
yf
have done because
I am pla
I am t
ho
ug
htful
m cheerfu I work ha
Ia
s
rd
er
l
h
I help ot 23
Chill-out time
Finding a happy balance is easier
when you are relaxed and calm. It’s time to
put your feet up and take it easy.
Fewer stress
hormones are Relaxing is
released.
lovely. You
should try it!
Your muscles
ease.
24
What do you do to relax?
Choose some
activities to help
you relax when
Go for a walk in the you feel:
countryside Exercise
Angry Greedy
Sleep well
Sleep is very important – that’s when you do your
growing (it’s only when you’re asleep that your
body produces growth hormones). Getting enough
sleep also helps you feel positive and happy. Irritable Grumpy
25
Relax, relax
These tips and techniques will get
you from OMG to OM in no time.
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sec or two
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breathing
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in calm down with slow
ale
b re
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breathing and gentle
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deeply through your nose. B re ou
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The key to relaxing is to find the ways that suit you the best.
s up!
Make an arch Bo ttom
Try not to
wobble
It’s sure to be
What is mindfulness?
a good day! Mindfulness is a big word for noticing
your thoughts and being aware of
how your body feels RIGHT NOW.
Animal magic
Have a go at this meditation.
le.
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Sit down so you feel relaxed
an
and tune in to your senses. ...e i ke
yes th can see l
Pretend you have senses as at
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taste like can
powerful as these animals... as
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hear like a b
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ca n
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smell like a
lik Finge l
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spid ti
er feels vibra
28
A noticing walk
Make a walk into a “noticing walk”. Concentrate on your senses. What do
you See, Hear, Smell, Feel? Is there anything you haven’t noticed before?
g,
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of
I am not afraid
storms, for I am
“
learning how
to sail my ship.
Little Women
Louisa May Alcott
31
Seeing red
Have you ever lost your temper?
Did you yell and scream and Anger can help you defend
want to hit something? Anger yourself and change things
that are unfair. It can be a
force for good.
is a healthy emotion that
everyone feels sometimes.
a b c d
e f g h
Power boost
STAGE 2
Boiling point
STAGE 4
Afterwards
Afterwards, you may feel exhausted and
I’m so tired. tearful as all your stress hormones leave
your body, and you start to calm down.
Anger issues
Anger can be like an
GRRRRR!
iceberg. What you see
above the surface is
just a tiny part. Most
of the iceberg is
below the surface. anger
Sometimes it’s embarrassed
hard to keep
your cool.
helpless alone
stressed
guilty
trapped
nervous
jealous
Let’s dive frustrated
down deeper!
Handy tips
When you start to get angry, look at your hands!
2 3
1 Take deep breaths
and blow into your Ask fo
Put your hands in r a hug
find som –
your pockets hands – this is a eone yo
love and u
or sit on them. This will wonderful way to calm hug it ou
t.
help to restrain you. your body quickly.
5
4 Count to
Make a fist, then relax five – this
tactic gives y simple
your hand – this is a great way ou a chance
think before to
to remove some of the tension you act.
building up in your body.
35
That’s not fair!
What is fairness?
Fairness is treating people equally. It’s taking
turns, telling the truth, listening with an open
mind, and owning up to mistakes.
Not everyone
NEEDS glasses.
36
Fair or Foul?
Where do you think these scenarios fall on
the anger scale for you and other people?
the
You saved a seat for someone in
Your friend lets you cut into the dining hall.
queue for lunch.
4 5
Decide
Breathe Now you are calmer,
Remember your think about the best way
breathing to deal with what
exercises from happened.
page 26!
38
You can let people know you are angry and keep your cool at the same time.
i ne your fr
I ma g us t ration
“It’
s not
fair! l loo n.
is a
” ba
n
n
Now rete d to let it go...
It ’s
p
not
fair
!
Your challenge
From now on, think of the “keep
cool” challenge whenever you
start to feel like you are losing
your temper. Remember to
breathe and put yourself
back in control.
39
Green-eyed monster
also amazing
zin g
ama
The green-eyed monster can creep
up on the best of people. But there
are not many winners in the game
of comparison.
40
How jealousy feels
Brain
Jealousy is a mixture of anger Anger and disgust
and disgust. Your body can’t chemicals
are sent out.
help reacting.
Eyes
You pay close
attention to the
person you are jealous
of, and can’t see
other things.
Heart
Your heart quickens
and blood
pressure rises.
Stomach
Stress hormones
course through your
body, and you don’t
feel like eating.
Call the jealousy doctor!
Quick fixes
Ooh! I’m
Cure those jealous having a
twinges twinge.
Even the best of friends
can get jealous of each
other at times. When you
feel jealous, take some
deep breaths and try to
think of something you are
grateful for instead.
42
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.
Learn to share,
My sister compromise, and
gets everything. • Fighting
say what you want.
My parents show • Teasing
Talk about how you
favouritism • Hiding stuff
feel to your parents.
towards her! • Telling tales
• Name-calling
43
44
All about fear
“
that kind of courage
you have in plenty .
The Wonderful
Wizard of Oz
L. Frank Baum
45
It’s hair-raising!
e ).
a caveman was faced hormones
are released Hands –
with a snake, he had shake
two choices:
Run away
1 = flight Ears – Mouth –
loss of dry
hearing
Arms –
hair raises
Fight the
2 snake = fight
Heart –
beats faster Skin –
flushes
Muscles –
tense up Stomach –
digestion slows
Bladder –
relaxes
46
Do you worry a lot? You could have inherited this from your family.
FEAR WORRY
What if the
cat comes
out?
g in e you have a
ma nd. Now zap y ma Meeting new people
wa ou
I
gic wor
r School
Family problems
ry so
p !
it gets ...
a
Z It’s g o n e! Falling out with friends
48
Say to yourself like a mantra: “I am brave, I can do it, I am strong!”
?
3
Ask for help
Talking through your
worries with a caring
2 friend or adult really helps.
Don’t keep your worries
Think it better to yourself!
Switch to action mode so you
feel more hopeful. Think of
1 possible things you can do that
might help with your worry. For TE
L L!
1 2 Headache
Your bra
Your brain has worked in
things t likes
hard to make your old ob
Anythin e cer tain. Trouble
routine into a habit. g u ncer sleeping
could be tain Tearful
It’s hard to let go. a threat
to your
sur vival
.
3 Can’t make
Sick
50
If nothing ever changed...
Nerves make you yawn – your body needs a deep breath.
orr
n.
ie
i
Your body
bra
d, i
is finely
balanced.
t up
ur
obes can affect yo
sets t
he tiny mi
These
microbes are
usually in
charge of
digesting
c
c r
r
food.
o
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i
bes
, th
Microbe
h
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e
n
r
ti
Gut
h
g
ou
T h Most worries
won’t last long,
and you will get
The brain-gut axis used to your new
can cause a cycle challenge quickly.
of sick feelings.
Be prepared the night before, with all the Plan something special – for example, a packed
right clothes ready and equipment packed. lunch with all your favourite foods.
52
Think: “Something wonderful is going to happen.”
Eat a healthy breakfast – good food will make Think of the good things about your new
you feel better and more able to cope. place or experience.
List the things you are looking forward to. Talk about any worries with a caring adult
so you can get reassurance.
If you are
Take a deep breath, Remember times in the
to make frie
finding it h
ard
calm down, and look past when you have felt
in mind th
nds, bear
at the facts coolly. this way, and how you
take time.
at this can
got through it.
53
Separation and divorce
Fact 1 Fact 2
Kids don’t Kids can’t
cause divorce change divorce
or separation. or separation.
Fact 3 Fact 4
Your parents still Your parents are
love you. still your parents.
54
A kid’s guide to a grown-up problem
An emotional time
Here are some emotions you may feel if your parents split up.
Unhappy
You don’t want your
parents to live in
different places.
Angry
You feel your stable
home is being
destroyed.
Relieved
There’s been a lot
of fighting recently.
Sad
You may feel hopeless
and helpless.
Mixed feelings
You might feel
Open up! a mixture of all
If you find it hard to these things.
talk to your parents,
find a friend or caring
adult to confide in.
And if one of your
friend‘s parents are
getting divorced, be a Fear
good listener. He or You are faced with a
she is going through big change and that
a tough time. can be scary.
55
I have two homes now
Have a calendar so
you can see when and
Two homes? Here are where you will be.
A blended family
Your issues A blended family happens when a couple
move in together, bringing their children
are fair from a previous relationship with them.
and right
e h a ppy families
ar .
they
a t
Mo t h Make sure you
nded families r
home that you can
call your own.
It might be hard to
understand what is Do your best to get on with new
step-siblings, but don’t worry if it
happening, so ask doesn’t happen overnight. Things
lots of questions. will get better with time.
57
58
All about sadness
“
fair weather, after
sorrow comes joy.
Russian proverb
59
Good grief
Frown
It’s natural
Crossed arms and healthy
to feel sad
sometimes.
60
Humans are the only species to cry tears because of their feelings.
Ingredients of tears
Endorp
( Ha p py h hi
or m t
o Sal
nsnes)
cus
u
M
x ins
To
Wa
t
Oil
er
Exce
ho ss st
rmo res
ne s
s
Hormones are
No wonder you the magic ingredients.
They reduce pain and
feel better after improve your mood
when they are
a good cry... released.
61
Beat the blues
2
Breathe yourself calm
Sit cross-legged, close your eyes,
and imagine the sun is warming
your face. Now do some bumble
bee breathing. It’s comforting,
Then put
calming, and peaceful.
your fingers
in your ears.
Breathe in
deeply through
your nose, so
that your chest
puffs out.
Hum while you
breathe out
slowly through
your mouth.
62
If you feel sad a lot, make sure you talk to a caring adult.
3 I’m OK.
4
The big three
Calming words Write down three
Think of calming phrases
reasons why it is not
such as “I’m OK”, “I can
so terrible, or three
cope”, “It’s not
ways you can cope, or
so terrible”.
It’s not so three reasons why you
terrible. will be OK.
all you
Sometimes
need is a big hug.
5
Do something you enjoy
A change of scene or an activity 6
you love can help bring back
the joy. Talk to someone
about why you
are sad.
63
Bullying fact file
What's a bully?
...
A bully is someone who Fact: leaving
someone out of
a group is one of
...uses words to
the worse types
• make threats
• spread rumours of bullying.
• tease and name-call
t re ngth to
...uses s rip
h it , push, or t
• k ic k ,
r eak some
one’s
o r b
• t a k e
belonging
s
eone else
• scare som
e
on pur pos
...hurts by
from a group
• excluding someone
n not to be
• telling other childre
ne
friends with someo
ne on purpose
• embarrassing someo
64
Bullies can be boys or girls.
Avoid areas
where the bully If you can,
feels comfortable surround you
rself
eep
Never k picking on you, with friends a
nd
ullied a
being b n
like places where people who
will
Keep o stand up for
secret. teachers can’t you.
eople
telling p see you.
eone
until som hing
met
does so .
about it
What to
you see
do if
someon Try to make
who is b e friends with the bully
too
eing Don’t cheer
– show them they do
n’t
bullied: the bully on or
need to bully others
to be
stand around
to watch. accepted or cool.
Think of the
First of all,
stop and
What to do if damage you are
doing and hurt
think! you are a
you are causing
bully... .
Find anot
her
outlet (su Bullies are more likely to
ch as
sport) for be in trouble when they
your
aggressiv are older, as well as get
e Talk to a school counsellor
feelings. into trouble now.
or caring adult if you are
having problems. So stop!
67
I don’t fit in!
68
Be yourself! You’re the best at that.
Practise these
friendship skills
Listen Share
Keep secrets
and confidences
69
Why do pets die?
I’m Moppet!
I loved lying in
the sun.
You may make little You might start to You will eventually come
bargains, like “if today is feel very sad and that to terms with your loss and
sunny, it won’t be true”. you want to be on your find you’re able to think of
This is normal too. own to cry and grieve. the good times you and
Death is very It’s OK to cry! your pet had together.
hard to accept.
71
72
The wonder of you
“
There is no one alive
who is youer than you!
73
I’m the best me there is
Whatever
you do, whatever
you think or feel, you
are unique and
awesome – in fact,
you are a wonder
of nature.
Your
personality
Your beliefs
Your toe
prints and
fingerprints Your ear
shape
Your irises
(the coloured
part of your
eye)
Your
tongue’s
bumps and
ridges
Your voice
Your DNA
(the genetic
formula that
tells your
cells how
to build you)
I will do my best.
I like a challenge.
I believe in myself.
76
You can do or be anything you want. YES! Really!
I’ll try to
I can’t do it.
do it.
I want to
do it. How do
I do it?
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