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Other warning signs that point to a suicidal mind frame include dramatic mood swings
or sudden personality changes, such as going from outgoing to withdrawn or well-behaved to
rebellious. A suicidal person may also lose interest in day-to-day activities, neglect his or her
appearance, and show big changes in eating or sleeping habits.
Suicide Warning Signs:
Talking about suicide:
Any talk about suicide, dying, or self-harm includes statements such as "I wish I hadn't
been born," "If I see you again...," "I want out," and "I'd be better off dead."
Seeking out lethal means:
Looking for ways to commit suicide. Seeking access to guns, pills, knives, or other
objects that could be used in a suicide attempt.
Preoccupation with death:
Unusual focus on death, dying, or violence. Writing poems or stories about death.
No hope for the future:
Feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and being trapped ("There's no way out"). Belief
that things will never get better or change.
Self-loathing, self-hatred:
Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, shame, and self-hatred. Feeling like a burden
("Everyone would be better off without me").
Getting affairs in order:
Making out a will. Giving away prized possessions. Making arrangements for family
members.
Saying goodbye:
Unusual or unexpected visits or calls to family and friends. Saying goodbye to people as
if they won't be seen again.
Withdrawing from others:
Withdrawing from friends and family. Increasing social isolation. Desire to be left
alone.
Self-destructive behavior:
Increased alcohol or drug use, reckless driving, unsafe sex. Taking unnecessary risks as
if they have a "death wish".
Sudden sense of calm:
A sudden sense of calm and happiness after being extremely depressed can mean that
the person has made a decision to commit suicide.
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3) Suicide prevention strategies:
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It's also wise to remove guns, drugs, knives, and other potentially lethal objects from the
vicinity. In some cases, involuntary hospitalization may be necessary to keep the person safe
and prevent a suicide attempt.
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5) Counseling suicide survivors:
Certainly it is true that counseling is not a magic cure-all. It will be effective only if it
empowers a person to build the sort of relationships they need for long-term support. It is not
a "solution" in itself, but it can be a vital, effective and helpful step along the way.
While it's not a long-term solution in itself, asking a person and having them talk about
how they feel greatly reduces their feelings of isolation and distress, which in turn
significantly reduces the immediate risk of suicide. People that do care may be reluctant to be
direct in talking about suicide because it's something of a taboo subject.
In the medium and longer term, it's important to seek help to resolve the problems as
soon as possible; be they emotional or psychological. Previous attemptors are more likely to
attempt suicide again, so it's very important to get unresolved issues sorted out with
professional help or counseling as necessary.
Some issues may never be completely resolved by counseling, but a good counselor
should be able to help a person deal with them constructively at present, and to teach them
better coping skills and better methods of dealing with problems which arise in the future.
Counseling can offer:
An objective, caring listener who can share other more hopeful sides of the picture;
Help in determining what needs to be changed, finding solutions that aren't as
permanent as suicide;
Help to identify the resources needed for these changes;
Medication for depression when appropriate;
Hospitalization - a safe place to regain energy and work on problems.
When counseling survivors following a suicidal death, it is important to remember that
death by suicide is one of those socially unspeakable losses. (Lazare, 1979). Both the
survivors and others are hesitant to talk about such a death. A counselor or therapist can move
in and help fill the gap caused by this loss of communication with others.
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Help Correct Denial and Distortions. Survivors need to face the reality of the
suicide in order to be able to work through it. Using „tough” words with them
such as „kill myself” or „hang myself” can facilitate this.
Explore Fantasies of the future. Use reality testing to explore the fantasies
survivors have as to how the death will affect them in the future. If there is a
reality involved, explore ways to cope with that reality. „When I have children,
how can I tell them that I was going to kill myself?”
Work with Anger. Working with the anger and rage such a death can engender
allows for its expression while reinforcing personal controls the survivors ha
over these feelings.
Reality Test the Sense of Abandonment and Depression. Feeling abandoned
is perhaps one of the most devastating results of a suicide attempt. There may
be some reality in this feeling, but the level of reality can be assessed through
counseling.
Help Them in Their Quest to Find Meaning in the Death. The existential
quest for meaning is activated with any bereavement. Survivors of suicide are
confronted additionally by a death that is sudden, unexpected, and sometimes
violent (Range & Calhoun, 1990). There is a need to search for an answer to
why the person wants to his or her life and, in particular, to determine the state
of mind of the suicidal person before suicide attempt. Survivors frequently feel
obliged to explain the suicidal act to others when such an explanation is
typically beyond their own understanding. (Moore & Freeman, 1995). For
some these experience changed them over time, leading them to a sense of
healing and the ability to make positive changes in their life. Others remained
devastated and bitter. Some found the medical model of mental illness and
suicide helpful, particularly the neurotransmitter theory of depression.
1) Contact the person family right away, before distortions set in.
2) Watch for acting-out potential in counseling. The clients may try to get the
counselor to reject them in order to fulfill their own negative self-image.
3) Many survivors of suicide deaths feel that no one can understand them unless they
have undergone a similar experience (Wagner & Calhoun, 1991).
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4) Counseling should involve the family and the larger social system, if possible.
However, don’t assume that all families will fall apart. Some families grow closer
together through this type of crisis (McNiel, 1988).
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