TELL TIE WEB

February Theme: How Do I Talk About It?

MATERIALS:
GREETING & RULES Markers
Beach ball
Large ball of yarn
WELCOME CIRCLE: NAME AND PERSON WHO DIED

ICE BREAKER: ONCE UPON A TIME

This activity will be focused on members coming up with a story. The facilitator(s) will choose a scenery for
the story and the members will then create a story based on it. The facilitator will start off with "Once Upon
a Time --" and then state the beginning scene of the story. The member sitting next to who began will go
next, continuing the story based on what the facilitator left off with. This would go around the circle, each
participant sharing 1-2 sentences adding to what the previous participant had said. The story can continue
going around the circle at least twice before that last participants ends with "The End".

PRE-ACTIVITY DISCUSSION:
Our theme this month is how do I talk about it, which means talking about your person who died. It is
important that we are able to talk about the death of the person who died and all of the emotions that we
may experience. It may be a very difficult thing to do but bottling your emotions will have a bad effect on
you as you get older. Being able to talk about your emotions and being able to talk to identify someone
whom you trust to share your emotions with will help relieve some of those harder feelings that you have
been carrying around. Talking about the death with someone you trust will also allow you to feel safe in
knowing that you have someone who wants to hear what you have to say, and that they truly care about you.

ACTIVITY:
Facilitators will have the members form either a circle or a square, depending on how large their group
is.
The first person will be tossed a beach ball with prompts written in different places. Where ever their
right-hand lands, they have to answer that prompt. They will read the prompt out loud and then answer
it. After the ball is caught and they share, the next item thrown to them is the ball of yarn!
They will then pass/throw the ball to someone across the room, but before they do, they wrap the yarn
around their wrist loosely. Once the next person answers their question and throws the ball to the next
person, they will be thrown the roll of yarn where they will then tie around their arm like the other
person.
This activity will continue until everyone has had the chance to answer the prompt and wrap the yarn
around their wrist.

POST-ACTIVITY DISCUSSION:
Ask members what they see in the middle of their circle with all of the yarn connecting each other. What
does this connection represent to them?
Who do they feel connected with, that they can trust to talk about the person who died?
How might talking about death, allow them to feel more connected to others?
Now that everyone has had the opportunity to answer the different prompts, take scissors and cut pieces
and tie them around each participant's wrist as a bracelet and reminder about the importance of talking
about the person who died and how talking and sharing can help them in their grief.
Were any of the questions difficult for you to answer?
Do you think that answering the questions and talking about the person who died helped you in any
way?
What is one takeaway that you have gotten from this activity?
CLOSING:
It can be very difficult to talk about the person who had died in your life. Sometimes, we believe that it is best
to keep our emotions bottled up because we do not want to feel like we would be putting a load on someone
else. This is not the case at all. It is important that we are able to talk to someone whenever we are feeling
different emotions when we think about the death of our loved ones. If there is remaining time, try finger
crocheting. (See attached instructions sheet page 3)
 TELL TIE WEB PROMPTS
February Theme: How Do I Talk About It?

1.Where do you mostly talk about emotions? Who is usually there with ?

2. Is it easy or difficult for you to talk about your grief or the person who

died with others? Is it easier to share with some than others? Explain.

3. Do you think talking with other kids who also experienced the death of

someone in their lives helps? Explain.

4. Name an adult who you can talk to about the person who died.

5. What do you do when the person who you want to express your feelings to

is not available?

6. Who encourages or inspires you to talk about or express difficult feelings?

7. Name 2-3 different people who you can talk to about the person who

died. Who are they in relation to you? What makes it easy for you to talk to

them?

8. Name a friend you can talk to when you are having a bad day. Why did

you choose them?

 HOW TO FINGER CROCHET

1.Start with a Slip Knot. Slide the slip
knot onto the index finger of your
dominant hand. The knot should be a
little loose.
2. Wrap the working yarn over your
finger and then pull it through the slip
knot. This makes your first chain stitch.
Grasp the yarn with your finger and
thumb as you draw it through. Pull the
loop up on your finger, keeping it loose
and open.
3.Continue adding chain stitches
to make a foundation or starting
chain. To avoid uneven tension,
keep this row looser than you
think it should be.

4. To make a single crochet 5. Wrap the yarn over your finger 6.You should have two loops on
stitch/row, insert your finger into and draw it through the chain stitch. It your finger now. Wrap the yarn
the second chain from your finger. helps to use your thumb to bring the over your finger again.

loop through.

7.Draw the loop of yarn through
both loops on your finger. You may
even find it helpful to use your non-
dominant hand to help work through
the loops
8,When you complete the first crochet
stitch, you should have one loop left on
your finger. Now you can make the
next stitch.
9.Finger crochet across the entire
foundation chain, working one
stitch in each chain.You should be
able to flip the work around while
leaving the active loop on your
finger.