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Divorcio y Parentalidad
Divorcio y Parentalidad
Steven L. Nocka
Marriage is a template for domestic life and the problems that arise in it.
The patterned assumptions that traditionally defined marriage gave
substance to the family. These assumptions have become less compelling
over the course of a century. In this paper, I suggest how and why this has
happened. I focus on the meaning of parenthood and its relationship to
marriage. In the course of a century, parenthood has been redefined as a
rational choice governed by calculation. As a result, childbearing, preg-
nancy, marriage and parenthood have been redefined. Their relationships
to one another have, to varying degrees, been altered. Marriage is an insti-
tutionalized way to care for the babies that once came, inevitably, as a
result of sexual intercourse. What becomes of marriage when sex no
longer produces babies? The answer is that everything about marriage and
the family changes. Such changes help explain the rise of professional
family therapy and related fields.
Introduction
Two dimensions of domestic life give form and substance to the
family. First, individuals must somehow come together to form a
unit. They must create a functioning unit by merging lives that were
once different and independent, and by continually adjusting to
changes. This is the task of defining complementary positions of
husband and wife, male and female partners. The second task that
defines a family and influences almost every aspect of it is how chil-
dren are incorporated into the unit. This is the task of developing
appropriate and supportive relations across generations, or of being
a mother, father or grandparent. While some families never face
one or the other (e.g. single mothers may never become spouses,
and childless couples may never struggle as parents) all families
confront at least one, and most face both. Traditionally, the tasks of
marriage and parenthood were united socially, morally and legally.
Together they organized domestic life and lent it a sense of order
and predictability.
a Department of Sociology, University of Virginia, Charlottesville, Virginia
22903, USA.
Discussion
Having asked these questions, I should note that courts and physi-
cians have not agreed about the answers. We are not yet clear about
how parenthood will be defined in an age when pregnancy and
genetic parenthood are separable, but several things seem clear.
The terms of this debate pertain mostly to the adults’ obligations
and interests, and not to those of the children. Further, the place of
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