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Anger is necessary
There is also the matter of anger disproportional to the reason, where the
intensity far exceeds a seemingly trivial cause — for example, making a
catastrophe out of being left out of an important conversation by the boss,
instead of treating it like an error to be corrected.
When such anger happens often, we should look back and find out what
events in the past left wounds so deep, that even today in a similar situation
we react the same way. Perhaps your parents favored your siblings? Perhaps
your dad left, and you never got over/through that trauma? Often the anger
felt in the past has not been resolved and sits inside us like a time bomb, going
off whenever anything touches that particular nerve. This type of anger lets us
know that something needs to be repaired and taken care of inside us. It is a
good reason to seek help in anger management.